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Maybe you grew up in an area with lots of weird evangelicals. I grew up in New England where we all thought evangelicals were insane space aliens and nobody was waiting until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:25 PM
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I have written a book on this very issue. I urge you to read this comment that I wrote several years ago, enumerating the many reason that absent an actual existential crisis, the draft will never be re-activated in the United States.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:03 PM
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This is ridiculous, who goes to UCSC and puts on some conservative wait until marriage song and dance. She should have gone to Hollins: conservative women’s college, VMI right next door, most students are engaged by graduation. I looked at it but ultimately went to a different women’s college. If she must stay in CA she needs to find a place in the Central Valley.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 04:23 PM
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Look there are a lot of general officer names to cycle through
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:52 AM
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I've had like four or five different Reddit accounts and my husband of 22 years has read plenty under each and every one. I'd never put anything here that I wouldn't be comfortable defending if it showed up on the front page of the Washington Post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:38 PM
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Yo I think you meant to use your alt for this comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 12:31 AM
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Yeah, I think it has to do with how really truly invisible the UC is. Fussel calls them "top out of sight" and they really really really are. When I first met my husband I thought he was a nice middle class dude; the truth was revealed to me over a period of several years. lol I remember when my FIL mentioned that his grandparents had been invited to (and attended) Elizabeth II's coronation. I stared at him and remarked that his grandparents were pretty fancy. He immediately demurred and said th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:31 PM
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lol I stumbled upon my then six year old son making a similar search. When he heard me reading his search terms aloud, behind him, he yeeted himself upstairs and into his room so fast there was a sonic boom. I yelled IT’S OKAY IT’S PERFECTLY NORMAL after him, but I’m not sure he wanted to hear that from his mom.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:23 PM
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My point was that a humanities degree serves as social proof for the UC. My husband would never allow our children to major in “business.” Your English degree probably has more to do with your gaining entree to that world than you give it credit for.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:17 PM
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My UC husband told me flat out that if I dropped my PhD program he would drop me. Education matters in those spheres. Especially if you were not raised in them and have to prove yourself by other means. The Anglosphere upper class has always always always married educated, capable, competent women. It’s the other classes that like sweet yielding feminine whatevers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:14 PM
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I concur. I just wanted to differentiate between the generational upper class and the UMC, as the OP states that her advice is for both. It is not.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 05:58 PM
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Be smart about your major. Don’t do the arts or the humanities. Take it from me, I’m an English major. It did help me impress some of these upper class people because of my knowledge of classic literature but overall, not a good investment. Hello, I’m 48 years old and have been married for over 20 years to an upper class man who is the scion of a wealthy family that made its money in steel many generations ago. I’m a working class girl whose great grandfather probably worked in one of those mill…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 02:51 AM
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I will bet you $1US that you have indeed been filtering, and you have been filtering for hot IG-type girls. That is fine. There are lots of rich guys who like dating hot girls and who don't mind spending money on them to keep them around. The smart ones are up front about what they're willing to pay for, and on what they expect in return. Maybe you're okay underwriting $3K in shopping and spa and salon services every month, but you expect her to be available when you want her to be, to accompany…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:57 PM
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women married by age 21 on average even in the late 80s. You repeating this 90000 times doesn't make it true
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:12 PM
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Marriage is at 12-14 years old. Younger if you're poorer (or a noble). Why do people believe nonsense made up history when it is just as easy to find out the actual facts. The average age at marriage in 14th century England was anywhere from 18 - 22. Nobody was getting married or betrothed at age 12 unless they were a member of the royal family. Average lifespan is 31 years old. Yes, because so many people died as children. If you lived to age 10 or so you had an excellent changes of still being…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:19 PM
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Uh I have been married since before 9/11 and neither I nor any of my friends spent much time thinking about “resources” in this fashion. All of us outearn our husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:53 PM
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Person B would be unlikely to be accepted as a sperm donor in the first place, you know that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 02:36 PM
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I love my children unconditionally (after they met the fairly important condition that they are MY children). Presumably they will no longer live with me at some point. I do not anticipate loving them any less when that comes to pass. I don't love Mr. Bradley unconditionally, but we had to be long-distance during the weekdays for nearly two years, and while it sucked, I still loved him just as much throughout that time. When he came home at the beginning of the pandemic shutdown, I burst into te…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:41 PM
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lol my twelve year old son and his twelve year old friends have already all had girlfriends. They’re all scoping out the girls in their new middle school. I just asked him and he said there are so many cute girls that he can’t pick one
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:33 PM
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Were you or were you not withdrawing when you thought she was starfishing you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:02 PM
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So, like, your wife has had low self esteem for basically her entire life, and your solution to that is to slap her and choke her and degrade her during sex and then ghost once you're done?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:58 PM
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I mean it will likely happen to both of them, we've got three children and all three have different characteristics that we personally do not have but that other members of our family do. They also obviously have traits that they got from us.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:58 PM
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What do you think about this? I think your friend hasn't considered the fact that his son will not necessarily be a perfect combination of whatever traits he picks the egg donor for and his own traits. Everybody inherits traits from their parents, obviously, but they do not express everything that they inherit, and often hand down those unexpressed traits to their own children. In other words, if he can't get a good look at her parents, siblings, aunts and uncles and other extended family, he do…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:00 PM
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a year or two is 25% of my remaining childbearing years This is catastrophizing and it will not serve you well. You are 28. It would definitely be a good idea to start trying to have kids in the next year or two but saying that the next 12 months is 25% of your remaining childbearing years is insane, and presenting it to your husband on those terms will very likely cause him to mentally dismiss anything else you say. My husband and I started trying to have children when I was 32 and even though …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 02:22 PM
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I'm looking everywhere for any hint that you have both addressed this situation in plain terms, like where he has told you "I don't want you to ever quit working, I do not want the pressure of supporting a family on my own" and you replying "That will not work for me, I want to stay home with our children." I'm not seeing it. Have you both addressed this in terms as plain as that? This isn't a situation where you can just assume that he knows what you want. Just to be able to cover all the bills…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 01:40 PM
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Retiring before 9/11 helped him a lot I imagine
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:44 AM
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It's unrealistic to think that a postnup or any insurance policy will support you for literally the rest of your life, and it is not intended to support you for the rest of your life. It's intended to give you some time to figure out how you will support yourself (and possibly your children) for the rest of your life. I had a co-worker who died of colon cancer in his late 30s. He left a wife who hadn't worked in over 15 years and two kids. I was his manager, so I knew what disability insurance a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 12:23 AM
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It gets harder the further up you go but trust me I have seen a LOT of Majors that I'm not sure could walk and chew gum at the same time. If you can make it 20 years and then go to work for a contractor or something you will have it made in the shade. I actually know a guy who retired after 20 years as a Major, went to work as a contractor for maybe 15 years and built up a sweet 401(k), and then went back to work as a govvie. His wife went from 20 years in the Army straight to govvie. Their daug…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 12:18 AM
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Well I know a ton of guys who retired as Majors but you also have to elbow LTCs out of your way at the Pentagon, so obviously it's possible. LTC to full bird is harder than Major to LTC.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:45 PM
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None, but I’ve worked with and for the military my entire career. My Pentagon office was destroyed on 9/11! My best friend in that job just got his third star yesterday. I knew him way back when he was an O-3.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:55 PM
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Cool, a good friend of mine was a company commander in signal corps at Fort Myer. Good times.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:43 PM
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What’s your MOS?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:37 PM
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He assumed you had nothing better to do, would be okay with this responsibility, and tipped you. He literally tipped you like a waiter or a valet. Honestly, the tipping is worse than the zero notice. He assumed that any objection you might have would be overridden by $$$. What the fuck.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 12:15 AM
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lol he tossed you some keys and gave you a tip? He has mistaken you for a valet. You can’t possibly think this is a compliment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 12:08 AM
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Tell him one more time that you are not interested, you will never be interested, you will not contact him in the future and you expect him to not contact you. Save that message with a date and timestamp. Block him. Under no circumstances respond in any way to any future overtures of his. Read The Gift of Fear. It addresses this kind of situation.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 08:11 PM
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Yeah, my dad (Silent Generation) made it very clear to me that if I didn’t know how to do something, it was my job to figure it out. And this was well before the internet age. Nothing, and I mean nothing, made him as angry as my sister or I failing to show initiative. For him, it was the most important lesson he could impart; he was forward deployed in the jungles of Vietnam for thirteen months as part of an artillery unit and taking initiative and figuring things out was how you stayed alive. I…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:34 PM
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Men want a lady who is a slut only for them; women want a brute who is gentle only to them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 05:51 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 05:03 PM
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Oh yeah there is a ton of room for things to get worse, unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 02:56 PM
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Stuff to do in Pittsburgh I worked in Pittsburgh for about five years and loved it, it’s such a manageable city. You could also volunteer at the Carnegie museums or with the awesome Pittsburgh park system. There are a TON of young people in Pittsburgh, as I’m sure you know. You live in such a cool city! Take advantage of it!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:53 PM
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Yeah I saw that. OP needs a lot more help than this sub can give.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 02:39 PM
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He isn’t here, so I’m not concerned about him. OP is barely at a point where she can help herself; she is in no position to help him and should not be concerning herself with helping him at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 02:38 PM
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he has made people at work cry or quit, he can be super rough on people in general I am telling you this as somebody who has managed teams of 50+ people across five different time zones: if this keeps up long enough, he will be fired. I'm a woman with a "very dominant personality" and everybody who has worked for me (for the past 20+ years) is willing to march through the gates of hell itself if I ask them to. This is because I use my dominant personality to take care of my people. I have had a …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 01:48 AM
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You say you’re not sure what you want to do now and I’m not sure what to tell you. He has told you he doesn’t want you to have sex that doesn’t make you cry from pain. He isn’t gentle or careful with your physical person. He has treated you in ways that you wish you could forget. This is way above RPW’s paygrade if even half of what you say is true. You need to talk to a therapist and find out why you are with a man who treats you this way and why your solution is apparently to want to keep on k…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 10:18 PM
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When I pop up on the Discord, the young guys keep me there for hours answering questions (like “coping with life” questions) that ordinarily, in times past, would have been answered and knowledge passed down from fathers, uncles and grandfathers. I am by no means disparaging the advice you offer, but as the mother of a 12 year old boy who is very close with his father (we are married), I will say that he has begun to blow off things we say to him, only to treat the exact same advice/statement/wh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 02:45 PM
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Yeah the “just leave him” can sometimes be tough to parse, because if there is an OP that goes “my boyfriend plays video games and smokes weed all day and barely works and leaves a mess everywhere, how can I get him to be different,” and there have been a few of those lately, it is impossible to give actionable advice that will have the effect the OP wants. I personally have tried to square that circle by responding that they’re not married and this is part of what vetting for commitment entails…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 02:30 PM
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That's as may be. That doesn't mean that the remainder should come here to lecture the little ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 12:46 PM
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I frankly think that most of the men who post here do it to get validation from women that may or may not be forthcoming to them IRL. They know that this is a space where women are unlikely to be overtly rude to them so they spread out and make themselves at home. It's easy to tell which ones enjoy schooling the little ladies. It's frankly gross. I'm of the opinion that men should not be allowed to create OPs here, period, and most male commenters should be banned. For some reason they have a re…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 12:46 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:06 PM
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I think you are imputing a lot of stuff to my worldview that I have never ever said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:57 PM
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I have two daughters and my dad was the one who taught me that I should never give men the benefit of the doubt until they have proven to me that they deserve it. Who hates men? I have devoted my life and my career to improving life for men in the largest majority-male organization in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:52 PM
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“Men make rules for Becky but break rules for Stacey”
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 10:56 PM
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I think you might be gruesomely surprised. There are unfortunately men out there (not many thank God) who are still Team Man even after they have daughters. I have seen a few on MRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:15 PM
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It is known, no handsome socially adept successful man ever falls in love
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 10:14 PM
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I mean they also think that HVM don't marry, so.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:18 PM
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They are all 19 and they all impute their 19 year old libido to their future selves. They probably think that age 50 is so far away that the heat death of the sun will occur before they reach the half century mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:07 PM
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u/pearlsandstilettos has the right idea; I will add that you should pay very very close attention to how he responds. There are responses to your issue that are not him cooking every night; maybe he thinks you all should order takeout every evening or maybe he thinks you should do batch cooking on your day off. Maybe he's like "Huh yeah that sounds like a pickle" and doesn't offer any more thoughts. Maybe he thinks that you spend too much time cooking and he wishes you would just chill with him …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:02 PM
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lol I used to work at an agency full of those guys and I made more money than nearly all of them. Some of them were cool motherfuckers but a lot of them were mouth breathing shoe-staring spergs, sorry, not “high status” in the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:26 AM
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Redpill men don't believe in marriage so for any woman who wants to get married it is immaterial what they think.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/22 05:29 PM
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Awesome, I'm glad to hear it!
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 03:21 PM
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You clearly don't respect him. It doesn't even sound as if you like him all that much anymore. Anything good you have to say about him is what he used to be like, or what he could be like. The vast majority of relationships don't work out, and it's okay if this one doesn't. You're not married to him. Go find somebody you respect.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 02:02 PM
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Then stop talking. For real. Give him room to absorb those comments without the noise that your commentary adds. Once you remove yourself, you have no idea how your bf will act. I had no hopes that my husband would drop his friend, honestly. They had been friends for a long long time and even if I thought this particular friend was fake news, I was happy to put up with him in the name of their shared history. If I had gone in swinging and laying down ultimatums, or even just disparaging his frie…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 02:43 AM
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Dude. No. Stop. He has dropped you like a hot brick, please do the same to him. I think sending it will make me feel that I've at least stood up for myself, which in turn will make me able to fully move on. No, actually standing up for yourself will make you feel like you have stood up for yourself, and actually standing up for yourself entails never giving this guy a moment's worth of your time ever again. How much time and energy have you burned on him already? Learn to draw, learn another lan…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 12:51 AM
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Yeah I mean you are entirely within your rights to tell him that you'd just rather not hear. And honestly, even if he is egging your bf on to break up, what can you do about that? If your bf is like "Hmm he has a point" do you really want to be with a guy who is that susceptible to somebody else's opinion? Especially if he makes it a point to not be that susceptible to yours? Speaking for myself, the idea of having to argue a man into staying with me turns my stomach. And I have been married for…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 12:45 AM
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I would certainly ask to not be shown when the friend texts bad things about you or whatever. Fine, you get it, he doesn’t like you; your boyfriend can’t expect to share with you every single bad thing he says about you, though, and have you retain equanimity. It’s fine if they have history. He doesn’t need to be your friend as well as your boyfriend’s friend.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 11:45 PM
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What is the issue with his friend? My husband used to have a friend who very flagrantly did not like me. He was up front about that, verging on rude. Frankly I didn’t like him either, but the fact that my husband had been friends with him for nearly 20 years bought a lot of latitude from me, and I wasn’t going to be the one to come between them. We only saw him maybe once a year. It would have been a lot different if I had had to deal with this dude multiple times a week. On the other hand, if w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 10:50 PM
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He comes from a socioeconomic niche that has absolutely nothing to do with just about any woman here. If he really honestly truly knows women who are flown to Dubai in order to be paid for hideous degenerate acts, then his world is so far removed from anybody here that he might as well be on Mars, and no advice that he gives will be remotely useful to a girl going to college in the Midwest.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 09:26 PM
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I mean you are doing it right now, you talk about how you go to clubs and know pro soccer players and work in marketing (marketing!) and know guys whose girlfriends went to Dubai to do unspeakable things for money; this is your world, this is the air you breathe, and you are right here telling the women right here that what you really want is a demure low-N introvert. Why should any woman here believe a word you say?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 09:23 PM
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I am telling you the things top tier fishermen said they want from fish. Yes. The things they say they want. Just like women say they want nice sweet men who are willing to hold their bags while they try on infinity dresses. Women should not listen to what men say (except, maybe, their fathers). Women should watch what men do.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 09:00 PM
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It might be the case in certain circles Yes, the exact same circles that you claim you are trying to advise women about. This is not something that men have any degree of visibility into, any more than women have any degree of visibility into what other women value and prioritize when dating, which is exactly why TRP doesn't allow women to post OPs about what men should do to attract women. Men love to tell women that they should be shy chaste virgins and then they go and fall in love with and m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 07:37 PM
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My husband of 21 years is not a fraternity Chad; he is from the US upper class - his great grandparents were invited to and attended the Coronation - and trust me, his boarding school classmates are also married to high sociosexuality women. He married me thinking that my N was a LOT higher than it actually is, simply because he saw no reason why a young pretty woman on her own for the first time in THE BIG CITY would not take advantage of it. This bothered him not at all. You appear to be very …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 07:21 PM
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In the United States, fraternity Chads with high body counts marry hot sorority Staceys with high body counts every damned weekend and they don't care one bit. High sociosexuality American men don't want shy virgins, they want high sociosexuality American women.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 07:05 PM
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Are you kidding, men already do this all the time. Years ago I made a whole OP about it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 11:14 PM
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lol I actually bought the regular old Gerber plain white foldable diapers for the twins so it's not exactly surprising that we didn't end up using them. That was 2009, before the explosion of cloth diapers that we see today. I read about the Bum Genius on the [Young House Love(https://www.younghouselove.com/the-much-requested-cloth-diaper-post/) blog and figured what the hell; they are seriously great. I concur with their snap recommendation over velcro.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/22 12:03 AM
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We used BumGenius with our third and I got them cheap off of eBay. There was some other kind that I also tried but didn't like them as much and they weren't as absorbent. We got some extra inserts, but I used the kinds with the overlapping flaps, not the pocket kind. I rinsed the poop diapers immediately after use (they sold a spray nozzle that you can easily attach to your toilet tank) and then when I washed a diaper load I'd run a rinse cycle before the wash cycle. I rarely ran them on a sanit…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 10:13 PM
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Aw, thanks for asking! Yeah, he's doing great and can hopefully come off of nearly all his remaining meds sometime this summer. He fusses about his blood pressure not being a perfect 120/70 every day but Jesus, dude, come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:57 PM
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Of course it is because you are a man. Testosterone and greater muscle mass makes it trivially easy for men to lose weight, at least up to a certain age. Mr. Bradley is 51 and his ability to “just give up soda!!!” and magically drop ten pounds in one week is slowly diminishing, even though he still goes to the gym four days a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:29 AM
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His last movie was actually The Drop, where he played a bar manager who tries to screw over the Chechen mob. It’s very very good and I highly recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:23 AM
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Yes I always swore I would do the same but then it turned out that they are actual people with preferences and thoughts and shit. They do come by it honestly; turns out that mulish and stubborn parents end up with mulish and stubborn children, who knew?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:58 AM
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lol I hope it works! I got the idea from a Stephen King novel; a character used that trick only she thought of a different food item on every breath. I require more organization than that, so came up with the alphabet twist. Also the different themes. Armoire, bassinet, cabinet, desk, etagere.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 12:48 AM
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lol before we had kids I'd routinely put in 10 hour days at the Pentagon and then come home and cook three course meals: entree, salad, cheese and port. Now I make steak frites with bearnaise and 66% of our kids are like "I DON'T WANT WEIRD SAUCE I DON'T WANT SALAD I ONLY WANT MEAT AND FRIES" Hey thanks kids that makes me feel really good especially after your freely-shared opinions about last night's dinner. I actually like washing the dishes rn because it's an excuse to avoid what i truly desp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:46 AM
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The downside to this is when you are skilled enough that basically the only reason to go to a restaurant is that somebody else cooks and cleans up. I would murder somebody to eat some good Tex Mex that I did not have to cook myself. In fairness, I only really started to feel this way when our kids got to a certain age; up until then I have always loved cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:34 AM
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I actually have a really good trick for that! I also sometimes start looping when I am trying to go to sleep, so what I have done for years is go through the alphabet, breath by breath, according to a given topic. The three that I do are fruit, furniture, and animals. So: (inhale) A (exhale) apple (inhale) B (exhale) banana (inhale) C (exhale) clementine And so forth and so on. If I can't think of a given thing that begins with any letter, I just think of that letter again on the exhale. It's li…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 11:38 PM
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This is going to sound simplistic but I do not mean it that way: think about something else. For real. Right now your brain has been trained along the overthinking/spiraling groove and it will take some time to train it along other pathways. There is nothing that will instantly change how you think, but when you realize that you are engaging in unproductive thinking, it is a huge thing to say to yourself, “Stop. This is not productive or realistic; time to think about something else.” Someone el…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 11:05 PM
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u/furry-snake, I agree with all of this but also wanted to add my own perspective based on my experience with somebody who was a great deal like your bf. He was my husband’s co-worker and friend for several years; eventually Mr. Bradley found him exhausting and unpleasant to be around. They agreed about a lot of things so it took a while for Mr. Bradley to realize how intransigent this dude was, and, more importantly, how much it beat down his wife and five kids. His wife was eventually diagnose…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 10:57 PM
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My first statement is an observation that pointing at a celebrity as an example of what men in general prefer isn't a very helpful thing to do. George Clooney dated a billion cocktail waitresses but when he wanted to get married and have children, he picked an Oxford-educated lawyer. Why is his choice not considered representative? I myself was raised working class and am married to a handsome upper class man from a very good family, twenty-one years today, and he did not pick me because I was a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 05:03 PM
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Matt Damon married a single mother. Should other women become single mothers in the hopes that someone like Matt Damon will marry them? Men may not care about career but they absolutely care about upbringing and class signifiers. How many of Matt Damon's Harvard classmates do you think married single mother waitresses?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:32 PM
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Original RPW did not truck with all this virgin nonsense, that is 100% due to the influx of foreigners influencing TRP. Original RPW was about submitting to the man you already had, not pretending to be a virginal tradwife in a wheat field in order to get some trad guy to marry you. Having similar outlooks and values on sex is a lot more important than N count. There are a million high N Stacey sorority girls marrying a million high N Chad frat boys every year, and they go on to live perfectly h…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 05:15 PM
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lol if I raised my three kids the way my grandmothers raised theirs, I'd have CPS breathing down my neck. Here in the West, mothers get shunned for letting their five year olds play in the yard unsupervised.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 02:06 AM
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Huh, Mr. Bradley, who formerly never had any trouble staying at his preferred weight, has put on anywhere between 10-15 pounds since his chronic illness was diagnosed last summer. He is still on a lot of medication for it; he still hits the gym four days a week; he is on his feet and walking around all day; his food intake has decreased slightly, if anything. He eats less than 1800 calories/day. And yet that weight will not budge. It is a matter of intense frustration to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 06:27 PM
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I have worked 12 hour days plenty of times during surge events and during those times I have actually lost weight, even though I am a woman, because I am too busy engaging with rapid-fire series of events to go down to the McDonald's in the basement and buy myself a 4000 calorie lunch. You were born on third base and instead of taking your run you are shooting yourself in the kneecaps, cutting off your legs, cutting off one arm, and whining about how hard it is to get to home plate. That kind of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 06:04 PM
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Not to mention that ghrelin spikes higher in women than it does in men, and the spike lasts much longer in women than it does in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 05:57 PM
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I'm sorry, is there something about grinding over 12 hours a day that forces you to consume 4000 calories/day of garbage non-food?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 05:29 PM
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Maintaining a healthy weight is far far far far far less of a sacrifice for men than it is for women; any man who eats like a normal fucking human being and doesn't stuff his face with chips and candy and fast food all day long can easily maintain a normal weight through the magic of testosterone and greater muscle mass. It is so easy for men to not be fatasses. T is their superpower; there is no excuse for men to be fat slobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 05:22 PM
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I am a woman who has managed many many men over the course of my career and I am here to tell you that men expect a lot more "You're great, I was happy with how you did X, but..." from women managers than they do from men managers. I am not a person to whom that kind of thing comes naturally and had to teach myself to do it so that my engineers wouldn't get their noses out of joint every time I had to tell them to do something differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:12 AM
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Did you go? Are you doing any better?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:05 AM
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Do not fuck around with this, if you can’t keep anything down tomorrow go to the ER immediately. Electrolyte imbalances can kill you very quickly and they take a looooong time to resolve. Ask me how I know. Actually, if you were Mr. Bradley, I would have you in the ER at this very moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:47 AM
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My mom’s next door neighbor is an FBI special agent who used to be a Green Beret field medic. Thing 1 got a splinter at my parents’ house when he was maybe 6 and holy shit that dude leapt into action like Batman. The removal of that splinter was like nothing I have ever seen. I felt like I had just witnessed brain surgery or something. Imagine Thing 1’s disappointment four months later when he got a splinter at home and I had to hack it out of him like a Civil War field surgeon.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:43 AM
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Just go out with regular clothes. Say hi to someone. Or don't even say hi, just smile and give the "how's it goin" head nod and then look away. Not every interaction has to be Abelard and Heloise and the more you do it the better you'll get.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:28 AM
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Speaking as a formerly shy former 18-year-old, I'd have realized that nobody is paying anywhere near as much attention to you as you fear they are. Get out there. You're no more cringe than a billion other college assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:56 AM
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Pregnancy has physical effects that are both visible to others and not visible to others. In mixed sex groups, women will generally discuss the visible effects, because men care about those physical effects and how they affect women’s appearance, for good or ill. Also because men don’t like hearing about a lot of those invisible effects; they find them gross and they puncture the pleasant vision that many men enjoy having of women. When women talk to one another about pregnancy, they are far mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:30 PM
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This is a decent premise but you have set it up as a very binary proposition. My husband and I both care a lot about our kids; it isn’t as though I am the only one doling out attention or affection to the entire rest of the family while they sit back and wait for it. He has his own relationships with our kids and prioritizes them in certain ways; me in other ways; I do the same. The kids’ dire needs come before our own. Our wants generally come before theirs. Pretty much everything else comes ou…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 11:25 PM
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Both of my daughters get to decide exactly what they want to do with their lives, just as I did. My only hopes and dreams for them are that they are able to find what makes them happy, and pursue it to the best of their ability. If this means career, or living abroad, or a giant family, that is all up to them. They are individual human beings, with individual talents and weaknesses and preferences, not generic "daughters."
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 03:56 PM
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It coincides with menopause when rough age mates marry one another. What really kicks it off is when a man realizes that most of his life is behind him. Midlife crisis is real, and is not the frivolous thing that mainstream culture portrays it to be; it is no small thing to understand that you are now closer to the end of your life than you are to the beginning. There are a lot of events that can kick it off: a sudden illness, the death of a parent, a job loss. But no woman can vet for this in h…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 02:35 AM
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This is apparently something that you feel very strongly about. I am not saying anything that woman have not talked about themselves for the past thousand years or so, and I’m not sure what you think you have to add to a discussion about how women experience aging within a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 02:29 AM
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Yes, I saw that. That is what I meant when I said that couples can come through their midlife storms and spend the rest of their marriage being very happy and loving. You will note that it was a 72 year old man you quoted, and not a 45-60 year old one.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 12:42 AM
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It Happened One Night
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:22 PM
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My dude I have been married for over 20 years and have three kids. I am talking about a wide variety of marriages I have observed in my 47 years; my parents’, friends’ parents’, extended family, et al et al. This idea that “if you vet correctly and RPW hard enough your husband’s wife goggles will remain intact and he will adore you until the end of his days” is delusional, and should honestly be just as prohibited here as any other non-RP advice. Most men won’t say the things to their wives that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 06:51 PM
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Okay you have restated a lot of what I said Also: If you don't use RPW-game, your odds of sticking together are not nearly as good as if you do. What I am trying to communicate is the fact that when women hit middle age the loss of attraction from their husbands causes their husbands to treat them in such ways that the marriage becomes torturous. "Staying together" isn't much of a treat if your husband berates you four days a week for no longer being the 100-pound raven-haired 18-year-old he ori…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 06:24 PM
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(I’m 19) lolololllllllll
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:19 PM
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This is one of the only places that teaches how to avoid the wall That is not now and has never been the point of RPW. Women here acknowledge that the wall exists and that there is no avoiding it sooner or later. There are ways to ameliorate its effects but ultimately men have agency here, too. If a man decides he's no longer interested in his postwall wife, in spite of any- and everything else she does, he is entirely within his rights to do so. I saw how my own father reacted when my mother hi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 05:51 PM
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lol him saying that to you is a funny story, not anything you have to take seriously. We have three kids, 12-year-old twins and a five year old field marshal. It’s not that hard (although there were times when the twins were young that it was hardER, obviously). Most of that is probably that we got the three best kids in the history of ever, but my BFF has five (including twins) and she and her husband seem to like their kids, so obviously it not impossible to have more than one. I’d actually ar…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 02:26 PM
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Yeah I can attest that if you are out working in your yard, EVERYBODY stops to talk to you. Our house was formerly owned by a very old man who hadn’t done any upkeep for years, so I am always outside hacking at a bush or something and people are always stopping to tell me how much better everything looks. It is very gratifying and I have made a lot of neighborhood friends that way!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 02:13 PM
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There will be library story times and stuff like that that you can take your baby to, even when he is tiny. By a certain point you will also want to get out of the house, so stuff like that can be a godsend. Before you know it your baby will be old enough for baby playgrounds, which are also a good source of mom friends. This will really depend on where you live, though. I’ve raised kids in two very different states now, one of which is the Midwestern state (and town, and street) that my husband…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 02:10 PM
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If they are both on the house title then the surviving partner will get the house. Social Security is federally funded and doesn’t belong to either party until they get the deposit every month. If you want your partner to continue getting those benefits after your death you need to marry them. If you die while you still have minor children, those children will get your benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:55 PM
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How is it a basic common sense right to be able to avail yourself of somebody else's retirement money?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 07:12 PM
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u/lovetravel56 I hope you read this comment, particularly the part about not having children with him outside of marriage. There are significant legal benefits that attend upon marriage that are difficult to re-create any other way (you will not be eligible for his social security without it, for example). I would add that my own husband is 51; he has lifted weights and taken care of himself since he was a teenager and is in excellent physical condition for a man of any age, not just "for a man …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 01:46 PM
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America "lives in the past" about marriage because a couple remains legal strangers to one another unless they are married. It doesn't matter if you have property and children together, for example; if you're not married you will not receive a deceased partner's Social Security benefits or military retirement or disability payments. A parent or a child's wishes will take priority over yours if your partner is medically incapacitated. A lot of people say "well just call a lawyer and make sure tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:08 AM
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The mid 20th century was a girl-crazy environment. Girls dated multiple boys until they decided to go steady with one specific boyfriend. It would never have occured to any boy to think that a girl was evil or a slut for dating (NOT FUCKING this was pre-pill) dozens of boys in high school. All a boy could do was try to get on her schedule. When I was growing up in the 70s and 80s, it was a boy-crazy environment. My mother, who grew up in girl-crazy times, kept trying to give me advice based on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:19 PM
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It depends. Mr. Arthur has been into certain kinds of anime and even runs the anime club at the middle school where he teaches. However, he has no patience for the dumb waifu anime that so many young men are into these days, and specifically took on the responsibility of anime club so he could make sure those kids watched stuff like Cowboy Bebop and Fate/Zero instead of big titty bullshit. (Every year quite a few boys drop anime club once they realize they're not going to be watching porn.) I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:52 PM
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Interracial and interclass marriages are not trad at all. How could they be?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:37 PM
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I was going to say “lower your standards” but this works too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 12:03 AM
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I have had two C sections, one for the twins and one for Thing 3. Loose skin is a function of pregnancy, not of how you give birth. It took me a long time to recover from the first one but a lot of that was that a twin pregnancy requires a lot of recovery. I bounced back from the second one very quickly and was out running trails with the jogging stroller when she was maybe four weeks old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:03 PM
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A group where women talk about their male-led relationships is not the same as a group that identifies itself specifically as male-led. I'm not sure what you're arguing with me about.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 04:45 PM
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My career is in a majority male field; I obviously have no problem dealing with men or respecting men, and I have never had a problem abiding by group rules. However, I would not participate in a group that identified itself specifically as "male-led." There is a pretty big difference between those two scenarios.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 04:33 PM
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I just can’t imagine deferring to some man who isn’t my husband, sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:55 AM
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Oh okay lol the way you phrased it made it sound like the discords themselves were male-led, which would be a pretty big departure!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:51 AM
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Why would a male-led household mean that a woman would want to participate in a discord led by some man who is not her husband? How would that be anything other than a betrayal?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:43 AM
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Why male-led?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 11:53 PM
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If anything happens to my husband of nearly 21 years, yes, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 09:59 PM
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Yes I know a lot of women who have perfectly fine stepfathers. It's not a risk I'm willing to take. Edit: Also this: statistically ypur daughters are in more danger from men related to them. isn't really true. Children are far less likely to be abused by parents living together than they are by unrelated adults who live with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:35 PM
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You've got a boy. I've got a boy and two girls. There is absolutely no way in hell I would ever bring an unrelated man to live with my daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 08:17 PM
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Yeah my point is you can tell them anything you like, they're not going to stand you up against a CDC growth chart
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:08 AM
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Women say they want 6' but they don't bring a measuring tape when they meet a guy and women can't tell 6' from a hole in the ground. Women classify men's height as "taller than me" and "a lot taller than me," and depending on his height the same man might be placed in either category on any given day. I'm 5'6" and if some 5'10" dude told me he was six feet tall I'd believe him, because he's taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:06 AM
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I think you should do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:03 AM
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My sister once put magnetic flames all over her best friend's brand new BMW for April Fool's. Her friend thought it was hilarious. Her friend's husband was like "THAT'S NOT FUNNY"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:59 AM
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The OG RP concept is that women can't love men the way men love women. Some terps apparently take that to mean that men love women unconditionally but women don't love men unconditionally. Nobody loves anybody unconditionally. Even the supposed "unconditional" love that parents have for their children is predicated on the pretty big condition that they are THEIR children, not just some random children.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:52 AM
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When he got home from the hospital he had no choice. He was in no shape to give himself IV antibiotics three times a day, schedule and coordinate multiple doctors visits every week, pick up and coordinate a dozen prescriptions. He couldn’t even drive. He slept about twenty hours a day. By the time he felt better, me handling all that stuff was just SOP.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:54 PM
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lol so Mr. Bradley is on a shit ton of meds still from his hospital stay last summer, and I generally keep track of them and fill his multicompartment day-of-the-week pill container, which has sections for morning, afternoon, and evening. One week time got away from me and he informed me "I'm all out of meds." I had a heart attack because I thought he meant that he was OUT OF MEDS, like, we had to ask his doctors for refills, which is a big fucking deal, because that could take a few days and hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:28 PM
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Once men marry they begin to mentally arrogate certain tasks to their wives over time. It doesn't happen immediately and it doesn't happen all at once but over time nearly all household administrative functions fall to the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 07:42 PM
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Yes I saw that definition as well. Meanwhile, on planet earth, if you say “socialite” the vast majority of people will think you are talking about a woman who lives in the Dakota and is on the Met board. u/SmurfESmurferson get my back
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:39 PM
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Okay you're a regular dude who has friends A socialite is a woman from a good background who is well known in whatever passes for "high society," such as Nan Kempner or Brooke Astor, who often spends the majority of her time fundraising for whatever charitable cause catches her fancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:28 PM
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Do you know what a socialite is? It is not "an extrovert who likes to go out"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:22 PM
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He is Nan Kempner don't you know
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:22 PM
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I guess she can sell the shoes later on
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:22 PM
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Any 21-year-old who spends all her time doing housework for some single dad is a dimwit but hey apparently she's getting something out of it so might as well keep it going either until she leaves or until you feel a pang about wasting her youth and cut her loose.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:14 PM
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It may surprise you to learn that the Bible is considered a historical source, and that any decent Western Civ undergrad class will read at least some of the OT
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:04 AM
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I am a military historian, all I read is non-fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:16 PM
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They were the ones fucking the whores and not marrying them. Do you think respectable young men were marrying the whores they lost their virginity to? Have you ever read a history book that was not a public school textbook or a work of fiction? Or, like most Redditors now, do you get your history from video games?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 10:25 PM
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Do you think that geisha and whorehouses drew from the same population of women that respectable young men courted and married? Like women went to whorehouse school before they were considered marriageable or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:54 PM
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I have three children and if any of them did anything like this it would be exponentially more horrible than if a stranger did it specifically because it would not stop me loving them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 03:16 PM
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To be clear, I didn’t STFU and do it myself. I STFU and let him do it his way, without nagging or complaining or hovering. Now that we have been married for over twenty years I can do stuff like say “HEY WIPE OFF THE COUNTERS DO YOU WANT MICE” but that would have been a very bad note to start out on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 02:24 AM
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Mr. Bradley got five years older, more experienced, and more attractive. It doesn’t work that way for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:21 AM
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No it did not bother me that the man I had fallen desperately in love with the moment I first met him had broken up with his college girlfriend. If they had married they would be divorced by now. It was a dumb relationship on both their parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:46 PM
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I keep saying this and guys keep telling me that only Chad gets a girl to like with him. I refused to share a lease with Mr. Bradley until we were engaged, but the woman he was with before me? He ate up five years of her youth, lived with her for three, and left her with nothing to show for it. Nobody cared. Happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:21 PM
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"I'm so tired during the week, I can't keep up with housework" He is very likely to say "Then take a break! The house looks fine to me" instead of thinking "oh wow I had better start vacuuming behind all the furniture" I used to struggle with this same issue, probably because my mom used to follow me around the house while I did my chores and point out all the things I was missing. Because of that, though, I knew exactly how shitty it felt, and the extent to which it made me want to say "Fine, d…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 11:05 AM
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I think I know the one you're talking about, let me poke around a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:00 AM
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Are you sure that was me? This is the closest I can come to remembering it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 12:03 AM
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She broke up with him a few years before their engagement. William was being photographed out and about in London with other young women and Kate was tired of it. They split up briefly while they were still in college, as well. It's easy to say with the benefit of hindsight that she waited patiently and received her reward, but at the time, she had no way of knowing how it would turn out. I wouldn't advise either of my daughters to wait ten years for any man to propose, unless they met in middle…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 05:09 PM
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There are people living all over the world in houses hundreds or a thousand years old, where people died naturally or violently, and it bothers them not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:27 PM
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Do cabinet doors count as doors? Do all these Lego doors count as doors? If I use it as a door, is it a door? Is any means of egress a door? My dad used to tell me I make a better door than a window. Am I a door? We cannot determine wheel or door supremacy until we have some parameters.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 10:39 PM
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lol do you think the Gettys and the Fulbrights are having children out of wedlock? It’s nice that you are grateful to your unmarried parents for having you, for real. You have no idea how families with intergenerational wealth think about this, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:36 AM
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idk, you say your grandma didn’t work, sounds pretty sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:35 PM
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Yes I am aware You think all the Okie dirt farmers who made it through the Depression were rolling in dough afterwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:33 PM
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You find it hard to believe that an Oklahoma Dust Bowl farming family during the Depression made hardly any money?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:19 PM
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lol wut? The vast majority of women are far closer to their own families of origin than they are to their husbands’, and their parents are the primary grandparents. The families they create are primarily oriented towards the mother’s family, not the father’s. A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter’s your daughter all of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:16 PM
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My white grandma (one of seventeen) left school at age thirteen to be a chambermaid at a fancy women's college. Her sisters all left school at the same age to work in the silk mills. She owned and worked at her own sandwich shop for 40 years after she married. Poorer than you ever know. My other white grandma was a subsistence farmer's wife who worked just as hard as her husband, although I grant you that the census records I have seen list her as having no occupation. My mother (one of six sibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:00 PM
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lol you think poor women have spent the last 200 years not working?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:48 PM
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I guess I don't have any female friends, either, because I don't do any of this stuff with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:32 PM
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lol I was a booth bunny at the Navy League show one time in a previous life and it was amaaaaaaaaaazing. That said, my own business travel has always been very unsexy. Even when I went to Hawaii, the most exciting thing that happened was being menaced by a mother boar at the tippy top of the Camp Smith parking lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:31 PM
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Congrats. Hardly anybody here even knows what sexual tension is anymore. Mr. Bradley and I kept it going for over a year before we finally got together. I will never forget that first night, not if I live to be 100.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:22 PM
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A "suitable match" even back then had to be able to stand up straight, look a girl's father in the eye, shake his hand, speak clearly and convincingly about why he should be considered a serious candidate, and be able to back that up with actual accomplishment, as verified by other members of the community. Reputation was about a thousand times more important then than it is now. All those "things that actually matter" had to be proven in concrete, quantifiable ways, not airy-fairy "my True Self…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:11 PM
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They might not be thinking that at six or seven, but they sure as hell notice by high school that boys get all starry eyed when some girl acts dizzy and maybe gets teary-eyed. My own mother used to tell me I didn’t always have to act too smart around boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:52 AM
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My mother was born in 1947, her family was dirt poor but even they had more than a hoe. Yes, modern farmers have more equipment, because they are no longer subsistence farmers like my mother’s family. Hard physical labor isn’t inherently bad but relentless 14 hour days of physical labor break down the body and grind at the soul. None of those six children became farmers or married a farmer. My point is that those who yearn for trad “days of old” don’t have much idea of what it was actually like.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:50 AM
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I’m saying that men select for hypoagent women, so it is not exactly surprising that there are a lot of them. There is an MRP mod who thinks that if a woman has a good credit score and knows what an index fund is, she is basically a dude in drag. If men select for hysterical hypoagent women then they shouldn’t be surprised if women behave like hysterical hypoagents. It really really sucks for the limited number of dudes who hate that shit; Thing 1 is already one of them and I hope he is able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:11 AM
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My dude, men don’t want women who are held responsible for their actions. They don’t find competent, hyperagent women attractive at all. You know how I was raised. I was very very lucky to find Mr. Bradley when I did. There were plenty of dudes who thought I was hot and wanted to fuck me when I was young, but every one of them went on to marry a hypoagent woman. That is what the vast majority of men find attractive and select for.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:47 PM
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Is it really a surprise that they can look at the past and see that people like them weren’t beaten down, and think “Why can’t we go back to that? What is hilarious is that they think people were not beaten down in the past. My mother’s family was the kind of six-kid subsistence-farming family these guys say they want. It was unremitting backbreaking physical labor from before dawn to after sunset and their standard of living was third world. Every one of those six children despised their father…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 11:41 PM
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Median is likely to be more representative of how much women actually earn than your $25K average, which, as I said, includes a considerable number of women who do not work at all
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:14 PM
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No shit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:13 PM
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$25K is considerably below the median for adult women employed full-time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:09 PM
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This particular discussion was about retirement-aged women. Further, that $25K number includes the large number of women who don't work at all, plus employed teenage girls. Among adult women who work full time, the median salary is around $47K. Again, there are lots of places where you can live a perfectly comfortable life on that amount of money. My own retired mother lives on less than half of that, exclusive of property taxes, in a fairly expensive part of the country. She is earning interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:07 PM
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What is your hangup with a $500 emergency? If a retired woman has a $500 emergency and she doesn't have $500 in cash, she will put it on a credit card or get one of the literally infinite loans that are available to anybody with a middling credit score, a basic income, and an internet connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:56 PM
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By the time they retire, they are earning an average of $45K. There are plenty of areas in the country where you can have a perfectly comfortable life on $45K if you have no children to pay for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:55 PM
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The reason why I don't believe it is because historically women choose loveless relationships over being homeless. Historically women weren't able to access employment that could support them. This is no longer the case. It is best for a woman to be married to a man she loves. It is second best for her to be single. It is a distant, distant, distant third for her to be married to a man she doesn't love, no matter how much he may love her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:47 PM
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You don't know anything about Medicare, that is flagrantly obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:01 PM
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Old people in the US are on Medicaid, which pays for every single illness of old age, yes Edit: Medicare, not Medicaid, duh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:52 PM
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The "average woman" in the US is not in danger of being homeless unless she is in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 01:48 PM
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I was diagnosed at 37; same same re: procrastination et al. "bUt YoU hAVe a PhD!" Yeah no shit it's no problem to drill down on something I'm actually interested in Adderall chills me out, it's pretty sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:57 PM
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We made a valiant attempt to play Rummikub as a family during winter break. The box advised us that it "brings families together!" I dispute that vigorously.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:15 PM
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Aw, thank you for asking! He is doing very well, has been back at the gym for a few months now. He will be very very happy to get off the prednisone. His rheumatologist is tapering him super slowly, he's down to 3mg/day now and will be off it completely by the very beginning of April.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:38 PM
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omg lololololol I was making a funny joke but it turned out to be true!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:31 PM
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Yes I can see how it would be boring and dull to take your border collie for a walk and not have her dislocate your shoulder every time she sees a squirrel
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:30 PM
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Chair Force, amirite? "Running drills" = only spending three days a week relaxing and being a tourist instead of four
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:29 PM
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Oh, cool, I will definitely do that! lol the summer before I got with Mr. Bradley, the company that employed us both celebrated its 100th anniversary with a giant party at the Air and Space Museum. It was so awesome; I got absolutely hammered on champagne and spent the last half of the evening sitting in the floor in the WWII exhibit, watching Movietone newsreels about Tarawa and Midway. Every single time I have been back to that museum I'm like ":-\ no champagne, huh"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:23 PM
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If you don't mind a bit of a drive, the US Air Force Museum in Dayton is pretty fucking baller. You can walk through a lot of the aircraft, including the fuselage of the Command Decision, a B-29 that flew in Korea. One of my dad's friends flew it on either its last combat mission or one of its last combat missions, I can't remember which. They also have a B-17! That thing is HUGE.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:18 PM
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It's not okay for her to go through his phone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:27 PM
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It was “terminate before 40 years,” equally obviously there are first marriages that do not end until death of one party after forty years. It is not at all obvious that they mean that 67% of first marriages end in divorce before 40 years, and since they did not link a source, it is impossible to discern for certain. Edit: the very same law firm says elsewhere that “researchers estimate that 41% of all first marriages end in divorce,” that is a very different proposition from 67%
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:10 PM
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????? That law firm massaged the data considerably, doesn't show how it came to those numbers, doesn't link to the "many experts" who think that the divorce rate per 1000 married women is "more accurate" than the crude divorce rate, et al et al. If I tried to pass anything like that off in my own career, I'd be in serious trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:43 PM
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Oh you mean this? Over a 40 year period, 67 percent of first marriages terminate. "Terminate" does not mean "divorce." Sometimes people die.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:40 PM
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This says that 70% of third marriages end in divorce, and it doesn't give a cite. There is absolutely no reason that anybody should make decisions for their own personal lives based on some "70% of marriages end in divorce!!!" panic-stat promulgated by a divorce lawyer. My own marriage has nothing in common with some E-1 marrying his 19-year-old girlfriend in order to get BAH, and their marriage has nothing in common with my parents' marriage of 52 years. Anybody who wants to can find fairly acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:35 PM
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Yeah I grew up working class and have been the breadwinner for our entire 20-year (so far) marriage. My husband has a passion career that he does very well at, but which will never be well-paid. I was never raised with the belief that anybody would take care of me, and I couldn't care less about who makes more. We have had the same joint checking account since two days after we were married and every dollar we both earn belongs to the household. I love Mr. Bradley, so I'm thrilled that he is abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:10 AM
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I don't "genuinely love kids" but I love MY kids, the best kids of all time. Unfortunately, you will not have the best kids of all time, but second place is still pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:59 AM
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Sounds like finding a DJ and a photographer would be a good project for your MIL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:20 PM
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That's honestly repugnant to me, and I say that as someone whose kids got all the silver nitrate and vitamin K and all that good stuff. They're my children, it's not for the government to tell me what medical interventions they should have at any point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:44 PM
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I have said this over and over and over, do you understand that there is no mandatory anything when a child is born, even in a hospital? You don't have to let them administer silver nitrate drops, no vitamin K shot, no Social Security number paperwork, nothing. There is no penalty for opting out of all of that stuff. You cannot make any routine newborn intervention mandatory. Particularly one that tests the baby's DNA, are you kidding me? At least in the US that would be illegal af. There is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:34 PM
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I have never eaten a chocolate frosting that I actually liked, except for possibly Rose Levy Berenbaum's chocolate ganache icing, which I more often make as straight-up chocolate mousse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:27 PM
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I went to a women's college known for turning out hardworking and ambitious graduates. My senior year roommate is now a partner at a large law firm and has three kids and a husband she's nuts about. My BFF has a stupendously successful international relations career (and I do mean stupendously; very few people reach her level of seniority) and she's got five kids and a handsome husband who's crazy about her, and vice-versa. Another friend of mine met her husband in her Ivy League MD/Ph.D. progra…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 07:56 PM
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So what's up with that username?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 07:49 PM
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If I change my mind I'll just adopt or foster a teenager who needs a home and act more like an older brother figure for them. You think that social services are eager to hand over teenagers to single men?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:54 AM
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Come now, this is the sort of thing that parents across the nation wish could be added to the high school curriculum.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 08:31 PM
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We have been married for over 20 years, together for almost a quarter of a century. I fell in love with him the moment I first met him back in February 1997 and have never ever ever been remotely interested in any other man or wanted anybody else since that moment. We didn't get together for a little over a year and I thought I was going to lose my mind. I love him more than anybody else except our children. I have spent my entire adulthood with him, we have decades of shared history, our entire…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:27 PM
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Pistols at dawn. Choose your second.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 01:12 AM
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I do not agree. Kevin Costner is just ugh. Same reason Bull Durham falls before Major League. Mr. Bradley just asked me to rank Major League and Caddyshack; though, and that’s a tough one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:59 AM
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I once got into a yelling argument with a minion about the best baseball movie, he argued vehemently that it was Bull Durham and I argued even more vehemently that it was NOT. We yelled for maybe ten minutes until he realized that I was mooting Major League and immediately he was like "Oh okay yeah you may be right"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:53 AM
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If it is hilarity you seek I cannot recommend anything higher than the baseball documentary Major League
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:47 AM
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I made chocolate cupcakes for the kids with pink vanilla buttercream frosting. Chocolate cake with vanilla frosting is the only way, period, the end, case closed, shut the door. It would have been red frosting but my little jar of red gel food coloring got knocked over and leaked out all over the place. My fingers are still incarnadine from cleaning it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:46 AM
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Your original statement: There was never a time in the history of the world men protected unrelated and random women. Are you conceding that there have indeed been times that men protected unrelated women as long as those women were of their same social class?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:44 AM
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Evangelicals adopt like nobody's business, what are you even talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:38 AM
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lol I am an actual factual historian my dude, not some dipshit "leftist" Second wave feminism took off because educated women wanted entry into the prestige professions, not because women were getting catcalled on the street
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 07:44 PM
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You think second wave feminism happened because women were being harassed on the street? Nothing you are saying makes any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:01 PM
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You think that women got harassed on the street in 1950 the way they do now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:26 PM
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Did I say that I expected men to help me? Someone told me that men still protect women from street harassment, and I disagreed and said that no, they do not. I'm not sure why you think I expected anybody to assist me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:26 PM
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Following me down the street, hissing filth in my ear, calling me bitch or cunt, telling me exactly what they would like to do to my physical person, et al et al. Seventy years ago I would have been able to walk down 15th street at 8 AM in peace, because these kinds of men would have known that respectable men would have come to my aid. That is no longer the case. Do you think that street harassment is a gentleman coming up to a woman and saying "How do you do ma'am?"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 04:03 PM
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lol "we" do not protect women in that same way. I wish I had a nickel for every time I, a respectable young woman, was very flagrantly and obviously harassed while walking down the street in DC, and the surrounding respectable men did nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:49 PM
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There was never a time in the history of the world men protected unrelated and random women. Random women, no. Respectable women of their social class, yes, absolutely. If a respectable woman was being harassed on the street by a reprobate or a bum she could often count on respectable men to intervene on her behalf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:43 PM
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There has never been any point in our 20-year marriage where my husband has earned more than me, lol. I have more education and a more prestigious career, too. It has literally never been a problem at all. Our class backgrounds could not be more different, however, so that probably has something to do with it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/22 07:36 PM
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my husbands attitude is “oh well everyone gets diabetes it’s just a part of life we will have to deal with one day.” This is.... Man, I just don't know. Let me explain my perspective on this. My husband is 51 now and has been in outstanding shape since I met him 25 years ago. Lifts weights, runs, all that good stuff. Last summer he went down hard with a mystery illness that hospitalized him for a month. He was very very sick: kidney failure, heart failure, sepsis, pancreatic inflammation, electr…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/22 07:30 PM
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You don't even have to get a real pastor, Do you think this is an upside? My husband and I were married in the same cathedral where JFK's funeral mass was held; we have been going there for 25 years and I assure you that they would have been unwilling to marry us without a license. We didn't want to be fake married by a friend, in my religion marriage means a lot more than that and it's not something that I'd be willing to forego.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:45 PM
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To be clear, you are saying that these are the legal advantages that attend upon legal marriage, and that would be unavailable to couples that did not get legally married, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:40 PM
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If you enrich your soil to a high degree and select the right species My mom got her master gardener certification maybe 15 years ago. Her best friend at the time (sadly died of brain cancer since then) absolutely loved trilium and spent a jaw-dropping amount of money on various plants, the vast majority of which died. The first time my mom visited us at our Ohio house, she was blown away at all the trilium we had, growing all over the place. I didn't have the slightest idea what they were until…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:17 PM
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Through work, around the neighborhood, other kids' parents
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:54 PM
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lol I actually remember exactly when I bought it, we were about to move to the Midwest and would be living with my parents in New England for a few weeks and then with my in laws in our new town for a few more weeks while we waited to close on the new house and I needed a big travel bag for shampoo and stuff that I could use for all that time. I was with our elder (at the time, only) daughter and she was three. Just happened to pass the Vera Bradley store at the outlet mall and I thought I could…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:02 PM
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I have something like this, although I didn't pay no $90 for it, I got it on sale at the outlet. A++++, would recommend to all, I am very very hard on all my travel stuff and this has seen lots of use and still looks brand new after nearly a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:28 PM
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There is a coffee place near where I grew up that I used to go to with my friends while we were home from college; it made the only mocha in the western half of the state that did not give you type 2 diabetes after one sip. They are so so good. Bitter chocolate and espresso are made for each other. Imagine my delight when I found a place after college that also makes a bitter mocha. Meanwhile, Mr. Bradley orders his mochas from Starbucks and puts two sugar packets into each one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:20 PM
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Leftovers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:17 PM
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If the two of you working together can't figure out a way to stage a hugely expensive harassment suit, settle out of court for $$$$, and split the proceeds then I don't even know what
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:13 PM
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Imagine dating a guy who doesn't think it's "fair" when he DMs a billion IG thots and none of them reply, couldn't be me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:09 PM
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My dude I don't allow my 12 year olds or my 5 year old to whine about "fairness" so I don't understand why you think that anybody would find it attractive in a grown ass man
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:54 PM
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The vast majority of young women are indeed receptive to SOME of the men trying to get to know her; they do not have to be receptive to ALL men trying to get to know her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:47 PM
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she didnt treat me/men in general fairly before we got married or even met why would i expect her to afterwards? What do you care about how she treated "men in general" and how exactly would a woman conduct herself in her early 20s that would prove to you that she is being "fair to men in general?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:38 PM
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I stopped taking ballet thirty years ago and my toes are still all fucked up. I can still go en pointe in bare feet, tho, so I got that going for me. Which is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:33 PM
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It is not at all uncommon for both parties to have ideas about marriage that are unexpressed even to themselves, and to start acting in accordance with them after the wedding. A lot of men, my own husband included, have expectations of wives that they never articulated at any point before marriage. We have been married for twenty years and he would tell you that he absolutely does not expect me to pick up after him. He would tell you this while standing in front of the dishes he has left on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:32 PM
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I shocked my 12-year-old son yesterday evening by hoisting him in the air and cracking his spine for him. Didn't tell him that there is no way I'll be able to do that for much longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 06:33 PM
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Is this the child that you have referred to as a "gook" in the past, or a different one?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 12:25 PM
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If God forbid anything happened to Mr. Bradley I'd be a widowed mother with three kids, two of whom are daughters, and it would be a cold day in hell before I would let any unrelated man anywhere near them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:35 PM
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??? Well off women were the ones going to college in the 1950s. Working class woman weren’t going to the Seven Sisters colleges or getting degrees. UMC and UC woman went to college starting in the late 19th century, at least in the US, and that will not change. Those fathers want their daughters educated. Edit: there were still a large number of subsistence farms in the US in the 1950s and those farm wives were listed as “unemployed” on census records, in spite of the fact that they worked every…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 05:38 PM
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Western women went to college in the 1950s and plenty of women worked
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:33 PM
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So this: We will go back to early marriage, housewives, and ofc no more college for women. isn't going "back" to anything; it will be a completely new thing is what you're saying
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:30 PM
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Ah, yes, the 1950s in Russia, where women didn't go to college and were virgin housewives who happily had trains run on them for the amusement and arousal of their husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:13 PM
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Most women loved men and felt that men were a huge benefit to their lives. They appreciated men's enormous sacrifices to keep them and their children safe. Women still remembered how men suffered in WW2 and felt a sense of gratitude. So as a natural outgrowth of that love, they treated men better. Who are you trying to fool, saying that high school girls in the 1970s felt a sense of loving gratitude towards men because of World War II? Girls who had seen helicopters evacuating the US Embassy in …
/r/MensRights06/02/22 12:03 AM
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We hung on to the schedule probably longer that we needed to but better that than giving it up too soon. They didn’t even want to give their cribs up until they were like three. In the end, we got them toddler beds after our son dismantled both of their cribs early one morning. I will never forget lifting Thing 2 out of her crib and watching the whole thing collapse inward; it was like a Warner Brothers cartoon.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/22 03:35 PM
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Oh man I remember those days. I am pretty go-with-the-flow and generally feel oppressed when Mr. Bradley asks me what’s for dinner that day (“I never make plans that far ahead”) but we lived and died by a schedule when the twins were small. Our families thought we were killjoy Nazis for defending the Sacred Nap Schedule so zealously but it was the only way. Our lives became unmanageable immediately if the nap/sleep schedule was disrupted.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 11:22 PM
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So my husband and I are sort of in this situation, only reversed. And his family is upper class, not UMC. And my background is middle class. I was getting my PhD when we met and I had no idea of his class background. We have been married for over 20 years now and have three kids and in spite of his UC background and the UC trust fund that awaits him (much much later; his ancestor did not want to encourage layabouts), I have been the breadwinner for our entire marriage. You don’t know what the fu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 11:16 PM
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If he is still getting his PhD then he is definitely not a tenured professor.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 11:07 PM
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My dude I can’t speak for your ex wife but I am 47 years old and if I spent the night on a mattress on the floor, I would pay for it for a week. I’m in pretty decent shape but my physical body is no longer as quick to recover as it was when I was 22. My father in law is 30 years older than I am and he refuses to sleep in anything other than an actual bed. I guess men’s standards change, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:44 PM
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Our doctor told us verbatim that there was no point doing a semen analysis, because "90% of the time it's the woman," This is insane. We saw a reproductive endocrinologist because while I could get pregnant very easily, I miscarried three times in a row. They still checked up on my husband before they did a single thing with me, because, as you say, that's the easiest and least invasive thing to do and it makes sense to start off that way. (It turned out I had a uterine anomaly that was easily c…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 06:31 PM
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Thanks, he is doing much better and will be entirely off the pred by March! Not a moment too soon. He hates it so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:24 PM
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There are plenty of medications that make people fat, though. My husband was on a high dose of prednisone for months after his lupus was diagnosed this past summer; there is no amount of caloric intake adjustment that would have prevented him from gaining 70 pounds from edema.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 12:09 PM
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Military history
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:14 PM
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I am married to a good-looking 6'2" guy who has lifted weights for the past 35 years, it can happen. I don't have the slightest idea why the men of PPD don't think that attractive men never fall in love or want to spend their lives with one woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:40 PM
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Marry him, you will never need to cook again
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 02:46 PM
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Studious bookish person with generally male interests: military history, defense, et al et al
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 12:00 PM
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Manbrained nerd. My upbringing was, uh, unconventional. I went to a Seven Sisters college with a bunch of other manbrained nerds and I got my Ph.D. in a manbrained nerd subject. My career is a manbrained nerd career. All my friends, male and female, are manbrained nerds. DC is a good place to be a manbrained nerd! I've been married for 20 years and have three kids who now get to be raised like I was, only at about 60% intensity and minus the PTSD.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:19 PM
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Read history. Understand that there is nothing new under the sun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:13 PM
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Ugh we have lived in houses built in 1950 for the past fifteen years and even for houses built then the outlet situation is dire. In college I lived in dorms built in the late 1800s and the main thing the school impressed upon us was that they had a fire life of about a minute and a half. Which I guess is consistent with the idea that men are houses: they can look totally fine, beautiful, even, but the smallest thing will burn them to the ground in no time at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:26 PM
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don’t normally argue over small shit. Okay, so start an argument over some small shit. The first yelling argument I had with my husband was over whether it is possible to conquer Russia via land-only invasion. Pick a dumb position regarding something she knows a lot about and refuse to be convinced otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:58 PM
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Tell me you have never been responsible for the upkeep on an old house without telling me you have never been responsible for the upkeep on an old house. Mr. Bradley spent a lot of his childhood in an 18th century Nantucket house that was insulated with horsehair. Efficient!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:53 PM
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lol Archwinger himself, PBUH, once told me that my husband was "a badass" because he ended a date early when it became clear that neither he nor the girl were enjoying themselves. It was a real "tell me you're a doormat without telling me you're a doormat" moment
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:46 PM
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Yeah, he was also born near where I grew up. His son was an utter piece of shit, though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 12:53 AM
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Holy shit I am so so sorry to hear this news
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:57 PM
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When I want your opinion I’ll give it to you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:56 PM
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Yeah I've used shredded raw brussels sprouts in salads before and they are surprisingly good. I will forever be an arugula stan tho
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:42 PM
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I mean my dad had a lot of guns, he also taught me to shoot when I was 6. I helped him make bullets when I was about the same age; he melted his own lead and everything and I would work the little elevator-type gizmo that affixed the primers into the bottom of the cartridge case, like this. When I was a little older he taught me how to shoot a revolver, using General Arthur MacArthur's former personal sidearm, a big 1885 Colt .45. I could never hit shit with it, but my sister was a deadeye. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:35 PM
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I said I would not entertain other opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:30 PM
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Green beans boiled for six minutes, arugula, diced avocado, with a tarragon vinaigrette. Patricia Wells is responsible for the OG recipe and it's delicious; reminiscent of bearnaise without clagging up the palate as bearnaise sometimes can. And avocado instead of blue cheese is genius (although I do love blue cheese).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:15 PM
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This is a major major major hobbyhorse of mine. My dad hammered this into my sister's head and mine. "INITIATIVE," he said over and over. It was far better to try something and fail than to just sit helplessly and be like "welp guess I'm done." And he modeled this himself, more times than I can count. I remember when he once fixed my high school car (a 1980 Mercury Lynx) by repairing some tube with a cut-down M1 cartridge casing and some hose clamps. I took that kind of thing for granted when I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:13 PM
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Short ribs are steak adjacent and are an outstanding dinner but they are not best dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:06 PM
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I want to taste the heat not the meat
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:03 PM
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Resolved: Steak salad is the best dinner I will not be entertaining opposing points of view Thank you for your time Edit: Further resolved: charcoal > propane I will definitely not be entertaining opposing points of view
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:59 PM
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Because yo mama
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:58 PM
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There are a LOT of people here who have hobbyhorses and aren't interested in contributing anything substantive. It gets annoying to actually put in thought while writing a comment and then get dogpiled by people who obviously haven't given any thought to what you wrote except as a jumping-off point to say "MEN HAVE IT WORSE" or "YOU JUST HATE WOMEN"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:10 PM
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Do what you will with him Edit: Based on his comment history, he has absolutely nothing of value to say to any woman who seeks advice here
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 08:04 PM
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Dude I have been married for 20 years and have three kids and have been reading RP stuff for longer than you have been an adult. You know what is neither conservative nor RP? Posting a billion comments to thots on Reddit about all the things you wish you could do to them.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 08:02 PM
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lol I am a woman but nice try
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 07:52 PM
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It is literally a sexual strategy. You are proving my point.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 07:49 PM
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The Red Pill is a sexual strategy and in spite of the mighty efforts that a lot of manosphere guys have made to tie it to right wing/trad/RETVRN stuff, it is not and has never been associated with conservatism. The majority of original RPW mods were working women and breadwinners and a lot of them were childless. Male RP strategy is incompatible with conservatism; there is no conservatism that I am aware of which endorses casual sex, avoiding marriage, avoiding children, treating women as dispos…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 04:41 PM
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Right, I don't dispute that it happens. But this is also a completely different thing than claiming magical intuition powers that let you know when an attractive man is lying to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:28 PM
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Yeah, I haven't read much about this particular case but from what I understand it seems to be an interesting illustration of the fact that some women may be willing to turn a blind eye to behavior that they would be pretty upset about if it were shoved in their faces and made public to all. In this case, though, they're all shoving it in one another's faces. It's really interesting to watch the return of the reputation. This isn't anything that couldn't have happened in the 1880s Anglosphere; a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:27 PM
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No, I grew up in the 70s and 80s and girls didn't call guys creeps unless they actually did stuff that was objectively creepy like stalking or sending obscene notes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:24 PM
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So you're not debating with women who claim magical intuition? You are seeing this shit on TikTok or whatever and then pretending that the women here are saying it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:36 PM
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Link where women here have said they have magical intuition
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:32 PM
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A woman selectively ignoring a red flag or two while she is three drinks in and has been dancing with her friends for the past two hours so she can make out with a hot dude on the dance floor does not mean "women enjoy being lied to." Nobody but you is talking about "magical intuition." The idea that, because a thing happens, that means that both participants have actively and consciously planned for it to happen, is childish in the extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:29 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:25 PM
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I will never understand how "women will tolerate or selectively ignore X if the circumstances are right" turns into "women enjoy X" in some men's minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:20 PM
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You are in Australia; I am talking about the US
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:00 AM
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Cool. I’m not talking about Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:47 AM
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Yes, if they were legally separated and your husband took the necessary steps then he would not be named as the father. Also, his ex probably put it on the county clerk’s radar. I have never said that there is no way to avoid being the legal father if you are the husband, only that it is the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 03:47 AM
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I absolutely think that if such a thing became the norm women would rather strengthen the solidarity amongst themselves, Women will never ever ever ever ever create social pressure in favor of mandatory paternity tests. Not in the US. Maybe they would in Saudi or some other non-Western part of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:01 PM
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Unmarried couples don't divorce; the child's birth certificate would list the ex-husband as the father unless he took specific action to prevent it This is part of what marriage is FOR, I don't know why it is so difficult to understand. Part of marriage's whole purpose is to make husbands the legal fathers of their children with all of the privileges and responsibilities that entails. It is to make it so men don't have to petition courts for access to their own children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:59 PM
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IME, on this sub, both men and women sometimes personalize generalized statements. Man: Men don't care about women's accomplishments Woman: My husband certainly cares about mine Or Woman: Men are looking for bangmaids as wives Man: I do all the cleaning but I still love my wife I have seen both men and women refer to these kinds of general comments as "making it personal," even though the personalization was on the receiving end and not on the statement end. However, when it comes to pointed and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:57 PM
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Yes, I understand your point, I am not sure you understand mine, which is that NOBODY WILL SHAME YOU if nobody knows about it. Do you think that women are going to get together and cluck about how terrible it is that one of their friends refused the paternity test when her baby was born? Hell no, they'll all be doing the same. If anything, acceding to the paternity test will quickly become a mark of a pickme
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:50 PM
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Yeah you can't claim your kids as dependents if they don't have SSNs but there is zero penalty for not getting one. Indeed, when our twins were born, our son for some reason was not assigned one even though I filled out the paperwork, necessitating a few in-person trips to the SS office accompanied by two-month-old twins. That was fun. But I could have kept him off the books and nobody would have known until he tried to fill out a FAFSA or get a job. And yeah I absolutely agree about universal g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:49 PM
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Any type of written agreement is contract buddy. the ceremony with the officiant is the verbal contract 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:41 PM
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If you don't know what you're talking about then honestly just be quiet. lolol pretty tough words coming from the "legal affairs" dude who apparently doesn't know that the word "contract" has a specific legal meaning, and that the state of marriage does not meet it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:39 PM
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Why would that knowledge be made public unless the parents themselves made it public? Do you think that hospitals can post notices of patients' private medical information?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:37 PM
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A marriage license is no more a contract than a driver's license or a hunting license, and a marriage is no more a contract than an incorporated business I work in legal services fwiw. "I am not a lawyer"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:23 PM
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I'm a woman and my husband is perfectly free to paternity test any of our three kids at any time. But you are dreaming if you think there would ever be "social pressure" to submit to state-mandated paternity tests. Women are the ones who create social pressure for this kind of thing and they wouldn't create it for paternity tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:20 PM
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It's not a contract
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:19 PM
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You think that the vitamin K shot is "socially enforced?" You think new mothers are questioned "How did he do with the vitamin K shot" when she returns home with the newborn?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:19 PM
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If a man is so sure that he is going to want to paternity test his children, why would he wait until immediately after his wife has undergone the most physically intense and painful and debilitating experience of her life to raise that subject? Why would he not mention it to every woman he starts dating, so they know that it is a philosophical issue for him and not a question of her own individual fidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:25 PM
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Are you aware of the fact that parents can opt out of every single newborn intervention? There is no law saying you have to allow your baby to get silver nitrate drops, the vitamin K shot, the bili lights if she is jaundiced. You don't even have to get your kid a social security number. So what makes you think that women won't insist on opting out of hospital-based paternity tests?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:23 PM
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Yes, and if you are married to the father, he is automatically listed. Please tell me why a married couple would give a shit about child support. Your link is for single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:19 PM
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mArrIaGe COntRacT
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:18 PM
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That figure also includes families where the father knows that it is not his biological child, but the child does not, as with a sperm donor or an adoption.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:18 PM
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I have also observed in the past that parents are 100% free to opt out of any or all of the standard newborn stuff; no silver nitrate no vitamin K no anything. You don't even have to get your kid a social security number if you don't want to. I don't have any idea why they think that families wouldn't opt out of paternity tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:17 PM
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NOBODY SIGNS THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE except maybe for the clerk of whatever municipality where the birth took place. All a birth certificate is is an acknowledgement that a birth took place at a certain time in a certain place on a certain date to these legal parents. In every state in the country, the husband of the mother is the legal father unless other arrangements have been made beforehand, and husbands have varying amounts of time post-birth to contest paternity should they wish to. I have n…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:13 PM
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(since I was never young) lol yeah this always cracks me up, I’m 47 now so obviously I have always been 47, I was never ever ever a wide eyed 21 year old with men following me all over
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 11:46 PM
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Over a year. I fell hard for him the moment we met but he was living with a gf. Once they split up and he moved out, it was on like Donkey Kong literally that very evening. It depends. If it is a guy I have never met before and know nothing about I am going to want to wait at least long enough to figure out whether he is going to turn me into a skin suit. If it’s a coworker or something and I already know him pretty well I don’t see why I’d need to wait two months. Everybody knew I was 😍 about h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:58 PM
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I don’t know about gaslighting but I am a woman who has been here for over seven years and it is routine to be told that I don’t love my husband, that I am not attracted to him, that all I have to offer any man is a cunt, that my husband doesn’t care about my accomplishments, that my husband wishes I would “let” him fuck undergraduates, that if I ever get cancer I owe it to him to order him escorts… I dispute your opinion that women are more likely to personalize than men. Maybe that is true now…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:47 PM
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All of your points are a young man’s worries. When you are with someone for multiple decades you know just about everything about one another just because you are in such close proximity for so long. Nobody has to “open up” to know that he is pissed off and deeply worried about being fired, or that she is terrified because her sister’s oncologist found something weird on the last scan.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:35 PM
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Cooking and cleaning is orthogonal to a man's attraction. Mr. Bradley fell hard for me well before I knew how to cook. I have been married for over 20 years and would never in a million years advise any young woman to learn how to cook and clean in order to get a man; any man who is into her won't care if she knows how to cook and the last thing any young woman needs to do is waste her youth doing housekeeping work trying to convince some man to like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:55 PM
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Well now you have to report back about how it goes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:11 PM
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It would be a kindness to tell her that she sounds like an insane person, talking about this dude that she can't even be bothered to meet IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:09 PM
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lolol I was going to say this sounds like standard NRE drunkenness until I got to the part about how they've never actually been in one another's presence. Is this dude deployed to Antarctica or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:07 PM
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lolololol "legend"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:36 PM
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Mr. Bradley gained over 80 pounds last summer when he was in the hospital. Most of it was edema from the high dose of prednisone that he was on for a long long time. I didn't care, except inasmuch as it made him physically uncomfortable. No, I was not fucking him at that point, because he was very very ill and generally speaking most men lose their sex drive when they are recovering from multiorgan failure and sepsis. Yes, I was still attracted to him. It took him a few months to lose the weight…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:47 PM
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I married a man who will never ever make as much as I do, since he picked a career that does not pay like mine. I don't care and have never cared. I can make my own money and picked purely on attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 09:16 PM
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Children being "independent before they're ready" has everything to do with the social and emotional climate at home and nothing to do with their parents. A child can go to daycare or preschool and still know that they rely on their parents for love and care and attention and affection; a child can spend all day at home with an indifferent and preoccupied mother and know from a heartbreakingly young age that he's pretty much on his own. children nowadays aren’t expressing their emotions lolololo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 06:13 PM
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You are not the first person here to say that women should be exclusive with a guy from the minute he asks her out, and you will not be the last. It doesn't make you right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 04:36 PM
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Our five year old is in a half day (sometimes an hour or two longer) preschool five days a week. A kindergarten teacher at our older children's school told me very frankly that she would be at a significant disadvantage without preschool and that just about every kindergartner at that school has preschool experience; it wouldn't be fair to not allow her to be on the same level as her peers. We picked one where the children spend a LOT of time outside, even now, in the winter. She loves it and ha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 04:33 PM
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Her relationship with my great grandfather was very physical, obviously. She had been in love with him for years when she was young but her parents didn't think he was a suitable husband and made her marry a different man. That different man died, and so she was able to marry the man she actually loved. She was starry eyed about him until the day she died. She wasn't a stupid woman and she was obviously aware of the consequences of a very physical relationship. If birth control had been availabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 11:55 AM
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Because men and women are different. Additionally, a man who thinks it's cute when his new gf throws a fit because he had a working lunch with a female colleague will probably think it's a lot less cute after a few months, whether or not he indulges her on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 11:47 AM
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I'll be honest, from everything I have heard she was a TRP dream girl; beautiful (I've seen a picture of her when she was younger), kind, loving, submissive, an outstanding cook and housekeeper, a devoted mother, an even more devoted wife. Still, this devoted mother took all of her daughters aside when they married and told them not to have a billion kids. "You don't want to have a baby clinging to your skirts all the time," she said. And none of her eight surviving children, male or female, had…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 11:44 AM
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Anywhere is going to be better than SF
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 09:17 PM
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Hey, that Tylenol worked a treat! I couldn't believe it when I woke up this morning, no soreness or stiffness at all. This is what I will do from now on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:33 PM
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My great grandmother had seventeen children. This is how it goes when you don't have or use birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:32 PM
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You're not going to find late 20s traditionally minded men in SF, full stop. Move to Texas.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 08:27 PM
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Someone with an arts degree is going to have values and priorities that are vastly different from someone in the trades
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 03:42 PM
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Did I not tell you????
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:51 AM
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I am not sure about the onsen situation in my part of the world but I will take that under advisement!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:45 AM
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For the roof??!! Even I am not that daring!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:03 AM
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I am a 47 year old woman so I am literally a weak bitch; there is nothing I can do about that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:30 AM
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Worst business trip of my life, but I was introduced to Dresden hot chocolate, which is the best hot chocolate I have ever had in all my life. Say what you want about East Germany, their hot chocolate game was on point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:28 AM
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Oh dang that is some good info!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:26 AM
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Huh, we have a bottle for the same reason. Maybe I will give it a try!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:25 AM
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The last bath I took was in November 1999, at the Kempinski Hotel in Dresden, and I took a shower beforehand That was a nice nice tub tho
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:10 AM
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Curious, why Tylenol and not ibuprofen?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:09 AM
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Done
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:58 PM
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Ugh, people soup. Baths skeeve me something awful but maybe I will take a shower
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:58 PM
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I shoveled about fifteen hundred pounds of snow and ice off the roof this afternoon. If anybody has any ideas about how I can wake up tomorrow morning not feeling like my aging body is made of broken glass, I am all ears.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:52 PM
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You know, once I found out we were having boy girl twins I actually hoped I would get to see those brain differences in action. Instead, I got the daughter who held her baby doll by the feet and slammed its head against the floor chanting “DIE DIE DIE” like a World War II German soldier in Russia. I do believe that other people have normal kids and do see those differences, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 11:04 PM
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Same. My dad’s family is Polish and while all the women have all had tremendous girl game, they are also ruthless tyrants. They will submit to their husbands, all right, but they have all married men who are far more masculine than the average Redditor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:41 PM
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Oh, I know it, one of my husband’s friends married a woman from the Czech Republic and thought he was getting a sweet submissive feminine lovely; boy was he surprised when he learned that she expected to rule the roost with an iron fist and had no problem making her expectations of him clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:31 PM
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Yes, as I said elsewhere, a lot of these men are happy to have traditional women but aren’t all that eager to shoulder the leadership and provider burdens of traditional men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:43 PM
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Most women from the other cultures that they say they like will not do the things that Western women will do. Good luck getting an Eastern European girl to be your "girlfriend" for seven years, with no discussion or promise of marriage, while she lives with you and fucks you and cooks and cleans for you. Women from these kinds of cultures are sexually unemancipated in ways that these kinds of guys appreciate and approve of, but are also sexually and socially unemancipated in ways that these kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:25 PM
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I don't disagree, maybe the neurotic inhibited high-disgust guys should work a little harder at being less neurotic and inhibited and high disgust, since those are the guys who get laid. Women will never ever ever find neuroticism attractive in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:53 PM
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The horrible men that women fuck and fall in love with are extroverted and uninhibited, not neurotic and inhibited and high disgust. There are different kinds of awful personality and the kind of personality that men think is awful is not the same as the one women think is awful. Just as men fall hard for women who have terrible BPD personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:17 PM
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Yes, what kind of parents do you think name their daughter “Dakota” as opposed to something like “Elizabeth” or “Catherine?” What kind of values do you think they have inculcated?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:10 PM
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Joke’s on you, no respectable man should be wifing up any woman named “Dakota” or “Nikki,” are you kidding me?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:39 AM
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Yeah, concur, much to my shock as I really hate facial hair
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:37 AM
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It was awesome. I hope that my kids can have a young adulthood that was half as much fun as mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:23 PM
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Nobody in the West has ever been “promised a loving relationship from school until death.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:32 PM
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I've got news for you, there are women who have done this for their men right here in the US of A
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:21 PM
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I would choose man A and I would be so so grateful that he was willing to put up with my foidly foolishness that I would give him a million blowjobs every hour and go kidnap 19 year old sororstitutes to have threesomes with. I would also tell him every day "I am not good enough for you, you delightful man who will never cheat on me, other women can't get a good man but I am so so lucky to have gotten you"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:53 PM
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For some reason the other day I was thinking about the rich dudes who wanted you to noncon their wives into surprise Brazilians, and how annoyed and disappointed they were when you explained that no, that is illegal. Like, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:06 AM
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lolololllllll surrrrrre you would You do realize that a sample of 12 random women would include a majority of women age 40 and older? “Oh dang it’s Janet Yellen daaaaaaaamn I tell you what she’d be yellin once I tapped that ass”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:46 PM
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they just found a husband and didn't have to bother anyone else. This is a very strange understanding of female networks of kinship and friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:05 PM
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There are a lot of millenial chicks who are about to tap into their friends and family as a "social safety net" to try to stay happy in life There are a lot of millennial women who are about to do what every other woman in every society for all of human history has always done? Do you think that tradwives cleaved only to their husbands and left behind their mothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, and friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:30 PM
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Woo hoo! I’m so glad the new job is so great, I was wondering about that the other day. Kind of got off to weird start with that trip from hell, so hooray that it has turned out nicely! Mr. Bradley is doing fantastic, he is nearly off the prednisone (FINALLY) and is feeling great. He will probably start going back to the gym in the new year and is looking forward to it very much! The Things are all well, and not looking forward to school next week. Tough luck, kids, nobody EVER got a TWO WEEK br…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 02:34 PM
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Huh this whole time I thought I lived in a heliocentric society 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:23 AM
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Pretty good! Had a nice low key Christmas. You?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:51 PM
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“Stuff advertised on Facebook” = MLM
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:31 PM
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I have yet to see a well-reasoned answer to the question of why mothers are the ones who are supposed to tell their sons about how to get casual sex in the first goddamned place. Mothers want their sons to grow up and become stable husbands and fathers, news at eleven.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 02:26 AM
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We'll have been together for 24 years (married for 21) in May and if, God forbid, anything ever happens to Mr. Bradley no fucking way am I ever marrying again. All that stuff you list requires a young person's energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:22 PM
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Your writing is unintelligible
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 02:55 AM
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Uh it is a lot different in the US, where that kind of government support does not exist for parents
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:30 AM
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You think that most women are stay at home mothers?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 04:28 PM
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Yeah, I give that and one pack each of size 1 and size 2 diapers, since in my experience babies decide to outgrow their diaper sizes literally in the middle of the night.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/21 01:29 AM
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I remember those laundry days, the first three months of our twins' lives were kind of a blur but I very very clearly remember scraping the bottom of the Tide box at 2 AM one morning because they had both decided to explode all over their beds. Now I always give laundry detergent as a baby shower gift. Every single time, all the childless people have been like "???????" and every single parent has been like "OH MY GOD THAT IS THE BEST PRESENT ANYBODY COULD GIVE YOU" Things will ease up as they g…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 09:51 PM
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This is exactly it. I read a comment elsewhere that said that a lot of the value in marriage is provided up front for women (wedding, social validation, children) and on the back end for men (care during failing health). Obviously this isn't the case for every single couple, but it's probably largely true for the majority. I am older than you are, although only four years younger than my husband, who is five years older than your husband. Although my husband has always taken care of his health a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 09:33 PM
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lol I must admit that comment really piqued my interest
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:34 PM
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I've met plenty of physically attractive men who are shitstains and leave shitstains. How do you know what their laundry looks like, and how many is "plenty?"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:31 PM
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Well I am postwall, so I take what I can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:25 PM
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Hey, FYI, Mr. Bradley showers and wipes his ass. Just putting that out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:22 PM
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I do all those male chores you mention, and more. I grew up working class and DIY is a way of life for me, I would no sooner call a plumber to install a faucet than I would light myself on fire. My husband is from an upper class boarding school background and while he is perfectly happy to do things that require or are made easier by physical strength, such as hauling bags of leaves across the lawn or sawing up a deadfall tree, he just doesn't have the background with this stuff that I do, which…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 02:22 PM
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I had an OP about this a few years back.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 11:56 AM
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A book, preferably a picture book that you have nice memories of and that the parents can read to the baby. Our older children are twelve and i still remember which picture books were given to them by friends, and by which friends. A lot of other books have been given away, but those books never ever will be. My parents were friends with Robert McCloskey and I have given copies of Make Way for Duckings to all my friends who have had children, and my BFF from kindergarten gave our twins a framed …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 12:10 AM
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Oh my God, I am so sorry to hear this news. What a thing to have happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:30 AM
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I think it’s just memey. He was shocked when I was familiar with the DrakeNo meme. Yeah youngblood I know your ways
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:44 PM
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My giga-Chad story is that my twelve-year-old son and his friends have named their group chat "Gigachads." He uses my old phone, which is still on my AppleID, so my current phone is constantly getting blown up with such priceless Gigachad gems as "Uwu Uwu Uwu" and "?" and "???" and "Was that a flex?" and "Yo mama so fat the Sorting Hat put her in Waffle House"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:49 PM
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Yeah it is easy to turn down a guy you aren’t interested in at all but if you’re in a clinch with a guy that you do like, or if you have a boyfriend that you’re already having sex with, that is completely different. Young women especially don’t want to be thought of as prudes and it’s easy to push their boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 12:05 PM
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In my experience, women don't do anything sexually that they don't want to do. I have linked you this article before, you should take another look at it. It is not the same as it was when you were young. Those magazines... reminded us that we were strong in a way that so many modern girls are weak. They told us over and over again that if a man tried to push you into anything you didn’t want, even just a kiss, you told him flat out you weren’t doing it. If he kept going, you got away from him. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 09:34 PM
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Lol imagine living in her frame like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:21 PM
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Yes, my point is, why don't the guys asking OP's question pressure girls into doing shit they might not prefer to? They all think that she spontaneously asked him for this shit, and maybe in a few cases she did but the majority of the time he was pressuring her for anal or a threesome or a public BJ or whatever and she just went along with it. So why don't these guys pressure her like her exes apparently all did instead of bitching about how she's not spontaneously going down on him at Yankee St…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 06:44 PM
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Also: Gonna sit here and pretend that she's just going to cave to the "bullying" of a dude that doesn't arouse her lmao It is possible to be attracted to a guy and still not want to do certain things with him. I've been wildly attracted to my husband for nearly 25 years now but I can come up with a looooooooong list of things I don't want to do with him or with anybody. Happily he has not bullied me into them, either because he is not into them either or because my eager willingness means more t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 06:22 PM
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he was able to pressure her into shit that she didn't want to do, but he did Yes this is literally how men push women's sexual boundaries If you want to do something that she has done before and says she doesn't want to do anymore, either bully her until she complies (you already know she is susceptible to bullying!) or dump her. Expecting her to decide to be 'fair' in this way is lunacy and, frankly, pretty hypoagent. If your wife nags you until you comply with her desires around the house, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 06:17 PM
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If this: differential treatment for you and preferential treatment for her ex is really what you are asking about, then you are going to have to come up with a hypothetical that is not sexual. Women don't care about sex the way men do and women aren't hung up on what some guy they are madly in love with might have done with an ex. An example that would be more meaningful to most women would be asking them what they would do if they fell in love with a guy who had an ex wife and two kids, but who…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:43 PM
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If she was more sexually open with her ex, she's more aroused by her ex. lolol why do men always think this? Why is it never "her ex bullied her until she did what he wanted?" Do men think that Chad doesn't have to bully women into being sexual degenerates? If you want it so badly, then bully her just like Chad did. Don't wait around for her to say "you know, I've been thinking that I owe it to you to let you give me anal prolapse, it's only fair."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:40 PM
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You sure do feel guilty about a bunch of decisions that he made himself for his own life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 10:41 PM
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He sent me a whole list about intimtate details that he wants to know He is treating you like your past is something to be ashamed of and every time you coax him and indulge him and behave like a penitent you just reinforce that. I'm sure he feels calm and reassured now. I'm equally sure it won't last. You may wish to consider what to do the next time he asks, because right now he correctly thinks that he can gnaw on this bone, at your expense, forever. This sub generally doesn't recommend direc…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 06:07 PM
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There is a lot of stuff that the Constitution doesn't talk about; world keeps on spinnin' Edit: And it does address nukes; it puts the President in the position of Commander in Chief of the military. That's pretty much all there is to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:53 PM
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See also my other comment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:51 PM
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A true alpha would have maintained the loyalty of his generals, The military in the US is loyal to the Constitution, not to "a true alpha." It is difficult to convey how strongly that is emphasized, particularly as you get further up the chain of command and individuals have fewer and fewer commanding officers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:49 PM
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"Treason" has a specific definition, it consists of levying war against the US or giving aid and comfort to an adversary. It is also pretty standard for the US to let countries know when we are going to war against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:49 PM
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Oh shit, I am so sorry to hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 01:42 PM
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Yes, did you read the part about how I am repulsed by loser attitude and don’t tolerate it in my kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 10:56 PM
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Yes that is my point; if he is going to be happy with you then he needs to get out of his own head. But if he still thinks you are lying to him, and have been lying to him for a year, I don’t know if he will want to get out of his own head. He feels bad about you having a bit of a past, and rather than blame his bad feelings on his own intrusive thoughts and neurosis, he has decided it’s easier to think that you are lying to him. This removes his responsibility for doing something about his intr…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 08:50 PM
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So, again, what is his solution to this, given that it is apparently impossible for you to prove yourself to him to his satisfaction? Some people here have told you to build him up but I'm not sure that will work, and if it does work, then his thought process is just as likely to be "Hey, she thinks I'm great and it's not fair that I didn't get to experiment like she did," at which point he will tell you he wants a threesome or something. I don't have an answer for you. He has shown himself to b…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 07:41 PM
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he usually says something like : "I have those thoughts again. I hate to even bring them up, because it isn't wise to discuss them." and usually I was kindly encouraging for him to speak up, sometimes I needed to "work" on him for him to talk for hours. This whole dynamic is so messed up. It's good that you put a stop to it but I'm not sure I like his odds of not thinking about it at all, it seems more likely that he will stew and stew and stew until it comes out some other way. Did you ever ask…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/21 05:54 PM
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there's a sizable number of people living like you claim. This is all anybody is saying. The percentage of SAHMs and women who earn 5% of their husband's salary is and has been shrinking for some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:01 PM
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I have lived in three different suburbs in two different states since becoming an adult, and equally earning couples have been the norm in all of them. They are the norm where I live right now. Even back in Ohio, the older or retired lawyers had wives who worked and earned roughly the same amount, since lawyers in Buttfuck, Ohio aren't exactly earning Skadden money. My FIL was a lawyer and my MIL owned her own design firm for decades, she outearned him for most of the marriage. Another retired l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:52 PM
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It’s not good advice if you have loser temperament, maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 02:21 PM
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Oh, you are attracted to fat stupid women with greasy hair and bad skin who smell of urine and who stare unblinkingly at strangers? idk if I would admit to such a thing but I am glad that you are that bold!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:07 AM
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I have a son, but I'm his mother, not his dad and not his asshole buddy. It's not my job to tell him how to get casual sex. It's my job to make sure he grows into a functional adult who can support himself and anybody else he cares to support. I also don't want to have a son who is a fucking loser, largely because I hate losers and loser mentality, so I don't indulge woe-is-me bullshit and he knows how to stand up straight and breathe through his nose and make eye contact. I've also taught him h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 11:15 PM
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It has nothing to do with that, not all Downs children are the happy smiley people that everybody thinks they are, and taking care of a disabled child and later on a disabled adult is a significant burden that not everybody is capable of shouldering
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 10:55 PM
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lolol I loooooved This Side of Paradise. My favorite part was when the protagonist hired hobos to sit in the audience of the play he directed, so they could all stand up very ostentatiously and walk out of the theater when one of the characters mentioned Skull and Bones
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:23 AM
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Disagree, I propose that all drivers be issued eighteen wheelers so we can duke it out as equals. May the best man win!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:15 AM
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I can grudgingly buy that it makes a statement about middle aged ennui, but in that case it is stupid to have high school students read it. It reminds me of King Lear. After a certain point, I am like “Why am I spending valuable hours of my life to find out what happens to all these awful people?”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:12 AM
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I have a recent comment about my now-decades-old dislike for that play.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 01:33 AM
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Why is college educated in quotes?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:24 PM
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I don't really care if he's lying or not, on the internet everybody is a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:27 PM
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Hey I interviewed some of your kind back when I wrote a history of a certain VC org. All those guys were married to accomplished women. I agree with your point, with one caveat. There is indeed a certain type of "HVM" who will marry a Hooters waitress or her equivalent. However, even these guys only do so after marrying and having a family with a woman who is more of their statusmatch. They might divorce her and marry a hot bimbo, but their children by their first wife either remain their only c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:30 PM
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Yes you can go to Yankee Stadium while they are playing the Red Sox and you can wear Red Sox stuff and root for the Red Sox and you can call the Yankees fan behind you who spilled his beer down your back “Sasquatch” and the Yankees fans are still not allowed to attack you, how about that. And if they do attack you, you can defend yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 04:28 PM
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My bad, you are correct. I meant monogyny, soft g, practice of having one wife at a time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:49 PM
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Monogony: one wife at a time Wives are generally women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:39 AM
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Monogamy and hypergamy do not have the “gyn” root that misogyny, hologyny, and monogony have although as you can see the spelling of the root shifted for monogony Edit: and I’m not sure about the letter placement being the reason it is a soft g, there could be a word that starts with “gyn” that has a soft g. I worked at Merriam-Webster for a few years and I have a good understanding of their process but I myself am not an etymologist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:03 PM
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Merriam-Webster, the acknowledged expert source for definition and pronunciation of American English, says it is pronounced with a soft g. Its etymology has nothing to do with it. Many many words have pronunciations that have evolved away from the pronunciation of their root words. The soft g likely has to do with its position in the middle of the word. Words that start with “gyn,” as you say, have a hard g. When “gyn” appears in the middle of the word, it has a soft g, as in hologynic or monogo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:26 PM
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God, Ethan Frome was one of my dad's favorites. There was a early 19th century house up on a hill that we would pass while driving to my grandma's, and he would always say that it reminded him of that book. I should read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:47 PM
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That is my sister's favorite book in the universe. She is a math teacher who doesn't really read much, and who hardly ever reads "literature," so I'm not sure how that happened, but goddamn does she love that book.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:46 PM
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I hate Death of a Salesman so so much. Had to read it for AP English in high school and I argued strenuously and passionately that Willy Loman was just a loser, case closed, shut the door. His son Biff reacts to him the way he does because it drives him crazy that his dad is a loser. My English teacher, who was a very good teacher, told me that it wasn't really a good play for high school students to read, because it was about the disappointment of middle age. Maybe she had a point, but I'm 47 n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:44 PM
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I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:01 PM
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lololol there have been times that I outearned Mr. Bradley by over a factor of ten and worked twenty more hours a week than he did. Do you honestly think that meant I could tell him that he was now responsible for all housework, cooking, and childcare?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:47 PM
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??? My mom stated her one condition. How my dad fulfilled it was up to him. She got him the VA phone number because she thought it might be helpful but she didn’t care if he called the VA or a hotline or the North Pole, she just wanted him to get help.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 03:35 AM
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What I'm getting at is that there is no third option: make an ultimatum and expect him to step up as Captain Untrue. See my comment above. You can make an ultimatum, leave if it is not fulfilled, and then come back once it has been.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 01:42 AM
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She had her reasons. My mother is extremely extremely extremely psychologically feminine (not to be confused with performatively sexually feminine) and one strongly psychologically feminine trait is making do and carrying on. She is very good at that, probably better than anybody else I have ever known, and while my sister and I were still at home she had two very tangible reasons to make do and carry on. She hit her limit a couple of years after we were both out of the house.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 06:50 PM
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My father had scorching, life-ruining PTSD from Vietnam and my mother lived with it for 35 years before she gave him an ultimatum: get counseling within a year or I am gone. She got him the number for the VA, put it by the phone, and left the rest to him. She reminded him every few months but other than that took no action. After a year, she left. She had no intention of divorcing him and still planned on doing things like making sure he was taken care of, but she could not live with him any lon…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 03:45 PM
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it's double the work and half the time for fun, but also because they're doing the same things at the same time. I’ll be honest, this is why we had a third. I realized the day we brought them home from the hospital that I didn’t want this to be the last time we did any of that stuff. No regrets. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 09:39 PM
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“Only Chad gets that, women are picky, bla bla y bla”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 12:38 PM
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We have twins and we made it work. The first year was really really hard; I worked at the Pentagon and my husband is a school teacher so we were up at around 0500 every morning so we could be on the road by 0630 or so. I think the difference between us and you guys was that for us, there was never any question of either of us quitting, ever. I was and am the breadwinner so leaving my job was never a possibility. My husband had no interest in giving up his career. So we just made it work, because…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 03:36 PM
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You know, I used to live in a house where both my mother and Mr. Bradley saw the ghost of a little girl with curly blonde hair. I once observed that I had never seen her and Mr. Bradley snorted and said, "Seriously, if you were a ghost, would you appear to someone like you?" He had a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 02:58 AM
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I sometimes talk about how, when my now-husband got bilateral pneumonia three months after we first got together, I dropped everything and got him over to my apartment and took care of him until he was recovered. But what I don't mention is the fact that for a whole entire year, he had demonstrated his interest in me, and I had made it clear that I was interested in him, but that I wasn't going to have anything to do with him until he was no longer on a lease with his then-gf. Some Reddit guys h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/21 01:18 AM
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Withholding “wife privileges” (which, let’s be clear: just means being a supportive and loving partner) got me absolutely nothing but failed relationships and wasted years. I think diverging ideas of what "wife privileges" actually are are responsible for a lot of these misunderstandings. Cooking, cleaning, certain levels of support, whatever - those don't matter. Everybody has to clean, everybody has to cook, who cares if you're cooking for two people instead of just yourself. Even sex; the vas…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 05:39 PM
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Yes, I know. The fact that you expect her to not meet anybody else for coffee or happy hour or whatever during that time means that you are in fact requiring exclusivity, while offering her nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:33 PM
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He is getting it from imaginary history, same as every other dude on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:24 PM
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It is not at all improper for a young lady to entertain a number of options while deciding among them. It is absolutely improper for a young man to assume he has her locked down after one date when he has offered her nothing meaningful at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:24 PM
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ITT: Men telling women, who were asked a specific question, that their specific answers are WRONG Never change, PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:22 AM
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There has never ever ever been any time in Western history when women were expected to lock themselves down exclusively for one man without at least the benefit of engagement. Lol at divorcing your wife because she didn’t immediately commit to you in exchange for… what, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:28 PM
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Mr. Arthur is objectively very attractive even now at age 51 and after a lifetime of good health he nearly died this summer from complications of newly-diagnosed lupus. I was very pretty when young but am now old. Rude good health. I have read that scent cues actually alert people whose immune systems are compatible with theirs, and who will produce robustly immune children. So far all three of our kids are almost comically healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:32 PM
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Did you ask him why he believes that others find you intimidating? Since he was the one who made that judgment call you are probably better off talking to him about it. As far as women go, it is possible that they are very adroitly flattering you. "I found you intimidating at first" = you are physically and mentally capable of posing a threat to me, even though I find you attractive (and possibly that is part of what I found attractive) "but then after a while I learned that you were a kind guy"…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:32 PM
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He said to me " you don't understand how intimidating you are". So when he said this, you assumed that he meant "I believe that others find you intimidating but I myself do not?"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:22 PM
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No woman with a 36F bra size has a six pack, and only a man would say "hawt" like this. What I want to know is why we don't see shit like this written by women trying to pass it off as men. "Boo hoo, I blew off sweet hearted Becky in order to marry hawt BPD Stacey and now she has ruined my life, if only I could turn back the clock but now Becky has married a sharp-jawed bearded man and lives a beautiful tradwife life on their farm with their five beautiful children, much woe, so sadness, infinit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:49 PM
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Not to mention the fact that even in the past, women overwhelmingly married agemates. These guys see one example of a Suellen/Frank couple and extrapolate it across populations. ask your grandparents how many 10+ year age gap couples they knew when they were young My grandmothers married in the 20s and 30s and were exactly the kind of women who OP thinks would have been desperate for an “established older man,” but both of them married guys their age, as did their many many many brothers and sis…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 01:06 PM
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That was my impression, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:24 PM
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Everybody here is acting like “studious types” and “basketball players” can’t possibly be the same thing, either you’re some lab-living nerd or you’re Athlete Chad. But she never says that she went to Duke and her boyfriend played for Krzyzewski. There are thousands of college basketball teams and most of them aren’t any fucking good and their players care more about their classes than the games.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:45 PM
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“Deserves?” lol why wasn’t he banging 20 year olds when he was in college like most guys do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:39 PM
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Well it’s been deleted, so unless somebody copied it there is no way to tell what was actually written down and what people are reading into it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:39 PM
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Then he said that I looked so good back then (I was 20 at the time), and then he said that he is jealous that he got to fuck me in my hot years. His sole complaint about “equal treatment” is that she was nine years younger when she was in college. How is she supposed to fix that for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:23 PM
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They don't care because he provides protection. Men go on and on about how women would be rape slaves if it wasn't for men protecting them, while simultaneously completely underestimating how viscerally attractive the capacity for protection is to some women. And by "protection" I don't mean "the legitimate power of the state," I mean "the capacity for violence deployed for her protection."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:45 PM
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The distaste for draftees that he was referring to was a specific moment in US history. Not only do I have a PhD in military history but I have also written a book on conscription and how it ended in the US. So yes I do know a little history.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:08 PM
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Most of history? generally started when conscription became a thing So, not most of history? Unless you mean specifically in the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 02:21 AM
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it's not like you see a woman who is a good mother and think she's less sexy. This is exactly what the madonna/whore complex is, and plenty of men think exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 11:17 PM
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I have been married to a teacher for 20 years now. Substitute teaching is not a “slight” pay cut, it is an immense pay cut plus zero benefits plus zero retirement. It is on par with working at Target. If you are framing it to him as “it’s just a tiny pay cut, it’s not that bad” then I don’t blame him for freaking out, because that is an incredibly dishonest way to characterize what you have done. All the things you are talking about are just part of what you do during a marriage. We have support…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 08:41 PM
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“Gold digger” looking for a guy making $27k who is not a meth addict
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:18 PM
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I bet the girls in your house would hate it, which is honestly a pretty big point in its favor. Edit: or be likeReagan and call her Mommy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:54 PM
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Call her by her last name
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:11 PM
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lolol I was going to say this I was driving back from Wegmans last summer with the kids in the car and Thing 1 got all starry-eyed over this ridiculous iridescent orange Challenger with the scat pack. We were coming up on one of the gates to Fort Belvoir and I said, "I'll bet you anything you like that that Challenger makes a right onto the base." Sure enough. Thing 1 was like "???????? HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN?????????" Kid, you don't spend twenty years side-eyeing junior enlisted wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:34 PM
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I wish like hell I could. Thinking of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:31 PM
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Ugh so true. Our youngest is five now and last week she was super tired one afternoon and climbed up onto me and fell asleep. I didn’t move until she woke up. Sweet sleepy snuggly, I hope that’s not the last time she does that. Dinner can wait.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 03:08 AM
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According to your comment history you just had this baby in August. Your body is still recovering from childbirth and adjusting to breastfeeding. A lot of women find it impossible to lose all the baby weight until they stop breastfeeding. If you are past the six-week period you can start exercising but your goals should be realistic at this point; postpartum hormones and breastfeeding and broken sleep are all things that affect weight loss so go easy on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 02:11 PM
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(Ian Ironwood appears to be older GenX, he met his wife in 1991 according to his blog) Yeah, this strikes me as correct, and it always kind of amazes me. All these OG TRP dudes were older GenX and maintain to this day that "women can't cook, women don't know how to keep house, et al et al" A lot of these guys are now married. None of them seem to have thought "Hmm, my wife wasn't so great at cooking or housekeeping when we first met, but she is better now. Perhaps this is a skill that other wome…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/21 01:51 AM
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Unfortunately because of the feminist movement eschewing any sort of activity related to feminine homemaking, it is a dying art. I myself had no idea how to add special little touches to my own apartment (and worse, I didn’t realize they were missing!) Two thoughts on this: I dispute that "any sort of activity related to feminine homemaking" is on the downturn these days; homemaking hobbies are more in vogue now than I have ever in my life recalled them being. I am in my late 40s and 25 years ag…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 02:42 PM
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Why are you saying all this stuff out loud to him? He doesn't need to know your every passing thought on these issues. It is rude to talk all day about what a terrible person you are; it puts the people around you in a very awkward position. You are also effectively telling him that he must not be all that great either if he is wasting time with someone as terrible as you are. Eventually he might believe you and depart.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 02:27 PM
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The reason the bystander effect was identified and studied in the first place was the murder of Kitty Genovese, a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 07:43 PM
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CMV: Cronus was just tired of eating the same dinners over and over
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 08:20 PM
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Hmm your views intrigue me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 08:14 PM
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These people in my house insist on being fed, again. They just had dinner less than 24 hours ago. Nothing sounds good and I wish somebody would invent a new kind of meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 07:36 PM
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Thank you for debating in good faith!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:51 AM
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My IQ is a few SDs above his, it's not a question of what either of us "believe." And yes, of course I find him attractive. He is 6'2", in excellent physical shape and hot as hell; we have been married for 20 years and have been together since I was 23 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 03:41 AM
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Mr. Bradley tells people all the time that I am smarter than he is. He told one of the home health nurses earlier this week. He is very pleased that it looks like 2/3 of our kids are shaping up to be smarter than he is, which he correctly attributes to me. He’s not some dunce or something; he is smart and competent and a high achiever in his own field. I wouldn’t have married him otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 10:20 PM
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Children aren’t a “resource to society,” they ARE society, at least in part.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 09:48 PM
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Prenup where you stipulate that she will receive $X in alimony should you divorce, plus additional multiples for each child
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 01:00 AM
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Oh yeah loganberries are baller
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 10:20 PM
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Boysenberries are the money berry
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 10:12 PM
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This is wrong. Women want bad boys who are so uncontrollably attracted to them that these bad boys tame themselves. And only tame themselves in very specific and limited ways: the pirate still sails the seven seas and swashbuckles and murders sailors by the score, but at home with the woman he is still attractive and masculine but without the murderous edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 06:14 PM
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Mog them and take their kidneys instead
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:43 PM
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Concur, with the addendum to not get upset if the whole thing goes sideways. Our honeymoon was at a gorgeous resort in the Blue Ridge Mountains (yes, one of the two big ones you're thinking of) and it rained the whole time and I got a sinus infection that was so painful I cried myself to sleep every night. The vast majority of my friends have gotten sick on their honeymoons. It's no fun but ultimately it's not a big deal.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 04:04 PM
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Okay that’s fine but as you say it is Christianity and not redpill
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 12:10 AM
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It is objectively factually false, that's how.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 07:36 PM
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It's still about remaining sexually attractive and getting what they want from their wives. Provision is a beta trait. That doesn't make it wrong or bad, it just means that it's not sexually attractive.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 07:31 PM
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There is nothing redpill about men being providers. It's about sexual nature, period. Most of the original RPWives mods had careers and were breadwinners who were happy to defer to their husbands once they got home from work.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 04:39 PM
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Yeah I'm not making any claims about the internet or social media, but adults are a lot less tolerant of a lot of in-person shit that used to go down very routinely, in their presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:43 PM
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There is soooooo much less tolerance these days for the kind of bullying and offhand cruelty that I grew up with in the 70s and 80s, young people these days have no idea. Last week we were talking at dinner about how when Mr. Bradley and I went from elementary school to middle school, both of our elementary schools did field trips to the middle school for a tour, and how in both cases, the middle schoolers hooted and jeered at the little 5th graders touring the school while the teachers stood by…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:32 PM
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lol no way, the boy has always blown through the top of every growth chart and the girl has always crept along the tenth percentile. I did get some people asking how it could be that one was like four months older than the other, though. And people sometimes say weird shit when you are pregnant. A principal at my then firm said “Twins? Congratulations! Are they both yours?” 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 01:19 AM
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Oh dang! Twins are fun, just come to grips with the fact that you will remember very little from the first three months of their lives. It gets a LOT easier at six months.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 01:12 AM
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Don’t train to be Dorian Yates, duh. Mr. Arthur has lifted for the past 32 years and even though he was just diagnosed with lupus, he has had zero of the joint problems that usually accompany that disease. His lifting likely helped insulate him from that, as well as the fact that if a given lift started to aggravate a joint, he stops doing it and finds something else to do instead. A powerlifting cousin-in-law once gave him some shit about squatting under 500 pounds. Mr. Arthur was like “Yeah, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 08:13 PM
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I grew up with a dad who ate everything that wasn’t red hot or nailed down regardless of whether that left enough for everybody else, so I don’t find food thieves funny or cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 08:08 PM
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I don’t hide food but if I got something as a treat for myself my entire family knows not to touch it under pain of extreme displeasure. I read all these OPs on relationships subreddits about “my boyfriend eats all the snacks I buy for myself and all my leftovers that I plan on bringing for lunch and he takes big bites of my dinner while I am still eating it, how do I get him to take me seriously when I ask him to stop” and I wonder how these food thieves are still drawing breath. Same with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 05:27 PM
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Because women tend to not want to tend to another man the way they tended to their husband, ever again. Especially if it was a longish marriage that ended in the husband’s death. And men expect to be tended to in marriage. I have done a LOT for Mr. Arthur that I would never ever be willing to do for some man I don’t have this amount of shared history with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 05:21 PM
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Young men impute their 19-year-old libidos and 19-year-old concerns to what they think will be their 50-year-old selves. Of course there are still times to be the sexy mistress once you are older, but it will never look the same way it does when you are 23, and that’s okay. It is ridiculous and pathetic for a 46-year-old woman to try to come off as a carefree young nullipara. As a rule I have no use for Americans who go around blatting about how things are better in Europe, but I do think this i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 01:07 PM
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Being fun, optimistic, playful, sexy and agreeable took almost no effort. Yeah, no kidding. I am coming at this from the perspective of someone who has been with her husband for 23 years, married for 20 years, three kids, and have seen one another through six miscarriages, two moves halfway across the country, unemployment, underemployment, death of parents, death of friends, and now a newly-discovered chronic illness that nearly left me a widow, and that is a loooooong way from being sorted out…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 04:44 AM
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Then you should know that for people like your bf and his family, weddings are often a way to include family and friends in a joyous occasion. Often they also do business with and rely on these same family and friends in various ways, and are relied on by them in turn. It is a form of networking, and is part of the reason they have continued financial success and prosperity. Failing to continue doing that would strike a discordant note. It took me a while to fully understand all the dynamics of …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:52 PM
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I’ll never get people like you. You had better start trying, since you apparently want to marry one of them. I grew up close to the bone and married someone with intergenerational wealth and I will tell you right now that if I had showed this kind of attitude when he took me to dinner or brought me to his family’s lake house or anything like that, he never ever would have married me. You are showing a remarkable lack of graciousness and manners.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:41 PM
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SMV: Any cosmetic procedure for which I have to undergo general anesthesia. Starving myself in the hopes of resembling a 23-year-old nullipara. Changing my existing clothing/makeup style. RMV: Stepping back as the main character in my own life to be the supporting character in someone else's.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:27 PM
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Aw thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:24 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:24 PM
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I'm going to be annoyingly evangelical about this for a good long time, I'm afraid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:24 PM
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That's what I said to the rheumatologist!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:22 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:22 PM
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Yeah, the reason that it took them so long to diagnose it (inasmuch as a brand new lupus diagnosis inside of two and a half weeks can be thought of as "so long") is that he doesn't fit any of the profile. He's a white dude aged 50, not a Hispanic woman in her 20s. And they chased down every possible other lead before settling on lupus, including sending his kidney biopsy to Columbia University for some super duper secret squirrel lupus test which ultimately came back positive. The working theory…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:21 PM
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Well you can go into remission, and the damage to your heart and kidneys can repair itself. All his damage was very recent, so all his doctors have high hopes that he will get all his organ function back! A lot of people with class 4 lupus nephritis end up on dialysis. He was so fucking lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:22 AM
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Aw ty
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:58 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:34 AM
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Thanks so much!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:34 AM
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Aw thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:33 AM
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Mr.Bradley finally came home on Monday, after three and a half weeks in the hospital. His diagnosis is lupus nephritis, of all things, along with random gram positive septicemia that they knocked down with IV antibiotics, which he is still on. He still has a long road ahead of him while they suppress his immune system enough that it stops trying to shithouse his kidneys, but he is alive and his whole huge medical team expects him to eventually make a full recovery. PSA: the reason he is alive an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 11:33 PM
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This is a weird way to think of things. I am extremely driven in many ways and a lazy piece of shit in many ways. DC is full of guys who work just as hard as I do and I used to think that a plurality of men were that way, just because I didn’t understand why anybody would want to be a low achieving loser if they had the ability to not be a low achieving loser. Guys who were studious nerds in high and college and who then came out of their shells in grad school and went on to be successful and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:15 PM
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Did your parents have degrees, even if they were not physicians?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:06 PM
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You think that female immigrant physicians are rare in the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:23 PM
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Joe Biden’s son married his dead brothers widow. They dated for a while but he didn’t marry her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:01 PM
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“Stability” is relative. Scrapyard guy probably has an explosive temper and two or three OOW kids and an arrest record but he is not currently in prison, so I guess if your standard for alpha is “currently in prison” then yeah okay she is settling for BB. You think these women want to marry lawyers? You think they have the slightest idea where lawyers even hang out, except at the other end of a 800-ACCIDENT number?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:03 AM
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The question in the OP was not about my “brothers,” it was about what I myself would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:19 PM
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Do you know anything about the lower classes at all? You think a guy who works in a scrapyard is beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:19 PM
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My mother’s family is full of women who are a few cuts below an off the books hairdresser with a GED, so I have a pretty good read on their preferences. I have watched them grow up and I know who they wind up with, and none of them would want anything to do with guys like Mr. Bradley. They aren’t “settling” for some guy who works at a scrapyard, they think they won the jackpot. Lolololol at the idea that they fuck guys like Mr. Bradley. My sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:07 PM
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The 50% women think that a guy with all his hair, a 4 year degree, and a 50k/year white collar job is a 1% man. Do you seriously think that an under-the-table hairdresser with a GED is looking for someone like my husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:55 PM
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I am not at all, which is exactly the reason that I am married to a .5% guy and most of the guys I know are .5% guys. Like attracts like, news at eleven. If some fat schlump of a woman wants one of those guys she will have to raise her game a lot, just as I would have had to raise mine if I had wanted a .01% guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:38 PM
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Wait do you think I am a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:59 PM
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What else besides “mine” should I consider with respect to a question about what I personally would do?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:03 PM
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Well given that the question is about what I would pick for my own personal course of action, is actually is pretty relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:03 PM
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I’m not from a wealthy family at all and yet somehow I make more than enough money to support myself and my whole family. It is not rocket surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:11 PM
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Why are the results "not good?" It doesn't matter how many of your preferred guys there are across the whole US, all that matters is whether you are around the guys you are attracted to and whether they're attracted to you. According to this stupid calculator, Mr. Bradley and guys roughly like him are about 0.5% of men in the country. But I know a whole bunch of guys like him, and am married to him, so why would I care if they are not well represented elsewhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:04 PM
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Yeah I do agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:08 PM
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lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:18 PM
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I dispute that that is the only thing that matters. (Not that you said that, I am riffing a bit.) The personality and character of the child plays a bigger role. I am not assigning blame, nobody gets any say in the personality that they are born with. (You can you work on certain character traits, which this book helps with.) If you have a personality that is eager to please and parents with poor emotional control, then yeah you will have a tough row to hoe. If your personality is such that you …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:29 PM
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Oh I am sure. But I was raised among working class Poles, none of whom had the slightest problem with anything mentioned in that book. It’s just a different experience. I am sure that the men who find that book helpful would find the behavior of the men in my family abrasive and confrontational.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:16 PM
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My thoughts on this book are that I am slightly incredulous that there exist men so overcivilized that they they need a book to tell them how to say “lol no” to somebody. But if it helps them, then I am glad it exists!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:09 PM
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If I expect my wife to be there for, let's say, the graduation of our daughter even though she's got projects to take care of and she responds the same way you do, that is a recipe for a miserable marriage. Yes, no shit. That's not what your initial comment referred to. But I wonder how women would be feel about men driving them in their ambition. That doesn't mean "Hey, Theodosia graduates on Sunday and she is valedictorian, do you think you can step away from the slide deck long enough to come…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:30 AM
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I am the one who sets my own goals and priorities for my career. Not any manager, not Mr. Bradley. "Your manager has more authority over you than your own husband" is a really really weird way to put it. I have walked right on out of pretty sweet positions when it has become clear that management and I were not aligned. Rest assured, I ask far more of myself than anybody else ever has. This has always been where I get hung up with women like this. If you want an ambitious striving career woman, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:14 AM
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I wonder how women would be feel about men driving them in their ambition. I imagine it would be like me setting expectations for my sons I am a woman who has excelled in her career and while Mr. Bradley has always been supportive, I would respond very very poorly to him "setting expectations" for me in that respect. He's not my dad, he's not my manager, he doesn't get to set career performance requirements for me any more than I get to set them for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:41 AM
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Or maybe the people I know hire movers once they have enough crap that they can’t easily throw it into the back of their car
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:20 PM
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Okay great. I haven’t helped anybody move since college, and neither has anybody I know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 05:12 PM
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I have never understood this obsession with helping people move. We executed our last move in June 2020 on our own. It was no big deal. This is like that “but would they help you move a couch” canard; couches don’t need to be moved all that often and the last time we did that, nobody helped us and we never thought to ask for help because it is not a big deal. Having someone make you dinner when your husband is seriously ill and you have three children who still need feeding is a bigger help than…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:47 PM
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lol “the stuff that actually matters”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 04:23 PM
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I never said that men don’t help one another. If you think that men routinely bring one another dinner when someone’s wife is in the hospital, though, you are arguing in bad faith. Edit: so now you say that women DO help one another? Make up your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:52 PM
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I don’t nope out of the FSM completely, as that would be wildly irresponsible since we have children. Mr. Bradley has been in the hospital since 15 July. He will not be home until next week at the very earliest. While I have been with him in the hospital all day, who do you think has been asking our kids to come over to play, dropping off lasagnas and lemon cakes, offering to walk the dogs, all that good shit? Do you think it is the men in our neighborhood doing that? Stuff like this is one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:34 PM
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My husband of 20 years has been in the hospital since 15 July. He is taller than six feet, hot as hell, smart, comes from a good family, is a great dad. I have been desperately in love with him since I first laid eyes on him in February of 1997. If I got to the hospital tomorrow to do all the things that I have been doing for him for the past three weeks, ever since the director of our area's best heart transplant center told me that he might not make it, and he told me that he felt he needed to…
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 03:08 AM
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lolololol My dad's side of the family is large and Polish and yeah, all those women were and are charming and lovely and sociable and more than capable of making any man feel like he is the only person in the room. It's only after marriage that they evolved to their final form. There is nothing about life in Eastern Europe over the past two thousand years that selects for actual sweetness and submission, and these women make western Anglo women look like spineless jellyfish. If you are strong an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:13 PM
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I'm starting to think that a certain kind of man believes that any sexual fantasy that isn't characterized by repeated "may I touch you here? May I touch you here?" must be a rape fantasy Edit: much in the same way that a certain kind of man believes that replying "lololol" to a woman's demand that you pay her rent for the next eight months makes you a feral alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:31 AM
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My parents were married for 52 years when my father died and each of them would have given you different answers about whether or not the marriage was happy at different points over those 52 years. There were periods when their marriage was extremely volatile, and indeed, my mother left my father for about two weeks at one point. They were very happy together by the time he died, and certainly their marriage allowed both of them to gain the benefits of ideas and perspectives that they otherwise …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:33 AM
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Let me guess - he doesn't have a similar "wild" past, and he's pretty mad about it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/21 02:06 AM
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Sorry, didn’t see this until now! I just replied to Smurfy, which you can see if you check my comments, the tldr is that he is still improving but they still aren’t sure what took him down. Thank you for asking!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:09 PM
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Thank you! He is feeling better today; the hospital has eased up on visiting hours and he is now allowed two visitors a day so yesterday his brother was able to stop in, which did him a world of good. Today I am taking a break and his dad and stepmother are visiting; they’ve been here since Saturday morning and haven’t been able to see him until now. Frankly I’m pretty anxious about not being there but they deserve a chance to see him, too. A heart transplant surgeon did an aortic catheterizatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:07 PM
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Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report. Yeah a two week course of doxy seems to be the go-to treatment for most tick stuff, but it can wreak a lot of havoc while you're waiting for diagnosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:09 AM
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Erlich is wack but since it is a nationally reportable disease he will be in MMWR if that's what it is! Being CDC famous would make him more Chadly than he already is, if possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 02:52 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:46 PM
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Could be that, could be erlichiosis, could be a lot of things. He is loaded up on doxy, which is the treatment for just about all of them, but he also has a LOT of staph aureus in his blood, which is not associated with tick stuff, so they’re still poking around. PSA: when doctors tell you to drink Gatorade or Pedialyte when you are sick, that is not a suggestion. Don’t fuck up your electrolytes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:46 PM
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Thank you for asking! He is a lot more with it today and his sodium is slowly rising. The cardiologist (well, one of many) just came by and said that he’s stable and the heart stuff should resolve once they are able to treat whatever it is that took him down. He also casts his vote for tick. The number of doctors checking him out keeps increasing, and they are all chomping at the bit to find out what is wrong with him. This place is awesome. The downside is that they have taken so much blood tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 06:08 PM
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Man, you got that right.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:18 PM
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March 1 was his second dose and don’t think I haven’t been thinking of myocarditis. He has had cardiopulmonary effects ever since his second dose. I mentioned this fact to the hematologist fifteen minutes ago and he said “Pfizer?” Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:10 PM
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We thought it was the flu, he was in bed for a week with body aches and headache and nausea but on Thursday he went down hard: confusion, muscle spasms, labored breathing. The ER revealed extremely low sodium and a lot of organ inflammation, including liver, heart, kidneys, and pancreas. His heart ejection fraction was down to 25% so they called the heart failure cardiologists here at the big hospital and those guys said to send him over. I’m here with him now and he is in better shape than he w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:09 PM
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Mr. Bradley (Mr. Arthur, for those of you who have been here long enough) is extremely ill. He was transferred to our area's largest cardiac ICU yesterday evening and his doctors still aren't sure what is wrong with him. I would very much appreciate any good thoughts that anybody feels like sending.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:53 PM
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I mentioned in another comment, there's a guy on MRP whose divorce became final in the past week or so. He freely admits that his wife is hot, pleasant, a fantastic mother, great in the sack, doled out spontaneous blow jobs freely. He just doesn't want to be married anymore. The idea that any woman whose husband leaves must not be RPWing hard enough is just... very very immature, and actually not very redpilled. The fact that men have agency is one of the first premises of red pill, as well as t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 12:22 PM
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Indeed, I think that doing RPW stuff after marriage is the only way to do it. The women here who talk about "submitting" to boyfriends of four months don't have the slightest idea of what they're doing. You sound very young. There are issues that arise in a marriage that no amount of RPWing will solve. Right now, on MRP, there is a guy who freely admits that his (now ex) wife is hot, pleasant, great in the sack, an excellent mother. He has just decided that he doesn't want to be married anymore.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 12:18 PM
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If you honestly don’t think there is any kind of difference between a girlfriend and a wife then this whole OP is academic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 02:56 AM
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whether as a girlfriend or a wife No. A girlfriend is a girlfriend, there is no commitment, either of them are free to ghost at any time. If you honestly don't think there is any kind of difference between a girlfriend and a wife then this whole OP is academic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 01:41 AM
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A girlfriend isn't a "practice wife," that's not a thing. What some people do talk about is the "starter wife," who is an ACTUAL wife and not a girlfriend. Fifty years ago she was the one who worked as a secretary or a teacher or whatever supporting the MARRIED couple while her husband was in law school or med school. The trope was that after he graduated and secured a good job, he dropped his starter wife and married someone else; he was only ever with his starter wife in order to have someone …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 12:08 AM
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Men love to say "just use lube!" but that is not always the only thing standing between women and good sex. Hormonal swings can cause problems that oceans of lube won't cure. After our third child was born, sex felt like I was being fucked with the blade of a knife. Lube wasn't a problem at all but I was careful not to let him see my face because I knew he would be horrified and stop immediately, and I also knew that the only way out was through, and that it wouldn't be a problem after one or tw…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:09 PM
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I went straight from undergrad to a Ph.D. program and met the man I eventually married midway through my first year. He later told me that my commitment to my work was one of the things he found attractive about me. (His ex had made his life hell while she was studying for the GMAT, and then she dropped out of B school after the first semester.) I worked part time while taking classes, and then full time once I started my dissertation. (We were married by then.) I always had plenty of time for o…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 07:08 PM
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Yes, people with low disgust and low neuroticism are more open to a wide variety of experiences of all types, including sexual experiences, than people who are too uptight to go to a bar, order a beer, and talk to a stranger. Good luck convincing many of the people here of that fact, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:14 PM
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what the fuck even is this shit, to whom is this witty?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:16 AM
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You are looking for a wealthy traditional conservative man in San Francisco? Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 08:23 PM
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Well as usual one of my first premises is that in general women love their husbands, and one of your first premises is that in general they do not
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:56 PM
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What is this idea that only non-Western cultures are “traditional?” They certainly are not traditional for anybody living in Europe or North America. The fact that Western tradition does not involve purdah or gender segregation or arranged marriage doesn’t make it any less “traditional.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:00 PM
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I’m not downvoting you; I don’t have the patience to execute the workaround. I hasten to add that it is not only the humiliation; obviously it is excruciating to have your husband (or wife!) cheat on you. The surviving infidelity sub is painful to read. But the humiliation is a force multiplier foe that pain, it’s not enough to have your insides ripped out, but to also know that other people know about it and to wonder if they knew before your did… Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:42 PM
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For the majority of married women, the problem is the cheating itself, the lying, but above all, the humiliation of wondering if other people know about it. Or, worse, the humiliation of knowing that other people know about it. Becoming an object of pity and mild derision among your peer group is a pretty big deal to the vast majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:42 PM
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My upbringing was also significantly different than what you probably think it was and that impacted me a great deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:06 AM
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I don't know if I would have characterized myself as "beautiful" when I was younger, but I certainly had no trouble getting more male attention than I honestly cared for. There was a major glow-up in my early 20s that was extremely helpful. You probably also can't imagine a young attractive woman going full bore on a military history Ph.D., but I did that, too. I have always worked hard, my family on both sides has worked like the Devil himself going back generations. And, as I said, I have neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:46 AM
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I am 46 and he is 50 so that scale doesn't apply to us anymore. At no point has he ever wanted a submissive wife (although I have been told here that I submit to him because I don't pitch a fit when he goes to the gym). Nothing enrages him more quickly than thinking I am deferring to him because he is Husband Man, he perceives it as personal disrespect. Our sex life is robust enough that we had a surprise baby when I was 41. Past that it's really none of your business, although I commend your au…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:31 AM
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I am nearly exactly like my dad and we did enjoy spending time together. This doesn't really speak to whether he was a "good person" or not. He had some significant flaws that I have also inherited.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:19 AM
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I've been the breadwinner for 20 years. We have three kids. I don't care at all who makes the money and everything we both earn goes into the checking account we have shared since two days after our wedding. Sometimes I have outearned him by a factor of two, sometimes much more than that. He has a passion career that he loves that is not well-remunerated, and I have a passion career that I love that is very well-remunerated; we are both lucky to have found one another. I have never and would nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:12 AM
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Imagine living in a time and place where "hiring a housecleaner" and "divorcing someone you made a life-long vow to" are equal in weight. Imagine living in a time and place where people this humorless and uptight take a throwaway joking comment so seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 04:44 PM
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I have never ever been drug tested for my security clearance!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 11:42 PM
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You aren’t raising “children,” you are raising your actual individual sons and daughters who have their own preferences and inclinations and needs and likes and dislikes. I have never been able to understand how any parent could look at their child and see a generic girl or a generic boy, and I say that as a mother of three. Neither of my girls care about cooking and I don’t push it on them, since I didn’t care, either, when I was their age. Anyway, the best way to spark an interest in cooking i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 03:29 AM
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It sounds like you haven't been together that long, you shouldn't be "fully committed" to him at this point since you are still assessing him, his character, your compatibility, all that stuff. My husband of 20 years and I share locations for logistical purposes but I would have been extremely reluctant to provide that information to a boyfriend of just a few months, and passwords for email et al would have been a hard no. There is no reason for him to require that level of access from a short-t…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/21 04:43 PM
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Kids need parenting, but they also need to discover the world under their own power. Its more risky, but risks taken when young help us navigate the far riskier world we face as adults. And yes, I agree with this, and we now live in a neighborhood where the other parents do, as well. Our twins hooligan in the woods with the other kids, the four year old walks one of our dogs when we take them around the block, it’s great.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:20 PM
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They don’t wag fingers, they talk amongst one another and judge you for deviating too far from the overparenting norm. If your pediatrician asks you whether your 18 month old can say thirty different words and you are like “Nah not yet but I’m not really worried about it” he is going to raise an eyebrow and make a mental note about it, and maybe if a few more things ping his radar he will be less likely to think “NBD, she is a caring parent and this is just a blip” and more likely to think that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:17 PM
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I love cava but it too makes me fall asleep. There is a reason that the cocktail hour is 5 PM.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:15 PM
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You don't raise children in a vacuum. Other parents see how you raise your children and if you deviate too far from the norm then they will not want their own children around yours. Teachers talk about their students all the time and some students develop reputations in their school district, especially since families often have multiple children working their way through the same set of schools. There is a social cost when you don't hew to standard parenting practices, which are now more rigoro…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:12 PM
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Pediatricians, other women, teachers, school administrators, name a person or profession or institution that touches a child's life as they grow up. And it starts with pregnancy; I once had an OB tell me that I shouldn't eat anything that might have bacteria on it. (So, everything.) Edit: in response to your second question, or you are damaging your child's developing neurons and not providing the age-appropriate stimulation their brains require. The APA says no screen time at all until two year…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:07 PM
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I mean yeah you do worry, our twins are in FL with their grandparents this week and I have no worries about them but there was a pang when they got on the plane. Some of this stuff is biological and pre-rational. We were at a farm today with the four year old and a baby deer had somehow gotten into the giant sheep enclosure and couldn’t get out and was bounding around frantically looking for it’s mother. I was pretty tense for a while after seeing that. I am not a very anxious person but I also …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:29 AM
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And I have never seen a doctor in scrubs at all, unless he or she is in the actual hospital.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:24 AM
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The other thing I should have mentioned about our parenting style is that we had twins first, see my other comment just now about how that shaped our philosophy. So maybe more people should have twins? idk
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:16 AM
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I mean right there, I don’t have the patience or inclination to teach a toddler to stay on a blanket so I just put my twins in separate pack and plays when I needed to get something done, often with Wow Wow Wubzy turned on to distract them. But I have said before that I really do think having twins first made us the laissez-faire parents we are today; we just didn’t have time to optimize every single thing the way you are supposed to want to do nowadays. And having twins is one of the few circum…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:15 AM
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Oh are you telling me that they wear scrubs when they are out running errands the way I always see nurses and PAs doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:58 AM
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Not to Target they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:37 AM
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How did we get here? We learned more about baby neurology and "the first year is the most important" which, because God forbid America not extrapolate a parenting trend to its ridiculous extreme, became "make sure your baby has the best possible first year." Women read What To Expect, which sets ridiculous expectations ("Before you close your lips on a fork, ask yourself: "Is this the best bite I can give my baby?") People had fewer children; you're a lot less likely to shrug about your kid hool…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:39 PM
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Modern American motherhood has become unbearable and I say that as somebody who has three kids. The extent to which women are now expected to laser focus on their children and mitigate any possible harm regardless of the cost to themselves is unreal. I grew up in the 70s and 80s; my mother put me in a playpen and left me to fend for myself while she did the housework. Now you are supposed to constantly interact with your child all day, not let them see a screen, play with them, invent magical st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:27 PM
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The founder of this subreddit is a woman with no children who has supported her husband throughout their entire marriage. The majority of the OG RPWs were women with careers, not dumb make-work "jobs," and a lot of them were childless.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 11:10 PM
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I already commented elsewhere, but I'm 46 and would never ever ever marry a man with children, at least if they were young enough that they were still in the house at all. My reasons are mainly related to my own children, however.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 02:48 PM
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I am married with three children and if (God forbid) anything happened to my husband and I decided I wanted to start dating again (lol, no way), I would not want a man with children who are young enough that they would still spend significant time at our house, "significant time" being any time at all on a regular basis. There are a few reasons for this. 1: I am not interested in children who are not mine. Some women love all children but I am not one of them. 2: There are a lot of divorced fath…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 02:47 PM
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I mean I understand why a lot of what they say applies to only one sex, because a red pill first premise is that men and women are different. But given that first premise, it stands to reason that women who want to get and keep a man should ask other women who have successfully gotten and kept a man how they should pursue that goal. Other women are the best ones to ask about how a woman should keep a man happy in a relationship. I am actually in the middle of a conversation elsewhere about this …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:47 PM
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Some women have casual sex with some of the men who pursue them for it. No women want casual sex with all of the men who pursue them for it. This is something that men don't seem to understand. Even the biggest slut who ever lived exercises discrimination over who she fucks. If decided to take on every man who wanted it, she would never get off of her back.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:44 PM
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A former user here once told me that that saying doesn't apply to women looking for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:41 PM
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Yeah current RPW is kind of a trash fire but it didn't start out that way. The OG RPW was to find a good man, make sure he was a good man to the extent possible, and then get the fuck out of his way and don't nitpick him to death over a bunch of shit that doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 01:33 PM
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lol it’s so funny when straight men think that “getting a gross rando to dump a fuck into you” means “getting a man”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 01:10 AM
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lol it’s so funny when straight men think they know anything about being in relationships with men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 10:40 PM
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FDS to get him, RPW to keep him. You can’t be an RPW and be single, it is a state that activates once you are in a committed relationship. Women have too much to lose otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 09:53 PM
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Anybody who advocates and pursues casual sex, avoiding marriage, and having children out of wedlock (if at all) is by definition not conservative. They might not identify as liberal, but social conservatism isn't just saying "men and women are different" and then pursuing the male sexual imperative with nary a thought for anything else and excusing it by saying "lol enjoy the decline" There is nothing about "Republican politics" that endorses anything that TRP is selling. Social conservatism val…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:58 PM
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I missed the part of Red Pill that says you should get a gun, RIP all those redpill dudes who live in NYC or similar places Or, possibly, you are imputing your own political beliefs to a sexual strategy which is neither conservative nor alt right, but which can only exist in a liberal post-sexual revolution world and owes its entire existence to birth control, social acceptance of premarital sex, and legal abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:06 AM
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Cool, perhaps you can explain to me the parts of Red Pill sexual strategy that are conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:40 AM
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One year, and the breaking point was when he had finally moved out of the apartment he shared with his ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:40 PM
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Thanks. It helps a lot that I see some of his traits and characteristics in my own children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:27 PM
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I have noticed that sexual tension seems to be completely absent from these discussions. Attraction might be something that is known immediately, but sexual tension by definition needs a chance to build, and in my limited experience, the payoff is much greater for having allowed that space. I don’t think it’s an accident that I have been married for 20 years to the guy who allowed it to build for the longest amount of time. I will never forget that first night, not if I live to be a hundred.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:23 PM
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It’s hard. I’ve lost six pregnancies and losing my dad makes that look like a day in the park.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:16 PM
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Red pill and strong conservative values are highly correlated. What is strongly conservative about avoiding marriage, having casual sex, building a soft harem, and having children out of wedlock?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:24 PM
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I miss my dad every day and I think about him all the time. Fortunately, he was such a forceful presence while he was alive that he cast a long shadow that will not dissipate for a very long time indeed. Mr. Arthur is a fantastic father and seeing him with our children is one of the chief joys of my life. Thing 1 is old enough now that they can INTP together for hours about cars; when the twins were born, he was the only person that Thing 2 wanted and she would scream herself hoarse if anybody e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:15 PM
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I'm not mad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:03 PM
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Fair
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:39 PM
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I think a lot of this is also contextual. If a woman already knows a man through work or their friend group or whatever, she's probably not going to be counting down from 90 days. But yeah, if she has met him though OLD or whatever and he is a literal stranger when they first meet for drinks, it's reasonable for her to wait six or eight weeks; she doesn't know him from a hole in the ground. And again, not all women will wait. And again, for the women who do, all it does is weed out the guys only…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:10 PM
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Correct. If they had interested me at all further, I would have gone out with them again and seen where things went. That doesn't mean I would have fucked them on the second date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 07:01 PM
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Lots of men probably will walk away. When I was single I dated a ton of guys without fucking them. I wasn't interested enough in any of them to fuck them, so did they walk away or did I? My husband of 20 years didn't walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:47 PM
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I disagree that it weeds out attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:00 PM
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Okay what you're saying has nothing to do with what I said. Waiting to have sex is like the most basic premise of girl game, I have no idea how this became so controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:43 PM
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I don't care what the girls here say; that's what happens in reality. That's what some men want to happen in reality. Delaying sex weeds out the men who only want sex. Do you think that attractive men don't fall in love? Do you think that no attractive man wants a woman for anything but sex? Why is it common sense to the men here that not spending $$$ on the first few dates weeds out the women who are just looking for a meal ticket, but it is unthinkable that not fucking a guy on the first date …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:36 PM
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lol the woman complaining about being P&Ded aren't the women who wait, different women complain about different things and this OP wasn't written by a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:31 PM
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You can brainstorm all you want about this. Like I said, in the actual world, women do this because it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:18 PM
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cool
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:16 PM
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lol you think that a guy who just wants to bang is seriously going to spend hours of non-banging time with some chick in hopes that she will somehow be the most magical lay he has ever had? As opposed to going out and banging the many women willing to have casual sex with him? Women do this because it works. I don't care what the guys here say, I don't care about theoretical men who are willing to spend 1000 theoretical hours with some theoretical girl in hopes of eventually P&Ding her. Women de…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:12 PM
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Last I checked most women were aware that men do this, yes. A guy who only wants sex from a woman isn't going to bother hanging out with her for a month or two while she gets comfortable with him, regardless of whether he's getting sex elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:07 PM
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If you are bound and determined to have your kids with a single mother then vaya con Dios, just be aware that you are going to be picking that mother from a very different pool of women than the men who marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:07 PM
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Just because a man is waiting for sex with a specific woman doesn't mean that he isn't having sex at all. It's not exactly unusual for a man to fuck randos while allowing time for a woman he is actually interested in for a relationship to get comfortable with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:03 PM
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I have no idea what religious people are like in Russia, I am talking about the US, Canada, and Western Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:59 PM
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Pre-pill they absolutely were not, are you kidding me? Find me one source that says they were. Why do you think the average age at first marriage was lower in the 1950s than any point before or since?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:58 PM
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1.2 billion breathe a sigh of relief
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:07 AM
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Well that is why I said observant
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:28 AM
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Short on time at the moment but the first and most important thing to do is read read read read read. You need to be able to recognize good writing before you have any hope of doing it yourself. History (Robert Massie, David Hackett Fischer, John Keegan, Robert Kagan), long form journalism (longform.org), even Stephen King will improve your vocabulary and give you insights into characters. I have read cookbooks by Claudia Rosen and Nigella Lawson that have good writing. Take a humanities class n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:35 AM
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You'd have to ask the guys on TRP. Certainly the pursuit of casual sex and avoiding the formation of a family would be considered deeply sinful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:13 PM
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Quilting bees as much as possible, partying as little as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 07:23 PM
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There is nothing in Catholic doctrine that says gay people are undeserving of human dignity. Gay sex is a sin, but everybody is a sinner. My dad's family is Catholic and my mother's is Church of Christ and my mother's family is less tolerant of gay people by a factor of way. Anyway that wasn't my point; my point was that it's interesting how many religious tenets are re-invented on a secular basis now that religion is on the decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:55 PM
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There used to be a user here who didn't care if her and her husband's house was messy or not. At one point neither of them emptied the kitchen trash for a long time, and there was trash on the floor and covering the kitchen counters before her husband decided it was time to take it out. They don't have children. You might be able to see how this would be a problem if they did. I honestly have never heard of any woman saying that she feels like she is her boyfriend's mother; this is much more com…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:08 PM
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Have you seen dividends pay from knowing adding the skills to read, write, listen and/or speak? I am a history Ph.D. who used to have a job where I was paid an embarrassing amount of money (more than the engineers) to aggregate data and information from engineers, put it together in a meaningful and easy-to-understand way, and hand it off to general officers who didn't have the time to sit and listen to some STEMlord mutter at his shoes for an hour and a half. I also teach a class for mid-grade …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:04 PM
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your value as a human being isn't tied (or shouldn't be tied) solely to your appearance. Just about every modern Western religion communicates the idea that humans are intrinsically valuable and don't need to be pretty or rich or whatever in order to be of value to their Creator and others. With religious observance on the decline, it is interesting to see how so many wheels are re-invented from a secular perspective. No observant Catholic would be affronted by the idea that fat people or ugly p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:52 PM
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Charlotte will never in a million years marry Narayan, so why should she care about what him and his non-Western tech bros do?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:53 PM
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the man offers her to live with him, money to provide for the child, lol "If you live with me and raise my child I will provide money to help raise the child!" Dude he has to do that anyway, that would not be the beguiling lure that you seem to think it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:47 PM
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So they're not even in a relationship? She's living with some dude and helping raise his kid and she doesn't even love him? You have a strange idea of how women work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:45 PM
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How does parenting a child who is not yours with a man you are not in a relationship with offer any woman "stability and resources?" Why would a woman do this instead of finding a man to marry and have children with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:28 PM
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I miss the hell out of my dad but we are finally back in the part of the country that we never should have left, it’s summer, I have a husband I’m madly in love with and the three best kids in the world, and we have a plan to hike to every waterfall in Shenandoah National Park over the next two months. Life is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:21 AM
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Zuckerberg is high income but not upper class. Tucker Carlson is upper class, do you seriously see him or someone like him foregoing marriage and having children via a surrogate? Upper class families are all networked together and marriage is the primary way they cement their networks. Nobody at that level spares one second of thought as to whether they are “beta bucks” or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 07:16 PM
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Upper class men are more concerned with their family and legacy than any other class of men in the world. You don’t have an intergenerational legacy of achievement and wealth and culture only to say “lol fuck marriage, I am hiring a surrogate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 05:32 PM
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Women have always talked to one another about men like this, since the beginning of time. The only difference is that now men are aware of it. I remember back in the 90s there was a big kerfuffle at Princeton because there was a women’s bathroom where women would write on the wall the names of men who had harassed or assaulted them. Princeton men were outraged, how dare these women share experiences and opinions of men in a place where all women could see it and no men could rebut it! But it hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 04:04 PM
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This is Reddit, not my dissertation defense
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:50 PM
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lol you are 13. By now you could have found sources refuting me (if they are available to be found) and formed an actual argument against my point. Either way, I don’t give much of a damn about your so-called “expectations.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 05:52 AM
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You are only a little older than my twins, and I certainly don’t snap to at their every demand. When I was your age I had to go to the actual library. You have the entire intertubes at your disposal; look it up yourself, child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 05:42 AM
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Okay whatever sounds great
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 12:09 AM
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Okay? Tell that to the dudes living with their girlfriends, not me. Apparently there are plenty of guys out there who value a sure thing over novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 12:06 AM
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Two twenty somethings living together are usually earning roughly equivalent amounts. It’s not like every cohabiting couple is a high earning engineer and a dog walker making $10k. Frankly, in most cases that I know of personally, the woman has outearned the man by $5k - $15k or so. A lot of young men are happy to split bills with their girlfriends in exchange for what would have been regarded for most of the past two thousand years as strings-free guaranteed sex. People in relationships have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 12:03 AM
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Men are more free now to indulge in sexual novelty than at any point in history. “Not have to” means that when a young man and young woman are living together without marriage, the vast majority of the time they are both working and splitting the bills. You may be familiar with men who have SAH girlfriends that they support financially and are not married to, but I have never ever known a single one, and I suspect I am not alone on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:55 PM
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I refer you to u/death_by_1000_cats’ reply. Vastly more than 20% of young men live with girlfriends that they have sex with and do not support. Often they go on to marry these women, but by no means always, and those women are expected to foreclose their own options for years in the hopes that their boyfriend will eventually marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:59 PM
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Unmarried women do have to work. Your OP overlooks the fact that the former “social compact” has been abrogated in men’s favor in one huge way: men can now take women off the marriage market without marrying them, without ever even promising to marry them. A young man can get a young woman’s exclusivity, have sex with her, not have to financially support her, get nearly all the benefits of having a wife that 100 years ago he would have had to actually marry her to get, and then dump her at age 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:58 PM
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Oh, so available to men too while they play find-the-pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:51 PM
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There is a lot of femininity that has zero to do with performatively attracting men and everything to do with raising and nurturing children. Men aren’t interested in that femininity. They like performative sexual femininity, so of course that is what women double down on in order to attract men. And it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:50 PM
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A SAHM earns nothing, therefore she is not on the earning playing field that her husband is. When both spouses work, women who outearn their husbands generally do more housework than women whose husbands outearn them. Breadwinning wives also don’t get parity in how household chores are divvied up. As wives’ economic dependence on their husbands increases, women tend to take on more housework. But the more economically dependent men are on their wives, the less housework they do. Even women with …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:38 PM
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No. Yes. Edit: women do the majority of domestic work, this isn’t in dispute. One can argue about how necessary some amount of that work is, but women are the ones who nearly always do it, often including a lot of yard work nowadays, which was traditionally the provenance of men. I do most of both and would rather mow the lawn than tidy the living room, any day of the week. Because when I mow the lawn, there is NOTHING my kids can do to it that will make it require mowing again for another week …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:56 PM
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It’s such incredible male solipsism and I see it all the time. The funny thing is that there are so many thirsty men out there that if you or I did decide that we wanted to find some much older guy with a train wreck ex, we would probably be able to do that by the end of the weekend. Nobody is “jealous” of anything that is well within their reach.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 11:23 PM
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Go to r/stepparents and see what they think about this. There is no substitute for talking to people who have been there and loved it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 10:16 PM
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lol do you think the women on this subreddit are jealous because OP is in a relationship with a guy whose ex wife is a mentally ill drug addict? Do you think the women here wish they could get a guy like that for themselves? Older women frequently have maternal concern for younger women that they see diving headlong into bad situations such as this one.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 09:48 PM
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He says, he says, he says. Of course he says this stuff, he doesn't want to lose his 21-year-old girlfriend. Here is something he can't "he says" away: his son's mother is a mentally ill drug addict. This is not "something that might happen in the future;" it has already happened and it is happening right now and it will keep happening for the rest of his son's life. Their son could inherit whatever mental illness drove her towards addiction. Even if he doesn't, his mother's addiction and instab…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 09:45 PM
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If the husband makes more, does it reflect in the amount of chores he has to do? I have read comments to this effect for years now and they always make me wonder if the people writing them have ever been married with kids. I have been the breadwinner for our entire marriage, sometimes by a factor of two, sometimes by a factor of a lot more than that. I also teach postgraduate students on the side. Do you seriously think this buys me any slack at all with respect to chores or errands or home admi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:37 PM
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I wasn’t comparing them, I was responding to a statement that “men” do more dangerous work than “women” which is true across populations but which is pretty meaningless in most people’s lives since most people do not do much or any “dangerous” work at all, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:29 PM
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Yes but over 90% of all men are not doing jobs such as that, and frankly the majority of military jobs these days are not too dangerous. We invest too much money and training in them to use them as cannon fodder.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:15 PM
2

lololllll I sure did!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:45 AM
2

Oh boy I will have to give that some thought. My great uncle served with Omar Bradley and thought the world of him. If you had asked my about 19th century generals I could have made a good case for Sherman. George Marshall is a strong contender. As is Giap, obviously. Let me think about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:01 AM
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Ha ha ha she has a twin brother who hasn’t picked up on that one yet, although our days may be numbered I have a lot of memories of my dad singing about how he’s just a soul whose intentions are good
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 11:56 PM
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Well, I meant the Pink Floyd album titled Animals. lol I know I love The Animals, my eleven year old daughter trudges to the bus stop in the morning with her giant backpack, singing “We Gotta Get Out of This Place” like a tiny GI.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 11:04 PM
2

Animals? Yes, House of the Rising Sun is one of my favorite songs
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:36 PM
3

I saw Linda Tripp once at the Old Ebbitt bar, she looked like nine miles of bad road. But she is dead now, so RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:33 PM
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It is sometimes handy when I plan meals a week in advance but it has never really cramped my style not to, which is good, because I mostly do not. Sometimes you just have to realize that there are meal planning types and non meal planning types, and it is perfectly okay to be the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:01 PM
2

Oh lol never mind I see what you meant, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 11:22 PM
3

You were never married tho
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 11:22 PM
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Do you think you would have enjoyed the sensible dating market where you had no premarital sex and were expected to prove to a girl’s father that you could support her and any children she might have before you asked her to marry you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 10:29 PM
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Has it occurred to you that a young man looking for a lasting marriage might not want to take advice from a guy with one unmarried baby mama and two ex wives? U/sublimemongrel and I have both been married for years and years to men we didn’t fuck the minute we met them. It is possible that we are in a better position than you are to opine on OP’s situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 10:26 PM
1

My husband complains about work all the time. Should he be paid less because he complains?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 10:22 PM
2

Why should complaining abrogate ownership? Mr. Bradley bitches about some of the mouth breathers who teach at his school all the damned time, does that mean he should take a 40% pay cut?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 09:00 PM
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My husband is a teacher. I am the one who gets on the metal ladder in a thunderstorm to clear the downspouts. What dangerous work are the majority of men doing these days? Mowing the lawn?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 08:58 PM
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Men want you to be engaged and act like you actually want to be there, not just look pretty, smack your lips and fingerfuck your phones hoping Chad will message you. Yes and as a woman who has been on many first dates I can attest that a nonzero number of men believe that “acting like you want to be there” means “letting him go on and on about whatever he is interested in while you nod and smile and only speak to ask leading questions urging him to continue holding forth.” Of course he doesn’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 08:55 PM
1

Of course it is sustainable over the long haul. If she is seeing a guy that she doesn't want to tell her friends about, she is either extremely discreet or is ashamed of him. If it's the latter, she will keep her mouth shut for however long she is with him and then, as you say, dump him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:13 AM
1

Yes, I mentioned that he was tall because according to your parable, it is like the first thing that a woman would tell her friends about a guy she was seeing, but my friends didn't know this fact about him until they met him months later. Further, if a woman was seeing a man she was embarrassed about, she wouldn't tell her friends about him at all. The premise of your parable is that a woman talking about a man to her friends is a key event in the man's life, but you seem to not understand that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:58 AM
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I am a woman and at no point in my life have I ever described any man I have ever dated to any of my friends as "tall," not even the 6'2" man to whom I have now been married for twenty years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:46 AM
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lololol "I am dating a man. He is tall." all friends nod in approval What the actual fucking fuck even is this foolishness
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:38 AM
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lol skin care is a huge issue for women. It absolutely makes you or breaks you. I had terrible skin as a teenager and as an adult I have run the gamut from cheap drugstore brands to shit that is sold only at Neiman Marcus and it makes a HUGE difference. As for hot younger people (<35), most of them probably don’t need to do much besides minor grooming and not getting fat I was a hot younger person back in the 1990s, when minimalism ruled the day and the only people who wore as much makeup as you…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 07:33 PM
10

My wife has no “value” to me - she is beyond value. Priceless. "Listen, Mr. Pewterschmidt, Lois may be worth a million dollars to you, but to me she's worthless" And yeah, we've been married 20 years and together for 23 - half my life - and I look very fondly back at those early broke days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 06:24 PM
3

Male source of positive non-sexual attention, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 06:21 PM
3

I mean, he's right. Fathers are (or should be) just about the only source of consistent non-sexual positive attention in a daughter's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:58 PM
3

If Mr. Bradley ever died or joined the French Foreign Legion I would be a single mother (well, a widowed or divorced mother) and I have news for you, even as a woman with children I would stay far far far away from men with kids if I ever lost my mind and decided to start dating. My kids are fucking awesome but I don’t want to have to listen to some dude maunder on about his inferior kids, or have to deal with scheduling bullshit thanks to his inferior kids. Miss me with that nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:21 AM
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We had to enact a division of grilling labor: he does the outdoor grilling, I do the indoor grilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:15 PM
2

Agreed. I have just heard too many self-congratulatory "women dish up slop at home while MEN perfect cuisine in restaurants to great acclaim" comments over the past several years, sometimes by men whose YouTube channels reveal a hair-raising lack of understanding about how to cut an onion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 08:21 PM
1

You know, men love to say "most of the best chefs are men" without giving a thought as to whether there have ever been any illustrious female chefs that they have never heard of. The first chef to receive three Michelin stars at two different restaurants, for a total of six, was a woman, in 1933; this feat would not be repeated until Alain Ducasse received six stars in 1998. The chef who trained her was also a woman. Indeed, there were so many celebrated female chefs in that area that they were …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:48 PM
5

Good fathers tell their daughters that men are dangerous, full stop, because literally no other man on the planet will ever have his daughter's best interests in mind the way he will.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:41 PM
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I mean, he definitely had that option. We chatted up a storm while we were at work and it was clear to all of our co-workers that I was pretty starry-eyed for him (including the much older VP of Sales who once bellowed WHEN ARE YOU GONNA ASK THAT GIRL OUT????) but when he made an advance I told him look, not while you're sharing a lease. Once you guys split up it's game on, but not until then. He always had the option of bailing. He always had the option of not believing me. I was lucky that he …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:00 PM
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Okay, fair enough. In that case I will let you know that the reason I said "psychotically in love" was that I wanted to forestall the inevitable "lol 20 years of marriage doesn't mean you love your sad sack beta buxx husband you harpy" I will further note, as I have here, multiple times, that even though I fell head over heels for him the minute I laid eyes on him, I still refused to have anything to do with him until he no longer shared a lease with his then-gf. So if the standard is "abrogates…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:44 PM
3

I think that 30 years ago, when This Old House was basically the only home improvement show going, men were the ones taking the lead on a lot of this. I think that today, now that HGTV has a ton of shows about remodeling, women are just as likely as men to be the ones switching out faucets or laying new floors or what have you. They might not do things that require a ton of upper body strength, but there are a ton of women out there doing a ton of DIY. Hell, it's a whole blogosphere category. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:27 AM
3

This is the God's honest truth. I wish I had a nickel for every time I have had a direct report complain to me about her salary and when I have asked her how she negotiated when she got the offer she says "Well I didn't want to make them mad..." Bitch, when I got lowballed, I literally laughed at the recruiter and told him not to waste my time. It was astonishing how he was magically able to come up with mid five figures more. My mom worked at the same company for 30 years and when she retired s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:22 AM
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I've been the breadwinner for decades and I also stayed at home full time when our twins were born, and again when our third was born. Both were harder in different ways. Hearing one of the twins cry stressed me the fuck out, but realistically, nothing was going to happen if I blew them off for a while. If I blew off a client because I wasn't feeling it that day, that would be a problem that would go up the chain of command pretty quick. There was never any point where I felt I couldn't take a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:18 AM
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If you have something to say why don’t you spit it out?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 10:56 PM
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Yes sometimes people exaggerate to make a humorous point I have never actually thrown over my own moral ethical or professional code for Mr. Bradley
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 10:53 PM
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I’m 46, married for 20 years to a man I am still psychotically in love with, and I am delighted to be invisible when I walk down the street. I still get male attention when I take the time to look nice, but I don’t miss the aggressive and overtly sexual harassment at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:05 PM
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Yeah this is the second time in the past few days that some guy has created an OP saying that truest female love is borderline personality disorder and once you have experienced it everything else falls short. I have no doubt that it is, uh, exciting, and I hope these guys find what they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:00 PM
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National Archives College Park, Record Group 165, Entry 55, WAC Director’s papers. also the Oveta Culp Hobby collection at the Library of Congress. Knock yourself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:46 PM
2

Your interpretation of secondary source material is certainly interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:23 PM
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Granting an adversary access to one’s body in exchange for not being executed does not constitute material aid to that adversary which is the definition of “collaboration.” If you mean actual collaboration that would make your position more understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:22 PM
2

And here is a good historical source for you (alas, not scientific) Between 1942 and 1943, American servicemen accounted for over one-third of people charged in Queensland with rape and carnal knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:59 PM
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American GIs were notorious for their brutish behavior towards women, indeed, they once got into a large scale firefight with Australian soldiers who were outraged at the way American GIs treated Australian women. My own dissertation dealt with the way American male soldiers slandered members of the Women’s Army Corps so viciously that the Army G2 initially believed it must have been an Axis disinformation campaign intended to diminish American women’s willingness to join. Boy were they surprise…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:52 PM
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Does she know you would rather see her dead than yield to an adversary to keep herself (or presumably her and your children) alive?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:48 PM
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Because I remember when he was still active on MRP and, as somebody who spends as little time on YouTube as possible, his is a channel that I know of
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:24 PM
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You are showing your ass; you probably haven't taken a history class since you were in high school, have you? I refer you to my remarks from a previous comment You also ignore the possibility that even women with children often do not ally themselves with the adversary, and work very hard to undermine that adversary. As a teenager, Mr. Bradley worked for a chef who grew up in Normandy during the war. Unbeknownst to him, his parents were part of the Resistance, helping Allied pilots who had been …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:45 AM
2

You're married?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:40 AM
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Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 11:25 PM
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I LITERALLY said that bad sex can end up in days-long pain for women, what the hell are you arguing with me about?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:46 PM
3

Um yes I am a woman and that is literally what I am saying genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:59 PM
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Well when people respond directly to my comments I do tend to assume that they are responding to me. I also find it weird that somebody who tells me that the world doesn’t revolve around me apparently thinks nothing of using other people’s comments as jumping off points for his own unrelated musings but hey whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:30 PM
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Oh you were just holding forth in general as if you had an audience? By all means, proceed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:11 PM
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Most of them are not quarantined at all, and the ones that are are still very easily accessible. If a dude is too fragile a flower to click through a warning, he needs more help than TRP can give him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:10 PM
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Okay that has literally nothing to do with what I just said
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:35 PM
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You're barking up the wrong tree, buddy, I've been married for 20 years and have no complaints in that department.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:30 PM
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I've had awesome bangin' sex that still left me with discomfort the following day. All these men telling me that I must be doing it wrong are really showing their ass, here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:26 PM
14

Jesus - only a man would think that lube solves all sex problems. Figure it out, indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:25 PM
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Bad sex for men is like cold pizza. Bad sex for women is like cold pizza, if cold pizza can leave you in pain or discomfort for a good few days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:02 PM
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Last I checked, TRP still exists as a sub. So do MRP, askMRP, askTRP, RPwomen, RPwives, RPChristians, et al et al, in spite of RPS trying desperately to gin up urgency over a POSSIBLE BAN oh no. Rian Stone's channel is still active on YouTube. There is no shortage of men creating videos telling women to be nice and pretty and quiet and put out. How is any of this "censored?" Are they "censored" in that these platforms do not aggressively advertise this content? I don't care who any platform bans…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 05:26 PM
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That is a lot different than having two wives. Have you spent much time watching any of the Real Housewives franchises? Because that is the kind of drama and agita that awaits you. Alternately, they could become good friends, in which case they would side with and identify with one another and not you. There was a good episode of Call the Midwife about this dynamic, where a Pakistani man brought home a young second wife when he returned to England from his father's funeral. The first wife was ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:43 PM
3

I am a woman who has been in management for a long time and the thing I love best about it is solving people’s problems for them and making it easier to do their jobs, followed closely by lavishly rewarding them when they go above and beyond. It is a virtuous cycle: creating a great team, getting great work out of them, rewarding them, inspiring them to do better yet. On the flip side, I have gone to the mat with upper management when I have thought that my people were getting dicked around. I o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:50 PM
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Yeah I have heard that it’s not a good dating market for women but I had zero problems. Of course I moved here as a wide-eyed 21-year-old Ph.D. candidate, I am sure it would have been a lot different if I had not met the man who became my husband at age 22 and started dating him a year later. There is a reason it is called Hollywood for geeks. For some reason I have always attracted mid grade military officers as though I emit some pheromone that only they can detect. A good friend of mine worke…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:28 PM
1

David Hackett Fischer's book Washington's Crossing is one of the best books about the Revolution that I have ever read. I grew up in MA and got so sick of having AmRev shoved down my throat that I didn't touch it for years and years and managed to get a Ph.D. in military history without reading a single book about it! But the class I teach covers it, so I had to look at it again, and found to my delight that it is fascinating. This book gives a very readable and engaging account of the first par…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:41 PM
2

I teach classes on war and diplomacy for one of the service schools, among other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:06 PM
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You know, there used to be a guy on MRP who felt loved and appreciated when his wife cooked good dinners, kept fit, and took excellent care of their children. He was smart enough to underwrite a series of services (housekeeping, yard, others) that allowed her to focus on these things to the exclusion of everything else. That always struck me as extremely wise on his part. I even remember a comment he made along the lines of “She didn’t want to scrub toilets and neither did I, and I wanted to com…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:02 AM
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Maybe I want to cook an elaborate dinner for my husband instead of fucking him for two hours. Maybe he wants to watch the game instead of getting the oil changed (or changing it himself). Maybe neither of us wants to clean the bathroom. Anybody who is in a relationship for multiple decades will have plenty of times when they are shown love in ways that fails to register to them as love at all. Even the most compatible couples misfire on communication. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:54 AM
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lol Things 1 and 2 have been eating lunch outside at their school and Thing 2 loved it at first. Now she comes home with her giant backpack and a thousand-yard stare, like a tiny GI returning from Vietnam. Thing 1 doesn’t seem at all bothered. Maybe he is daring other boys to eat them? idk
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:46 AM
2

Striving days are never over :-/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 10:44 PM
2

Oh God it is like living in a Stephen King novel. We were still in Dupont in 2004; now we are in the suburbs and it is a nightmare. And it isn’t even full bore Brood X yet!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 10:42 PM
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Funny that you say this, the only person at the aforementioned boarding school alumni events who doesn't make me feel self-conscious af is a scholarship student from Bridgeport or some other New England shithole. She and I can talk very happily together for hours. This is because she is still of of the same SES as her classmates, although attending that school kicked her up the ladder a few rungs, no doubt. She and I end up being the two strivers in a room full of bored upper class hauteur.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 09:30 PM
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Wow what an edgy opinion that I am only now hearing for the very first time
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 09:19 PM
2

Aw yeah I think you and I have discussed DC before. Two of our three kids were born here, and they will all grow up here; it'll be interesting to see if they end up with mixed feelings about it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 09:17 PM
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lol yeah one of my high school friends visited shortly after I moved here and a bunch of my college friends came over to my place for the evening and we spent hours yelling about policy and the next morning he was like "wtf nobody in Boston even thinks about that shit let alone talks about it for hours" No shit, Matt, you're all too busy fussing about the Sox.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:57 PM
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We are both definitely outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:34 PM
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Of course I do. Would you care to hear about the developmental history of the DF-21D?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:27 PM
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I have dated up and down and have been married to 20 years to a man who way outranks me classwise. I did not know his social class when we married, and was not fully cognizant of it until maybe five years ago. I thought he was a regular middle-class dude when we married, which is not exactly a leap for a college-degreed woman who was raised working class. Mr. Bradley is the only person of his class I have met who I could ever be married to. When we attend alumni events for his boarding school, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:26 PM
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I've lived here nearly my entire adult life and I love it madly. It's home, and felt like home when I first arrived here on August 26, 1996. But I absolutely understand why lots of people would hate it. Caveat: I stick to the Executive Branch side of things, specifically DoD. You couldn't pay me enough to deal with Congress and its ancillary bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:22 PM
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I loved being young and single in DC, nowhere else in the world could I have ever met the same volume of men who are interested in sperging about defense issues ad nauseam. That said, if you are not interested in being a policy sperg and meeting unlimited numbers of other policy spergs, literally anywhere else in the country will be better for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:31 PM
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“should” lolololol Imagine caring about what a bunch of women are yapping about online
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 09:37 PM
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My sister has a BA from a Seven Sisters school and an MA in math. She has been married for over ten years to an HVAC tech who never even started college. I don't think these kinds of pairings are exactly unusual these days, but people like my sister aren't all over social media shrilling about their relationships, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:32 PM
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My parents both worked and when my mom got home before my dad, he would walk in the door booming “I want good food AND LOTS OF IT!!!!!!” It drove her insane. He retired before she did and I think every day she came home for a good year, she would cry “I want good food AND LOTS OF IT!!!!!” when she walked into the house. Dad thought it was funny for maybe a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 01:03 AM
2

vaya con dios dude
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:02 PM
3

Fair!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:00 PM
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A woman can want something physical from the get-go and still put a man off for a million other reasons, many of which may have nothing to do with him. If your standard is "a woman who is so hot for me that she ceases to care about propriety, her professional standing, her family, her friends, her social mores, her ethics, her morals, or literally anything other than getting my P into her V" that may be a tad unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:00 PM
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hot weirdo attractive woman Uh in both of your scenarios the woman is hot/attractive. You would prefer a hot woman who lusts after you over a hot woman who would not, this is not a surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 05:57 PM
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I didn't get the idea that she's saying men get sexually turned on by a woman's career (except for helicopter repair outliers), only that a woman's career is something that does affect a woman's RMV and therefore the likelihood that a man will want to marry her and raise a family with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 04:39 PM
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What about it? They would still have UMC values and they would still raise their child in a UMC environment, and if the child acted out, it would be in a UMC fashion such as totalling a parent's car, not by joining MS-13 or whatever. One UMC value is investing significantly in your children and making it easier for them to achieve, so even if Mom and Dad ignored him, he would still be on sports teams and get SAT prep and all that good shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 04:33 PM
2

Thank you for debating in good faith!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 04:20 PM
3

Your parents are the ones who inculcated you with the values and mores of their social class, which then becomes your social class. The mechanic raised by UMC lawyer parents would still have done all the UMC things during his childhood: lacrosse camp, ice hockey travel team, SAT prep, sleepaway camp during the summer, trips to art museums, trips abroad, et al et al. (And, moreover, he will very probably want those things for his own children.) He would have been inculcated by his parents with UM…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:32 PM
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Your upbringing and the values and mores passed down from your parents and family matter a lot more for your social class than your income. My husband is a teacher who has never outearned me, ever. He is still upper class because of his family and his upbringing. I have a Ph.D. and a high-flying career and I am still working class because of my family and upbringing. If the mechanic shop owner was raised by two UMC lawyers and he has decided to flout his parents' values and mores and become ASE …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:14 PM
1

lol thanks for explaining my parents' marriage and my own preferences and personality to me, I appreciate the effort
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 03:02 PM
1

????
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:28 PM
2

Yes well I look at couples who resolve what passes for conflict with "rational discussions" and I could never ever ever live that way. I, at least, am able to understand that no one way of arguing or resolving conflict will ever work for all people or all couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:24 PM
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This attitude is such moralizing bullshit. My parents were married for 52 years when my dad died. They used to get into some scorching fights when I was little; all the downstairs doors that my dad had kicked holes through were leaned up against the wall in the basement. Mr. Bradley and I have been married for 20 years tomorrow, we are still very very happy with one another, and during stressful times (like when my dad died and we were long distance during the week and I was covering down on thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:04 PM
6

not much of a Christian lol for real, "we are conservatives?" I'm unfamiliar with any strain of conservative social or political thought that doesn't believe in marriage.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/21 09:51 PM
1

lol wut
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 04:05 PM
1

Yes, that is me, and the point is that a woman like me is not the dream for the vast majority of men. They want feminine women. Women like me are not terribly feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 12:13 AM
2

No. I refer you to this comment from a while back.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 10:22 PM
2

Are you aware that this OP is about what women offer and not what they are looking for? I doubt there are many men looking for women who come from volatile and unstable families.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 10:18 PM
1

It was not a good culinary epoch in our nation's history.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:41 PM
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My poor mom had grown up in the South, on a farm, and she was so appalled to see what my grandmother did to pork chops: boiled them for 45 minutes and then fried them. But that was the kind of thing my dad wanted to eat, so that's what my mom cooked. Boy am I glad that is behind me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:22 PM
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I started seeing Mr. Bradley after he and his ex split up. There were a lot of reasons that that relationship didn't work out, but his final straw was spending a lot of time and effort helping her prep for the GMAT and helping her apply to business schools, only to have her drop out first semester because it was "too hard." I was two years deep into my Ph.D. program by the time we got together and the fact that I was seeing it through (and ultimately completed it) meant a lot to him. The fact th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:16 PM
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Yes, I know, I was just disputing the idea that such a vanishingly small percentage of prostitutes or other sex workers are trafficked. It happens all the time, it happens everywhere. My husband is a middle school teacher in a suburb of Washington DC and he has had twelve year old students who were trafficked. The fact that some white collar dude doesn't encounter them doesn't mean that they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 04:26 PM
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Oh, well, if YOU have never known a trafficked hooker...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 03:56 PM
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Untrue. It's so interesting to me that men care about this. Historically, they never used to give a damn if the girl they were fucking for money wanted to be in that line of work or not. Now, they all hamster that no women or girls are trafficked and all prostitutes are 19-year-old escorts making money hand over fist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 03:17 PM
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Are you under the impression that it is a good idea for a married woman to get advice about how to relate to her own husband from a strange married man? Do you think this is how a married woman shows respect for her own husband?
/r/RedPillWives05/05/21 07:27 PM
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I have had three two-year-olds and they were perfectly clear that whining would not work on me. Sometimes they did it anyway because they were tired or hungry or whatever, but it didn't mean they got what they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:05 PM
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If your argument is that “every single” lawyer and financial advisor tells “you” never to get married then I have nothing to say to that. My own FIL is a twice-married attorney who fucked his first wife so badly in the divorce that she has never recovered from it financially, and never ever will. Edit: my aforementioned college roommate is also married, and outearns her husband by a factor of way. If they divorce, she would be paying him alimony, but she doesn’t go around telling men not to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 01:38 AM
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Nobody “loses” their home in a divorce, a man whose wife takes the house is compensated with his share of the equity. If a man is living in a shitty apartment after a divorce it is because he either doesn’t care about where he lives or because they didn’t have that many combined assets and now neither of them have the house. This trope of a man living in poverty while his ex wife lives high on the hog isn’t true for the vast majority of couples. Most married Americans couldn’t scrape together $4…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 01:06 AM
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I think that the laws governing family court are just about as good as they can be at this point. Very few couples actually litigate their divorces, most are dealt with in mediation. If one party says gives up more than half their share in order to be able to walk away, or out of guilt, or defeatedness, or whatever, then that is their business. The state has an interest in ensuring that neither party is left destitute if possible. There is a reason that “hard cases make bad law” is an axiom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 12:37 AM
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I think that divorce law in most states is a lot fairer in both directions than it used to be. I think that if the government wants marriage to do the things it does (encourage stability, provide benefits for households, et al) then there is no way to make it so everybody will be happy when that household dissolves. And if the government has to err on the side of making the dissolving households happy or on the side of making the intact households happy, it would be foolish and destabilizing not…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 11:47 PM
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SES is socioeconomic status My sister's marriage was statistically likely to end in divorce: early 20s, husband not college educated, junior enlisted military. It ended in divorce. Big surprise. If both parties are college educated, the likelihood drops dramatically: only about 20% of first marriages where both parties have a college degree or higher end in divorce. Of course, it is impossible to tell which marriages will never end in divorce until one party has died. (edit: if only some college…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:45 PM
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It may be easy to get in, but not to get out. It is just as easy to dissolve a marriage as it is to dissolve a business: everything depends on the individuals involved. My sister had a very easy divorce in her late 20s. The most complicated part was the six-month waiting period mandated by the state. Well if they can get the benefits of marriage without the risks, why wouldn't they do that instead of "just" cohabitating? They can do that now, by involving attorneys, as you say. What you are prop…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:33 PM
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You assume that people live together, even without marriage, for decades and do not co-mingle funds or make joint purchases? Do you actually understand how marriage creates the private equivalent of a business entity in order to ease things like taxes and property transfer and inheritance and so forth? How would people re-create these benefits in the absence of legal marriage? Why should they pay a lawyer to set all of this up when there is already a comparatively easy way to gain all those bene…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:14 PM
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So how would the end of legal marriage fix that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:07 PM
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"I want to take everything doesn't actually mean I want to take everything?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 03:42 PM
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Whenever divorces get really nasty it's always due to a "I'm gonna take EVERYTHING from him" mentality. "If I can't have her, no one will." "I'll never let that bastard see his kids again." "I've got the passports and the kids will come back to my home country with me, I don't care if she doesn't like it." "I'll make sure everybody knows he was fucking the neighbor." "I gave her everything she ever wanted and this is how she repays me? I'll ruin her." "He thinks he can trade me in for some 20-so…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 03:33 PM
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Older kids responsible to parent their younger siblings. Ha, my mom was born in June and her next-oldest siblings were seven-year-old twin girls. There is a lot to do in June, so their mother told the twins to look after my mom. They got tired of that pretty quick and left her in a cornfield after lunch. My grandmother didn't notice until dinnertime that the baby was nowhere to be seen. The first time I heard that story I thought it was funny. Now I realize that my mom is lucky to be alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:28 PM
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It was a hard life and a cruel life and whenever I hear people talk about the joys of subsistence farming and families working together all day, I think of my mother, barefoot in the Oklahoma sun, picking literal cotton for money at the age of five. And a family of eight who had probably burned a good 5000 calories per person that day sitting down to a dinner of two three-pound chickens. None of my grandparents' children went into farming. Of course, by the time they were adults, the economy had…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:17 PM
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I was thinking about this yesterday as I mowed the lawn and remembered that when I found my grandparents on the 1920 and 1930 census, my grandfather was listed as "occupation: farmer" and my grandmother was listed as "occupation: none" in spite of the fact that she worked every bit as hard as he did. Farm households were something like 25% of the population in 1930 but male/female employment statistics may not reflect the fact that for every working male farmer, there was a working farmer's wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:11 PM
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Yeah they all worked their asses off. Their lives were the reason that roughly half of oldtimey bluegrass songs are about looking forward to resting in the grave.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 06:32 PM
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Mother's side: farmer's wife, farmer's wife, farmer's wife, farmer's wife, storekeeper/farmer's wife Father's side: silk mills, paper mills, chambermaids We didn't have any secretaries until my mother's generation. No SAHMs until mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:59 PM
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It's the puke emoji
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:57 PM
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Vassar 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:34 PM
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Second wave feminism was to open the prestige professions to upper middle class women and to allow women to do things like apply for credit in their own names after they were married. Working class women have always worked. All the women on both side of my family worked all their lives until very recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:32 PM
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Holy shit that comment history
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 03:43 PM
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CMV: only couples who refuse to leave the house and remain swaddled in bubble wrap all day long can be truly said to love one another
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 09:48 PM
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I think it has more to do with the fact that we now live in a world where, unless you are loading a bunch of IKEA flat packs into your car or are a construction worker, nobody really needs to deploy physical strength all that much anymore. Very few people witness physical strength being used every day in a way that would clearly differentiate men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 11:45 AM
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I suppose that now, what with people expecting “unconditional love” from romantic partners, there will be a need to redefine what it is. But it has always always meant loving someone regardless of what they did or didn’t do, to or for you, or anybody else. There is a surprisingly moving photograph of Ted Bundy’s mother on the phone with him shortly before his execution. That is unconditional love, not whatever bullshit these guys are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:38 AM
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It is exactly how the term has always been used, which is why up until very recently nobody expected unconditional love from anybody except their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:08 AM
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Men don’t need to vote on whether to start a shelter for abused men, or volunteer to help other men improve their careers or gain new skills or learn ways to be engaged fathers or how to network or many many other things. Women do all these things for other women; why can’t men do them for other men? Why do men expect women’s volunteer groups to do all this work for men AND women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 03:10 PM
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I couldn't believe it. Well, any man who marries an Eastern European woman without bothering to investigate what "feminine" means to her deserves exactly what he gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 03:14 PM
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He thought I was a bitch because I am not meek and submissive and I don't give much of a fuck what non-Mr. Bradley men think of me, and because I have a career and we split the chores and childraising. His perception of me as a bitch had a lot more to do with him than it did with me. My grandmother was one of eight surviving children. All the women in that family were either domineering control freaks or utter doormats, there was no in-between. Edit: Additionally, literally everybody in town tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 03:12 PM
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My husband had a friend who, after his divorce, imported a woman from the Czech Republic and went on and on and on about how feminine she was, how traditional, cooked and cleaned, bla bla y bla, with the unspoken connotation of “Not like YOUR wife.” Mr. Bradley tried to tell him “look she is going all out because you’re not married yet, so you honestly think that a woman who grew up behind the Iron Curtain is going to be a sweet submissive feminine whatever? You think Omar is kind of a bitch and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:53 PM
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The marriage you are modeling for them matters more than anything you can tell them with words. My parents were married for 52 years, until my father died, and their marriage was not exactly peaceful for many many years. Still, their example has set marriage in my mind as completely immutable; I would no sooner divorce my husband than I would fly to the moon. My husband's parents divorced when he was 13 and his perspective on the immutability of marriage is a lot different from mine. Your oldest…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 05:42 PM
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I mean that's just most young people now; the level of "neglect" that you and I were subjected to in the 1970s would get a parent arrested these days
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:23 PM
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Yeah it seems that young women have gotten a lot more fragile
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:08 PM
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You should read this. I don't necessarily agree with what she says about the fate of Aziz Ansari - over three years later, he seems to have come out of it all right - but she addresses this point: Women did this ALL THE TIME in the 1980s in college. What, women can't do this now? Women are such shrinking violets that they can't use their words and say "no "? and I think you would find it interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:54 PM
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My father had zero tolerance for psychological femininity and worked very hard to eradicate all traces of it in my sister and me. He spent 13 months forward deployed in the Vietnamese jungle near the Cambodian border, and to him, psychological femininity was weakness, and weakness gets you killed. It was his way of protecting us, and ensuring that we could protect ourselves when he wasn't around to do it. I have written about this before/ He was completely agnostic about whether we looked femini…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 05:29 PM
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lolololololololol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:38 PM
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The majority of my friends have always been men; my interests and personality and career are aligned much more on the male side of things and I have no problem with mixed gender spaces. But this sub was never intended to be a mixed gender space. Those are literally all over Reddit, they are not difficult to find, but there are literally zero other secular, non-kink spaces where women can congregate with other women and share experiences. If MRP is going to (justifiably) insist that women not enc…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/21 02:33 PM
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But but but I thought the first lesson of MRP was to kill your ego.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/21 01:45 PM
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If your wife has "massive" flaws then give serious thought to the fact that divorce would mean that you no longer have any say over her parenting and will not be there to mitigate her flaws in real time. it’s ok to do things that make YOU happy You can teach them this while still being married. I would argue that this lesson actually has more value if you do teach it to them while being married; it will convey the idea that you don't have to completely give up your every goal and desire in order…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 04:58 PM
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I went to a women’s college Hey, so did I. I agree, I can find a man's opinion literally anywhere, there is no shortage of men telling women how to be women. I completely understand why MRP doesn't allow women at all and I have no idea why they still want to come and lecture the little ladies.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 04:47 PM
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As they are not interested in our female perspective, it seems a bit rich to come here and share their manly insights. Indeed. In the previous incarnation of RPW, men were not allowed at all.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 02:59 PM
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And yet, for some reason, you persistently come to this sub, where women seek advice from other women, to give them a man's perspective.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 02:57 PM
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Fair Edit: Wait, this putative guy is freaking out at this putative woman for ten minutes? That's kind of a long time; just about every woman is going to want to avoid some rando freaking out at her for ten minutes, whether or not she gives a shit about him in any other context.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:52 PM
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Mea culpa mea culpa mea maxima culpa
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:49 PM
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It doesn't matter if they're not "really interactions," women do not have parallel communications styles for different circumstances and the vast majority of women will do anything to avoid anything that smacks of confrontation. You have said that your wife entertains her friends at your house sometimes, so I know that you have seen them all sitting around talking about how they agree on something. "Do you like Chik-Fil-A?" "Why yes, I like Chik-Fil-A!" "So do I, I love Chik-Fil-A!" And they all…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:48 PM
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Look, you know I agree with you; I have no problem telling men to fuck off and never have done, but I am not like the vast majority of women. Most women are like my mother, who finds even the idea of conflict or confrontation so excruciating that she will literally walk three miles out of her way to avoid walking by the house where the guy lives who likes to come outside and talk her ear off, simply so she doesn't have to risk offending him by making some excuse about how she doesn't have time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:39 PM
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Do you or do you not subscribe to the premise that women are, by and large, more agreeable and less confrontational than men are, by and large? Because if you do not agree with that premise then of course you are not going to believe that confrontation or conflict is a consequence that the majority of women would care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:27 PM
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The only women attracted to men because they make coal mining or oil rig or underwater welding $$$ are the women who want to BB them. Working class men with stable jobs are the prize for working class women, and there aren't a whole lot of them to go around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:46 PM
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Some say that Omar is still "wtf" about the whole thing, to this very day
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:41 PM
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I lived in the Midwest for seven years; my husband grew up there. The SMP anyplace in the Midwest still has a lot more in common with Boston or Tampa or Monterey than it does with Mumbai or Phnom Penh or Georgia (as in Stalin, not as in Devil Went Down To). There are small differences but the major muscle movements all line up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 02:39 AM
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Yeah I was raised working class but my parents cared a lot about art and music and literature so they passed those values down and it's something I have in common with my husband. I also graduated from a Seven Sisters school and have a Ph.D. (we met shortly after I had started the program and he made it clear that if I dropped it that would be a dealbreaker). My husband is still a class traitor but we have enough values in common that it works for us. Our kids still aren't going to boarding scho…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 07:43 PM
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You are 100% wrong. I can't speak for the UK, but American upper class men are not going their own way, they highly prioritize family and legacy and they care a great deal about who they marry. They want mothers who are familiar with UC values and who can raise their children in that world and contribute to the networks that sustain UC families and relationships. Some sweet feminine waitress will not be able to do that. My husband's friends banged all kinds of girls, but when it was time to marr…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 07:27 PM
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I married a man from the American upper class, including the generational wealth you say you want. My answer to you is that if you don’t already live in those circles you don’t have much of a chance. By and large they marry their peers, and they move in a world that you can’t even begin to understand. (Example: one of my husband’s boarding school friends owned a racehorse that came within one loss of winning the Triple Crown.) You are much better off going to a decent college and finding a good …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 08:59 PM
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Nice try Matt Gaetz
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 03:41 AM
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It is a commonly reported phenomenon in the second trimester, which is no longer "early pregnancy." During the first trimester, the woman's body is putting nearly unbelievable amounts of effort and resources into building the placenta. The vast majority of women are physically exhausted during the first trimester in a way that they cannot remember ever having been exhausted before. Pregnancy hypersexuality can be a very real thing, I experienced it when I was pregnant with our third. But not unt…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 09:39 PM
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I had my younger daughter two weeks before I turned 42 and three weeks later I was back to running trails. And that was after a C section! My elder two are twins; I had them when I was barely 35 and it took me nearly a year to recover from that pregnancy. No regrets, they were pretty big for twins and spent no time in the NICU at all. But it did a number on me physically. It all depends on the individual pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 06:44 PM
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My parents had been married for 52 years by the time my father died. My mother grew up in a kind of poverty that nobody here can begin to understand and her priority was making sure that my sister and I could support ourselves so we would never have to live that way ourselves. My dad was a Vietnam veteran with intense PTSD and his priority was making sure that my sister and I could protect ourselves from the wide variety of threats he saw lurking around every corner. In the process, both of them…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 04:35 PM
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I disagree with the first point, as it is just as important to know what behavior to avoid as it is to know what to embody. But I will concede on the second.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 08:34 PM
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She goes with the flow and doesn’t get overly hung up on the details. This is actually not very psychologically feminine at all. The vast majority of psychologically feminine women routinely get hung up on details. Neuroticism is extremely feminine. It is how women kept their children alive for thousands of years. It is a lot less useful nowadays, so psychologically feminine women channel their neuroses into things like helicopter parenting. "Feminine" doesn't automatically mean "appealing to me…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 07:09 PM
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Cooking, cleaning, laundry, none of that is necessarily "wife stuff." Marriage is not about getting somebody to cook for (or to cook for you), it is the formation of a family. I have been married for nearly 20 years. My husband and I lived together before we married, I cooked and cleaned and did all that good stuff. But we didn't join bank accounts until after the wedding. (The Monday after, to be precise.) We didn't become one another's insurance beneficiaries until we were married. We didn't b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 07:05 PM
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--Do you think your male friends want to have sex with you? Why/why not? Why do you think the way you do on this question? Some yes and some no. I think the way I do because some of them put moves on me (before I was married). Given that men are sexually attracted to a wide variety of women, I am sure that some of my guy friends have wanted to bone me, even the ones who met me after I was married. It doesn't mean anything and none of them have acted on it. --have you ever had sex with a male fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 08:52 PM
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--Do you want male friends? Do you specifically want some of your friends to be men? I don't care if they're men or not. A lot of my friends are male by virtue of the fact that my career and most of my interests are majority male. --If so, why? If not, why not? n/a --How do you think your male friends see your friendship with them? I have never given this a moment's thought. --Do you seek (or have you ever sought) male friends? Or do they seek you out? I don't seek them out on purpose. I have no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 08:39 PM
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You are barking up the wrong tree, buddy, I have been married for 20 years and have three kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:05 AM
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lolololol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:45 AM
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The person I was responding to wasn't referring to FDS, he was referring to women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:56 PM
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Who was talking about women on FDS?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:32 PM
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All women make shit mothers?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 08:18 PM
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Okay, great, that has nothing to do with the question that I responded to, which was: If it doesn’t last forever then so be it - nothing does. Why don’t women have this outlook? Genuinely curious...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 05:17 PM
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Because the vast majority of women want children and have a finite amount of time to locate somebody to have them and raise them with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 03:26 PM
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He has been injured plenty and he has been responsible for nearly all of the ER visits that I have made since having kids but hey thanks for the personal insult. If all the teenaged boys you know would not set themselves on fire before letting their mothers handle their dicks then okay. I am not sure what to say to that. “Cleaning themselves” is not at all synonymous with “handle their dicks routinely and take note of size and proportion,” which is what the OP mooted in the first damned place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:19 AM
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We had a hot tub for years and this never happened; he never even went in the damned thing once. We live in VA and I hate a/c, while Mr. Bradley and I both sleep naked, our son would rather die. Edit: further, if I knew my son slept naked, I would not go in there ripping his sheets off because that would be inappropriate. Frankly you are making your wife come off as pretty weird here. I wonder how she would articulate her side of the story. And what is that bullshit about a teenage boy letting h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:09 AM
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Your son skinny dips in the hot tub while his parents are home? Your son sleeps back ass naked while his prints are home? You live in a Brazzers sketch?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 04:02 AM
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If anything a virgin would have a greater sense of propriety and discretion (things which nobody on this sub seems to have the slightest idea about) and would be insulted by such a line of questioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:51 AM
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Uh you know that question is rude as fuck, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:47 AM
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Yeah your comment history is as drama-seeking as my husband’s middle school students. Good luck out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:34 AM
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Show me a hot dude and I will show you a woman who is sick of his shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 12:23 AM
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Keep in mind also that women want access to the grandchildren. Telling your son "Don't marry that whore" is a good way to get cut off forever; unless you take a policy decision to go all Norman Bates early in his life, a man will never ever choose his mother over the woman he is fucking. He will tell her what his mother said and she will cut his family off and he will go along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:29 PM
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I refer you to the comment I just posted. In this particular case, no, I wouldn't be supportive, but mainly for reasons that have little to do with N.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:26 PM
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This question is so divorced from what it is actually like to be a mother of a son. you have an average 30 year old son who has slept with around 5 women in his lifetime with 2 being ex-girlfriends. My son is not 'average,' he is smart (albeit kind of lazy) and tall and good-looking and fit. By the time he is 30 he will be even more so, but I will never ever know how many women he has fucked or under what circumstances, because he will never tell me and I do not wish to know. who slept with a to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:25 PM
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I'm going to do an OP one day asking these guys why they expect a bunch of solipsistic women to suddenly gain a nuanced understanding of the male imperative just because they gave birth to a boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:18 PM
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Not at all, he has developed a pretty good amount of body modesty and I don't care to pry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:13 PM
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I don't give a flying fuck about "women" but I also would like very much to know how the hell I would know any of this shit about either my son or his fiancee. These questions all impute a level of knowledge to mothers, specifically, regarding the sex lives of their adult sons that as far as I know does not exist in the real world, and the extent to which these unsocialized weirdos are willing to blame mothers for the problems of adult men is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:10 PM
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I haven't seen my 11-year-old son naked for years now and I have no idea what he is packing. Why in God's name would that be anything I would be interested in or would give a moment's thought to? He certainly isn't going to be wearing anything that would show the world his business, not if his father and I have anything to say about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 07:36 PM
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I'm afraid her demeanour could cause fights with my husband. The only person causing fights with your husband right now is you. He doesn't care what his sister does and I can't figure out why you care so much; her behavior is no reflection on you and there is no requirement that all members of an extended family buy into the same set of values. If she shows you her IG, you don't have to be rude or condescending or give her bitch face. "Huh, I guess that's just not my thing." Her marriage is her …
/r/RedPillWives18/03/21 03:43 PM
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ha ha ha ha It's okay to raise a productive member of society as long as you find it meaningless?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:21 PM
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If he's hot and smart then she is probably falling in love with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:11 PM
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Why in God's name would any woman who had any choice go through pregnancy and childbirth for a man she did not love?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 03:07 PM
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Red Pill has always told men not to marry. TRP's founder used to be active on this sub, and he frequently inveighed against marriage, once going so far as to write an OP about how if a man is "high value," then by definition he cannot be married, which is of course ridiculous, but which is an indicator of how TRP and RP in general feel about marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 12:51 AM
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To be fair he isn’t the only bad conversationalist. I have never known any women, including myself, who have talked at all about their birth plans or breastfeeding plans in front of their friends’ husbands. That is not generally a common mixed sex conversation topic.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/21 07:44 PM
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What makes you think that women on a sub looking for advice from other women are interested in reading your “satire” or your hundreds of words of patronizing lectures about how “the masculine grows through challenge?” What lobe in your brain makes it so difficult for you to refrain from coming here to school the little ladies? And, at the very least, why can’t you go to the Red Pill Women sub to do so, since male lecturing is welcomed there?
/r/RedPillWives08/03/21 07:31 PM
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I fell madly in love with my now-husband of close to 20 years the minute I laid eyes on him back in February 1997, but he already had a girlfriend. So I did exactly what is described here, not because I thought I had a chance with him but because I wasn’t going to LDAR at age 22. It caught the fuck out of his attention and is probably a large part of the reason that we got together after he split up with his gf. Men might not like to think it works on them but it absolutely works on enough men t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 07:06 PM
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This is all terrible advice, including the script for what to say to the husband, and the fact that this guy doesn't see it is Exhibit A for why men shouldn't even try to advise married women on stuff like this.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/21 05:34 PM
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Hmm. Let me poke around a bit and see what I find, I'll let you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:18 PM
2

What do you mean by "early modern" and where, and everyday life when?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:40 PM
2

I am so sorry to hear this. RIP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 09:26 PM
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I have no idea, I am used to people here lecturing make-believe history but three or four years ago they at least tried to make it credible. Now they might as well be talking about the steam-powered video game systems that frontier families enjoyed, when they took a break from porn sex orgies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:16 PM
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You only have 20 eggs ripen during a retrieval cycle if you have OHSS. Usually you get three or four eggs per cycle and if you are lucky one or two of those end up as viable embryos.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 03:09 PM
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Uh I am not going to tell you that never ever happened but it was by no means the norm. Attitudes towards sex were not the same in the 1940s as they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 02:25 PM
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See u/buartha's edits pls
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 07:12 PM
5

This is one of the most poorly written things I have ever seen in all my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 06:56 PM
2

I'll keep an eye out. I'm always interested in the career OPs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 05:26 PM
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I am a career woman and all of my friends from college are career women and I have worked with dozens of actual career women over the past 20 years or so and none of them have been lonely or miserable. All of them have had families. My most ambitious and accomplished friend has five kids and a giant old house and a handsome husband with whom she is madly in love. The only career woman I can think of who is actually single is Condi Rice, and I don't think she's crying every night with a cat on he…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 04:22 PM
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Some people find great meaning in their work and don't view it at all as "throwing all their time and energy into the maw of a soulless corporation." It stands to reason that a "career woman" would derive the same kind of meaning and self-actualization from her career - a career, not just a job - as the men who are drawn to those kinds of positions. The vast majority of people don't locate any particular meaning in their work, it's what they do to support themselves and their families. TRP has a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 04:14 PM
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Yeah. People die. When they’re old. Not in their 20s or 30s. Also, there’s common law. There are also living wills. The list goes on. ???? What does common law or living wills have to do with the innumerable benefits that marriage confers on surviving spouses? With the surviving spouse being able to have Social Security or military benefits or not pay taxes on inheritance or any number of other things? Again, everybody here is so wound up about DIVORCE LAW SUCKS that they have completely forgott…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 09:19 PM
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Do you have any idea how much easier life is for the surviving partner if you are married? I swear to God it's like everybody on this sub except for maybe three people are so busy worrying about divorce that they have completely forgotten that while not everybody divorces, EVERYBODY DIES.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 09:09 PM
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He's 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 09:07 PM
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I don’t disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:04 AM
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Smart parents don’t bank on the existence of jobs like teacher or insurance salesman or dental hygienist? I hate to break it to you but there are a lot more parents making their kids go to state university systems for $ than there are telling them to go to Princeton for $$$$. This describes the vast majority of parents in flyover land. It is a very unexciting lifestyle which is why it gets no play with the bored children of Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 05:41 PM
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What the hell are you talking about? In the town where my husband grew up and where we lived until very recently, there are tons of people with HHIs of well under $100k and they are raising perfectly normal middle class kids. When you can buy a 3br 1ba house in a good school district for $70k and are sending your kids to the okay branch of the state university system which is just up the street, you are certainly not dropping $260k or whatever on each kid. This is the case in infinity small town…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:16 PM
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Ha ha ha I was thinking of you when I wrote that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 07:11 PM
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One Weird Trick, old money hates it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 07:05 PM
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Old men did not have much competition compared to today's standards, even in the 30s people who only knew how to write and read could promote to middle class. What the hell, the 1930s were not the Middle Ages. The adult illiteracy rate in the US in 1930 was under 5% and declined during that decade to less than 3% in 1940.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 06:42 PM
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Yeah I do agree with that, the female cognate for male porn use is IG and shit like that. There's no shortage of women sucked into social media black holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 03:59 PM
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This may be true in the early stages of a relationship, but particularly after marriage there are endless numbers of women who are happy to have their husband go off to the garage or fishing with his friends or whatever while they hang out with their own friends or their sisters or whatever, especially after they have children. I think video games have skewed this, because the man is still in the house, still visible to his wife or gf, still physically present with her, but he is mentally absent…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 02:42 PM
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Well she met her husband in med school, so that could be a good place for you to look!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:59 PM
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He doesn't want to marry. There are no conservative women of any stripe who are willing to be forever girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:39 PM
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She's pretty great NGL. By far the smartest person I have ever known, good rugby player, used to be able to drink me under the table without breaking a sweat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:32 PM
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One of my best friends from undergrad meets all these criteria except for the conservative part. I don’t know why you would think that a woman with an MD/Ph.D. who runs her own Ivy League research lab would be “conservative.” Anyway she is already married. Oh well. Edit: You already have a forever gf? Does she know that you are out here longing for something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 02:34 AM
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Yeah that drives me nuts. Adults expect kids to be nice to and make friends with people that they themselves would cross the street to avoid, if those weird kids were adults. So much behavior is normalized in schools now that will get those kids shunned or possibly arrested as adults, it's really not doing them any favors.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 06:43 PM
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lolol yeah that I definitely remember
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 06:38 PM
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This is a child's way of viewing marriage. Sure, women will dump boyfriends, just as men will dump girlfriends. Once you have been married for years or decades, your shared history is part of what bonds you and part of what makes your husband or wife the right person for you, and there is no replicating that with anybody else, ever. I addressed this fact back around the time my father died. Even if there is somebody else out there who would be twice as compatible with me, in the abstract, as Mr.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:32 PM
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This is what Katherine Hepburn said, and it is what she actually did with Spencer Tracy. I would not be interested in it at all. Mr. Bradley and I were long distance for the better part of two years and it is unsustainable in a marriage where you are raising children. Quarantine has been like a dream come true. Unless one of us has to deploy to a high conflict area for work, we will never be long distance again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:28 PM
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Uh, no it is not?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 10:17 PM
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It is my single favorite TRP OP of all time and deserves to be spread far and wide
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 03:03 PM
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Like anything else, it is a cost-benefit exchange, and a lot of young people are going to value a singular party experience over a shitty McJob that they can replace that very afternoon. To them, it is not wasted time. You can dispute their priorities, but you can't really dispute the way they act in accordance with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 02:15 PM
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Well, now you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 02:11 PM
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lol the application process for working at Red Robin?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 02:10 PM
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Wyatt Earp and all his brothers were common law married to prostitutes at various points in their lives. What kind of women do you thing were available for men out in the American West to marry during that time period? Do you think respectable East Coast families were shipping their unmarried daughters out West and wishing them luck? Do you think they were doing foreign style arranged proxy marriages between their daughters and men they had never even met, let alone knew anything about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 03:34 AM
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Yes and in general they are a lot more promiscuous than the vast majority of college educated women. Somewhere there is a comment by a TRP endorsed contributor wherein he expresses astonishment that college educated women tend to have much lower N counts than working class and lower class women. I guess he thought that all college girls are Daytona Beach spring break sororstitutes, and all lower class girls are plucky hardworking virginal types, but that is not really the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 01:02 AM
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Poor and uneducated women hardly get married at all these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:44 PM
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Yes I know the difference between the UC and the UMC and I am very aware that I myself am not a member of the UC. As I keep saying, my education was a proxy for the values and tastes and mores that my husband’s UC family prioritizes, which is why they were so important when they first met me, which was close to 25 years ago. It’s not as though anybody spends any time talking about it now, although I am sure that when our children are old enough to apply to college, their grandfather will make so…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:38 PM
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Of course I work for a living. My husband has a passion career, I have always been the breadwinner. And yes, he and his family cared and care a great deal about the actual college I went to. Being cultured and intelligent with a UNH degree would not have cut it. why would very high quality, wealthy men, want “college girls” at all? Because it is what their social class demands, what the hell kind of question is this? Yes yes of course the millionaire software developer whose parents never went t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:11 PM
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but as I pointed out to another user, among very wealthy, upper-class, old-money families, the college pedigree of the girls is irrelevant. She is going to be some rich guy's wife, not a business owner of financier in her own-right. Nobody cares where Charlotte went to school: they care about her social graces, culture, family, and things like musical or artistic ability. Uh I married a UC old money dude (his family made their money in steel) and it was made perfectly clear to me that the only r…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 08:28 PM
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we're not given a true power to handle issues in the classroom, Mr. Bradley has been a teacher for over 20 years and this is his single biggest complaint. It wouldn't even really bother him if the administration took up the slack. They do at his current school, and it has made a huge difference in his quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 06:07 PM
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And literally nobody would blame you, except I guess all the guys who feel like more men "should" go into teaching but aren't willing to do it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 05:52 PM
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Uh I have a Ph.D. in history; evaluating the quality of a source is something you learn to do as an undergrad
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 05:52 PM
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"Nursing Times" is not such a hot historical source Perhaps you missed this: albeit under monastic orders or in a military context, My comment referred to teachers in the 19th century and nothing in your source disputes that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 05:03 PM
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Well the best way to prevent false accusations is to always be with students in a group setting, never ever be with them in a one-on-one setting, and to have another teacher there if you are in a one-on-two or one-on-three situation. A lot of classrooms these days have co-teachers, so it isn't exactly difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 04:50 PM
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Teaching was sometimes a man's job in the 19th century but there was no shortage of female schoolteachers. Nursing has never been a man's job. Secretarial and admin was a man's job before World War I.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 04:47 PM
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I want to see a meme thanking the hardworking policy dorks among us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 03:37 PM
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“False accusations” lolololol I am married to a teacher who has taught in three different states for over two decades. He has taught in giant urban school districts and suburban districts and tiny little rural districts. The number of men he had seen taken down by, or even subjected to, false accusations is exactly zero. The number of male teachers he has known who could have been justifiably accused is far far far greater than zero. Men don’t want to teach because it is a shitty and annoying jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 03:12 PM
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Teaching is not a prestige position like college professor or doctor or attorney, because teaching has a much lower barrier to entry than any of those positions. Facebook memes about how great teachers are are not the same thing as actual prestige.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 03:07 PM
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Yelling is my love language. I don’t mean anger or rage, I just mean yelling. “LOOK OVER THERE IT’S A BALD EAGLE” I am not really kidding, and it means a lot to me that Mr. Bradley, an extremely reticent WASP, has embraced his inner yeller over the course of our quarter century of marriage. I am also pretty big on physical touch, which probably has a lot to do with him sticking around long enough to embrace his inner yeller.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/21 03:35 AM
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The things that children need (apart from diapers) are incredibly cheap and often free; there is a Pacific Garbage Patch of baby and kid stuff floating around in the universe and when people hear that you need it, it floats your way. When you don't need it anymore, you send it off to those who do. This is especially true for the underclass. Seventeen cousins might sleep in the same crib that gets passed around until it collapses.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 02:06 AM
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Every 19th or early 20th century logging town, mining town, cattle driving stop, any physical location associated with an entirely male workforce, was crawling with whores. Even married men didn't bring their families to those places. Who do you think a bunch of lumberjacks living for 6 months a year up in the willywags of northern Maine were fucking that whole time? Each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 06:42 PM
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So what? The parents listed on the birth certificate have nothing to do with what the child is named. All a birth certificate is is a legal acknowledgement that the birth of This Person took place in This Location (edit: on This Date), and These Other Two People are the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 07:32 PM
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If you wait until your wife has just had a baby to raise this issue then you are a dope and you deserve exactly what you will get. If you are curious about paternity and you are not smart or competent enough to swab your newborn's cheek while your wife is passed out with exhaustion, then you don't deserve to know shit. Jesus H. Christ I thought women were supposed to be the hypoagent sex. And once your name is on the birth certificate aren’t you on the hook for CS no matter what, even if the chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 05:17 PM
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We will have been married for 20 years in May and we have three kids. It would have been very different if we were just dating. Our relationship (and we ourselves) developed well before the expectation of 24/7 communication, so that probably accounts for a lot of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 04:24 AM
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We have been married for close to twenty years and have three kids. It would be a very different matter if we had been dating for a couple of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 07:51 PM
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I don't understand this question. There is zero chance that I would ever even begin to engage in a "relationship ritual" just because I felt like I was "supposed to." Is that a thing that people do? We have stuff that we do because we like doing it but nothing we do because it's some kind of commonly accepted ritual. We were long distance during the work week for the better part of two years and we didn't even text while he was away; it was like he was on the ISS between Sunday afternoon and Fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:50 PM
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This is the best response. Thing 1 was a mama's boy when he was 4. When he was around 8 he stopped listening to a lot of what I say. Now at age 11 he is a cool ass kid and we get along like a house afire (except for when he stays up until 2 AM on a school day watching YouTube) but there is zero chance that he will be a mama's boy as an adult. Not for nothing, Mr. Bradley did and does spend a lot of one-on-one time with him. We have been equal caretakers for their whole lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 05:44 PM
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If you are not posting gym selfies and talking about how much you love butt stuff, are you really even merping?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 11:10 PM
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He got his start working for a very well-known contracting company in our area and now, yeah, he owns his own business. The lineman, in case you were wondering, does not own his own telephone company, and does work for somebody else. So does our plumber, who supports three kids. Edit: my sisters husband is an HVAC guy and they raised two kids on his salary. My sister worked, but as a teacher in AZ she never cleared $30k even with decades of experience, national awards, and a master’s in math. Ed…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:20 AM
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Yes, as do I, one of the highest COL counties in the nation, and our electrician supports his family of four kids and we can barely book him when we need to because he is so busy all the time. Our neighbor down the street is a lineman; he and his wife have a rather expensive Weimaraner habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:04 AM
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men occupy the vast majority of dirty, working class and blue collar, dead end positions, Women occupy nearly 100% of the shitty pink collar jobs, which are non-unionized, mostly part-time, and poorly paid. An electrician or telephone lineman can still support a family, even in high COL areas. Home health aides, not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 04:55 AM
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Is that you, Sean Wilentz? Why are you trolling Reddit instead of teaching the grad students?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 04:27 AM
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I have talked about my father quite a bit in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 06:31 PM
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Yawn
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 06:15 AM
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Oh well by all means if you want to be my subconscious whisperer you are welcome to the role
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 06:08 AM
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The idea that there must be an exception, and that the exception is necessarily me, is entirely your own invention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 05:58 AM
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Yes that is a common way of phrasing that particular sentiment in English. If you want to be super autistic about it, you could parse it to say that he is willing to eat his own shit but not anybody else’s, including mine. Or you could just be honest and say that there is nothing any woman can say that will induce you to believe that she is anything other than a bitchy mercenary whore, and leave the entire issue of phrasing and colloquialisms aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 05:57 AM
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Since my description of him specifically said that he does not take shit, I am wondering if English is your first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 05:54 AM
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What makes you think he takes any shit from me?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 05:51 AM
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My father was an alpha and while I am grateful every day for him, I would never in a million years ever choose one for a husband. And, indeed, I did not. Mr. Bradley is an outstanding beta, we have three children, we have been married for close to twenty years and I tell him every day that marrying him was the smartest decision I ever made. Although I guess a lot of guys would call him an alpha, since he is not a doormat and forcefully declines to eat anybody else’s shit. Edit: I have been the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 05:34 AM
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You are giving this about infinity times the amount of thought it deserves. If this kind of thing really torques you so much, find a place where you like the food, become a regular, and don't worry about ever being asked any of this stuff ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 01:47 PM
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Sigma males are fake news, but yeah, you make my point. Your interlocutor believes that virgins will be perfectly happy with “the median man” because they don’t know any better and responded to you as though you married one of these men and are blissfully happy with him. Back in reality, you are about to marry a good-looking fit successful dude, because why would you or any woman want anything less? I am in your boat; I was not a virgin but my N was well within the range that is universally (and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 02:52 PM
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Yes, they are very different indeed, if you are shaking your head in disappointment at the idea of high school girls no longer being virgins, or at the idea that high school is “young” for losing one’s virginity. My husband taught at risk urban kids for over a decade. One year he had twelve seventh grade students who were pregnant. That is early. The vast majority of women are not racking up 50 N by the time they are out of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 01:52 AM
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I graduated high school in 1992 and practically nobody was a virgin by the time we all left for college. I have no idea what you young people are reading now that makes you all think someone is doomed to misery because they fucked in high school but everybody I knew has gone on to have extremely productive lives and none of them are divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 12:51 AM
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How do you know what kind of man she married? This idea that virgin or low N women necessarily marry schlubs and are 🤩😍 about them is just ludicrous on its face. Who a woman marries is always always always more informed by her SES than her N. A virgin who is a sophomore at Bowdoin is never going to be wowed by a schlub who makes $35k working at the scrapyard and hasn’t read a book since middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 12:45 AM
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lolololol these men don’t adore and praise their wives Maybe they do in your thought experiment, but IRL they absolutely do not. IRL they ignore their wives, are absent fathers, and fulfill few or no traditional husband responsibilities beyond maybe bringing home roughly half the bacon.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 09:27 PM
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Then you have a hang up about the word “sophisticated,” because it actually does mean cultured, conversant with fine arts and politics, cultivating a certain type of worldly perspective. The SATC thing is your own definition. If you have grabbed the word “sophisticated” as shorthand for a type of character and perspective that you find unattractive, that’s fine, but you can’t expect other to immediately buy into a construct that exists solely in your own head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 06:18 PM
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Look if you want to ride the perfume carousel that is your business but some of us have a little more restraint
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 11:30 PM
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I think that women would laugh, decline, and block, as they are free to do, just as men are free to decline to provide resumes and credit records. If one side is thirstier than the other, though, then that side will likely be motivated to do things that the other side declines. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:42 AM
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Yes and I am literally asking you, who is stopping you? As far as I know, you are 100% free to ask anything you like on those platforms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:14 AM
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Why can't you? Who is stopping you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:04 AM
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At some point though it becomes knowable whether those children have indeed survived to adulthood, and that happens more often than not in these modern times. My parents had two children and that is replacement level for them. A family that has eight children who all die in a house fire will turn out to have not reproduced to replacement level. Sucks to be them. And I am not aware of any actual parents who take population replacement levels into consideration when deciding how many children to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 05:21 PM
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Yes, I know, I am saying that for the vast majority of married couples in the modern day West, two children is indeed replacement level, because the vast majority of those children will survive to adulthood. I'm not sure any couple decides to have more than two children based on replacement levels, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 01:55 AM
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It only takes a bunch of years to have two kids for you inefficient people who have them one by one. Get on my level. Two children is only below replacement level across populations. For two people, two living children is indeed replacement level. “Requires?” Do you incur a penalty if you do not take a full year for any of these steps?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 09:02 PM
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How can you possibly be this wrong about anything? AIDS was probably the hugest cultural shift of the 1980s. The 1990s was purity rings and the evangelical Great Awakening, when Protestant fundamentalist evangelist Christianity went from being a weird thing that everybody laughed at to mainstream. Yes 1980s pop music was very wholesome, especially Madonna.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 01:32 PM
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The cost of marrying a highly sociosexual man whose N count exceeds her own?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 03:11 AM
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Nigella Lawson has a chapter about Georgian food in her book Feast and from that I was prompted to look into it further. I've got Darra Goldstein's book, which is surely the only cookbook to have a puff quote from Eduard Shevardnadze. I make the adzhika myself! We are both vinegar addicts, so Georgian food is like a dream come true. We just moved back to DC and there are a few Georgian restaurants here now that I want to try, if for no other reason than being able to eat a khachapuri that I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:57 AM
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Yeah no drugs or poverty in Mexico. Last time I checked, nobody was discovering sacks full of human heads in elementary school playgrounds in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:34 AM
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The Washington Post had an article the other day about Georgian women and chess; it was really interesting. You people have one of my favorite cuisines of all time. I only allow myself to make khachapuri once every six months or so, but we keep a jar of adzhika in the fridge at all times for general daubing purposes, and for eating by the spoonful in emergencies. Mr. Bradley is addicted to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:33 AM
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What, exactly, did you see of the 1980s, I wonder?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 12:16 AM
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No I get your intent just fine. I dispute the idea that the standard high school or college curriculum is so rigorous and demanding that it will turn any boy subjected to it into a humorless grind. Or that the majority of boys need to be explicitly taught how to talk to girls or have a social life. A lot of guys are extroverted and learn how to do this stuff because they enjoy doing it and are naturally good at it. They enjoy teasing girls. They enjoy going to parties. They don't need to learn h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 10:42 PM
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Contrast to white-Protestant America men and women are raised to avoid each other and be studious (but usually in useless skills like theoretical algebra, morality, religion, english essay writing etc). I can tell you right now that the past howevermany years of reading people's shit on Reddit is the most flagrant demonstration of the utility of learning how to actually write an essay that anybody could ever hope for. The vast majority of people here did not have English or history teachers blee…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 10:37 PM
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Most women were getting married by late teens and early 20s well into the 1990s. lolololol made-up untrue bullshit "history" The 1950s were a wildly anomalous blip in the history of US marriage. And do you really want to go back to that? Do you think that the vast majority of American men want to go back to being married by age 23? They didn't like it even back then, why do you think the sexual revolution happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 07:04 PM
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"yet"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 10:01 PM
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"Shallow," everybody is shallow. "Compassionate?" You think that because you were willing to fuck this woman but she wasn't willing to fuck you, you are "compassionate?" When men en masse make career shifts into positions such as nursing, teaching, childcare, home health aide, social work, or literally any field that provides in-person, hands-on care for other humans; when men start providing all the hours and staffing at soup kitchens and homeless shelters and animal rescues and food pantries, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 09:49 PM
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The fact that the first bunch of comments on your other OP are by a bunch of guys who either want to be history professors or who think that history professor sounds like a good job should tell you that none of those people have the slightest idea of what they are talking about and you shouldn't trust a word they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 06:54 PM
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"us wives/gfs"????? You are a man.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 08:03 PM
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Dude you are fine. You can easily wait five years, meet a cute 22 year old, date her for a few years, get engaged, get married when you are 30, and she will be over the moon for you. You are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 03:45 AM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 03:44 AM
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Stretched ears?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 03:25 AM
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You’re still in your 20s, right? You have nothing to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 03:25 AM
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A. “Divorce rates” are not all that high, they have been falling for decades B. You don’t seem to know much about what it is like to be married to someone for 10 or 20 or 30 years. Life can smack you around in middle age in ways that never even would have occurred to you in your early 20s. I know that the manosphere trope is that women get frivorced because they are not haaaaaaaaaapy or were never really attracted to their husbands but this is a stupidly simplistic view that does not take into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 03:23 AM
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Like the vast majority of American married women, I met and fell in love with my now husband when I was in my early 20s and had absolutely zero reason to compromise on anything at all. And, in fact, I did not compromise on anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 01:15 AM
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How does not being married by the state make your children illegitimate? It is literally the definition of "illegitimate." This is like asking "How does not going to med school or being licensed as a physician make you not a doctor?" You can still have a ceremony outside of a state sponsored marriage. Yeah, if you want some made-up ceremony. There are zero mainstream religions that will perform a wedding ceremony without the attendant government requirements being fulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 10:53 PM
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I was MatthewRidgway for a while; I want to say that I tried MarkClark but it was already taken
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 10:51 PM
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Oh my God I hadn't heard about your dad and I am so so sorry. Thinking of you. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 10:30 PM
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It predates the 1800s by a factor of way, I think the first recorded use was 14th century.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:12 PM
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Oh sorry. I was referring to college students in particular remark and then started referring to early 20s people, I can see how that would be confusing!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 01:56 PM
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You are imputing things to me that I never said. I didn’t say “unemployed,” I said “working a shitty job,” which is what most people, men and women, do in their early 20s. They work at jobs that could not support a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:55 AM
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Not everybody is down with having illegitimate children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:47 AM
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I don’t know how to make this any clearer. No, not hookup culture. Regular young men and women dating in their early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:40 AM
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It is not 1918 anymore and the US at least no longer needs low IQ dimwits to fill out ranks of cannon fodder. One of the main arguments for getting rid of Selective Service altogether is that an ever increasing percentage of the population (around 47% last time I looked, about five years ago) isn’t fit to serve for reasons physical, cognitive, or behavioral. These days you need to be pretty on the ball to enlist in the military. They don’t want idiot fuckups.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:23 AM
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I am referring to normal people in middle America, where girls meet boyfriends in college (not in feats, just regular college) and eventually marry them, or not. I used to live five miles from an okay local branch of a middling state university system and saw this literally all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:18 AM
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I am not talking about marriage. There are loads of guys out there with shitty or no jobs who have girlfriends; it is the norm to have a shitty underpaid job in your early 20s and women that age who date age mates, which is most of them, have no expectation that a man her age should be a provider. In the past, though, these men would not have had wives yet, and girlfriends didn’t exist. Now they can have a girlfriend that they fuck and do not financially support and effectively take her out of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:01 AM
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That is not actually an ad hom You think that women (or couples) choose sperm donors by walking through the mall and musing “Hmmm that fellow looks like the type with whom I should like to breed?” I am pretty sure that is not how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 01:52 AM
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It's a good thing that I didn't use it as a source, then, isn't it? Your source, on the other hand, is by a respected scholar of medieval Europe (although she is no David Herlihy). However, she doesn't address the fact that during the middle ages the concept of "marriage" was bifurcated between physical consummation and the church blessing: an unconsummated marriage was no marriage at all, whereas consummation and consent of both parties could enact a marriage in the eyes of the Church even with…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 09:18 PM
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Your source refers to approved marriages, not arranged marriages. There is a big difference and I never claimed that parents did not have to approve of a girl’s suitor, indeed, the whole premise of my original comment was that modern day losers would not have been approved of by anybody’s parents, even 100 years ago. Russia is not now and never has been a Western country. I referenced the novel, as I said, not the film, and as an illustration, not a source. Are you aware that it was a novel befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 08:05 PM
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How many times do you think you can copy and paste this response before your OP is nuked for bad faith and shitty participation?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 07:28 PM
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Oh you mean go through a hugely inconvenient and physically uncomfortable process and then know that some weirdo who thinks this: "she's really a good breeding specimen, I wish I could have her eggs and then have kids with her dna". is out there raising my child? Possibly my daughter? Wow sounds great what woman wouldn't jump at the chance
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 06:30 PM
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No Western culture has ever had arranged marriages in the sense that Eastern cultures did and do. I will allow that in some Mediterranean societies fathers exercised more choice over who their daughters married than was common in the Anglosphere, but even in those cultures that was more common among the aristocracy than it was among regular people. The novel The Godfather gives a good precis of this, when Michael falls in love with Apollonia while in Sicily. He knows that he has to pass muster w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 04:53 PM
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I would argue that women's standards - or at least society's standards for men - have declined hugely. There is no expectation today that a man should be able to support a family before marriage, there is not even an expectation that a man should be able to support himself before having a relationship with a young woman whereby he removes her from the dating marketplace with absolutely no promise that he will ever marry her. Standards for physical attraction may have risen, but that goes both wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:41 PM
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Well in the West, non-royal women have always selected their husbands from the peers that their parents provide for them; this is just as "traditional" as some non-western society where women are bought and sold (and where, as you say, women were not handed over to nonfunctional nonrespectworthy men). It drives me nuts when people here say "tradition" and what they really mean is "non-Western tradition."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:39 PM
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I submit that the internet has been poison for modern-day low tier men. A hundred or two hundred years ago, a significant fraction of them would have learned a trade or gotten a farm and been able to comport themselves well enough to get a wife; these days they have lost all their gumption and drive and don't see the point in learning how to at least meet the minimum socialization requirements necessary to talk to their peers. If what they mean by thinking they would have had it better in the pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 03:07 PM
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The paradox is that a lot of lower-tier men say they pine for the days of enforced monogamy, What these lower-tier men do not understand is that 100 or 150 years ago, they would have been just as left out as they are now. Fathers didn't hand their daughters over to whatever man happened to wander by. A regular normal middle class young woman had multiple suitors courting her once she was of age to be married, and every one of those young men had to prove himself to the girl's father as a worthy …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 02:30 PM
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I don't think that her definition of what a "good time" was has any overlap at all with the 2020 definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 02:28 PM
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What the actual fuck Reinhard Heydrich is a good example of a man with wide hips. I can't speak to whether or not he had manboobs. Of course men with weirdly wide hips have always existed. What the hell kind of made-up history rabbithole are you trying to follow?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 04:26 PM
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"I believe" "I think" "I believe" Why should anybody credit your stated "beliefs" that you have offered not a shred of evidence for? What is your basis for your "belief" that physical labor required for subsistence and a diet lacking in many major micronutrients will produce the same kind of body as a 2020 Crossfit mom who lives on salads and protein shakes?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 04:16 PM
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Here is a picture of my great grandmother. She lived on a subsistence farm, worked hard, ate only seasonal foods. She was not athletic or muscular with wide shoulders and a flat chest. There is a big difference between Crossfit and made-up athletic video game girls and people who do actual manual labor. The point of farm labor was to get the farm work done, not to sculpt a certain kind of physique. When my grandmother was alive she told once that women in the past did not had cellullite and if s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 04:12 PM
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What is there to discuss here? Where is the question? Why isn't this on askTRP?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 02:45 PM
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They held themselves out as married. He used his last name to refer to her, for God’s sake. In every place that has common law marriage, this is what gets you there. If you don’t want to wake up and find yourself common law married, maybe don’t refer to your girlfriend using your last name. Jesus Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 01:11 AM
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I have no idea what you are trying to prove
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 08:48 PM
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???
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 07:47 PM
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Last I checked, Los Angeles was not a state.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 06:12 PM
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You never saw homeless people while you were living on Oahu????? I have only been there a little bit, to-ing and fro-ing from Waikiki to Camp Smith, and even I saw an absolute shit ton of homeless people, tent cities on the way from the airport to the hotel, homeless people all over the place on the other side of the canal, homeless people living in the parking lot of the Starbucks where I stopped to get a bottle of water. The numbers were staggering and prompted me to do a lot of reading on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 04:35 PM
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