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| 9 | When we were married, she had nothing to say to me. Now that we're divorced and co-parenting, she won't shut up and leave me alone. Make it make sense!She found out the options she thought she had only wanted her for one night. Most of them will not have the patience or desire to deal with her shit and still be safe and commit long term. She wants to keep her tantacles on you for backup. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 07:49 PM |
| 3 | Dude the numbers aren’t adding up. Whole lot of married men.Most women never get caught because the men they are cheating with stay in their lane, enjoy the sex and keep quiet. Most men only find out by snooping through their wives messages and that's if she was careless enough to leave any trace. Women can have affairs for years and never get caught. The side dude plays his part and never tries to become the main guy. And if they didn't know she was taken, they stop and move on quietly. Telling the other man can be dangerous as you don't know how he wou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/26 09:47 PM |
| 12 | I knew this would be tough. But to see her immediately with another man…This is how you know you made the right choice to leave. You were sharing her with him the entire time you were trying to reconcile. Use this as the validation that you did the right thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/26 10:09 PM |
| 2 | She is insinuating things that never happened. Not sure how to respond.They can never be the villain in the story. If the relationship broke down cus she cheated, it was because you were a bad partner and the relationship was was destined to fail already. Her cheater was just a footnote. Not the cause. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 09:50 PM |
| 5 | She is insinuating things that never happened. Not sure how to respond.If she's bad-mouthing you and playing the victim, all bets are off. They need to learn that their mother is a cheating whore and try their best not to repeat your mistakes when picking a partner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 09:46 PM |
| 4 | Married for 10 years and confronted four times in the last two months when I found my wife cheating. I don't know.Dude she has absolutely no respect for you. Rest assured this guy is the only one you know about. There were several others. And if you stay, there will be several others more. It's only happened because she opened the door for it. She pursued him most likely. I'm sorry you picked wrong, but Be thankful you don't have any children with this woman. And go and find yourself a woman who understands what loyalty and respect is. Return this one to the streets where she belongs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 01:11 AM |
| 3 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainDon't bother checking her phone bro. You don't need more detail to deepen your trauma. TRUST ME! Know that they've been fucking, maybe even before she got to Spain. She wouldn't throw everything away just for a summer fling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 03:03 PM |
| 5 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainOP - please listen to this guy. Right now she's 1000s steps ahead of you. Everything she does is calculated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 02:57 PM |
| 9 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainBoy is she about to give you the surprise of your lifetime! With that mentality, seems you still trust her. You're doomed! I doubt she randomly decided to move to Spain. Got a job in a short time and then moved? Nothing made her want to choose Spain? As you dig, you'll find out her new guy been in the picture much longer, and the relationship has been well under way under your nose for a while. The whole Spain thing was probably their plan. She you're just a supporting cast in her plans. Your jo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Dating was awesome, Wedding was unbelievably fun. But being married was brutally awful. I’m often sad by how it ended. But I don’t *miss* it. Ever.Very well put. It's not a mistake. A mistake is him calling her and she accidentally picking up and staying on the phone too long instead of cutting it off and blocking him. She had a thousand opportunities to say no. She made conscious decisions. And in my experience, women who cheat are actually intentional about it. Mine made plans and begged homeboy to come over to her house multiple times. talking about "I just wanted to be friends ". Lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/26 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Dating was awesome, Wedding was unbelievably fun. But being married was brutally awful. I’m often sad by how it ended. But I don’t *miss* it. Ever.Mine pressured me too. Giving me ultimatums of marriage. The entire time she was giving ultimatums and I was running around ring shopping to make her happy, she was getting fucked and sucking dick for fun. What I've realized is this: marriage is a checkbox for most women. They need to feel "chosen" by a certain age so they don't feel like a loser to their friends and society. It has nothing to do with the man! You're just the guy that's gonna help her tick the box. The moment she pressures you, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/26 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Questions about the affairJust leave now. Save yourself from vivid details save yourself the trauma. When a woman cheats on you, she loses all respect for you first. She'll never respect you again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/26 10:45 PM |
| 3 | Ex Wanting IntimacyExactly. So it's not only because she's horny. She likely found out the other guy isn't better. So she wants to hold onto the old branch. If she was just horny, I bet she had several other options for dick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 11:43 AM |
| 9 | Ex Wanting IntimacyWomen can literally walk on the street and get dick anytime they want. There's always an ulterior motive if she's offering! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 02:04 AM |
| 17 | Ex Wanting IntimacyWomen use sex as a manipulation tool. It's their number one weapon. If you can enjoy the sex without getting attached, them you can enjoy yourself. If you're easily attached, run fast! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 02:02 AM |
| 5 | Wife left, got pregnant, now wants to come home.Dude, she's pregnant with another man's child! Why would you offer her to come "home"? This is not a child she had before you met her. She tried TWICE to monkey branch to someone she thinks would be better for her and it's clearly not working out the way she hoped! Rest assured she'd been cheating and looking elsewhere the entire time . That pregnancy could have happened the first time she moved out of at any point when she was living with you. She doesn't want you or your kids and is only with … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 02:31 PM |
| 20 | I supported her and sacrificed my own progress for 10 years for nothing.They don't care whatever you do for them. I've never seen a man invest in his woman and not regret it. Including my own mother. My wife told her affair partner he's the reason she was able to start the business we started together. Apparently he motivated her and believed in her! She was complaining I never take her on vacation dates while begging him to go on vacation with her and offered to paid for all their dates. THEY DONT GIVE A FUCK WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM! Focus on yourself! Always! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/26 12:31 AM |
| 4 | Ex will be moving two blocks awayBecause women are vindictive! She might no even need the money, but she needs to squeeze everything she can to hurt you. The kids are collateral damage! Mine wants to sell the house. I said no need, I'll buy her out instead, and now she's having second thoughts. She has accused me of abusing my painkillers (I have a chronic illness) and drive my kids around while high and drunk. I'm sure this is her setting up for parental alienation and a custody battle as she has threatened to never let me see… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/26 03:02 PM |
| 3 | What is the occupation of your STBXW or Ex-Wife?There's just something about the nurses. Apparently they've seen enough people dying that they're numb to live and consequence of their actions. Who cares if we all end up dead anyway. Mine, SIL, their friends, some of my friends, all nurses. They all cheat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 03:42 AM |
| 9 | Was there ever love?Women don't marry for love. They marry for safety. They need to secure the good guy who will be a good dad first. Then They can get their love on the side. The one that blows their mind. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 08:47 PM |
| 20 | Holy smokesIf you want to get a good picture of women's mentality, Take a trip down the "waiting to wed" sub where you'll hear them complain about their boyfriend being afraid of commitment and how they been waiting too long for their boyfriend. And their boyfriend is a boy and not a man and not ready to grow up. Then go to the "marriage" sub and learn how women never benefit from marriage and they are being manipulated to get married so men can take advantage of them with their generous free unpaid labour… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 08:29 PM |
| 5 | Holy smokesThey post pictures of themselves in that subreddit to get validation on how great they look. As if that got anything to do with why they're divorced 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 08:17 PM |
| 47 | Holy smokesThey all swear fthey're living their best life and divorce was the best decision ever lol. One thing about men, we tend to be blunt and honest with each other. Women would never admit she's miserable ever. Always living their best life. Girl power, strong independent women lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 02:42 AM |
| 14 | Four years out of winning my divorce and I cannot find peace.Vasectomies are reversible. So you can always decide if you want more children. If you approach women with the attitude you've shared here, none are going to want to be around you. You need to get into some therapy and heal that wound and leave the past behind, move forward! There a plenty women who don't want kids. Having a vasectomy is not a deal breaker. Please stop making your entire self worth revolve around women. The right woman will come along once you stop making it a focus. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 10:42 PM |
| 13 | Everytime I get my daughter (3) she tells me about ex wife’s new bfShe had a new guy sleeping with her the night she moved out. Women can walk out anytime of the dag and get a guy to sleep with her at her house lol. Means nothing. A decent guy that's gonna stay and willing to put up with everything you dealth with ? Slim Chances. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/26 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Not divorced yet, but getting tired of playing the marriage game…Women don't care about the circumstances. It would require them to look at the full picture! Their emotions won't allow for that. They care about the NOW! And how they feel at that moment. And it doesn't matter whether they're 20 or 50. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/26 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Not divorced yet, but getting tired of playing the marriage game…Women don't respond to men that make it their mission to win them. It only showsbher that you have no options. She's dangling a carrot in front of you and you keep chasing it. This dynamic will never change. Because she knows you're desperate. Stop chasing her, focus on yourself. She's optional. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/26 02:46 PM |
| 2 | All I see for the future is darkness.Do not despair. It's a hard road ahead but your kids need you to stay strong and be there for them. From my experience and what I've seen of divorces, the woman is generally excited to be free and live her life. She's most likely like this because she's been thinking about it and planning for a while, emotionally disconnecting and probably lining up a few candidates to monkey branch to. So right now she's excited for the future and already discarded you because she has options lined up. However … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/26 04:02 PM |
| 11 | 38M high-earning professional in a long marriage with 2 young kids — planning to initiate divorce but drowning in guiltIf there's no infidelity on her part why are you leaving your young kids? And planning to only see them 20% of the time? Have you tried resolving whatever issue made you disconnect? Therapy/counseling? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/26 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Dating After Divorce With Kids… Am I Being Too Cautious?Do not fall into this trap and fall into the pressure! Once she gets it, she will never be happy. Because you're not who she really wants. She just wanted a wedding by a certain age. She might not even like you truly. Her end goal is marriage. And you might just be the first guy she thinks is most likely to propose. She's on a timeline. And that's all that matters to her. The person doesn't really matter. Don't fall for it. If she only wants you, she won't be pressuring you into marriage. Becaus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/26 05:15 PM |
| 5 | Let me get you UP to speed on the dating scene.Funny thing is everyone of those women is juggling multiple men and sleeping around and then have the guts to post you there lol. Stories of Women sleeping with multiple guys on the same day is not unheard of! There's a reason paternity tests exist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 10:30 PM |
| 2 | What to do when the stbxw hits the wall?It's amazing how easy they fall for the pump and dump. Do they actually think the any serious guy is going to take them for anything other than a fun time knowing full well they are cheating on their man? Makes you realize, logic is never part of that equation! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 08:22 PM |
| 26 | How often do they come back?You're 28, kicking off new career, no kids! Unfortunately you still have some attachment to her. I would get into therapy and work through that. Your life is about to get infinitely better and you don't want the memories of her to hold you back. Please work on detaching asap. You are about to enter your prime years. Learn how to find , assess and pick better partners. I wish I were in your shoes and could start from scratch! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 03:13 PM |
| 7 | Do you still love her and think of her?Do not fall into the trap. All those tears ? That's manipulation and they are masters at it. She can come from spending the night with her new man and come to you and be all teary sentimental and loving. Please don't fall for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Torn between saving my marriage and walking away — I feel completely lostI'm exactly in your shoes. 3yo + 6month old son. Married 4. She had a 5 year affair before we got married. I discovered after we had kids. If she did it once she will do it again. She only wants to rebuild cus she got caught and doest want to look like the bad guy and the reason for the divorce. She was ok with proceeding as long as her cheating stayed hidden and she could've blamed you for the divorce. She's just going to get better at hiding her next affair! Let her go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/26 12:23 AM |
| 5 | Well this a new one, wife tried to hire someone to kill me.What the fuck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/26 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfThat's a recipe for her to use him even more. They are emotional beings but they're also very calculated. She still want to go on dates and have fun because she wants too keep him hooked. She wants to be separated, free to date others, while giving him crumbs and have him stay around for when she's done trying it with the new guy and finds out he doesn't want her for more than bedroom fun. Then she can come back and say I've thought it through and I don't want a divorce anymore, let's work on ou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfThink he meant monkey branch | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 12:25 PM |
| 7 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfYou'll never make a woman like that happy my friend. Problem is you're trying really hard to make her happy and nothing is enough because she herself doesn't know what makes her happy. She thinks the next bathroom remodel will make her happy, maybe the next car, or the next purse, or the new deck, or a new vacation, or a new man. I'm sure you're devastated. Remember it's better you cut your losses now than 10 years later. She's probably got eyes on a new guy who is not a "buzzkill" and has been … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 04:01 AM |
| 4 | I’m a 54 year old divorced man and I’m looking to date but each time I try I only attract women who don’t look attractive why is this?At your current life stage you still haven't figured out there's more to human beings than just looks? Also You may be hanging out in the wrong crowd if no one in vicinity is your cup of tea. Try switching it up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/26 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Breakup, first relationship after divorceI disagree with this. I made the mistake of overlooking certain things like heavy drinking and blatant disrespect. Years down the road, repeated cheating and blames it all on alcohol. If it's 6 months into the relationship, he's only just starting to see the real her. Do not tolerate disrespect ever and especially at this stage. drinking until you start disrespecting your significant other is a clear sign of someone who has a serious drinking problem, lacks self control and impulsivity. You need… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Wife just asked to end our marriageI understand you're going through the shock now and can't believe the life you imagined and planned for is not panning out. Take the time to grieve this relationship and this dream life but know there's no such thing as a "normal" life. We all follow our own paths, some with some craters in the middle of the journey. It doesn't mean you are a failure. You only picked wrong. And from the look of things on this sub, you are not the only one with a shit picker. After you're done grieving, you're go… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Ex wifeYou mean you haven't had sex since your divorce or is sex with her so good that no other girl has measured up since? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Has anyone had a successful reconciliation? HelpYou made the wrong decision getting back with her. Everytime she brought separation up, it was because there was someone else. She only comes back to you when that new person has had his fun and doesn't want her long term. Then she comes back to you , her safety net. She's been cheating on you! You just don't know. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/26 04:55 PM |
| 10 | DivorceYou actually need to report this to the cops and start documenting and recording these things. If she's this unhinged this early, she'll get worse once she's served and you actually go through with it. In her mind you are the asshole for abandoning her. She can't be the only bad person in this story so she'll do whatever it takes to get a reaction out of you and paint you as the bad person. You didn't hold her legs open during her sexcapades. She did it all on her own. Time for consequences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/26 02:17 AM |
| 11 | What were the signs you wished you paid more attention to?1) Big signs is her surroundings/upbringing If her family behave in a certain way, if her friends behave in a certain, do not believe she's different no matter what front she puts in front of you. If they are alcoholics, she's sure to abuse alcohol If they cheat, she definitely cheats, If they lie and manipulate, she lies and manipulates. She may even come to you to complaint about their behavior pretending to be different, rest assured, she's doing the very same or worse. 2) if she irrational a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 02:00 AM |
| 4 | Gave her a 2nd shot. Blew up in my face. Once a cheaterShe was most likely cheating the entire marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Why will you never have the chance to again?:are you having health issues that prevent you from having sex? Or you don't think you'll ever be desirable again ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 01:15 PM |
| 13 | She wants more Child support because my new wife workLol this is insane. If she cant handle the kid financially, why can't she let the kid live with you? After all it should be about the best interest of the kid! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/26 03:42 PM |
| 19 | Want a divorce but want to keep the last name of the husbandYou're worried about the wrong things lol. Who cares what name she has? Shes no longer your problem. Don't lose sleep over it. Sometimes people want the same last name as their kids so they can travel easily. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/26 02:39 PM |
| 20 | This is a post from divorced women page… you can’t make this shit up. I will never marry againThe funniest part of all this , I will bet all my money that she was the one pressuring him to get married and probably complaining to her family and friends about how he didn't want to commit and marry her and he was wasting her time. Probably even dropped a post in the waiting_to_wed subreddit. Who wants to bet with me? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/26 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Lack of accountabilityThe next shiny thing is insanely accurate. Nothing satisfies mine long term, house, car, job, vacations destinations, bread, lotion, shower gel, coffee machine, after a while she just got to switch it up no matter how great that thing was. I started wondering how come she's been able to stick with me so long but nothing else........jokes on me, she didn't stick with me, she just kept me along while she switched it up😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/26 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Lack of accountabilityThis reality needs to be taugjt in high school lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/26 11:06 PM |
| 5 | Finally free!Common theme I've noticed reading this forum, women tend to marry for safety and convenience while keeping the love of their life in their back pocket to revisit whenever they feel they are safe enough. Husband is rarely the love of their life. Just the sucker that proposed | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/26 07:31 PM |
| 6 | 53M. Married 26 years. Found out she never really loved me. Trying to understand how I stayed.Wow. I think you're living every man's biggest fear. No man wants to realize they weren't really their wife's first choice. That she'd rather be in the arms of another guy if you weren't too convenient to pass up. I too found this out 36 yo, that she was out begging for another to be with her while I was driving around town searching for her perfect engagement ring. I've seen this in women around me. Shes not going to change and suddenly love you. You never did pull her strings the way she likes… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/26 09:38 PM |
| 11 | Wife Said We Are IncompatibleDon't let her threaten you twice. Women rarely leave to go be single. Something/someone is tempting her to leave and you're standing in her way. Let her go find out. Do not be there when she comes back! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/26 07:24 PM |
| 1 | The audacity...She has zero decency and doesn't even care about her children's safety. It's only been 3 months and she's bringing this guy around? She's either irresponsible or she's been fucking him for a while. Unfortunately your kids are gonna have to see her bringing a revolving door of men. Obviously she doesnt care to set a good example to her own kids. I feel sorry for your kids. Unfortunately you're gonna have to be the reasonable responsible adult example to your kids while she's busy getting railed b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 12:11 AM |
| 8 | On vacation feeling emptyIt's never your fault. She made her own moves. No one forced her to do anything. She's just a whore who lacks accountability. Someone's else can have her. She will cheat on him too. There's nothing more disrespectful than what she did. You're much better off without her. Just be there for your son. You're gonna miss him and she'll try to poison his view of you. But if you keep being present, he'll soon realize you tried your best. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 11:03 PM |
| 9 | So are all divorced men narcissists?That's a term they use to avoid looking at their own actions. It's easier to throw that word out and play victim. Anyone uses that sentence , RUN. She'll diagnose you with NPD soon enough. About 5 out of 100 people are Narcissists. The chances of a that many women knowing actual narcissists are SLIM. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/26 02:44 PM |
| -2 | Solo surgeryYou care so little you replied twice. I fixed it for your comprehension. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/26 01:47 AM |
| 37 | “Are we Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook GroupsFacebook groups, tea app, their own friend Whatsapp groups. Funny thing is, they are also talking to dozens of men and sleeping with a few of them. They don't consider their actions cheating though. Cus the men "didn't make it official". So they are simply weighing their options. It's only men who cheat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/26 01:47 AM |
| -2 | Solo surgeryGuy literally says "wait it out until in a stable relationship" or "only date nurses". I unno but holding your surgery until getting in a relationship or dating somebody with the hope they take care of you sounds like you're looking for free labour. So basically a Nurse he can bang? Just pay for home care or book yourself a stay in a physical rehab facility. And then date whoever you want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/26 01:42 AM |
| 0 | Solo surgeryYou're looking to just use someone to care for you? I guess it's true when women say men only want a bang maid? Why don't you look into home care and see if there are any devices you can purchase to make living alone more bearable? And lean on friends? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 09:13 PM |
| 17 | How to handle an aging b*** wifeLol that's a very good question. Ok I'm curious to see his answer 😄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/26 05:01 PM |
| 16 | Can’t imagine myself ever being in a relationship againI totally understand the feeling. Your entire worth and well being as a husband and marriage satisfaction and her happiness is 100% dependent on her feelings and hormones. Facts and logic are completely irrelevant. Every sacrifice and anything you've ever done for her goes out the window the moment you don't meet one of her (not communicated) expectations. Compounded by the fact that the law is completely skewed in her favor. There is literally nothing to gain for a man. Especially one that is r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/26 01:20 PM |
| 1 | On the brink of divorce but feeling stuckHusbands job loss is a very common trigger for divorce. They cannot carry the financial burden of the relationship no matter how well meaning they are. It doesn't mean they are a bad person. They can't deal with it psychologically. So sooner or later, signs of resentment will start popping up and eventually she will lose all respect for you. You can remain her husband but she won't respect you. You could carry the relationship financially for a decade. If for one year you can't cus you lost your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/26 11:40 PM |
| 1 | On the brink of divorce but feeling stuckToo many of us with partners like this who can never be content. There's a void in her life that she's filling with material things. Just buy buy buy buy. New car , new house, new boots, new coat, new furniture, new phone, new perfume, new hair dryer and curler, new shampoo lol...... there's always something new to get. I bet you wonder how she stuck with you this long given she's not content with anything else and needs a new boost on a regular basis? Unfortunately it's very likely she hasn't s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/26 11:32 PM |
| 3 | When to you know??Once another man has touched her it's over. She's his now. Before that, she can always change her mind, though I wouldn't hold onto any hope. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/26 08:10 PM |
| 8 | Why do I keep getting pulled back in after infidelity?When they start finding faults out of nowhere, wanting space and separation, it's always because she has eyes another dude! She blames you because you have to be the villain in the story to justify her cheating. She's now realised her fancy new guy she thought was better than you only wanted her for a good time! So she wants you back, or at the very least have you available as a back up plan when he's done fucking her and is ready to return her to you. At some point you will have to accept being… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/25 05:36 PM |
| 3 | How much are you paying in alimony?This is insane! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/25 09:41 PM |
| 21 | Get Yourself TogetherHold on, sex with a bunch of random girls is what you consider success? That's not any amazing feat! Bunch of 22 year old bums are getting the same treatment lol. There's way more to life than different pussy every night. As a grown ass man, You're still basing your self worth on women. I think you need help. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/25 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Ladies be trippingAsk her to come over to discuss. You wanna prove her wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/25 01:32 PM |
| 17 | My ex claimed she ‘didn’t need sex.’ Found her on Tinder. What the hell?Women want sex just as much as men if not more. They just get bored of it in long term relationships and crave newness (new dick). She's always wanted sex. Just not with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/25 03:41 AM |
| 1 | I'm Struggling.Dude, this right here is a lifeline! You're 32 and young and your whole life ahead of you. Think of it as a blessing she revealed her true self. I wish I was in your shoes. My story is much different. She cheated for several years and strung me along for another 10 years withoit me knowing. I found out the cheating several years later after we got married , cars, kids, house, businesses. The pain is unbearable and there is no option available that doesn't ruin my kids life. I'm 37yo and everyday… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Splitting a mortgage with new wifeI don't see a problem here. They can make whatever agreement they want, but if they were to get divorced, it would be split 50/50 regardless of who makes more or contributed more. If they weren't married, then it would a different conversation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 03:06 PM |
| 1 | I made it to the other side. Here's how it went.How old are the kids and how are they adjusting? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/25 12:15 PM |
| 8 | Wife wants divorceThere is a lot going on here. Your wife isn't a great person but you aren't a saint either. She brought the wood you brought kerosene and matches. The moment you cheated, your relationship was over. She has every right to leave. Unfortunately despite everything you listed, you made a conscious decision to have sex with another person. It takes several steps of betrayal to get sex. And then you did it multiple times and hid it for a year. The fact that you say you shouldve never told her about yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/25 12:54 PM |
| 19 | Paternity FraudDo a DNA test like yesterday! Kid doesn't look like you? What are you waiting for? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/25 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife crashed date with new woman.Sounds like guy is not divorced yet and sleeping around | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 10:36 PM |
| 14 | Ex wife crashed date with new woman.Ahhh I see. So she says you are not together. But won't sign papers to make it official and won't move out and won't let you see another woman. She's doing the classic monkey branching right in front of you. In other words her AP is not committed. He's just having fun and doesn't want her long term. So she can't fully let go of you because her new branch is not safe enough. She wants you to sit and wait like a puppy until her AP has had enough of her then she can run back to you and say: Ive cut… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 04:45 PM |
| 7 | Ex wife crashed date with new woman.I'm a little confused. Isn't she (a married woman) getting fucked by a man not her husband? are you divorced or still married but separated? If you are divorced and already split assets, send her to live with her affair partner and change the locks. Not your problem she can't afford a place to stay. She should've thought about it before opening her legs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 04:27 PM |
| 6 | so glad i’m not marriedGood for you. Many more ultimatums to come. JUST RUN! if she gives an ultimatum, she just looking to tick a box on a checklist. She's not pushing marriage because she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 01:37 AM |
| 5 | so glad i’m not marriedAhhhh the marriage ultimatum. Seems it's very common. Take a trip down the waiting_to_wed subreddit. All of them itching to get married only to itch to leave few years down the road when they get bored lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Ex Wife new boyfriend left herLet's just hope she has enough self respect and sense to not let her sons see this dick carousel. Good luck! . | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Ex Wife new boyfriend left herAhhh your ex-wife is one of those easily impressed by bling (nice car, smell good, branded clothes, jewelry). Newsflash he probably has zero substance andost likely not more money than you. He just spends more! Also her new partner isn't what she wanted because what she wanted (and thought she deserved) lived in her dreams and wasn't based in reality. Now to your original point, I don't think her breakup should make you happy. Your kids are gonna start seeing a revolving door of men. I don't thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 12:25 PM |
| 6 | Ex Wife new boyfriend left herI feel exactly like that about my wife's side dude. How did he see through her BS so fast and I was swimming in 😭 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 12:15 PM |
| 11 | How can I convince my SO she has a better marriage that her friends are jealous of?It won't matter. Whatever he says will go out the other ear. Her feelings make her wonder if this is all there is to life. if there's better out there. If she maybe settled. Can she live better single and be chased and wooed by single more muscular, taller, richer etc who will take her on her dream trips and be the most romantic and sweep her of her feet. Even if she stays, she will resent him, as the reason she's not out there living her best life. She will always wonder if she made the right c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 02:19 AM |
| 10 | How can I convince my SO she has a better marriage that her friends are jealous of?OP - you need to listen to this guy. You need to focus on improving yourself, get hobbies, get friends, get busy. Make her understand your life will thrive without her and there are plenty women out there waiting for her spot. Ask yourself why the "asshole" men have the most loyal women who always fight to stay. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/25 10:55 PM |
| 15 | How can I convince my SO she has a better marriage that her friends are jealous of?You can't convince her. And why would you want to? If she's not strong minded and smart enough to see it for herself, she will never see it and always wonder if there's a better life out there for her. She's easily influenced by her friends. There isn't much you can do about it. Mine cheated after her friends told her she could do better. Except the "better guy" was a raping scamming jobless loser. If she thinks she can have a better life, i would open the door for her. Just make sure you lock i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/25 10:47 PM |
| 15 | She is done, I can't fix this, here is my story.It's unfortunate you're in this situation. Look at the bright side, she came clean and told you what she wanted. Much better than her secretly getting her groove on with multiple affairs and bringing a child home for you to raise who is not yours. You're still young to rebuild with a woman who is satisfied and content with you. She will soon get bored of riding the dick carousel and will come back. Make sure you've moved on and living your best life with a better woman who deserves your commitme… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/25 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Are faithful men attracted to cheaters? With how terrible divorce can be for men, I see why some men are so cruel. They don’t wanna be hurt & cheated!Mine had a dad that drank every night beat her mom and kept many mistresses around town. Peace was never part of their life. Life teaches us lessons, sometimes the hard way. Just gotta pick better next time. Don't pedestalize her and seee her for who she is and understand that birds of the same feather flock together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/25 04:03 PM |
| 19 | Are faithful men attracted to cheaters? With how terrible divorce can be for men, I see why some men are so cruel. They don’t wanna be hurt & cheated!The Arabs and Desi's and Asians get cheated on just the same. How I know? I'm married to an Indian. I don't know a woman in her close circle who hasn't cheated. Every culture has cheaters in them. You gotta vet each individual person properly. Back to your question, the cheating men keep the emotional drama within the relationship high. The women are never bored and are on high alert all the time. Men that are faithful with no drama, bring peace. That's boredom to a woman who is used to chaos an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/25 11:50 AM |
| 10 | Less than a manThat's the excuse she gave you. Don't believe it. They always have to find something to blame on you because they can never be a villain in their story. They are saints in their minds. Women cheat with bums with no jobs all the time who don't buy them gifts, or take them on dates or vacations or anything. Hell mine helped her boyfriend find 2 jobs. He didn't spend more than $10 on her while she was always mad that I never bought her gifts or never took her on vacations or took her on dates (even… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/25 12:09 AM |
| 5 | Met a girl - in love - she says she will sign a prenupMarriage is not immune to Whatever happened in your 14year relationship. It's just a piece of paper after all. Now imagine if you were married when you found out, how much more complicated things wouldve been? Don't say never but make sure you choose well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/25 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Anyone ever meet their STBX affair partner? How did you react?Trying to find a woman with a fatter ass is gonna land you right back here. You need to recalibrate your picker so you recognize someone that has character and values and not just physical traits. The fatter ass means nothing if every man that shows her a bit of attention can have it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/25 06:11 PM |
| 12 | Anyone ever meet their STBX affair partner? How did you react?Lol please report him to his physio governing body and help him lose his license. Your wife is definitely not his only victim. Also please tell his girlfriend!. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/25 05:43 PM |
| 3 | How do I avoid getting fucked in the divorce (ca)?Lol you're definitely going to get bent over a barrel if she has anger issues. At 15 years years you're probably well into the alimony for life situation or at least a significant amount of time. She will squeeze every cent out of you and you will be paying her to fuck around with some unemployed gigolo while she flies him around to the best vacations and live their best lives on your dime. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/25 12:50 AM |
| 0 | Divorcing, need evaluation of the value of wife's pensionI may be naive but I think it's ridiculous that a pension is split during a divorce. I wouldn't want to take half a pension and I don't think it's fair for her to take half of mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 01:59 AM |
| 1 | How blindsided were you by the affair?Hey now you can't use that word it offends them lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/25 01:57 AM |
| 6 | Did you guys tell everyone in your life (family/friends/colleague) that you left your wife for cheating on you?What is it with the ex convict or criminal dick lol. Mine threw it all away for some rapists dick who was gonna rinse her for all her money ,,,😂😂 You can't make this up. Oh well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 12:48 AM |
| 10 | We broke upyou will soon find shes suddenly dating someone and her libido is through the roof (with him). Most likely been seeing him while you were still married. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/25 03:52 PM |
| 15 | Lol - why is every man a “narcissist”Anyone who doesn't let them lie gaslight and manipulate their way through life and tries to hold them accountable is a narcissist. Apparently 1 out 10 men is a narcissist, somehow most women know at least 1 narcissist. My wife knows at least 3 narcissists (myself, her AP, and her brother). What are the odds? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 05:29 PM |
| 11 | She would never cheat, right?You can't trust anything they say. They will swear on their own children, cry plenty tears while lying through their teeth. Believe their actions and your evidence. Their word means fuck all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 02:41 PM |
| 3 | Why the fuck would anyone get married again?She probably resents you because you were not her 1st choice, she deserved better and she settled for you. You robbed her of the opportunity to be with her dream man. At least that what she thinks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 10:39 PM |
| 11 | New Girlfriend Suddenly Not Feeling ItWhich is exactly why she wants to end it. And she's free to. This is exactly why many men don't want to be step parents. Do All of the work and provide support but have zero say. If they're gonna live in her house, eat the food she cooks and she provides all the benefits of a mother, she wants to have a say. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/25 03:25 PM |
| 23 | I knew what I signed up forMen sign up for what they've experienced so far. They look at the person and see the good outweigh the bad. And the bads aren't deal breakers for them and they can live with it. Mine was surprised when I told her I too had issues with her but I was ok to live with it. I knew she had a little shopping problem. I knew she didn't like the music I liked or the movies it liked or all of her tastes in food. I knew she was restless and emotionally immature. I knew what I signed up for. Women sign up fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/25 11:32 PM |
| 2 | So my stbx wife was unusual I believe...shes been like that since we were kids...Mine can't communicate either. It's all surface level. No deep conversations about anything. Any disagreements are bottled in and left to fester and grow resentment. She very confident that she's a great communicator though. You may have an avoidant wife just like mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/25 06:40 PM |
| 14 | Just wanted to vent a little in this heat.Sorry you're going through this. You're very strong for still hanging on. The only thing I can say is that it seems you've hit rock bottom. Thankfully the only way from here is up. A year from now you'll be in a much better place and this will be a bad memory. You'll be proud of how far you've come. Keep chugging on. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 11:54 PM |
| 7 | I (M28) miss my wife (27) so much. After 2 years of marriage and 5 in relationship, I had to go away because I couldn’t handle my promiscuity.You broke your marriage and divorced because you still had the urge to sleep with other women? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/25 06:43 PM |
| 5 | Divorcing due to lack of attraction…?So you're divorcing cus she put on weight and you lost attraction? If it's that important to you you should leave ASAP and not invest anymore in the relationship. Allow the both of you to start over while you're still young. Don't mean to sound judgemental but if looks and attraction are all that matter to you , you should probably avoid long term relationships like marriage and maybe stick to dating and short term relationships. That way you can switch it up without guilt anytime the attraction… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/25 06:06 PM |
| 6 | She keeps surprising meYour kids are old enough to watch themselves. Just check in on them and make sure they are good. Stop wasting time and brain power wondering what she's up to. She's def not out reading a book or being mother Theresa. She's out enjoying her newfound freedom. It's a coping mechanism to mask any emotions from the breakup. She's living her best life (pretending). Know that this is temporary. She'll grow bored of trying a new dick every night and will come back to test you and see if you will still l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/25 03:08 PM |
| 0 | She keeps surprising meYour kids are old enough to watch themselves. Just check in on them and make sure they are good. Stop wasting time and brain power wondering what she's up to. She's def not out reading a book or being mother Theresa. She's out enjoying her newfound freedom. It's a coping mechanism to mask any emotions from the breakup. She's living her best life (pretending). Know that this is temporary. She'll grow bored of trying a new dick every night and will come back to test you and see if you will still l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/25 03:08 PM |
| 10 | I made a big mistakeGiven it usually takes a few repeats offenses to get your 20 years old adult child to the point of wanting to call the cops on. I would bet some money these instances aren't the first time laying hands on his wife or kids. She needs to leave for her own safety. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Divorce season??!DING DING DING! Theres a study I read that shows affairs mostly start afterall a major life event. Promotion, new job, new house etc. If OPs wife wasn't already cheating with a guy she thought she was "leveling up" she definitely has one on her radar. Unfortunately, she doesn't think OP deserve the fruit of her labor and newfound success. The new guy does. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/25 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Divorce season??!In OPs case I would say it's a good thing she's pulling the plug now instead of cheating on him for several years because she never grew the courage to fully branch out. It sucks either way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/25 03:58 PM |
| 7 | Final judgment almost signed — $100k later, bittersweet but relievedWife is giving it up for free. Just not to him | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/25 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Is an attorney worth it*her | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 09:00 PM |
| 2 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageMy first thought is that she def didn't want this marriage. But after reading the story, it's clearly not the case if she didn't want the "forced marriage". She wouldn't beg him to give her more chances and to trust her again. She's just not a loyal woman (to put it nicely), she's easy and had zero respect for the husband. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 04:09 PM |
| 4 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageIs this an Indian woman? I'm sorry you're going through this. You saw videos of your wife getting fucked and you still tried to stay. Your strength is off the charts. Her parents clearly are enabling her behavior. if her dad is lashing out at you, then she clearly comes from a family where sleeping around isn't a big deal. They just do it and brush it off. Unfortunately that's not you. She will not change. You made the right decision. You're young and be thankful you found it early before kids g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 04:06 PM |
| 4 | Life is cruelThis is precisely it! Her new guy who she's been seeing alive before even asking for divorce is hot and cold. She wanted to sing you along while you "fight for her". | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 03:23 PM |
| 0 | "I don't care about her income"Happy you get to at least see the kids and your time with them is not cut. You are right. They themselves do not respect stay at home dads. But at the same time to around claiming being a SAHM is the hardest job anyone could ever do lol. They Just say whatever benefits them at the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 12:43 PM |
| 3 | "I don't care about her income"I agree that it's a privilege to be able to be a SAHM. But that's just you and I's perspective . She and a lot of other women may not see it in that lens unfortunately. They may feel they are stopping their professional development for the family. In today's climate, they're also probably asking why is she the one that's gotta give up their career to stay with the kids when she can do just as well (if not better) as you. To you its not a sacrifice, but would you jump at the opportunity to be a S… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/25 02:40 AM |
| 2 | "I don't care about her income"I can understand why someone could be angry at the current system where men get destroyed financially after divorce and are on the hook for alimony for several years while she goes fucking around living a best life. However, SAHM is not a scam. Your kids have a higher chance of more positive outcome in their life when raised by their mother and not some strangers at daycare etc. the woman has to sacrifice her career and income potentially several years while raising the kids. That's not a scam. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/25 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Should I leave?This is abuse and she may have psychological issues. She needs to seek help for those things and show change to provev she worth taking a risk. You're young and you can start over. You do not want to let love blind you and look past this kind abuse which could be with a sign of serious mental disorders like BPD. At the very least tell her to seek a psychiatrist and psychotherapist who can assess her and diagnose any mental issues and a pathway to recovery or coping. Put some boundaries with time… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 04:15 AM |
| 19 | Useless at 50I think you need to find purpose and stop relying on having a "woman" to gauge your worth. At 50 you're still pretty young and have at least another 25 years to go. Make it count. There's plenty to do around the world that doesn't revolve around women. And at 50, you can still start fresh and have a new family with kids if you want to. And if you come across a woman who's worth it, then give her a chance. But you won't get anywhere being sad and all. Get some therapy if you must. You chose wrong… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Useless at 50You want someone at the house when you're am 80 so they can help you up when you fall? You're looking for a caretaker you can fuck once in a while (aka bangmaid) and not a partner and this is what most women fear and probably one of the reasons why these ladies don't want to commit to you. Plan to get yourself a paid live in nurse and start dating with the intention of finding a partner and not just a free nurse for when your knees give out. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 11:11 AM |
| 5 | NJ, 64yo, Divorced 10yrs coming up on full retirementYou pay her $100k/yr in alimony? Holy shit! | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/25 07:20 PM |
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