OmegaPtype Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Who else? Words. Matter. Beware of the many “you(s)” as well, you are probably this or that — you have done this or that — you… or my… there are times that these words matter greatly as they reflect entitlement/ownership/deflection.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/23 01:31 AM
3	Is there a scientific or evolutionary reason so many women are so negative towards their husbands after kids? Um, nope. Not going to raise my daughter with that nonsense. Yes, the dynamic between man and woman and marriage and relationships has changed significantly with INDUSTRIALIZATION and the global economies AND moreover tainted by Western ROMANTICISM surrounding relationships and love…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/23 12:00 AM
1	How do I stop caring what she thinks? Oh yes, 100% — somebody asked me if I still held “love” for the Ex… fuck no!!! After everything, yes it is indeed sad, but FUCK NO… the person through the divorce process has proven why the relationship was always dead. Whatever love existed has been torched, engulfed, desecrated and done to an ‘ash-y crisp’. Let us move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/23 08:55 PM
1	How do I stop caring what she thinks? Excellent advice — I did NOT stay clear away from the alcohol… 7 months sober and divorce finalized. Yet, the nightmare goes on… a lot easier w/o giving away free ammunition; the absurdity around alcohol leaves you MORE depressed/anxious. There are better ways to cope (absolutely zero judgements for those that drink or for those who struggled or struggle like I once did…) Stay strong Brothers!	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/23 08:51 PM
2	Did Anyone Else Divorce a Slob? Yo — you are not ALONE! We are not alone — your ex, my ex — cut from the same ‘cloth’ … divorced finalized in May this year… still no overnights with the kid (going to have to go back to court, 3rd time…?) these covert narcissists are the worst. E.I.P. — emotionally immature person— you CANNOT hold a conversation with them — they will leave you with ‘brain scramble’ — don’t worry there is NOTHING you did wrong except for marrying and carrying such people. Stay strong!	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/23 04:21 PM
4	Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready. Been there Warrior… stopped drinking 7 months ago… stopped before the divorce finalized — drank near daily for two years with the ‘habit’ trying to escape the nightmare. Drinking just made the nightmares worse… and tough to meet anyone or do anything with non-stop hangovers… everything is better without the booze…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/23 07:23 PM
4	Does Everyone Hate Their Ex? Honestly, that is where most of my anger lies… inwards. So many red flags, but this victim blaming won’t help — you live & learn through it. The OP has a lot of “I” statements. Perhaps those in here were stuck in relationships with emotionally immature partners — impossible to deal with. Hard to achieve Buddha levels of forgiveness…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/23 10:11 PM
1	Thousands of dollars to the trash just because she wanted out Yup, that summed up “my wife” in a perfect nutshell. Absolutely no need, except she felt the judge needed to hear how “terrible” I am…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/23 02:33 AM
1	Thousands of dollars to the trash just because she wanted out Duh… it was a good one though… or marriage insurance? Keep the scam going…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/23 02:30 AM
3	Divorce - If you had to do it all over again Amen and keep preaching it brother. I’m slowly coming to this realization. Unfortunately, freedom has its price. And it is worth it. Times will be tough, but with decent management things will eventually settle. Besides death comes for us all if your in America one health issue will wipe out anything you got anyways… The mental and emotional cost far outweighs the almighty pursuit of greenbacks. Grey-rock — is the way and moving on. They sucked. Don’t fall for the trap of fearing being alone — t…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/23 12:08 AM
1	It’s said that a married man dies twice: a physical death, and a death by 1000 concessions? What did you give up during your marriage? 2 empty shells here…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/23 01:56 AM
1	I'm losing the only family I have. I can't afford therapy and don't have anyone, while she has a great family to support her. Honestly, thinking of ending it. Yup — I thought the same. That expletive would probably just smile over my dead body and whisper ‘Yes!’ … true revenge would be doing crunches and starting an Instagram account littered with ‘Kittens’ in Bikinis updated weekly. I sure do love ‘Kittens’ — just got to be smarter next time around and take one in with fleas…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/23 08:55 PM
1	I'm losing the only family I have. I can't afford therapy and don't have anyone, while she has a great family to support her. Honestly, thinking of ending it. I understand what you are saying… but, I must disagree slightly. It is time for OP to ‘put on the oxygen mask, first’ — his kids will always be there, they will always be his kids no matter the narrative. I suffered greatly with this as my wife has done everything to destroy my relationship with my daughter— the absolute truth is: not your wife, not the judge, nor GOD herself can or ever will change the fact that you are those kids father, I am my daughters father. Nothing will EVER negate that …	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/23 08:51 PM
1	I need a hobby for the 50% I don't have my son Karate or Kung-Fu…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/23 04:05 AM
3	It turns out my now ex-wife was emailing everyone in my family throughout the divorce and they're so poisoned I've had to estrange myself from them Oh fuck — wasn’t even planning on posting — yup, my wife sucked in the ENTIRE network of family & friends — sibling wouldn’t stop interfering, dad (step) is having continuous phone conversations, wtf? — Loyalty means nothing? Meanwhile wife is knifing me in the back using the kid as an object for negotiation in the divorce… Ditto on the co-dependency white-knighting b.s. — ‘empathy fatigue-compassion fatigue’ leaves you exhausted. Defamation is hard to prove and I too wish I could do the same. B…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/23 05:13 AM
3	Happy Valentine’s Day Brothers I can’t tell if this is fiction or not. Either way, sending you a virtual hug.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/23 03:17 PM
1	The worse mistake I ever made in life “Incel” is abbreviated for ‘involuntary celibacy’ - no need to over extrapolate its definition. People who would love to have sex, but lack the ability to procure their desired partner.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/02/23 02:32 AM
1	Well, it was finally said, the d-word Another word for : “love interest, lover”.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/23 12:56 AM
1	Divorce with kids is just miserable and I am unsure how to handle it Haven’t had overnights in 3 and half months. Apparently, I am a ‘raging’ alcoholic and can’t be trusted. Never mind that the separation hasn’t been an emotional and mental nightmare - anyways I’m on day 16 without booze. I ain’t going to let that be the narrative. I have been in denial that the person I married truly loved me and was a reasonable adult. Nope, just pure vitriol and zero accountability for what led the BOTH of US here. Stay strong - we may become estranged from our children, but t…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/23 08:32 PM
1	Divorce with kids is just miserable and I am unsure how to handle it Exactly this - STBXW, is making it in to some sort of competition. Do I really want to track receipts for Futsal, shoes, jersey, league fees? 120$ - for fuck’s sake - am I going to chase $60 down for a thing that my child needed. It becomes petty real quick and the real harm always trickles down to the kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/23 07:47 PM
2	Divorce with kids is just miserable and I am unsure how to handle it This is the truth. Our trial is in March and my wife won’t allow me to see my kid, but constantly tells me that it is important for our kid to have a father in her life…? Just like this person said, years of people pleasing left me with Zero boundaries. These vindictive women are the worst. I am trying to not be a cliche of a divorced father.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/23 05:03 PM
11	If you have found, much better women after divorce, where? Yes, I fcking hate that shite platitude: ‘Happy wife happy, happy life’ - go fck off! What a setup for a sweet life of gaslighting, invalidation, and codependency.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 10:00 PM
2	/r/Divorce_Women is dead but why? Amen, I haven’t even finalized my divorce and my step-dad is asking me about getting married again - like ? What, what the fuck for - ain’t going to have any more kids. And I ain’t going to do paperwork that fucks my finances up, emotional and mental health ever again. Marriage is a fun play space for emotional abuse - no one is physically bruised, but you sure can shred someone just the same inside-out.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/23 08:58 PM
1	/r/Divorce_Women is dead but why? Yup, we all have encountered them, “hr never gave a shit about the kids, never provided child support, and they are all very, very bitter even years later… now that I am experiencing some crazy ass shit that my wife is pulling during our divorce, especially with the alienation of my teenage daughter, I wonder if their men were truly shit - or simply driven away.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/23 08:55 PM
4	I want a divorce. When did you all realize that divorce was your best option to move on in your life? Holy shit - mine said that to me… amongst other horrible things: “Why don’t you grow some balls and divorce me…?” Well, I guess I finally grew some. She is furious - funny how that works. Delusional is certainly one word one could use.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/23 02:30 AM
2	i feel like a prey. question regarding assets Amen, brother - I tried all those things you mentioned - any act of kindness is perceived as weakness. Marriage is truly a scam.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/23 10:20 PM
3	Reminder: Wait at least one year after Divorce before dating. Sometimes information like this comes along too late - we fell in to the trap not because we wanted to, but we had not yet realized the warnings written which were 100% TRUE, all of it. If you fell in to the trap - dust yourself off and remember that rebound relationships never work.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/01/23 07:17 AM
6	Female Nature: Never take responsibility Mine looked at me with a blank stare. A truly blank stare. As if were I staring at God’s pure perfection in her and me? Mud. She was listening to mud with lips and language. Well, that is fun (it is not) till it really becomes NOT FUN.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/23 06:02 AM
17	Female Nature: Never take responsibility Oh, she employed, “flying monkies” - bad enough she would do it alone let alone employing others to the false narrative. Welcome to club. This club sucks.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/23 05:59 AM
8	Female Nature: Never take responsibility Looks like we married the same woman. Conflict resolution, nevermind that, always my fault 100%, apologizing as if it mattered. Take the blame, or not, end result just the same. It is the disney version of ‘Beauty vs. the Beast’ - take a guess who comprises the role of ‘beast’ …	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/23 05:56 AM
1	Need Suggestions on How to Address My Children's Unhappiness During Legal Dispute with My ex Wife. We don’t (endure) - we drink, crumble, and then rebuild with whatever pieces are left.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/23 07:05 PM
27	Men, Marriage and Michelle Obama For starters no more silly “Happy Wife, Happy Life” b.s. -always hated that. Super dismissive of 1/2 of the equation.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/22 03:42 AM
5	For those men that filed first, what was the final straw? The double standard: she left me and everyone told me it was okay! They asked what I was going to do to get her back! She left me!	/r/Divorce_Men	09/12/22 09:47 AM
2	Dating post-divorce My snuggle variety cat passed. The darn thing was like a dog - it followed me everywhere in the house. ALWAYS - by my side… R.I.P. ‘Oreo’	/r/Divorce_Men	03/12/22 12:28 AM
2	Shes going to vegas all of the sudden. Um, yup - nearly two grueling years here.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/22 09:40 AM
1	My ex would say things like “the way you’re talking to me is very Alpha male and coming across negative” when does doing things for my son become negative? Me too? (No downvotes please, not challenging the movement)	/r/Divorce_Men	27/11/22 03:27 AM
5	My ex would say things like “the way you’re talking to me is very Alpha male and coming across negative” when does doing things for my son become negative? THIS. Is not a hypothetical-they will chop your heads off, then go for the gonads and ask why you be so crazy? Put the axe down and I may try to share?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/11/22 03:26 AM
4	How I let a woman destroy my life - 41m. Young men: Do not ever get married. Or my STBXW, these are scorched earth type of woman. They don’t give a Fuck about coming out of the divorce cleanly. Just constant mind-fucks and insults whenever possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/11/22 10:31 PM
1	dealing with wife while preparing to drop the bomb... Wow, and here I thought it was just me - solely going through this. I thought was alone. Counseling was the opportunity for a total stranger we got to pay money for so they could listen to my wife tell them how much I sucked. Forget about her, she is being transcended without fault. Me, an asshole. It seems to validate the person who lacks the ability to communicate to begin with- they wont acknowledge it.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/22 02:58 AM
4	No More Mr. Nice Guy I think I need to read that book. I put up with so much that resentment definitely built up until it became too much.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/22 01:00 AM