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Field ReportOrlandoLasso/r/seduction12/06/26 11:58 PM
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Do you approach when you get checked out?
/r/seduction28/07/26 09:49 AM
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This reminds me of a quote from Star Trek. "You'll meet her; and you'll know it's wrong from the first moment you see her; you'll know there's nothing you can do about it."
/r/seduction26/07/26 04:40 AM
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Where are the rules?
/r/seduction25/07/26 01:43 AM
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That makes sense, but it begs the question, is it better to do numerous cold approaches or wait for a warm approach?
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:18 PM
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Okay, but the question isn't answered.
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:13 PM
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What is the YouTube channel?
/r/seduction11/07/26 08:59 PM
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Do you ever look at a guy or smile at a guy if you're interested in them?
/r/seduction10/07/26 03:06 AM
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Same here. If someone smiles at me or talks to me first, it's super easy. With cold approach, you don't know if someone's shy or just not interested. I tend to mess up the cold approaches a lot just by being sloppy, like overthinking my opener and wandering around the woman instead of approaching right away.
/r/seduction07/07/26 06:05 PM
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The bottom line is social circles. They know each other and you're not in their social circle. Women feel comfortable around guys they see regularly and interact with regularly. I can guarantee you and me would have awesome girlfriends if we had awesome single girls in our social circle already. I've also seen some guys with money date the beautiful women I know because the woman wanted kids, a house, and a destination wedding. I'm child free and looking more for a partner than a stay at home wi…
/r/seduction07/07/26 05:33 PM
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I don't believe it actually causes unrealistic expectations. I still find the majority of women attractive, especially at a gym or workout class. That's an old wives tale.
/r/MensRights07/07/26 02:19 PM
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That's a good call. I saw a right hot one waiting for the bus today, but didn't have time to approach. I have a college and university about 5 miles from where I live. Do you have any pointers for how to approach or how to read which ones are open to older men?
/r/seduction05/07/26 05:33 AM
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That's the hack? I'm a dude of average heights. Where would you recommend going to meet younger women? Can I dm you if you have an idea you don't want to share publically?
/r/seduction05/07/26 05:29 AM
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Hey man. Are you meeting most of the younger women on apps or in person? I live in Canada in a pretty open minded place, and I prefer dating younger women, but I'm finding it hard to meet them. I'm also heavy into fitness and I've been into martial arts and yoga for 20 years as well.
/r/seduction05/07/26 02:26 AM
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Do you meet most of them online? I prefer younger women, but I usually get older women hitting on me.
/r/seduction05/07/26 02:24 AM
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I also live in Canada. Where are you meeting younger women? I'm also really into working out, doing martial arts and Yoga. Our Karate club is super small and people usually take off as soon as the Yoga class is done.
/r/seduction05/07/26 02:22 AM
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Ya, it happens to all of us. I really botched that situation. Do you have any advice for how to pivot if someone is talking to you, but you need to approach a woman before she leaves?
/r/seduction03/07/26 03:34 PM
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Yeah, I'm guilty of it too. I was about to open a woman at a yard sale but she host kept yapping at me because she thought we were together, but the woman walked away before I had a chance to talk to her. She didn't make a lot of eye contact, but she lingered for a while.
/r/seduction03/07/26 02:53 PM
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Are there some women who avoid eye contact around a guy they like because they're shy?
/r/seduction03/07/26 02:41 PM
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Okay. It might take me a while to get new photos because I want to look my best and showcase the activities I do. I have no idea how to approach in a way that's less threatening. Yesterday, I tried approaching a woman walking her dog that looked at me a few days ago. We were walking opposite directions and I approached from the side, giving her lots of space and not blocking her path. I just asked how she was doing, and I kept walking and left her alone when she looked nervous. The only one that…
/r/seduction02/07/26 05:24 PM
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Of course I've been reading lots of posts about approaching and I know it's a numbers game, but I'm completely stuck. I got people to look at my profile and i got a female friend to take new pictures of me. Nothing has helped so far. I go to the gym and go to therapy regularly.
/r/seduction02/07/26 05:01 PM
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I feel totally stumped when it comes to day game. Any women I've opened while walking around looked annoyed, scared or confused. Most just walked away. A few spoke to me but gave me answers that indicated they weren't interested. I tried expanding my social circle, but I get women telling me they can't be my friend once their boyfriend gets jealous that I'm around. I get no matches on dating apps, so I need to learn how to meet people in person, but I have no idea what I'm doing. I was never abl…
/r/seduction02/07/26 04:43 PM
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In my area, there aren't any decent women on dating apps. They're either single mothere or they're at the bar every night. I see gorgeous women walking around the parks or at yard sales. It's completely day and night.
/r/seduction01/07/26 12:23 AM
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Good point. How can you tell the difference between a girl who is shy because she has a boyfriend or isn't looking or s girl who is shy because she likes you?
/r/seduction29/06/26 05:58 PM
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Same thing happened to me with an older woman.
/r/seduction29/06/26 04:56 PM
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Do you go direct or use situational openers at the grocery store?
/r/seduction26/06/26 03:11 PM
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I'm pretty sure her boyfriend made her send me that message saying I'm not welcome to sit with her anymore because we had a great time last time we hung out and she was texting me the next day about coming to my birthday party this weekend. It was completely out of left field.
/r/seduction26/06/26 04:46 AM
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Yeah, that makes sense, but they could probably help me get better at making new friends and not fumbling every approach.
/r/seduction25/06/26 09:23 PM
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Because I find it hard to approach women, make new friends or get matches on a dating app. When I do make new friends, it often goes sideways like that because of something stupid.
/r/seduction25/06/26 09:18 PM
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That's awesome you actually have singles events in your area. We don't have stuff like that in my town.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:47 PM
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Can you give me any pointers for making female friends? The last time I made a friend at the karaoke club, she sent me a text saying we can't be friends anymore and she doesn't want me to sit with her anymore. I'm assuming she has a jealous boyfriend because she used to come over and sit with me and send me texts about karaoke all the time. One time I saw her there with a dude and she said goodbye to everyone at our table except my friend and I.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:46 PM
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Yeah, that's true. I wish there was a dating coach or someone in my area I could learn from because I'm terrible at cold approach. I tried making new friends at a karaoke club, and the woman I met dumped me as a friend because she has a jealous boyfriend. It's hard even expanding your social circle here.
/r/seduction25/06/26 08:42 PM
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How often do you cold approach?
/r/seduction23/06/26 07:24 PM
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I think pretty women get treated differently in general and are used to being put on a pedestal by everyone, and average women mostly get treated as one of the boys or sometimes used as a friends with benefits. I agree their egos can be inflated, but it's definitely a different mentality than someone that experiences pretty privilege 24 7.
/r/seduction15/06/26 08:39 PM
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Yeah, I know the feeling. You never know what deal breakers someone has or what turns them off. If it's the right person, you can't really say anything wrong.
/r/seduction14/06/26 03:12 AM
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I think it's more about their tone. If they don't seem excited to talk to you and never ask you anything, or give really short answers, I would just walk away. You're right that getting a number is pointless if they're not looking forward to hanging out.
/r/seduction14/06/26 02:26 AM
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The reason I brought up gracefully accepting rejection is because I've heard of being getting rejected at clubs and getting their number on a different night or being introduced to one of their friends. They're less likely to avoid you if you're a polite person with healthy emotions. I don't agree that I see women like her as "practice fodder" because she was someone I truly wanted to know. If I wanted to practice on someone, I would talk to someone I wasn't interested in so there's less stress.…
/r/seduction14/06/26 12:54 AM
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I probably did between 50 and 100, so definitely not enough. I'm not really sure if there are any guides I should be following because all of my interactions really suck.
/r/seduction13/06/26 08:52 PM
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Thanks. That's a good idea. I was talking about the same girl. She said she didn't have any hobbies, so it wouldn't make sense for me to invite her out to a karaoke night or a netball game. I was walking a bit outside of my usual neighborhood when I saw her, so I don't see her frequently. One thing I may have messed up on is that I was walking behind her for a minute before I got in front of her to engage her. She looked back at me and I wasn't sure what to do, so it was kind of awkward.
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:30 PM
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Not that many so far. I did a bunch last summer that didn't go anywhere. I did day game and night game, and they were both equally as difficult. No one in my area is really into game or pick up, so I'm kind of a lone wolf in that respect.
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:08 PM
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Does that basically mean the girls that give you signals like a smile first?
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:38 PM
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I agree with that, but she might not avoid me if we crossed paths again, because I was very polite when she turned me down, so it's pretty obvious I would just be cordial with her. I've also heard that women like it when guys accept rejection gracefully. I'm not sure if that's true, but I suppose it doesn't hurt. I tried making some observations about the weather, and asking about her dogs. She had an accent, so I asked how long she's been living here. One question I have is what do you do when …
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:36 PM
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Well sure, I was attracted to her, but I was fairly sure she wasn't interested based on how she was communicating. I guess my question is, how do I connect better with people? Also, I was walking behind her at first and then got in front of her when her dogs were sniffing stuff. What do you do when women look back at you when you're behind them?
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:24 PM
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Okay, interesting. How do you go about that? I was asking her questions about her dogs, how long she's lived here, etc. Everything was a dead end. I asked if she had any hobbies and she said she doesn't have any. I tried to make a joke thet she's the first person I've met without a hobby. She told me her name and occupation, but didn't ask me anything or converse other than telling me what type of dogs she had.
/r/seduction13/06/26 04:50 AM
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Can you elaborate on that? I just recently got back into cold approach and it seems like it's a numbers game at the end of the day. If you're not her type, no verbal tricks are going to change that.
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:11 AM
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Do you so cold approach often? Do you have any tips on how to develop a better attitude?
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:09 AM
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I agree. I think my communication skills are pretty good because people chat with me all the time at work or at karaoke and end up talking my ear off. However, when I do cold approach, for example, I did one today and she said she had no hobbies when I asked her about herself. She asked me no questions in return and made no effort to keep the conversation going. You can have awesome communication skills, but that doesn't guarantee that someone will want to talk to you.
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:07 AM
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Thanks. I appreciate it. It's always a bummer when they're a bit of a crush, but it feels good to know where they stand. How did you get better at cold approach? The hardest thing for me is knowing what to work on when I'm not sure what I did wrong.
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:32 AM
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I've always had the most success when I'm in my element playing music or in my social circle. Almost every woman in my social circle has showed interest in me at some point, but they're not my type or there are deal breakers like they have kids or something. I'm doing everything I can to be attractive. I'm hitting the gym, doing yoga, I just got my 3rd black belt in Karate, eating healthy, etc. I'm not sure how to get better socially. I try to go out to things like karaoke or open mic nights as …
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:09 AM
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Thanks. I don't see her super often, so I thought I would just shoot my shot. At least now I know and I won't be wondering if she's into me. I agree your approach is good if it's easy to run into someone regularly.
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:04 AM
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Do you have any advice for someone fairly new cold approach? I finally approached a cute woman I see walking her dogs around here and she answered the questions I asked her, but didn't ask me anything, so I figured I had nothing to lose and asked her to have coffee with me. She said " no sorry" and I said "have a nice day" and walked away. Most of my interactions are like this when I do cold approach. I mean, at least this one didn't walk away from me, but it definitely didn't go anywhere.
/r/seduction13/06/26 12:05 AM
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Not lately. My friend's sister was hitting on me and making me dance with her last night, but also hitting on a bunch of women. It was a fun night, but I've been having bad luck lately. The women that are into me aren't my type and I've kinda grown out of the phase where you sleep with anyone just because. I'm focusing on my health and building a better life to attract quality women.
/r/seduction07/06/26 05:39 PM
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What does this mean?
/r/seduction06/06/26 05:28 AM
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You still have to get a woman's attention on an app or in a cold approach though. Most won't stop unless you're attractive physically.
/r/seduction05/06/26 02:58 AM
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Do you approach mostly in bars? Do you ever do day game? I find bars difficult for some reason.
/r/seduction03/06/26 08:02 PM
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How many numbers do you usually get?
/r/seduction03/06/26 01:40 PM
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That's true. I'd rather find out I'm not her type and move on. I was kind of barking up the wrong tree anyway. The girl I approached was taking selfies non stop while walking her dog. Then I completely froze and missed a chance to chat with a cute city worker who was just standing around and waiting for her coworkers. I have issues with hesitation and trying to think of things to say, or waiting too long to determine if someone is approachable and then the opportunity is gone.
/r/seduction03/06/26 01:38 PM
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I feel like I could do more. I try to do it whenever the opportunity presents itself, but I've never gotten a date from a cold approach. Most just say hello, or tell me their name and walk away. It's hard not to get discouraged, but even meeting women as friends has been a struggle. The one I met at karaoke basically ignores me now.
/r/seduction02/06/26 04:40 PM
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You can date whoever you want. Getting a young, hot girlfriend might be a challenge if you lack experience though.
/r/seduction02/06/26 02:39 AM
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Okay. So what do you do to improve the situation? I'm not deformed or anything.
/r/seduction01/06/26 01:40 AM
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Right. How do you figure out what to improve though?
/r/seduction31/05/26 07:12 PM
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Dating apps seem great in theory, but I never get any matches on them. I had women take photos of me and help me with my bio and nothing seemed to make a difference.
/r/seduction31/05/26 06:59 PM
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That's a good call. I was going to approach a woman today walking her dog who stopped to text on her phone, but I lost my nerve because there was zero eye contact. What is the best guide for approaching or building a better social circle?
/r/seduction30/05/26 03:29 AM
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I've tried everything with online dating and had women take photos of me. I can't get any matches. I'm 5'8 and athletic. Do you have any tips?
/r/seduction30/05/26 03:05 AM
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That's not a bad idea. Do you find you have less time to mingle if you're hosting an event versus attending an event?
/r/seduction29/05/26 09:06 PM
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Where do you recommend meeting quality women? Most attractive women I see are walking around with headphones, at the gym with headphones or at a yoga class, but they leave directly after class. I've been trying out new hobbies like karaoke, but I've only met a few women and they have deal breakers like smoking heavily or being a single mother.
/r/seduction29/05/26 01:57 PM
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I got you beat. I'm not even pulling a one.
/r/seduction29/05/26 03:56 AM
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I hear you. I'm a martial arts instructor, a teacher, in good shape, financially independent, with lots of friends and hobbies and I can't get a match on an app or meet anyone relatively attractive.
/r/seduction29/05/26 03:55 AM
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Finding that partner is the tricky part. I work out all the time and teach martial arts, but I can't get a match on dating apps. Most attractive women are walking around with headphones on. There's no one in my social circle that's single and attractive.
/r/seduction29/05/26 03:42 AM
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I agree with the only exception being a girl with headphones giving you obvious "come here and talk to me looks". I never understood the point of complimenting their appearance either. It kinda puts them on a pedestal.
/r/seduction21/05/26 04:41 AM
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"Who's this?"
/r/seduction17/05/26 10:39 PM
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I completely killed things off with a girl because I said I'm looking for a relationship but also okay making new friends if it turns out we're not comultiple. We met in a Facebook group and I was trying to be laid back while getting to know her.
/r/seduction13/05/26 02:48 PM
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I often hear "just be confident" or "just have game", but what are the best ways to get those things if you don't have them? Are there any books or dating coaches you would recommend? I find I do well when I meet people through friends and things are more spontaneous, but I'm bad at cold approach and having the confidence to talk to attractive women. I've been hitting the gym and working on my looks as much as possible. I'm not saying looks aren't important, but women aren't quite as visual as m…
/r/seduction11/05/26 06:56 PM
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You're right. I'm not good at approaching women and I talk myself out it most of the time. Is there any way to gain confidence or get better at approaching? I find women never really approach men and often see them as potential predators.
/r/seduction08/05/26 04:06 PM
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I hope so. There aren't any dating coaches in my area, so I really have no idea how to approach women and a lot of women online say they don't want to be approached, so that kinda gets inside my head too.
/r/seduction08/05/26 02:53 PM
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I'm not sure how to rate my looks, but I get lots of women in my social circle showing interest. I'm just not into them due to deal breakers. I'm financially independent, I'm lean and I workout regularly, I teach martial arts and music, I'm part of the music scene and I travel often. I don't get much luck on dating apps or meeting women in real life. Most of the attractive women I see are walking around with headphones or working out with headphones. I don't really get approached and if I do get…
/r/seduction08/05/26 02:16 PM
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Okay. I was just kinda curious what you meant, because if they rejected you already, they're probably not gonna come back to you if you take it well.
/r/seduction07/05/26 08:42 PM
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That makes sense. Do you mean they find it attractive if they see you approach other women and not get bothered by rejection?
/r/seduction07/05/26 04:02 PM
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I agree to an extent. She asked me what I was looking for. I said relationships and I'm open to making friends and travel companions if there's no compatibility. The moment I said I was open to “friends and travel buddies if that works better,” the energy of my message shifted from intentional to vague. Even if I meant “I am open minded and not forcing anything,” what many women hear is: “I am open to whatever.” “I am not fully decisive.” “I might want a relationship… or maybe just companionship…
/r/seduction07/05/26 03:56 PM
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That's the odd part. She asked me what I'm looking for and told me she's looking to date intentionally rather than have chat buddies. She made an post introducing herself in the group and I was the only one who had a conversation with her and she suggested I message her privately instead. I didn't think my response would turn someone off either.
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:04 AM
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That makes sense. I was really hoping to get to know her and I messed up when she asked "what are you looking for?" I've been in the group for years and she's the first one I've interacted with that I find attractive. I'm not super good at talking to strangers, but I'd like to be better at it. There aren't really any coaches in my area for that sort of thing though.
/r/seduction07/05/26 02:43 AM
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Probably not. It's just super frustrating because I finally found someone in the dating group that's attractive and has some things in common with me, and now I can't get to know her because I said one thing slightly wrong. Maybe she's talking to other guys and trying to weed them out. I'm not sure, but it's hard not to blame yourself when these things happen.
/r/seduction07/05/26 02:37 AM
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Okay, but can you explain how you reached that attitude? Rejection sucks for most people. I've never been rude to someone who rejected me, but it's always a bummer. Even today, I got rejected after finally meeting someone I'm attracted to after being in a Facebook dating group for people without kids. She thought I wasn't intentional enough because I said I'm looking for dating and friendship depending on how compatible we are. It's hard not to be bummed out when you completely fuck up your own …
/r/seduction06/05/26 04:41 PM
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Didn't work for me today. Met a woman on a Facebook dating group for child free singles. She asked what I was looking for and I said dating mostly but I'm open to friendship if we're not compatible that way, and she hard rejected me because I wasn't dating intentionally enough.
/r/seduction06/05/26 03:33 PM
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I hear you. Most of my Facebook group chats are full of women saying they're choosing the bear while they swipe on dating apps and saying dumb shit like "why men????" when one guy was rude to them. The only men that interact with them are white knights that they have no attraction for. Women don't get that they disqualify themselves immediately when they start talking like that. It doesn't matter if they're physically attractive or not. I'm sure women would think I was nuts if I was posting stuf…
/r/MensRights03/05/26 11:32 PM
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Thanks, but I was looking for tips on body language, whether to go solo or not, etc.
/r/seduction01/05/26 05:11 PM
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Do you go solo, or with male friends or female friends?
/r/seduction01/05/26 09:01 AM
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Be attractive and don't be unattractive?
/r/seduction01/05/26 08:16 AM
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Can you share any tips on how to be approachable? I never get approached.
/r/seduction01/05/26 06:37 AM
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I agree with that. The hard part for me in meeting them in the first place. The ones I'm attracted to are usually going about their day with headphones on or at the gym with headphones on. I feel confident I can run with it once I already have a date, it's just approach anxiety and doing a successful approach that prevents me from finding any quality dates.
/r/seduction30/04/26 04:05 PM
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I agree. I just don't know where I'm going wrong when I do the reps as there are no dating coaches here and I have very bad approach anxiety and I usually talk myself out of approaching even if a woman is looking at me. I'm doing therapy and hitting the gym, but it's not a magic bullet.
/r/seduction30/04/26 04:03 PM
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I only did one or two a day. Some talked to me for a while but ended up having a boyfriend or not interested.
/r/seduction30/04/26 04:01 PM
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Makes sense. What's your opinion of the dating coaches that tell people to be direct? Are they full of crap or are they just getting results based on their appearance?
/r/seduction30/04/26 02:51 PM
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What type of compliment did you give?
/r/seduction30/04/26 02:10 PM
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How do you stand out if you're the 12th guy?
/r/seduction30/04/26 02:08 PM
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Northwest Ontario.
/r/seduction29/04/26 01:15 AM
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That's a helpful comment.
/r/seduction28/04/26 09:35 PM
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Lol wut?
/r/seduction28/04/26 09:35 PM
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Right. I agree. I have lots of female friends, but none are my type or there are reasons why I don't want to date them. Where do you usually get approached? My biggest issue is approach anxiety and thinking I'm bothering the woman who's just going about her day. Again, most quality women out and about are wearing headphones and are usually annoyed if you disturb them. I try to look for eye contact too and I usually don't bother if there's no eye contact. Is it better to start with women you're n…
/r/seduction28/04/26 03:54 PM
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That's a good idea. What do you do when you get approach anxiety? How many women in general would give you their number? Are there any signs to look for before approaching? Have you ever been approached?
/r/seduction28/04/26 03:33 PM
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Are there any resources for learning how to talk to people? I spent all summer last year cold approaching and I couldn't get one date. I also went out a lot and did things like karaoke, the gym, yoga classes, martial arts classes, open mic nights, etc.
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:36 PM
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What's the best way to learn how to talk to people? Just do it a lot or are there any resources? Most women I find attractive are going about their day with headphones on or go straight home after a yoga class. My social circle has awesome people in it, but no one I'm attracted to.
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:34 PM
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How do you normally approach women? Are you really direct or more indirect? I've never gotten a date from cold approach.
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:32 PM
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Did you learn just by doing it lots or did you read any books?
/r/seduction28/04/26 02:30 PM
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You're right. That's a good idea. Troubleshooting has been a problem for me since women won't tell you what you did wrong, so you have to guess if you weren't her type or if you said something wrong. How did you learn to figure out what you were doing wrong without any feedback?
/r/seduction27/04/26 02:50 PM
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You could try. I'd personally take things slow and they'll keep hanging out with you if they're interested. Women will try to seduce you if they like you.
/r/seduction26/04/26 10:47 PM
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That's interesting. I get girls showing interest in me, but not the girls I want. How did you see the signs they were missing? I would definitely consider hiring a coach if there was one in my area. Approaching and looking for signs is my weak area.
/r/seduction26/04/26 10:44 PM
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It's not a fumble unless they don't want to see you again. You're probably rushing into it and they need more comfort.
/r/seduction26/04/26 07:41 PM
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Thanks for your response. There aren't any dating coaches in my area unfortunately. Where do you even find dating coaches? At best, we have speed dating here once in a while, but that sounds kinda cheesy. I see women I want to approach all the time, but I usually don't. The ones in my social circle want to date me, but I'm either not attracted to them or their lifestyle isn't a match (they have kids, looking for a guy to take care of them, smoking, out of shape, etc). I'm really struggling to me…
/r/seduction26/04/26 03:01 PM
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How do you recommend someone chooses a dating coach? It's like choosing a life coach, it's not a real job, there are no credentials and their rates are all over place. If I go to a therapist, I know they'll have a degree in psychology and other training to qualify them for the job. Anyone can call themselves a life coach or dating coach and the advice they give you could be wildly different. I've never really struggled with women, but I've always struggled with approaching and meeting new people…
/r/seduction26/04/26 02:36 PM
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It really depends on the person. I personally like bikini ones, especially satin. It depends if the guy cares about lingerie and what type of body the woman has.
/r/seduction26/04/26 02:39 AM
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What are Fionas?
/r/seduction25/04/26 07:11 AM
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You can't talk to girls and you're asking other people who is appropriate to talk to. You can talk to and date whoever you want. The internet can't tell you what you're attracted to. I do the same thing, but you're probably exaggerating the stress of talking to someone when in reality, most people aren't going to be rude or blast you on social media if you just make small talk.
/r/seduction23/04/26 04:49 PM
4

I understand. He just seems to have a lot of self limiting beliefs, so it's best to throw it all away and look for opportunities everywhere.
/r/seduction23/04/26 02:59 AM
8

Lol no. You can go for whoever you want, especially if they smile at you or show interest in some way. Society or the internet can't tell you who to date.
/r/seduction23/04/26 12:50 AM
2

Absolutely. The regret of not doing anything is always way worse than the feeling of rejection or an awkward conversation.
/r/seduction19/04/26 07:15 AM
1

Can you explain more about confidence and interest? What do those men do that shows confidence?
/r/seduction16/04/26 04:05 PM
3

Age shouldn't matter if two adults like each other. I prefer younger women and I'd gladly date one, not just have a fling if we had similar goals. As long as you're honest and respectful, I don't see the problem.
/r/seduction15/04/26 02:45 PM
1

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
/r/seduction10/04/26 08:21 AM
1

That's not true. I've done a lot of things. You're just making assumptions about people. What steps do you believe people should take to overcome it?
/r/seduction09/04/26 08:13 PM
2

Well, they don't appreach men, so men kind of have to approach them first. Asking where to do it isn't necessarily a bad thing.
/r/seduction04/04/26 11:32 PM
1

That makes sense, but how do you know what you did wrong without any feedback?
/r/seduction03/04/26 08:55 AM
1

Either none or a lot.
/r/seduction03/04/26 08:52 AM
1

It seems a bit funny to me that there's more money in that. Women can approach any guy without being seen as a predator and guys will be polite even if they're not into them. Women can also just look good and stand somewhere and get phone numbers. Maybe keeping a man or finding the right one is slightly more challenging.
/r/seduction02/04/26 04:51 PM
9

That's good advice, but it doesn't always work. I'm usually able to talk to anyone, but if a cute girl looks at me, I get inside my head and start making excuses not to talk to her. Sometimes it doesn't feel the same when you're attracted to someone. Part of my thinking is that the woman is going to think "oh great, here comes another guy trying to flirt with me and take me home" if I approach her.
/r/seduction01/04/26 06:22 PM
2

I suppose they are if they're not into him, but he can offer things beyond his face. A lot of women are dating guys because of how they treat them or they like their sense of humor. He should absolutely hit the gym and look his best, but ideally no one should settle in a relationship.
/r/seduction31/03/26 02:08 PM
1

Can you give any specific examples?
/r/seduction31/03/26 05:26 AM
5

How is that helpful though? No great relationship is built on settling.
/r/seduction31/03/26 05:26 AM
11

Dynasty is comerited of die and nasty.
/r/seduction30/03/26 03:16 AM
4

Absolutely. I think it works on some unconscious level.
/r/seduction29/03/26 05:24 PM
4

That's true. I guess my issue is that makes it difficult to know if you should keep talking to her or walk away because she thinks you're annoying or you're not her type.
/r/seduction29/03/26 07:55 AM
8

Absolutely. It's almost a neg if you're batting out of your league and you don't comment on her looks. I hate feeling like a simp. I'm always indirect and I just try to read if she's into me or not.
/r/seduction29/03/26 07:06 AM
21

I used to play in a band with a guy that would walk into a bar with this silly fur coat we found at a thrift shop and some ridiculous eyeliner on. He would walk through like he was in a hurry and women would always ask for his number. When he was dressed normally, no one really paid attention and he didn't do well with women. Sometimes being fun and not giving a shit pays off more than having a game plan.
/r/seduction29/03/26 06:36 AM
1

I see lots of videos of dating coaches opening with a compliment on their looks. Do you think being really direct can work in some cases? I've never commented a woman on her looks because I'm a bit of an introvert.
/r/seduction29/03/26 06:18 AM
99

Why bother calling?
/r/seduction27/03/26 09:38 PM
1

Did you follow any methods, books or teachers when you started learning game? I was curious if you had any recommendations or if it's just trial and error.
/r/seduction27/03/26 05:48 AM
2

How does he start the shit test?
/r/seduction23/03/26 04:42 AM
1

That makes sense. Me too. Can I dm you? I might run into someone i want to talk to again because they go to a karaoke night sometimes and we have at least one mutual friend. I find it struggle a lot with approaching but I'm very natural with conversations. Random people at work talk to me all the time about all sorts of stuff.
/r/seduction12/03/26 12:10 AM
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She told you she wasn't single?
/r/seduction11/03/26 03:00 PM
1

What do you do if you're into women that dress casual? I wanted to talk to a woman wearing jeans, a t-shirt and glasses and couldn't think of anything to say.
/r/seduction11/03/26 02:59 PM
2

You can also look at it as a bullet dodged. If they're rude, they'll probably be a handful to date. I've had people walk away and not even acknowledge me. You just gotta keep going because not everyone is going to dig you.
/r/seduction08/03/26 12:18 AM
11

Same. I had a woman take photos of me at a waterfall and I got no matches except for a few super low caliber ones that would never work, like one coffee date with a woman who lied about smoking and asked me to commit to her before I left.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:41 AM
-1

Misandry is rampant online. I'm part of a Facebook dating group and every second post is "men are the worst!!" or "why men??" Imagine if men spoke that way about women. They'd be banned immediately. Sharing a bad experience is different than hating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 06:04 AM
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That's not what I meant. Even if your hormone levels are normal, your testosterone is way lower than a man's which has a lot do to with libido and motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:51 PM
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Oh please. I met one of my girlfriends on the street. She said she liked my jacket and invited me to hang out with her friends that night. You're not bothering people if you can read basic social cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:19 AM
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I agree men do most of the work, however, men get approached by women when they're on their purpose. Also, how many women actually look good and get approached regularly? Most women in North America are overweight. Lots of women also get approached by the most annoying and egotistical guys around and not by quality men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:23 AM
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I mean, you might be right. You'd have to ask a woman that's taken testosterone. They probably are more selective in general, but you also see lots of women with frumpy boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:19 AM
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I agree they don't as often, but I still approach women and I see lots of men approaching, especially at social events and clubs. I mean, it's competitive for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:00 AM
2

I'm curious why you think it's different now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:27 AM
6

Lots of women settled for men they weren't attracted to so someone would take care of them. Being a provider doesn't always equal attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:26 AM
0

It's also objective. Two things can be true at once. More men would buy a magazine full of Taylor Swift pictures than Lizzo pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:22 AM
2

What? I had to get a woman kicked out of the bar on new year's eve because she was harassing me. Men absolutely get harassed and some men are very scary. I live in the murder capital of Canada and a woman I knew on social media asked me for a ride to work. It turned out she and her boyfriend needed a ride to their drug dealers house and I went along with it since her purse was full of knives.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:02 AM
2

Most of them are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:59 PM
3

I think hormones play a big role too. If women had as much testosterone as men, they would be chasing after men more often, even the average ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:58 PM
1

How do you learn game though? Everyone says their method is the best or this coach sucks. Are there any solid books that you found actually helpful?
/r/seduction30/01/26 04:10 PM
0

Men won't admit they're intimidated by smart, independent women because they're not intimidated by them. They simply want feminine women women who are pleasant to be around. You need to learn game and learn how to approach men if you want to get dates with the men you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:33 PM
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I find it a lot easier too to meet people in those types of settings. At a bar, if I approach someone, they seem annoyed and they're like "yeah...nice to meet you" and they wander away. Helping people is definitely always a good thing.
/r/seduction22/01/26 04:57 PM
1

Do you have any advice for photos? I had a female friend take pictures of me and I still don't get matches.
/r/seduction11/01/26 07:48 PM
1

How do you make it better? I had a female friend take photos of me but it didn't help at all.
/r/seduction11/01/26 07:27 PM
2

Do you have any advice for expanding your social circle?
/r/seduction11/01/26 07:25 PM
2

I've been asked out by women a handful of times, but they weren't super attractive. I've had a few women approach me at bars, but it was mostly just small talk nonsense. I go out fairly often and never get approached. I've gotten more signals at random locations usually at super inconvenient times like I'm in the car with my girlfriend at a gas station or at a grocery store and they're with a friend or something. I'm not sure if there's a secret to being approachable, but not crossing your arms …
/r/seduction07/01/26 03:35 AM
4

Do you have any tips for getting approached at bars? It never happens to me. The only guy I've really seen get approached at bars around here was a guy I played in a band with. He was wearing a silly fur coat for a while, and lots of girls would approach him for some reason, but no one would approach him when he was dressed casually.
/r/seduction07/01/26 03:27 AM
1

Do you have any advice on how or where to approach women? I feel like I have good social skills once a conversation starts happening, but terrible social skills when it comes to approaching and breaking the ice. I find a lot of women have their guard up in bars because guys are constantly flirting with them. Sometimes I have no idea what to say because they're just chilling and dressed casually, or with a group. I've been going out every weekend, and I never make any new connections.
/r/seduction24/12/25 11:13 PM
2

I agree. Dating apps are pretty horrible now that they all do swiping. You used to be able to message anyone you wanted when they first came out. Meeting people in person can be confusing too. Women say men should only approach them in appropriate places like bars and clubs, but those are the places where they have their guard up the most because a lot of men have already hit on them before you say hello to them.
/r/seduction20/12/25 01:16 AM
1

Yeah, I guess that makes sense. Do you think the guys you know that approached their girlfriends or wives had natural confidence? I think a lot of guys that lack confidence look to pick up and self improvement systems to improve their dating life because they see some guys going on a date every week and they might only get one a year. Is there any point at all to the pick up and seduction stuff, or does it all come down to chance?
/r/seduction19/12/25 07:37 PM
1

That's true. I guess I figured I was making some kind of mistake or there was something I could improve on since I go out a lot but never get approached. It sounds like you're including a lot of non romantic approaches, which is fine. They're still valid. A lot of women on Reddit say they don't like being approached during the day because they're busy and they only want to be approached at bars. However, I find that women have their defenses up at bars because so many guys are flirting with them…
/r/seduction19/12/25 04:38 PM
1

Okay, but that's not helpful. You're not saying what kind of guys are getting approached, if they're alone, and other details. I can't remember the last time I saw a man being approached by a woman. It seems super rare. That's why I was curious when people said it happens all the time.
/r/seduction19/12/25 05:35 AM
1

That's not what I was implying. I was curious where they get approached because I'm apparently going to the wrong places or demonstrating poor body language.
/r/seduction19/12/25 02:12 AM
1

Okay. I guess I have two questions from that. Is it okay to approach a girl that smiles at you in a public setting? A lot of women don't drink or go to bars, so you have to meet them in other ways. Also, what's the best way to approach women in a bar? I go out often with my friends to concerts or karaoke nights, but I never meet anyone new. I often see silly drunk guys getting women's numbers and it's frustrating because I have no idea what I'm doing. I also found that women often have their gua…
/r/seduction18/12/25 07:26 PM
2

Thanks. Those are good tips. I get too nervous in social situations and I have no idea what to say to women. I feel like they already know why I'm approaching so I'm almost being fake by making small talk. If someone's dressed totally casual and just chilling, I really don't know how to strike up an interesting conversation. A lot of women react with hostility or indifference when you're just making small talk and it makes me anxious to try it again.
/r/seduction18/12/25 07:17 PM
2

That's cool. How do you provide value? Tonight I'm going to a place with some friends, but I don't know everyone there. I might know 5 or 10 people that show up regularly. Is there anything you can do if you don't know anyone? I go out regularly and I never get approached.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:37 PM
1

Interesting. You just go to a club alone and stand around and women approach you? I don't think that's a common experience for most men.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:34 PM
1

What's the best way to approach a woman so she feels comfortable? For me, one of the biggest roadblocks is not knowing what I need to improve on to make future approaches better.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:11 PM
1

Where do women approach men first? I go out to various places every week and I've never been approached.
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:05 PM
2

How do you level up in that area besides doing mass cold approaches? Also, is there a way to know what to work on if you get a lot of rejections? Like, how would you know if it's your style, physique, hygiene, body language, or social skills for example?
/r/seduction18/12/25 06:04 PM
1

Do you have any tips on how to approach? I feel like it seems obvious that you like them if you're approaching, so they already have the upper hand. I see lots of women that I want to approach, but can't think of anything to say because they look fairly plain and they're usually with a friend.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:43 PM
1

Do you have any advice for approaching? Would you only approach women who smile at you or make small talk with everyone to see who's into you?
/r/seduction29/11/25 02:31 AM
1

That's pretty cool. I never got into snap chat, but that's a good idea. Can people you're not friends with see stuff that you post?
/r/seduction29/11/25 02:06 AM
3

That's awesome. How did you display that to women? Do you do online dating at all or do they meet you in person when you're coaching? Do you still cold approach at all?
/r/seduction28/11/25 07:12 PM
3

Do you mind sharing what type of skills you possess? I remember how easy it was to have women following me home when I played in a band that was probably the most popular in town at the time. Now I have to do cold approach if I want to talk to an attractive woman. I definitely miss the effects a little bit of fame had. I don't think it's "cheating the system" in any kind of way because you work hard to get where you are.
/r/seduction28/11/25 03:29 PM
2

Do you open indirectly with groups? Would you ask them a question or something to break the ice?
/r/seduction26/11/25 10:38 PM
18

I'll post my comment I just wrote to someone. I have trouble meeting people, but I find it easy to converse and build attraction once a happens. It's more social anxiety and breaking the ice that's my problem. I can go out every weekend and never meet anyone new. I find bars and clubs the most difficult. Most people are usually with a group of friends and I see women getting a kick out of rejecting guys that approach them. I go to the gym and some kind of social event every week like karaoke, tr…
/r/seduction24/11/25 07:57 PM
1

I don't care if a woman wears makeup or not as long as she's in shape. I was dating a woman who didn't own any makeup until she told me she wanted kids.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:12 PM
1

That's awesome. I have a habit of dating people I'm not super into and they get fed up with me being Luke warm about them. I should also raise my standards. It just feels frustrating at times when you struggle to meet attractive women.
/r/seduction24/11/25 06:16 AM
1

How did you meet her?
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:13 AM
2

Can I see the story too please?
/r/seduction20/11/25 03:43 AM
4

Do you open directly or indirectly?
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:35 AM
8

The worst was probably just someone not looking at me or saying anything back. They just kept walking. I also had someone pretend to get a phone call.
/r/seduction17/11/25 04:17 AM
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What was his opening line? The mixed two set wasn't her and her boyfriend? What do you mean you're a synthetic? Are you a cyborg?
/r/seduction01/11/25 12:04 AM
10

I think it can be learned. Humans are capable of change, but I agree, it comes naturally to some.
/r/seduction01/11/25 12:02 AM
8

You probably don't want to surrender to Russians anyway. They gun down their own men for retreating and take pleasure in torturing civilian and military prisoners.
/r/MensRights30/10/25 04:14 PM
1

Just say you're free on the weekend and you'd like to spend some time with her and ask her to meet you for drinks or dinner. Keep it simply. She'll say yes if she's interested.
/r/seduction09/10/25 03:31 PM
1

On dating apps, the bar is higher than ever before. I remember going on multiple dates a week back when you could search for the type of person you wanted and could message them for free. It's been pretty dead for me since all apps turned to swipe fests. I think this carries over into real life as well. Anyone on the apps or social media overestimates their options because of a lot of guys message them, but they would probably wouldn't be quality partners. Guys probably underestimate themselves …
/r/seduction28/09/25 09:53 PM
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Absolutely. Social proof and status are key. Sure, cold approach can work if you have the look and confidence, but it's so much easier when women notice you because you have other women around you or you're someone important like the host of an event or the singer in a band.
/r/seduction26/09/25 08:11 PM
1

I agree for the most part. However, I've read about people doing experiments by having a handsome man sit at the bar alone all night and no women approached him. The women doing the experiment even asked them why they didn't approach and they said something about how they don't like to make the first move. Having goals is great, but not every girl at the bar is going to know you won a Judo tournament in New York. Most guys have to do some approaching.
/r/seduction23/09/25 09:56 PM
1

That's just silly. You're not answering the question. Again, most women are bigger than me, so why would they be afraid? The most successful dating coaches I see are the ones who are authentic and tell the woman she's beautiful if they think that.
/r/seduction23/09/25 03:22 AM
1

Well, most women in North America are bigger than me, so I doubt they're super intimidated if I talk to them in public. I'm not even sure what your comment means because you did absolutely nothing to answer my question. How and where should men approach women?
/r/seduction23/09/25 02:15 AM
1

So go indirect and hide your intentions?
/r/seduction23/09/25 02:00 AM
1

Okay, interesting. I suppose the best sign is eye contact and smiling. A lot of people still struggle with approaching even after getting vague signs she might be interested, especially now that so many women say they want to be left alone in public and only approached in bars or on dating apps. I always struggle to find something to say that doesn't sound corny.
/r/seduction22/09/25 01:21 AM
2

What do you mean by cross gazes? I agree that warm approaching is a lot easier than cold approaching, but I've often found myself getting anxious and second guessing myself if the conversation doesn't flow as well as I'd like it to. How do you gain skill in recognizing unconscious signs? Just by looking for them all the time?
/r/seduction21/09/25 10:47 PM
1

How do you reduce approach anxiety without the 3 second rule?
/r/seduction21/09/25 08:00 PM
1

How is it going to work if she moves to a different city? Young women are more likely to flake out because they don't want to be in a long distance relationship unless you're paying for everything. Giving up after one failed relationship that doesn't make sense logistically is overly dramatic.
/r/seduction19/09/25 01:21 AM
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Super direct if you're talking sexual. A girl asked me to feel her up, and it was really hot. Also direct if it's for a relationship. "Hey, are you busy this weekend? We should go for supper."
/r/seduction13/09/25 11:12 PM
2

I've had first dates where they got super distant after the date and would only respond if I messaged them first. Being chill absolutely works, but nothing will work if the girl isn't into you.
/r/seduction13/09/25 03:00 AM
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That's true. Even at the bar, I don't see it that often. There were two young girls at the karaoke bar and some guy bought them a drink but didn't talk to them first. I've been told I was bold before too. I doubt it happens often, especially outside of big cities.
/r/seduction11/09/25 12:25 AM
2

Do you approach the ones that give you clear indicators of interest like lots of eye contact any differently than a cold approach where they haven't checked you out?
/r/seduction25/08/25 11:57 AM
2

Because most men the same age as the woman aren't attractive to her. Most guys will give an older woman a shot or a woman that doesn't wear make up a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:57 PM
1

Do you have any tips for building status on social media?
/r/seduction04/08/25 02:46 PM
3

Facebook and Instagram are the best dating apps. You could get the same results by publishing more content and expanding your social circle. I don't publish a lot, but I post my music, food and martial arts stuff on them. Travel photos and anything about fashion or working out is good too. Don't be afraid to respond to stories or posts with silly comments or relevant memes. Pictures of your pets or animals are always a safe bet too.
/r/seduction04/08/25 02:02 PM
1

I agree that using money to impress doesn't work, but it works indirectly. My friend dropped $1,000 to pay for everyone's meal at my birthday. He wanted to be anonymous, but the waiter spilled the beans and he ended up getting chased by the single women there all night.
/r/seduction01/08/25 11:08 PM
1

Do as many dates as you need as long as you aren't paying for all of them. If they keep talking to you and asking you to hang out they'll eventually want to sleep with you as long as you don't come across as desperate. It's better to be the prize.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:03 AM
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I agree with being authentic, but that sounds like you're making friends, not getting a date.
/r/seduction26/07/25 05:42 PM
3

Go somewhere where alcohol isn't involed.
/r/seduction13/07/25 12:32 AM
1

How much will that cost me? My inbox is full of coaches.
/r/seduction05/01/25 07:57 PM
1

Why don't you appreciate what you have now?
/r/seduction05/01/25 06:03 PM
4

How do you get better at inner game? I've been in therapy for two years and I'm no closer to getting a date with an attractive woman.
/r/seduction05/01/25 06:01 PM
3

Okay. I'm kind of confused how studying psychology will tell me the exact mistake I made on a date.
/r/seduction05/01/25 05:57 PM
3

Good advice. How do you know what you did wrong on dates since women don't give honest feedback? Do you just have to guess at what you need to work on?
/r/seduction05/01/25 05:51 PM
1

What are the false pretense ones? Like trying to be her friend?
/r/seduction30/09/24 04:20 PM
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I find indirect ones work fine. A girl was on her phone walking down the street and I said "everyone is texting these days" and she said it's a bad habit. Then I introduced myself and asked her out for coffee. It turns out I used to work with her brother and she has a boyfriend unfortunately, but really any opener is better than none. I've never tried direct ones, but I'd like to experiment with them.
/r/seduction30/09/24 02:46 AM
1

Where did they approach you? I go out three days a week and no one has approached me this year.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/24 04:27 AM
1

Is there anything you can do if the girls are low energy and paying more attention to their phones, or should you just eject and talk to another girl? I thought I would ask them to play pool because I caught her looking at me a few times, but when we played with them, they were super quiet and awkward.
/r/seduction18/03/24 05:09 AM
1

Definitely. I tried playing doubles with two cute women last night, but the conversation wasn't flowing at all. They were on their phones the whole time. It seemed kinda pointless to go for a number close if we're not vibing at all.
/r/seduction17/03/24 04:18 PM
2

What should your objective be at the club if it isn't to get numbers or hook up with someone? I agree about most of the numbers being flakes. I think that's normal. I have seen people who weren't drinking much play pool together and number close as the girls were leaving the club. I could see that having potential, but you never know.
/r/seduction17/03/24 04:10 PM
1

That's true, but even this weekend I saw people exchanging numbers after playing pool together. They didn't have that many drinks. For the most part, it's for hook ups, but I do see people getting dates from time to time.
/r/seduction17/03/24 04:06 PM
2

That's an awesome idea. Thanks man.. I'm on a non drinking kick but I'm sure I can work that in somehow.
/r/seduction15/02/24 09:01 PM
2

That's not too shabby! I always freeze up in night club situations. I feel like saying "How's your night going?" or something like that sounds cheesy. What sort of things do you normally open with?
/r/seduction15/02/24 04:42 AM
1

How did you meet her at first? Did you approach her?
/r/seduction14/02/24 05:32 PM
1

I could see that. I've been the only guy in a yoga class for a year and I haven't gotten a single phone number. I can see how being the instructor gives you more status though.
/r/seduction13/02/24 06:07 PM
3

I agree for the most part. Being in shape and having style can get women approaching you or at least sending you signals way more often than being some chubby guy in flip flops.
/r/seduction09/02/24 05:43 AM
1

Where did you meet them?
/r/seduction09/02/24 05:43 AM
1

I've been going out every weekend, but not drinking. Do you have any tricks for letting loose without alcohol?
/r/seduction06/02/24 06:12 AM
2

How much do you drink normally? I've been on a sober kick and I find it super hard to let loose and approach.
/r/seduction04/02/24 06:43 PM
3

I'm not sure that would work at the clubs I go to lol.
/r/seduction04/02/24 06:38 PM
4

What type of compliments did you give?
/r/seduction04/02/24 02:18 AM
0

Why are they not comparable?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:01 AM
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I think women overvalue themselves more than men. Obese single mothers consider themselves a 10 while most men are fairly reasonable with how they rate themselves and often ask their friends for help dressing better or taking better pictures. For me personally, I lift weights, teach Karate classes and do Yoga. I eat healthy and I like to travel and learn new languages. It doesn't make sense for me to date someone that's getting wasted at the bar every night, has kids, goes to see male strippers,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 04:56 AM
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Where do you usually get approached? Do you work at a night club?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:17 PM
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Unfortunately, I live in a small city and the mall is fairly small. I walked up and down the mall a few times to see if anyone caught my eye and the stupid mall security guards stopped me and said a staff member made a complaint that I was following them. I didn't even speak to anyone. I just walked in a straight line. It's annoying because I find it easier to talk to women during the day, but at least night clubs don't really care what you do as long as you're not starting fights.
/r/seduction29/08/23 07:39 AM
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That's okay, you still did better than my last approach. I tried to cross paths with a cute girl I've seen walking in my area. I misjudged the distance and I ended up walking behind her and she seemed creeped out, but I felt it would be weird for me to turn around and walk the other way, so I just kept walking in a straight line like I was minding my own business. When you approached her both times, did you just say "Hello, my name is..." or did you compliment her at all? I asked a girl at the m…
/r/seduction16/07/23 06:38 PM
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That's cool. Did you have anything ready to say, like "You look familiar" or some kind of opening line?
/r/seduction03/11/22 03:08 AM
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Have you ever done it? Did you stay in your vehicle or did you get out and meet up with her on the sidewalk?
/r/seduction02/11/22 05:17 PM
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The same situation happened to me, and I couldn't think of anything to do because I was on my way to work. I was at a red light, and a woman walking across the street looked at me the whole time she crossed the street. Then, as the light went green, I turned the corner and she turned and looked at me again. I'm not sure if it would appropriate to stop and ask for directions or say something silly like "Hey, do we know each other from somewhere?" in these kinds of situations, but it's a bummer wh…
/r/seduction02/11/22 02:01 PM
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Do you mind if I ask how you met? Like if you cold approached or if you saw here there every day and she started talking to you? I go t the gym quite a bit, but I'm still a bit hesitant about approaching women there.
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:54 PM
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Oh course you'll get that reaction in a feminist sub. The type of women I date wouldn't hang out in feminist groups, so they don't care if who I listen to. They know that I think for myself and I can tell bullshit from good ideas.
/r/MensRights09/04/22 06:21 AM
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Not every guy is an extrovert and can think of things to say on the spot though. Good looking women are never alone so you have to know how to engage a group. How are you going to look cool looming over a group of strangers that are sitting down? How do you know she's not sitting with her boyfriend?
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:10 PM
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For sure. I think it's not too difficult if the woman is alone. It's super awkward if she's with a group of people though.
/r/seduction26/06/21 03:20 PM
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What did she say?
/r/seduction18/06/21 09:25 PM
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Where did they approach you? I had the same thing happen to me. They didn't call the cops but they walked away from me mid sentence and things like that.
/r/seduction06/06/21 06:16 PM
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Yeah, that's true, but I'd like to add that if a woman wants a man to approach, try to make yourself available. Before covid happened, I had a woman that kept looking at me but she was sitting down with about 10 of her friends and didn't move all night. It's way less awkward to approach someone when they're up getting a drink or something than 10 strangers sitting down and you're the one standing.
/r/seduction06/06/21 06:15 PM
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I think a lot of men do want to talk to women but don't know what to say. If you're in a store or walking down the street, you can't just say "Hey, this is a nice street." Any girl you approach knows why you're approaching them so you're pretty much broadcasting that you find them attractive as soon as you approach. Men are the ones expected to approach so you have to learn a bit of game if you're not a naturally confident and smooth talking type of guy. This is where I struggle. I find going on…
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:35 PM
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Can you give an example of what the normal guy said and what the creepy guys said? I feel like that would be helpful for a lot of people. I try to be laid back even though I'm nervous to talk to women. They all seem annoyed when I talk to them even when I'm just saying things like "How is your day going?" or "What kind of hobbies are you into?"
/r/seduction05/05/21 08:55 PM
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I wish that was true. A lot of men are nervous about talking to women they don't know and feel more confident if they have something they can fall back in instead of getting all tongue-tied and being awkward like "Hi.. umm.. do you like... stuff?"
/r/seduction05/05/21 05:12 PM
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I think PUA and game is important for guys that aren't naturally confident. I tried pushing myself out of my comfort zone last summer and it made me feel worse than when I started. I think part of it was that I was approaching women at random instead of women that smiled at me or showed any interest. Unfortunately, the only ones that looked interested were with big groups of people and I didn't know how to approach that situation. I had a lot of women walk away from me mid-sentence looking annoy…
/r/seduction04/05/21 06:25 AM
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awkward Understatement of the century for sure. People are like: "Go outside your comfort zone. Talk to people!" Then I do and it sucks.
/r/seduction21/06/20 05:06 PM
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You and me both. I've had some super awkward conversations with strangers.
/r/seduction20/06/20 09:42 PM
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