OpinionatedESLTeachr Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	The manosphere thrives because society has failed to provide an alternative. Everything but the work comments happened in Canada. I now live in Mexico, the work comments happened here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/26 03:04 AM
6	The manosphere thrives because society has failed to provide an alternative. So please tell us, what is your definition of patriarchy? Because mixedsignals has explained it clearly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 10:01 PM
10	The manosphere thrives because society has failed to provide an alternative. I'm 42 and childfree by choice. I've been told: "you're not a real woman" "there is something mentally wrong with you" "you're a failure and you'll die alone" Or the insane amount of doctors who have told me my entire life that they won't tie my tubes because 'what if in the future you meet a man and can't give him children?" - It literally took me 15 years to find a doc to tie my tubes and I only got it done cuz he was the dad of a student and also the director of a hospital and even he started…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 09:56 PM
21	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum his evidence: "trust me bro"	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 06:58 AM
22	Why doesn't accurate information bring women more comfort If you count groping it's probably like 75-95% of women.... I don't know a single woman who hasn't been groped and grabbed by men in public places.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 06:23 PM
7	CMV: Young women despise young men in the context of relationships BMI was created on a white male body. It does not take fat distribution or muscle mass into consideration. Not at all a measure of health or fitness, especially for women and POC. I was a competitive dancer at 14 and according to my BMI I was obese....	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 05:45 PM
4	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? An unmarried man is a bachelor. An unmarried woman is an old maid. Every term for an unmarried woman is negative. For a man it's neutral.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 12:36 AM
11	If men benefit from marriage more, why do women pressure for it? Old maid! Crazy cat lady! You'll die alone! Societal pressure. Cultural expectations. We're told from birth that this is what we want. When we express as children/teens that we don't want to get married we get harassed by everyone around us telling us we're wrong and that we'll change our minds. If we're in long term relationships, we are constantly asked about why we're not married and why he hasn't popped the question yet. If we're single we're told to 'hurry up!' and find a man to settle down…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 06:18 AM
–	If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated. Then you make that clear before a pregnancy occurs. "Hey, so you know I have trust issues and for my own peace of mind if we do end up having kids, I will expect a DNA test"	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:25 AM
–	If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated. I would leave. A relationship (any kind of relationship) is based on trust. If you are asking for a DNA test that means there's a lack of trust and the relationship is over. Of course I'm speaking about a marriage or super long term committed relationship, not a fling that ends in a pregnancy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:22 AM
12	The stay at home wife is not traditional and is mostly a myth. Most trad wives don't want to be 'trad wives' they want to be kept women. There's a difference. My grandma was a nurse in WW2 and then she escaped communist Poland with her husband and 3 daughters and she started a successful business selling used goods (she had a store) while raising 3 kids and learning a new language and culture. Grandpa also had a job and then did cooking, cleaning, and his part in raising his 3 girls. - Mom says he was a super active dad who did everything her mother did in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/26 04:07 AM
4	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, oh I forgot the dead bedroom/sexual compatibility! Super important in a relationship!	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 11:24 PM
9	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Same. I have my own money and my own house (fun fact, more women own homes than men now) I don't need that from anyone. What I want is a partner. Someone who shares my morals and values, someone who I can both laugh and cry with, someone who can see what needs to be done around the house and does it without waiting for me to tell him what to do, someone who has his own dreams, goals and ambitions and also supports mine, someone with kindness, compassion, understanding, a willingness to learn and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/26 10:54 PM
16	I used to be a men's rights activist - exposing that gynocentrism theory, the meta narrative that is beneath all of the manosphere I was hoping I could ask some questions and maybe you (and others) can help me out here. I'm a 42 yr old Canadian white female. I teach 1-1 ESL classes online in Mexico (I live in Mexico now). I teach mostly pre-teen and teen boys. We often talk about red pilling and the dangers of how social media is designed to slowly brainwash them. I have complete and total freedom as to what and how I teach. My kids are smart. They are capable. They can handle reality. No censorship of language or content i…	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/26 10:59 AM
–	Orgasm gap is just experience gap. A woman who knows what she wants in bed is often degraded and called horrible names.... Purity culture benefits no one. Shame of a natural act (both masturbation and sex) benefits no one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/26 09:27 AM
–	Orgasm gap is just experience gap. Yes!!! A woman should never fake satisfaction. This isn't porn, it's life. Also, men shouldn't get their sex ed from porn, talk to actual women... like make friends with women and talk to them about what makes them weak in the knees. Like that Friends episode where Monica helped Joey.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/26 09:25 AM
–	Orgasm gap is just experience gap. I've been told off for telling a man what I enjoy. Was told I should 'be grateful' Told another man I like when fingers and tongues are used in a certain way and he literally stopped, got dressed and left because 'I was too much work'. I had literally said 'finger me while you lick my clit" while moaning..... Another man told me that he shouldn't have to do anything to make me cum, I should cum just because I love him..... He also told me I should always be wet for him and that lube was insultin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/26 09:23 AM
8	The Theory That Can Never Be Wrong Yup, they see one or two women (who may or may not be AI or bots) say something and that's it for them. More often than not, they're listening to other men and not women. When a women does say something it's dismissed and ignored because they believe what men who have never pleasured a woman say over actual women.	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/26 05:12 AM
0	Most women aren’t looking for a provider they’re looking for a teammate Dating apps are not meant to get you into relationships, they're meant to keep you coming back to the site.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 09:07 PM
13	Most women aren’t looking for a provider they’re looking for a teammate We're talking about relationships not FWB, if all you want is sex, go pay a prostitute. If you want a life partner you need to be an actual partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 09:06 PM
1	Most women aren’t looking for a provider they’re looking for a teammate Spoiling someone is not only financial (It can be, there are definitely people on both sides that love material things) But in a lot of cases, when a woman talks about wanting to be spoiled it's not with expensive things, it's with thoughts, love, compassion, empathy, understanding, small acts of kindness. It's (like others have said in other comments) knowing your partner, being there for them, bring them coffee in bed, take initiative with doing stuff that needs to be done (not 'if you tell me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 09:03 PM
1	Artificial wombs will displace female hierarchy <image> 3/3	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:42 AM
1	Artificial wombs will displace female hierarchy <image> 2/3	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:42 AM
1	Artificial wombs will displace female hierarchy <image> 1/3	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:42 AM
7	Artificial wombs will displace female hierarchy That's surrogacy. You keep ignoring everyone who is suggesting that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:35 AM
10	Artificial wombs will displace female hierarchy Are the women not working because they don't want to or because they aren't legally allowed to work? Big fucking difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 07:54 AM
3	is my [20F] bf [18M] falling down the red pill pipeline? If he's looksmaxing he is consuming it on purpose and believes it.	/r/ExRedPill	27/05/26 02:44 AM
10	is my [20F] bf [18M] falling down the red pill pipeline? If he's into looksmaxing content he's redpilled 100%. End the relationship and tell him it's because he's over 6 feet and cares too much about being masculine.	/r/ExRedPill	27/05/26 02:44 AM
8	If red flags are so easy to spot, then there's no need for prenups and paternity tests We need to normalize leaving a relationship because we want to and that's it. For both sides.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 05:41 AM
14	If red flags are so easy to spot, then there's no need for prenups and paternity tests Because we're taught: 'oh he/she was just stressed, they didn't mean it!" "Give him/her a chance! they're REALLY a good person!" "You broke up with him/her over a JOKE! You'll never find someone if you're that picky!!" People are torn apart by friends and family for ending it early over 'small things' so we (both genders) put up with it for much longer than we should and the longer it goes on the harder it is to leave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 05:00 AM
13	Historically "traditional" men didn't want their wives to work because they didn't want them to be financially independent. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/may/13/women-home-buyers-men-dating?CMP=fb_gu&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwY2xjawR9BOxleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETE2Q1l4UmpLVVk1SW1LY3gwc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHofrqbwEQNM-GuTcHZLur8_9rEEZrLYyZcKMO05Wv1Xb9Oxm2V3fb42syKf-_aem_0oRq9WfozK2-uucIueXcjg#Echobox=1778672800 I think women do understand. That is why the majority of university students are women. That is why the majority of home owners are women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 09:47 AM
20	I might have destroyed my first ever relationship because of my incel thoughts Looksmaxing is dangerous. Delete all those sites. Block yourself from them. Speak to your therapist more deeply about the body dysmorphia. I can see why she came to that conclusion and I think part of your rejection of that is that you have a different definition of it than she does. Your last sentence tells me your therapist is on to something that you're not seeing yet.	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/26 06:21 AM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? So I provide actual research and you're talking about hypothetical..... wow.... Good job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 11:01 PM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? *did research - not did A research The study I posted is from last year - not sure where you got your 200 years ago comment from. Just say you hate men. You do not speak for the majority of women. You're as bad as the red pill men. You refuse research, refuse to listen to facts, refuse to listen to what women are saying. You are the type of woman who gives feminists a bad name.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 10:07 PM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? Blanket statements like that are stupid and hurt both genders. Not all people prefer younger. I'm a woman. I'm 43. A guy who's more than 3-4 years younger than me is a child and just nope. I subscribe to 1 man on OF and he's older than me and goddamn is he sexy as fuck. <image> https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202501/age-gaps-in-relationships-what-do-men-and-women-prefer	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 04:37 PM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/may/13/women-home-buyers-men-dating?CMP=fb_gu&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwY2xjawRytitleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFCbmp6djNRelBpamtiUE1nc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHpxdr4EkKbRMcu3ozimBgyiL1yCa2T3xafh25zS_q2lOX0CVyaGEcn5ZDShX_aem_xJD15x11vyD3Ce3LYzZ9hw#Echobox=1778672800	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 02:06 PM
8	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? That's gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 05:48 AM
–	The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about. yup, a woman should never need lube for anything ever. Just looking at your man should make every hole wet apparently. No, he did not understand biology. That was one of many times we went to doctors - and I ALWAYS made sure the doctors were men in the hopes he'd at least listen to a man - over things I knew were true about my body that he said I was wrong about. other arguments: - A woman can ALWAYS control when she gets her period and how long it lasts for - Hormonal birth control does not aff…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 02:38 AM
9	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? .... Why is being attracted to people who are of a similar age and in a similar point in their lives such a foreign concept to you? - How old are you? - My tastes, preferences, needs, wants, desires have all grown and changed as I have grown and matured. It would be insane to me, as a 43 year old woman, if I were still attracted to guys in their 20's. It just gives me the ick big time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 01:39 AM
–	The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about. Ok, I'm gonna go super personal here and give you a Scenario 3: the man doesn't understand biology and refuses to fucking learn. I typically enjoy anal sex. I've had it with several partners who all had different sizes of cock. It was fun and pleasurable. I would not have anal with my last boyfriend. Would not. Again, this is something I normally enjoy but I would not do it with him. The reason? He was 100% against using lube ever in any form. He literally felt that lube was an insult to him bec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 10:51 PM
3	How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any? If an ectopic pregnancy ruptures a fallopian tube, you have less than 30 minutes before death. 2 hours is a death sentence for a hell of a lot of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 10:33 PM
2	Why Banning Sex Work Is More Similar to Banning Therapy Than People Realize Prostitution is one of the oldest professions. We've managed so far, I think we'll be fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 11:42 AM
5	Why Banning Sex Work Is More Similar to Banning Therapy Than People Realize A lot of people cannot wrap their minds around that fact that it's a job. And that it's a job that people do willingly. If I weren't fat and old I would have seriously considered a career change cuz these ladies were making in one night what I made in a month as a teacher. They could literally work 2 nights a week and focus on school and life and have a great quality of life.... A better quality of life than I had working in a 'vanilla job' that was considered 'respectable'. The amount of times …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 11:40 AM
1	Q4All: What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Would you immediately leave them, or would you give them a chance for forgiveness? Do you think there's a gender-based difference in how people react to being cheated on? leave. instantly. Trust is broken and without trust there is no relationship of any kind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 05:36 AM
4	Why Banning Sex Work Is More Similar to Banning Therapy Than People Realize I think I've had a very unique experience with sex work. I teach English as a second language in Mexico. Prostitution is not legal in Mexico but a blind eye is turned as long as some cops and politicians can get their rocks off for free. It's often done in whore houses and not out on the street - although that exists. I was out walking one evening and met a man doing security outside a house where the ladies were working and we started chatting cuz he spoke English. I told him that being from Ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 05:32 AM
3	How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any? <image> https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2020/nov/maternal-mortality-maternity-care-us-compared-10-countries That doesn't mean it's not a growing problem in the USA.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 05:01 AM
4	Would you rather have primary custody or 50/50 and pay child support? oh man, I should not have laughed as hard as I did to that comment. I'm sitting in the handbasket, anyone wanna join me for the ride down to hell? We're gonna have one hell of a party!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 01:03 AM
43	How will we convince the next generation to have kids, even though almost none of us want to have any? It's not just 'love' it's economic stability, security, health. People are living together, in long term relationships, they're just choosing to be childfree by choice more and more. There is no way I'd risk getting pregnant in the USA right now. - the maternal mortality rate is horrid and getting worse, I can't be guaranteed care if something goes wrong during pregnancy, cost of medical care, no maternity or paternity leave, horrid and dangerous education system, no affordable child care, cost …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 12:22 AM
–	Why is female sexuality so weird? Same. Never watched lesbian porn. do not get turned on by the female body. Don't even really enjoy MFF threesomes but I enjoy MMF ones.... In terms of porn, I want the hot guy with the big dick - we're talking porn not real life here!!!! I've also watched gay porn. ...I remember reading once AGES ago that it's actually the sounds in porn that turn women on more than who is doing the actions. Not sure if it's true as I can't remember where I read it to verify.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 10:17 AM
17	Women Generally Can’t Distinguish Between Confidence and Narcissism Yup, manipulators gonna manipulate, regardless of what's between their legs or on their chest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 09:09 AM
9	Should women reject men that don’t treat them like they would a top 1% Stacy? Same. I work with middle and high school students and it's the boys using that vocabulary, not the girls. The girls look like they get such massive ick when they hear those words too. It's like the guy calling another guy 'simp' or 'cuck' automatically becomes unattractive and undatable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 02:49 AM
5	The Male Loneliness Epidemic Is Like The Obesity Epidemic Nowhere do you mention actually being a good human being.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 12:04 AM
–	Girls a question for you.. - picking his nose or teeth in public - being rude to anyone but especially those in the service industry. - not showering, not changing sheets/towels regularly - lack of general cleanliness both his own body and his stuff - if his car is a mess. For the love of fuck, WASH your ass - with soap, get in there! Wash your dick too please. Manscaping is nice. - not being able to cook/clean/live alone in a decently clean and organized way - Eating like a toddler. If a guy doesn't eat veggies or isn't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 09:41 AM
1	Hyperactive men are magnets to women Ditto.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/26 03:49 PM
3	Do you think BDSM is healthy/fair, either in the context of the bedroom or as a lifestyle, why or why not? An insane amount of super powerful men enjoy being dominated and controlled for those same reasons. It gives your brain a break and allows you to fully enjoy the sensations your body is feeling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/26 03:59 AM
3	What should a man do if he has these sorts of issues? What advice would you give besides therapy? Therapy.	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/26 01:18 AM
–	Rules for real sigma men This 'lone wolf' attitude is also helping the male loneliness epidemic. Humans belong in a pack.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/26 12:07 PM
–	Rules for real sigma men <image>	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/26 11:52 AM
–	Rules for real sigma men Everything you've said is equally true for both genders.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/26 11:50 AM
–	Rules for real sigma men 'Sigma male' seems to be synonymous with 'male loneliness epidemic' <image>	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/26 10:33 AM
–	Going dutch on dates is a good strategy. I go dutch so the man can't bitch and complain that I owe him something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/26 04:48 AM
4	What is your advice to gen Z men ? Delete all social media apps. Get hobbies with people who are different than you in all ways. Use a site/app like ground.news to help you start sorting and understanding news. Get a therapist. Everyone should have one. Learn how to check and verify sources. You can't be happy with someone else unless you're happy with yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 03:50 AM
8	Boyfriend fell for the red pill. Suggestion: I'd pack up and move/leave while he was out and then once you're out and safe, message him to tell him. If he's already being violent and dangerous when he gets upset you telling him it's over will be horrible. Most women die at the hands of their partners when they are trying to leave.	/r/ExRedPill	30/04/26 02:31 AM
1	Physical Touch Love Language Love languages were invented by a baptist pastor. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-09-04/origin-of-five-love-languages-might-surprise-you/102764046 No basis in science and created so that wives don't deny their husbands cuz most men will say their love language is 'physical touch' - not all, but a lot of men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 11:06 PM
0	Cold approaching? For me, I don't mind a cold approach. The issue is how that person handles a 'no thanks'. That is the big key. ...Just don't approach while I'm reading, that is very dangerous to your health and life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 04:29 AM
–	It saddens me that a big percentage of men deny the fact that women get sexually harassed almost daily We're all liars until the men have daughters and then they're warning their daughters that 'all men only want one thing' and to 'protect ourselves'.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/26 11:22 AM
5	Sex drive is a valid dealbreaker 100% agree. Sex, money, religion, and often politics are the biggest reasons for divorce. If you are not 100% on the same page about these topics, the relationship likely won't last.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/26 08:18 AM
7	What is that guy supposed to do in the video - genuine discussion for both genders, no blaming each other That's what I saw too. If I were the girl I would have knocked the guy out for assaulting me and then turned on my bf pissed that he did nothing to help me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 10:25 PM
13	There is no benefits to having kids as a women In a lot of religions and cultures it's still not a choice for women. I'm glad you have that view but it's been my experience as a woman that most people get super offended when I say I don't want to get married or have kids. Some of the things I've heard: - Who will take care of you when you're old?? - It's your only purpose in life! - You're wrong - You'll regret it when you're old and alone with your cats - You're not a real woman - There's something seriously mentally wrong with you - You're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/26 11:24 PM
1	If you as a Women have delusional Requirements for a Dating Partner, and you can achieve them, its not your Fault, its the systems Fault. Those Women cant be criticized. The Market decides. Those Women do nothing wrong. Don't hate the player, hate the game	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 08:30 AM
7	No one hates independent women, you are just arrogant and obnoxious Only women who don't make their own bread are looking for a bread winner. Women who work and make their own money are looking for a partner not a bread winner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 11:34 PM
2	It's okay to want virgin women Women have literally been killed for 'lying' when there is no way to prove a woman's virginity. Didn't bleed? clearly a whore Enjoyed sex the first time? clearly a whore Had an idea of what to do during sex? clearly a whore. How is she to prove she wasn't lying? A man who has decided she's lying won't listen to logic or science.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 04:17 PM
4	It's okay to want virgin women And how exactly can you tell if a woman is lying about being a virgin?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 03:02 PM
1	Just saw this on LinkedIn. This is actually pretty upsetting that “professionals” can speak like this without hesitation ...There is an international Men's Day ... It's on November 19th ....	/r/MensRights	30/11/25 06:22 AM