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| 334 | Ladies, don't shave your coochie the first time he goes down on you.Yes, I think it is a good strategy, especially if you do not like shaving/removing your body hair but do it due to social pressure. Sex should be an overall pleasant experience. We, women, should not have to anticipate a whole logistic and schedule to "prepare ourselves" in order to "convince" a man to pleasure us. He should want to, body hair or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleI understand your feelings OP and I'm fully with you ❤️ but can we please stop giving attention to all these men ? There is a (good) reason why FDS has limited "male depravity" posts and so on. FDS handbook gives us important advices to avoid receiving comments like this (such as either fully making your account private (no DM allowed, no public history of your reddit activity etc) or either having two separate reddit accounts, one for FDS content only and one for other subs). Please to all read… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:52 PM |
| 65 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!I love make up (like reallyyy) but this has always cringed me. It is like saying "body hair removal is EmPowERiNg because I chOoSe it". Nah, sis you can admit that we live in a patriarcal society and that everyone has their bias. Not everying has to be "empowering" or "a feminist move". It just makes empowering so low value... Why should we encourage girls to study when they can empower by putting on some foundation and contour ? Oh wait. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:26 AM |
| 102 | If you want to lay over and die, don't take the rest of us with you. Kick him to the curb nowYou can't convince me that there were no red flags prior that.... I manifest annulment/divorce for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 09:19 AM |
| 21 | Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life?Possible but very unlikely. Unless you are referring to 15 y.o LVM becoming HVM by 25 y.o, there is few odds that a grown LV adult will evolve to high valueness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:35 PM |
| 11 | What is this the FDS take on “free the nipple” movement?I agree it is a bit of fake activism, especially when it is done by women whose feminism convictions do not go further (and especially when they benefit from a whole package of beauty privilege, ie. white, skinny, young, rich or middle class woman). Personally I do like to walk without a bra as I find it more comfortable (I haven't petite breasts by the way) but depending on what I am wearing on top, I decide to use one or not. I have been harassed and nearly assaulted by a man four or five year… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 01:27 PM |
| 110 | I don’t know who’s worse: her trifling mama or her POS husband. I found this on Facebook and was shook. Honestly I probably would have went to jail.I am speechless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:19 PM |
| 4 | I don’t understand why men are so cruel. Rant.Probably some male lurkers, they can't comment so they downvote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:11 PM |
| 34 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Yeah, recently, a (girl) friend asked me if I knew lovely places to walk by in our city, because her colleague was freaking out at the idea of coming up with a lame date idea for her tinder match. I asked her if the guy proposed anything, she said "apparently no, and my colleague is scared that he is not into her already and wants to find a nice place for their first date to impress him". So many red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:03 PM |
| 107 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?Hun, is she really your friend ? You know that what she did is consedered a criminal offense in many many countries ? You definetely should threaten her with legal action, or say you are going to use diplomatic ways (embassies and stuff in China) to make her delete everything. Anyway, do not play the cool girl ever ! This is serious and don't hesitate to pressure her. You do not have to play nice on this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 03:33 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of "The Tinder Swindler"?No problem, it happens sometimes ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 09:23 AM |
| 145 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”I usually stare at the person as if their question was stupid/rude/inapropriate. I don't know if it's a great answer but I don't like the idea of justifying myself (even saying "because I haven't found the man who meets my needs" is already too much of an explanation IMO) and I don't like the idea of having to find "the cheeky sentence" that will make people zip their mouth. Most of the time, not answering makes them uncomfortable so that's my thing : not saying anything back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 05:46 PM |
| 24 | The Tinder SwindlerThe first lady (Cecilia) really worried me. I know she is victim and her trust has been violated. But I hope she has seen a therapist and worked on her attachment issues because if I understood the documentary well, they have dated for only a month before he asked her for money, and they had the time to become exclusive and look for appartement to live together ? And considering they have probably seen each other only 4 or 5 times since he was always on the run. That is way too fast, even if he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:29 PM |
| 84 | Back into dating after healingI don't know how to start as there are many things that bug me wrong in your post. First of all, what do you mean this guy has wanted to date you since 2018 ? You didn't and he has never let go in four years ? Sis, that's a red flag in itself. I'm a bit tired today (not your fault of course !) so I don't want to continue listing the red flags I am seeing but honestly, read the handbook once again and many of your questions will be answered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 4 | What do you think of "The Tinder Swindler"?There are already several FDS posts about this documentary so I don't think it is really necessary to create another one asking the community about their opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:15 PM |
| 85 | Women are interchangeable (seen on IG)Lmao, I miss the part where sucking their ugly dick excites me as much as it excites them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 05:55 PM |
| 85 | FDSers who are waiting for marriage to have sex or have sex later in committed relationships, have you found that HVM (even non-religious) are willing to wait?Hun, don't trust men to give you reliable dating facts and tips. Of course they will tell you that refusing to have sex with your partner if not in a commited relationship will scare every men away, even "the good one". Keep in mind that pressuring you to have sex with them is a rape : they get your consent because they forced you, with emotionnal manipulation, to accept. There is no way ever that a high value men (i would even say that a high value person) will ever be in a position of a rapist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:19 PM |
| 40 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)Yes, this is such a good vetting strategy along with a must-have safety tips !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:49 PM |
| 121 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)When I think pick me ladies cannot be this stupid... this girl throw out of a window $40K by giving it to an unprofessional trader so he could pretend he is the wolf of wall street ??? Ladies, wake up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:31 PM |
| 53 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them."Deep feeling of shame for their kink". Mmh, yes they know honey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:26 PM |
| 250 | I just learned how to be mean to men (diary of a religious woman)Men think roasting people is cool so unfortunately, they interpret women who roast them as flirting with them. If you want to piss them off, just ignore them completely. Don't answer, don't look at them when they are talking. If you have to answer, just keep it minimalistic. I swear there is nothing they hate more than that. If they are not agressive or completely psycho, they will usually leave you alone. However, the counterpart is that if you hang out with your girl friends and they do not ig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 10:35 AM |
| 97 | “I’ve discovered that my boyfriend/fiancé has been watching porn, hiding debt, sexting girls, chatting with other girls, not telling me he’s out drinking, gambling on the side, etc…" Here's what the future holds for you if you stay with him.YES YES YES. And it stats at the very begining : I see more and more posts on FDS asking "so this guy I've been talking to for a few weeks only showed HV traits all along but there's just this thing he did the other day.. .."Hun, if you need to ask the opinion of strangers on FDS, you already know the answer to your question. Stop wasting time overthinking the "why he does that". He does that because he is a mediocre man, that's why. I know it can be difficult and we all need support or a wake u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:06 AM |
| 66 | How to approach multi-dating?I don't use dating apps so multi dating is hard for me (especially with covid). But here are my answers based on my experience : - If they ask me if I'm seeing other guys, I say yes and then I watch their reaction. Unless we are exclusive, I owe them nothing. But I would never give them details about the other dates, even saying "oh this one went wonderful". They don't need to know. - If they are dating other women, I don't care because they owe me nothing in that stance until we are exclusive. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 09:53 AM |
| 73 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮don’t do this!!! Have some self respect. No thank you.Good Lord, the bar is truly in hell... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:39 PM |
| 25 | Where to go about communication as a HVW with someone you won't see in person for a while?Honestly, he sounds pretty lame and the whole thing about his friend playing some weird role to help him talk to you is very immature and childish. Where are we, in middle school ? The whole "don't leave me opened respond! I want to see your face you're so pretty!" is very cringey too. Definetly getting bad vibes from your story (i mean, from this guy). IMO, don't give him your number. I recommend you to block as he seems annoying and like a waste of time/brain space. But if you do not want to, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 09:36 PM |
| 179 | Validation that we're on the right path. Too bad what used to be common sense is no longer common. Also, violent fantasies create violent crimes. Only serial killers and rapists used to get off on depravity.But LVM and Libfem will insist that pornography is part of the sexual freedom... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 05:11 PM |
| 17 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!"Go for horrible dates", hmm no Ma'am ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 10:32 AM |
| 227 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsHas someone told him that to get a match, you have to press the like button too ? Boy is complaining he got matches with women he has liked and he is shocked about it hmm #DumbShitMenDo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:29 PM |
| 36 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.OP, is that you that receives this text ? Please, if so, get a new SIM and a new phone number ASAP ! This man looks very deranged and we don't know what he may be up to. Disable all your social media for at least one or two months, especially those which you are recognizable (FB, Insta etc). Report that to the police too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:22 PM |
| 26 | Dating strategy: If you're single, carefully cultivating a group of male friends is a great way to vet for mate compatibility and secure resourcesUnfortunately, even when doing so (I'm deeply uncomfortable with sexual jokes and everything like that, I only appreciate it when it comes from my very best friends whom I have known for ten years so... yeah), it doesn't stop them from projecting. And they are very patient too. Some of them were my friends when I was in a relationship for three or four years without anything ambiguous but as soon as I was single, they would start to cross the line, as you say. That is to say I'm pretty closed of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:44 PM |
| 21 | What did she do to him?Yes, my father used to "joke" about it all the times we saw some horrible news like that. I think it is a consequence of the "all men benefit from the violence done to women". They can joke about it as a reminder that they still have all the power here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:23 PM |
| 25 | Dating strategy: If you're single, carefully cultivating a group of male friends is a great way to vet for mate compatibility and secure resourcesMhm, yes I understand you are saying but I wouldn't describe these men as my "friends" then, but probably because friendship, to me, means a deeper connection and not just hanging out with someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:07 PM |
| 72 | Dating strategy: If you're single, carefully cultivating a group of male friends is a great way to vet for mate compatibility and secure resourcesThank you for your words, I agree on the principle. However, from my experience, since I have been a teenager, male friendship has NEVER worked on a long term. And I don't think I have poor taste in friendship, as I can count several HV women as my best friends. Men I've been friends with, they ended to treat me either as a Mommy 2.0, a future GF they fantasize about, a future sexual partner, a Little Sister 2.0 they needed to protect from other guys. IMO, it's just too much effort for nothing, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 90 | Scrote abuses and manipulates wife into thinking she is ugly and blames herself for his cheating and abuse.He thinks she is too old and "allegedly", he has cheated with 19 y.o... Girl, I smell predatory sh*t out there. He is bullying her so she doesn't ask too many questions about his actions. She needs to get her kid and her things together and leave asap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:34 PM |
| 24 | Tell us about the PickMe friend(s) you ditched!So many. But most of them were the same storyline : women who only have discussions about men. Fine, I don't mind talking a bit about this guy you have a crush on but when we hang out, I don't want to spend the whole afternoon discussing the "why he does that". I can accept it if it happened one time but not every time we met. Also, I ditched my girl friends who were always asking private questions. I don't mind talking about sex because it can be helpful to share our views/experiences with our … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:36 AM |
| 10 | How to not get anxious before dates?I usually cancel dates when I get too anxious about them. Dating should be a fun and overall nice experience to have, not another stress event we add to our pile. And I usually think about the reasons why I'm so anxious to meet this guy : is it because of something he says or does that makes me uncomfortable ? Is it because I smell lovebombing and it triggers me ? Is it because I'm too caught up with him and my judgement is clouded ? Also, doing phone calls (from 20 - 30 min) and pre-screening f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:48 PM |
| 34 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Omg the first two are so real !! (the others too but they are more common red flags IMO) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:33 PM |
| 63 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?My biggest red flag is when a guy presents himself as the bon vivant guy, always there to make people laugh and relax the atmosphere. But like, all the time. As if his only personality trait/interest in life is having fun and getting noticed. But in "good", like you can't blame him because he makes jokes and people like funny guys. I dislike when their only dating tricks is humour (and usually, it is not that good. There is always a moment when they run out of jokes and just start with stupidnes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Would You Cut Off a Pick-me Friend for Being Dumb?Hun, I'm sorry but I don't need to read a whole essay about how a stranger (for me) is annoying you. Obviously, you dislike her so start acting accordingly so. Stop giving her importance, stop thinking about her and obsessing over what she does, stop seeing her. Next time she asks you to hang out, say you are busy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:28 AM |
| 97 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.The taco bell one... Even before knowing FDS, I would have blocked his *** for believing he is so funny while he is just annoying as hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:01 PM |
| 11 | Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized TraumaThank you for sharing your story with us ❤️ I recognize a lot of the things you describe with several persons (including family members) in my circles. I'm glad you are okay now. I think the most important sentence of your post, the one that resonate the most in me, is this one "Looking back, one of the most disturbing things about this incident is that what he was describing as a "trauma response" didn't start when he first had painful thoughts about someone kissing me in a play, it started whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:57 PM |
| 76 | He knows he’s hurting her but he enjoys it 🤮Thank you for saying the word ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 13 | Would You Cut Off a Pick-me Friend for Being Dumb?From what I understood then, it seems like she was never your friend to begin with. You say it yourself "there are some points you appreciate", that is not how a healthy friendship works. It seems like you tolerate her but... that's all. From what you are saying, it is not like she annoys you two or three times, it is a pretty consistent feeling that you get when you are with her. Trust your feelings, you do not need to rationalize everything for it to be valid. And it is not because she may be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:47 PM |
| 50 | Would You Cut Off a Pick-me Friend for Being Dumb?I've only read until the fifth paragraph and already, yes, I would not be friend or acquaintance with someone like that. But I'm a bit concerned about why you describe someone you call "your friend" like that. You do not seem to have affection towards this woman, the words you use to describe her are very telling of how little you think of her so, IMO, she is not your friend anymore. You already know that and it seems like you just want to rant about her. I know ranting can be helpful sometimes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:27 PM |
| 29 | REMINDER: Playing devil's advocate is a social fauxpas, and men who do it are LVUsually, the context you describe does not include defending pedocriminality/racism/sexism/whatever just to "view things on the other side", I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:15 PM |
| 13 | Have your first impressions of men been accurate?Yes. But I used to gaslight myself into "giving them a chance". Now I don't give them the benefit of doubt anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 09:52 AM |
| 46 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?Unfortunately, I am not surprised... Your comment is valid and has been confirmed by gender studies several times. I have given up on looking for another feminist sub on Reddit. FDS is the one and only of its kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:45 PM |
| 520 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑Dude does not see the problem when his GF says that he is too rough with his fingers ?? That is why "cOmMuNiCaTiON" is a scam. They do not listen and they do not want to. Poor girl, she deserves wayyy much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:40 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Ermm, I kind of disagree with the wording of your post. I don't disagree with the ideas you develop but I don't want to claim myself as a "gold digger" just because I want to date someone who is financialy stable. Just like I don't want to claim myself as a "bitch" for having standards, or a "slut" because I have sex... I don't know if I am clear, I just don't like the idea of reusing misogynist term to "empower" myself. Also, just because (rich) men are LV does not mean women should go at their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:47 AM |
| 6 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorHmm, I have never thought about it that way. I do not remember MJ character as a pick me honestly. She just looks like an average 15 y.o teenager so yes, IMO it is nice too see her without a lot of make up (because let's be honest, Zendaya has still make up on ahah). And in my memories, she is not portayed as the "i'm not like other girls" trope either. The first love interest of Tom Holland's Spiderman is more into fashion, make up etc than MJ but she is still presented as smart girl who does n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:00 AM |
| 120 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!Men litteraly do not wash their ass, yet they lecture us about how lack of hygien when we kiss our cat's head ? Men litteraly put their dick into butter jelly or whatever, yet they lecture us about how kissing our cat's head is the same as kissing someone ? They are the problem. We are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:52 PM |
| 67 | Strategy - make him jump through hoopsLmao, this post makes me remember when I was grateful and happy that my bf went out to buy me a couple of pads. Or when he cleaned the bathroom without me asking him (it happened one time only). Clown Life. I guess, unfortunately, I haven't a good story to tell about a man doing quality efforts for me (I mean, booking a nice restaurant for a date, gifting flowers, taking tickets for an exibition that I wanted to see, isn't what I consider to be a high effort. It should be basic when you date and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:02 PM |
| 11 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔The whole "I'm afraid to be in a relationship" bs is just so immature when you think about it. Like dude, breaking up always exists you know. If things do not work out, we are not magically bound and our lives do not depend on it. I hope one day all women will wake up and realize how stupid and dumb this "excuse" is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 09:00 AM |
| 10 | I’m tired of sex work being promoted as the only other option if a woman can’t make money. It’s not that easy and it will ruin your future opportunities if you were to transition out of it.$1K for a nipple pic ? I smell a liar here. Porn actresses who only do "basic positions" (everything that is not hardcore according to porn standards) barely gain $100 / $150 per shoot. Hate that manipulative narrative of pro-sexwork "oh you know, men who buy sex work stuff are so dumb, like they're so stupid they will pay thousand of dollars just to see your armpit". No, this is bullshit to lure women into sex work. Reality is that men who navigate into sex-work are vicious and they know they h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 08:53 AM |
| 27 | How soon is too soon to go to a man's homeNo, I would never go to a man place before we are exclusive. So, not before at least 3 months of dating (I also do not cuddle/make out before we are exclusive). I also want to point out that vetting does not stop once you're in a relationship/exclusive with a man. I think there is a bit of confusion here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 02:56 PM |
| 11 | Beware of 'moody' menI fully agree and confirm this. My father has bipolar disorder and he perfectly knew it. After some years, I realize that he used it as an excuse to treat my mother and I as shit. "oOooh bUt i CaNnOt coNtRol My mOoDs". He has always refused to go to therapy, to talk to a specialist. He has never taken his responsability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:49 AM |
| 17 | My FDS post gets shared across another sub, and now my inbox is flooded. HELP.So sorry that you're dealing with all that hun... Block all of them and remember it is only reddit and the internet, they cannot reach you IRL. That is why the Handbook encourages us to turn off our chat/inbox/whatever tool allows redditors to interact privately with our account when we are active on FDS. Please consider making your account as private as possible for your safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 09:49 AM |
| 9 | “I’m happily married and I still watch porn…”Yes ! Here you are : https://www.lemonde.fr/societe/visuel/2021/12/15/viols-en-reunion-traite-d-etres-humains-proxenetisme-l-enquete-qui-fait-trembler-le-porno-francais_6106153_3224.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:23 PM |
| 124 | “I’m happily married and I still watch porn…”For the french speakers FDSers here, the newspaper Le Monde (which is the equivalent of the NYT or the WaPo in France) has published a quite long report about the french porn industry. The conclusion is clear : Every. Damn. Video. Is. A. Rape. I won't detail everything because it is quite long and very very disturbing (the article talks about a man, pretending to be a porn actresse on social media, only to lure women. He even befriend the woman in his close circle to lure them ! He wasn't even p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 11:51 AM |
| 30 | Excerpt from The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir (translated)She lured young women (her students) to engage in sexual relationships with Sartre, who was her partner for twenty years (i think it was this long ? someone corrects me if i'm wrong). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 6 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?I truly do not know, another lie LV people tell themselves along with sex work is empowering... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 12:22 AM |
| 56 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Yes and no. As a fellow bi woman, I can guarantee you that there are a lot LVW on this planet. The difference is that their low valueness is usually different than a man's. As one of the commentors said, a lot of women think they have to imitate men behaviour to be a "tRuE FeMiNiST". Like those who thinks smoking weed and doing drugs as a woman is a big finger in the face of patriarchy, idem with porn and sex work. This is very very present in the LGBT community. You also have to keep in mind th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:16 PM |
| 25 | It saddens me that TikTok has a negative reputation on FDS.It may be true that Tik Tok has a good algorithm, if you used it consciously. However, its negative counterpart is that it only shows you stuff you already appreciate/like. And LibFem agenda is way more popular in our society. A lot of things FDS has taught me, I have never heard about them before joining the sub. Plus, Tik Tok is owned by a chinese company (so, clearly its content is dictated by the chinese government, which is everything except pro human and women rights). It is also a very ve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 09:23 PM |
| 51 | What are your standards when dating?I agree with all the standards you ladies talked. I add : - Be reliable, trustworthy : basicaly what the handbook tells us. I don't want to plan dates, I don't want to triple check with him if the plan is still okay, I don't want him to disappear for 24 hours without telling me first (and the reason why). - No sexual innuendo/joke : I hate that, it makes me terribly uncomfortable. It is a red flag for immaturity, sex addiction and usually poor views of women. - I do not want to hear about his pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 09:15 PM |
| 85 | 11 yr olds are getting groomed and traumatized by porn on a mass scale. How is this acceptable??? How has people just accepted the fact that children are introduced to endless videos of women being raped and tortured for male please,and that's the new normal??Yes, and I'm so shocked by comments I have seen online coming from women : "porn isn't the problem, children should just not have access to it, stop stigmatize porn". Porn is the problem with children, with women and with men, wake up ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?I would say no, do not date him. Not only he may adopt his father behavior, but he may also be traumatized by the serial cheating and you do not need to be his free therapist. During my college years, I have know a man like this : seeing his mother in pain and his father wrecking marriage seriously f*cked him up. He had serious unresolved childhood traumas from this. So, too risky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:05 AM |
| 77 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”I agree with all the other comments. All the SAHG/W/M that I have met were miserable and deeply unhappy with their life. They were all women with diploma and a promising career, and I can tell you how much they have regretted to abandon it all. Men do not value SAHW, they do not see the works behind taking care of a home, of children (THEIR children)... They will act as if you were an horrible gold digger who did nothing at all every day and because they have the incomes, they expect you to comp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:19 PM |
| 13 | Here is what being single will get you:Congratulations on all your success !!!! It is lovely to hear your story, thank you for sharing it to us. Wishing you all the best for you and your family ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:07 PM |
| 10 | LVM traits and pick-me behavior in popular romance books. Spoilers.Ahaha, I'm not. I have searched links on google to add it but they all are good reviews and I do not wish to promote this kind of stuff. But the cover of the book is kind of similar to Adam Driver and Daisy Ridley's faces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 03:37 PM |
| 13 | LVM traits and pick-me behavior in popular romance books. Spoilers.I think the Love Hypothesis was originaly a Star Wars fanfiction ? That may explain the bad writing and the cliches narrative... but yes, that's not an excuse. At least, they age up the main character at least, because in the Star Wars Sequel, Rey is only 19. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 03:26 PM |
| 85 | Need your opinions: is this guy I met LV?24 is not an odd age to be a virgin (I lost mine later than this, but I agree with you that women and men situation here are not comparable). It is not in itself a red flag. It is the reason why he is one that can be one. However, you must keep in mind that your standarts are yours, and yours only. You don't owe him, your friend, or everyone else beside you an explanation. If I was in your situation (but this is only my opinion here and a 24 y.o man being a virgin is not a no-go for me), I would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 03:16 PM |
| 111 | Is the bar actually this low? That we are just so happy to find a guy who isn’t r*pey that we think they’re the one? 😐Ah yes, the nice guy in disguise. As if he couldn't tell before they had sex that she wasn't feeling it. The gaslight is everywhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 10:28 AM |
| 66 | How long does it take you to say that you love someone?I never say it first. And I would say that for me, it is a red flag if a man cannot say it after 3 months of being exclusive/in a relationship (not 3 months of dating, as this is not the same). At the same time, it is a red flag if a man said it too soon : big red flag if he said it before we are exclusive and if he said it within the first months of the relationship (lovebombing suspicions). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 10:26 AM |
| 59 | Don't let the man downgrade you!Beyond the whole downgrade stuff that is truly the LVM mark, I think you (I mean that as a general advice for all the ladies reading us) should have been more careful about the lovebombing. Small talk like telling you good morning and good night every day is low effort but create false intimacy to make you lower your guard. Moreover, it is honestly very weird to send gifts to someone he never meets, and especially after 3 weeks of talking through OLD. He found out your hotel without you telling … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:05 PM |
| 97 | STOP investing in men too early on. You never truly know him until at least a YEAR of ruthless vetting.Yes yes yes. Also, stop calling him "a good man", "he shows the good signs" just because he hasn't been violent/abusive/obviously manipulating you yet, after only three dates. He shows nothing, just normal behaviour. I have seen a lot of posts like this recently on the sub. Just because you say you keep vetting doesn't mean you aren't already blinded by the lovebombing (some men know how to be subtle but lovebombing is still lovebombing. Just because dates with one man go better than with other … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:31 PM |
| 40 | "Let's see where things go..."So so true. And I'll even add that when you think about it, it is very strange to say at the early stage of "the getting to know each other" phase that "you will see where it is going". Like... yes ? isn't it the principle of getting to know each other ? Ah, I have forgotten that in boy language, it means they want casual sex and emotionnal commitment on your side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.Love the "claims men who are mentally ill or not financially secure should be avoided". As if men do not do the exact same thing with women. Ask every man on the street if they would date a broke woman who is struggling with mental illness. I bet you that every single one of them will answer no. There are literally statistics that prove many men leave their wife/gf when they get sick (more than women in a reverse position). But women are still the problem and should do charity work for them :)) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?Agree. As of today, I only have 2 male friends (real friends, not just acquaintances). One is gay (be careful ladies though, there is a lot of misogyny within the gay community. Gay men need to be vet too for your own safety) and the other is one the few HVM that I know. He is married to one of my bestfriends (we have known each other since high school, where they have started to date) and he has always been appropriate and (truly) nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:33 AM |
| 25 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)I would say 24 hours without any answer is the max. We all have our phone with us all the time. And if he really were busy, it still takes 20 secondes to send a quick text explaining why he is busy and when he will be available (which should also be within 24 hours) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:34 AM |
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