OutspokenPerson Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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20	Little reminder about "red flags" Yep. It’s not a red flag to prefer different foods, for example. It IS a red flag if he makes nasty comments about what you are eating, pretends to gag, throws your food out, insults the culture for the food, equates the preference differences to differences in class (suggests you are low class for liking something), refuses to cook, refuses to grocery shop, refuses to wash dishes or set the table, insists you pay 50/50 for groceries but eats most of them, eats your snacks and won’t replace them…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/04/22 01:04 AM
8	HVW tips for long distance relationships? This is what I was going to say, too. People can pretend for muuuuuch longer to be something they aren’t in an LDR. LDRs also let us ascribe lovely characteristics to someone in the absence of real-life experience with them. “Of course he keeps a neat home!” (Because the hotel room is clean), “of course he has adequate income!” (because he splurges when he’s visiting because he knows it’s a limited timeframe to keep up appearances on the bank roll). “He is soooo attentive!” (Yeah, his bar buddie…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/03/22 02:19 PM
47	The audacity! Time to abandon or murder your pet, as all good women do I’ll never forgive myself for letting my ex husband force me to give away my beloved cats. It’s been 20 years. Of course he left. It was a power play. Never again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 01:10 AM
48	Stop fucking falling in love with "potential"! Except, they will very often “trade up” once they are a few years past this point, to someone who has never seen them before they were successful. They’ll trade up for someone 10 years younger who didn’t share ramen with them while they scraped through school. I also know someone who supported her husband through multiple advanced degrees and he never seemed to think he was ready to get a job. And kept going back for more degrees. She had to pay him alimony when she finally dumped him at 40, and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/22 02:29 PM
2	Criticism & Men You forgot that when you bring it up again, because they did the bad thing again, they 4) ask why you can’t just leave it alone?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 02:36 AM
127	Darcey from TLC's 90 Day Fiance is usually a mess, but I love this video where she handles her petty, insecure scrote ex like a queen. Omg, she tells him she doesn’t want to be friends … and he asks if she put on weight? She handled it so well!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/21 09:27 PM
51	Just another year end reminder to NEVER EVER build a man. Focus on yourself and only yourself. That was so hard to read. He took so much from her and offered absolutely nothing in return! If we all redirected our energies into our own careers and interests and mental health, we will end up SO much better off. I feel like someone needs to take that entire post and split it into two columns. On the left would be a list of her statements. On the right would be FDS insight to each and every one. It could be a master class in how to step back and understand why each bit of that relationship wa…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/12/21 06:01 PM
68	Can we hear your LVM break up stories? I dated a NVM for THREE WEEKS and was completely f’ed in the head when he disappeared. I rebounded right into the web of lies of another NVM and lost a decade of my life. NVM#1 did it all: love-bombing, gifts, massive flattery, soul-mates, the whole pie. And he was good-looking, drove a nice car, shared photos of himself with his three kids in matching goofy Christmas outfits, said he taught CPR to Girl Scouts and coached his son’s soccer team. The breakup? He came over one evening, things were …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 07:50 PM
88	Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbaby When I read that I heard the big record scratch, like, what? Did you read what you just wrote about dealing with his issues?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/21 02:58 AM
3	If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women. A friend’s husband was adamant she stay slim if she wanted to stay married to him. He badgered her for years to have a baby. She finally relented. She didn’t start looking pregnant until the third trimester (calorie restriction, ugh). He was repulsed by her pregnant body, but stayed. She took off all but about 10 pounds of the baby weight, and stayed steady. He desperately wanted another baby but she flat-out refused. They’ve stayed married for 25+ years and I know she has spent all of it in fea…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/12/21 10:27 PM
29	Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside. This made me cry. You can hear her incredible stress and that LVM is utterly worthless in an emergency. Worthless. The agony of realizing that your husband would rather let your whole family die than help make sure everyone was safe.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 02:51 AM
1	Serious question, do any of you not want to get married? That’s a really good question! For contest for my response: My first ex was a LVM who I Barb the Buildered up. My second ex was a NVM. I belong to a FB group of highly accomplished women from school (30 years and counting) who literally all but a few tell the same tales as we see in FDS. Even the ones who appear to have it all, from the outside looking in. I can see dating again. But have zero interest in ever co-habitating or re-marrying. Any man in my future will need to be HVM or he can buzz …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/12/21 05:07 PM
3	Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends? That sounds like narcissistic fleas. I hope she finds her way out. It can take a long time to get rid of the fleas though. NVMs do a number on everyone. Grey rock is a good strategy if you must work with her and can’t readily move to a different company or position.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/12/21 04:51 PM
1	Ask Amy: I think my wife is lazy for not having a career while raising our kids Absolutely is how it works. I Barb the Buildered my first husband from manual labor to a Sr Manager role having dinner at the VP’s house (over a decade of building). VP’s wife was in my scrapbooking group. The guy who wrote all that post certainly thinks he earned his successful career all on his own. Being seen as a family man helps move careers upward, too.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/12/21 02:22 AM