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Definitely a similar situation here. She opened up and acted needy around me so I thought I’d do the same although I took it way too far. Then she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship lol. Ego has to recover after this but I’m already feeling a lot better thanks to your response. Thanks man
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:16 AM
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Appreciate the response glad you’re doing better! Honestly yea this breakup definitely opened my eyes a little. Don’t think I’ll even think about catching feelings for a long time. Just curious did you get needy & jealous in your relationship like I did?
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:04 AM
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My mom? I’d say I’ve always had a good relationship with her. Still talk to her few times a week. Now that I’m thinking about it she’s a super emotional person so that might be something.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:02 AM
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Damn that really gave me a better understanding of what’s going on with me. Made me feel a lot better about everything thank you. I do like that suggestion I would’ve never thought of that. I think that way I can still workout and fix my insecurities and get my “fill” so to speak. Definitely appreciate your help.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 02:09 AM
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Appreciate the response. I mean I definitely know what I did wrong I just really don’t know why. I’m perfectly fine being fuck buddies with a girl and I have zero jealousy, start dating a girl and it’s like a switch is flipped.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 01:40 AM
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Great response thank you! Only question is that you say plate her and if she begs for a relationship.... but we’re already dating? Do you mean treat her as a plate even if we’re in a relationship? And I’m 22 so 30 is a long way to go
/r/askTRP17/07/19 01:12 AM
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My count is probably around 15. Idk I’m only 22 I’m thinking this whole relationship thing isn’t for me at this age and I’m clearly not ready enough to handle it. Appreciate the advice!
/r/askTRP17/07/19 01:11 AM
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Agree. So you think I still go to workout with her or no? And also apparently she does still have a bf lol. Makes this more confusing to me.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 08:04 PM
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Hmm surprised tbh I didn’t really think of this as an option. Thought her actually wanting to hangout was a little different than a normal girl wanting attention.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 07:33 PM
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Yea glad you understand where I’m coming from lmao. She was always fighting for my attention but this is the first time she’s actually asked about it. As I mentioned earlier I just deleted her number and didn’t respond. Hoping that was the right decision
/r/askTRP03/06/19 12:02 AM
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Haha that’s exactly my spot. I work 10 hour days 6 days a week and usually see her my one day off but she still complains.
/r/askTRP02/06/19 11:38 PM
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Had a moment of weakness and almost responded so just deleted her number.
/r/askTRP02/06/19 05:34 PM
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Thanks I ended up deleting her number and not responding. Honestly it’s hitting me way harder than I thought so heading to the gym soon to hopefully get this feeling out of here.
/r/askTRP02/06/19 05:31 PM
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Appreciate the advice! So you’re saying don’t respond to her goodbye text right?
/r/askTRP02/06/19 07:59 AM
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Sad thing is that old me would’ve actually done that lol
/r/askTRP02/06/19 07:51 AM
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Thanks appreciate the response. Definitely is a big sting to realize how true “it’s not your turn” really is. Taking your advice and going to just go monk mode.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 04:35 AM
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Honestly I’ve never looked into treatment or anything for it. Thought it was just something you had to wait till it goes away. But thanks for the help I’ll go get those tablets today.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 11:23 PM
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Congrats on everything my brother 🙏 Has reading books made a noticeable difference in your life? And any books you recommend? I want to get into reading again.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 08:10 PM
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Yeah you’re basically spot on in everything you wrote. My biggest weakness has always been seeking validation from everyone but myself. My ego gets in the way of a lot of aspects of my life.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:23 PM
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This actually helps appreciate it. Don’t mind the tough love
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:21 PM
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Think I’m gonna start with this. I’m pretty much on social media half the day and use it to seek validation
/r/askTRP26/09/18 10:21 PM
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When I typed that last part it didn’t bother me I was just asking for advice on what to do about it. Now that you said it that way I realize it does bother me, she’s probably going to suck his dick. Might need to rethink this.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 09:42 PM
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So just talk to her like she’s single or do you have anything specific? Not sure if it matters but apparently she’s meeting him next week don’t know for how long.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 01:18 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I’ve definitely had that that decision in my mind because quite frankly she takes up a lot of space in thoughts. Not sure if it’s worth it or not.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 03:45 AM
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That’s how I saw that response also. Just have a feeling if I keep trying to flirt/advance she’ll keep playing the boyfriend card and I have no clue what to do after that. I’ve never dealt with this situation before.
/r/askTRP30/07/18 03:20 AM
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Possible to use kino while we’re at the gym? Going to be hard I imagine.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 07:25 PM
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Dumb question but is it not worth it if she “comes back” eventually?
/r/askTRP25/05/18 04:30 AM
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Appreciate the advice, just deleted her number and from snapchat!
/r/askTRP25/05/18 02:51 AM
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Why is that? When I was actually a virgin and told a girl her eyes lit up and we ended up fucking the next day. It usually works for me but guessing this girl was different
/r/askTRP12/05/18 10:43 PM
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Oh trust me I’ve been learning a shit load since I made this thread. She probably is fucking other guys and that motivates me to become better so I guess that’s a positive. Now just got to get my ego in check and forget about her
/r/askTRP12/05/18 09:57 PM
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Yes I know what it is and I used to read stuff from this sub everyday. I’ll admit I haven’t been active here for awhile since I was having good luck with women but this one girl caused a slip up.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 07:32 PM
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Thanks this helped a lot. Agree on getting my other girls back too as I’m a mess when I’m in scarcity as you can tell. Most likely just going to stick to working out like a maniac for awhile tho until I get rid of my insecurities.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 07:30 PM
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That makes sense you’re right. So my best bet to get her to give me that is to just pull away?
/r/askTRP12/05/18 05:06 PM
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Well yea I’d say right now I’m kinda in the friendzone but I mean Thursday we hungout and madeout but that’s all we do. I know I definitely didn’t used to be in this zone as she was kinda addicted to me I just fucked everything up being needy and shit. And you’re right I’ll use judgement but as of now I see her as a waste of my time.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 04:32 PM
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Hate saying this but honestly I never really tried to imitate sex even once. Like I said I thought I’d have to date her first then I can fuck her all I want. Only time I did was a few weeks after I met her I initiated it through text and she said she’d take my virginity. (I told her I was a virgin).
/r/askTRP12/05/18 04:30 PM
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Appreciate the advice buddy thanks!
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:57 PM
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Yea i see where it’s gotten me now, I’m just saying before she was ghosting me she was crazy into me while I was being romantic. Obviously now I see it was the wrong move and I should’ve stuck to my old routine. So you think I should next her too?
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:56 PM
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Thanks will do! By going away should I just flat out ignore her next text or just take longer to reply?
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:26 PM
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Hard next is never responding right?
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:25 PM
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Yea she’s from tinder but we went more for the relationship route instead of a pump and dump. I get everyone saying I messed up not trying to fuck her but she literally said she’s not that type of girl so how was I supposed to know? And I definitely did have other girls. Irony is I was a dick to them and wouldn’t respond like she’s doing to me and I had them hooked. I just went a different route for this girl cos I actually wanted to date her long term
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:25 PM
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Even if she tells me she’s not that “type of girl” to fuck someone so quick? Fuck I’ve never believed AWALT more than I have right now. Btw I definitely see where I went wrong on the romantic side. I was pretty much her emotional tampon always listening to her problems. She made it seem like that’s what she wanted but oh well
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:12 PM
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How do I go about that?? I’d love nothing more
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:10 PM
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Oh I definitely plan on pulling away. I hate that now she has this power over me. Only positive to all this is it’s motivated me to hit the gym like crazy. But still sucks I don’t have a girl anymore
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:02 PM
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To be completely honest, since I thought of her as girlfriend material and didn’t want to lose her, I changed up my usual method of just asking to fuck from the beginning and went for the romantic side. It was definitely working in the beginning but idk I guess that didn’t last long.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:01 PM
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Well she told me early on she doesn’t fuck that fast so I honestly never escalated. She was crying at one point telling me how scared she was I would break her heart so could me not fucking really be that big an issue? I’d say she used to be way more invested than I was.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 02:59 PM
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Solid stuff right here. Definitely going to try waiting to text back if/when she hits me up again. Most likely was going to text her immediately but you made me think otherwise. And like I mentioned earlier I’m in a somewhat dry spell right now so she’s my only option or else I wouldn’t give a shit about this. Least this has made me hit the gym even harder!
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:40 AM
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Hmm interesting I kinda figured she was the type of girl who doesn’t fuck that fast. She even told me that she wouldn’t just fuck anybody unless she was dating them. I’m not too experienced so maybe that’s just a shit test that I failed. I’ll admit I tried to be more romantic then sexual which isn’t like like me so least I know where I went wrong.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:20 AM
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Some really relatable stuff here. Already sure my issue is (besides work) I don’t have much to distract myself from her. I’m on a dry spell of girls right now or else I wouldn’t care about this girl at all. Just trying to not beta myself into missing this girl anymore.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:38 AM
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Thanks for the insight! Honestly not sure how I could’ve failed with her, only thing I can think of is I didn’t really even try to smash her whatsoever. Everything else was good and I had her texting and calling me all day. But I barely knew her for a month so I’ll just forget about her.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:34 AM
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Thanks appreciate this! Pretty much the advice I was looking for as I really didn’t wanna text her first and act beta. Will delete her number after I send this. Just a quick question... if she texts me out of nowhere what do I do? Gonna be hard to tell if she misses me or if she’s seeking validation.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:32 AM
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Well not literally have to be in one, but being in a relationship definitely brings me more happiness that’s for sure.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 03:18 AM
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Well that’s kind of my issue. I’m more in a relationship because I have to be more than I choose to be. I can still fuck girls right now but none are relationship material like this one so I don’t really care about them tbh.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:49 AM
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I’ve banged 5, I was a late bloomer so all those 5 were in the last year. I’ve been pretty good being redpill with those 5 girls but idk none of them were relationship material so it wasn’t that hard. There’s always been a big part of me that wants to be in a relationship and “in love”. Yea I’m sure that’s to cover up some insecurities. I get your first part, I’m not rich by any means but I have some money saved up and a bmw I love. Not a Bentley but it’s something. I just don’t want to end up b…
/r/askTRP30/04/18 12:32 AM
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Yea I think that’s pretty much spot on. In my mind she’s definitely better than the rest of the girls I’ve been messing with lately. Maybe the best I’ve ever hungout with so it’s hard to maintain my frame with this one. Not going to lie it’s amazing hanging out, talking on the phone till 2am with her and doing all this relationship stuff with her but never thought it would’ve led to this. I’m becoming insecure if she’s banging other guys and shit and it’s the worst feeling. Gonna see how work ta…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 12:54 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Yea I went to the gym a few hours ago and it definitely helped a ton but I feel shitty now that I’ve been home for awhile. This is the first time I’ve been depressed over a girl in forever it sucks dick. Hoping work tomorrow and staying busy will help too. I’ve had the whole week off so haven’t been busy at all
/r/askTRP22/04/18 11:06 PM
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Definitely not, but I guess getting dry responses from her beats no response right? That’s how I always thought of it but now realize that’s probably pushing me further into an orbiter. Guessing only chance of getting her is to just focus on me only
/r/askTRP11/02/18 07:52 PM
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Damn that struck a cord. This pretty much is 99% about boosting my ego.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 07:50 PM
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I’m talking to a couple other women, but I’ll admit this one is the hottest out the bunch. Feels like I’m “losing” because I can’t get her for some reason
/r/askTRP11/02/18 07:20 PM
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You’re right I do know that, and I do text only for logistics with everyone else. Issue is when I do it with this girl that shit doesn’t work and I don’t wanna just give up
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:17 PM
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Appreciate it! Also have noticed she’s usually always sad or depressed for some reason. Definitely don’t want a girl like that anyway.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 07:19 PM
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Thanks again that’s exactly what I thought too. Being nice and helping will hopefully get me laid but like you said that’ll just lead me more into the friendzone. Definitely going to stop that!
/r/askTRP23/12/17 07:19 PM
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Thanks I figure ghosting was the right move!
/r/askTRP23/12/17 06:24 PM
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Umm off the top of my head it’s to heal back my ego (she dumped me for another guy) and I still have her looks on a pedestal. Like I mentioned earlier she’s the hottest girl I’ve been with.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 03:57 AM
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Yea I kinda realized it was pointless. I would make gains physically but didn’t feel proud because she never came back. Will listen to your advice now!
/r/askTRP11/12/17 03:56 AM
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Thanks for the solid advice. Definitely makes it easier for me to never contact her again.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 03:55 AM
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Thanks appreciate the advice. Kinda sucks to hear it might sting forever I’ll admit. What’s there to do to make sure this doesn’t sting anywhere near that long?
/r/askTRP10/12/17 11:06 PM
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Thanks man!
/r/askTRP10/12/17 09:53 PM
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Not entirely sure, I just know coming on Reddit and reading redpill posts (you’re actually one of the biggest influences on me btw) makes me feel a lot better and gives me more motivation to stop being a bitch.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 09:53 PM
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Appreciate your response. I remember reading that article awhile ago definitely need to give it another run through.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 09:49 PM
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Great advice appreciate it man. I’ll admit I’m going through a dry spell right now so I care about way her more than when I had plates. I definitely get what you meant and I don’t necessarily want to ghost but I feel like I almost had to. Like you said I care about her so much that she’s actually ending up affecting my mood. She doesn’t reply, my mood drops like shit. My goal is to do exactly what you said just don’t know how to stop caring so quickly.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 04:55 PM
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I usually don’t with anybody else but her. And you’re right men don’t but I honestly don’t consider myself a man yet. Only 20 so working on becoming a man.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 04:49 PM
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I saved that post and will read it tonight thanks! I’ve known her for quite a long time, I felt I was an orbiter a long time ago but never gave up because it would be a extreme ego boost if I somehow got her. You’re right tho it feels unlikely I’ll get to fuck her anytime soon. Will ghost and probably hit her up again after months of hitting the gym/improving my life
/r/askTRP14/11/17 02:56 AM
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Damn that was an eye opener. Never knew exactly how much of a waste of time it was.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 02:54 AM
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Sounds good I think I’ll take your advice. So is there no way I can keep communication while building attraction again or is it too late?
/r/askTRP14/11/17 12:54 AM
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Probably the best course of action but the competitor in me absolutely hates just giving up on this.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 12:53 AM
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This is honestly probably the main reason for how I feel. I don’t have a job yet (got hired but can’t start until my car gets fixed) so I literally have the entire day by myself in a house that usually ends up in me worrying about my oneitis or other useless things.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 09:19 PM
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That sounds good actually. Have any examples of tasks to do?
/r/askTRP03/11/17 09:17 PM
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That’s what I’ve been doing, don’t think anyone even suspects anything is wrong with me. Still sucks holding it in tho.
/r/askTRP03/11/17 08:41 PM
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I can definitely relate to that, I have a crazy fantasy of her that’s she’s the most perfect flawless human being ever. How did you work on fixing that?
/r/askTRP01/11/17 03:30 AM
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Tough to read but very true. Forgot to mention she has a boyfriend right now though. It’s not the guy she broke up with me for so idk how many guys she’s been with.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:44 PM
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I feel like I have improved from the situation tbh. I went from being a depressed, lonely chubby kid to using the breakup as motivation to lose 20lbs and get my first plates. My emotional toughness is something that’s always been lacking tho. I barely have any if I’m being honest with myself.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:43 PM
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Her looks that’s about it. Crazy attractive
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:41 PM
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Thanks appreciate all your advice. I have a date this weekend with a chick who isn’t hotter than my ex but still pretty attractive. Hoping that could help set my head straight.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:40 PM
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And you don’t miss her at all?
/r/askTRP31/10/17 11:39 PM
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Damn unfortunately I know this is the right thing to do, just thinking about blocking her makes my heart race tbh. You’re right though I am still talking to her for selfish reasons. Feel like I’m “giving up” on us even though I have no clue what she’s feeling about all this.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 07:04 PM
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It sounds so easy when you put it like that! I’m 99% sure I’m making this more difficult than it has to be too which sucks. There’s billions of girls and yet I’m here stuck on one.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 07:02 PM
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Appreciate this thanks. I know I’m avoiding the more difficult road too but I’ve been down that road and it sucked. Pretty much just worried if I delete her from my life I’ll go back to being depressed like I was right when we broke up.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 07:01 PM
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I just got Tinder about a week ago. Gotten quite a bit of matches and it’s been a confidence booster but haven’t fucked any yet. Talking to a few though none are physically more attractive than my ex.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 06:59 PM
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Shit honestly I can’t say I’m spinning any right now. I was spinning 3-4 about a month ago (never thought about my ex) and I moved to a new state so I’m working on getting them back.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 06:57 PM
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Last time I blocked/deleted her it worked for a good time then all of a sudden I craved her again. Feels like she’s almost stuck in my mind permanently.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 05:06 PM
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Damn crazy how most of those are true. Although she’s not trying to get me back or I’d be happier than I am now. Probably goes without saying but I’m assuming by delete convos you mean stop texting her too?
/r/askTRP31/10/17 05:05 PM
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Good point, when I was in high abundance I was never like this.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 04:59 PM
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I’ve fucked a few since the breakup and I’ll admit during those times she ever crossed my mind. I’m in a dryspell right now so you’re probably right about that.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 04:59 PM
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Simple answer to that question is I was as beta as you could get. Needy, insecure, and everything else you don’t wanna be I was. I cringe looking back on those days.
/r/askTRP23/10/17 09:58 PM
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I mainly care about the “correct” responses because seeing them gives me more motivation to actually be more “alpha” instead of beta. To your point I was that whiny little bitch in my last breakup and don’t want to feel like that ever again.
/r/askTRP23/10/17 08:46 PM
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I’d say that’s literally the issue you hit it on the head. My last breakup she left me for someone else and shattered my self worth to the point I was begging for her back/to at least stay friends and it’s embarrassing to look back on. Although I’m in a much better state thanks to the redpill, I’d still be worried of getting into a relationship due to if things don’t work out. Still trying to elevate my self worth to another level.
/r/askTRP23/10/17 08:44 PM
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Can’t think of anything better than this!
/r/askTRP23/10/17 08:42 PM
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Solid advice thanks I’ll try that. Like I said earlier she used to be super into me so I’m not sure how she’s feeling right now. But I’m assuming her physical attraction for me is still there.
/r/askTRP21/10/17 07:17 PM
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Good point. But don’t think I’m that kind of guy to feel amazing after getting her to cheat with me. I’d feel pretty bad tbh
/r/askTRP21/10/17 07:16 PM
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I should be good on the isolation part so got that down. I don’t wanna ask you a million questions but since you’ve been super successful at it... how’d you get em emotionally invested in you while they had a bf? She used to be crazy invested in me so I know I have a good shot at getting that back but not sure the steps. Kino? Subtly flirting? Ghosting?
/r/askTRP21/10/17 03:59 AM
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Thanks for the reply, mind if I ask how you game em without them getting all defensive that they’re in a relationship? I’ve sorta tried to talk to her like she’s single but don’t think I’m getting anywhere although I’m pretty damn sure she is attracted to me. Don’t wanna mess this up.
/r/askTRP21/10/17 03:34 AM
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Yup I definitely know what it means and agree with everything you said. It’s definitely a cancer. Will take up your advice thanks!
/r/askTRP21/10/17 02:37 AM
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I’ve kinda already been through a little bit of that journey, when I’m with a girl and have sex with em I feel great for that moment but it doesn’t last long. At the end of the day I’m still the same empty person only difference is I got laid. I know exactly what’s motivating my actions.... women and validation. Those are pretty much ruining my life tbh. I need to find a way to rewire my brain to focus on important shit.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 08:50 PM
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So you think I should just randomly stop responding and see what she does? I know you mentioned it but just looking for some reassurance and motivation to actually help me do it.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 08:47 PM
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Shit maybe the most inspirational post I’ve ever read on here appreciate it greatly! Feel like everything in that post is spot on to me. I’m definitely not where I want to be but I tell myself and everyone I know that I’m fine with things. My mind & goals? Shit 90% of the time both are focused on how to get this girl or that girl it’s torture tbh. Oddly enough I know I should be working on myself and on wayyy more important things but always get distracted from achieving that.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 05:06 PM
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Good point, I’m still young so haven’t had much to deal with.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 04:55 PM
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Hm that superior intrigues me, that’s never been my personality (the opposite actually) but I’ll have to get that attitude soon. I’ve actually tried ignoring her when she sends some dumb shit but I can only go for a few hours before I start to panic wondering if she’ll ever text back.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 04:53 PM
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How do you suggest I playfully call her out on that? I don’t wanna fuck anything up
/r/askTRP17/10/17 04:47 PM
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Damn that’s a good way of thinking about it, feel like that’s a lot easier said than done. I think pretty much the best ways to get better at it are to either get a bigger abundance so one girl isn’t causing this or practice with attractive looking girls like the one I’m struggling with right now. I’ll admit it’s super hard to do that with this chick because she’s extremely attractive.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 03:28 AM
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Guess that could be part of the problem, I don’t have many interesting things to do so I’m on my phone quite a bit. I don’t necessarily enjoy texting her because our convos are boring as hell I just do it to get her to like me.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 03:17 AM
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It sounds so simple and easy when you say that but for some reason it’s really difficult for me. If I was going by those lessons I should’ve walked away a long time ago because she’s being a bitch half the time. With every other girl I’m perfectly fine leaving them if I don’t get what I want but this ones got me. Thanks for that though reading it has definitely given me some motivation to not let her walk all over me!
/r/askTRP17/10/17 03:13 AM
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Well damn that sucks to hear because we just started texting each other about a week ago because she stopped reaching out after a week or two of me not responding. Figured if ghosting didn’t work then trying to make her gain attraction again would be my next best option.
/r/askTRP13/10/17 09:34 PM
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Couldn’t agree more thanks for pointing that out to me. Don’t know if I mentioned it in the original post but before I moved to a new state I had a few plates I could see and be fuckbuddies with. During that time I rarely if ever thought about my ex. I had an abundance and now I don’t so I know what’s happening just can’t stop it which sounds stupid. Just gotta get my options back.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 07:32 PM
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Thank appreciate the advice. Honestly never thought for a second about Tinder but I’ll 100% agree with you if I even make a date with one girl I won’t think about my ex. I don’t have an Instagram so guess it’s straight tinder for now.
/r/askTRP11/10/17 02:57 PM
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Agree it’s a self imposed prison I’m in. What do I have to do to be able to walk in out that front door?
/r/askTRP11/10/17 02:56 PM
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But is it possible to have an abundance mentality when I definitively don’t have an abundance of woman right now??
/r/askTRP10/10/17 10:36 PM
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Trust me I would do that in a heartbeat if it wouldn’t cause so much pain to me. I’m too damn worried I’ll want to unblock her all the time and that would suck. I’m so conflicted
/r/askTRP10/10/17 09:45 PM
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I agree I definitely need to work on myself. What do you mean my ego though?
/r/askTRP10/10/17 09:40 PM
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Thanks I’ll have to check that out. In the mean time it’s safe to say I’m fully depressed again for the first time in awhile. Can’t believe she got me like this again.
/r/askTRP10/10/17 06:16 PM
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Damn it’s sad I know that’s what I should do but feels like I’ll feel exactly how I did after the breakup. Depressed 24/7
/r/askTRP10/10/17 06:04 PM
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Thanks for the advice I’ve thought about monk mode for awhile. Know where I can find exactly how to do monk mode?
/r/askTRP10/10/17 06:03 PM
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It definitely would to me. It’s nearly impossible for me to be happy without a girl to talk to.
/r/askTRP10/10/17 06:02 PM
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Think this is probably the most accurate way to describe me. I didn’t believe it at first but I’m starting to believe there must be some kind of void inside me that I’m patching up with woman. Only issue is I don’t know how to fill that void myself.
/r/askTRP10/10/17 05:46 PM
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Appreciate the tough love, I’ll admit I am a a bitch when it comes to this shit though so no arguing there.
/r/askTRP10/10/17 05:45 PM
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I saved up when I was in Oregon, I just moved to Cali a few weeks ago and bought it with the money I saved. I’m looking for jobs currently but haven’t had any luck
/r/askTRP09/10/17 01:54 AM
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Thank you for this bro really appreciate it!! I guess it’s hard to explain exactly what I mean. I really don’t mind when I get emotional for movies, songs and all that but I do when I know those things have an effect on how I am with woman. For example if I wasn’t so emotional for all those things most likely I’d be more “alpha” when it comes to girls.
/r/askTRP08/10/17 01:25 AM
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That’s probably my main goal right now tbh just have no clue how to achieve that. I feel like there must be a void inside me that I keep filling with girls approval but don’t know what’s causing the void.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 01:32 AM
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Do you think being emotional is effecting you negatively? Because I have no issue being this way except it definitely has a negative impact on my life.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 01:08 AM
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Good point I should’ve clarified. I don’t want to be some emotionless robot but when I notice me tearing up over a sad movie or whatever it just screams beta and not aloha to me. Oddly enough I asked my dad and he gave me nearly the same answer, to “grab your balls and man up son”.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 01:06 AM
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Thanks this helped a lot. I 100% agree it’s all in my head, it kinda has to be since I’ve never even met her. I wish I had the ability to control my mind and all that stuff but I’m as mentally weak as they come.
/r/askTRP06/10/17 08:59 PM
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I had her blocked/deleted for about the last 4 or 5 months. Never texted with her once and that clearly didn’t work. But I guess that’s all I can do.
/r/askTRP06/10/17 08:57 PM
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That’s a good point. I realize if I found a plate tomorrow I wouldn’t be having these thoughts but at the same time I don’t wanna keep using girls as a crutch. If I don’t have any plates I feel like shit
/r/askTRP06/10/17 08:56 PM
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That’s why I put quotation marks around it, and what makes me feel even worse because of what you just said.
/r/askTRP06/10/17 08:55 PM
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If you don't mind me asking how long did it take you before it came second nature to stop negative thoughts?
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:56 PM
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Yea I know that's exactly what I need to do. Like I said I'm at the airport as I'm typing this so I'm convinced it's just my scarcity mentality causing this. Hopefully I can find some pretty soon.
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:37 PM
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I can agree with this as I am only 20. Don't even know if you can teach how to get disciplined on that but if you have any advice on how to instantly switch thoughts like that it would be appreciated. But I'm sure it's just a takes practice sorta thing.
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:27 PM
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Well I get the thinking about part, but do you miss those other girls? Like I think about mine every once in awhile but just this morning I actually got upset about it which is what I was worried about.
/r/askTRP13/09/17 11:25 PM
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As someone who just went through a similar thing not too long ago I'll try to give you what I wish I would've done. First, you did great by blocking her off everything and ignoring. I did the opposite (begged her to stay and stayed friends) and it wasted so much time I could've been doing something better. Also lifting was probably the most important thing I started doing after. I lost 20lbs and have never felt more confident. I see you're already crushing the lifting aspect so keep at it. All i…
/r/askTRP05/09/17 12:17 AM
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Damn another good piece of advice. I always forget to look at mistakes as a positive if I learn from them. And Ive experienced firsthand the consequences of putting woman over money. No bueno
/r/askTRP03/09/17 04:45 AM
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This is a great reply appreciate it! Although I'm 20 I don't necessarily think I'm a "man" yet. But asking what a man would do does help put my priorities straight.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 08:01 PM
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I feel that would be an easier thing to say if I had more experience in this. But at the moment it's basically like I'm going from poor - to rich - back to poor. Maybe I'm over blowing this and the transition will be easier than I think.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 05:27 AM
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Oh the last thing I'm worried about is the quality of Cali woman, I was born there so I know. I just don't know if I'm going to be able to actually land any the way I am now. If I do then my confidence will be as high as it's ever been plus I'll have more money! Guess I shouldn't be basing whether I go to Cali or not on the amount of woman I get though.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 04:10 AM
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I guess I can see how it can be fun, but only if you're able to rebuild it. I only know a few family members over there so my confidence in getting new plates isn't so high. Being more financially stable is really what's helping me through this but I'd be lying if I said I'm getting "addicted" to having plates now that I'm getting my first taste of it.
/r/askTRP01/09/17 11:59 PM
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Sounds like a plan, hopefully trying it a few more times will help. And yea meant to type cut back on masturbation while quitting porn altogether. Mind me asking what some of the consequences you're still dealing with? Maybe you're right about the 7 part, I tend to give every hot random girl I see a 10 so my brain could be fucked up right now which wouldn't surprise me.
/r/askTRP14/08/17 04:58 PM
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• The psychological issue is what worries me, how do I know if it's that or not?? • Definitely going to cut back on porn • She's not a 7 as in she's higher or lower? Kinda confused me on that part
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:11 PM
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Sounds good I think I can go for 90. And what is healthy masturbation?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 06:19 AM
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Ah okay that makes sense. Yea I definitely had bigger hopes it would turn out to be like a porn scene but that didn't end up happening. I'm sure it varies but how long will it take to rewire my brain so to speak?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 05:38 AM
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100%? Well guess it's good I know what the issue is. It's just weird how during porn/masturbating I can finish in like 5 minutes but sex I can't at all. Thought it would be the other way around.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 05:12 AM
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Good call, in my other thread I mentioned that. I basically masturbated every day for the last few years which is crazy to think about. It wasn't until recently i learned that could be an issue during actual sex.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 04:58 AM
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Thanks! A relief to know it's a pretty normal thing in the beginning. And yes porn/masturbation have been a part of my daily regimen for a long time now, cutting that out definitely.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 04:57 AM
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Why would they love me?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 04:18 AM
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Thanks for the advice!! I'm pretty conflicted about doing it with her again tbh, she just doesn't give me that spark anymore. And I will definitely wear a condom for as long as I can see.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 12:15 AM
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Yea probably my biggest fear is getting her pregnant tbh, definitely definitely don't want that.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 12:12 AM
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Well this kinda concerns me now, is it a big difference pleasure wise not wearing a condoms? Obviously I don't trust my pull out game and not trying to have that pregnancy scare anytime soon especially with this chick.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:00 PM
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Thanks this is good advice. I don't think I was super into it tbh, I wasn't exactly in the biggest mood to have sex.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 08:59 PM
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I could definitely get it up just didn't feel the sensation I thought i would feel. I was also thinking that hitting it from the back would help, we didn't get to do that though I really wanted to. Not sure about the raw part, she's definitely not someone I want a kid with.
/r/askTRP12/08/17 08:53 PM
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Ahh okay good to know again I thought blowjobs would be the easiest to finish to, apparently not! Yea we should be actually having sex so hopefully I'll get better results!
/r/askTRP07/08/17 04:34 AM
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It was my first ever one so definitely not used to them.
/r/askTRP06/08/17 02:26 AM
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I was pretty damn nervous during all of this, I'm sure next time it'll end up with more than a blowjob so looking forward to that. It was my first one so I have no clue if she was doing it "the right way" so to speak. I'll definitely stay off porn tho.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 09:53 PM
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I should've done this damn. Well it was my first time so I didn't exactly have experience on what to do but next time I'm sure I will. And like I said before I didn't have a condom so kinda good we didn't end up fucking tbh.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 09:52 PM
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Oh I know that's what she wanted, she got on my lap in the backseat (I didn't even have a condom) but the car was too small for us to fuck. Yea I think I imagined blowjobs to be the best thing since sliced bread due to porn.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 07:25 PM
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Oh I definitely know California girls are amazing, issue is if I could actually land them. But you're right I never thought I would ever have this opportunity months ago. I feel a lot better about leaving now thanks for the help!
/r/askTRP04/08/17 09:15 PM
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In the long run yea I'd be crazy to sacrifice money for a girl or whoever, think I'm just putting a high value on getting pussy now since I've gotten a better social life. But at the same time I love money also 😊I don't want to be working shit jobs any longer.
/r/askTRP04/08/17 08:53 PM
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Thanks I still plan on going. Just sucks Ive made all this progress and I have to start over again.
/r/askTRP04/08/17 08:51 PM
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Thanks appreciate all this! I don't wanna ask a million questions but I think initiating the kissing would be biggest fear. Think once I get there I'll be fine. Should I be the one to kiss her first? I'm sure she would want me to anyway since she went out of her way to contact me. And when's the right time to? In the middle of a conversation or? Sorry I'm clueless in all of this
/r/askTRP03/08/17 01:05 AM
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Man that would probably be the best night of my life if I made that happen (still a virgin here). How exactly do I escalate to sex? I'm sure she's attracted to me but at the same time I don't wanna come off as rapey especially if she's not a sexual type of person.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 12:17 AM
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I don't know if I can, I'm pretty awkward/antisocial so don't know what's the best for me. I'm not a good conversationalist yet so I'm thinking the less talking the better odds I'd have since I won't come off as boring. I'm probably overthinking this
/r/askTRP03/08/17 12:08 AM
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Eh I wish I could do this but I still live with my parents. That's why this situation is pretty tricky as I can't do what most of you guys can.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 12:07 AM
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Thanks for the tips guys! So it looks like the movies is the plan I just have to pick out a date. Since Ive never done this is the movies a good idea for the first meet? It would be great to get laid but don't know if that's what the goal should be or not.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:31 PM
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You did good man. Trust me I acted like a little bitch during my last breakup and I wish wish wish I would've handled it the way you did. Naturally things will suck at first but time truly does help. The breakup has made my life much better by doing things I wouldn't have before, let this improve your life not damper it. Stay strong!
/r/askTRP29/07/17 03:34 AM
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I don't think I do just yet. There's a small part of me that even to this day fantasizes about her coming back and whatnot. Ive been living in a fantasy world the last few years so I think it'll take some time.
/r/askTRP26/07/17 09:28 PM
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Thanks for the thought out responses they're helping a lot! I know it's not exactly the same situations but thinking about it, I've literally gotten all these online girls by not caring about what happens with them. And when Ive gotten too obsessed with a few girls they friendzone me. Should've learned but I'm done with the online world so I digress. Don't want to make a whole new topic about monk mode but I couldn't find a step by step guide on how to go about being in it. Maybe I missed it in …
/r/askTRP24/07/17 11:18 PM
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I think it's definitely a mix of both. Ive had a few other online relationships just like this one and they took me literally a few weeks to get over and I assume it's because they weren't crazy attractive. And you're really spot on, I have a "dream girl look" so to speak and she fit all of those fantasies. I went the whole "relationship" praising and worshiping her looks and how "perfect" she was I guess it's kind of imprinted in my mind. Again dead on, abundance is probably the main culprit in…
/r/askTRP24/07/17 03:29 PM
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I can admit that, I think we both slightly used each other for that. Being used and then dropped still hurts though.
/r/askTRP24/07/17 02:56 PM
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In the long run I believe its the best thing that could've happened. Before/during the relationship I was just some chubby teenager who had no job and no friends. Since the "breakup" in February I've lost about 20 lbs which has been amazing but I'd be lying if my motivation is to sort of "get back" at her. Also I wouldn't have found TRP without all this happening. What's worse is that if somehow she contacted me it would be tough to resist the temptation. She cheated and left me for someone else…
/r/askTRP24/07/17 02:48 PM
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Wow makes me feel better knowing there's someone who can relate, especially with the distance because mine lived in Sweden while I'm in the US. I handled mine way worse as I quit my job and was suicidal for a long time. Yup I sometimes will say to myself that I should be thankful this was only online because idk how hard I would've taken a real life relationship breakup. I've basically been going between online "relationships" for the last few years and it took me this breakup to realize they're…
/r/askTRP24/07/17 12:44 AM
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Eh I don't think I'm looking for closure haha. I know why she left me for some other guy (I was beta af). Reading that did make me laugh though 😂
/r/askTRP23/07/17 09:48 PM
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Thanks really appreciate this. I've tried a few times to nofap with no luck. As sad as it sounds sometimes while watching porn or just masterbating in general she'll definitely come into my fantasies. You pretty much hit it right on the head. Any idea about her looks being on this high ass pedestal? I mean she could be a damn model ffs.
/r/askTRP23/07/17 08:34 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Before the first experience I actually had a beer and a couple sips of Jack Daniels. It's an 18+ lounge so they don't serve alcohol there (I'm 20 anyway so legally can't even drink). I don't think I drank enough because it pretty much made zero difference on my shyness. As you can guess my biggest fear is just approaching people and getting rejected. Ive thought of just trying to talk to guys there first to gain a little experience.
/r/askTRP22/07/17 05:08 AM
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Damn maybe I've been taking everything on TRP too literal. Thought I could basically never date someone because that's now what's encouraged here. Don't think I necessarily WANT a relationship but good to know it's not out of the question. Appreciate it
/r/askTRP09/07/17 11:01 PM
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This is a great post thank you! Probably a dumb question but is the 6 to 12 months pretty much just to know what you're getting yourself into with the girl? Or some other reason behind it. And I agree it's kind of hard to differentiate which advice is good or bad to follow especially since I'm new to this whole thing. I try to focus more on the veteran members advice here.
/r/askTRP09/07/17 09:47 PM
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Well I lift so I'm one for 3! Time to digest the sidebar then
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:05 AM
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Will do! Thanks 😂
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:05 AM
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I realized I fucked up. Ive said this a few times but can never stick to my fucking guns. It pisses me off since I'm probably a beta to her now. Oh well I'll take this L and learn from it.
/r/askTRP30/06/17 11:21 PM
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I understand your first part but I was pretty confident she was attracted to me. Thought she was playing hard to get. For the second part, I said that since her saying "Okay" was my way of thinking she's fine with me never talking to her again. I'm fine with that too but was blindsided that she said that. So I said that to kinda save face and maybe keep my chances of having her as a plate still attainable.
/r/askTRP30/06/17 11:20 PM
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This sounds like a great way of thinking. Any chance you can link that post? I'd love to read it
/r/askTRP30/06/17 09:26 PM
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Damn what a great response and quote! Ive always struggled with loving myself but never thought making rules and obeying them could lead to fixing that. Thought it was basically just self esteem and confidence. Always learning things on redpill
/r/askTRP30/06/17 02:36 AM
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Thanks I'm still in the process of getting that "girls are the main goal in life" mentality out of my life. Although Ive recently just started going to the gym it's boosted my confidence 100x and turned me less beta. Feel like now I could at least stand up for my beliefs and next someone if I had to. Still have a lot to learn.
/r/askTRP28/06/17 12:35 AM
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Wow pretty inspiring read right there. As soon as I read self discipline I knew that was one of my weakness. The urge to just let them back in is incredibly strong. Definitely have to improve that. Ive been a pretty big pushover in all of my relationships so hearing your story was mind boggling tbh. I'd love to get to the point where I can 100% stick to my standards every time and if they pass the boundary I can just drop them like you would have. Do you have other girls you could've just went t…
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:29 PM
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Thanks that makes a ton of sense. Of course I get there isn't a magic solution but getting advice on what the true redpillers here did to get that way will help me tremendously. I don't necessarily want to be cold hearted just want to be able to recognize when I should leave someone out of my life. If being cold hearted is what it takes for that then I'll definitely do it though.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:24 PM
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Loved that last sentence. Ive wasted too much time on girls trying to get them to like me and remember a few times I ignored girls who I could've actually had sex with. (No wonder I'm a virgin). Love hearing stuff like your comment really makes me wonder why I did all the stupid shit I used to.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:21 PM
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Pretty straightforward thanks 😂 I don't think Ive ever had a cold son of a bitch moment my whole life. Always been the shy people pleaser. Took awhile to realize being that person sucks. Forgetting someone exists sounds almost impossible. I still remember girls I dated from 10 years ago. They don't bring any emotions out as of today but it's hard to just "erase" someone from my memory.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:19 PM
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Loved this advice! Ive gone through many heartbreaks in my life and yes you're definitely right it hurts a little less each time. Although the first few hurt like hell I can sense me getting emotionally stronger because of them. Should be happy I learned all this while I'm still young.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:16 PM
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Great reply appreciate it! Cant count the number of people I'd be better off without but let them stay in my life because I didn't want to be alone or there's "nobody like them". I definitely have to start realizing almost everybody you meet will come and go at some point.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 07:15 PM
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Now that is where I'm trying to ultimately get!! Yes having an abundance of women would be great and all but that would mean if I didn't have any plates I'd probably be suffering from oneitis or some shit like that. One of my biggest redpill goals is to be perfectly happy whether I have 10 or 0 plates, just knowing I can get them is all I need. I'm nowhere near that now.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 05:00 AM
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Although Ive never fully had an abundance mentality situation in my life, looking back on it Ive definitely had moments where I'd ignore or cut out talking with a girl knowing I ha a few others that could provide me better. Just so happens when I get into a relationship I'll drop every girl for her so my abundance goes out the window. Definitely won't make that mistake again.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 03:30 AM
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Yup ain't this the truth. Before I had a phone my life was much better haha. I'm glad Ive taken up the gym as a hobby and hoping to add some new things. Possibly meditation and reading.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 02:05 AM
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Yea I'm currently working on my abundance mentality. Right now I'm struggling with my scarcity mindset but I'm slowly improving. Fuck oneitis
/r/askTRP27/06/17 02:02 AM
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Holy shit why have I never thought about it in that way. I don't talk to any my of exes and I know at points I thought going 2 days without talking to them was impossible. But I don't ever think about them (except my most recent one). Damn this was a great response thank you.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 01:59 AM
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I can relate to this in so many ways. Ive cried probably hundreds of times over a girl and even had suicidal thoughts as well. Sucks I didn't find TRP until after all this heartbreak but I'm still young. Appreciate your advice!
/r/askTRP27/06/17 01:57 AM
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Well there goes my problem, Ive always been a people pleaser. I want everyone to like me. Mix that in with lack of self respect and you get where I am today. Ive been this way since I could talk so how long do you think it will take to change this?
/r/askTRP27/06/17 01:55 AM
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Simple but spot on answer. Depending on people for happiness was the worst thing Ive ever done in my life. Even if they fucked me over I was still attached to them.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 12:12 AM
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Straight to the point thanks 😊 I'm slowly building up my self respect so hoping it won't last much longer.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 12:10 AM
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Ahh Ive always struggled with this way of thinking. Ive wanted to find "the one" my whole life that just thinking "it was just my turn" is fucking mind wrecking. Of course I'm slowly learning that AWALT and they're all unfaithful bitches so the sooner I get that mindset in my head the better.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 12:07 AM
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Sound advice thank you! When I don't have any obligations I'll spend my day online and on social media. (Used to be porn basically 24/7). I'm going to have to try your method of not touching my phone as soon as I wake up.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 12:04 AM
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Great advice! When she dumped me for someone else I had no job and stayed inside my house all day which made things worse. Got a job and started going to the gym soon after and it's been the biggest help. Only question is what about when I'm not busy? I mean there's gonna be sometimes where I'll have nothing to do at all and that's when I'll start to reminisce about these people. Somehow have to remove those thoughts from my mind. All in all I'm thankful for the hardships Ive faced since Ive lea…
/r/askTRP26/06/17 09:09 PM
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Thanks for the book recommendation I'll have to check that out! Of course I don't "want" to waste my time and energy on negative past memories it kind of just happens. I'm the definition of a pessimist and rarely ever think about happy moments from my past. Been that way my whole life so it'll probably take some time to retrain my brain.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 09:06 PM
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Well I think it's not that I wouldn't want to, it just would be really difficult moving on. For me the hardest part is just letting go and forgetting about the memories. Of course looking back I wish I would've nexted my ex (and other people) but at the time it felt almost unimaginable to think of doing. I'm a victim of living in the past as you mentioned. Thanks a lot for your response!
/r/askTRP26/06/17 07:59 PM
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Well going to the gym is my savior at the moment. This morning I thought I was going to go crazy so I headed to the gym and felt 100x better. When I'm there my mind is "blank" you could say. The gym and while I'm working/with friends are also other things. But I can't do all those 24/7 which sucks. If I'm watching tv or just bored THEN that is when my mind will start to fuck with me, reminding me of my ex or stressing about something months away. Like Ive said before just a few years back this w…
/r/askTRP25/06/17 11:32 PM
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This is definitely 100% spot on. The cause of most of my problems is just me overthinking shit. Overthinking is a motherfucker. Is there even a way to reprogram my brain to stop doing this?
/r/askTRP25/06/17 10:13 PM
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This is something I struggle with. I really do believe that we can control our emotions for the most part but it seems like the hardest thing in the world for me to do. How did you ultimately break through the negative and depressive thoughts?
/r/askTRP25/06/17 08:16 PM
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I used to go for long walks whenever I was sad or depressed and it worked wonders actually. Nowadays when I go outside it just kinda makes me feel even more alone since I'm in a bigger environment than my house. That last note was a whirlwind I must say, I wish it was that easy to "just be happy". That's my goal though!
/r/askTRP25/06/17 07:11 PM
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Wow great post! Yes I agree that I still have a lot to learn about TRP as I just discovered it about a month ago so have a bunch to digest. I have a few hobbies and everything but just can't seem to get those negative thoughts out of my head. Literally all I want to achieve is to be happy being alone, I used to be that way so I know I can do it again. But don't know how.
/r/askTRP25/06/17 07:08 PM
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I know they aren't property I'm just stating how my mind likes to think. No doubt I also have a self confidence problem to add to all this. Seeking validation from others is something I never thought I did until someone mentions it. I'm sure there's many other threads on that but I'd appreciate any advice on that as well. Thanks
/r/askTRP22/06/17 11:29 PM
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Thank you! Yea I won't go to the party looking for chicks I'll just enjoy myself and see what happens. So all in all do you think there's anything else I could/should be doing? My ex is only on my mind when I'm not doing anything so I'm thinking of picking up reading. The gym has been a life changer so never stopping that. Also I have no clue how it'll work but I'm hoping nofap will help get rid of the thoughts of my ex having sex with someone else. Didn't know porn could have a negative impact …
/r/askTRP20/06/17 09:07 PM
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Thanks appreciate this! I find the hardest part for me is definitely if I see a super attractive girl my mind will go crazy and overthink everything but with a girl I'm not intimidated by the conversation flows easier. I definitely put appearance on a pedestal and that's without a doubt the main problem I want to fix. Ive read a lot on here that you have to believe that you're superior to woman but not exactly sure how to do that just yet. I'm definitely putting myself out there more though, in …
/r/askTRP20/06/17 05:23 PM
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Never really had much of a social life as I'm very shy. I'm working 2 jobs (I don't like either of them) but both kinda force me to talk to dozens of new people everyday so I'm lessening my social anxiety. My normal day is basically gym/work that's it. Idk if it matters but I consider myself a somewhat attractive guy and have even had a fair amount of girls pursue me but I was dumb and fucked those chances. My whole life Ive never gotten a girls number in my phone and I really want that to chang…
/r/askTRP20/06/17 03:29 PM
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... And I would've had to wait about 4 years for her to touch it if we kept dating. Definitely not worth the wait
/r/askTRP20/06/17 03:02 PM
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Eh don't think so since we FaceTimed a few times.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 03:00 PM
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You're right you're right. And after a quick search I confirmed it's the sidebar. So now it's time to start reading like it like hell! Appreciate it again it definitely helps having someone give me encouragement one on one. Already feel better about my situation 😊
/r/askTRP20/06/17 05:22 AM
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Well that would solve my oneitis instantly!
/r/askTRP20/06/17 04:26 AM
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Again appreciate all your help! Dumb question but is the sidebar the place where it says "community info"? I could never figure it out since I only use the app. Honestly I feel like I'm ready to fully swallow the pill the only obstacle in my way is this dumb chick. She always pops in my head when I least expect it and goes straight to her banging the guy she left me for.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 04:26 AM
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Wish it was this easy haha. Besides banging another girl have any advice?
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:21 AM
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Thank you again! I'm definitely working on it but besides lifting I don't know what else to do. I basically just want her (her looks) off the pedestal I put her on. I keep telling myself there's no way I'll find another girl as attractive as her. I'm also a virgin which doesn't help my oneitis.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:16 AM
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Really appreciate this! Trust me there's no way in hell I'd ever date another girl online. But at the same time if tomorrow she came back it would take a lot of resilience for me to ignore her. That's what I'm working on. And you're right I'm 99% sure another girl would solve this but I feel that's kinda the issue I'm suffering with. I always thought I needed a girlfriend to be happy and seeking validation from them. The gym has definitely been the biggest help and hoping I can find some girls s…
/r/askTRP20/06/17 01:57 AM
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I get this and that's what fucks me up the most. Haven't talked to her in months except for her little breadcrumbs here and there. How the hell could I fall in "love" with someone across the world? Don't even know what's wrong with me in that department.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 01:35 AM
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Well this is pretty much spot on but isn't it realistic to think it wouldn't take me 4 months to get over someone I never met?
/r/askTRP20/06/17 01:34 AM
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