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then there would be way more women cheating and a lot less men cheating I always just assumed this was because women are less interested/men tend to have a higher sex drive?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 11:46 PM
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it increasing perhaps the opportunity. Yeah so you're saying just bc the opportunity arises more it doesn't make the person more likely to?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 11:08 PM
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Thank you for all of your insight I really appreciate it
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 07:56 PM
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Ok I think this will really help thanks- I don't know if... I mean I don't know if I will feel differently about it when I actually get into a relationship, but I don't want to make that choice due to the guy's pressure, fear that he will leave, or anything else. I hope that I'll just be able to think about it rationally and totally make it my own choice. I'm hoping that third base will be a decent compromise but I guess I won't know. That being said I will be "dating to marry" kinda
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 07:48 PM
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Okay yes this makes sense now. I get the whole relationship vs just hookup thing. If a man leaves you because you're not giving him sex then he never saw you as anything more than just a sex partner But this is the part I don't understand totally-do guys not also want sex from girls they see as relationship material? Like I guess my question is what would stop him from just pursuing another girl he saw as relationship material who didn't want to wait for marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 07:16 PM
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One mistake girls make is thinking sex will keep a guy that they want interested. Ok so now this is worrisome-bc since I'm not giving him that would he just find another relationship where he can get that? Why doesn't it keep them interested I don't really understand
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 12:27 PM
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Make sure he's serious about long-term and not just trying to put another notch in his belt. Would telling them I will not have sex until marriage or at least engagement make it clear to me that he is not doing that? Instead of seeing it as a challenge, wouldn't he just give up after awhile and thus if he sticks around I will know that is not the case? What else can I do to prevent this because this is my biggest fear.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 02:58 AM
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Sorry for so many responses- In the religious community I'm in low n count/virginity is pretty common under 25 (Jewish). But getting engaged or married young after a couple months of dating is pretty common too Yes I would say the culture is similar in this respect but honestly I don't know for sure because ppl don't admit to things or seem to lie. I will say guys who openly admit to hooking up don't seem to identify as religious-they will say "My family is Muslim" but not really themselves. I d…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:24 AM
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Dating outside religion and culture takes a lot of understanding even if you're more spiritual than religious Yes I'm hypothetically open to anyone but I just think it will be challenging-many of my community friends are married to white guys and they seem so happy-I'm not opposed to that I just don't know what the odds are for me and I have a very loose relationship with religion/culture to the point where I would like to preserve at least some of it. Yeah it's so difficult to verbalize but lik…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:03 AM
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Yes lol as you can see I typed out some responses and just deleted them lol bc it's hard to convey these things and people have certain unnecessary preconceived notions about Muslims. I'm glad that you have that exposure-similarly my best friend growing up was Jewish. They're married, though, so idk about hookup culture. Yeah again-I don't really know either because a lot of people won't really admit what they're actually doing. All of my friends do hookup but they don't identify with the religi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 01:42 AM
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Well if he's not super religious, a virgin at 25 might be a yellow flag Yeah again I just don't care about the guy's sexual history honestly-just that he accepts that I don't have one and probably would only go up to a certain point. To be totally honest I almost kinda prefer that he has a least some but again I don't know if it actually matters or if I've just been conditioned to think that a guy is more attractive if his body count is kinda high. Hmv have self control and high standards. They …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 12:16 AM
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Well what do you bring to the table other than sex? From a rich family, educated, no problems (no habits, not alcoholic/don't smoke etc.) Date men who are looking for wives not girlfriends. Ok yes I'll defo take this into account
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 04:47 AM
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Not all attractive men are ran through 25+. Some men aren't into hookups, religious reasons, ltrs, focused on career/education, high standards, etc Yeah I know a few guys like this but idk I feel like I shouldn't rely on that being the case. Idk if this makes sense but even though I would like it if a guy were not super ran through, if he checked off all other boxes I wouldn't bother looking for someone else. Like do you think if a guy has a limited sexual history at that age that's a good sign?…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 04:01 AM
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And you have a wide dating pool right now so I wouldn't be too concerned with disqualifying men based off whether they take you seriously for marriage and are willing to wait until engagement/commitment. Yeah this is what I'm kinda worried about. I wouldn't want to lose out on a good guy over this but I can't really bring myself to compromise my values either bc if the relationship doesn't work out I will hate myself. I just don't know when to bring it up because I feel like as soon as I say tha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 03:50 AM
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Yeah-I should have clarified that I am in a religious circle lol. I personally just don't really care about religion a ton, especially with respect to this topic but I am from a religious community where it's pretty common for girls to be inexperienced but idk I suspect that most people are doing things and just not admitting it. So I wanted to ask because I wanted to see what the odds were.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:22 AM
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Oh gotcha ok this makes a lot of sense thank you. I'm in the US and the reason why I said mostly not secular is because I'm not opposed to dating an irreligious person but I don't know how likely it is to actually happen. It will appear like some form of avoidant attachment or abandonment issues, or whatever label kids use these days. Basically you fear emotionally bonding with them through sex because you fear the pain you will feel if the relationship were to end. Yeah basically this but not j…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:34 PM
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I'd call it assisted matching. Yeah exactly I feel like the term arranged marriage is super outdated and implies things that literally just don't happen. It's basically just meeting through community or family friends and it's always just a choice. And no one agrees to marry someone that they dislike really
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:11 PM
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because having such prerequisite reveals a lot of insecurities that you carry. wait can you elaborate on this sorry I don't really understand? I guess I should have clarified that my dating demographic is mostly not secular lol. But not super practicing either like just moderately practicing
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:03 PM
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Does context matter-like are 5 ONS worse than 5 LTRs or is it all the same
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 01:43 PM
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I will say I feel like some girls at least don't want to know lol. Sometimes they ask him for a ballpark figure or about the context, like whether they participated in FWB or ONS or not, but some women I think just don't wanna know like with whom, they just wanna leave it in the past. On the other hand I have heard that some couples probably during engagement or so just tell the other every single thing they have ever done (that they remember I guess lol) and with whom.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 01:43 PM
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I think that most western people do not consider casual sex or many sexual partners to a problem in and of itself, but rather a symptom of potential other problems that require further investigation. Can you elaborate on what types of problems this usually is associated with? And does this apply to men and women?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 01:41 PM
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Yeah but how do people necessarily account for this? I feel like people generally lie, no? They don't want to admit how many ONS/meaningless hookups because they worry about how it looks so how can they guy know? Just by her reputation assuming he knows people that know her?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 01:40 PM
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that body count doesn't seem to have the effect on men's marital stability that it does for women Yeah-basically every guy kinda implies this. To some of them it's truly meaningless but for women it's like actually emotional I guess? Conscientiousness is associated with Ok so you say it's associated with but doesn't necessarily have to be right? Idk. I mean are these frat guys who drink heavy and hookup every weekend less conscientious and destined for that forever, or do they have the potential…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 01:38 PM
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This actually makes so much sense thanks
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 09:01 PM
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I believe the studies above were for men, but I've seen other longitudinal data for women indicating self-reported body count was HEAVILY predictive of divorce rate. Ok yeah-I've always wondered about this-I mean as other people even here have commented, a lot of people think that men just kind of go through a "manwhore" phase and then stop acting like that once they're like 25 or so. But does how active they were at that time predict their ability to stay committed in a relationship, or is it j…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 06:42 PM
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Ok thanks this was really helpful-just curious, how did you know that he was ready to settle down and what made you think that you could trust him I guess? Like did his past lifestyle bother you? And also what do you think made him interested in you after all that?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 04:44 PM
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Per your username, just curious if you're American or Australian? yeah for some reason I just assumed a lot of people marry their college girlfriends but I guess a lot of guys are just having their fun
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:11 AM
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The days of the rich successful neurosurgeon having a pretty but uneducated wife to manage the home seem to be dying out Yeah-I should clarify most of these girls definitely have bachelors degrees so they are considered educated in an official sense, but they don't have any intention to really use the degree, and the degree is generally not in like an "academic" subject like fashion, acting, social media marketing etc. So even though they have that degree they don't really like do anything "inte…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:07 AM
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There are a lot of doctors making under $200k, like pediatricians. There are traveling nurses making more than doctors I think this is optimistic propaganda spread by nurses looking to elevate themselves prestige wise no? I'm not saying they can't earn well, but I think it's very naive to suggest that it's the norm for nurses of any variety, even travel nurses to outearn physicians. If a pediatrician wants to earn more they have options-private practice etc. Even so-the average salary for travel…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 04:15 PM
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But someone that busy needs a partner who has their own thing going on they can spend their time on rather than focusing solely on the relationship. Yeah this is interesting I didn't necessarily know people cared about this
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:23 PM
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Yeah, I have family in tech-I didn't mean to suggest that doctors are necessarily the highest earning or the only highest earners again it was just an arbitrary example and actually basically based on a person I know in real life lol. That being said-if someone is a doctor there is just a guarantee that they are making at least 250k generally. And there is job stability so you're really unlikely to lose your job. For people in tech you just technically don't really know how much they're making r…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:22 PM
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So if a guy has a long manwhore phase in college is it worrisome or does it not matter? I used to think it might suggest that he'd be more likely to cheat in a marriage but is that not reasonable to assume?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:17 PM
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To excuse my boring but hopefully useful explanation. People are born with very simplistic minds. Food = good. A person that develops in a good direction will also refine their desires. It is not just food = good, but enjoyable healthy food with some flair = good. Which is why young attractive guys hang out with sorority types: they're still in the food=good phase and are in the process of learning which foods they'd like more / are better for them. (The type that hasn't gone through dozens to h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:11 PM
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ok yeah idk why I thought most people married people they met in college
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:07 PM
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I see it it in all my girlfriends which all have at least a Masters degree, their boyfriends/husbands do too Yeah yeah for girls I don't think I've ever seen a woman married to a man less educated than she is.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:31 PM
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And picking the bimbo will cause their kids to repeat middle class forever. Yeah-this is exactly what I'd imagine soo I kinda wonder why other ppl don't care I guess? Maybe they're just living in the moment yeah idk
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:30 PM
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Once they talk to me they realise that I’m a doctor and every time, they’re impressed because they know what it took for me to achieve that and a lot of them transpose it to think it makes me more caring, emphatic etc Ok that is so interesting because in my area like most guys just get intimidated-I even had a friend who went on a date and the guy didn't know that she graduated from Duke, and when she told him that he literally just said "Sorry I have to get going I have a family thing" and got …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:27 PM
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Yes I am in a circle where I am surrounded by people in this category (I live in a very pretentious Midwestern suburb). But I was just curious about this general pattern because I have a different philosophy and guys in my family (meaning like my cousins who go to like Penn and Princeton) seem to have like a totally different philosophy than like people I live near. I mostly see the plastic barbie doll thing so idk. Most moms are housewives but you can tell that they were really pretty when they…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:17 PM
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Ok so can you explain then what the mindset of like guys in college who are premed (who like have really good stats and are set for like Ivy League med schools) are dating like plastic Barbie doll types who aren't really pursuing any academic field, but are like extremely pretty? Are they just dating and unlikely to actually marry them? Or what is the case I guess
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:14 PM
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Does a big number matter more than someone you actually enjoy? I'd imagine to guys who work hard to become affluent it would matter more but yeah you make a point for sure. he might also just not want a successful woman so he has more of a total power dynamic over the relationship. Yeah-this was my guess as well actually. Idk I feel like these types of men are very problematic lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:11 PM
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Also, you're a lot more likely to meet a surgeon when you're working with them. Yeah in spite of this again I've never seen a two surgeon couple and I'm deep in the med community so that surprises me. I asked a med school friend about this out of curiousity and she told me that surgeon guys are usually after like model types because they think that someone needs to stay home and look after the family because they will be super busy. And yes I am using surgeon as like an arbitrary example of ster…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:09 PM
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I would guess that your hypothetical man would choose the supermodel if he were originally from a "lower" class and would choose the woman with the similar class and educational background to him if he were from a "higher" class. That is so interesting thanks for sharing I never considered this
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 12:48 PM
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he is super rich I think they care less about success because it’s mostly redundant at that point Yeah-this has been my experience as well. I do get that if they have generational wealth it may seem "redundant" but idk-money is something you can always have more of. But I guess yeah this attitude is more surprising to me in guys that don't have generational wealth and are thus rich simply due to their own earnings and investments-because in that case if he is unable to work for any reason or los…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 12:48 PM
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Ok thanks -Idk if it's just my circle then. I do see non-surgeon doctors married to other doctors or at least some academic comparable (PhD, lawyer, CPA/high finance person, etc.) But for some reason most surgeons seem to be after like plastic Barbie types but I'm guessing that's just my experience then. I've actually never seen a two surgeon couple and I'm really deeply entrenched in the medical community so that is interesting to me. Maybe it's because I'm in the midwest?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 12:45 PM
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Very good to know thanks! Maybe my circle is unnecessarily skewed
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 02:58 PM
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Sorry I know this is old but- Do ever see like doctor guys marrying like plastic Barbie doll types? I feel like I see that more than I see them marrying other doctors but perhaps my experience is limited
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 02:09 PM
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