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You could still claim one or both if you mail in your return. The IRS will demand paperwork and you can fight it out. Worst case scenario you made it really painful on her to be so greedy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 07:17 PM
5

That will just reinforce that reducing or cutting all contact was the right decision for your kid(s).
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 04:19 AM
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I'm not going to lie, this sounds like a nightmare to me. I really dislike being touched except by the people closest to me. I read this with a horrified face. Awesome that you found something that provided something you needed though. Good on you!
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 05:27 PM
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Well, maybe you should fight it out. You probably aren't going to get her to just understand your point of view. In my experience if the discussion hits a roadblock it will devolve into an ugly fight. But, if you've been caring for the kids and such maybe it'll work out for you. My suggestion at this point would be to document everything. Sit down at the end of every single day and make a few notes about every interaction with her, everything you did for your kids, any interactions between her a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:16 PM
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I told you to take the money that was on the table and the 50/50 custody and run. Nobody ever listens... Two questions.,.. How old are you? Asking because if you're under 35 or maybe even 40 there's time to build your own retirement account. What does your state default to when it comes to custody? Not enough states default to 50/50 joint custody. Related question, who was the primary caretaker of the kids? Who took them to Dr. Appts and soccer games and such?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 07:13 PM
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You gotta figure out what's right for you, but after two divorces if I were in your shoes I'd counter offer with the same agreement, but add $10k or something for you to get started. And then I'd walk with a smile on my face. A custody fight is a miserable and expensive experience. Check out your state laws too. If you both agree on the terms you're likely able to download blank forms, fill them out, file them and finalize the divorce without any attorneys. My second divorce cost me less than $5…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:21 PM
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Yeah, I've had plenty of those too. All you can do is go home and hang your head for a day, then try again another time with another woman. On the positive side, the more you try the better you get at it, whether you get shot down or not. My ability to talk to women took off back when I was in the Army When I'd go out with the other guys we'd play a game where you'd put a bad pickup line in a hat and everyone had to draw one out. At some point in the first couple hours you had to use it or you b…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 05:38 PM
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I think online dating is a huge problem. The good news; you don't have to use it. I found that I got more dates with dating apps, but the quality of the women was pretty low. On the apps the value of those low quality women is exaggerated because ALL the guys are competing to get something going with any woman on there. The women I'd start conversations with in the real world were way higher quality. I'd get fewer dates but the women I met were far more likely to be worth dating. So yeah, go out…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 04:11 PM
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The odds of this scenario ending well for your ex are pretty slim. This is definitely a case where the best revenge is living a good life and letting future-you respond with "I don't think about you at all..."
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 08:20 AM
3

"At home (alone) ... getting drunk to reality tv." Nothing says classy and desirable more than a drama fueled alcoholic...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/07/24 02:22 PM
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Tearing the band aid off and ending it is the right play if you want out. Go stay with a friend until you can get on your feet or something. If you just absolutely can't do that, read the book Stop Walking on Eggshells by Kreger and Mason. It'll give you some insights and tools to help. My ex was diagnosed BPD, but she was the quiet or waif type which wasn't as hard to deal with most of the time. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:30 AM
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Well yes then, you're right (obviously this is your topic)there is more to it, but I didn't want to write the book that you just wrote. For me personally I only "lost" money the first year. Now I try to balance and keep the income very low and just use most profit to pay for new/more equipment and/or facility improvements. End result though is value coming to me with little to no increase to taxable income.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 01:11 PM
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If you say so...odd that it's worked for me for years then.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 12:10 PM
12

Create an LLC and start a side gig that cash flows but makes little to nothing on paper. It can be just about any business. Suddenly your vehicle, a portion of your house, and countless other things reduce your AGI meaning you bring in more money without having to show increased income.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 10:40 AM
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Lol, I thought the same thing. I was sure I knew her for a minute til I zoomed in on the pics. She looks just like a woman I've known for years that's about 15 years older than the claimed age here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/06/24 02:19 PM
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One wonders why you'd demand someone buy you expensive things when you have a $350k income? Shouldn't that make her a strong independent woman? Or maybe that's her expected salary for being a trophy wife...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/05/24 08:00 AM
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Bonus: smoker stink and unwilling to contribute financially...a fine catch!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/24 02:32 PM
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I'm wondering about the timeframe for all this...you mention a lot of crap with your ex (accusations, investigations, etc) and spending money with your girlfriend for 2 years, but how long has it been since your marriage started to go south? It takes time and at first it's just about surviving to the next day, but it seems like maybe you're already through this part. Then it's about finding some new things that bring a bit of joy to your life. For me that was my kids, reconnecting with some frie…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 09:52 AM
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Yep, looks familiar...
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 08:08 PM
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A bit of a related tangent... Be really careful about that "she insisted that they sleep in their beds every night" thing. Many states determine how much time each parent has the kids as overnights, not by hours or anything. So if your state defines things that way you currently have your kids 0% of the time. Many states also have adjustments to child support based on how much you have the kids. At 0% you're going to pay the absolute maximum. In any case, sorry you have to deal with this. It hur…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 06:06 PM
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Sure, but that isn't going to kill you, or clean out your paycheck for the next couple decades.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 05:09 PM
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Because we males sometimes make questionable decisions thinking with the wrong head and end up paying child support or marrying someone that's even worse than the last one. About 6 months after my wife and I split up I went on a date with a woman that should have been a giant flashing neon red flag, but I was lonely and horny so I went anyway. A few dates and i realized it was a mistake. Long story, but she was trying to get pregnant and trap me. Less than 2 years later, she did the same thing t…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 04:24 PM
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Just keep trying, unless there's something much bigger going on she'll likely come around, especially if you don't give up and just patiently keep trying without causing drama (read as ugly fights with your ex or yelling at her or whatever). It does indeed suck, but it get's better. Find a friend group, get into some hobbies, keep trying with your daughter. Good luck friend :)
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 07:30 PM
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I'm not an expert, but my 2nd divorce was uncontested and we agreed on everything. The judge literally didn't read any of it, just asked about child support, then asked if we were both good, and then called it done. Whole thing took about 20 minutes. If you get hung up anywhere in that, it's going to be the kids and how that plays out. And since it's starting in your favor I wouldn't worry too much about it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 09:09 PM
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(shrug) Time heals all wounds...you'll meet someone and click and suddenly you start trusting them. You might be a little more careful and mindful of how you divide expenses, share money, structure ownership of assets and so on, and that's smart, but trust will come. I've been divorced twice and lived with/been engaged 2 other times and dated a ridiculous number of women. The last time I got divorced was 2016 and at that point several other recently divorced work colleagues and friends told me t…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 09:17 PM
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I don't know...what's your ex like? I've been divorced twice, the first one definitely would have gone to court regardless if she thought she could screw me over. The second one definitely would not, especially since I didn't force her to pay child support. Depends on the person I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 03:19 PM
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Personally, I'd go against the grain here and scrap the child support. From my perspective, if it decreases the likelihood that she'll fight over custody that's a win. The longer you have 50/50 custody the less likely she'd win that argument. If you make more later, it weakens her argument. My opinion, too many people go for the short term wins when it comes to divorce and custody, but it's really about the long game. This is why the courts are full of parents that are at war with each other. Fu…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 09:36 PM
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Worth noting, I am not a lawyer, this is not legal advice, simply my thoughts on how I'd approach this. You filed in your state and she lives in another state? I assume that you either did or soon will get a court date to appear in court? If so, just show up. If she shows up at all she'll have to articulate an argument about this that will convince the judge that this should drag out rather than just be done. In my experience judges if there aren't attorneys involved, no kids, no marital propert…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 04:10 PM
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Ok, now I see the additional items in the last bullet point... 10 points for me now that I understand :) I do think the divorced parents and moving out of her hometown were a couple significant factors.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 09:43 PM
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14 points...There's only 9 bulletpoints, how many kids you got man?!?!?
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 09:38 PM
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You need to check out a book called "How to be Invisible" by J.J. Luna. Useful for all kinds of things, including ridiculous things like alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 05:15 PM
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I'm absolutely not a lawyer, but a couple notes based on my experiences... This is why it's absolutely critical to have a good lawyer. Do not go with the cheap option, go with the lawyer that comes highly recommended. A good lawyer will know how and when to push back given the limited amount of time that you'll have. Unless you've got audio of something really outrageous it probably isn't going to make much difference. The only value you'll get from it is if she makes some kind of specific accus…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 05:59 PM
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I've used ARAG insurance for a couple things before and after a couple divorces I would be very wary of using the ARAG lawyer in a contentious divorce. My experience was that ARAG had negotiated a significantly discounted rate so I was not that lawyer's primary concern. They were there to do what I asked, but they weren't putting any extra effort in. In contrast, my lawyer for my first divorce (which was quite a bit more of a fight than the second) was expensive, but came highly recommended, and…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 09:26 PM
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Not an attorney, so take this advice for what it's worth which isn't much. If you get it paid before the hearing, my guess is that it will either go away entirely or, at worst, be a slap on the hand. Having been in similar situations on a number of occasions my experience has been that contempt is more a tool to punish until compliance is forced rather than a punishment to happen after you comply.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 05:05 PM
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Two divorces, the laywer's punchcard says that I get a free one after the next one, and so far I haven't had to pay a dime for the house or most of my retirement accounts or anything. It would depend on the state I suppose, but it works in my state (MN).
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 07:27 PM
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Marriage is no problem, the key is protecting yourself up front. Look into establishing a trust before you consider getting married again. Any major purchases should be the trust (and make damn sure the trust is set up to be yours only and make sure it's set up before marriage). Do not let your new wife make house payments, do not let her spend a bunch of money on remodeling and so on. Keep the trust well funded and put as much into that trust as you can. This is good for privacy too because you…
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 05:34 PM
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You need a middle option. Some of the stuff about focusing on and improving yourself not just to attract women is good. The stuff about how all women are evil sluts because they won't date me is toxic as hell.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 05:56 PM
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It would definitely help, but anything can end up being negotiable. Is alimony a thing where you live? It's not a requirement in some places. Do you have minor children? If you do have children, then agreeing to pay something and having it in writing and having proof (pay with a check, not cash) will save you some headaches about back child support at divorce time. If no minor children I wouldn't offer to pay anything as that's just setting yourself up to pay more later. Also related to child su…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/21 08:16 PM
1

It started out just being notes about any interaction I had with her and stuff involving the kids. When she flipped out and threw stuff T the kids one night, or how we fought over work schedules. After we split up it became notes on who's house the kids stayed at each night, what time she'd drop them off and so on. Over time it evolved to include notes on interesting places we'd go or what we had for dinner. I suppose it's all relative, hard to say what might be important later. But it saved me …
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 01:09 AM
2

One to add... We had a good run and we get along and respect each other, so she won't do those horrible things that I hear other guys talking about. I've told so many guys that they need to hide some money, be very careful about what assets get put in both names, and keep notes to have those same guys tell me that that won't happen in their case. And 2 out of 3 times, that's exactly what happens.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 01:44 PM
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Always take a few notes about your day. I started doing that years ago when divorce looked like a possibility and the notes saved me in court. Wanna know what was happening on February 10th, 2017...sure, I've got that right here. She's claiming that I drove past her house several times on September 14th? That's interesting, I was out of town that day for work. After the first couple lies came out she lost all credibility in the eyes of the court.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/21 01:38 PM
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Except for 7 years of additional emotional baggage. And 7 years of additional relationship insecurities. And 7 years closer to your already dim fertility window slamming closed forever. Don't forget 7 fewer years of looking good.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 05:46 PM
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I'm kinda confused...is this guy actually supporting (and probably paying for) his wife getting implants that she decided to get while (and probably because of) banging this other guy? That seems insane. Why would he do that? The foot needs to be firmly planted down on this one. I hope he at least gets a thank you note from the next guy...
/r/MGTOW12/07/21 08:01 PM
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That is a pretty sad statement on the state of the world. I guess we should applaud all older guys that dump their wives and chase college girls...I mean, they're just living their truth, right? Does nobody understand responsibility anymore?
/r/MGTOW14/06/21 08:19 PM
5

Says it in the title, so you can all guess what my gender is. Furry non-binary? Some just don't understand...
/r/MGTOW27/05/21 04:29 PM
1

Fair enough, but now I've been sucked into the story...
/r/MGTOW12/05/21 01:32 AM
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I'd be curious to hear more....I mean, in her messages does she express any guilt or remorse? Did the other couple split up? I need more gory details!!
/r/MGTOW11/05/21 07:49 PM
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I have a good friend that is unable to buy things or plan days to engage in hobbies that he enjoys without permission. He rarely gets permission. We both ride motorcycles and he typically gets 2 days a year where he's allowed to go for a ride for 4 to 6 hours. It's insane and I don't understand how he can feel that it's acceptable.
/r/MGTOW22/02/21 09:53 PM
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Of course not, don't be obtuse. Removing unverified content removes most amateur content. What's left is mostly professional stuff which is just not as good, in my opinion. Nothing I'm going to lose sleep over, just unfortunate. EDIT TO ADD: I think you'd be hard pressed to find any pedo content on any large scale legitimate site, regardless of verification measures. Nobody that appreciates their freedom (or has much in the way of self-respect) is going to allow that to be posted.
/r/MGTOW15/12/20 10:31 PM
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Well, that explains why PornHub has been sucking more and more lately.
/r/MGTOW15/12/20 06:53 PM
1

I wonder how many of these women that claim all this stuff have actually ever flown first class or eaten in a Michelin starred restaurant? There's this big talk, but I look at profiles like this and strongly suspect that their idea of "fine dining" is Red Lobster.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/20 09:57 PM
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Sometimes...sometimes it's because he's an ass. To the OP's point, though, there's likely some blame for both parties and some self reflection required for each of them. Society however only seems to expect this self reflection (and punishment) of one of the two parties.
/r/MGTOW04/12/20 04:41 PM
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I think you're on the right track. For example.... If he cheats it's because he's trash that only cares about his dick; if she cheats it's because he's trash that doesn't respond to her needs. If he complains about a lack of sex in the relationship then he's a pushy inconsiderate ass; if she complains about the lack of sex it's because he's a limp-dicked cuck that can't/won't man up to take care of his woman If he can't take care of her financially it's because he's a loser; if she can't take ca…
/r/MGTOW04/12/20 03:20 PM
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Not weird at all. I'm fairly indifferent towards tattoos and piercings, though I have no interest in spending money on those things so I have none. But to me drugs and alcohol are a weakness. If you can't deal with reality without chemicals then you need to get stronger. Just my opinion.
/r/MGTOW19/11/20 08:40 PM
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This is exactly right. ​ I was a dumb teenager that just took a combat arms MOS in the Army because the recruiter said it would be good and the bonus was decent. It still worked out alright because I used the GI bill money to pay for college, but I should've been smarter. My oldest son joined the Navy in a technical role and after a 5 year enlistment he now has a good job with a defense contractor working on building new systems for the Navy. I always think the military is a good choice, but don…
/r/MGTOW11/09/20 06:48 PM
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Dr. Kellogg is that you? Probably we all just need some more cornflakes to get rid of those masturbation urges and protect our health (eyeroll).
/r/MGTOW13/02/20 07:50 PM
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I can't decide if I'm impressed by your candor or horrified by the sheer level of gross achieved... Either way, it reflects terribly. This is a first rate example of why men should aim higher.
/r/MGTOW30/01/20 06:23 PM
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Nice company you're keeping. I don't think I'd admit any of that in public...it reflects very poorly on you.
/r/MGTOW30/01/20 04:09 PM
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Thanks man... no worries, that was just that period of needing to understand who I was after I got divorced. These days I've realized that it's ok to have standards. I don't hate fat women, I just don't find them attractive, same as I don't find short hair attractive. Good luck to you.
/r/MGTOW17/01/20 05:00 PM
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Well, the original author....welcome. Ok, you make a fair point, you tried (and apparently succeeded to some degree) to generate your own interests. How often were you out pursuing those interests? And did you tell him honestly how much you liked those things and how important they were? Just trying to understand. I do take issue with people that say they were bored though. A friend used to say that people that aren't ok being alone just don't like the company that they're with. My two bits, bor…
/r/MGTOW17/01/20 04:10 PM
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The word "bored" is used again and again in that. Here's the thing, boring people get bored. There's always something you can be doing...watch a movie, go for a hike, hit the gym, read a book, learn to fix that car problem yourself, do something. It's interesting that so many women seem unable to generate their own interests and seem to think it's someone else's fault, that someone should entertain them.
/r/MGTOW17/01/20 03:38 PM
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That is exactly why I quit even trying to work with online dating. They'd take pictures at crazy angles and wild light to hide their size and then label themselves as "curvy" or "a few extra pounds" or even "average" on their profiles. But when you'd meet them in person, it would instantly be clear that they were over 200 pounds and needed to lose a quarter or even a third of their body weight just to get to the point of being a little overweight rather than obese. Shortly after getting divorced…
/r/MGTOW17/01/20 02:40 PM
12

Imagine the 10 sets of proud grandparents...(vomit)
/r/MGTOW05/12/19 08:19 PM
2

Fair enough. In my mind I was thinking in terms of the current relationship, but I can't disagree with your point. I have a friend that makes decent money, has his house almost paid for and no other debt. We ride motorcycles together on a regular basis, and sometimes we go to shows or demo rides or whatever. He'll look at some of the bikes and say things like "I'd love to get one of these, but my wife would kill me" or "She says I can't have more than one bike." The first thing that runs through…
/r/MGTOW02/08/19 01:19 PM
3

I've got 2 ex-wives, 4 kids, and a woman I live with now...so I've failed that miserably. But I'm also not willing to give up my pride, ask permission as to how I spend my own money, be cool with letting my partner go out with other guys and so on.
/r/MGTOW01/08/19 08:56 PM
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Spot on (at least on the part about a guy letting his girlfriend go on a trip with another dude). I tend to consider myself MGTOW-lite, no interest in swearing off women and I tend to disagree with some of the more anti-women stuff, but you've nailed it on this one. Guys NEED to step-up and reclaim their pride. They NEED to stop buying into the idea that they can't assert themselves in a relationship in any way. In my experience women don't really respect those guys anyway. I have a young adult …
/r/MGTOW01/08/19 07:05 PM
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