Okcurveball Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
33	First daygame lay	Field Report	Okcurveball	/r/seduction	20/06/22 06:08 AM

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2	How do you deal with the cringe of rejection? First of all, a friend that laughs at you for approaching and putting yourself out there isn’t worth keeping around. If he says he’s sacred of approaching, I GUARANTEE, that if he makes fun of you for doing this then he is just doing it as a coping mechanism to justify his own fears. He knows he can’t do it, so he doesn’t want anyone else to be successful. Whether or not he is attractive enough to get approached himself, deep down he wishes he could approach, every guy wants that skill and that …	/r/seduction	21/08/22 10:47 PM
4	I effed up What has this sub come to? 😂	/r/seduction	21/08/22 10:01 AM
10	How to prevent fear of cold approach You need to reframe the anxiety that you feel. You are feeling anxiety because your body senses that it’s stepping out of its comfort zone. THIS IS A GOOD THING. Nothing truly great ever happened inside of a comfort zone. Feel those butterflies in your stomach and recognize it as signal to go rather than to stop. When you start to get these feelings, take a second, feel your feet beneath you, be present in your body and move. Your body is telling you that you’re about to do something potentially…	/r/seduction	21/08/22 09:57 AM
7	How do you deal with the cringe of rejection? This hit the nail on the head. I’d like to add a note on how to not dwell on rejection. The fact that you have the skill to actually cold approach, allows you to open up your options and create an abundance mentality. An abundance mentality isn’t necessarily dating a ton of girls at once, although it can be, but it’s the fact that you know you have the skill, and the balls to give yourself a chance in any situation. Also nobody REALLY gives a shit what you’re doing. Like not a single thought. An…	/r/seduction	21/08/22 08:41 AM
1	Spam approaches don't work personally I see your point. We’re on the same page more than I realized. I usually go direct because I just like the adrenaline rush it gives me and the emotional spike it gives her. Going direct and seeing her eyes light up and sometimes even feeling that instant attraction between the two of you is amazing when it works out that way. But yes a quality conversation always needs to follow the opener, in my opinion.	/r/seduction	16/08/22 09:53 PM
12	Spam approaches don't work personally It baffles me to think that guys believe that just straight up asking for a umber out of the blue is good game. Women are way more emotional beings than dudes, the conversation that follows the approach is what sparks the attraction. You’ll get way more solid numbers if you put effort into getting to know her a bit, flirting and teasing during the conversation than if you just go straight for the number.	/r/seduction	15/08/22 03:50 AM
2	“A direct approach demonstrates great confidence” The way you’re explaining it, by just going straight for the number in the beginning of the approach, is a bit desperate despite the fact that it can work when done at high volume. The direct opener is only that, an opener, to a conversation. The conversation is where you demonstrate your value as a relaxed, confident guy, get her attracted, as well as continue to gauge YOUR interest in her. Don’t be afraid to reject her if the conversation turns you off. As long as you’re relaxed and socially c…	/r/seduction	14/08/22 11:35 AM
6	Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach. It’s 2022, you should do both. I see online dating I see as more of a buffer that sort of comes in waves. When it’s good, you can meet some nice girls and have a good time, but sometimes it goes dark. Cold approach is always there for you and you can have some more solid connections through cold approach. Also, just getting out and doing cold approach to some extent is good for you! Building a confident frame and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone makes you feel like a fucking baller.	/r/seduction	21/07/22 11:52 PM
2	2 dates from cold approaches Yeah nix the dinner if you can. If food is unavoidable, go to a bar where you can sit next one another and get drinks and some light food to share perhaps. Don’t wanna be eating too heavily if the end goal is heading to your place. As far as escalation goes, initiate physical contact throughout the date. Hug her when you meet, I usually find a reason for a high five early in the date, progress into touching her arms, shoulder/back, then maybe legs if she seems into it. If the mood is right and g…	/r/seduction	11/07/22 01:07 PM
1	Today I tried street pick up It’s all about your frame. Present yourself in a confident manner (good posture, strong eye contact, positive demeanor). Be genuine and direct by stating that you thought she was cute and wanted to meet her. After that you just vibe for a bit, maybe make a few assumptions about her, try to have a conversation. A lot of girls will not be into it so then you just excuse yourself, wish her a nice day and bounce. Some girls will be all about it and then you grab the number or whatever contact you pr…	/r/seduction	06/07/22 12:32 PM
3	I can't approach girls, I'm so frustrated Yeah man you just gotta push through. Take it in baby steps. I started out by just telling girls they looked nice and then walking away. Most girls will be absolutely flattered. You can slowly build on it from here. Another thing that helps me is picturing the girl naked, or picturing us on a date or whatever gets you in the mindset of “damn, she’s cute I gotta go talk to her.” Like others said it takes time and you will suck at it at first. You’ll have some awkward interactions. However, once y…	/r/seduction	22/06/22 10:01 PM
1	I Can Never Get Second Dates Just to give my two cents. You mentioned you just talk about mundane shit on your dates. This is not going to make anyone want to fuck you. You have to talk about things that spark emotion. If a girl is even the least bit attractive, she goes on her fair share of dates, and unfortunately for them, most of these dates are with boring guys who talk about boring things. However, this is fortunate for you because you can be the guy that doesn’t talk about boring shit. Girls are way more in tune with…	/r/seduction	22/06/22 12:48 AM
2	First daygame lay Right on man. Just stay on the grind and don’t get discouraged. It’s only a failure if you don’t approach. Every approach is a success, every lay is just the cherry on top.	/r/seduction	20/06/22 10:18 PM
3	First daygame lay Hahaha yeah Korean girls are definitely attracted to white dudes. However, the overall shyness of the girls and culture in general makes it hard to get them on dates, especially from daygame. Night game is great though although I don’t really like going out so much anymore.	/r/seduction	20/06/22 10:16 PM
4	First daygame lay Yeah of course. So basically non-verbals is body language, strong eye contact, smiling, etc… You need to come across as a relaxed and confident and give off a positive vibe. There’s a line between coming off as confident and genuine and the girl thinking you’re creep for approaching her. This girl literally told me she thought I was a weirdo at the first moment, but then realized I was cool once we started chatting. So if you don’t set that vibe it’s pretty much a no go. What helps me is genuine…	/r/seduction	20/06/22 10:04 PM