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When we first started dating, my ex kept asking if I actually liked her because she didn't feel like she was my type since she was overweight. It never bothered me. During our marriage, she got weight loss surgery and, over the years, lost a lot of weight. I would always complement her on her looks, outfit, you name it. I always tell her I loved her. She would barely hold hands with me, and if I tried to give her hugs and just hold her, it would last maybe 30 seconds before she'd pull away. She …
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 08:57 PM
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I am currently doing 50/50 with my ex. She is looking at moving out of state, at least 4 hours away. I will be doing everything possible to get primary custody of them. At least where I am, she would have to show that it's in the best interest of the kids. I have a stable job. The kids have lived here their entire lives, so all of their friends, school, and doctors are all here. Courts generally prefer stability for the kids. Anything is possible, though, and I'm terrified that she will try and …
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 03:02 AM
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Mine had at least an emotional affair with a coworker she met 2 months prior to telling me she wanted the divorce. Found his fb based on phone numbers from phone logs (amazing what you can find from a phone number). His resemblance to me is frightening. Just add about 10 years to me, so that's been interesting. From what I've heard from mutual friends, they are now exclusive, so I hope they have the life they deserve. ETA spelling
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 01:22 AM
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I initially thought the same way of doing it for the pictures of the kids. She doesn't post very many of the kids, and instead was posting things that were small shots at me, or at least that's how I was taking it. I would get anxious seeing that she posted something new because I was waiting for it to finally be her announcing her new relationship. I take pictures of the kids when they are with me, and I know what they look like when they are with her. It's not worth the emotional stress. I wil…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 01:54 PM
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My ex-wife acts scared of me and talks about me like I was an abusive person, saying she'll never let a man treat her like that again. She tried to act like she was in an equally bad relationship as one of our mutual friends. This friend was physically, emotionally, and financially abused while being cheated on. My ex apparently made reference to how they were both treated until the friend called her out. My ex only said, "ok, it wasn't as bad as yours." My ex's previously all ended with the guy…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 06:21 PM
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It is. I found out a month or so later that the destination wedding she went to for a cousin, that I paid at least half of, she took her emotional affair partner who is her now bf on the trip. We hadn't been divorced a month, and it was just over 3 months from when she told me about the divorce. Currently, she is doing the same as yours, just spending away. Every time I see her, she has something new. One kid asked why they always got a present when they got to her house after they were with me …
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 02:03 AM
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Sounds so familiar to me. When mine told me about the divorce, she wanted to keep it a secret until it was official by the judge. She doesn't really tell anyone much beyond that we got divorced. She didn't even tell her dad in person even though she was down there. During the divorce, I realized she had her at least an emotional affair partner, her new bf, and a really good friend that she had been planning for at least 2 months with. She already had someone to move on with and at least one supp…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 01:56 AM
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I'm sorry. The other week, my oldest told me she got to talk to "mommas worker" and that he talked about taking them to disney. She doesn't know that this guy is the one my ex-wife left me for. I always told my ex I wanted to take the kids one day while we were married. I had to pay my ex six figures to keep the house. In doing so, do I have no savings or extra money for the foreseeable future. I, too, feel left out, and like I can't compete. It's hard when my ex does all these activities with t…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 12:37 AM
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My ex-wife did the same thing with getting toxic and hostile after she told me. I suddenly became unsupportive, controlling, and manipulative. Anything i brought up was turned around on me, and it was all my fault. I was so confused by the sudden about face. I finally looked at the cell phone text and call logs a week or two after she told me about the divorce. It showed she was texting a coworker thousands of times in a month, that she just met 2 months prior on a work trip. She will never admi…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 03:04 AM
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I can't argue with any of that, and I agree. It's a lot easier said than done at this point. 15 years of learned habits of trying to make her happy and dealing with the consequences if I didn't. She very quickly in the relationship pushed a lot of boundaries, especially intimacy related, and I'm only now realizing that set the tone. She has had plenty of other relationships before me, and in ways I'm realizing I was taken advantage of in my naivety and lack of experience. I know it doesn't matte…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 06:24 PM
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My ex and I lived together for 3 months after she told me, and it was the worst time of my life. It delayed my healing for at least 3 months, but it was more likely far longer. She said she was miserable at work, at home, and didn't like how she was treating me. She said she built resentment up for over 5 years, but didn't share that with me. I was apparently an unsupportive husband that didn't ever listen to her. Did I fail at these things sometimes over the 15 year relationship? Yes, and that …
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 06:24 PM
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I'm not at that point, but the scenario has crossed my mind because my ex-wife is looking at jobs out of state, which would mean I would more than likely get primary custody. She has always made $10-15k more than me until this year when I make about $3k less now. Once you include my yearly bonus, I technically make more. Currently, if I were to get child support, with our incomes, it's less than $30 because we are 50/50. I chose not to bother with the amount because it's so minor, plus I didn't …
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 04:46 PM
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It really does suck. My kids have done surprisingly well, but they are also younger. I have had to have conversations I never imagined I would have to though. Kids asking me if I still love momma, if she loves me. Does she love them? It's heartwrenching. Last week the youngest kept saying "momma no love me" and so I'm having to sit there and tell him that no, she does love you very much. School told me recently that he tells them "daddy loves me, momma no loves me" and it just hurts. Especially …
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 04:58 AM
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Sad that you can relate to the first part. One of the hardest things for me is knowing that we didn't try everything that we could in order to save it, especially since we had kids. I never thought she would have another person either, and in the 15 years we were together, I never looked at the message logs until this happened. I'm not trying to say this is the case for you. Just in my experience, I never thought it possible until it was. I still have a hard time accepting that she did that, but…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 04:38 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that, I know it's not easy. I was in your shoes 5 months ago. My ex told me she was miserable at work, at home, and that she didn't like how she was treating me. I asked for counseling and was told no immediately, I had offered in the past as well and was turned down. I asked about separation and working back, she said she didn't want to work back. She told me she had built resentment for the last 5+ years but hadn't shared this with me in the past, rhere was some thst she shar…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 04:13 AM
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My ex-wife did. Together almost 15 years. She told me that she was miserable at work, at home, and didn't like how she was treating me. I asked for couples counseling, even asked earlier in the marriage, and was turned down. I wanted to separate and try to work it out, she didn't. She told me she no longer found me attractive, and didn't even like me at this point. She said she built resentment for over 5 years, and it apparently boiled over. Even her family has sided with me against the reasons…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 01:28 AM
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Sorry to hear that. It's an awful thing to go through and not have closure of all the facts. This was my first and only relationship and with time and therapy I have realized there were things that I put up with when I shouldn't have. I had no previous experience as opposed to her having multiple prior relationships, and to me it's like these are things that happen in relationships that you work through. I could have been better about communicating, but early on in the relationship, when I'd try…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 03:20 PM
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Thanks, it's been pretty awful thats for sure. Two months prior to her telling me, we bought a car and were planning landscaping projects for next year. When I asked about the car, she just said she "hadn't fully broken yet". Karma would be nice, but at the same time, I'm not hoping for it. My luck is that if I get excited for it, it will only come back on me. Even after all of this, I just want the best for her, and for her to be happy. I also want her to be the best she can be for the kids, an…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 03:42 AM
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I'm 4 months out from when she told me. It was 20 days after our 13 anniversary. Took 2.5 months to get everything finalized and signed by the judge, but she was upset it took that long. During the process I found out she started texting another guy she met at work, with the last month hitting 6700 texts between them. She went on a girls trip 2 weeks after she told me, never saw pictures, but the texting with that guy stopped once she landed and started as soon as she got to the airport to leave…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 01:40 AM
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20 days after our 13th anniversary, right before Halloween. She told me she was miserable at work and at home and that she didnt like how she was treating me. She then said that she wanted a divorce, didn't want to try counseling, and that she's made up her mind, and when she's done that, it's done. Told me she was no longer attracted to me, but did say I was a good person and great father, so I have that going for me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 10:40 PM
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Married for 13 years, ex said she had been building resentment for the last 5-6 years. Our oldest is 6, and when she was pregnant she stopped traveling as much for work. She sent me a video on instagram about mental load one time and how the wife was upset signing a song about making a list, because the guy wasn't doing it on his own. I specifically asked if that's how she felt and she told me no, it's just funny. Years later, mental load was one of the issues she brought up. We went on vacation…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:39 PM
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Definitely hits the nail on the head. She told me 20 days after our 13th anniversary that she was miserable with work and at home and how she was treating me. She said that she had been building resentment for over 5 years, our oldest is 6, and that it finally boiled over and she wanted a divorce. She didn't want to try counseling, even when I offered years ago, and she had made up her mind and was done. She cried more about it taking so long for me to get an electrical breaker switched for her …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 06:37 PM
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