| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 185 | How to Build a Social Circle in a New City (Even If You’re Starting from Zero) | Lifestyle | Opposite_Engine9807 | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 06:21 PM |
| 64 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones) | Fundamentals | Opposite_Engine9807 | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 02:08 AM |
| 47 | Why Your Friend Group is Holding You Back from Meeting Women | Outer Game | Opposite_Engine9807 | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 06:13 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | Becoming a dating coachBeen coaching friends with online and I’ve thought of it. It’s so painful to watch how many guys say OLD doesn’t work for them but would be crushing it if they had a decent profile and texting | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Be yourself..There's a decent book on the topic called "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. I't interesting because you will feel more "yourself" when you get used to being more unfiltered and unapologetic and not trying to be overly agreeable. If you're getting no results with that volume there's definitely something wrong with your approach but props for putting in the work | /r/seduction | 14/03/25 08:33 AM |
| 3 | Statistically Seduction Isn’t in Your FavorI think you and OP are looking at this too narrowly. It's not just a choice between lying/manipulating and being completely upfront uncalibrated and unfiltered. Women categorize men differently. If you're looking for casual hookups, you want to be the fun, no-strings-attached guy she messages at 3 AM. The one that "doesn't count" that she's with for a fun time and not for a long time. You don't want to be setting the provider boyfriend material frames to trick her into fucking you expecting some… | /r/seduction | 12/03/25 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Approach AnxietyI just wrote an article on the topic if you want to check it out. https://joinwingit.com/how-to-overcome-approach-anxiety-when-meeting-women-step-by-step-guide/ TL;DR: Approach anxiety is just your brain overreacting to social risk. The fix? Gradual exposure. Start small (eye contact, casual convo), build momentum, and stay consistent. Social momentum is real. Talk to anyone early, warm up, and get in the flow. Having a solid wing makes it way easier. Track your progress, take action daily (no m… | /r/seduction | 11/03/25 02:08 AM |
| 2 | How to Build a Social Circle in a New City (Even If You’re Starting from Zero)Glad to hear and totally agree with climbing it's one of my favorite for the sport/activity category in any big city. Pretty easy to spark up conversation and people rotate in and out compared to a class where you’re limited to a group. | /r/seduction | 09/03/25 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Any good resources regarding "date game"?If you fix the root cause a lot of things will fall into place naturally. Notice how you said “how to actually build attraction over the first couple of dates”. This is coming from the frame that she isn't attracted to you already, and that you somehow need to prove yourself to her. Think of it this way: This girl took time out of her busy schedule to get dressed, do her makeup, commute, and chose to meet up with you among all the options she has if she's a half decent looking chick. She would n… | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 01:46 AM |
| 2 | So, I got my first lay from cold approach. What am I supposed to do next?Congrats man, this is the kind of thing that actually pushes people to get out there. Now you’re in a position where you have options, and that’s the whole point. If you like her, keep seeing her. But also keep approaching and meeting other girls—you don’t want to lock yourself down too soon just because one good experience came along. If the dynamic shifts or you mess something up, who cares? You learn, you move on, and you get better. Once you’re in a place where you feel confident, you can de… | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Destroy your ego - there's nothing wrong with dating a 3/10 girl when you're a 3/10 yourselfIt’s true that if you like a girl and enjoy being with her, that’s really all that matters. But let’s be real, you definitely don’t need to be impeccably charismatic or rich to date women above a 6. Girls aren’t mind readers. They don’t instantly know what’s in your bank account or how “high value” you think you are. Most guys just blend in because they play it safe, hesitate too much, and assume rejection before they even try. Meanwhile, some average-looking dude with confidence and decent soci… | /r/seduction | 27/02/25 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Or they come out and start long term dating the first girl who gave them the time of the day. That’s a rite of passage. Give it a couple years, and they’ll be back in the gym post-breakup 😂 Jokes aside, I’ve met guys who are absolutely killing it, but they just keep it low-key as a solo part of their life. I wasn’t around during the peak RSD days, but from what I’ve seen, there’s not much of a real community anymore outside of private groups and paid coaching circles. The reality is we both know… | /r/seduction | 21/02/25 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Gay-game is a solid strategy lol. But yeah actually I find a lot of gay/bi dudes have tons of hot girl friends and an innate desire to help everyone fuck each other that can lead to some interesting situations if you can ride the crazy wave | /r/seduction | 21/02/25 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Preselection is hella drug indeed | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Sales in seductionYes! I work in marketing and was having convos drop off and forgetting to text back all the time so I built a CRM in Notion to keep track of all the leads. That way I can include the basic info to remember on the date, assign a status and prioritize the best ones to follow up with. | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Yeah did you find those groups useful? I’ve checked out some of them, but they’re mostly scattered across Telegram and Facebook groups. A lot of them are either inactive, full of noise, or packed with self-promo. And not every city has a solid group, whereas with an app, you could connect based on location anywhere. Also thinking about adding features like events, accountability/progress log, and other ways to make it actually useful beyond just chat. Still just playing with the idea, but open t… | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 12:14 PM |
| 5 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Hinge with ratings would be hilarious 😂. But yeah, something like that with a simple vouching system could be clutch especially for traveling. Been getting good feedback so far, and honestly, I’m having fun exploring the idea. I put together a landing page for anyone who wants to check it out: joinwingit.com | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 10:44 AM |
| 10 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Self-ejection at its finest 😂 Ever try to explain this stuff to him? | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Why most guys make terrible wingmen (and how to find good ones)Yeah, I get what you’re saying, but this isn’t about “outsourcing social skills.” Even the most charismatic guys benefit from having a solid wing. someone who hypes you up, keeps the energy going, and makes the night more fun. It’s no different than how people network in business or build teams for anything in life. Nobody does everything alone. | /r/seduction | 20/02/25 10:22 AM |
| 2 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?This https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide/ and Playing With Fire channel on youtube are a good start | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 07:29 AM |
| 1 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?I think there is also a positive with apps at least for me. Apart from meeting some great girls, just the experience can be great when you're starting out. Getting a few lays can give you a confidence boost that translates over to your real life interactions. The problem is how easy it is to get complacent and lower your standards. | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 01:51 AM |
| 4 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?Yep, a lot of things go into it. Style, facial expression, body language.. if those aren't on point a better quality picture won’t help. Ideally if you get a pro shoot you’d want someone that understand the game and can help you with the posing, location, style etc | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?I think you nailed it. Exact same experience and most of my best connections have come from real life even tho the number is much lower. I also think when you meet a girl by approaching irl the frame is a lot better and you're not competing with all the other guys that are texting her. Guess it's time for a detox | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 12:52 AM |
| 5 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?1 Portrait in a nice location 2 Photo Riding a bike 3 Shirtless beach pic 5 Studio portrait 6 Dog pic Basically activity fotos that show you have an interesting life, dominant body language, no selfies, get your style on point, get a pro photoshoot or ask friends and retouch on faceapp. Also test a bunch and ask girls for opinions. You can also use photofeeler for free to get a rough idea if a pic sucks or not | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 12:23 AM |
| 3 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?Yeah it can be rough.. on apps it’a more of a a winners take all game where the top profiles get most of the matches because girls are flooded with options. If I’m active I can go on several dates a week consistently. Wasn’t always like that tho but once I got into decent shape and got strategic about my pictures it really started to work so don’t give up! | /r/seduction | 28/09/24 11:51 PM |
| 14 | 28m and only ever dated or hooked up with women from dating apps. I’ve never been with anyone I’ve first met organically in real life. Anyone else?29 and for me most of my hookups have also been from dating apps. I find apps are the easiest way to get laid if you can put together a solid profile. Even then you still have to escalate and close the deal which is the same with a girl you meet in real life except you have to go out and open girls or work on your social circle. For me it’s better to delete the apps every so often to force myself to meet girls irl which is harder to do if I have a bunch of tinder leads on the back of my mind. | /r/seduction | 28/09/24 11:22 PM |
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