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Yes! This sub, for example, is one of the most positively ideologically-diverse women's spaces online. Nowhere else am I able to respectfully disagree with women of so many different perspectives, and yet, people assume RPW are all just Stepford Wives.... who's really the robot woman?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 07:00 PM
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Woah, a quick peek through that sub (as someone who was surrendered as a child) was nauseating and gutwrenching...
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 06:35 PM
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Oh 😐 I didn't expect that on this sub. Hope you had fun
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:43 PM
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Wow, that's so kind of you to meet his needs of preparing a meal and dessert for him! I'm sure he truly appreciates you ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 09:51 PM
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I came here to say this! We're still separated until June, and I'm devastated to not be able to give him what he deserves. I can't have anything delivered to him outside of working hours, and he doesn't want anything to show up at his office, so I feel horrible... maybe I'll give him a camera show to his specifications, but I already do that on command... I'll just be home, in my dark room, eating whatever discounted chocolate is left in the stores.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 09:50 PM
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He is the first to truly love, value, and care for me ♥️ that's all I really need
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 09:25 PM
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Are you viewing service as a chore or an opportunity? I currently spend most of the year separated from my man, and I would love nothing more than to be able to cook for him each night again
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 08:04 PM
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I'm from the Midwestern US, and my boyfriend grew up in Turkey. Honestly, there are no lasting cultural problems, but there are definitely class problems in how we view spending and saving, the role of parents in the wealth of adult children, and the value of conspicuous consumption. I grew up on and below the poverty line, whereas he was always quite comfortably padded. This discrepancy could still happen with two folks of the same exact culture and different childhood incomes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 02:00 PM
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There have been dozens, but look up "birth control and attraction" on Google Scholar for a start
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 02:06 AM
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Nope! You're not alone! There have been studies proving that birth control makes women prefer feminine-coded faces over masculine-coded faces when made to pick from a gallery.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 02:02 AM
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I'm happy to see someone else who likes pornstaches, haha! I was at the gym other day and overheard two girls my age talking trash about this man's mustache, meanwhile I kept stealing glances 🙈 Yeah, it was honestly like a flip of the switch for me! I'm 22 now, and a lot of my peers are still into K-Pop boys and the Timothy Chalamet look. I can't help but wonder what they're taking... Edit: so... like... do girls actually find K-Pop stars sexy? I totally agree that they're beautiful, but I refus…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 02:00 AM
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The exact sterotypical thing happened to me. I went from liking femboys and out-of-shape guys to craving muscle and body hair, once the symptoms left my body 😛
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 01:17 AM
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Extra protection? Please. That CHILD RAPIST is gonna peel that shit right off of your daughters like he did to the other kid. I believe in always respecting the diverse perspectives on RPW, but you are a clown with no regard for the safety of your children. Absolutely reckless. You KNOW deep down how wrong you are in this situation, and it's clear that you are seeking validation for your recklessness. We are not giving it to you. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 02:36 AM
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For real. If her kids get SA'd because of her religious adherence, I guarantee you they'll grow up to hate the religion. Shameful.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 02:32 AM
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That's really there is to this. Sure, I'm childless and unqualified to give any parenting advice, but this is civil human being advice 😂 I love RPW, but I absolutely cannot fathom being so invested in your online ideology that you'd be willing to knowingly increase your kids' risk of CSA. If an adult caregiver had knowingly put me in the path of a known pedophile, and the said pedophile SA'd me, I would NEVER forgive them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 12:38 AM
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Imagine letting a convicted child rapist around your children because your ideology is more important than your childrens' safety 😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 12:25 AM
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I was put on the daily progesterone pill from 14 to 18, despite not yet being sexually active or having any desire to. I quit after turning 19, right before my boyfriend and I met and became intimate. Here's what changed: Significant decrease in aggression and oppositional attitude (the best change), less profuse sweating, periods now much more regular, no more spotting, really sexy growth in the breasts and hips (though it could have been normal aging), last stragglers of depressed thoughts dis…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 02:09 AM
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Isn't that letting her win?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 10:57 PM
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I like the idea of stretching it out over a few days! Sometimes the anniversary-valentines thing bugs me as a person who already has to deal with a birthday right after Christmas 😂
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 04:23 AM
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May I ask if you celebrate your anniversary and Valentine's day? Our anniversary is the 14th, and I've been wondering if we could go about it differently than just treating it like one normal day plus some flowers.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 02:55 AM
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Hi!! Girl whose boyfriend has been in Europe for two years here. He started his masters in the EU the same year I started my second year of undergrad, fall 2020. We started dating at our four-year school, where we met, in February 2020, and we lived together for a little while. We usually get to see each other about three times a year, and we commit to video calling for one hour a day, even if we're just chatting a tiny bit while doing computer work or chores. He ended up taking two years to fin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 01:44 AM
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Oof, if that isn't relatable... For me, it can even be hard to emulate the brief traditions she set for us before she "went bad", because it just hurts too much to know she once cared before giving up and surrendering us... I salute you for being able to create new traditions for your kiddos!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 12:58 AM
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Ooh, I wonder if it's possible to arrange a package of things online! I made and mailed him a tie blanket once, but the shipping cost SEVENTY US dollars. Shocking!!! I've never really used Amazon, but I'll definitely look into ways to get a nice little package together for him, perhaps through a local dessert or gourmet service. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 12:52 AM
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I don't knoooow what to do for Valentine's Day )-: It's also our three year dating anniversary. We're long distance at the moment, so I was thinking about ordering him dinner or something, but he's always pretty averse to me sending or buying him things, so I feel awful for not being able to serve him that much while abroad. Any suggestions are welcome... 2020 Valentine's Day was our first date, and he sent me flowers in 2021 and 2022, since we were apart both times. It's super convenient for hi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 12:33 AM
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I pair it with flowing midi skirts, just about daily. I'm also a fan of huge cardigans
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 03:39 AM
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My waist is basically always cinched. I do everything on her list, except for taking pictures, since I'm not an exhibitionist and I have no social media.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 10:52 PM
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Yeah, you definitely dodged a bullet. Girls with bad family histories are basically untouchables. I am one, and I have to do a LOT of work to meet the standard of decency set by women of superior upbringings. Good for you to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 06:04 PM
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I'm in the exact situation you described :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:55 PM
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*including within this community. By "this treatment" I mean being believed and respected by other women when your man verbally commits without proposing. I've been intensely shit on in this and other communities in the past for accepting a verbal committment, so I figured there was something to be said about it here. The advice I've gotten here is to never get your hopes up with his lofty talks of marriage, and to never believe him until he proposes
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:21 PM
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It's just curious how some women get that treatment and others don't, that's all.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:17 PM
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Well, did you "tell her you wanted to marry her", or did you actually propose?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 04:59 PM
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Congratulations! How do you know you can trust him? When I relay stuff like this, people tell me to keep vetting and not take it at face value. I'm often told that only engagement counts as a real promise, so maybe be careful.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 01:27 PM
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I'm sorry, but this is so extreme. My grandfather (deceased) and my uncle commented on my dress. That's it. Grandpa was a hardcore "playboy and porn" 70s feminist who called housewives leeches, so of course he said that. Everyone else is highly supportive of my relationship. There is literally zero indication that something is wrong with him, other than this confusing debaucle over my dress which I think we resolved today. I haven't necessarily dressed this way for years. I've been getting more …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 12:17 AM
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I've always seen myself as feminine, attractive, and desirable. I get multiple compliments daily from other women, and men are always nice to me when I interact with them. I'm treated with much more respect than most women. I may never be coveted, but I am certainly respected. I already only wear things with waist emphasis, and I often use the show one thing rule. I sometimes go braless or wear a crop top with a long skirt. My waist is always cinched by default. This is starting to verge into "r…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:01 PM
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Is it that obvious? 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:37 AM
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Yeah, well, I already do everything you said... he wants more than that, so I'm brainstorming ways to give him what he needs, even if it means getting out of my comfort zone
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:34 AM
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He doesn't have to have a protective instinct over me 🤷‍♀️ one less thing for him to be burdened by
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:30 AM
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What do you mean by unkept? Wouldn't it make him look virtuous to have a modest partner
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 03:36 AM
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Hi, sorry for being weird, but is your first sentence meant to be sarcastic? Also, men don't approach me, regardless of how I dress. They're always kind when I interact with them, but I don't think a man has ever gone out of his way to approach me in my life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 07:07 PM
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Girl, the term "bag dress power" is something I never expected to hear, but I love it 😂 but yes I think you're onto something there!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 06:33 PM
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I like the idea of tailored and covered! She isn't a great example, since she is actually a career sex worker, but I love the daytime outfits of Dita Von Teese. I can definitely explore ways to combine modesty with just enough sensuality. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 06:09 PM
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He grew up in a country that banned haircoverings for decades in a regime of forced secularization. Anything that signals yourself as associating with religious conservatism is pretty taboo where he grew up, including heavy modesty, or clothing that signals rurality, such as bandana hair coverings, or styles that Westerners call "cottagecore". I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with porn. His culture has an obsession with ideological signaling through dress, and mine doesn't. That's where the …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 06:02 PM
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I'm 22, and I honestly don't even know elderly women who dress like me, so he's probably onto something. You're probably right about how men value being seen with a hot partner, and I'll work on cultivating respect for that need
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:58 PM
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I don't care if he watches porn.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:53 PM
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I think the context of his upbringing is important. He says he gets pretty triggered when I wear stuff like layers or hair covering that look like "back country Muslim lady clothes". Note that I am a white ginger
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:51 PM
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I just don't know... i want to respsect him, of course, but I would lose SO MUCH if I gave up on modesty. I want to help him understand this without being bitchy
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:47 PM
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I totally agree with you on everything. The one thing I should note is that my modesty goes way beyond "socially acceptable" and into bag lady territory, so it might be different..? He tells me it's totally fine to wear a crop top or skirt above the knee, for example, which may be socially acceptable, but I don't know.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:35 PM
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I don't think it's boring at all! It's PEACEFUL. Quiet serves as the foundation of creativity, and there is no creative power stronger than a man and a woman in love! The greatest artistic achievements of man arise during peace, not war. Sure, I will admit that we both felt slightly bored at first, coming out of homes that were full of drama and chaos. When you're used to relationships built on trauma bonding (very important term for this post!!!), healthy can feel lackluster for the first coupl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 03:41 PM
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Thank you for this response. The black mold thing is really scary. I was always yelled at if I mentioned the mold, and today I am very chronically ill. I also do think he and his family really are extremely clean. His mother will suddenly stop what she's doing to spend an hour on the window glass if she notices a fingerprint, so I need to achieve that same standard for him
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 03:58 AM
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Please do not call people broken. We are all complete humans here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:59 PM
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I appreciate your kindness and concern <3 however, I'm always open to criticism on why I could be a bad wife and mother. It's also important to understand your flaws and accept unrealized perspectives on your failures!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:54 PM
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The "there's no point to it" feeling is so real. I live alone, and I fall very behind on cooking and cleaning because nobody lives here. All my friends moved away last semester, so I no longer have nobody to keep a pretty home for. Once I'm living with in his home, the stakes will skyrocket, and then there will absolutely be a point for providing the best possible conditions ;~)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:52 PM
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Thank you for talking about a "possible pre-disposition" instead of just finger-pointing "you have trauma!!!". The difference in tone and respect makes a meaningful difference. The #1 way to keep a house cleaner is to have less stuff in it. This is the core of it!!!! What a helpful insight. I might talk to him about how I want to be a better housekeeper, if it comes up. He isn't obligated to understand, coming from a vastly superior upbringing, but it's my preemptive apology that counts!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:50 PM
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I like this! It would be super helpful if he gave me lists or regulations to follow.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:46 PM
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I like this! "Refusing to raise your children like that" is such a powerful motivator. For me, I want my man to live in the best most gleaming possible conditions, but it's sometimes hard for me to even see my "like that" as bad, if that makes sense. I guess he deserves the absolute best, no matter what, regardless of what context I'm coming out of (~:
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:46 PM
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Painful? Yeah, sure. Traumatic? Nope. I took in your entire comment and only felt the need to comment on your assumptions and denigrations. I also didn't reply to anyone else's. Please do not tell others that "there's no way" their experiences are the way that person describes... You know how we say that "trauma is subjective"?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:19 PM
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Why?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:17 PM
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You are so correct. Not everything that shows up in a "list of traumatic things" is going to traumatize each persom who experiences them. My living situation was upsetting, but not traumatic. Some people just get mad when they see others thriving past situations that they know they would have been broken by if it happened to themselves (;
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 09:10 PM
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Thank you, but I would refrain from describing someone else's life as "painful and traumatic" by assumption. What can traumatize one person may be totally survivable by another. It's all about what we're made of ;~)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 05:01 PM
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Never, ever, break or give in. ALWAYS be the bigger person. Kill her with kindness, and smile sweetly when she glares at you. It will probably make her hate you more at first, and it will show, but this will get her to make a fool of herself in the process.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 12:33 PM
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I was reading a book called "The Naked Ape" that briefly covered your first sentence. From a survival standpoint, women should only want sex when they're in their fertile window. Sex is often so resource-intensive and damaging to our bodies, so our design is to only be the most receptive when we have the best chance of getting pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 02:08 PM
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What would you consider as a woman respecting herself to too high of a degree?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 09:57 PM
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No, he is. Westerners act like Turkey is way deep in the middle eastern boonies or whatever, but it isn't. Most Turks are white. Not arguing btw just elaborating
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 12:26 PM
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I am not. We are both white.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 12:13 PM
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I am not in an interracial relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 12:07 PM
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I feel like this is 1000% a culture-dependent question. I'm a 22 year old rural US American who moved out at 18 and pays for everything but health insurance herself. Many of the men in my circles who've been interested in me would compliment it as a sign of strength, citing that it makes me more responsible and trustworthy, and they're mostly also from working-poor rust belt families. My boyfriend, however, grew up in a very cushiony household in Istanbul. He pities me. For, like, everything. Ev…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 01:50 AM
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It's good to stay out of groups where you aren't wanted. It gives you more room to be authentic alongside those who do share your values.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:01 PM
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Wow, this is insanely cool! Nothing is as beautifully designed as the love between a man and a woman. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 10:56 PM
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"If he likes something, that becomes my status quo" is WONDERFUL advice!!! I'm stealing it
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 12:11 AM
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I really am not skeptical of any of them. Women are absolutely incentivized by victim culture and the avoidance of accountability to lie about rape, for example. I get a lot of-- probably most of-- my information on how to treat and handle my partner from TRP content. Edit: I should add an example. Almost everyone who knows my previous relationship from high school tries to convince me that I was "actually raped", even though I just consented to something which I now deeply regret. When you don'…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 01:02 PM
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I hope he's excited, lol. I really strongly avoid being excited about any relationship goals unless he is 100% excited too!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 11:01 PM
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I'm glad to hear you could make it work! It's totally doable for those who want to make it work. As far as I'm aware, we aren't going to have a "real wedding", so I hope the planning period can be cut out of our future timeline. We aren't engaged yet and he is not worried about the time it could take to plan a wedding. He says he'll propose in the next 18 months or so 😊
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 10:48 PM
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Yes, I've definitely talked to him about it!! I really don't want any kids after 30, and he knows that. 22-27 does sound ideal. I'd love to start around 25. He has more of a life than I do, and says he fears the additional responsibility, so I can't blame him for wanting to wait... we also are not married yet
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 02:33 AM
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Wow, thank you for this great information! I wasn't aware of how it affected men, as well. Definitely gonna read up on this
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 02:28 AM
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Yes, I hear that all the time! I only hear regrets from the other end. My dad says he wishes he didn't wait so long (40), so he'd have more time with me 🥺 he also laments "retiring and dying right after your kid sister moves out", so he is very supportive of my family goals 😊
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:59 AM
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Yeah, everything you said is true, but I never suggested any form of support for teen pregnancies. An 17 year old ideally should not be pregnant, of course, but she ideally will be looking at college, trade school, or full time work. She deserves the information to make informed decisions with peak fertility in mind. A girl in her late teens may realize that her career path is not sympathetic to her child rearing goals and readjust, like I did. For example, I originally wanted a job that would g…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:56 AM
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Oh, I've absolutely thought of that, but I figured it would be a given in this community and didn't want to preach to the choir 😉
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:44 AM
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Oh he absolutely wants them! He's been flirting a lot lately about wanting to get me pregnant, definitely just not immediately, he says ❤😂 we have plans to get engaged and stuff but not yet, so it's for the best. I'm happy that you're happy!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:43 AM
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Thank you so much for all of this wonderful advice! I really want to avoid "two under two" and start as soon as it's feasible. Maybe the man of the house will feel differently about waiting once we get our place this summer, haha
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:05 AM
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I turned 22 a couple days ago, and 3 by 30 is exactly my goal, too! I'm so happy it worked out for you!!!❤My partner wants to start in a little under five years, but he also seems to have baby fever lately, so hopefully it will swing in the right direction. It's amazing that you were never on birth control. I was put on the stuff at 15 and quit cold turkey at 18, and it really worries me what it might've done to my body...
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:49 AM
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Your last sentence-- I hate to use another lady's sorrow as a "this is what could happen to you if you make bad choices!" teaching moment, but I wish I could show that content to my friends who do want kids, but only "after living their lives". Those photos of the babies encircled with used IVF needles are spine chilling. I also noticed predominantly older parents on Special Books for Special Kids.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:00 AM
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Oh, wow! I'm happy it turned into something beautiful for you. I won't get my hopes up, though, hehe! He wasn't always comfortable talking about marriage, until recently, when he brought up his ideal timeline and admitted the reasons for being uncomfortable. His family is crazy negative about marriage and doesn't want him to marry anyone, he's an only child, and they think he'd be wasting his potential as a galaxy brain gifted whiz kid. He said he needs to get out of his head because he "might h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 11:18 PM
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Working with a woman's instincts, instead of against them, is where the real magic is created!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:01 PM
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Oh, not stressed, just confused-- until you brought up the composition of "upcoming years". I thought "five ish years before a baby" sounded like an insanely long time until you broke it down into the length of reasonable relationship milestones. My confusion just lied in my perceived discrepancy between him wanting to wait and also talking about wanting it. I asked him about it, and he said he doesn't want it any time soon, of course. I see absolutely no incentive to him getting me pregnant bef…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:00 PM
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(breathes violently into paper bag) Yeah, that totally makes sense. Thank you for doing the math! I'm not known for my ability to use numbers, haha! Gosh, I hope our "closest loved ones at a dinner party" wedding plan can cut out the 1-2 years. We will see! Thanks again
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 06:30 PM
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"Pick me"s get picked 💅
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 12:09 AM
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Internalized misogyny, pick me, go to therapy, low self esteem, abused... it never ends. I'm perfectly happy to let feminists live their lives, if they extend the same courtesy. One of my best friends, one of the most inspiring women in my life, is actually quite feminist and the total opposite of a RPW, and we love and respect each others' differences! We learn a lot from each other having such drastically different perspectives, and it never harms our friendship. This is RARE. She helps me loo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:08 PM
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