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| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?Neither can most people tell the difference, but that is not mainly the issue. The issue is that that frienship love and romantic love aren't particular distinctions to you while they are physically, physiologically, emotional, biohaviorally widely different. That's not to say they don't have common things, but generally people are more attached, invested and emotionally involved in the life's and future of someone they are in love with.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?What do you mean "real" friends I mean strong frienships obviously. I think they love each other To be honest, I am not sure what you are arguing anymore. Ofcourse friends love and care for each other, just like families do, but you are equating that as being the same as being in love with a person. The point that it is not, and it's not just because they lack sex It's possible you aren't even experiencing romantic love differently, perhaps just having a hard time disconnectingn it from frienshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?Especially 3. I don't know what that is, but I don't consider it love Think of couples in a bad relationship or couples have divorced or broken up. Naturally, they aren't going to be good friends, but often they could still be in love with each other given the whole heartbreak and moving on process after a split. 4 sounds like a crush where you've made the person up inside your head--I don't believe unrequited love can exist with someone you're not even close with I meant it would mean that you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I'll admit, I don't fully understand what asexuals who fall in love are describing Asexual just don't experience sexaul attraction even though they fall in love and get romantically attached like anyone else. I think the major issue with saying love is nothing but friendship plus sex is that : 1: It says you can't be in love without sexual/physical connections, which is false because, apart from asexuals, if normal people were given some kind of libido suppressant , they don't fall out of love. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/20 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I’ve read extensively trying to figure out what I think about where the line is between where limerence ends and love begins. I think it’s a fade thing though. As the limerence wears off there’s a potential for deep attachment (love) to replace it, bit by bit. You literally hinged "real love" on the condition of limerence disappearing as if they are completely separate or even contradictory phenomena. The point is romantic love always start with atless some generous dose of "limerant" feelings, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/20 10:20 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?This implies that friendship love and romantic love are the same thing with just some added sex Then how do you explain asexual people, can't they not have friends, or be in love ? How do you explain friends with benefits? Or how lots of people find thier friends very sexually attractive, but not necessarily jn love with them. If you think about it this way, something just doesn't fall. I think you just tend to fall in love with friends, but that's not the same as saying love is friendship plus … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/20 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?Because what I'm saying is I did not feel attraction or infatuation until the friendship had become love How did the friendship become love without the attraction? You are telling you fell in love then the attraction and infatuation came in. That makes absolutely no sense. This implies that friendship love and romantic love are the same thing with just some added sex. They aren't. I think the issue here is that you think attraction and infatuation just mean sex. They don't. What you are referrin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I think you are still failing to understand what I am saying. I am not discribing how you grow to be attracted and in love the person. Ofcourse people generally develop a deep liking to the person before the start to have such strong feelings. The point is romantic love is primarily fueld by that developed attraction and infatuation, and to act like these are just minor incidents is delusional. What I was trying to say is people keep saying how we all confuse lust, infatuation, attraction, whate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?The point is but he was also my best friend, and a piece of my family, and who I turned to in times of stress, and someone I wanted to see happy Are build on the foundation of attraction, lust and infatuation. They aren't just minor incidents. That's why I asked how long "his my best friend and I want him happy...." will last if the attraction was gone. Whether you were fond of him before or after has nothing to do with it. People generally need to be fond of the people they are attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I was not trying to imply that regular people say they are in actual love with their crushes You weren't, but that's the problem. They DO How do you know they aren't? I think you are trying to make objective distinctions between words that just describes extremy related and similar variances of human attractions and attachment. I think it's time we admit that what we all belive of love is just our individual subjective realities and beliefs of what we want love to be. Can you even start to make … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?The fucking sort of followed naturally from all that And how long do you think you will want to do all those "Love" things when you stop wnaitng to fuck him? Let's get real people, is all about the attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?They can and do all exist in the concept of romantic love but romantic love is much more calm and "boring" in the best sense of the word IMO It's like if people define and experience love differently It feels more like safety, security, mutual needs being met (which includes sex), it's not all consuming and crazy all the time. Sounds like how I would discribe a 20+ relationship with 5 kids in between or kind of love that just grow out of calculated exchange of emotional and sexual services. Not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I highly recommend Men Chase, Women Choose which is a book entirely devoted to the biochemistry of love and how to "hack" it to get the results you want. The TL;DR of most of these is that the other motivating hormones wear off after 1-3 years, but oxytocin is what provides relationship satisfaction after that time, so cuddle more often! These studies are no way objectively saying that "truly love" suddenly comes in 2 years or as soon the chemicals wear off. In fact those periods are were relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?The lusty can’t stop thinking about them clinginess want to be with them all the time, they’re the most attractive gorgeous brilliant person you know phenomenon. I think I remember the primary hormone is PEA? It even makes you nauseous and fucks with your sleep LOL. That's literally the nature of romantic love.. It's all about intense emotional and sexual attraction. Saying true love is just caring about someone fails to take in account that love isn't just one thing. I think we are just grown s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Monogamy is flawed and ultimately the root of most male-female problemshence why I encourage open relationships, because statistically people fell out of love less often in those Citation please. Non-monogamous couples just have less reason to break up when they can have their desire and needs fulfilled by other people... That's not a prove thay can stay longer in love | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Monogamy is flawed and ultimately the root of most male-female problemsJealously can be addressed in a healthy manner by figuring out the root causes of the reaction and addressing them The only root cause to me is that I experience love exclusively and I don't want the person I am in love with being like that with other people. All your root causes just sound like bullshit to emotional abuse people into accepting non-monogamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Why haven’t women evolved to be ok with men’s polygyny (sharing an alpha)?Well ogling is just admiration Keep telling your self that... Most of y married girlfriends have crushes on other dudes even though they love their men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I'm not going out to fuck them, I just admire their looks. Lusting by nature mean you would loveeee to fuck them big time .... It literally feels like hunger, an overwhelming craving.So, lusting after someone and admiring their looks are entiry different things girl. That's why no one ever has mistaken love for admiring someone body. I admire some women looks, but I am straight as fuck. To me the only difference between love and those feelings is time investment. I think we just love to belive l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?You’re attracted to them, you want to have them in your life because you think they are beautiful/handsome, but you don’t really “love” them It's funny how we still think romantic love is anything but a bunch of attractions. IT is not. Time just make it feel so, or we just like to believe so because most of us just can't stay that attracted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?I think that one of the best synopses on the topic was somewhere I read that “limerence is about how they make you feel and love is about how you make them feel Or perhaps those things aren't mutuay exclusive. I don't see how you would love someone without some dose of very good feelings being involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Are feelings such as infatuation, lust, and attraction often mistaken for love?Love is action; it’s something I do But what is the reason behind the action though? Do you do it for no reason? While I do belive lust shouldn't be the basis of marriage, emotional and physical attraction are still essentially what love is made of, and couldn't possible exist otherwise unless we are talking parental or family love. I mean would you still love him if you were no longer attracted.. Would you still want to take actions? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Did you settle for "good enough" or would you keep searching for the love of your life?A lot of people seem to have a list what they expect from a partner and when they find one they expect that relationship will just magicaly work out. The right person doesn't mean some mystical creature that checks all marks on a perfect list .Most people aren't walking around with unrealistic lists,but you are right that a relationship requires work ,but that work is going feel much more hard ,unproductive and unnatural when their isn't physical and emotional compatibility in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/18 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,I’m not sure what kind of reaction you thought you’d get out of me by telling me I’m not attracted to my partner First I read the whole conversation and.I don't seem to find which part exactly changes the translation of your own words .Second i never said you weren't attracted to your partners ,because it's possible to be attracted to someone emotionally but not sexually/physically. Maybe it's time you explain what you personally meant by "sexual chemisry doesn't last " if you think o am.having … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/18 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Did you settle for "good enough" or would you keep searching for the love of your life?Relationship to me is not about finding the right person but something you build with other person upon common ground(values/lifestyle\goals Isn't that saying the same.thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: Did you settle for "good enough" or would you keep searching for the love of your life?Everyone settles for "good enough The difference if they actually feel they are just good enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,I’m honestly wondering how you even found my comment? By reading the comment section.?I don't know.what's so.baffling aboit this.I read threads that attract my item tin, old or new. Do you just seek out old comments made by women to insult them Yes ,because its not as much fun to insult women on new comments....!?! But who the he'll insulted you in the first place ?I certainly don't feel like I did . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,How does that make a reply not relevant ?And if it does ,why are comments allowed this far? I bet you would have found it relevant if I was praising your relationship ,right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,I actually did , but by the time I realized I typed the wrong title I didn't care much to correct it ,because it changed nothing relevant to my point . Try making relevant replyz, this isn't a 4 year olds fight.lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,Ah smarty ,you realize you literally confessed the lack of sexual chemistry in your relationship the moment you said it doesn't last right? I didn't have to assume anything about your life.Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Brainwave study suggests sexual posing, but not bare skin, leads to automatic objectificationIt actually isn't .More visual means men are more affected sexually by sexual stimuli and physical looks than.woman.It usually meant to say that women need an emotional connection or to have feelings to be sexaully attracted to a man.The point is women don't find that much man attractive in the first place ,probably because men don't care for their looks as much as women do and women have more artificial means to make themselves attractive .Another thing is I think men generally have a "I just n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Brainwave study suggests sexual posing, but not bare skin, leads to automatic objectificationMen are much, much more visual than women. Most men will have sex with any attractive girl I think that has more to do with men having less standard and being attracted to.more physical types than women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,These clients sound like naive, fairytale princesses. Of course you’re going to think of exes. It’s possible you’re even going to fall in love with other people over the course of your marriage. The weight women give their emotions sometimes is hilarious Wait till the woman you love and married to tells you she is love with another man or how she can't stop thinking about her ex whiles she bangs you,we will see much no weight you will give it.You don think it means something to not be able to ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4W&M What would you say to the man who was about to marry the woman who has asked for advice in the following artlce and men, how would you feel being the man who is about to marry the woman who asked for advice in the article below,Even the most fiery sexual chemistry will eventually fade Sexual chemistry can definitely last.Sounds like you are just rationalizing your lack of with your husband . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/18 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?So you say. You have yet to provide anything that proves this true other than your own opinion about what love is and isn't. How long does romantic live last: https://theanatomyoflove.com/conclusions/time-and-romance-conclusions/ You have to understand that the length of the effects is an essential ,because it's necessary to provoke other essential emotions,desires and behaviours associated with emotional love.Taking the long term effects away is like taking suisidal emotions and thought out of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/18 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?mean, that is what you are asserting, so...yes? You are just beyond rediculous.They made it very clear that the very nature of that love is that all those emotions are working under one drive ,they are seeking fullfillment of one tging,to live as long as possible by the side of the ones they are romantically in love with. I read everything you shared. I experience most of the physical and emotional signs, however briefly. So how does that exclude me? The point is they are not brief!the effects a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/18 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?So far you've shared three things and none of them exclude what I am experiencing from being "romantic love How the hell are they suppose to exclude your what your are experiencing?you seriously waiting for me to site a study that specifically says "oh by the way dude it can't happen for only one day and you can't possibly be content with only a one night stand,and you can't be that superficially affected by the departure"!!.I mean did you even read the common physical and emotional signs of the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/18 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?Limerence is one type of romantic love, but it is not the only one There is no point arguing simantics. Limerence is just the scientist term for a pathological or more obssessed romantic love.They are basically the same damn thing.Difference is some people just lose control of themselves. There are other types of romantic love that are equally valid. And they are?Why don't you just save our time and link me to those other types of romantic love that only last a day. None of the "scientific studi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/18 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?Okay, so it isn't about "love", your entire point is that what I'm feeling is not limerence. You're right. To be honest I thing I made a mistake with that specific link because limerence recently has been soo used exchangeably with romantic love,I did to pay attention that I might link to a study that was dealing with the original meaning coined decades ago. Lucky for me there are lots of types of romantic love other than limerence. What I feel for my partners is one of them Lucky for you there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?Why are you so obsessed about "proving" that what I'm feeling isn't love? I take it you have your own definition of obssessed too?! You insist there is a "physical reality" of love, I said romantic love you dip head.There is no such thing as love on it's own.You are still looking at this abstractly when I am talking about what romantic loves means physically. You claim there are studies that have determined that love is the same everywhere and for everyone Yes ,just go to Google and type limeren… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?I don't walk away like nothing happened How long after that night do you remain heads overs heals on love?How much does that person really mean to you beyond someone who gave an ecstatics sexual experience?How much did you care about who they are?their lives?their dreams?their wellbeing?Their sorrows? There is still the pain of an ending, albeit attenuated by the short duration How does that pain feels ?how long does it last.l?What physical and emotional symptoms does it show?how much did it rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?but humans have been arguing about the details for as long as we have had language. True,but given that I don't know a single person alive that has ever fell head over heals in love over the duration of a one night stand,then walked away the next like nothing happened,we can savely say that their are obviously very well defined and common patterns ,behaviours and emotions involved in the of flame of romantic love even if we continued to bump head over trying to understand some gaps in its myster… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?Funny I meant it as strange ,abnormal, not typical,far removed from the natural and common experience of love.In other words I thing you are just throwing it shallowly around without deep reflection upon what it means.At the end ,if it's still love to you,who am I to say no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Wouldn't it be formative for women to experience men's sexual energy?The way you felt, when you were in a sexual haze is the way young guys guys feel 24/7 I don't think any man would be able to do anything if that was true.Stop perpetuating that myth. We know,guys like to fuck.But at the end they are humans and their libido can flactuate and be affected by alot of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Which of these men is the most attractive?Woman here. The first one hands down ,he is just too cute.That hair,those eyes and that smile. Yummm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 04:44 PM |
| 1 | [q4w] would you be hurt if you found out your SO didn’t find you attractive?. I don't know why you're all as concerned about body image as you are You don't understand why a woman would be upset that her sexual partner isn't attracted to her.I mean do you thing most men wouldn't feel the same if told that their girlfriends aren't attracted to them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Why in modern society is there still such a stigma towards casual sex?To fall deeply, madly in love, even if it's only with the mask the other person is wearing Something tells me you have a very funny definition of love | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Why do even very attractive men choose to be monogamous?evidence for this is that gay male couples are much much less likely to be monogamous Actually according to surveys,only 20% percent of men will ever consider an open relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/18 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marryThen who I am to argue.After happiness and satisfaction are both subjective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/18 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marryIf you can honestly tell me that you've never been angry at your partner, or spent time wondering if you picked the right person. You are either incredibly naive, sheltered, or lying to yourself. Of course I have been angry with my partner,but yes I can tell with a damn straight face I have never ever ever wandered If I made a wrong choice .No matter how shit things got ,I always knew he is who I want to spent the rest of my life with and couldnt imagine doing so with anyone else. But I don't bl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/18 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marryThey’re marrying women they fell in love with 10 years later when the end of the teenage hormone surge had taken the edge off that “crazy love” thing Assuming only teenagers have intense love ,or that all ones that got away happen in teenage .Not true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/18 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marryYour with the same girl since you opened your eyes to the world ,how do you know what you feel for your wife s even love at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/18 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marryLove is work. It's a fucking full time job that also has some happy bits scattered around. Sounds like one exhausting relationship.If you are more working hard then happy,what's the point ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/18 12:53 AM |
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