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Guy here. I had a bad case of ugly duckling syndrome in high school and didn’t mentally get into swan state until sophomore year in college . Because of that, Most girls I met initially were the ones that made the first move. I sure as fuck didn’t think any less of them lol. Actually, It was ego boost for me lol. And vast majority were secure and confident in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:38 PM
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"Not really. Women want men. Men having to initiate is also entitlement and two wrongs don't make a right." Do you know what I've noticed in girls that make the first move? They are in secure in themselves. They just put out different vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:31 PM
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"Women rarely take on that role unless the guy is exceptionally attractive, high-status, famous, or otherwise stands out from the crowd. Most relationships start because a man made the first move." Add very good looking or secure girls onto that list. That's the common trait that I've noticed in girls who made a clear first move or just straight up ask out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:28 PM
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Can't have 99.9% of people develop class unity
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:21 PM
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It boils down to how they grew up (independent of gender). And not all abusive household are overtly abusive. I won’t get into details, but I didn’t have the most stable household growing up. People either end up dating that’s a repeat of them or drawn to opposite of that. Fortunately I happened to be the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:59 PM
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Anyone who says "I'm independent and strong" is not independent and strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:24 AM
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I think it depends on the where the person is on the scale and how attractive the person is. (Note that I'm being gender neutral here.) An acquaintance of mine was a student who did sportswear modeling part time. She had no problem with getting attention obviously, but maintaining a relationship wasn't easy. Note that this is a hearsay and I've never spoken to hear all that much so I didn't know her all that well other than noticing some quirks here and there. A college friend of mine whom I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:46 PM
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Off-topic, but Henry Cavill is a supposedly a natty. He's been working out hard his whole life and his body fat % isn't that low.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 06:19 PM
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Meant people in general, not “you” per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:33 PM
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I think a part of reason why people think “looks don’t matter as much for a guy” is because for a guy to get somewhere by looks alone, you need to be literal 10/10. A college friend of mine looked like Young version of Eric Bana. He was actually on the autism spectrum (pretty mild and high-functioning may I add), but girls could care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:38 PM
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I find that if a guy is attractive enough, it works the same. Case in point: my college friend. He was on the autism spectrum (he said it himself), but man, he was a handsome dude—NGL— To be fair, he wasn’t shy, and he was on the high‑functioning side, so it wasn’t super noticeable, though he’d have his moments. Girls actually thought that was kind of adorkable and said it “made him human.” Now, it’s not like girls were walking up to him saying, “Hey boy, you want some fuck?” all the time, but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 11:04 PM
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Oh no, I’m not trying to compete, but the core point being I still had friends and that made a big difference. That said. I was physically at Bday parties, but I was in a corner most of the time LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:42 PM
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I was just weird/awkward and lonely-ish. I think I went to like 3 or 4 Bday parties in entire high school? And didn’t get any attention from girls until the very end of high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:26 PM
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How do you know if these guys are just do-nothing stay-at-home all day? I don't know it myself either, but I sure as hell won't jump onto any conclusions about it. I get what you are saying, but that’s no different to saying “Why don’t you stop dating such shitty people?” To people who constantly get into abusive relationship. Or “just quit it cold turkey” to people with substance issues. I’m not saying you should just stay home all day and expect things to change, but if you don't face those un…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:22 PM
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Guy here. My high school was a depressing time, but I still had friends (boy and girls) that took me to hang out. I think that played a big part in me not falling into a deep end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:13 PM
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Taiping revolutionaries banned foot-binding on women and women took in part in combat, administration and labor. They were very progressive for their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:09 PM
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I think lack of social safety net plays a part too. I know I’m going way off-topic, but an acquaintance of mine moved to Czech Republic (from USA) and what I was told is that people are way more chill overall. Something that really struck me was since work/life balance is way better, spending on non-necessities reduced drastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:59 PM
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My bad, I wasn’t trying to discount what you were saying. But it does seem to be an important, but overlooked aspect by the general public.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:02 PM
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Problem is a lot of it are subconscious decision regardless of gender. And often times, it’s a reflection of how a person was treated by parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:57 PM
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My Tin Foil Hat theory is that there’s social engineering going on to worsen the gender divide to avoid taxing the donor class. That aside, I’m so tired of this who has it better/worse debate. I’m like WTF does it achieve at the end of the day? It’s as if both genders need to realize there are unique pros/cons to each gender. The productive thing would be to at least RECOGNIZE so. I’m not even saying either gender need to do take some crazy action.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:10 PM
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This is why I have pet peeves with depiction of Sociopath/Psychopath in movies etc. They are WAY more discreet and often charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 01:35 AM
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Off-topic, but the real reason behind abortion ban at the uppermost level is breeding wage slaves like cattle. Now, no one’s gonna be “Pro-Life” based on that so they have to masquerade it in religions and “morals”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:54 PM
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This. I knew plenty of so called good guys doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:58 PM
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I can't speak for scent and voice, but they have friggin sixth sense for confidence and I definitely felt that as an ugly duckling/swan. When I was feeling down, I was invisible even after becoming a swan. When I was feeling good/confident, a car full of sorority girl stopped to ask me to join them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:24 PM
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Friend of mine ended up deleting Dating Apps on his phone. Because he was genuinely worried that he might get addicted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:22 PM
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I have a friend who‘s a high functioning Autistic. He thinks he has a great game. He doesn’t. He’s just really really good looking and just enough “game” to not mess it up. When he’s awkward, girls think it’s cute “makes him human”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:45 AM
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Your Description is basically my college friend. He was Functionally autistic. Still socializes just fine for most part. Just some awkward moments here and there, which girls thought was adorkable. Looked like friggin Eric Bana. Eh Nothing crazy, he just loved clubbing and some PC games here and there. Hope he’s not reading this, but he genuinely thought he had good game, but he didn’t. I mean.. he didn’t need it LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:09 PM
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I (dude) got my ass slapped by a freshman (girl) when I was a senior in high school. I was actually sorta friends with her sister’s boyfriend and told him it was gross (she was 14, I was 18). He (and his friends) were like come on she’s cute etc. Now, switch the gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:55 PM
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Call me a tin foil hat, but there are times I think there’s a deliberate but discreet social engineering going on to worsen the gender divide.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:14 AM
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This. Biggest driver of the natural selection is the environment such as climate, biome etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 09:45 PM
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Not that being direct doesn’t happen, but I feel like most of the time women tend to be indirect. Usually make some BS excuse to talk about random stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:20 PM
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I’ve been shy and awkward during both ugly duckling and swan phase. As long as I was shy in “innocent” way (for lack of better word). Not once I was found creepy. Note that I’m not saying it was met with them chasing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:06 PM
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Craziest thing I’ve seen was a car full of sorority girls stopping their car to ask a guy walking to join them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 08:54 PM
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Something that I’ve noticed with the girls that have been direct is that they are secure and confident in themselves. Even the way they carry themselves is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:30 PM
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Heck, I remember the scene from Marco Polo where Kubilai Khan says something along the line of, "You think it's nice to be an emperor? Do you know what kind of burden it is?"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:31 AM
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I was on the verge of getting deep into whole stereotypical red pill stuff in high school, (I was fat, socially awkward and ugly duckling) but do you know what prevented it? A caring group of friends (which included girls) that I had whom didn't stop hang out with me despite the awkwardness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:29 AM
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Oh no, my mother sure as hell did and i didn't listen (at least during freshman year in college).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:21 AM
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I recall seeing a humorous post on Reddit front page few days ago where it was a meme pic of a beast chasing a guy. The caption was the beast being a Cougar and the guy being a dude who just turned 21 that entered a bar. It was clearly posted in a lighthearted manner and II just got a good chuckle out of it. Most comments seemed to have gotten a laugh out of it and just wondering where to meet the cougars. Then there was this comment that got upvoted a lot which was a story where these group of …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:02 PM
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It makes sense from my observation that the girls who made the *obvious first move are either 1) Super attractive and/or 2) Really secure in herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:50 PM
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"And even now it still feels pretty unnatural. And I'm 6'5 and quite handsome, if not for this perhaps I never would have gotten any results." Are you my friend? (Kidding, he's tall, but not much as you) Buddy of mine is actually diagnosed on the spectrum, but he looks like Eric Bana in his younger years so he gets approached all the time. He's actually intuitive socially tho. It's just that he can get carried away talking about certain stuffs until someone reminds him. (Which he doesn't mind.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:04 PM
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I know some guys that dated girls from money. (I'm talking SERIOUS money here, like her parents are literal Billionaire level) The guys barely paid for anything. (They weren't poor, but humble background.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:15 AM
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Interestingly enough, from what I’ve seen, the girls that make the approach/first move were either of those. Secure and confident in herself. Very attractive Both 1&2
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:52 PM
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LOL, Girls approach LEGIT 10/10s all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:19 PM
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I recommend it to women as well. I do want to stress that it must involve sparring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:40 PM
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This. I know a guy from “old money” and most of his social circle is In similar wealth
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:21 PM
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Interesting, I knew some folks in startups circle and the first advice they get when the company the have a stake in or started etc. about to be sold is to stay low key about their wealth
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:20 PM
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Girls do approach guys, you just gotta be 10/10 for that to happen on regular basis. I’ve had buddies that are legit 10/10 Very rarely they initiate and when they do, it’s a response to a hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:11 PM
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I’ve known some LEGIT 10/10 guys. A college friend of mine looked like Eric Bana and I’ve rarely seen him initiating, girls just flock to him. He was actually somewhat awkward (Note: somewhat), but girls just thought it was cute and was endeared by that. Another dude ended up deleting dating apps because he was genuinely worried that he may become sex-addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:59 PM
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I knew a mildly autistic guy. (Functioning, very smart/academic and still social.) He still got tonnes of girls without trying. He did look like young Eric Bana tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 07:49 PM
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Thus is the problem of txt. Lots of nuance gets lost
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:33 AM
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I meant that as in agreement to you. But it is very rare and I believe it is no coincidence that the girls are very secure in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:10 AM
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Not sure if I'm talking about same circumstance, but I actually know few relationships where the girl started dating when the now-*chad guy was a dweeb. *Chad.. I'm referring to the fact that he's confident in himself and doing well. Not in a stereotypical sense. What's interesting is that the girls in those cases just had this vibe of secure confidence in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:32 AM
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One of them killed his own grandmother. Being a bad boy is one thing, but what the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:11 AM
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A lot of people that I know that got married to their HS GF/BF ended up divorcing. Don’t get me wrong. I also know few high school sweetheart couple that’s still married and happy. But it’s tough not to be concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:49 PM
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Most of it is due to Economic hardship and Overworking. The future is pretty bleak so the mindset is “I don’t want my children to experience what I did.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:57 PM
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I do not know if I would feel comfortable marrying a virgin. (Am a dude.) I didn’t know what I truly wanted in a girl until I was 21/22 I sure as hell do not want a girl who’s slept with 700 men, but there has to be a balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:25 PM
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LOL I knew a guy who looked like young Eric Bana. He was a functional autistic and kinda awkward. Still a chick magnet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:08 PM
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While mostly true, I've seen girls making out of nowhere approach. Like in the middle of the street. But the guy was like super attractive tho. No homo. (He was college buddy who was a part time fitness model.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:34 PM
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