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13

I said block him asap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:26 PM
7

While I like your level up... Your ex. Block and delete. Don't pry into his life, leave him alone. Yes, this was someone who you shared moments with, but don't wish him bad or good, just do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 01:58 PM
72

When people talk about crazy exes I have to remember this one thing I heard a radio host say: you (not you; they) are the common denominator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 08:38 AM
16

I know right, goddamn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:43 PM
2

I know, but sis, those kebabs are $3 a stick. Now $4. So I did pretty well right there :D I kind of want one now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:29 AM
3

Yeah he gives them back. If my mother gets ahold of them... I'll never see them again :o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:59 PM
10

you're welcome for saving your ass from hyperventilating lmmmao I walked on the tracks with this guy who was new to working on trains and tracks. So we are setting up track flagging on the structure, and he's talking all this hot shit about exactly where we are supposed to set up the flags, how quickly he usually does this, usually women are in the office in MOW etc etc. So we are walking on the structure and I am talking to him, and then I turn around to clear up for an approaching train and ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:11 PM
11

I know you can pass out by touching nitroglycerin. I didn't know that (I'm not in your field). Good to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:58 PM
14

My dad is the same way. Only I'd wish now he'd stop borrowing my tools ._. "Hey Optional.. do you have something that can open this watch?" q_q
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:17 PM
23

A guy tried to explain to me how to cut a train. The conversation only started b/c a friend recently got hired where I work, and I was giving him tips chatting about it cause he was new to transit, and I've been here for 4 years. I knew his explanation was from the movie Pelham 123 b/c I saw it with my sister, cousin, mother, and aunt... who were/currently are all train operators at one point... and we laughed at it. He was also explaining to me how to operate a train, that you could get from Gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:15 PM
52

I love that q_q
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:01 PM
60

Gone forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:22 AM
14

🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:11 PM
22

She tried to get us to reconcile b/c she's frail and I guess she was trying to bag a caretaker. Not me, and I've moved on. I even had to ditch several mutual friends on his side because he tells people I threw him out during a pandemic, which I did, but that's besides the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:35 PM
26

He was returned to his mother April/May 2020. I packed his stuff and dropped them off there and changed the locks. And the house has been rented since June 2020. I def gotta check before one of his idiot friends tells him some shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 05:31 PM
173

You have to remind men and yourself... If this man won't do X ... Another man will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:04 PM
22

Yikes. I threw mine to the streets. Since it's been a year, I think I'm good? Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:56 PM
50

Hard avoid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:03 PM
36

Girl me too. Not reading this after that was self care.. We knew it was going to be bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:11 AM
161

I just saw that post. They ate him up in the comments. Lmao. Stop congratulating men for doing the bare minimum. He washed the dishes? He uses them. He took out the trash? Does he wants ants? He lives here. He made food? He eats too. He put the kids to bed? They his kids too. Awarding men for basic stuff is how we get mediocre men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:29 PM
39

We are trying not to get cancelled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:39 AM
49

I literally cook just to survive. -_- This is me to a T. I hate cooking, I hate cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:05 PM
15

Straight facts. Sometimes I think about the things younger OptionalCookie did and I kind of want to slap her for not finding her voice and trusting her gut. But then I'm glad the older OptionalCookie has found her voice, and will trust her gut than someone's words or actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:25 PM
33

That's manipulative as fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:23 AM
33

The thing is... I didn't make him say anything. He just said that like it was the thing that seals the deal for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:18 PM
118

Someone asked me that question once and I was like... what is the right answer to that question? Insert ??? face. Uh uh uh. Hemming and hawing followed by the forward lean and the fingers on his chin. MY special talent. OptionalCookie: will instantly make a date awkward by calling you out on your bullshit. I just said I had to do something else not here and I left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:28 PM
39

You know... I've never needed porn to masturbate. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:23 PM
11

True, true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:21 AM
32

I know she'll probably cut you off if you tell her that, but she might wake up. Shit, send her this post so she can get an outsiders view of her relationship. You don't have to worry about her cutting you off if you haven't seen her for the last decade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:04 PM
8

You are not alone D:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:03 AM
12

the what? Tampon glove?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:03 AM
41

I treat unknown large dogs the same way I treat people I don't know. With an abundance of caution, and extreme distrust until otherwise stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:01 AM
7

Stop giving this guy advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:49 PM
5

This right here. Happily, at my job, everyone male or female was congratulating me for my promotion from conductor to train operator. And someone even bought me a slice of cake when my probationary period finished. q_q
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:56 PM
40

I'm trying to find that out too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:41 AM
272

Cause it's easy to blame a woman for her own demise. Same with rape. It makes people uncomfortable to believe that such a heinous crime is capable of happening, so to make themselves feel better, they try to find ways to see how the victim deserved it. They'll blame a 7 year old for being to promiscuous for her rape, and they'll blame a 22 year old woman for her own murder because "she provoked a man." Discomfort leads people to victim blame to set their own hearts at ease. Her family needs to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:24 PM
46

100% bet we are going to see "not all men" hashed on Twitter. Fucking sick. I'm so upset for her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:10 AM
12

It's kind of like when your father/mother says wash the dishes. They shouldn't have to tell you. You live here too. Some men think women are nagging them over thinks like that and think praise should be delivered for something simple like taking out the trash. No. You stay here too. And idk if some people are just sociopaths, but you can tell discomfort from someone's face or voice. Are some people unable to pick this up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:45 PM
58

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I'm upset just reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:34 PM
48

I work in a job where I have to walk in dark tunnels a lot. Why would I want to go on a walking date. I'm tired. ☹️ When you've walked a mile and the only thing you've heard is the sound of your own foot falls, you want to sit and eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:39 AM
108

What the fuck? Seriously? Depravity knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:19 PM
7

Shreddit. I set the program to run and delete my comments up to the last 30 days. If you really want to creep, you are going to have to work for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:03 AM
3

Get the scissors and cut him off. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:25 PM
85

I told a guy to his face the sex was awful. He started crying -- which caught me all the way off guard -- and then he started yelling at me while crying which was really gross btw and I just got dressed and gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 02:18 PM
5

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 11:19 PM
7

I used to hate being wrong and being corrected... But it's humbling. I would not be where I am and who I am without a self check or someone else to correct my bullshit... You just have to be willing to accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:17 PM
79

That stand by your man bullshit when a man wouldn't give his last red cent to stand by me. And the few black mothers keep babying their sons too. You end up with grown boys who call their mom for any issue. My ex was a huge man child and when I gave him back to his mother and got primary custody she was pissed at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:03 PM
44

I was peacefully sitting by myself on the train yesterday and some guy walks over and waves to get my attention while I'm there day dreaming saying he thought I made eye contact, I seem like a cool person, and what's my ig. Bruh, I'm pretty sure my eyes were pointing in two different directions because I never even saw you. I just grabbed my stuff and went to the next car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:49 AM
94

There was a post on Reddit where this guy opens his relationship because his girlfriend in his opinion wasn't visually appealing to him. She was very upset, but she agreed. Suddenly, she was bagging dudes left and right -- better looking guys -- and he's not getting a single woman. He's jealous af and wants to close the relationship again. Reddit let him have it lmao Found it: https://www.google.com/amp/s/jezebel.com/dudes-demand-for-an-open-relationship-backfires-spectac-1578409074/amp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:23 AM
59

I love that last part lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:47 PM
16

First record his phone and then delete them this way if he tries to put up them up on the internet, you can cite it as revenge porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:56 AM
239

Nothing comes to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 07:06 PM
67

I've never been in a room with this boss and I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:17 AM
3

But white men are also held like gods in some families cause some think they are rich when ... Value and race aren't one and the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:41 PM
72

I'm mixed Asian and black. It's obvious when you see me. One guy said: I like soul food and Chinese. I'm not food. I'm not even American (like born in America American.) I'm not even Chinese. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ It's a fetish thing and it feels like men just try to sum you to a stereotype.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:59 AM
4

Yeeees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:24 AM
16

Idk about the study, but I just think it's disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:48 PM
16

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:29 PM
19

Yeah I thought it was weird. Red flags were in the conversation but 28 year old cookie wasn't paying attention. He kept referring to men as protectors and providers so I guess that is the role he was trying to play ... On a first date. 🤡 But I know the area. So I'm like.. let me fucking get out of here before I run into that homeless guy that says "sour" all the time or that other homeless guy with the spitting problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:47 PM
18

Lol thanks I just don't like being treated like a pet. I do not walk on a leash behind someone. And if you run and leave me... Then you are just about total stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:45 PM
39

This might be me living in a big city, but walking dates have provided the perfect exit situations when men start acting up. Twice now has a guy walked faster than I did like he's walking a marathon versus a relaxed pace, and twice now have I just been able to hop onto the nearest train and just leave. And I've noticed: men seem to ask you to walk in places YOU are not familiar with. First guy: I said I'm not from Brooklyn. That's not wholly true. My parents still have a place in Brooklyn. I wen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:34 PM
180

Factuals. She better not marry his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:46 PM
13

Yeah you'd think at that age group they wouldn't be trying to do the sex version of the crate challenge but nOoOo Men do not get wiser with age, or age like wine. They just spoil like milk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:44 PM
53

It gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:26 AM
128

40 years experience means this dude is pushing 60. Easy. Better not fall and break a hip Grandpa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:23 AM
68

That last sentence though. I'm scared. get himmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:19 PM
11

Idk, women are conditioned to nest and "mother" people. Be "wife" material. But never the other way around. Never... find a guy who is husband material. Or for guys to be husband material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:20 PM
58

We aren't Bob the Builder, and the insurance company isn;t cutting us any copays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:28 PM
11

YES! YES YES YES! I LOVE THIS! We are not therapy! Aetna does not cut me a check!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:27 PM
2

And I don't want to give him views or bandwidth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:53 PM
5

I'm not even going to stress myself reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:50 PM
26

What is roosh v?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:30 AM
38

The mom has cancer part ... I didn't know it was a tactic. Some guy told me that as a conversation opening and... I'm not that socially adept and I said to him... (Mouth before brain...) I'm sorry to hear that, it's a horrible thing, but is there a reason you told me - a complete stranger - versus someone closer to you? (I personally believe the strongest people are the ones who keep their shit to themselves unless it's with close ones, not random strangers.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:17 PM
19

I'm glad like minded people are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:09 AM
18

Wait where do you see that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:33 PM
19

When you sum a woman down to a box... Idk if that makes it easier to exist or harder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:49 AM
3

... Are they in a relationship? Cause that's not what I'm seeing here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:41 AM
7

I am pleased that she did not endorse some good quality in this man in her first paragraph. I know this: I ain't playing mommy to someone else's kid. Period. I wouldn't expect someone to play daddy to mine. :\
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:02 PM
37

dont give this dude views
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:28 AM
16

twice divorced Also Steve Harvey. Every 5 seconds he's giving people relationship advice. sir aren't you divorced?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:27 AM
17

Free pads and tampons or better period-wear (idk how to phrase that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:26 AM
22

...I operate trains for a living. It is not hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:26 AM
66

🤦🏾‍♀️ Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:13 AM
99

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I had someone send me a dick pic. My mother picked my phone like what is this? I'm like what is what? I see that shit and was like... How dare you? Blocked and deleted. She doesn't know my pin or anything like that. I just turn off my phones auto lock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:49 PM
75

I had a long conversation with a male Co worker who talked about a friend of his who was beating his girlfriend. And I was like... So why you didn't check your man? You are just as bad as he is. And he's like... I'm not a woman beater... No, but you endlessly enable those that do. So you are just as bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:11 PM
137

The first time I heard this quote was here. It's imprinted in my mind and my soul. Never have truer words been spoken. I'm not going to forget it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:03 PM
23

I'm fucking saving this. You just spoke the truth on too many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:50 AM
13

Lmmmmmao I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:34 PM
13

Hell yes, size matters. Tf. People are out here constantly trying not to hurt someone's feelings. Not me. Sorry, not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:00 PM
4

It was clean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:00 PM
5

Lmao. My sister just ordered 10 bottles of her favorite perfume from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:59 PM
10

🥺 you get me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:59 PM
12

Yeah... I was told this too. I would wear my underwear until it was like barely hanging on because I hated shopping with my mother. So she'd tell me this cause she didn't want people to thing she was sending her kid to school in rags and catch a case. She made shopping unbearable. To this day, I'll wear my clothing to shreds, sew it, or buy the same color and size and mourn pitifully when it is discontinued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:40 PM
110

Say it again, sister. He's eating up those upvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:20 PM
43

Men think you are in love with them if you ask them the time. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:17 AM
20

I’m starting to think the “Black love” agenda is mostly beneficial to Black men. I watched a few episodes of the show and it was disproportionately couples where the wife is lighter skinned. And some of the couples have toxic dynamics where she put up with nonsense but “relationships are hard work.” This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:31 PM
21

It also proves that men befriend women just to fuck them. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:32 AM
30

My co worker spent the entire day yesterday hitting on me. Didn't once talk to me... Just talked to my boobs. 🤦🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:40 AM
54

When xxxtentacion died I was like... About time. Piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:31 PM
59

I know right? My drink is in my nostrils.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:51 PM
48

✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾 I have a friend like this. I try to reach out, keep what few friends I have ... Then they only want to message me when their plans fall through. Last message I sent to you was several months ago after you asked me for money. I just pointed that out, and said I'm permanently unavailable. For you. Very awkward for everyone involved when a mutual friend invited myself and a group of people to an outing... And there they were snarky af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:07 PM
27

? It says the husband was 42 and she was 28. Even worse, a 14 year gap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:44 PM
138

That's an insult to trash... at least you find good things in trash sometimes :o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:18 PM
2

See, I get called mean when I pointed out to a friend of a tenant of mine who was on this tangent about how he only likes certain women ... That he doesn't bathe, and he's a big guy so it's going to smell worse, he's broke and that he'd be lucky if A woman looked in his general direction. He tried to flip the script and say I was projecting... Projecting on who? I had a relationship that ended, a child I need to take care of, and a house that is almost mine. You've slept on my couch and that's o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:31 PM
1

Cause men get off on having sex with unwilling women cause they think their dicks are magic and she'll say yes. I never want to force anyone into anything they are uncomfortable with regardless of the circumstances, from simple errands to sex. I can take a hint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:15 PM
193

I remember seeing this video where this fat ugly guy was like... If I had my choice between cardi b and Megan thee stallion... Other bullshit about how one has a better body versus the other ones face and his father was like I'm going to play it straight... You'd be lucky to get either one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:27 PM
18

This! I knew a woman I grew up with who would trick men into coming over to a random address, and she'd stitch them up. She'd have a couple *gang members* roll up strapped, rob them, beat them, and ditch them out in who knows where. Only LVM and NVMs fell for this shit. I mean, she's doing time now, OK, but still. You got in your car and drove to the middle of nowhere for a woman you never met before expecting sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:35 AM
16

DAMN. You are my idol rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:31 AM
12

I hear you on this. I woke up and my leg muscles were like... We aren't going to do this today. You need to lie back down and cancel your plans. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:49 AM
47

Your father sounds like a child. You are correct, that divorce couldn't come soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:43 PM
66

I bet he loses his shit when you tell him that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:08 PM
32

Never will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:06 PM
65

I know right? If a man denies me attention or sex... I'll go and do something else. It sucks, but it happens. Never planned to end someone's life* them or anyone over it. Edit: mods, I'll try to use that word less. My apologies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:59 AM
330

This. One hundred percent. He'll then post his story on some subreddit and tell them how the courts are always favoring women and that it's always anti men. He might even join "men getting triggered over* women." *I wrote by, it's over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:37 AM
653

.. Wow. I bet he calls himself a great father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:34 AM
18

And then tried to blame her. Can't even stand up on his own two feet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:56 AM
97

Dadt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:39 AM
245

Men commit like 95% of society’s murders. I keep telling people this and they act like I'm telling tales. When it comes to crime period a man will be the perp. And then other men don't want to hear that they should be just as afraid of other men as women are b/c who is going to rape and murder a woman, just as likely as they are going to rape and murder a man? A man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:33 PM
1

Downside of living in NY. I've never been/seen a Kroger. I'll check target or my local place though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:48 AM
1

They are at whole foods?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:43 AM
59

It's like pregnancy. You've contributed none of the work except for an orgasm, and want to claim half the credit. Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:58 PM
33

My..."number neighbor" did this shit. My phone number is (example) in 000-000-0000 and his is 000-000-0001. Texted me like hey want to be friends? I didn't respond. I've seen you, you're cute brown sugar, you want to go on a date? I'm on vacation rn. My guy, where have you seen me? How did you even know my race? So I'm like... You know those neighbors that never say more than hi to each other after living next to each other for 20 years? Let's be those neighbors. Don't call or text me again. Blo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:44 AM
35

I'd love some to if I could find a vegan alternative for health reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:22 AM
24

damn it, you sound like my mother... but her advice has been somewhat sound... I usually don't carry cash b/c I work in dangerous places (Far Rockaway...) or high places (train structures), so I can either play poor or not lose my wallet to the street level. I better start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:08 PM
7

Still. When I employed people, I did a full check for shit like this. Toxic sexist workplaces open themselves to lawsuits, showing sexism is expensive. If I heard a video like this while searching/finding a potential employee, I'd find the nearest shredder or hit next. You can be the best worker, but the moment this kind of shit leaves your mouth you are nothing but a liability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:22 PM
7

this! They won't be laughing anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:29 PM
90

I hope he became an ex quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:19 PM
103

That's not a friend. That's a pimp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:45 PM
69

...Do we know the same guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:03 PM
3

Do tell..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:44 PM
50

A woman would literally be sitting around minding her own business and a man will call her a whore even if she is covered from head to toe with not a speck of skin showing. It's just a lack of respect and not seeing women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:30 PM
21

Remember in school they couldn't pronounce your name, so instead of even asking you how to pronounce it... they'd either butcher it (which is fine) or ask if you have a nickname... or an American name (which is not fine). -_- suddenly being an immigrant is cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:28 PM
81

I think he meant it like please explain b/c *I'm* confused in that sarcastic "boy, what?" kind of way. It might be a East Coast thing, but when someone says something stupid, the next thing you say is either "what?" or "please explain" or "I have questions." ...Possibly followed by deadass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:34 PM
313

Agreed. I always had big lips, a big butt, and big breasts. You know what I got called? Fat. When I was putting on chapstick... someone said don't use all the chapstick big lips. Now? My body type is trendy. But I grew up during heroin chic where the thinner the better was the word. Suddenly men who wouldn't give me the time of day want to be helpful. Like yo. F-ck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:31 PM
8

Oh yikes. Reddit in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:29 AM
5

Enm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:25 AM
249

One time i went on a walking date, he walked and left me. I work for my cities transportation: I don't have to pay for it. I caught the next Q train at 7 av and went right the fuck home. He texted me when I was on the bridge like... I got two blocks ahead and you weren't there. And I'm like yeah... I'm approaching canal st. He's like huh? I just blocked. I got the rest of my weekend back. Boy. You are not about to walk and leave me and expect me to tag along like a dog trying to keep up with its…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:59 AM
19

I'm reading this and going... Sis, what the fuck are you doing? Are you trying to end up a corpse? Get the fuck out of there yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:31 PM
3

I see this and I'm screaming for it to be fake but I know it's not. I hate society 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:23 PM
1

When you’ve lived in a major city you don’t have time for this shit. One homeless person can stink the entire carriage out for hours, bonus points if they wet themselves or throw up. First... I didn't think the tube was like NYC. Here we keep comparing our system to London's in the fact that homeless people don't live on the system since it isn't 24 hours like here. > What bugs me is there’s plenty charities that provide shower facilities to homeless people like this. They just can’t be assed. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:49 PM
59

It's a: f--k you b---h hey are you there? They demand recognition. If you won't even give them the time of day, they gotta break you down until you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:03 PM
258

You can be Beyonce and still get cheated on by an ugly dude like Jay Z. And Jay Z is ugly af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:00 PM
13

Before this mayor... It wasn't this bad. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:06 AM
6

Once your wallet gets hit, you do everything in your power to make sure it doesn't happen again. My yearly deductible (allowance) is $1800. It was $1200 for those two teeth. Anything more than that and I'd be coming out of pocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:05 AM
3

Ok. I gave it a shot after washing it out with soap... It feels so pure :o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:53 AM
37

This is a fact. Men commit crimes at higher rates in every category. Look at the FBI stats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:52 AM
54

This morning ... I needed it. I got on the D train, and my eyes started BURNING from the stink. These alcoholic homeless people just woke up... and while I sympathize a bit... not really... ... How are you going to buy alcohol, but not soap. I told them they had to move to the next car otherwise I wasn't moving the train and I was calling the police. The guy gets mad and tells me ... I stink. Lmao. So I was just like... yo, y'all spent your money on alcohol and not soap, and I'm not the one slee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:41 PM
12

After I shower, towel off, and then air dry. Yes. Sit there naked with your phone on IG for a bit, or apply lotion. Then... same deodorant you use for your armpits... under your boobs. Boobline, underboob. I haven't have an underboob rash in years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 01:44 PM
37

Hmm. I love hearing other self care routines from other women. If it wasn't for Reddit and some women's subs, I'd still have an under boob rash every summer (use deodorant everywhere that sweats!) I'll give this a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:05 AM
62

And teeth are expensive. I had two root canals. It was $1200 after discounts but insurance covered it thank God. I didn't pay a dime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:12 AM
194

I'm in NYC right now. A guy (well dressed) passed me and he smelled like hot ass and wet dog. I hate Stillwell. Edit: I'm the train operator. You cannot be in my car playing loud music, or stinking. I have NO WHERE ELSE TO GO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:11 AM
17

I do it when I shower
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:10 AM
30

People get mad at me when I say they have bad breath. (HOW DO YOU NOT TASTE IT OR SMELL IT? Esp in your MASK?) Sir. I have a genetic condition that makes my teeth generally shitty. I've had two root canals, but insurance paid the whole thing thank God. I brush and I floss every night. That thing on the back of my tooth brush is a tongue scraper. I use it. All the time. I have a waterpik. I do not wake up with stank breath. I still brush my teeth in the morning. I don't want people to smell my ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:08 AM
15

When you reverse image search this picture... You did an excellent job of editing out who he was cause the internet was RUTHLESS lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:31 AM
6

https://youtu.be/iw7-vfXQJ20 And https://youtu.be/VPnBw8HpPNU is my favorite Wise words from Lynn Toller.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:28 AM
47

I've been saying this everytime 👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:31 AM
9

Blockedt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:39 PM
9

Blockedt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:26 PM
17

The loss of respect probably comes from them feeling redundant in a woman's life. We can work. We aren't reliant on them for money. We can take care of ourselves in terms of cleaning and cooking -- never needed a man for that. We can raise our children alone -- we were already doing that. Orgasms via masturbation are a STD risk free, pregnancy risk free almost guarantee unless you don't feel like playing acoustic pussy. But no one is pressuring you for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:23 PM
54

This. Don't imagine the future together asap. Live in here and now. Our fantasies are never going to be the same as reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:37 PM
10

(side note; your Avatar is adorable)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:34 PM
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🙋🏾‍♀️ I got two degrees during that time and I was told I was leaving him behind. Get on my level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:50 PM
20

And not free to abuse people and expect them to forgive for it later either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:15 PM
20

I got downvoted because I told a woman in another sub not to date broke/unemployed men because why don't you think you deserve better? All the broke dudes got hurt. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:14 PM
21

I'm going to bet it's b/c sex with him is 1 minute long. Kind of like walking into the kitchen b/c you are trying to find something to eat, and then walking back out disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:46 PM
42

I keep telling men that they should fear other men too. 2011 FBI stats say that 99% of sexual assaults are committed by men, but the *stat does not say who the victims are.* So if someone sexually assaults a woman, it will likely be a man. If someone sexually assaults a man, *it will likely be another man.* But these men think I'm being a misandrist when I say *yes it's all men.* Y'all (lurking scrotes) failed to watch your own for so long that you scream #notallmen like the police and not all c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:09 PM
10

If you want to feel special go find your mother. Wtf. You need a gold star, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:15 AM
33

Try not to say this out loud. I almost got my ass kicked when I said something of the sort lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:37 PM
15

Her post humous letter in the first link brought me to tears. She knew she was going to die. ​ That's so fucking scary. And it just get worse and wose when I read on: "After marriage, Xiaofang had two daughters. She alone was responsible for all of the family’s expenses, housework, and childcare. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:22 PM
137

And divorce is sky rocketting in China. Women are preferring to be single mothers to married mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:30 AM
3

True true. Better they show their colors now versus later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:08 AM
12

Whyyyyyy? Women's spaces do not need men. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:57 AM
50

I will not ever respect a man with a high body count. That is community dick, it is diseased, it is sick, it has issues, it has problems and I don't have the time or money or mental capacity to deal with that. The first time a man tells me that will be the last time a man tells me that because I will cut him off asap. I have to out of principle. Immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:43 AM
48

It would bother my ex when I complained that he didn't last as long as the porn guys or that he wasn't as big so neither of us would be able to do the things he was trying to get me to do. I'm going to put in the work for what? Five minutes? And I don't get an orgasm? I don't like this arrangement. I got something else to do. Like anything else. I wish young optionalcookie found fds sooner before and not during that relationship. I kind of want to punch her in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:29 PM
67

Poison? Murder! Let's call it what it is. Stay away from men who are determined to kill you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:07 PM
39

And no pulling punches on not letting male mods in. Why are there male mods on any female subs periodt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:09 AM
51

I had an ex like this. I was genuinely tired of being his emotional punching bag. I'm talking to him about my day and my issues and he's asleep. I see. So I'd get a text and just not respond for days. Leave that shit on unread. He'd call to vent about bullshit, I just stopped picking up. I'm busy. Eventually he's like why don't you want to talk or do anything anymore? Cause you talk, and I listen. I talk, you fall asleep. If you want to be emotionally unavailable for me, I can do that, too. He d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:08 AM
54

Or make enough money to support a trad wife lifestyle. If I make more than you, and I work longer hours, and you aren't doing anything or you got a straight 8... I want dinner when I get home, and not some fast food shit either. I want the fridge stocked, and the place clean. If I work 12 hours for this cheddar, that's what I want to see. Having a penis does not prevent you from turning a stove knob and determining how fire works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:35 AM
221

Some people don't realize that seeing your child once a month is 12 times a year. You aren't a parent, you are a visitor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:14 PM
59

No more giving these whack looking guys a chance based on personality. Give them an inch and they take more than the mile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:59 AM
30

Any time an old guy goes after a younger woman (or a literal child) is because women his age realize him for the bum he is and want nothing to do with them. So they go for the younger one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:28 AM
31

Men really are piece of shit What the fuck does used up even mean. You gave 4 people liiife. Can they do that? No. Can they ever do that? No. Don't even let that shit get you down. He's probably be the type you end up having to clean up after anyways. So that's 5 children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:24 AM
33

I had an ex who texted me about the fact that he has sex with 5 other women after me. And I was like... So you are in a new relationship then? If so, I'm happy for you. Don't disrespect your new woman, please don't text me again. And at that time, I followed the advice I got here: block and delete. Then he used WhatsApp 🤦🏾‍♀️ to text me and ask if I was jealous. I replied Nope. Blockedt. Again. Every text free number after that blocked. No replies. He got a formerly mutual friend to message me o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:43 AM
115

Or the men that say they want an "independent woman." That really means they want a woman who pays for herself ... b/c he ain't got the money. And therefore does all of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:40 AM
43

When you install the lock, use wood screws in the doorframe part of the lock assembly. Wood screws can take a beating. Someone tried to kick in my door, but I installed wood screws instead. The door got messed up, but it never came off :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:40 PM
41

Grown men (and some pick me's) realllllllly can't handle the truth, and keep trying to classify this sub as a hate group. I didn't know that not wanting to be used and abused and helping other women not be used and abused by some of these bums out here was the equivalent of a hate group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:59 PM
30

If there is some sort of supreme being out there, I hope she doesn't. Throw the whole boyfriend out, quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:55 PM
84

Instead, thanks to our society coddling men, they would come after the woman for being taken advantage of instead of coming for the person who is the offender (the bum.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:54 PM
11

Thank you! Other women in my life were like don't let me see you back at your prior position, cause we need women in that position, there aren't enough of us,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:38 PM
21

I had someone literally kick open the cab door of a train I was operating at almost 50 mph to ask if he could take me out and watch me operate cause he'd never seen a woman operate a train before (huh???) I was so shocked I almost put the train into emergency. I thought he was coming in there to stab me or attack me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:39 PM
8

Exactly this. Mr. Community dick can go be a father to his child. He doesn't even have to finish that sentence before I'm kicking the door out to escape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:28 PM
4

This. Anytime I think something negative about another woman, I mentally roll that back and think to myself ... would I think that about a man? If I wouldn't, then I know I needed to shut that shit down asap because I'm hating on a woman for existing for no good reason. It's a horrible thing what society put in my head 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:11 PM
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Number 9 is some real shit. I just got A promotion, and I was terrified I couldn't do it. I was ready to go back to my old position because it's what I know. But you know what, I love the promotion, AND I DESERVE IT! And I'm going higher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:06 AM
5

The thing about Disney movies. That right there. My mother said she regretted ever buying those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:56 AM
15

Holy shit you are right... Add that cater 2 u song. That song is cringe af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:36 AM
23

Rape as drama. It's pretty disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:57 PM
3

I was an engineer. One time, I got the job because the hr rep was female, and I have a maleish first name. Then I met the team who were impressed by my credentials via email... And became extremely aloof when they saw me in person. I mean it was night and day cause it was... We can't wait to meet you then oh no what have we done. They had what they thought was a complex project... It was supposed to be some mechanical engineering project pointed towards the manual labor force. I can't detail it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:54 AM
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I never saw it like that before :o I love this sub. I see a new perspective everyday. The old pick me idiot would have been like... What's so bad about porn, but post fds me now understands the error of my ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:05 AM
50

Wipe my tears with $100 bills lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:44 AM
17

This is accurate. 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:03 AM
8

Fastest unmatch if I've ever seen one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:00 PM
242

I recently saw a YouTube short where this young woman was cleaning her father's oven. He lives alone. The oven was one of those see through ovens, but his was just filled with stuck on grease. And she's proud of herself for having cleaned that shit off the oven... 🤦🏾‍♀️ No. NO. Sis. Your father is a disgusting pig. They sell oven cleaner for $3.99 with the instructions on the side. If his oven looks like that, imagine the bathtub. It's not the flex you think it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:07 PM
7

Who wants to have 3-4 kids???? In today's society with today's money and mentality. I'm good with 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:12 PM
48

I remember watching an episode of Paternity Court while I was at work... and the judge said this exactly: We can't play the same game men play b/c there's a different consequence for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:56 PM
24

Preach sister, preach. I am so glad I found this sub. It is like my worst fears about getting in a relationship weren't bullshit, and there are other women feeling it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:27 PM
24

Spilled milk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:18 PM
15

Any guy calling me the n word as kink will be 6 deep. And I'll have to be judged by 12.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:08 PM
78

Stop, please. If you can think it... there's some scrote getting off to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:17 PM
5

Same here! Someone called this place a toxic feminist sub. Well, thank you for leading me here, cause I'm finding it is anything but that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:32 AM
14

I am high maintenance because I am the one maintaining it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:11 PM
12

This sub isn't toxic at all. Its eye-opening and empowering. Only people who think it is toxic are either men or women who need to straighten their crown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:32 PM
45

RIP Cicely Tyson. Was 96 and fabulous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:06 AM
62

I was introduced to this sub from a random comment calling this place a hub of "toxic feminism/feminity" and I'm seeing everything BUT that. The moment you call men out of their bullshit, suddenly you are toxic. I'm glad I saw that comment, and found this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:38 PM
3

Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:04 AM
56

Shit if negging gets me venmo... Let's go!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:53 AM
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