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DiscussionOnly-Plate590/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:45 AM
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Full marks for honesty :) Have you ever changed your mind if the sex was better than you expected?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:40 AM
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OK, can't help you there. I met my partner the old fashioned way. Just commented because your post sounded quite strange, hence my guess that you're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:16 PM
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I'd imagine that in order to get success off dating apps you'd need to treat dating like a job interview and be willing to take the first girl who is willing to agree to sleep with you. I'd imagine that you probably wouldn't really concern yourself with 'red flags' either. I'm guessing from this comment you're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:10 PM
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Big boob energy?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:27 AM
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Fair comment. Ultimately its up to the manager of the gym to lay down some dress code if the members make their feelings known.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:51 PM
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That's really interesting. Is it the case that sex itself is not really a factor for you - meaning not a physical thing but 100% an emotional thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:34 PM
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Not sure about that. Can only give one side of the story as I don't know the guy. He may or may not be gay but he asked her out and she said yes. Assume a gay guy wouldn't ask a woman out. My point was about her arrogance in assuming that any guy she invites home must want to fuck her because she's so attractive. My assumption was however much he liked her physical attributes he was turned off by her personality so he drank her coffee then went home.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:54 PM
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Depends on cultural norms. In the UK when you come to pay the bill they add an "optional" service charge of x%. You can decline that but I've only ever done if I'm unhappy with the service - which I'd follow up with the manager before leaving. I assume the manager would like to know if service is below par. If one staff member gave service I considered above and beyond I'd slip a 10 in her hand on the way out. That way I know it's gone in her pocket. Nothing to do with her employer and no need t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:20 PM
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Well you would be 2/ - even if you were tempted by another guy you wouldn't do it. Little crush is fine but you wouldn't action it. Maybe if you started to develop a big crush on somebody you might think about leaving your partner before things got to the level of cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 11:36 AM
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the trope of women getting annoyed/irritated that the campus heartthrob fell for the homely girl, Most likely attractive women feel they're entitled to more choice. Example of that. A friend would be considered very conventionally attractive, blonde, face, body. All 9/10. Of course she knows it. Last week she went on a 1st date which went well, she considered herself to be above him on the scale but she liked him. Guy drove her home and she invited him in for coffee, obviously she didn't really …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:43 AM
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Also they wouldn’t be interested in me as a full human being. That was sort of my point. I was chatting to a (very) large woman other day. She said she often gets approached by guys who have a fetish for big girls - they don't care about her they just care about her body. Obviously she's learned to recognise and filter out such guys. Presumably some guys think bigger girls have fewer options so would be easier and some are just turned on by bigger. Neither is desirable as basis for a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:00 AM
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I’ve attracted boyfriends more conventionally attractive than me because they had a thing for redheads. Isn't there a very fine line between "having a thing for" and a fetish?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:34 AM
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Well there's 3 reasons not to cheat. 1/ You've never met anyone worth risking your relationship for 2/ You have but you have a moral objection to cheating 3/ You'd like to cheat but you'd never get away with it In terms of 3/ when I was a kid my dad used to come home from work at the exact same time - you could set your watch by him. He couldn't have cheated because my mum would have realised right quick. I work late hours sometimes and travel a lot for work so it would be easy to cheat without …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:51 AM
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Seems the obvious answer. I'm in UK so maybe different, we certainly have dog lovers here but they're the minority I'm the other way around. Always wanted a dog, tried negotiating with my partner but she hates dogs wouldn't even accept a little dog. I'm sure dogs have like a 6th sense when people don't like them - our neighbours dog is friendly to me but snarls at her when it sees her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:19 AM
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But coffee can't really be called a date. More like let's grab a coffee. If you click then ask her for a real date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 10:35 AM
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Men tend to spend time breathing in the same space as each other, and call it "quality time". It is quality time when things are going well. We argue about the football, cars, politics whatever, take the piss out of each other and know we'll always be there for each other. I'd suggest more men should have platonic relationships with women. But then a man wouldn't be interested in a woman on anything than a sexual/romantic level. Even if he was confiding in a female friend outside a relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:09 PM
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Agree with you. From the male side there's always an issue of looking weak which men will never do. So even when they're drowning they want to look strong which causes death/violence as you say. I "think" women might be better willing/able to share their feelings with female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:48 PM
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Isn't it what most men do already - obviously most meaning in real life rather than on Reddit? Only thing I'd question is platonic relationships. Men have what we call in the UK mates. We share common interests, we'd back each other up in a fight loan money if they're skint but not what I'd call deep as in discussing feelings etc. My perception is women are far better at deeper platonic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:28 PM
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I'm a gentleman. If I take a woman out and she thinks that's a free invitation to order food she couldn't afford to pay for herself I'd pay the bill without issue. But she's in the bin.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:41 AM
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By employing ghosting of any kind, we are basically saying someone isn't worth communicating to. Which reenforces isolation for any and all individuals. But isn't it the case that women are far more willing to communicate online than in person because they know if they change their mind about a guy they can just not respond/block him. Much easier/safer to do that online than in a person to person date
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 10:02 AM
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So, school aside, presumably somewhat wealthier family than your husband's?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:19 AM
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The man was not responsible for the condom breaking any more than he's responsible for her reproductive system. You can't be responsible for something you can't control. If the woman is concerned about the risk of a bad condom she could use a 2nd method as belt and braces. Or just say don't cum inside me. If the man disagrees she can say well go home then, those are my rules. Or if the man's concerned about a bad condom he might choose not to cum inside her just to be safe. It's really hard to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 02:54 PM
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The man's responsibility is to have a conversation. Are we trying to get pregnant or are we having sex without risk of pregnancy (pill/condoms etc) or do we want to be super safe. The man can't control the woman's body, or be responsible for it. What if she says I'm on the pill? Man can't confirm that, or be responsible for whether she's taken it. He has to decide to what extent he trusts her. Never makes sense to me to have a woman say I'm responsible for my body - but I didn't realise I might …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 02:29 PM
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As you may know some amount of sexual activity involves depositing sperm inside a woman's body with no intent for pregnancy from either side - and no pregnancy resulting. If the woman says don't cum inside me because we don't have anything in place then fair enough. But what happens if she does let the man cum inside her is on her. It's her reproductive system for which she's responsible. If women say I can't be trusted to take responsibility for my reproductive system then fair enough. A differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 02:06 PM
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Without a paternity test? Don't know the procedure, I've always been very careful to avoid unwanted pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:31 PM
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What about if the woman wants to prove this guy is the father for reasons of money?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:19 PM
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Presumably I wouldn't know about the other 2 guys - but maybe I'd suspect and she was cagey when asked? In that case a paternity test wouldn't be enough for me, even if by chance the kid is mine. I'd walk away without needing the test, obviously I'd want to minimise my own liability. I'd also consider why would this woman let herself get pregnant when we hadn't agreed to do so? If I'm going to be partners I'd want to know she can take responsibility for her own body. Obviously if I was in a seri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:17 PM
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It's asymmetrical in that the woman knows how many men she's had sex with who could be the father. It may or may not be 1. She may or may not disclose if the number is not 1. It's also asymmetrical in the sense that the woman is responsible for her own body and her own contraceptive arrangements. All I was saying is if the man has any doubts he'd demand a test anyway. If the woman refuses he's perfectly entitled to walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:59 PM
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Pregnancy creates an inherent asymmetry in knowledge—only the mother truly knows how certain paternity is. But she doesn't. Say she's having sex with 2 men and gets pregnant, how does she know which man is the father? She might think I hope it's this guy. She might even lie and say it must be you because I haven't been with anyone else. If the father has any doubts he'd obviously want the test results. He'd be perfectly entitled to say you're getting nothing from me unless the test proves it's m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:48 PM
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Sounds fair. Marriage is supposed to be better or worse not a business deal. If the guy (or the woman) bails when things go worse you're better off without him/her. So you wouldn't want any of his money?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:03 PM
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Interesting perspective. But if your husband was a decent guy who just hadn't yet shared his life/home with somebody you could have taught him that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:40 PM
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It wasn't meant as sarcasm. Apologies if it came over that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:33 PM
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Right. Most women wouldn't have been with guys over or under the average. Just like most men wouldn't have been with women over or under the average breast size.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:24 AM
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That could be. I'd assume women have learnt since an early age to massage a guy's ego. If you don't do that he'll leave you or maybe even hurt you physically. Obviously men don't (usually) have to worry about a woman hurting them. The issue from the male side is women often don't say what they really think which is frustrating for the man. But understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:05 AM
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Absolutely not. Some men are rapists - you and me are not responsible for their actions and we certainly don't need to defend them because they happen to be same gender. Penis size is a different issue. Women always say they don't care but it's pretty obvious size makes a difference from attractiveness and/or feeling. Just like guys having a preference for big or small breasts. Perfectly fine to have preferences as long as you admit it. If a woman says I told this guy I was dumping him because h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:24 AM
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Definitely not good faith. Googled the picture posted and seems she's a singer not a sex offender. We need the OP to come back and justify making this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:38 AM
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In fairness the guy might choose to retain virginity for religious reasons. That could be understandable, although rare. Other than that you're spot on. A woman thinks if no other woman wanted him there must be something wrong with him. One of the oldest tricks in marketing - social proof. Women tend to go with men other women find desirable. So a guy cheating on his partner has social proof, some other woman wanted him. A virgin does not. The dishonest cheater is always going to win over the ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:23 AM
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Well what does a female sex offender actually do? Seen a few cases where a female teacher has been caught sleeping with one of her students. Then a few cases where the woman was assisting the man in some wrongdoing, she may have been coerced or she may have gone along with it to keep the relationship. Either way the man was the driver. Can't remember a case where a woman was acting alone other than the teacher example. Maybe somebody else can?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:23 AM
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Can't imagine there's anything she could say to make this right. But I'd probably give her 10 minutes to try. Also have to consider female sex offenders are quite rare so have to assume she'd have some media coverage meaning stigma from dating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:09 AM
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I wouldn’t undermine the shallowness and elitism of women when it comes to men’s looks and bodies. Their brains are cooked from hooking up with extremely good looking and genetically blessed men I suppose that would depend if the woman wants a succession of short term/hookups or 1 long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:36 PM
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unconventional looking guys would have their respective admirers on online dating platforms They probably wouldn't. But unconventional looking guys do have happy relationships with women who value them for other reasons. Hard for the guy to portray his other attributes on an online platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:39 PM
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Maybe the type of women you're attracted to are the type that would be blunt enough to say that. Maybe some woman will correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think most women would directly comment on your size - even if they were thinking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:37 PM
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OK, I probably did take us off at a bit of a tangent. I do agree with your original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:28 PM
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From being too big or too small for you. Even if he proves he's in the average range by showing you the data he's still the wrong size for you. Average is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:14 PM
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Makes sense but not sure you'd need to know the inches to know whether it's too big/too small for you. I'm sure you wouldn't really but say you tell a guy he's too small for you. Guy says but look at the data that proves I'm in the average range. Obviously vice versa if he's too big for you. Being average isn't going to save him and you're not going to say wow you are average that's OK then.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:48 AM
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Seems strange. I'm quite a bit smaller than that and no woman has ever said it's too small. Although that might be out of politeness!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:10 AM
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Maybe depends how large is large? I can see a bit above average is better than below average. Before we get into too big.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:07 AM
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I think his point was nobody can speak for the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:04 AM
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I see, new one on me - but why? As we know every woman's different there but I've never been with a woman and thought you should get that reshaped.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:48 AM
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I'd definitely rather have natural boobs than implants - without exception. I couldn't tell if hair is dyed, let alone freshly dyed. Don't know what labiaplasty means so can't comment on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:43 AM
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OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:44 AM
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Live together, she's English same as me. Have to ask, how did you find this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:04 AM
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Never had this - obviously I'm a man. As a woman don't you get DMs from guys hitting on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:58 PM
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OK. I never had/don't want children so if I meet a woman who wants children I tell her she's wasting her time with me. Obviously that reduces my pool of potential partners. From my experience there seems to be a thing called "nuclear family" where a man and a woman who both have children combine the 2 sets of kids into a new family. Have a few friends who've gone that route and it seems to work. That said I'd never date a woman who has kids in tow. However much I might love her I couldn't deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:14 AM
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Interesting. Are you saying the kids were a dealbreaker? I'd imagine most people after a certain age would expect a potential partner to have kids and expect to deal that. Might be totally wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:40 AM
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I've also heard those same women say that an attractive man who's still single in his 30s must have something wrong with him What about a wealthy/successful man who's just divorced and gives a credible explanation for that - something other than she binned me because I cheated on her. I'd suggest such a guy would be desirable to women. She's got the social proof that another woman wanted him but couldn't keep him. And she's got the indicators of success. She's going to think I can be the woman t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:15 AM
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Exactly. If her husband ended up in hospital because he (stupidly) tried to resolve a situation he was not qualified to deal with she'd be bragging on the internet about what a "decent human being" he is because he tried to rescue her. Her large friends and decent human being husband are just an ego trip for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:33 AM
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Males need to step up like previous generations before them. An individual male needs to do whatever feels right to him. No obligation on him beyond that. No obligation on males as a group. Dating is a market just like a commercial market - you need customers who are interested in your product. In the dating market the product is you. If a company can't find customers for their product you wouldn't say this is so unfair customers need to step and buy the product. So why is the dating market any …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:19 AM
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The drunk guy sounds like a pretty despicable creep, but from my experience, these kind of people are much more likely to escalate into outright violence when a man gets involved. He might be a drunk idiot but you don't know if he's going to pull out a weapon, or is a pro boxer, or if his boys are round the corner ready to beat you half to death. Spot on. EX UK special forces. Was very highly trained to deal with violent conflict, got a bit rusty as I work in finance now but could still deal wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:43 PM
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a way to draw attention, especially to their bodies, wearing tight-fitting clothes and more revealing outfits Don't you think the extent to which a woman draws attention to her body is a factor of how appealing she considers her body to be rather than her political beliefs?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:48 AM
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Disagree, because there’s plenty of people who are giving homeless men money with no real reward for them to do so. The reward is the giver gets to feel good about themselves. The homeless person will likely spend the money on drink/drugs and the longer people give him money the less his motivation is to turn his life around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:50 PM
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Oh right cuz women declining to have sex with men has totally made men happy I'd hope that women don't have sex just to make men happy. I'd also hope that women realise that unprotected sex could lead to a baby. I'm pro abortion because of the interests of the child. The child isn't best served with a crap mother so best to abort the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:24 AM
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Point taken. My point was you don't need to be tall or rich. He's a lovely guy, good father. His lack of ambition would be a concern for me but he does his job. Obviously their lifestyle is based on her salary but she's fine with that. I'd imagine a lot of women would like a guy like him. Just a decent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:14 AM
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Election campaign donations are only one of many measurements that demonstrate how $ = power in election cycles. So why did Trump win with less money? The ONLY outcome of states determining abortion access is that more women lose the right to reproductive healthcare. More women die. More women are denied care. I'd say it's not about the woman - it's about the child. If a woman doesn't have the sense to realise that sex may mean pregnancy then the child is better off not being born to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:28 PM
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Totally different to my sister. Her and hub are both police officers but she's 4 ranks ahead of him on double his salary, he's a bit of waster with no ambition. She's also taller than him. She loves the guy, he's a wonderful father and they've built a life/family together. He doesn't drink/gamble/chase other women. Never overlook the value in just being a decent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:36 AM
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Democracy isn’t even really protected here. $ has way more power than votes because of corruption here. The obvious counter to that is Hillary raised a lot more money then Trump in 2016 but she still lost. If $ had more power than votes Hillary would have been President. On the specific issue of abortion wouldn't it make sense to delegate this to the state level?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:37 AM
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Conclusion: women must pair up with men and have children with them to give men purpose; incentivize them economically and prevent them from destroying everything around them out of aimlessness; boredom; and apathy. I have friends who say they only found their true purpose when they had kids so some truth in that. My partner and I agreed we don't want kids. She doesn't feel an obligation to be a mother - and she's had crap about that. I don't feel an obligation to be a father. We both felt lucky…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:05 AM
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The idea is you should date 1/2 your age + 7 So a 55 year old is fine with 32 and older - 23 year gap A 40 year old is fine with older than 27 - 13 year gap The size of acceptable gap increases with age. For a 19 year age gap you should be 52 - dating 33 and up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 10:58 AM
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The difference is women under-report and men over-report
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 03:12 PM
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That would be reasonable. The issue is why a lone woman should get priority over a man who'd been waiting longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:32 PM
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Good question. I would guess no. Apparently they said usually we advise standing outside the car so you don't get hit by another vehicle. But with the weather conditions that obviously wouldn't be pleasant so they advised her to stay in the car. Really hard to see how a woman in this situation would be more vulnerable than a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:16 PM
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Can't answer because I'm not gay so lack of attraction to women is as strange to me as it is to you. Is it the case that a guy you liked turned out to be gay wo wasn't interested in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:13 PM
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The majority of women identify with the Democratic Party This is true. But white women (obviously the biggest group of women) vote Republican. The last time a Democrat won a majority of white women was 1996.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 08:23 AM
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Usually the issue with age gaps is women being resentful that men prefer younger women. Doesn't matter how smart she is what she's accomplished etc a women in her 40s can never compete with a woman in her 20s. The guy is going to choose the 20s woman every time. Works the other way for men, some men get more attractive as they get older. Men mature like fine wine, women mature like yesterdays McDonalds. You can probably understand why women wouldn't be happy with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:40 PM
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I'd say there's no value in women as friends - men have men as friends who share the same interests. Men are also loyal to their friends, if a mate's in trouble you help him out even if it costs money to do so. The whole dynamic of male friends is different. Your title was correct - either a woman's a potential romantic/sexual partner or she isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 08:29 AM
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Have to be a 5 I earn a lot more than my partner. She's as good at her job as I am at mine but mine pays much better. Obviously our house/lifestyle etc is based around my salary. I certainly wouldn't take pleasure in providing if she wasn't accomplished in her own career - hard to have respect for such a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:55 AM
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There used to be a story about Larry Ellison, founded Oracle and one of the richest men in the world. Apparently his line used to be "Hi I'm Larry can I buy you car?" A bit more creative than can I buy you a drink :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 09:39 AM
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Sounds right - but attractive varies from woman to woman. I'd say a creep is a man who approaches a woman and the woman doesn't feel he's good enough for her so he should have recognised her higher value. Good enough by whatever metric she uses.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:26 AM
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Denying they'd rather not deal with baggage?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:28 PM
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That's a really nice honest answer. Weird thing is it's easier to talk about "sensitive" topics like size with people on the internet than people in your own life. I'm 4" so below your 5 but above 2 but obviously a woman isn't going to know that until we get intimate. Not like a woman's breast size that's on show. I'm settled with a partner now, hopefully shes ok with my size. But times past I've found a woman "changes her mind" in an ONS when she sees how small it is. I assume most women expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 03:51 PM
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Sounds fair. I'm somewhat less than 5, that could be a dealbreaker in a one night stand but hasn't been in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:56 PM
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Has a 5 inch or less size penis But by the time you see this you'd invested in the guy, through dates/conversation etc. Would you reject what seemed like a potential relationship just based on his size?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:35 PM
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Only slept with 1 virgin. Her reason for being a virgin beyond the point you'd expect was basically what you said. It wasn't an attraction or a turn off. Just have to take things a bit slower for obvious reasons. Not an issue either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:54 PM
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On a human level it wasn't. It was the right thing to do for me - if I'd touched her/helped her there might have been have comeback for me. Letting her struggle on the ground removed the risk to me. Like I said - mad world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:23 PM
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Awkward one. I went to see a client last week, I knew they have strict rules about male/female interaction. The client is a very large lady, she took me into the kitchen for a coffee and slipped over. She was clearly struggling to get up. If this happened in the street of course I'd have helped her up and no doubt she'd have thanked me. In this context she was on the deck and I thought best not touch her. She managed to right herself and looked very embarrassed but I did the right thing. World's…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:53 PM
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Okay so the ability to earn money aka economic power, trumps all yes or no? Yes. But of course having the ability to earn money via whatever skillset you have is half the battle. You also need the motivation to actually do it. It would be mad for any woman (or man) to rely on another provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 06:58 AM
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With male or female clients?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:15 PM
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Exactly. I'm assuming there's sex workers at the higher end of the market making decent money. For context where I live that's perfectly legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:52 PM
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I don't think they're attracted to their clients. I meant they're attracted to the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:31 PM
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If you see sex work as a privilege go ahead and be a sex worker? Wonder about this. No doubt some sex workers are exploited/need to pay for drugs/at risk of harm etc. But there must be some women working the higher end of the market who are making good livings are happy with their career choice and banking cash? It could be a privilege to have that option. Clearly men don't - unless they're gay presumably - and only a small % of women would be attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:12 PM
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Same. Partner is 2 years older which is insignificant at our age. If anything happened between us I'd be open to your age range. That said couple years back did have an FWB thing with a 19 year old. Enjoyable but obviously no basis for a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 01:07 PM
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Men don't overthink this. She's not talking to other guys? Great, I've got no competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 10:29 PM
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This is true. There was a case a few years ago where a multi-millionaire CEO used to go to prostitutes. Not necessarily a problem in itself except he paid with his company credit card and used his company car/driver to attend her place of business, he was fired. For wealthy people it's not a sex thing it's a power thing. I pay you money - you do what I say then I say goodbye. If he wanted sex with a non prostitute it would have cost him more money. Presumably the prostitute was grateful for his …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 10:19 AM
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Feminists dehumanize men True to an extent. The obvious answer to such a feminist is just stop dating men then you'd have no problems. You don't like men, you don't trust men so just stay away from men and we'll stay away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 05:21 PM
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Have to assume he does this lots of times - it's a numbers game for him. Just ignore, he won't be offended. Probably wont even notice. Definitely don't give some random guy your number.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:28 PM
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Defintely picked - settled would be unacceptable. Do we assume people who are settled for know they are settled for?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:21 AM
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Don't get this. Do you mean women want to fuck serial killers who are in jail? Seems that would be quite difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:21 PM
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In terms of broke surely that would depend on the woman's age? If a 22 year old wants a rich guy she's going to have to go significantly older. If she's willing to do that she can maybe find money. But if she wants her age she'd look for a smart guy starting out in life like she is who shares her goals and wants to build a life with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 02:00 PM
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Surely there must be some subset of men who prefer bigger women? There's probably a more polite term than fat! If a guy's young/broke he can say to his partner this is the journey we can go on together. Maybe the woman thinks yea I can see that, count me in. Or maybe she thinks no way you're a loser, count me out. Lots of rich guys started out young and broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 10:38 AM
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OK, so tell us which you respond to This would give useful tips to guys in terms of how to write a good message :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:25 PM
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hold out for the chad of their dreams Can any woman here confirm they are now or did want to be with chad of their dreams?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:56 PM
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Not buying that. Ask a woman for dinner and she looks good, she's put a lot effort into clothes/hair/makeup etc. Wake up next to her in the morning - does she still look as good? I'd bet not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:52 PM
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The biggest factor in improving your appearance is to be physically fit. And to that end men are more likely than women to play sports and work out. For men it is. For women it's more about clothes/make up/hair etc, which is a lot of work and not insignificant money to buy the products. Ask a woman how much she spends on a haircut or makeup. As an example my partner went shopping yesterday. She came home with bags showed what she'd bought. One was a tiny pot of face cream and she complained the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 05:39 PM
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More likely women all wishing they could choose the same tiny % of men then realising there aren't enough to go around. So they settle. The consolation is the more desirable a man is the more other women would like him too - so he has more opportunities to cheat. With a less desirable man she has less worry he'll cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:22 PM
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A completely subjective criteria that changes constantly from person to person. It's pretty constant. Creepy = I don't find you attractive and/or didn't like your approach. I wish you'd left me alone. You're creepy Non creepy = I find you attractive and liked your approach. I'm glad you approached me. You're not creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:50 AM
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Makes perfect sense. Anal's a good example of that. When we talked about it partner said she'd never tried with long term or casual guys and didn't see the appeal but we could try provided we stopped/never did it again if she didn't like it. Perfectly reasonable. I can't imagine a woman would try anything with potential to hurt with a casual guy she hadnt established trust with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:29 PM
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Sensible well reasoned reply based on your own experience. You are hereby banned from the internet :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 12:51 PM
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I believe walking away in this context means not getting married in the 1st place rather than walking from an existing marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:55 PM
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Probably 2 reasons for that 1/ They caught him cheating. Even if men and women cheat in roughly equal numbers I'd suggest a woman would be better at detecting a cheating partner than a man would. 2/ They'd rather be single than miserable in a relationship. Men tend to stay until they have somebody else lined up Also the case men tend to have more going on outside the home. Apart from work they play golf, go to the pub, watch sports etc. Home life tends to make a higher % of a womans life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:13 PM
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If we're ever trapped in a haunted house, I could absolutely save us. Best pickup line I've heard gonna have to try that one :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:07 PM
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I was in high spirits and decided to message someone I had a fun time with at the bar a few weeks ago. long story short, It didn't go too well lol We'd probably need a few details on this if you're willing to share. Did you get kind of over-confident and turned her off?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:34 PM
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Which suggests plenty of hope for guys who don't do hookups - they just need to meet women like you. No doubt there's plenty out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:04 PM
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You think sleeping in the same bed is essential to a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:29 PM
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Region = UK/Europe Together 3.5 years The contribution split is roughly 90/10 my way. Given I earn 10x her salary this does seem reasonable. She often says she feels bad for not contributing more. Yes she buys birthday/xmas gifts and also gist at random times if she sees something I like. Happy overall. No issue with her contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:39 AM
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Understand that. Easy to see that a woman might find it hard to "admit" to liking a bigger size in case she upsets her partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:34 PM
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It could do if AI could analyse/record lines from "ugly" men that had been successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:20 PM
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Fun fact from a friend of mine working in a sex shop: most gigantic dido are bought by men. Interesting. Are they intending to use them on other men (ie they're gay) or buying on behalf of their wife? That said few months I bought a (large) dildo for my partner from Amazon. She picked it but said she didn't want to order herself as she'd be embarrassed. Strange but all worked out and she's happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:10 PM
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Fair enough, I was just curious about the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:06 AM
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I've never understood gaming, just curious what sort of games do you play together and what's the point? Is there like a leader board or some championship etc you could win?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:57 AM
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Wouldn't the issue be that younger women don't tend to be interested in men > twice their age? Unless the man has something special going for him - money/success being the obvious one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:22 AM
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Well we've agreed that we don't want children, obviously that's one of the 1st things to discuss when you enter a relationship. Can't answer a hypothetical. I wouldn't be happy with her staying home doing nothing although we could well afford that. I'm happy she has a successful fulfilling career, her income isn't significant to us but I'd find it hard to respect a stay at home woman. Or a woman with no motivation/desire to advance her career
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:08 AM
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From my experience a woman being able to provide more money, I know several women who are able to, is actually a negative for the woman. Men don't tend to like that, maybe it's a threat or whatever. Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 08:21 AM
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If a woman isn’t the main provider and only adds a little income are there men who are okay with this, are there men who are fine being the main breadwinners? That's a decision for a couple to make together. Not sure there's a right/wrong answer. I'm the main breadwinner in my relationship simply because I chose to go into a very high paying field. My partner is a primary school teacher. Obviously there are no wealthy teachers, even if she was the best teacher in the world she'll never earn a si…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 07:54 AM
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Understood. But doesn't weed out the liars.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:48 AM
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No one wants to be lied to and used. Women need emotional connection for sex often. When men lie to us and intimate that they’re interested in a long-term relationship just to get access to our bodies we feel like hookers that are unpaid. Does that make sense? Makes perfect sense. But if you're using the promise of sex to obtain a commitment you're inviting the guy to lie to you about his intentions. Maybe better to have sex first then talk relationships. Of course the guy may say not interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:12 AM
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With partner so maybe not qualified to answer 1/ I tend to call them mates. Plenty to have a few beers with but maybe 2 I'd bet my life on - and vice versa. 2/ Yes. But partner wouldn't accept attractive female friends. My best female friend is not attractive and partner likes to bring up that fact. 3/ Cousins yes but fell out with with sister some years ago for an issue related to her partner. 4/ No. Networking is part of my job
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:46 PM
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Fair enough. Sometimes we don't know where other people come from or what the relevant laws/procedures are. Apology accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:31 PM
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So what's she going to do - wait for a rich guy to come get her and provide for her and their kids? Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:17 PM
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Where I live (UK) if a woman calls police and says this man raped me the man will be arrested and taken to custody immediately. As happened to me. The fact you might live somewhere else with different procedures or don't know procedures in the UK does not mean I am lying. Your ignorance does not mean another person is lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:15 PM
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So why can't a guy working in say McDonalds date girls working in McDonalds? Surely they're not all waiting for George Clooney.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:06 PM
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I told the question earlier in the thread - scroll up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:58 PM
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And no not being willing to date you is not hating you lol You've just won the argument. I hate you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:32 PM
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I often see males talk about how its a trap when a woman responds with, "I'm fine". They will go on to say they had NO IDEA she was in need of emotional support. That's not actually true. Man notices his partner seems a bit down so he asks what's wrong. She says I'm fine, man recognises she isn't. If she wants emotional support why not just say I'm not fine because of [some issue] maybe because of you or maybe some outside factor. Then the man would say OK talk to me, you're my partner I'm here …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:17 PM
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That would be because you don't know your own mind and/or you're kidding yourself :) We can't have men and women actually being happy in a relationship with 1 partner - that would undermine the whole internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:59 PM
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I've seen plenty of women here say they're really happy with their partner. Maybe they had to kiss a frogs to get there but the end is what matters. I've not seen an evil sounding woman here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:42 PM
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It isn't. But women are entitled to have standards. Best example. Few years back saw an interview with a girl who was an ex-singer with a very successful band. The success of the band made her a millionaire, she was about 30 and made clear that even though the band had broken up she had no need/desire to work. Interviewer asked if it was OK to ask if she was single. She said no problem yes I'm single and suggested she was open to offers. Interviewer said but you're a gorgeous very wealthy woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:11 PM
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On a civil level I could have sued her for money damages but the lawyers told me as she doesn't significant money/assets I'd end up out of pocket. On a criminal level there was no way I could force the police to prosecute her even though the police had established her allegation could not possibly be true - aka she lied to police which is a crime itself. Shit happens sometimes. I'm not bitter. Much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:38 PM
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But if Sarah enjoys the sex too she's not degraded, let alone punished. The guy isn't forcing her to have sex to punish her. Maybe something I'm missing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:33 PM
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Of course. But the information was valuable. Men who just want sex realise it's a numbers game so they just wanted an edge. Good for you for sticking to your guns
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:02 PM
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My understanding is submission is 100% one way or the other. Not a 50/50 thing. Like Shades of Grey on 1 side or female led relationships on the other. Maybe I don't understand this, what made you think about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:37 PM
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Of course not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:26 PM
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I wouldn't rule it out but I'd be assessing her honesty. Clearly if a woman has made a false allegation in the past she may do it to me. Just as if a woman had cheated in the past she may cheat on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 11:11 AM
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Well it is not unknown for some women to lie. Just as some men lie. My point was that the fact a jury decides they can't accept the woman's explanation beyond reasonable doubt does not mean she's lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:49 AM
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It isn't. A man can't be convicted of rape unless the woman's allegation can be proven beyond reasonable doubt. Often difficult to do when there's only 2 people involved and (usually) no witnesses. The fact the man isn't convicted does not mean the woman must be lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:43 AM
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Been there. Ended a relationship and she wasn't happy, started harassing me, turning up at my house, annoying the neighbours etc. Once it dawned on her that the relationship was well and truly over she phoned the police and accused me of raping her. I was arrested and on advice of my lawyers gave my honest/accurate account. Luckily for me the police did their investigations and quickly established that her accusation could not possibly be true. Never the less it was a very stressful time. My law…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:31 AM
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The question was do you like beer? There was a very high correlation between women who said yes to that and yes to whether they'd potentially be open to sex on the first date. Likewise a high correlation between women who said no to beer and said they'd rule out sex on a first date. Clearly this research was gold to the male members. Perfectly innocent question that you might ask a woman when you're getting to know her. Obviously the men can't ask her if she'd be open to sex on the first date :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 10:14 AM
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The mistake you're making is believing social media without realising that everyone who posts on social media is just looking for attention. They'd say anything to get that attention. Example, I have a female friend I've known for ~10 years. She's not attractive and zero interest in her sexually but we talk about stuff and text usually every other day. I'd assume she feels the same way about me My partner who obviously is attractive to me knows the woman and has no issue with this. I'd assume th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:39 PM
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Not quite what you were looking for but a mate got involved with a very attractive woman. Everyone said to him she's just going to leech off you. She had 2 kids in tow and had never had a meaningful job in her life. She left him for his brother. He swears he's done with women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:19 PM
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Totally agree. Much better ways to meet people - for free. And too easy to game the system
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:15 PM
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Nothing. We just wanted to keep male members and help them find what they wanted. The point is you can't run a successful dating site that actually helps people find long term relationships. The more successful you are in doing that the more members you lose/less money you make.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:00 PM
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Yes. We asked the women about various lifestyle preferences as well as whether they'd be open to first date sex and got enough responses to see a strong link between the yes/no sex question and one other yes/no question. The man could ask the woman the question in chat and it would just sound like normal "getting to know you" conversation. She wouldn't suspect a thing. Male members loved us for the insight but as mentioned it had a short shelf life so we only shared the info with men we knew wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 03:33 PM
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It's relevant in terms of career. There's only 1 reason a straight white man failed in his career - he wasn't good enough. There's any number of reasons a person who isn't a straight white male failed in their career.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 03:13 PM
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Funny thing. Years ago I invested in a dating site but we realised the obvious, men and women were looking for different things. Women wanted relationships men wanted sex while dangling the carrot of a relationship. If a woman does find a relationship she leaves the site. If a man finds sex without a relationship he keeps coming back. So we needed to get men finding sex and stop women finding relationships. Basically men wanted to know if their investment in dinner/drinks etc was likely to be re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 03:08 PM
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If women truly had the same rights as men then they wouldn't be judged for being promiscuous or having a career. Men aren't Men are judged negatively for failing their career. If you're a straight white man you've got no excuses. A woman can always claim discrimination.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:51 PM
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Of course they could. Problem is dating apps say join us to meet your true love. But the very last thing they want you to do is meet your true love. As soon as you do that you leave the site. Instead of saying use this site in hopes you meet your true love, but we know you won't so you'll keep coming back. Why not say join our site for free and pay us £1,000 when you meet him/her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:47 PM
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As a woman, any rando can escalate a rejection into a confrontation or violence without warning. Not in a public setting surely?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:05 PM
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A lot of women like to be told they look beautiful straight in the conversation But if the woman really is beautiful she'll have been told that before - and think yea I know I am got anything original to say? I tend to think do the opposite to what she expects. If she's beautiful ignore her looks tell her she's smart. If she's clearly smart tell her she's beautiful. Or if you're not sure take the middle and compliment her outfit - that dress looks great on you etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:00 PM
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Understand. Appreciate you taking the time to share. Hopefully things are going better for you now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:02 PM
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Don't you think part of the turn on for a woman is thinking he may cheat on me because he has lots of options so I'd better work hard to stop him wanting to do that? If a woman absolutely knew the guy would never cheat on her she gets lazy/fat/content.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:54 PM
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Sorry to be nosey but what happened? Understand if you dont want to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:47 PM
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Or why wouldn't she just earn her own money instead of being lazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:45 PM
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Right. I know some guys who've left a woman for another woman, I don't a guy who's left a woman to be single unless she was crazy/spending all his money etc. The unpaid work a woman does has real value to a man, so best to stay with her. There's no equivalent for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:53 PM
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They should do a survey on this. Why did you leave your long term relationship? a/ Because I had somebody else lined up already b/ Because I'd rather be single than stay in this relationship I'd be willing to bet more men would say a and more women would say b.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:32 PM
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There was a song that addressed this - sung by a guy who's dumping his woman. She says are you leaving me for another woman? He says no I'm leaving you for half the human race. Harsh but fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:04 PM
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Totally understand. If you're not feeling it you're not feeling it. Hard to explain to a guy (or woman) who's been dumped though. How about pick out a good feature about the guy and use that as your reason - you're too tall for me/your dicks too big for me/you're too successful for me. Might work :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:00 PM
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The guy would drill you for why. Guys like specifics. Maybe the best way is to make something up, give the guy some substantive reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 12:31 PM
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Ah, kid would be immediate red flag for me too. Glad it worked out
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:06 PM
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I asked her if she wanted hangout sometime That's a pretty vague proposition, hard to imagine a woman would respond positively to that. Any woman correct me if I'm wrong. Why not say something specific that might be of interest to her - would you like to do x on y date? Or even lets do x - shall we say Friday or Saturday? Of course she might say no but at least you know. I'd say the one and only reason a woman is sat in front of you engaging with you right now is because she's considering the po…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 05:37 PM
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If it's difficult for the man to know the dividing line between platonic vs flirting then why not let the woman make the call? Women want romantic relationships just as much as men do, so let her ask for your number/arrange some other meet etc. Or hint at it. Say you've established a common interest in food, you mention a new restaurant has just opened in town. Let her say well I'm hungry let's try that. Granted this might be different because women I know/meet are not shy about being forward if…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:38 PM
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This seems ridiculous. Do you think these women might be spouting this stuff just to get attention online?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:54 PM
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Now besides the fact that you should definitely not talk to women you're interested like you do men Could you expand on this? I would talk to anyone I'd just met - man or woman - in the same way. Hey, how are you doing? What might we have in common etc. I've never seen a woman and thought I'm interested in her sexually/romantically just by seeing her. In terms of chatting random men quite often. I'll talk to anyone who's got something interesting to say, whether thats knowledge to impart or opin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:25 PM
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Fair enough, that went right over my head :) I'm familiar with Jerry Seinfeld as a car guy because he's a very well known car collector. I know he's a comedian but never seen his work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:09 PM
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Not familiar with Seinfeld but I doubt it, she's a hedge fund manager.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:57 PM
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Sure doesn't. Has any woman actually said that - here or elsewhere? Unless the relationship is purely sexual in which case the woman might not care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:44 PM
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Best example of attraction. There's a woman at my work who's very successful but single and been trying to find a man that checks her boxes. She's quite aggressive and earns a lot of money, she feels this is a turn off for a lot of guys which it may well be. But last week she said shed found a guy via online dating and was excited for their first date. The guy was a vet. That checked several boxes for her - in her mind it established he must be intelligent and have decent work ethic plus he must…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 07:35 AM
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They also need to work - but not too much. They need to be fit/healthy - but not too much It's the has a boat thing I struggle most with. When I got some money in my pocket after a nice house then nice car I bought a boat. Not sure why that would disqualify a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 07:12 AM
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I'm sure most women don't care about dick size on a sexual level - unless it's really big or really small such that it impacts pleasure for better or worse. You're probably right about the revenge thing. Some women know the thing a lot of guys are sensitive about is their dick size. So if you want "revenge" that's the way to go. But women will always say oh I never talk about that with my friends, me and my friends are better than that. It's just other women that do that, so I've heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:33 PM
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Nope, men definitely also go into detail, Not sure about that. Ask a guy if he knows whether the partners of his 3 closest friends are shaved/natural/trimmed and I bet all 3 guys will say I don't know we don't talk about that. Ask a woman if she knows the dick size of her 3 closest friend's partners and I bet she'll say yes for at least one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:27 PM
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So you're saying your female friends give details about their guy's sizes despite knowing nobody's interested? That seems quite strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:21 PM
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When I was doing a lot of dating and not having success Does not having success mean you didn't see the guys as relationship prospects or you did them as prospects but they didn't feel the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 09:05 PM
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Approximately 90% of the women I've known personally(grossly around 100) in these diverse settings have engaged in infidelity How do you know this? Infidelity obviously requires secrecy - you don't want other people to find out. Are you guessing these women have been unfaithful or did they tell you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 06:33 AM
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Why does that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:18 PM
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To be fair I can see problems if 2 people with the same issues get together. She probably wanted somebody without issues to support her etc. That said if you were already serious didn't she notice you had issues too?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:10 AM
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Well I've been on the wrong side of this. Ex wasn't happy at being binned so she accused me of rape. Police policy is to believe the woman and arrest the man, not pleasant. Fortunately when the police looked into her allegation they quickly discovered it could not be true. Even though it was clear she was lying no action was taken against her. It's not funny. Hope it never happens to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:05 AM
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Economically conservative not socially. Low taxes/small state/pro business etc. On social issues i tend to think do what you like but dont do it with my money.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:11 AM
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I'm on the right she's on the left. We both respect each other's views - neither of us have managed to win an argument yet! I tend to have time for people who disagree with me provided they do so in a coherent way which she certainly does. Bottom line - I'd never be with a woman who put my feet to sleep just for the sake of sex. Hence my questioning the original post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:19 PM
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There's maybe another aspect to this. If a woman has equal (or even greater) sexual desires than you and enjoys sex just as much as you she still thinks she's doing you a favour by "letting" you have sex. If things go wrong she'll say but you had sex with me last night. Even if she initiated the sex and enjoyed it just as much as you she'll think she did you a favour and you owe her for that. If she's vindictive she can even say well I didn't really want to have sex. If she's really pissed with …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 12:01 PM
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Speaking for myself different relationships between male friends vs partner. With male friends we discuss things - work, football, cars being the dominant topics. With my partner we talk more about the world, what's happening in the world from the news (we both have very different political views so that leads to interesting discussions), whether we liked that movie, what our mutual friends are doing etc. She's not interested in cars or football and isn't very career orientated so different topi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:36 AM
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Presumably you'd want to ask a few questions to establish that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 07:29 PM
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Peter Crouch - UK people who follow football will know him. You're right of course that it's not just money. The guy's clearly a winner, that personality trait would have been clear before he became successful
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 02:14 PM
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True. There's a football (soccer) player in the UK who was very successful but not the most attractive guy. Retired now but a rich man. An interviewer asked him what he'd be if he wasn't a footballer. He said a virgin. He's married to a gorgeous model. Must be his personality that attracted her :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:41 PM
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Not necessarily if he was already friendzoned. As mentioned earlier underwear is the key. She must have realised that going to the effort of cooking dinner meant he was expecting something more. If she wore shabby underwear thinking she'd just take a free dinner that would be wrong - she's taking advantage of the guy. It would be perfectly fine for her to accept the dinner thinking something might happen, with appropriate underwear, but then bail when she didn't feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 03:14 PM
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Dine and dash is fine if she's not feeling it. The issue is the woman saying afterwards I had no idea he wanted romance/sex, I thought he was just offering me free dinner. Yea right.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:26 PM
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OK but the woman accepted the invitation on the basis that she knew he was expecting sex and was open to that depending how the evening went. The giveaway would have been her underwear - which he obviously didn't get to see. Guarantee she wore her nice stuff. Things didn't work out for whatever reason so she'd act surprised that a guy offering to cook for her had romantic/sexual intent. She accepted the invitation knowing exactly what his intent was. She wasn't feeling it so she bailed - perfect…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:48 PM
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Whenever older man dates younger woman, women have one response, he don't date woman his age because women his age won't put up with his bullshit But that's not true. He doesn't date women his own age because he finds younger women more appealing. Older women may be annoyed by this because they can't fight age - so they rationalise his choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:35 PM
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Thre was an article on this very issue today https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/aug/31/paloma-faith-single-mum-relationship-dating-apps A woman complaining that she chose to go on dates with men who she didn't think were good enough for her. She seemed to feel that as a middle aged single mother with dyed blonde hair she was entitled to something better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 11:06 AM
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Like money. Would you rather be rich, get used to the lifestyle etc then go poor. Or stay poor and never know what you were missing. I think most people would choose the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 09:57 AM
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Sorry things didn't work out - and I drew the wrong conclusion from your post. No such things as bad choices, people who turn out bad don't have signs on their forehead to warn you. You're right of course that when a man gets some money in his pocket his options increase. He also competes with other men, men egg other men on. If I was a woman I'd never be stay at home and reliant on his income. Hope things are going better for you now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:33 PM
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Are you suggesting the woman doesn't consider what she gets out of a sexual encounter? If the sex is crap for her she might do it to keep the relationship going. If the sex is good for her she'll be back next day. That's not about attractiveness/trustworthiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:05 PM
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So your husband's earnings went down and you started to struggle financially?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:42 PM
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But we'd have to assume an attractive guy with a decent career isn't using dating apps to find average women. He can walk down the road and see them all around. Before complaining the guys have nothing to offer ask what you have to offer and why you're on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:31 PM
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You've got things figured - good to hear :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:42 AM
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To avoid liability for child support you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:57 AM
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So you're saying it would be perfectly fine for a woman to get pregnant without the man's knowledge/consent - eg woman says I'm on the pill when she's not?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:05 AM
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The father of the child has no say in if the mother aborts or keeps the child. They have no say on if they pay child support. Surely the mother could/should ask for the man's opinions - even if she has the final say?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:04 AM
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So if you met a guy that you thought might be relationship material you'd wait to have sex. But if you met a guy that you didn't consider relationship material you might have sex with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:22 AM
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Based on what he's said I'd agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:31 AM
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It's fine to ask a woman about her past relationships, and judge for yourself whether she's being honest or whether you don't care. But asking her for name/contact details so you can verify seems a bit extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:25 AM
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Assuming cheating by definition involves lying how would you verify that a woman who says she's never cheated would be telling the truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:13 AM
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They may say it is safe to cold approach, but act very differently if it happens for real That depends on the guy doing the cold approach. Go out round the bars/clubs Saturday night and you'll see lots of women dressing to display their best attributes. In cold weather you'd have to assume their choice of dress makes them freezing. You'll even see women walking home in bare feet because their heels have become so uncomfortable. The women are putting their "goods" on display. Like a fisherman cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:15 AM
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But wouldn't a woman screen the man more carefully via chat/video calls etc before going on a date? If a guy can't afford to pay for dinner that should become clear in some pre-date conversation. Might be wrong - obviously I'm a man so don't see things from your side.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 06:51 AM
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Relationships aren't what happens at parties. They're what happens when you're at home sitting on the couch watching a movie sharing a takeout or in bed together. That's when you establish a connection and a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 10:07 AM
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Asking questions sounds fair - but that would rely on him telling you beforehand. Would you want him to tell you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:34 PM
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Not all of them obviously. Plenty of wealthy divorced single mothers. But the OP said Males who avoid single mothers likely don't have the means to provide for the child because they're broke Which suggests the single mother is broke and looking for somebody to support her/her child. She is disappointed that not many (any) men want to take that on. Not because the guy's broke but because he has a brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:22 PM
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Well I don't like children so I'd rule out a single mother on that basis alone. HVMs want children, so a single mom actually is bringing MORE to the table automatically Presumably they want their own children. Not somebody else's. Males who avoid single mothers likely don't have the means to provide for the child because they're broke Or because they don't want to support a broke woman and somebody else's kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:07 PM
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To be fair a lot of women say they don't take the time/expense to groom themselves/dress nicely/wear makeup for men - 100% for themselves because they feel good. Men are irrelevant to their choices. If you feel pressured to go to the time/expense even if you don't necessarily want to that's a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:00 PM
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Well I have a small one so quite sensitive to this. Never been shamed by anyone who's seen my penis although a few women have women have lost interest at that point. Preferences are understandable but shaming because somebody doesn't mean your preferences isn't. Example of what I hear. My firm pays bonuses in January, we'd had a very good year so bonuses were generous. Me and a couple of guys bought new cars, normal guy behaviour when you get some money in your pocket. Happened to be in the pub …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:02 PM
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Which is why I'm always so confused as to why there's so much dick size shaming of men To be fair most of the dick shaming I've seen is from women who've never seen the guy's dick. It's more like oh he must have a small dick to be like that. Not I know he does have a small dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:48 PM
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But you could argue women are the victims in life. If a woman does something that might justify prison she must have been forced/coerced into by a man. It wasn't her fault. If a man does something worthy of prison he made a choice to do so, nobody forced him. He's a threat to society and needs locking up. I bet you've seen worse arguments on the internet :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:07 AM
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That makes more sense. Example, few weeks back was talking to a female friend over a "few" drinks. We'd known each other for years so can be open with each other. Somehow we got to talking about height. She's about 5' which is obviously short for a woman but her guy's maybe 5' 6" which is short for a man. I said so you're perfect for each other. She said oh no I'd much rather have somebody your height, I'm 6'. Understand women liking the guy to be taller but that makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 07:13 PM
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I could understand if you said 95% of the women you meet aren't interested in you because they like tall guys and you don't have other attributes to make up for that. But why do you think women hate you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 07:02 PM
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Good point. Especially if kids involved and he'd be on the line for child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:18 PM
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No doubt being henpecked works both ways as you suggest. But there's likely a financial aspect to this. The woman puts up with crap because she can't afford to leave. The man puts up with crap because he doesn't want her to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:49 PM
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Neither do I. On a date I want to know about the other person. How does she think, what's she doing, where does she want to go etc. But I wouldn't want to put somebody on the spot and make them think they have to come up with "impressive" answers. I tend to think you never learn anything by talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:36 PM
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Usually the guys that don't ask questions are the ones who haven't read Dating 101 - ask her about herself. People love talking about themselves. Especially talking to a woman if you phrase questions like how do you feel about this? As opposed to direct/challenging questions like what did you do today? The woman is more likely to talk about her feelings. Or it could be guys feel they need to impress you by talking about their jobs etc. How do you feel about that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:04 PM
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To be fair I seriously doubt Clark Gable had to pay for sex because he couldn't get it any other way. He paid because he wanted the sex without the romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:48 PM
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I suppose I could maybe have got away with that but at the time thought best to be honest and told her why. All worked out in the end. Although I can see for some women admitting to 1st time might make her think oh there must be something wrong with him. You can never what the woman's reaction will be - would she prefer 1st time or not done it for a long time?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 11:52 AM
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The good news is that you can and should lie. The question is whether you get away with it. I was a late starter (24) first time things were going well I realised she wouldn't have considered the possibility I'd done nothing before. So should I admit or try and wing it. Decided I'd get away with winging it. Without getting into TMI she realised it was 1st time. Fortunately she was cool about it and said why didn't you tell me then we could have started slow. If I had time over I'd have admitted …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 11:40 AM
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No, people accept that wrongfully convicted people are innocent Not sure that's true. If somebody's wrongfully convicted it means it couldn't be proved he did it. That makes him innocent - everyone's innocent until they're proven guilty - but doesn't mean he didn't do it. There's always going to be a % of people who think oh yea they just couldn't prove it. I reckon he did it. Only exception would be if he couldn't have done it - eg he could prove he was 50 miles away at the time. But in that sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 08:29 AM
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Fair point. But the jeweller obviously wants to sell rings, so he tells the guy to spend a months salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:02 AM
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Makes sense. Saw a program once where they spoke to a jeweller. He said guys come in wanting to buy a ring to propose to their woman but asking how much they should spend. He always gives the same answer - a month's salary. Tell me what this is and I'll show you some rings she'll love. Could be a grand could be 20 grand. The woman doesn't want to bankrupt the man but she wants to see a decent commitment. A month's salary establishes that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:52 PM
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Men know how to be friends with men based on shared interests - football, cars, beer whatever it is. Men are very bad at being friends when you need support. Women are the opposite - women are interested in people men are interested in things. I'd agree with you that a woman would like to see a man with friends - ideally of both genders so she can see he's not some weirdo. But all he needs to do is go to his local pub and take a group photo. Social proof established/job done.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:43 PM
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You would hope he'd have the sense to do so. Or he might not be able to afford what she's demanding. Then she'll leave for greener pastures. Years ago there was a band that sold a lot of records quickly and became wealthy as a consequence. Their singer wrote a song with the line "you can have my credit card baby but keep your red hot fingers off my heart lady" Lot of truth in that line - as he became wealthy he realised his heart was more valuable than his credit card.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:29 PM
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Right. I bet if they did a survey and said to men are you totally happy with your woman's boobs or would you really like them to be a bit bigger or a bit smaller? A decent % of men will say well if I'm totally honest..... Just like if you asked women the same question about their man's penis. But these couples are in happy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:00 PM
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Single could mean desperate for sex but can't find anyone. Or it could mean 3 women on the go for sex which obviously does not count as a committed relationship - ie they identify as single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:54 PM
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Makes sense. I can see a lot of women wouldn't want a fat guy as he's probably not looking after himself. Likewise a short/skinny guy doesn't look like a protector. We'd also consider most women would say they want a guy taller than them which makes perfect sense. But outside the extremes seems there's a lot of chances for most guys. Of course a woman or a man may have other preferences which only become clear as the relationship develops.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:34 PM
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There's a lot things a man can do for a woman that are at least as important to her as sex is for a man. Of course best for the man to have a bit of money. You need security first. As for sex itself in my 4 serious relationships 3 of the women have had higher sexual appetites than me. Current partner will start dropping hints if we don't do anything for 2 days. I wouldn't worry if we went a week. Of course it may be my appetitive is below average and she's average/above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:03 PM
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Exactly. UK people will know all about The Sun. For the benefit of non UK people let's just say it's not a reliable source of information and tends to be read by people who's IQ is lower than their hat size.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:17 AM
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If they surveyed 150 single women under 25 that would be a fair sample size. But 150 is nowhere near enough to get a decent spread of age ranges etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 10:28 AM
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This leaves majority of men to comb through the remaining 16% of women who are open to dad bods and skinny men. But a woman saying she finds a certain type of body most attractive doesn't mean she'd hard no different types. Just as a man wouldn't rule out a woman who isn't the exact type he wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 10:20 AM
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Don't think its about standards. I never set out to be with a very slim girl but that's where I am. And never been happier. Can't speak for women obviously - woman viewpoints might be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:12 PM
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If the objective is just sex then there's only one standard - does she have a pussy. Obviously a low bar. For relationship it's different. In the past I'd always dated girls on the curvier side of average, that was my type. My partner is very much on the slim side of average. We were friends for a long time I liked her romantically but was worried I wouldn't find her attractive. Things happened and she's the sexiest woman I've known, even though she's the total opposite of what I thought my type…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 06:21 PM
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You'd also have to consider a lot of Irish girls are practicing Catholics, which means no birth control. So a girl is likely to consider do I want to have kids with this guy? Obviously that's a higher bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:37 PM
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Just ask people who are applying and getting rejected from jobs- no one will disagree that the person being turned down has it rough. For sure. But if you keep getting rejected, whether for jobs/dates/whatever the onus is on you to think what am I doing wrong here?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:17 PM
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he still wonders how many women he could potentially get outside of our relationship Has he said this or are you assuming that's what he's thinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:20 AM
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Stating the obvious you can't talk to a woman with the sole intent to have sex. Women are wise to that, they've been dealing with men who just want their body since they were 13 years old. Any woman correct if I'm wrong but I think a woman considers why does this guy want to have sex with me 1/ Because he wants sex and I happen to be the closest woman that could fulfil that desire. If I say no he'll find some other woman. 2/ Because he really wants me, just me. If he can't have sex with me he'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:13 AM
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Certainly. My parents were poor. The only reason they didn't divorce is because of money - they couldn't afford to sustain separate lives so they had to stay together. As a kid growing up that was a miserable experience. The worst thing you can do in life is be constrained by lack of money. I wouldn't marry somebody who earns less than me because I could potentially get shafted. But cohabiting works well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:05 AM
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And what happens if one of them "hits gold" and outearns the other 10:1 or more? Doesn't matter. I outearn my partner by >10x. This causes us some problems in the sense I can't be there all the time when she wants attention. She'll complain about that but she knows which side her bread's buttered. I'd suggest one of the keys to a happy relationship is having no money worries. Money worries can be a killer to even the best relationships. To paraphrase a song "I got 99 problems but money ain't one…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:54 AM
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She was believed. Right up until the point the police established beyond doubt that she was lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:50 PM
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men and women behave differently under similar circumstances. This is true. An ex girlfriend accused me of rape when I ended the relationship. Of course she had to be believed at first so I was arrested at my home taken away in handcuffs and spent time in custody. Luckily for me the CCTV at her building showed she was at home at the time she claimed to have been raped at my house. Obviously an easy job for the police to establish I was innocent so I was released. Despite clear evidence that she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 01:39 PM
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What if the man is more successful than the highly educated successful woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:50 AM
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Did your mam tell you that women like sex just as much as men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:28 PM
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Why should be reimbursed? Money you invest in a relationship is always going to be a gamble. Maybe it will work out maybe it won't. The fact shes asking for half the money from a failed date says something about her personality/character. This may partly explain why the relationship failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:33 AM
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Hypergamy is a drive for women, as far as attraction, the “what am I getting out of this” is pure gold digging. Only if the answer is money and nothing else. No doubt that happens but it's a (very) small minority. There simply aren't enough rich guys to go around. Most women don't marry for money, or even expensive dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:04 AM
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OK, you have my sympathies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:22 AM
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Don't know. My work gets crazy sometimes and have to travel a lot. She has a basic 9-5 job. Numerous times she's tried to do something really nice/romantic and I couldn't be there. Feel bad about that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:09 PM
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There seems to be a (minority) view here that women can just sit back and let men woo them with romantic gestures while they make no effort. I've found the opposite to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 11:08 AM
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I was wondering how long it would take for you to call me dude. People who make posts like this always do. Top quality post. Thanks for the laugh :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:41 AM
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Why do you think we are LOL I find it amusing to respond to people who make nonsense posts. No emotion/nothing taken personally. What we call in England piss taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:31 AM
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Of course you don't care. You're telling us that older men should date women your age rather than younger/more attractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:24 AM
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So is this a long way of saying men should stay in their own lane rather than dating younger women? For context my dad is 17 years older than my mum. None of what you've said applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:19 AM
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But it's very common for women to become single moms and then say "I'm raising my standards now, no more X" But sorry babe, it doesn't work that way. You just lowered your value, now you should be lowering your standards. Maybe she's thinking I've been treated like shit in the past so if I can't meet a better guy I'd rather stay single and focus on my child?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:39 AM
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They can be but physical strength is the key. Imagine a man and a woman having an argument. Man gets angry and puts his hands round the woman's neck. He would have the physical strength to strangle her and she wouldn't have the physical strength to resist him. So he kills her. He says in court he never meant to kill her he just wanted to frighten her. He's terribly sorry etc. Not pre-meditated so not murder. Woman gets angry with the man. She can't strangle him with her hands so she needs a weap…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:45 AM
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A man cannot commit adultery unless the other participant is a married woman. Of course he can. If a man's married and the woman's single or married he's committed adultery. If a man's single and the woman's married she's committed adultery but he hasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:03 AM
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We can see she's not very attractive, the fact she's posting on TikTok suggests she doesn't have any money. So what is her worth beyond the basics that every woman has?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:13 PM
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So she doesn't have any money or a man but she's hoping to make money on TikTok spouting this crap. What man is going to take his credit card out to pay for her dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:36 PM
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Of course it is. My experience has been that women put more effort in to the romantic side of a relationship than men do. Sometimes I feel bad for accepting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:33 PM
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In heterosexual relationships, romantic love is provided by the man but not reciprocated by the woman. Is this claim based on your own experience of romantic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:38 PM
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I’d also argue 90% of women don’t engage in using men for financial gain in that way anyways - but you’ll say that’s not true so I won’t even get into it. I won't say that's not true, we are talking about a small % of women. My point was that behaviour is not helpful for that % of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:23 PM
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Their problem. Easy now/hard later. Can't keep scrounging off low/mid teir men forever. Unless the woman meets a high net worth individual - but then presumably such a guy would be too smart to fall for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:48 PM
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They lose a lot. Sure they might get a bit of financial gain from stupid men but when their looks fade that's going to fade. These women would be far better off advancing their own career/earnings and looking for a guy they actually want to be with. One of the best bits of advice I had was you either can make it easy now and hard later or hard now and easy later. These women are clearly going for easy now/hard later. Not very smart long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:37 PM
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Who do you hold responsible for this - the man for being stupid or the women for taking advantage of his stupidity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:38 PM
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You miss the obvious explanation: most women are in relationships with older men. I did reference that in my post. You're right that its significant. So we can break this down for 100 men vs 100 women. 5 guys dating 3 women each causes 15 women to think they're in a relationship. So that makes the figure 49 women single vs 63 men. Then 5 women are dating other women. So 54 women are not in a relationship with a man. Then 5 women are dating older men. Clearly a lot more women date older guys than…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:32 PM
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If that's the case it may well cause women to think that they don't need to make any effort to attract male attention. But surely they'd get bored with this when they see the calibre of guy that zero effort attracts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:26 PM
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Unfortunately, the average guy mostly only care about getting laid, and he's been conditioned to think that simping is the best way to do that. But surely he'd learn from experience it isn't the best way. Worst case he'll fail completely best case he'll get laid a few times but be treated like shit. Then she leaves him. In any scenario the way to succeed is to adapt your approach in light of what works/doesn't work. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:22 PM
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Strange one. See this article https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/3868557-most-young-men-are-single-most-young-women-are-not Nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men So imagine 100 women and 100 men. The 66 women who are not single are in relationships with the 37 men who are not single. Impossible. Maybe some of the 37 men are dating multiple women at the same time - each woman thinks she's in a committed relationship when she's …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 11:03 AM
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But women aren't more responsible for other women's behaviour - they can only speak for their own behaviour. Clearly her behaviour has been very different to the behaviour referenced in the OP. Just the same as if a man raped a woman you and I are not responsible just because we're the same gender .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 09:40 AM
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If the guy's that bad physically then fair point. You'd be thinking can I see myself having sex with this guy if the relationship develops and you're thinking not until hell freezes over. That's clearly a hard no but you're not going to tell the guy that. I was thinking more of an average guy. He's not hugely attractive but he's not a turn off either. You'd maybe be thinking OK I kinda like you because you made me laugh/we share interests/whatever let's find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 04:10 PM
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I mean are ya'll expecting inflammatory statements like "Sorry your too bald/too short/too fat/too plain for my taste?" Do you think that physical attributes are the main reason women reject proposals from men? I've found most women are very willing to overlook (most) physical attributes if they feel some emotional connection. Obvious exception if the guy is clearly a loser - dresses like shit, doesn't shower etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:56 PM
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Nothing. Obviously she wouldn't go out if she didn't think she'd enjoy the experience. Perfectly fair. But she can't afford a babysitter or the Uber and presumably expects the man to pay for everything. She's not worth that investment given that if a relationship develops the guy will have to deal with her kid plus whatever baggage from her previous relationship(s). She seems to have an over-inflated idea of her value. Better for the guy to invest the money into a woman without kids. 4 is perfec…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:39 PM
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To be fair you'd have to assume people who make long posts like this have never actually been in a successful long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:25 PM
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Right. My sis experienced this. She's very ambitious/career orientated and didn't see space in her life for kids. She got married to a far less ambitious guy and right after marriage the subtle (and not so subtle) hints started coming from her hub, my/her side of the family and his side of the family about having kids. Eventually she thought sod it, I'll have kids. Her hub does the child related stuff and is excellent at it. She provides the salary to keep things going. My only worry is the kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:17 PM
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Men always complain about women‘s ages on this subreddit and how they don’t find older women desirable. Not sure about that. As an example my partner and I watch the breakfast news before work and we both sometimes comment on how good the weather forecaster looks. She's always smiling, enthusiastic and very well dressed. I assume she gets a clothing allowance so she never wears the same thing twice. Shes 62, approx twice my and partners age. She asked me once if I did find the woman attractive a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:43 AM
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None. But any contraceptive is more effective than no contraceptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:24 PM
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But the question might be want because they truly want to be parents or because it's expected?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:59 PM
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They've invented this thing called contraception. I believe most people have heard of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:51 PM
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In a coffee shop couple weeks ago and a teen girl at the next table was having an argument on her phone. She said to the other person "no you don't have haters, people just don't like you" That's pretty much it. If people don't like you then you're in the bottom 20%, nobody wants to associate with you. If people like you then you should be OK. Of course a bit of money in your pocket/success in your life helps a bit beyond that. I don't buy this argument that some guys make that goes oh poor me I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:48 PM
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I wouldn't be. But then I wouldn't have sex with anyone if there was risk of pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:25 PM
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The UK elected a single/never married PM in the early 70s, think it's the only time in recent history that's happened here. Google Ted Heath is you want the story. Of course he may have been gay but he had the sense not to say that even if it was true. Or he may have been with lots of women but didn't want to be tied down to one. But the OP specifically mentioned the USA. I can't imagine conservative/republican voters would accept an unmarried/never married presidential candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:21 PM
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Why are you having unprotected sex with someone you believe shouldn’t be around kids, especially his own? That's obvious. The woman wanted to have sex to pursue a romantic relationship but she didn't want a child. Imagine you're with a woman things are going well and she says I'm not on the pill, have you got any condoms? You say no. Does she say we're not having sex, or does she say well let's do it anyway? I guarantee 9 times out of 10 it's the latter. She was playing the odds that she wouldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:07 PM
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It is well-known that only women have the right to vote and they’ll only vote for married men. To be fair do you think women would think there must be some issue with an unmarried male President standing for election? Unless he came out as gay of course which would be a legit reason to be unmarried. Not sure the world's ready for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:56 AM
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It also works the other way around and the husband could have had an exceptionally underwhelming career. Bad luck for the wife. So you're saying if the man is successful, like this guy, the wife claims credit and wants paying accordingly. The amount she got paid due to her husband's success was well into 8 figures. She didn't claim she had any influence on her husband's business, he did that all on his own. All she did was raise the kids/look after the house. She didn't claim she had exceptional…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:30 AM
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OK
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:39 PM
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Yourself. The person I replied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:30 PM
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Family with kids is a team effort and should be treated as such in a divorce (= all resourced accumulated in the marriage are spli 50/50 + compensation for SAHP). 50/50 split is the norm in the UK. But there's an argument called exceptional ability, the higher earner claims his or her contribution was based on their exceptional ability in their chosen field so they're entitled to more than 50%. First time this was used was a guy who started an advertising agency which he grew from scratch to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:03 PM
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No they're not. But the other person presented a scenario where the man could financially sustain his partner staying at home and achieved multiple promotions. This suggests the man is a high earner. The issue is she seems to be claiming credit for his success because she looked after the house etc. He gets 100% of the credit for his success. All she's done is saved him some wages.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:59 AM
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Make a will? But if she's semi-intelligent she could lawyer up and challenge it. He could potentially put his assets in trust with his kids as beneficiaries. If he honestly suspects she might be capable of this plenty of lawyers would be happy to help him. Or the obvious they figure out she murdered him. She doesn't get a penny and rots in jail. It's your claim she's out of his league that I'd question. She's better looking/younger but he's more successful. He's traded his success for her looks.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:33 AM
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Clearly she couldn't leave with a solid pre-nup so she stays to continue the lifestyle he provides. Presumably she'd accept him seeing other women to get what he isn't getting from her. But her risk is one day he'll meet a woman he wants to be with for keeps. He'll write whatever cheque he needs to and she'll be out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:17 AM
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If I'm doing more at-home work for you (kids or no) or doing more childcare, and that leads to you being able to focus more on work and get more promotions, then your income is directly caused by my unpaid labour. Except it isn't. It's caused by the man's ability/motivation at his job. Hence when he gets promoted other guys with partners working at home don't get promoted. For every 1 guy that gets a promotion 5 guys are passed over. If you weren't there he'd hire a nanny/cleaner/cook/whatever h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:01 AM
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My ex was a strident feminist, she also held left wing views while I was very much right/capitalist. It made for interesting debate/discussion. Not a problem atall. Obviously we're not together any more but it wasn't for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:09 AM
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Makes sense. I have a small one so usually wait longer than I otherwise would to have sex. My theory is the more invested she is the more likely she is to overlook size. Obviously this wouldn't work in a hook up/one night situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:45 AM
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Why would a woman want a man who's likely to be taken away from her when he's jailed or killed by his rivals? Going to funeral or visiting in jail for the next 10 years does not seem very attractive as a life choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:50 PM
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I remember when we read two of the studies most guys were shocked that it wasn’t overweight women who tended to be size queens, but instead women who rate themselves better looking than average. This makes sense. A larger woman might find a larger penis is more practical, given her size a larger one can reach places others can't. Some positions just don't work with larger woman/small penis. A woman who rates herself better looking than average would feel she deserves a man who is better looking …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:51 PM
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Anyway, are you saying being rejected for these things is somehow preferable to being rejected for a small penis? It certainly could be. Say a guy has a preference for large boobs. He can see a woman's size when she's clothed so he wouldn't approach a small boobed woman. He's rejected her in his mind but she'd never know. Now say a woman has a preference for large, or at least average, penis size. She can't tell his size when they're clothed, she hoped he's at least average. So rejection might h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:13 PM
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