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Most are somewhere in between, not total.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:33 AM
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Not from my knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:32 AM
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No, it doesn't always end. But in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:31 AM
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I have such a particular taste that I don't think it makes any sense for men overall to work on anything that I like. Because I have slightly peculiar ideas of what I like and I'm not what they want probably. I disagree with ideal not existing, because, in fact I've met the ideal and part of what's ideal and perfect for me is not being perfect because that's depth. Although all those non perfect things were what I find not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:30 AM
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I don't know what most women like, but I like things that most people may argue are contradictions but they are not in reality. There is a difference between being foundationally decent and goody two shoes. To me, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:27 AM
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I think those men are weak inherently. Most men I know are neither some casanovas with plenty of options, nor some little lambs. They just normal people, who have common sense, are down to earth and don't need ideologies as a crutch. The thing is this. 99% of men I know don't use the internet nearly at all and never even used internet forum or commented on social media in their life. They don't listen to podcasts, watch youtube videos about some subjects like that. They don't make a philosophy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:20 AM
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I wanted a househusband and had one. Money is money is money. As long as there is money, I don't care at all if he works. And he doesn't need to play a house husband in terms of cleaning and cooking. I just don't care if he works or not as long as I make enough. I prefer it even because then he is more relaxed and always rested and who doesn't want a companion who is not busy? I love that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:16 AM
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It does influence outcomes. If one is too awkward, insecure and unsure or desperate that is not attractive usually nor it is good for oneself. So changing that improves their personality. I was timid, quiet and anxious when I was a teen and nobody was ever interested in me. Then I had a huge turnaround, became the most popular person nearly everywhere I went and I literally have people writing to me after 13 years since last seeing me that they had huge crushes on me. But nobody from before that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:13 AM
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There is no realistic solution beyond eliminating those people, so they won't be needy. That's it. What solution do you want? Force better people to have sexual relations with useless ones? Society has bigger issues, than this to deal with. That;s a personal problem, they don't need to be babied by society about it. They need to get over themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:15 PM
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Flirting is an art form. I don't like people who don't know how to flirt and are dull.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:59 AM
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Yes I have noticed similar. And then also, I watched that crazy program with people with strange obsessions with saving money and they do ridiculous things often and are pain in the ass and yet they are in relationships lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:52 AM
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She seems very anxious, if I was her I would have lost patience the moment he sat down. But I put effort into being cold and intimidating from the get-go and it works. I can flirt even with ugly strangers or elderly ones, just to have nice banter and chat but not with insufferable needy creepers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:00 PM
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If they do it everywhere it means you come across as psycho not that they are insecure. If everywhere you come across people scrunching their nose, it's you that stinks not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:41 PM
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No, I don't think in those terms of myself. I cannot perceive myself this way, like a sexual object of someone's desire. I just see myself like a painting let's say, in that sort of experience of 'beauty'. And in the same way, I see my clothes and jewellery and everything. So I'm not ever thinking about putting effort into appearing attractive to someone. To me, it's totally abstract idea, especially since every individual only knows what they find attractive. I cannot read their minds, so why w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:15 AM
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Do you understand that it's about consent? Like, if guy who I don't want to kiss me is trying to kiss me, obviously there must be something wrong because he cannot read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:02 AM
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My first serious relationship was when I was 19/20 and the guy was around 30. The reason? Not my preference for older men. Just simply that: He was amazingly well-matched with me. He was the sort of partner I needed. We just connected strongly, like we were made of the same cloth. He was THE YOUNGEST person in my life at the time anyway. My friends were 40-60 years old. There were just no people my age who had the same lifestyle or who could relate to me. That only changed in my mid-twenties. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:00 AM
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But it's pretty obvious. It's not like those dim lads hide it well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:52 AM
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I would not be ok with that, because this attitude doesn't align with my personal values and therefore I cannot love the person, as in I just will not feel it. I can only fall in love with someone that's a match for me. I would never agree to that myself and I usually was the person with more money. I would not feel comfortable sharing expenses 50/50 with my partner when I knew they had way less. It's not me. If I live with someone, the money is not going to be separated at all, it's all for eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:36 AM
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We don't care, we just act as unit, everything is mixed up. I don't even know about chores or stuff like that. We don't have kids, but we run a rescue action for cats and the work is pretty much 50:50 there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:30 AM
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I don't think any of this matters in reality. I see it this way: I have my view on my looks and my character that are according to what I like and value. When it comes to dating? I don't care how others see me, what they see as worthy or not. I know what I AM interested in other people and I can get it. So that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:29 AM
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I would never, ever hookup or kiss a stranger and that is why I never ever start any romantic relation from date. It is always a totally platonic situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:26 AM
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​ I have very specific requirements for instance, although I never said or complained that I cannot find someone as that was never on my mind. I don't think you fully understand what it can mean to have specific requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:25 AM
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Let me enlighten you: I don't care if you or anyone receives sexual attention. I don't need to acknowledge it, I don't need to help, solve or do anything about it. You cannot get laid? Good. It's your problem, you ain't attractive then. I'm not going to baby you because you are not good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:07 AM
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Men thinking and worried about being masculine are weak, so not really masculine at all. I don't know one normal masculine man who is worried about not appearing masculine and those who do ? Those are the toxic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:06 AM
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My father is high-functioning autistic man and women always fawn over him and often did. He's handsome, but not too tall. How are they supposed to know he is autistic? Nobody would really guess that. Especially not in the culture I'm from lol They just think he is very calm, and solid and quiet. I would even say it gives him the upper hand with people in some ways because of how he appears, people tend to be extremely focused on making him like them and they just focus on that. On getting his ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:11 AM
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I mean counts as sex, isn't it? ​ But I would not be interested personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:07 AM
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I don't date males who have bros and go into locker rooms and such. Not my vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:40 AM
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Similar baggage to mine is preferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:39 AM
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I would rather pass away. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:38 AM
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Men don't walk around pregnant or give birth, so there isn't and will never be 'equality' in some silly 'exactly equal' way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:38 AM
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It's a definition of controlling and misogynistic. What are you talking about? What kind of weakling is worried about what their spouse is wearing? What kind of person thinks they should have a say in how someone dresses? It's ridiculous. I never had issues like that, but I don't date weak men tho. Clothes are just clothes: They have no gender and there aren't different clothes for single and married.. I dress exactly as always. It's my style and part of who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:35 AM
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That is considered very typical 'normal' life. At 18 I moved abroad alone and fended for myself and was not in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:16 AM
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Hard to measure that, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:11 AM
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I personally hate 'career' men and if he is an influencer on social media... omg that's like being a sex worker. I don't want the toxic energy like that around me. One immediately loses attractiveness to me if he's a CEO, celebrity or stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:28 AM
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I mean, any animal prefers to breed with a healthy one not one with a disability. Did you see how birds of paradise check if their mates are healthy and capable? Why are you speaking about all this like it's some discovery? It's logical. We are ANIMALS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:24 AM
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Someone I was dating went through a period of time thinking that others can 'unlock' mine. It's a different situation since I was not sexting anyone. But from my comfort with my body and nudity, the person had a totally misguided image of how 'sexual' I am. I am precisely comfortable with nudity and my body so much because I am not seeing it as sexual. People perceive me as some femme fatale but I don't think of myself this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:20 AM
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I would never date a millionaire so cab driver. I don't care how wealthy my partner is, I care how wealthy I AM.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:15 AM
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Americans are annoying. The rest are so uninteresting. With the exception of Irish Scottish and Welsh.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:06 AM
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I'm a mix. I was raised in Poland but my family isn't. But I would say I'm mostly Slavic at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:01 AM
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So basically you agree with this? Which is a quote from the link: ' The exact scope of the Western world is somewhat subjective in nature, depending on whether cultural, economic, spiritual or political criteria are employed. ' or this? ' Since the fall of the iron curtain the following countries are generally accepted as the Western world:[167] the United States, Canada; the countries of the European Union plus the UK, Norway, Iceland and Switzerland; Australia and New Zealand. In addition, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:08 AM
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That's not even true. Who told you under even circumstances it degrades slower? It is false. That's the truth ' Males lose collagen earlier and more consistently throughout life. Females tend to keep more until menopause, when they lose it at a dramatic rate. ' hence why it SEEMS that men age better because the change is more drastic in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:01 AM
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Is that the definition you go by? Because I came across many different ones in conversation, it's not set in stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:19 AM
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What do you mean by western precisely? EU to you is all western ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:52 AM
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I live in Mexico, but that is not relevant because I'm not talking about Mexico but about Slavic countries where I am from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:47 AM
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Those things you complain about is what males from red pill in MY country are saying also.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:46 AM
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I never met any man who wanted to have sex only with me. And I'm not afraid of that happening personally, so I am not vigilant about it. As for going dutch, I would never date someone who goes dutch, I find that ugly and not generous. I don't associate with people who are not generous. If you invite someone, you pay. If you don't have money do not propose to go to a place you cannot afford or say so. If man wanted to go dutch I would pay for both and leave. And I am 100% not any leech, in fact t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:09 AM
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I think all of ya are exaggerating so much and are terminally online. I don't know any normal, half-decent bloke who is not dating and has problems with dating. The only two who do not are absolute losers beyond saving when it comes to those matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:02 AM
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My husband is very, very intelligent. But he is not some nerd. He is all-around brilliant both intellectually, and mathematically but also in real life including the capability to end a fight and having a sense of humour. That is why he never found a place well, because he is way smarter than the average person but not locked in his head like the intelligent ones. That's why we clung to each other so much because we are similar in those ways. But I would take a stupid kind guy over pretentious p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:01 AM
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They don't age slower at that age, they only age a bit slower after 50s, so after women have menopause.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:54 AM
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But they do. Men in their 30s most often do not look as good as in their 20s. The youth glow is gone already. Also that second pic looks older and not fresh, have you seen it? What's that huge wrinkle between eyebrows?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:52 AM
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I cannot speak for Asian women and Latinas but it makes me laugh when people think that women from where I'm around have lower standards. There are women who do, like everywhere but that seppo fantasy land for males doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:51 AM
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But some of the things ARE insecure. Especially when an insecure male picks a bikini model and then wants her to change. The fear of your partner dressed half naked or in the club IS INSECURITY. What else? It doesn't come from secure person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:48 AM
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I know two people that were. But one was not random and second was that she was accusing everyone of multiple things just to get rid of them at work and then put her boyfriend. The first one dated briefly a totally insane woman, and everyone told him so. So no surprise he was accused, she also was attacking his friends including me and I didn't know the lass. She tried to get me deported, she spat on me, followed me around the streets. Insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:45 AM
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There is nothing they should do or shouldn't. I do, but what others do? I don't care. There is no separation of finances in my marriage so there is no funding 'by themselves'
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:43 AM
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I searched my own face and the results are part accurate and part absolutely ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:49 AM
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The things I saw men being congratulated for as special are ridiculous tbh. But it doesn't mean some general bar is low. Some women are simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:19 AM
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I would never be interested in man who loves me less lol. In fact, I am actually incapable to fall in love until i see he loves me with what I judge as real love and is loyal to me. I'm always loved more, and in fact, all happy marriages I know are this way. Husband loves more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:16 AM
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why would I ask for a friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:36 AM
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Probably because there are too many messages and they want to be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:59 PM
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' Yeah, like, no way, right? That is what most guys are doing. ' You don't understand what that even means. What a dingbat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:58 PM
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How do you use that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:55 PM
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More like it supposed to mean: I faked it to make you finish already cause you suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:46 PM
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You have some sort of mental health disorder and that is a woman you are describing is also disordered. Because your kind flocks together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:45 PM
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I am a woman who is over 30 and so are most of my female friends. And they ARE attracted to those guys and date them. I literally paid attention to my husband because he passed me by in make up, with longer hair and dressed in crazy black fake fur.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:15 AM
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No. I would never ever date a man with a beard. Gives me chills like scratching the wall to even think about touching it. ​ Btw you are totally wrong too. Guess who is having stories written about them. Harry Styles, K-pop idols, and that Timothee Chalamet. And women were WAY more into Loki than Thor in the movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:00 AM
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So you basically saying: Humans will go for the mate that appears most attractive to them. What knowledge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:48 AM
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He is ten years older, of a different race, and a different ethnicity. I cannot tell you if we are visually equally attractive. I don't know. That is subjective and I don't think and am incapable of seeing things this way. I'm like colour-blind to that. When it comes to cultural background, we are from different continents but there isn't a huge difference. He is not a very typical person from his place and neither am I from mine, so those things are never really relevant. I think the biggest di…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:46 AM
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My relationship is NOTHING like their views nor even very like common relationships are (which is still different from their beliefs) .
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:31 AM
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Someone who is not reckless but is also capable to end it fast and will not pussyfoot around but attack well and fast. Not leave me to attack by myself. A team member basically, because I am very violent when needed and able to walk away when needed. I would not be jumping up and down embarrassingly to someone, nor would let myself be intimidated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:14 AM
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Ok, but video clips doesn't actually covey smell. And smell is one of the reasons why human animal in general BOTH MEN AND WOMEN, experience 'spark'
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:50 AM
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Not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:41 AM
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I am not the type of person that people settle for. So, I cannot even imagine. I would also not settle, don't date people who settle and in my view it would be unfair to the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:36 AM
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How can there be spark without face to face interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:34 AM
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Not only I would, but I did. My husband had £50 and some stuff to his name and no job when we started the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:25 AM
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Maybe... But do you also have an obsession like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:12 AM
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By the way, I don't really drink or party either and never did. I have met people by volunteering, work, travelling and stuff like that. I had actually meet my husband in a squat lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:09 AM
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If he is not a loser then who is? He is like the definition of it. Putting that name for gaming lol how pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:07 AM
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I know. But also, nothing that's really great comes so easily... Well, in most cases. So as much as it is harder to get it to happen it is also nicer to meet someone with similar outlook and someone who is out and away from tinder. I have never dated anyone that I didn't meet in real life and never really dated someone who's big into internet. My ex didn't even have an email.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:02 AM
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Are you serious? Why would you marry this loser?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:43 AM
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I was always against online dating, it is so artificial. I went on it twice as an experiment, to have a leg to stand on saying it's a very fake feeling BUT I used a website so no swiping, it was reaching out. People could send you messages. I got so many messages in such a short time and all of them similar to each other it was overwhelming. I am not surprised you don't get much attention back if there are so many. All of it seems so fake and silly and desperate. So I am with ya. Meet people in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:40 AM
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There is no such thing as an average man. What's attractive to me or amazing to me, to you it could be average. My partner could think of himself as average, I may not see him that way. My husband's ex tried to claim to him that I was too beautiful to take him seriously and that my ex was more handsome and I would run back to him. Maybe to her my ex was more handsome, because to me, my husband is my type and he is a stunner. When it comes to instilling insecurity, I would get bored, not anxious …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:34 AM
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Everyone who can SHOULD react. What is appropriate reaction should be judged case by case. But I am not interested in living in a world where I or others do nothing because they don't have to. If I see a situation where I cannot help much, I call the police. I don't ignore it. If it's drastic and urgent? I will do something. If I see a child, a man, a woman, or an animal being hurt I am not going to pretend I don't see it. I find that immoral and I would never get rid of the guilt. I always reac…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:24 AM
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If you think that men know exactly what attracts them, then you have zero knowledge in the subject of psychology. Because it's more than just thick or thin or basic things. Million things affect you chemically and subconsciously non stop. Your brain nose and ears perceive a lot of information constantly that goes straight into your subconscious mind without you knowing it. If asked 'what attracts you?' your brain will come up with what sounds reasonable and logical. That doesn't mean you are ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:20 AM
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I think something people are not comfortable talking about is that the bigger difference in the so-called power imbalance is mental health. Especially issues with attachment and self-esteem, those people are ridiculously easy to manipulate, even though most people are they especially. ​ When it comes to age, most of my friends are many years older than me. Like 30-40 years. Which is sad, since they are getting old and some passed away. But it's the price for my lifestyle, which is rather unusual…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:29 AM
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I really don't see how people manage to rate. I am totally not thinking of myself in terms of 'attractiveness' as in sexually attractive. Not to mention that I can rate myself according to my taste and rate it in the way I can rate a painting. So it will definitely not be indicative of how people see me, especially men. Also, rating the still looks makes no sense as one is never still in reality and a lot of impressions are made by eye contact type, body language and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:48 AM
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I didn't say they are not possible. I said that they ain't as common and I am saying this as someone with a huge social circle who lived in few different countries. If you have a pretty base, you have a pretty base. I saw what other people claimed to be huge glow up, but the face was still lacking in pretty features or the face always had them. Me, personally, I reject on a mix of mannerisms and facial features. Neither changes drastically usually, especially not mannerisms, even actors have iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:00 AM
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I never rejected a person and then changed my min because they had a glow up. In fact, I don't think that drastic glow ups are all that common. Seen one mid level only once.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:20 AM
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Look we all been there, rejected a person for some reason or another. And then only for that person to make a drastic change and now that no becomes a yes. There.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:04 AM
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Not the type of woman I am, but I bet there is a person of this kind in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:00 AM
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Hm... No, I have not been there ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:44 PM
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Yes, he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 11:37 PM
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In my mind I know what fictional character I would spend two years with in that scenario, hands down. Two years will go in a flash and if I am focused on a person I lose interest and eye for anyone else. They sort of lose light. Well, when it comes to those casual relationships. I said temporary because they were pretty much normal relationships. I even lived with one guy. So we did all the things that normal couples do but when the time came, we split up and went our ways. With nice goodbyes. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:11 AM
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Someone similar to me, but softer and lighter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:15 AM
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I honestly don't know 50 men or characters that I would find oh so handsome. Maybe 10, yes, but 50? C'mon. In this scenario, the worst nightmare would be the weather. Subtropical? Hate it, hate it, hate it. I love cold, grey weather. But to answer your question. One man. I am not very into swapping partners. Even my casual non serious relationships were like 8 months long exclusive. So two years is not really long.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:12 AM
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I don't know if that is true. Not in my experience. I always spoke with all the details and they to me and both liked those convos. Didn't result in any problems. But I have a type, and the type I date is similar to me actually, so not very envious by extremely curious. Curiosity is probably my main personality trait. I'm not at all turned on by this. It's literally about knowing your person and it's fun and fascinating to know details of people's lives. Sex life and behaviours are saying someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:15 AM
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Yes, it is. Because love and all around it is for breeding and we are animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:55 AM
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In dating? The post is about dating not marriage or long term relationships. If you are going on the date you already fear losing non existent kids lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 12:39 AM
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People should just do what they like and what they want in things like dating. It doesn't need to adhere to any ideology. It's like food. Eat what you like, you don't need to just eat one type of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:35 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:33 PM
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NOBODY but those who study subjects around history, anthropology and psychology understand themselves. The human mind is made to rationalise and make up reasons. The real reasons? That's different. People are affected by so many things, by font something is written in, by colours, by smells, by hormones, by tone, by many other things all day every day in everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:32 PM
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Option D. A. is to me not a match because this man is not similar to me, and I don't like rich men. B. I am not going to have long term relationship with someone who's not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:30 PM
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No big deal to me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:26 PM
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The biggest fear that I know of is a man sexually assaulting or becoming a stalker, not being dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:24 PM
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By definition of the word ' liable to break or give way under pressure; easily damaged. ' it is perfectly suited here. Anyway, one has to be weak to be desperate in something like dating that's not necessary. You don't need it, and if you that desperate you have it, you are weak. Strong person is self assured and can stand alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:25 AM
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Not exactly about casual sex. But I had some temporary relationships. So, it's sort of a normal relationship but it's all about honeymoon phase and then bye. For those, I had lower standards than for serious relationships. Both for looks and match, because they don't need to match me as we ain't staying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:49 PM
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Like it or not, you are not entitled to anything. It's a fact. You can cry about it, but that's all you can do. Also, if those women can get who they want... Well, they ain't delusional. It's like telling someone they cannot buy Ferrari they can afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:14 PM
10

Just say you are weak and desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:10 PM
3

Your logic makes no sense either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:52 AM
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Yeah. I have snail speed when it comes to kissing and such, I don't want to feel that I should move at the pressure of how people date. Like, kiss after few dates and such. So all my relationships, even those that were temporary started in a platonic context. No pressure, no sweat. It evolved naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:20 AM
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If I agree to date someone who approached me, the relationship is from the beginning in a romantic context. And I don't like that and don't find it appealing. I find that stressful and annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:09 AM
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I'm talking personally, for myself. I am just not into this but I know women who love this. So when you approach sometimes you'll meet one like me and sometimes one like my friends who will be happy to engage. I never dated short or long-term anyone who approached me. I only once agreed to coffee with a lad who asked me because I thought he was an eccentric gay lad. Luckily he was quite a fruitcake and was not dramatic about it or upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:49 AM
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I mean, obviously, you can and many women like that. I'm just saying I don't. And at bar even more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:45 AM
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I don't know. Neither me nor my husband think this way. Like, we don't give a feck about labels or ideologies. So we do what we want, want what we feel like and we don't care if it's coherent with some ideology like being trad or being modern or being this or that. So yes, my husband has some 'trad' behaviours and we also have many total opposite ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:40 AM
1

This is so untrue in my social circle. I do see the difference between those things but not based on the things you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:32 AM
1

I can see the difference, yes and it's a really big and obvious one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:30 AM
1

I mean, personally, I am immediately not attracted to someone who approaches me and tries to ask me out. I don't care how visually pretty the person is, my brain only thinks 'get rid of them now'.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:27 AM
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Amongst most people, the level of attractiveness is totally subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:38 PM
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You aren't talking about confidence, clearly but about arrogance and cockiness. Everyone likes healthy confidence in everyone. But cockiness and arrogance is something that only extremely appealing people can get away with. It's the same with a job, if you are a rock star of surgery, then yes, you'll get away with A LOT more of arrogance and cockiness than someone who is arrogant but shit at their job.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:37 PM
1

My mate was one for a while, when he was young.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:34 PM
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I prefer and always did someone with eyes more or less on the line of my eyes. I only dated a really tall man once, but he was someone that one can forgive one trait. In fact, the most attractive man that I have ever seen in my life was shorter than me. That man was stunning, he was the type of person whom artists take as a muse and not only I think so, but my friend thought so too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 09:32 PM
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Yep. It's so ridiculous that they think that 20 years old woman can consent to sex industry, which is damaging and disgusting but not to a relationship with one partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 01:53 PM
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I mean, my gay friend said that lad looked like 'slavic edward cullen' but I don't know. I guess it's up to taste, not my type personally. But I think that little story actually fit his looks, he looked a bit childish. Something in his eyes and face, even tho he was nearly 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:38 AM
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Compensate for what? I never would seriously date a rich man. So it's a good trait to not be rich. And I had options, including very wealthy ones. It's just money, and when it comes to money I only care about how much I MAKE and if I make enough to do substantial charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:29 AM
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Around the recommended 150 minutes a week of moderate exercise? Not super into gym, not against hiking? Because I like hiking? Not overweight not underweight. Just sort of normal for the height and age. Moderate in everything basically. Exercise, food and shape. Not healthy food obsessive, not eating terribly unhealthy diet either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:53 AM
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Non of those. Normal guy please, proportional and normal amount of fat and exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:01 AM
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Aggression and anger is being emotional. It's not an accident that angry men commit most crimes in the world and that men are actually most commonly succeeding at suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:59 AM
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Not reality, because ALL of my poor friends have partners. How do you think poor families exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:57 AM
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The meaning of marriage TO ME and MY HUSBAND is not in the fact that it should last forever or cannot end. So it's not meaningless to us. Which is sort of the point of TWO people getting something together. We also do not see it as a contract, so it's not that we would want another one to face consequences for leaving. We don't believe in outlook like that in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:41 AM
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Most people are not desirable or even good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:38 AM
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At the end of the day, if the person is not desperate for a relationship... why would they care about 'market value'? I didn't care about my market value, I just rejected anyone I didn't find attractive and accepted or asked out those I did. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:37 AM
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Let's see then. ​ With nr 3 I enjoy career success, I am lifestyle focused but not the way you described it. In that, all my goals and needs are related to certain lifestyles but not to luxury lifestyles. I do care about power, including financial power in the context of charity and charity only. When it comes to how I like to travel, what I like to do and such stuff... I have very cheap taste. I like to backpack in hostels, I like to hike, I like to drive in an old car and do picnics. I like cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:04 AM
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I mean, it depends. I asked my husband out, but I knew he wanted me. So it was not that he agreed and then got interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:54 AM
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It's a weakling move. So I find it an ok thing to do. Although I know a guy who was getting plenty of dates with the opposite lie. Saying he is inexperienced and such a good boy. Girls were eating it up, showing a handsome innocent lad what's up. They thought they were rocking his world with the experience and he will remember them forever. Silly game, but it worked. He was a flatmate and I saw and heard for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:51 AM
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Black or brown Dark Not more than 180cm and not less than 150cm. Normal, pretty shoulders and proportional. Not too thin, not too big, not too muscly. Irrelevant, but not any millionaire or CEO. Irrelevant. Ethical job, within my moral views. Well, depends on their age. But 1 relationship at least and not too many. Not a virgin and not someone engaging in one-night stands and not too promiscuous. Someone similar to my attitude, so we have an understanding. Not believing in the supernatural. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:49 AM
2

I think it depends on what person needs and wants. I dislike kids and never wanted them, so there are no benefits to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:37 AM
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Yes, it's insecurity that makes him unattractive. No, I don't have anything I am insecure about within my looks. Being short is attractive to me actually, I prefer shorter men over tall ones. But insecurity is not my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:06 AM
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I don't like tall men much so... I will say this: When height is really short and not just average or a little bit below it... Face and style and smell. I am 160 cm tall and met a lad shorter than me by quite a bit and he was the most beautiful man I have seen irl. Just a muse for an artist, that man was. That will always win.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:28 AM
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4 years, didn't find it super challenging.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:25 AM
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Yes. They do if consciously or not. I don't like muscular. I like normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:24 AM
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I'm not into them, I don't really know them. But I am attracted to feminine traits in men the most. This is sexy to me. Stereotypically masculine does nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:19 AM
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Relationship is like an expensive watch, nice to have, useful but definitely not needed. Because of that, I don't see why on earth would I not go for the best. My husband is exactly my type in looks, there is and was a spark, we have common values and common interests, and we are well-matched. I never had any struggle with dating at all. Never had a broken heart, never was worried or insecure. But I am beyond picky and it takes a lot for me to actually be in love. People told me I have to have e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:26 AM
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