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OstrichAlone2069/r/ExRedPill12/02/26 11:43 PM
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One tip ive learned over the years is that you can"t just rely on eliminating "bad" content from yout life - you have to also increase yout consumption of good content. Now that doesnt mean you have to consume it online, since fighting the alhorithim can suck, it just means that you need to find ways to add good content into your media diet. If you need some suggestions for content creators let me know and ill link them. I wish you the utmost success. 😊
/r/ExRedPill23/05/26 07:45 AM
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Do you reasonably think you would change your mind if one of these men gave you books and tried to change hour mind to right wing views? I think it would be more helpful to figure out for your self why you feel the need / desire to 'rescue' and change these men. It's not uncommon for women to feel that they need to change a man and save him somehow , but i have never seen it turn into a happy or succesful relationship.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/26 05:21 AM
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I am glad to hear youre going to therapy. Thats a great step. You are not stupid or wrong for wanting to believe another person. Youre also young and were dealing with someone who had more than a decade of life experience on you. In hindsight, you can see the red flags but that doesnt mean that you were stupid, wrong or responsible for your own harm. It's actually a self-defense mechanism to try and make your self be responsible for the harm done because if it was something you "allowed" that gi…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/26 06:15 PM
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"but gets sexual super fast without even getting to know a woman and keeps going even if they’re uncomfortable (confirmed by multiple women)" This is rape and/or sexual assault. If you experienced something like this, then i would suggest seeking out therapy or a qualified professional. It sounds like a traumatic experience for you amd might be something you need professional help to process. Sometimes just logically knowing something like red pill ideology is wrong isn't enough to heal from the…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/26 05:53 PM
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I live in the US so my experience of culture war is influenced by that. Here, I see it covering a range of topics that include: Race Nationality Religion Class (ie - poverty) Gender / gender expression Sex (male / female / intersex) Health status (disability) Marriage Body habitus (thin vs fat) And probably more that I can't think of off the top of my head. To me, culture war is the conflict between those who are societally empowered and considered "normal" vs those who differ from that norm. In…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/26 12:27 AM
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I think this is one of the times where reminding your self of objective facts can be helpful. Ask your self, has there been any laws that were passed this year that caused you harm that were based solely on your identity? For example something like Idaho's bathroom law or the SAVE act etc. Have you faced any legal action based solely on your identity? Have you been threatened or harassed by police for this reason? There is a lit of culture war rhetoric that is meant to stir up this type of anxie…
/r/ExRedPill25/04/26 07:14 AM
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What program are you referencing where a woman can get a scholarship based solely on her gender? If you can provide a link or organization please so that we can discuss the actual program and not an abstract idea. Secondly. Youre saying that in your time at college, there were no events that catered to men or a general audience? Perhaps if you can provide a time frame and place we can look at the actual evidence of programs and scholarships offered because that sounds like a very unique experien…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/26 04:15 AM
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What exactly do you mean by this? Women make up 35% of the workforce in the 10 most highly paid fields. 35%. Thats not a majority in any stretch of the imagination. So when you looked the fact that women were offered scholarships and job fairs, it sounds like you feel that these women are unfairly taking the place of men. Men who hold 65% of the positions of highest pay. Do you see where there is an inherent belief that men are entitled to jobs and power and if women make even the slightest bit …
/r/ExRedPill23/04/26 04:00 AM
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Im on mobile so the links arent pretty but hope this helps: https://statusofwomendata.org/explore-the-data/violence-safety/#chapter This has multiple sections and each section is cited with hyper links to support the facts. This will give you a broad overview about the physical and emotional danger that women face. https://www.wiltonpark.org.uk/app/uploads/2022/06/WP3057-Report.pdf A report on gender based violence online. Ie: the type of violence and harassment women face online. Hopefully you …
/r/ExRedPill23/04/26 03:48 AM
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Are you looking for someone to provide you with evidence and data to contradict the red pill lies? If that is something.you would find helpful then I am willing to provide you with science and resources that disprove the idea that women are not oppressed and are somehow a favored and protected group. It would be up to you to engage with the sources though because, while im willing to curate the information, I dont much have energy to argue its validity. Let me know if.thats something youd.find h…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/26 03:19 AM
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You might seek out deprogrqmming resources that they typically use with cult members. https://youtu.be/2y33WOlIM2M?si=geUMYwFuvtq0YKnt This site also has some suggestions https://apricityexpattherapy.com/healing-from-red-pill-expat-guide-to-trust-and-connection/ This gentleman also has a long post on the topic https://www.retroactivejealousy.com/how-to-escape-the-red-pill/
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 04:46 AM
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And both of those reasons are massively impacted by racism and white supremacy.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 07:02 PM
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Thanks for clarifying and totally agree.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 05:17 PM
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Yeah its a thoughtful question to ask. You have a good point to that the younger generations are showing trends changing. I think, to some extent, youre already answering your question by acknowledging that these types of questions are influenced by so many variables that it makes having a conversation about them damn difficult some times. One thing that caught my attention was your question of "what's the extent kd.the real problem" and that made me wonder if what you think of as the "real prob…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/26 04:24 AM
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Just in case youve never heard of this resource there are now variations of what's called a yes, no, maybe list that is amazing for helping people who want to start having the type of conversations youre suggesting. They come with a lot of guidance on how to have these conversations with partners and really take away a lot of the fear/confusion/awkwardness of trying to start from scratch. https://www.scarleteen.com/read/relationships/yes-no-maybe-so-sexual-inventory-stocklist
/r/ExRedPill01/03/26 03:54 AM
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Lots of good comments here but I will add this as I haven't seen it covered yet: Communication is a skill that requires knowledge and practice. It is NOT an innate ability. And this will be a significant task because not only are you working through it your self, but you have a goal to create a safe environment where your wife can grow with you. Totally doable, but definitely something that takes time, practice and the ability to make mistakes and recover. Since you are talking about sex specifi…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/26 03:49 AM
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From the report "marriages are about seven times more likely to end when the wife becomes seriously ill than when the husband does".
/r/ExRedPill28/02/26 04:32 AM
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Quite possibly what you are noticing is an example of systemic racism. White voices / experience are often prioritized over BIPOC people's. This tends to reflect in what your algorithm shares with you and also in the overall trends of who feels like they are entitled to space and attention on online platforms.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/26 10:18 AM
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Yes thats a good point i should have clarified that better. There are average men who espouse the redpill ideology and there are also influencers who spread this propaganda too. My thought was that most men probably arent going full throttle redpill based off the word of one random internet man. They likely hear the same messaging repeated down the line. So if we can discredit the main talking heads and expose it for the grift that it is, then it becomes easier to reach the average man and show …
/r/ExRedPill26/02/26 09:31 AM
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Your link is from 2015. The link I posted is discussing research that published in February 2025.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/26 09:24 AM
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To me it seems like such a blatantly untrue take on reality. You can walk into any grocery store and see countless examples of couples that redpill pushers claim don't happen. Hell, we have actual scientific research that shows married women will stay with an ill spouse vs married men who so commonly leave that medical staff now has to advise married women about the risks when they receive a diagnosis. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202503/why-more-marriages-end-when-wives…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 08:12 PM
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The fact that your advice is that men should "have more value" than a woman is what's fucked up here. That is not a normal or healthy way to look at things.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/26 04:44 AM
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Dating apps are a money making business. They have no incentive to help people connect with healthy ling term relationships. In fact, the opposite is true because there is MASSIVE monetary incentive for them to keep you as a recurring customer. You need to keep that in mind because these apps are not a neutral tool to use. They have a specific goal: to make certain people rich by profiting off people who have a need they can pretend to fill.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/26 04:41 AM
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This is a great question anf I will reply honestly that its likely above reddit's paygrade. I mean there is genuinely entire scientific fields dedicated to understanding the exact question youre asking. You might say "but Ostrich! Thats super unhelpful!" And id definitely agree with you and say, in my experience as someone who had to learn about healthy connection and intimacy as a grown adult, yoyt best bet is to find professional resources like therapy or support groups. Ill try to answer a li…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/26 08:57 AM
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Oh man you said everything i wanted to but wasnt eloquent enough to get out. Id give you an award if I wasnt broke. 🌟
/r/ExRedPill17/02/26 03:48 AM
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Is it possible to have a sub group that meets to get the red pill guys up to speed with the rest of the group? It can be really challenging to meet people where they are when the experience gap is that wide. Maybe ask your main group if they'd be willing to volunteer to mentor some of the new comers in the sub-group. I think people's tolerance and compassion are more resilient when they feel like they are choosing to take on a difficult conversation rather than feeling like their safe space that…
/r/ExRedPill17/02/26 03:03 AM
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Husband and I have been married 23 years and I would say Im extroverted and he js very introverted. Cade in point, he was 23, lived at home, had a job and wad in college but never dated or even held hands with anyone. We had been friend's for about 4 years when I realized i had feelings for him. I asked him on a few dates and he kept saying no. I was super frustrated and about to give up entirely when i thought "ill ask once more but that's it". Lucky me, a new Star Trek movie was coming out and…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 10:00 AM
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Whats hilarious is there are actual redpill talking heads who are literally saying yes to this question. That having sex or liking women makes you gay. Absolutely wild shit.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 09:01 AM
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Unless youre planning on trying to woo these 40yo men into a lifelong commitment with you, why do you care what they think? I see two real flaws here that are going to deeply hamper your succes in dating: You are viewing your relationship with women as a tool and a means to an end to secure status amongst other men. You value your status among these other men, who you admit you dont even respect, more than you value the humanity of your potential date. No one likes to feel like they are being us…
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 08:59 AM
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The "crisis of masculunity" is the idea that masculinity is something that can be lost or is bestowed/granted by other people around you and not an inherent state of identifying as a man and existing in your community as a man.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 01:23 AM
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It can, but for the same reasons. Women can now gain knowledge from social media in ways that weren't possible before. It's a lot harder to keep a bad relationship going when yout partner is able to do things like hear other people's experiences or get free advice from qualified professionals who maintain a social media platform.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/26 01:20 AM
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Evolution is not exclusively defined as "moving on genetically". It's also defined as "the gradual development of something, especially from a simple to more complex form". The point of the post was to say that our social dynamics and roles have changed over time and yes, men who refuse to change along with them will be viewed as less desirable partners. It's weird to only view this being removed from the gene pool as if life is only about creating offspring and nothing more. In that view of the…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 06:25 AM
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I am baffled by your comment. What part of this is advocating for men to accept being "genetically left behind"? What problem do you think i am advocating to be ignored?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 05:28 AM
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Appreciate you taking the time to answer my question.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 05:18 AM
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Thanks for the kind response. If you don't mind a question, you say you wouldn't have gotten married, is that something you wish you could change now, to be single, but you can't? Or did you settle into the fact that you did get married and youre good with it now?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 04:59 AM
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Yes, 100% this. Thank you for adding this context because you are spot on. Thats also part of why I wanted to post this, because I want to validate people's anger. They should be angry that they were sold this lie so that a handful of horrible people could add a few more dollars to their corpulant bank balance. These people are coopting their valid frustration in order to exploit them for money. Your response does an excellent job of articulating that.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 04:54 AM
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Im sorry that that is what you took away from this post. You said "They need advice that'll catch a spark that puts them on the conveyor line for learning relationship skills". Yes, that was the whole point of my post. Text posts are difficult but preferred in this sub. While you find the tone condescending, I found it hopeful because it defines a rather broad and complex topic fairly clearly while offering a general direction of action that, in your words, would help put folks onto the conveyor…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 04:50 AM
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Do you want to share what issue you see that prevents this from being something you consider in your own life?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 03:52 AM
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My 74 year old father has heard of red pill content because youtube pushed it into his algorithm (as YouTube likes to do). I think its fair to say that its pretty mainstream when it takes only a handful of clicks and recommendations on any social media platform for people to start being recommended this type of content. And in part I agree with your point that there is always going to be outlier groups or communities where a broad generalization wont apply perfectly. I mean, things are even hard…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 03:51 AM
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I am with my husband because he makes my life better. At the end of 2024 he was in a seriously life threatening industrial accident. Coma, months in the hospital, 23 surgeries to date, adjusting to life in a disabled body - all of that and he still makes my life better. When he came out of the coma he told me he was scared that I would one day leave visitation and just never come back because it was all too much. My response to him was to tell him that HE is my home. Wherever he is, thats where …
/r/ExRedPill13/02/26 03:46 AM
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You have identified a real problem for your self but it's not "male celebrities exist". The problem you have is that youve had a bad experience that hurt you and brought up some unresolved feelings of shame and inadequacy. Thats not something you should ignore if your goal is to get into a healthy relationship in the future. I fear I say it too much, but it really does apply, if you can access therapy for your self that would be ideal. Having a.professiinal help you work through the hurt and pai…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 05:47 AM
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Im glad youre working on it. When youre challenging the bias you got from the manosohere, it can help to remember that you are being sold a product. The manosphere doesnt run kn truth and the goodwill of others trying ro help people who struggle. They are putting out information that is geared to make them money by causing you to pay attention and engage with their content. Remember, happiness isnt a sustainable business model. You need people to keep coming back and wanting to spend more money/…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/26 05:39 AM
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I think most people would agree with that. But you believe woman arent capable of holding that same perspective?
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 07:58 AM
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Man, we are all suffering under capitalism. The system is brutal. Having a partner who wants to pool resources abd build a life together is what is admirable. Women arent born with an innate drive to find a man with a certain salary. Its not like we come standard with the need for food, water and and a man with a 6 figure income. Do you honestly believe that <every> hetero relationship contains a man who makes more? What if youre dating and your partner's income drops, would you assume the woman…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/26 07:14 AM
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I dont think your ex-redpill if youre here talking about how it illuminates "truth". The only truth redpill, blue pill etc teaches is that some human beings are willing to harm other people in the pursuit of making money.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 01:04 PM
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Disappointing that that is the message you took away from the literal hundred plus, comments people left. They were kind, patient and did a tremendous amount of emotional labor while you were dismissive and actively hostile - even calling people names and telling us to fuck off and shut the fuck up. I will try one last time: you need to deal with your anger. It clearly isnt serving you in a way that leads to a happy life. At least some part of you felt it was worthwhile to ask for help. Hopefull…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 11:54 AM
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Why would that be irrelevant to your post?
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 07:27 AM
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In real life? People you know well and are friend's with? Or are you talking about people you see on social media?
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 07:11 AM
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If you look at the other posts, you will see that many of them get down voted, however, you will also see that there are many people in the comments giving thoughtful, helpful and genuine responses. Hopefully you can value the comments and energy from people and not just write it all off because of some random clicks that take zero effort.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/26 07:08 AM
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TikTok and the creators make money from engagement and clicks. They have zero incentive to promote things that are true or healthy. Promoting ideas and norms that encourage happy and well adjusted people and relationships will never drive a billion dollar industry. Why would you look to a corporation or business to guide your perspective in life?
/r/ExRedPill27/01/26 09:08 PM
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Also check out This woman (chantal heide) is a dating coach https://youtube.com/@chantalheidecanadasdatingcoach?si=_mXvilWJdRnBkvpk https://youtube.com/@theresehlee?si=CwTtKQxqAZ7-OHXZ https://youtube.com/@stephanya?si=niv-sBUOijvyYE6F https://youtube.com/@wavingtheredflag?si=H1YEqmitIFDhCYih https://youtube.com/@finntasticmrfox?si=4GZ_fvbHMneBig40
/r/ExRedPill15/01/26 05:50 PM
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Off the top of my head Healthy Gamer https://youtube.com/@healthygamergg?si=z5_YaWsLeVSP6zuZ FD Signifier https://youtube.com/@fdsignifire?si=m6DHZyaSIBdJqyhf The speech Prof https://youtube.com/@therealspeechprof?si=rHunCWNjpZEmOVnR The first one is an actual mental health professional who talks to men who are struggling with these issues. FD Signifier talks a lot about healthy masculinity and manhood. The speech Prof also deals with a lot of debunking of incel type content and he does it with …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/26 05:41 PM
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Your best best is going to be educating your self. Reading what you can about intersectional feminism is a good place to start. There isn't really a way to atone for past wrongs without potentially causing further hurt to the people you threatened so I wouldn't recommend reaching out to any of them. Accept that this is something you did and that you now find reprehensible. If you can do outreach (even online) to help others who are still stuck in the mindset you could consider that a positive ac…
/r/ExRedPill04/11/24 06:05 AM
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if anything they said had any value or worked they would literally be talking themselves out of a job.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 09:52 PM
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I married one of those too. I approached him and he even declined a few times because he didn't think I was actually interested. Asked him to go see Star Trek Nemesis and he finally agreed (I think more to see the movie than because he thought I seriously was trying to date him). Married a few months later and heading toward 25th anniversary at this point. We spend our free time playing Diablo together, going to movies, and doting on our dogs. We don't drink, never partied, and when he's buildin…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/24 09:20 PM
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it doesn't make them a bad therapist or anything. It is the point of therapy though for a therapist to create an environment where you feel safe enough to be open about things that you wouldn't otherwise share. If you can begin to explore those feelings of self-consciousness with your current therapist that's great. I just want to remind and encourage you to approach therapy in whatever way actually helps you move forward. If that means getting a second opinion don't be afraid to do that.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 04:33 AM
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Tone is hard to get through text so I will preface this by saying that I mean this with the utmost care and sincerity: get a new therapist. If you feel uncomfortable sharing these feelings with this therapist then that is not going to be a beneficial therapeutic relationship for you. It is very important to have a space where you can actually get into these kinds of feelings and the right therapist should be able to help guide you through a relationship building process that will allow you to st…
/r/ExRedPill21/10/24 03:56 AM
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You should check out the youtube channel Healthy Gamer. It's run by Dr Alok Kanojia who is a harvard trained psychiatrist. He talks a lot about men, their mental health, and especially about ex-redpill type thoughts and beliefs. If you go back in his videos to 3 and 4 years ago he conducts a lot of interviews and even has full sessions with people who agreed to have that session recorded to help other viewers. You could even start with this video: Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People. It's no…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/24 07:13 PM
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It's one thing to detox from red-pill, and that's good to do, but you also gotta replace that knowledge with good things and helpful skills instead. You should check out Healthy Gamer on youtube. From his webpage " Dr. Alok Kanojia, a Harvard-trained addiction psychiatrist specializing in modern mental health" Addressing all 25 year old Thinkers - Healthy Gamer The Biggest Skills Men Need In Today's World If you scroll back in his videos he also does sessions with people who have agreed to their…
/r/ExRedPill12/10/24 01:15 AM
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I'd be cautious about diagnosing his ex-wife as bipolar based on what he tells you. There are far too many men willing to chalk up all their problems to their crazy bitch of an ex. Honestly, in reading all your comments it seems like you are making a lot of assumptions and generalizations about his feelings, thoughts, and experiences. In my experience (as a woman who has dated and had extensive therapy) this is a bit of a mild red flag of it's own. He has said and done things that make you uncom…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/24 12:11 AM
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This is what I tell all my friends - date the person not the potential. It's not so much the red-pill aspect of this as much as it seems like this guy is still traumatized and not ready to be dating and in a partnership. Please do not think that you are going to fix him or help him move through this trauma and away from his red pill leanings. He needs actual therapy and time to process these things outside of a relationship. Unless you are ready to be dating and partnered with who he is now you'…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/24 12:04 AM
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