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This is extremely well thought out and I very much appreciate it. I know her emotions are all over the place for a number of reasons and some of them are physical .. hard thing though is she crossed a line and I feel deep down that it would not surprise me if she did it again but worse. I don't think she even wants to be with me but if she did I would need to see her get some serious third party help like I am getting
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 08:14 AM
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Yea... Her best friend had been texting me "checking up" on me and i really appreciated it.. until she tried to get me to say on text that I planned to drop the charges and not to help the prosecutor with what happened. Once I saw what was happening I cut communications
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 08:11 AM
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I can assure you that although I'm not a perfect husband I in no way deserved what happened. I'm. Someone who loves his wife and didn't want her entire life and career to be ruined because of a moment of stupidity and anger. There is a price to be paid for sure - but I don't know how I can , in the blink of an eye, go from loving someone and wanting to spend my life with them, to destroying them at any and all cost. Just isn't how i am programmed and if that makes me a baby back bitch or whateve…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 08:09 AM
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**UPDATE - THU** Once more I am overwhelmed and so grateful from how much support you have shown me - even if a lot of it is hard advice to hear - it's nice to feel like someone is looking out for me. I can't say it enough to some of you but I again will say I am not a perfect husband. I've got my own faults like lack of cleaning , putting in more around the house etc. But nothing ever that would arise to this. On her end she has been verbally abusive for years but I've dismissed it as a cultura…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 08:04 AM
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*UPDATE - TUE* Hey all. Once again thank you very much for all of your comments. I have taken everything to heart. Now that some time has passed and I'm not as emotionally hurt I am realizing that there is almost no chance to reconcile like I wanted. I've been getting texts from friends of hers asking about my feelings .. I do think they are trying to sniff out if I'm planning to press charges after all or whatever. I'm calling a lawyer today to start that process and have someone who is looking…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 06:24 PM
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I'm curious what I have said that makes me manipulative and controlling just because I shared my situation and needed to vent. I've been open about the fact that we didn't have a perfect relationship and I've been far from a perfect husband. I have never abused my wife no. She however has been extremely verbally abusive to me for years. It's Something I've come to just try and deal with. It's extremely sad however as our kids will interrupt her screaming at me and tell her to stop. It hurts to s…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 06:16 PM
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Ugh .. yes this. I do appreciate the sentiment of protecting myself because right now I really haven't been. The getting lawyer advice is good advice especially if this is headed where it's headed. But the idea of just ruining her life is just hard to comprehend. Like have things been rough? Yea. Did we need a whole lot of counseling? Very much so. Did she cross over a serious line by throwing something - you bet. But just last week we were out doing things as a family , immediately flipping to …
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 06:08 PM
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Edit 2- Again a huge thanks to everyone who has commented. I've taken every bit of advice to heart and am working through the process. One thing I have to ask. How is everyone so quick to turn off feelings towards a significant other? - yes. We have had a very rocky relationship - but I still loved her deeply through it and wanted to always find a way even when we struggled. And yes - she crossed a major line when she threw Something at me. In honesty it's not the first time it's happened. It's …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 12:02 AM
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I really appreciate the break down - it does help very much
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 11:54 PM
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Her primary concern is that I don't contribute enough money overall. I cover half of the bills, mortgage etc but she has put in more for when we've had large issues pop up. She makes about 40k more than I do. It's tough because I pay what I can - I don't have a hidden drug habit or anything - I'm the one that pays when we go out to dinners and such , she doesn't realize those are typically over 100 etc. but I can accept that I should contribute more. As far as kids go. I am the primary watcher. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 11:53 PM
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Means the world to me. It's so very hard because I took my vows seriously and I never ever could imagine me divorcing her , even with everything going on , which I know sounds crazy. It just goes against my beliefs, and tbh, my feelings right now. I just know deep in my heart she would've been completely ok with me going through what she did. It's all just fucked and sad
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 11:47 PM
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Jfc .. man it's so hard but I've seen so many horror stories like this that has me completely afraid she'd do something similar
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 11:44 PM
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Christ brother. Sending a bro hug your way. That's fucking haunting
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 01:40 AM
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Thank you for the great advice. I will heed it
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 02:44 PM
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This is what is driving me nuts. I know in my heart that if I would've fired something at her in anger in no way would she not force my ass to sit in jail and ruin my career. Fuck why am I letting myself get twisted about this
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 02:43 PM
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This means a lot .. thank you ❤️
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 02:41 PM
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Thank you to everyone who has responded. I'm .. not surprised how people have reacted. I'm sure I'd react the same had I read this. What I am surprised about is how much of an impact these comments are making. In my head I really am still sorta holding out that maybe by paying the bail and packing up and leaving for some time - that maybe time apart can help save us in the long haul. But these comments .. for the first time in this relationship.. are really making me feel different about this. I…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 02:38 PM
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That's the other problem. I'm literally not in a financial position to afford a lawyer. Meanwhile she makes Substantial money and already has a large savings from which to go after me with
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 01:41 PM
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The problem is that even though I have paid for half the mortgage since we moved in - the deed is in her name because my credit wasn't good when we moved in together so I'm pretty sure legally this is her place - I don't think she can just kick me out but I'm pretty positive I have no Way of keeping her out
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 01:38 PM
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Her sister and best friend talked me into it as the best chance I'll have to separate from her and eventually try and work on things and maybe save things. But fuck man reading all these messages really has me reconsidering what I'm doing. I just went from having people physically in my face calling me a fool to now people on the internet saying the same because it sure seems like I'm acting like one. I've been packing up bags so that after she has been bailed out I'll be gone and then hopefully…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 01:37 PM
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