OrangeCantRhyme Archive

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1	Share your F-close/k-close when you were in college. As a guy who was in a frat, if you aren't getting laid like crazy, you did something wrong... or you joined a lame ass frat. Seriously, join a party-heavy frat. Girls who go to parties at those frats know exactly what they are going to and exactly what is on the guys minds - and they are okay with that, which gives you a pretty good indication of what the girls are looking for.	/r/seduction	06/02/14 12:03 AM
9	Where to take girls who just broke up with their SOs Honestly, I am by no means an expert here (and I don't think there would be too many experts in this area), but I believe your best bet is to just play the game as normal. Ultimately, the girl is emotional and the last thing you want to do is remind her/let her daydream into thinking of her ex. Thus, your best bet is to try and find somewhere positive, loud, non-dateish and energetic so she doesn't get reminded of her ex or have the time to stop and think about him.	/r/seduction	05/02/14 04:30 AM
6	Is there any way to ask a girl if she's politely saying no or interested but actually unable to go out without coming off as clingy? You asked her out twice, she gave excuses. That is your sign she isn't interested and you aren't going to be having a relationship. By the sounds of it, she's someone you've known for a while or are stuck in some sort of work relationship. She realizes that if she absolutely rejects you it's going to be awkward, she she's being nice by making excuses. Respect that.	/r/seduction	05/02/14 04:25 AM
-2	Share your F-close/k-close when you were in college. Getting laid in college: Join a frat. Work out. Get wasted right before frat party. ??? Profit. (Okay really, college is extremely easy because frat parties are essentially collections of DTF girls and every guy in a frat already has plenty of social proof. It's hard not to get laid this way.)	/r/seduction	05/02/14 03:25 AM
13	Girls who have trouble holding a convo? It was unexpected, she's probably shy, so she got nervous and freaked out. Just give her a call and see if she wants to meet up again, she'll have time to gear herself up a bit and will be ready for a date. In the future, if the girl seems interested and isn't giving signs she wants to leave, just keep talking. The best thing you can do is ask an open ended question, then if she doesn't really bite, say your own statement as if you got asked that question yourself. (A big problem people have wit…	/r/seduction	05/02/14 03:21 AM
46	Worst Date. Of. All. Time. (Advice?) I agree with everything said here, but I think no one has really raised a huge point here - The two guys who came over didn't just accidentally steal your girl - that was their intent all along. It wasn't a "oh you let them become alpha and then slowly your girl changed" type of situation, it is more like a "these two guys targeted your girl and you were too oblivious to realized you helped them". If a guy you don't know comes over to you while your on a date, he's trying to steal your girl - bl…	/r/seduction	05/02/14 03:14 AM
3	Is your inability to hold conversation a big snag in your game? Confidence is key here - Have the confidence to say what you want, when you want. You are confident and you are in this conversation for your own enjoyment. Thus, whatever you say is appropriate and is meaningful because you deem it to be. If you can hold this mindset, your conversations shouldn't really stall all that much. People tend to run out of things to say because they are too busy worrying about what they will say next to chill out and listen, and eventually they decide what they are sa…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 10:53 PM
1	Need some advice on closing from you geniuses. If by text her you mean you've texted her once, then go for another shot. Be demanding, set a date and time and see if she accepts. If by text her you mean you've texted her numerous times and she's never receptive, then she might be using you as an orbiter. In either case, the next time you have a girl alone in a room with her bra unhinged, don't go strapping it back on.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 05:37 AM
1	Need some advice on closing from you geniuses. She's said you'd be a great fuck, she's kissing you, and wants to be around you... but your afraid to text her? Dafuq? Grow some balls. Text her. She'll be receptive.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 05:20 AM
2	Field Report: A success story of sorts I completely agree with you there - it's always better to try and take the risk then to avoid it all and miss out on the opportunity. You had the perfect target though; if a girl makes eye contact repetitively, she's basically calling you in for an approach. And even if she wasn't, the worst rejection your likely to get is something along the lines of "I have a boyfriend". People only get truly blown out when they are excessively pushy/don't take a hint or talk to girls with emotional problems (…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 05:10 AM
3	The online dating game Essentially, if you carry the right mindset then she'll never get to stop working for your approval. You're the confident man with a number of options whose just messaging girls to see whats up; she need's to prove she's worth your time before you're going to start hanging out with her. But no, you don't need to continually throw out challenges that will affect her mental state. Too many of these and you'll come off as disinterested or socially awkward.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 05:03 AM
3	Field Report: A success story of sorts Grats man, its great to hear about men having success, especially in situations like yours (grats again on scoring a girl 11 years younger then you). A lot of guys get too caught up in the mental aspect of it and think you need some convoluted strategy with preplanned steps and transitions - but as you just showed, that's not true. Follow the basic principles: Be confident, relaxed, and don't be needy.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 05:00 AM
3	The online dating game In my opinion, the best openers for online/text game (read: A total cold approach where all non-verbals are thrown away) are openers that imply something about the girl that probably isn't true. By telling the girl "too bad you only go for the jock types", you are pushing a label onto her that she probably doesn't agree with. Mentally, this creates incongruence that will not be enjoyable, so she will want to respond to remove that label. Also, this type of opener makes you stand out from other g…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:49 AM
1	Staying social while commuting to college? To be completely honest, I've lived on campus for 3 years and had a sucky ass social life, then I began commuting and my social life became instantly better. Why? When living on campus you are saturated with social attention and have very little time to spend alone and recuperate. In short, your social energy is sucked away and so when you meet new people you are pretty dead. Having the time to go home, be alone and recharge/reflect can be a huge asset to your game and to your social life. tldr;…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:42 AM
1	I Want an actual relationship. Many high school relationships are about self-validation through having a significant other. Be honest with yourself - are you just trying to find some confidence through having someone else to call your own? (If this is the case, realize it will never be enough. For the first few months of a real relationship, you'll feel a bit more complete, but with time those feelings will fade and you'll desire more validation). If you truly want a relationship in high school, play the field - Talk to every…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:37 AM
2	My friends have been calling me out for hitting on girls too much Theres two cases here: 1) Your friends are jealous. This means your doing it right. or 2) Your friends feel like you are neglecting them for chasing after girls. If this is the case, try to find some balance. It'll keep you sane in the long run.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:30 AM
1	What's next after inner game? Material means nothing in the big picture of things. If your inner game is in place, approaching in any venue should be a matter of doing what is instinctive to your inner persona that you've worked hard for. Night game is just a matter of understanding that girls in clubs have gone to extreme lengths to pretty themselves up to be approached by a lot of guys. Be confident, be relaxed, be sexual, and don't be needy. It'll work out just fine.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:29 AM
1	Flower for the second date...too nice? 1) Your intentions should already be clear - it's a date. If your intentions are not clear, this would imply she doesn't know it is a date, and therefore your doing it all wrong. 2) Buying girls presents, like flowers, is just a way of saying "I'm not sure if you'll like me, so I'll buy you nice things in hopes that this makes you like me". This is very manipulative. It'll work on lower quality girls who do not normally have guys buy them things, but high quality girls will read right through it…	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:25 AM
4	How do I get a girl to like me? Too late. You missed your shot - girls screen quickly and if the guy doesn't match up to their expectations, they pretty much toss you into the friends pile. It'll be easier to just try with a new girl.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:16 AM
1	So how do you actually get a girlfriend? I saw some statistics recently about hookups from clubs - Apparently some 43% of women would like their hookups to actually turn into relationships, but only 10% of women actually expect this would ever happen. In other words, 1/3 of the girls you hook up with would actually like to try to make a dating situation out of it, but they think its impossible and so they don't try to hard. Solution? You put in some effort and try to make it into a relationship.	/r/seduction	03/02/14 04:13 AM
1	Ideas about Success Rates Oh trust me, I've rolled that back a ton... but the initial material that brought me in was stuff like the Game which starts with Mystery tauting his ability to get any girl he chooses. Since then, I spent a lot of time wondering if I was the only one that thought that - perhaps so.	/r/seduction	18/01/14 01:36 AM
2	Ideas about Success Rates Sure pickup can make you a better person; I am 100% there on that one. And sure, reframing rejection as a learning experience softens the blow of it too... but there still is a success rate (unless you approach each chick expecting to be blown out, in which case, what is your failure rate on those attempts?) In reality though, I'm not really that interested in what you view your current results as, just your original thoughts when you first started. How successful did you think you could be when…	/r/seduction	17/01/14 04:20 AM
1	Ideas about Success Rates I had very similar experiences as to yours. Coming into pickup though, I really bought into the idea that with practice I could close without flakes on 100% of girls (that aren't taken). Initially, I think that promise is what really got me into pickup as a whole...	/r/seduction	17/01/14 03:35 AM
1	Overcoming nervousness about my lack of experience. To each his own I suppose... For me, it was a game - I was walking in with terrible lines that I knew wouldn't work, so then when they failed I didn't take it very personally. I also realized that girls wouldn't be horrible monsters because I make mistakes, and that failure wasn't going to ruin me or something.	/r/seduction	13/01/14 09:23 PM
1	Overcoming nervousness about my lack of experience. Turn failure into a game until you become okay with it. Make it a point to fail so miserably in your next 10 approaches that the girl is totally laughing at you. You wont feel so nervous after that.	/r/seduction	13/01/14 03:37 AM
4	Resources for dating multiple women? Simple: Make it clear to them that you aren't in a committed relationship; you're still new to dating them and "feeling things out". On the other hand, if you are telling them you are committed to them but lying (yet still being that boyfriendish sorta role), its going to take a ton of work to keep things going. At first its fun and exciting, but eventually it becomes an emotional drain... just enjoy the ride but be sure to get off at the top.	/r/seduction	13/01/14 01:33 AM
2	Does fate play a role on who you date sometimes? This sounds more like a philosphical question then a seduction one...	/r/seduction	13/01/14 01:23 AM
2	How can we ever be secure in our LTR's? Define pickup -By OP's post, I took it to mean pick-up in the sense that you can meet a girl and in 24 hours have her on her back, and so cheating means a girl suddenly falling for a PUA at a club and fucking him that night behind your back. If were talking about pickup as in "Be a confident attractive man and girls will be attracted", then thats a bit different. My statement is more in regards to the fact that there are plenty of girls out there who would simply never have a one-night stand... …	/r/seduction	12/01/14 09:07 PM
2	How many hidden couples are there? Bartenders flirt with customers they have absolutely no attraction to simply because it makes them more money. You don't have to have any real interest in order to flirt! And even if it did signal interest, it doesn't mean that people are a couple. Theres a number of girls I am interested in and flirt intensely with, but for the point of not shitting where you sleep I would never do anything with any of them... but casual hand-holding, touching, sitting excessively close on the couch, etc. is al…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 08:49 PM
2	How many hidden couples are there? Its called flirting. You are reading way too far into it.	/r/seduction	12/01/14 07:46 PM
2	short question: after a flake Imho, you are chasing her and she has the power in the relationship. Perhaps she isn't that into you, or perhaps she just likes the powertrip of having guys chase her... either way, you are in the same shit: Your chasing her and shes leading the relationship. You have been making the right choices; Ignoring her puts it back in the right frame of her chasing you, which means your next steps should be pretty much what you are already doing: 1- Ignore her until she messages you 2- Tell her your goi…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 07:43 PM
3	I am happier now, than I have been in a really long time. Most people are really complacent with their social skills and barely try to make any change. Its amazing how much of a difference can be made by just being consiously aware of your social environment while trying to improve yourself.	/r/seduction	12/01/14 06:27 AM
2	How can we ever be secure in our LTR's? The girls who pickup works on is not the entire set of girls in the world - pickup works particularly on the more "open-minded" girls out there. These girls are confident and free with their sexuality which means that they are also more willing to express it with more people... which leads to ease of cheating. Go find a 30 year old virgin... they aren't going to hop in the sack with you very easily and will probably be ignorant to most of your game... but they sure as hell will be loyal.	/r/seduction	12/01/14 06:20 AM
14	Living an attractive lifestyle... does it work? Living an attractive lifestyle gives you internalized confidence, social skills, social opportunities, conversation skills, conversation starters, stories, and friends. Living an attractive lifestyle does not make you inheretly attractive however. If your escalation sucks and you look like a slob, your attractive lifestyle isn't going to do you any good. Actively pursuing women is more likely to get you laid in the short term, but in the long term having a strong lifestyle (with good pursuit ski…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 06:15 AM
3	Just discovering that pickup is an art.Some things I want to accept but cant.(help if you can) Its nothing like that at all. The pickup community likes to advertise that women can be read and then responded to like a system; information comes out, appropriate response goes in, success. Its a great marketing scheme, but it isn't how it works. In reality, women are attracted to predictable things - Alpha males who will be able to provide for her and her children. In more relevant terms, this means a man who is confident, secure, high value, positive, and "manly". Pickup attempts to turn the…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 05:56 AM
3	Pickup Girls In high school Honestly, trying to run game on girls in HS really just turned me off of the whole idea - It barely ever worked properly because every girl was willing to flirt back with any guy who gave her attention. Calibrating what I was trying to what results I was getting was a nightmare and really screwed everything up. Senior year I pretty much quit and swore game off forever. When I got to college, girls were finally emotionally mature enough not to flirt with anything that moves - this allowed me to r…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 05:39 AM
11	Pickup Girls In high school Game doesn't always work so well on High School girls - I started reading/studying in high school, but it didn't really become applicable until I went to college. Your best bet in high school is just to expand your social intelligence; talk to everyone, try to learn to relate and empathize, get rid of social anxiety. When you finally graduate and start to mature (along with the girls in your life), you'll be a massive step ahead of everyone else. (I say this because when I was in high school gir…	/r/seduction	12/01/14 05:11 AM
2	[Q] How do you create and sustain a "casual lover" frame and stay away from the "boyfriend" frame? Keep your availability, her comfort with you, and her trust of you fairly low. Keep her jealousy and fear of loss regarding you very high - this will keep her on edge and prevent her from getting into a comfortable committed relationship with you. The relationship will be very exciting but too rocky and tense to ever be something she'd want to risk putting her heart into. The downside? She'll still move on eventually. You'll have to realize that the boyfriending hormones kick in eventually wheth…	/r/seduction	07/01/14 11:55 PM
3	I'm not a dick... Well, there's many many sides to this - A guy cant go to the bar, get shit faced, then sit and do nothing and have sex offered his way, its just not going to happen. The odds of a girl spotting a guy whose wasted, thinking "oh they can't tell me no", then actively trying to have sex with that guy are slim to none... It just doesn't happen (this subreddit wouldn't exist if it did). On the other side, for a girl this is a completely plausible situation. Go out to a bar, get a bit too drunk, guys s…	/r/seduction	07/01/14 11:47 PM
4	I'm not a dick... Second this - You should have more respect for yourself and woman than to sleep with a girl who can't even judge what she is doing. Sure, other guys may fuck a wasted girl, but you can be better. Take the number, get a kiss, move on.	/r/seduction	07/01/14 03:37 AM
3	Something I don't see much of on this subreddit... You hit the nail pretty much on the head in your own explanation there. At first in your relationship, both of you were excited and really interested in the relationship and one-another, but over time you both relaxed your effort as you settled in. Slowly the effort you (both) put into being attractive and sexy diminishes and with that decreased interest your ability to overlook flaws in your partner slowly creeps up... This is completely normal, predictable, and healthy for a relationship as it…	/r/seduction	07/01/14 02:01 AM
10	Something I don't see much of on this subreddit... Your never doomed to the flowers and chocolates method. The same ideas that work for pickup - being confident, being relaxed/comfortable/happy/at peace internally, having a sexual energy - all will help turn on your wife/girlfriend and possibly help reignite the spark you lost - but it will never address why that spark was lost in the first place, and in the end that is the really important part. What problem between you two is the cause of the lost flame in the first place, and how can you fix …	/r/seduction	06/01/14 10:18 PM
1	Can't get laid -- schools of thought in pickup To be honest, it seems like your over-analyzing and trying too hard. Stop. For one night, forget everything you've learned and just get out there and do it - you'll be impressed by your results.	/r/seduction	02/01/14 08:07 AM
1	Often after a one night stand, I feel like I did a bad thing? I don't understand I agree with a lot of the thoughts about confidence issues, but it also might be having negative views about hooking up and sex. Speaking from my experiences, in the past (when I sucked with girls) I always viewed hooking up with a lot of jealousy and (therefore) disgust. This mindset got very ingrained into me, so at first I felt really dirty and unclean for even just hitting on girls. As I got more experience its gotten better, but still it creeps up on me from time to time. Just more limiting…	/r/seduction	02/01/14 07:46 AM
2	Oneitis vs. Determination One-itis is when you are blind/lose touch with reality in your fixation on one girl. Determination is being very very interested in a girl, but totally okay with the concept of her not reciprocating.	/r/seduction	28/12/13 07:13 PM