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Ok_Thing7777/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 05:39 PM
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I ask the same everyday
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 04:07 AM
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Your son is forever, she however is not.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 01:16 PM
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Hate to be this way. One day at a time..... set small goals along with daily goals. Working toward bigger goals. Did it once and doing it again.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 02:09 AM
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Yes. Has a lot to do with how much the kids get upon her death.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 06:01 PM
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Yup. 10 years first one. 18 years with 5 kids second. No hope to reconcile. She has terminal cancer. I give up
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 04:52 PM
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Thank you. So true
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:09 PM
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Yea, I'm done. I'm not doing this again two was enough for me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:25 PM
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Happy birthday. I wish more than anything that I could spend my birthday with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 12:20 AM
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File a restraining order on her today. Do not leave house. Do not let kids go with her. File first and fast. Go for full custody. She wants to go she can be at her parents. Ask your lawyer for an emergency hearing. Ask about fear of her taking kids . First to File for custody the better
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:21 PM
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Yes, get a marriage counselor asap. You go and then later ask her to join. You have to learn how to communicate and learn how to reconnect. Show her how much the family means to you. Just like learning a new job. You have to learn how to be a safe spot for her emotions. You have to go the extra mile by action, not just words. Do it now so as not to have regrets. Talk is cheap, my friend. Plus, it shows the courts if it goes that far that you were willing and did try to make her happy. She will m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 11:37 PM
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He needs therapy ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 03:50 PM
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There is nothing to be ashamed of. Congrats on your journey of self-healing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 03:08 PM
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The question is, do YOU love her? We are all human. We ALL make mistakes. Will you regret not taking a chance? I'm not trying to be rude, nor can I defend cheating. But.. someone who lives in the bottle is not anyone's fantasy or an emotional, safe place to hand their heart to. There are always two sides . Can you both overcome the problems? Think back to the days when you both were happy. Can it happen again. Only you know. But remember, regret follows the soul to the grave. Good luck, mate. Ch…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 03:49 AM
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It's all about the stoicism!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 01:32 AM
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You're not alone. My life too is a GD country record. Lost my business. My home. My wife left me totally by surprise. She took my 5 kids. My father had a stroke. Finally, I just found a job that make a crap money. Found out my wife has cancer. Both of our cars can't make it down the road farther than 15 miles. Credit is destroyed, and so are my life-saving. Oh, and my phone is going to be shut off today because I don't have the money to pay. My wife still hasn't given me an address to where it i…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:44 AM
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How are you showing you are being the better person? Karma will catch up to her. Don't post. You will regret it at some point in time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 08:04 PM
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Every day. It's hard when you love the " Illusion" of what was or what we want it to be.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 05:04 PM
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Every night....it's madness. My heart is broken night after night....
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 01:43 AM
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18 years here. One day, she was gone. It will get better, but the only advice I can give you is never to be negative about your wife in front of kids. Get a therapist ASAP. Plus, if you can afford it, a lawyer. Today is my anniversary, and it kills me, knowing she is not my friend anymore. However, she is a mother and will fight fierce in a court of law for her kids. Be warned she is not going to play nice. And no, not all women who want a divorce are seeing another guy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 10:45 PM
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I have. She has to figure out what it is she wants. I'm trying to become the man she knew. Getting myself together. I'm hoping that she will see that I am making the effort and fixing what I have lost. I hope that she sees someday that it's real. I need to be that man I was for my kids and myself. It has to be genuine. I just not going to give up. I hope someday I can be her emotional, safe person again. I made the mistake of being complacent and didn't put enough energy into us. By the time i r…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 01:22 AM
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No, she is not. Thank God I'm not going thru that. I could understand that one.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 10:25 PM
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I wish I could. No friends in the state they all moved. She said I was not the man she married. I can see what and why. Just always thought a partner helps each other at their lowest. Better or worse and all that. I'll simply send her a text I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 06:20 PM
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Have you tried counseling? Examining every option first ? If you want to go and do stuff, then go and do it. What's stopping you? What is at the root cause of your wife not wanting to do things with you? After all this time, doesn't she deserve a chance to explain? Maybe she has issues, too. Maybe she has no way of feeling comfortable enough to tell you. Find out first. Once the barn door is open, it's too late to catch the horse. At the very least, you won't second guess yourself after it's too…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 03:41 PM
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File and now!! Do not wait. Do not let her set the tone. She is not thinking of the children's best interests. She is only thinking of herself. The kids don't understand, and it's not fair to them. Do it asap as it does take time. Go now, make it your first priority.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 03:09 PM
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Let her do her thing. YOU only worry about your kids and make sure you don't talk bad about the mom in front of them.. take the high road and why you're at it find a good therapist. Eventually, she will show everyone her true colors. Don't let her get a reaction from you. That's what's she is doing. Sometimes, that's how people justify their actions. You can do this. Just use those kids as your motivation. Dont let her push your buttons! At this point, who cares what people think. The only opini…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 01:54 AM
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Congratulations. Just don't take it for granted. Complacency is easy. Real change takes effort. I'm very happy to read this. Gives hope to others.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 04:54 PM
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She left and found out. I know what you are talking about when you want to keep the peace as a co parent. But my God! NOT the kind of stuff you want to hear. Boundaries are right! The guy plain old cheated. The sad part is that a piece of garbage will be around your kid as well. Look, she needs to keep your kid away from him. He obviously has no honor or integrity. That's going to be the role model your kids are going to be seeing . Danger Will Robinson!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 11:59 PM
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Your Young so you have that. Find a hobby and find a passion. I know it can be lonely sometimes. Eighteen years in my wife left me five months ago and took our four kids. I'm learning every day how to be the person I was. I was in a very codependent relationship. My wife and I owned a business for 10 years. Working every day together with our family. We were never apart, so I hear you, buddy. If you don't have a therapist, get one if you don't work out start. Start by building your confidence in…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 08:55 PM
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It's hard when all you wanted was love and a partner. Take time to learn how to love yourself and get healthy mentally and emotionally. The right therapist will help. You need to make sure YOU are the focus. When you are least expecting it, you will find the right person. People tend to gravitate towards others that match their mental state of health. In order to find the right person, you have to grow and heal as an individual . You can be happy, and you can work on your self-image . When and t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 09:01 PM
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What concerns me the most is that she did this in front of a small child. Children can not process things like that. Her mother was confronted and verbally assaulted. Plus, you say you have children? I'm a little concerned about their mental well-being. If she has the ability to be this way around a six year old. God knows what she is capable off.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 05:20 PM
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You have nothing to be ashamed of. I understand, I feel sad sometimes, too. especially how proud I was all the time talking about my family. It will get better. You worry about you and get your life together for your children. That's who you live for. A lot of us are in the same boat. I never expected my wife to leave with my 4 kids. Take this time to be the best version of you. Lead in example your children can live up to. But again, you have nothing to be ashamed about. You're not the one that…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 06:37 PM
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You said forever, for better or worse. You lied
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 06:47 AM
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Time to find Marriage counselor. I will Say that comment is totally wrong. You don't say that, do people you love? She needs to hear that from someone other than You fight for your marriage. Remember it does take 2 too make a marriage work.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 04:35 PM
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Understand you do not have to wait on a court order of visitation. You can and should go and get legal help even probono to get a court ordered visitation schedule for kids. I miss my kids and am hoping to reconcile my relationship. However, she is doing her best intentionally or unintentionally to worry as little as can be about me seeing or talking to my kids. And at one point soon, I'm going to be pushed to that point if this doesn't change. Sounds like you are committed to separation, so fig…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 06:08 PM
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Life isn't over. Just be more careful about who you choose as a wife. You need to figure out who matches your values in life. Someone who is your partner who values herself and wants to work with her partner to grow. If your ex is as lazy as you say. Good for you. Relationships take contribution from both to grow. Cannot be one-sided nor can one or both be complacent in a relationship. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:28 PM
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Girls are mommy girls when young than it's all about the daddy . Just focus on being the best dad you can be. She loves you too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 06:26 AM
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