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Throw away the American pseudo-puritanical values…humans need touch and connection. Just getting a massage (non sexual) makes you feel human again. Many men are in sexless relationships but get bastardized for having sex outside of their relationships. I don’t condone cheating, but withholding affection is abuse (even from yourself)
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:54 PM
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I agree..doing the right thing doesn’t mean kissing her a$$ to make her happy. Never be a nice guy because you will get played for being weak.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 02:52 AM
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I wouldn’t be angry or demonize her(its ok to do so short-term for healing purposes only)…only energy and emotion should be focused on how you want to rebuild your life, better…it’s actually a blessing, even though I didn’t see it that way during my divorce. Looking back, I feel like I had won. It was hard, but I got in shape, bought a motorcycle, built a home, traveled, and hung out with my kids. I also got promoted a couple of times. I’m happy, while my cheating crazy ex-wife looks pathetic (s…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 10:11 PM
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Trying to figure out why is a waste of time. Men try to rationalize the unrational. You can do everything right and she still may cheat. I’ve learned that it’s not always “you” being the reason why. Often women don’t even know why and will blame shift to you being the reason and to absolve themselves of accountability or fault or guilt. I learned the hard way and knowing this could have saved me years of suffering emotionally
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 02:01 PM
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The faster you can healthily sever sexual and emotional bonds the faster you can heal and move to the next chapter. Sex can keep you stuck in a do-loop wasting time in a dead relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 12:59 PM
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It’s a personal choice. It’s estimated that the false paternity rate ranges between 5-25% . You are not alone. Hell, I even discovered that my father wasn’t my biological father until my 40’s. Mother, was dishonest till the day she died. It was nagging me about my son to have doubts so I tested him using ancestry.com. It confirmed that he is my biological son after all, but I’m not sure how I would feel if he wasn’t. I would still love him but would hate my ex wife even more. But it may come out…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 09:08 AM
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It took 11 years…I met an awesome woman when I stopped searching and stopped caring. I prioritized myself and that’s when i found happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 10:10 PM
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We used to alternate years with our 2 kids. I moved 1 mile away from my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 02:22 AM
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I think that’s a trendy modern day term “feeling safe”. Safe from what? Bears entering your home? Invaders? Emotionally safe. My fiancé say that during arguments. I hate hearing that because I feel that it’s a form of manipulation.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 01:08 AM
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Facts…after you do all that work, you rather be riding your motorcycle, smoking cigars with buddies, and buying that new convertible. After I did all the self-work, I was enjoying finding me. After divorce, I was trying to fill a void left by my ex through dating. Lastly, after you have been with many women their luster is lost…they become a PITA.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 03:13 AM
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lol..it’s always easy for them to hookup. Their problem is many guys don’t want to commit to a 40-something women with kids. It took me almost a decade to remarry, but I rather have quality over quantity.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 03:08 AM
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True…also if you grow up in a household of women you learn the types of games they play quick. I remember seeing my sisters game and play men from high school through adulthood..seeing them operate made me aware. This is not to vilify women, men play games too.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 03:04 PM
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Women are complex..some things are hormonal, especially around 38 when they typically start becoming premenopausal. They don’t even know why they do the things they do. Some marriages can weather such storms and others can’t. But you have to be aware of false hope and sunk cost. This is when she checks out emotionally, sometimes years before men become aware, while the husband endures years in a sexless, unfulfilling, loveless marriage hoping that things will return back to “normal”. Men become …
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 01:37 PM
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Took 10 years but I found a better woman…but along the way I had fun with hiking, overseas travel, motorcycles, and spending time with my kids. After I grieved and let go and got my finances together life has never been better
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 10:01 PM
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2012 was the kick in the 🥜’s year for me. Long 2 years but rebuilding my life was well worth it!!! Didn’t know how bad things were until she left. Thank God she left…It gets better brothers…hang in there!
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:05 PM
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50/50 is usually the custody/visitation agreement; however there is a such thing as Conservatorship, often confused with custody, means the right to decide for or about the child. Usually the parent who is granted primary conservatorship will receive child support, even if visitation is 50/50. But I was lucky and got my divorce lawyer write into our decree that we both will equally financially support our children without the state levying child support on either parent. I also had him write int…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 08:00 PM
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Good luck…my son just turned 18 years old and no more forced interactions with ex-wife. We are very close and spend a lot of time together hiking, fixing cars, and hanging out. Without 50/50, I would have not had such a great relationship with my Son and Daughter. Without 50/50, My ex-wife would have painted me as the dead beat weekend dad. That’s why I’m passionate helping other men exercise their FULL parental rights.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 07:25 PM
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It’s all emotional…and boundaries (emotional and financial) need to be firm. Often men will make substantial sacrifices to make their spouses (or ex spouses) happy by being overly accommodating. What’s actually happening is your kindness is being weaponized against you. But to some (not all) former partners, after your relationship is over, you are good as dead to them emotionally even if you are providing them something of value. Also, there is false hope in this dynamic since you may be hoping…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:58 PM
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Since your kids have been with you, you will probably have a strong case especially if she moved out of her legal residence without your approval. ACT FAST!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:43 PM
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I’d would tell any perspective lawyers your financial situation and see if they will work with you…but to be away from your kids and not having a close bond with them is the worse outcome. It may be the fight of your life because losing is not an option.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:41 PM
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Agree…my ex wife was trying to move with my kids across country despite having 50/50 custody and no child support order by legal agreement…it’s illegal and men are often passive and hesitant to exercise their parental rights.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:37 PM
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I don’t think she can do that legally..you will need to talk to a lawyer as soon as possible. I would still register your kid for school and make this known to the court system…If you don’t you may be giving up your parental rights. Also, in the long run the lawyer fees may be MUCH less costly than the child support system and having limited access to your child…BUT ACT FAST!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 06:26 PM
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I wish there were places like this for men to share experiences 13 years ago when I was going through my relationship problems. I learned that we can lean on each other and we are not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 01:30 AM
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Also healing allows you to reconnect with yourself. I was able to travel to Africa, South America, and other countries. I learned Spanish. Bought a motorcycle, and got in shape. I learned how to be joyful and content without being on a relationship. Also my career took off with a couple of promotions. I don’t recommend guys to soothe their pain by jumping into another relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 01:09 AM
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Reason I asked is because I had to question myself why I would be willingly remain in a sexless marriage with an often dissatisfied wife. I ignored what a healthy marriage looked like. She didn’t make be feel loved or valued. After I met a loving woman years after my divorce, I realized how bad my marriage was. But I did miss being in a relationship post-divorce until I healed
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 05:00 PM
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Problem is that healing and grief is often expressed as anger in men. Often we are like a pressure cooker while silently taking abuse. So when men openly express their feelings and hurt, society and culture doesn’t understand it and tries to control it. I’ve learned that there is little empathy for men in pain or suffering. But also with new technology, social media permitted the collective and communication of men’s issues. This has never been done before since men are now able to connect the d…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 03:46 PM
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Do you really miss her or do you miss being in a relationship and family life?
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 07:32 PM
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Some please will double down on a lie when confronted…My mother wouldn’t admit, even when confronted with DNA evidence that I was the result of an out of marriage relationship. Despite having all the facts, she took that lie (in her mind)to the grave without acknowledgement. She put up smoke screens, gaslighting, and playing like she was delusional and the victim. It was sad that a lie had that much power over her life. best to make peace with it and don’t let any one bull shit you especially if…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 06:14 PM
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I have a decent relationship with my ex wife. We agreed to live close and have the kids attend the same school system. I alternated custody every other week then changed it to every two weeks. Now my youngest just graduated high school and I’m glad for 50-50 because I have a close relationship with my kids. I refused to be a dad that only sees his kids every other weekend. My ex also was ok keeping them longer when I had to travel for work. It’s been hard but worth it for me. Also, I didn’t pay …
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 11:52 PM
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Been there, done that, and got the t-shirt. Stand your ground, she can’t leave the state with the kids without your approval. If she leaves, report it quickly. But never give up your rights. Once you lose them, it’s hard to get them back. I had put in our divorce decree geographical limits on the kids….our kids had to remain in the same school district. Best decision I made. Also, was able to get 50-50 joint custody without child support. It was hard but worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 04:04 PM
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