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Yeah maybe we got a mcflurry or something too idk (last time I went to McDonald's was like 3 months ago and I haven't been back because of how shocked I was at the price. I do know it was $40 because I was pretty much flat broke at the time and I was the one who paid for it). Wasn't super worried about exact accuracy in my comment since the specific dollar amount wasnt the point, the point was just that an expensive coffee is still only about half the price of a cheap meal at a cheap restaraunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:48 AM
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It's American dollars. Idfk I don't eat at McDonald's very much specifically because it's expensive and not worth it imo. The only thing I know is the last time I went it was $40 for both of us. We both got a meal, he got an extra crispy chicken sandwich.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:12 PM
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My partner eats more than I do but a big Mac meal is like $15 where I'm at (he usually has to supplement it with a couple ala carte sandwiche). Chili's is running a promo that theyre cheaper than McDonald's because they are lol. Either way the specific dollar amount isn't the point and I bet a lot of people don't consider fast food to be a date spot anyway. The point is just that coffee involves less expectations than dinner and a nice coffee is like half the price of a cheap dinner and that is …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:29 PM
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No? Fast food is expensive these days lol 1 person can easily spend $15+. And I do pay my own way, I've just had guys get offended at me even offering before or insisting they pay for me only to hold it over my head later, which is exactly why I don't go on dinner dates anymore unless something has been established.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:55 PM
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A meal at Wendy's is closer to $20, and that's exactly what I do do, hence the coffee dates and hikes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:24 PM
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Damn lol my partner and I went to a local dive bar on Friday and spent $98 and all wr got was an entree each, and appetizer and a couple cocktails. Either way it's not the point, I've had dudes think I owe them something over a meal at Wendy's before, it's just a lot easier to laugh and dismiss that when the charge is small as opposed to a full meal at a sit-down place. I can also get up and leave a coffee shop at any time without causing a scene, while sitting down in a restaraunt doesn't reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 11:56 AM
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If I had your mindset I wouldn't have gone any dates at all, since it typically takes at least a coffee's length of time for me to determine whether I'd want to go out on a "real date" with them, have sex with them, or never see them again. I also like hikes/walks and more hangout-style dates in general for the same reasons I listed for coffee dates. I've been on enough bad dates at restaraunts to just be totally done with them unless I already know I'm interested in my person romantically (guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:22 AM
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Then just don't buy a ring at all at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 03:13 PM
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Yeah also $20 ring from Walmart just isn't going to be high-quality enough to wear all dag every day for the rest of my life. It'll get ruined relatively quickly. The price of the ring isn't important to me personally, but I'd like it to not fall apart and turn green within the first year or two of my marriage. Same reason why stones like opals or pearls aren't good for rings despite being beautiful and expensive, they just aren't durable enough. A good partner isn't going to be upset that you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:55 PM
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I'm a woman and I agree. I much prefer coffee or drinks, something less expensive and committal. I think it's just better for everybody. For men it filters out gold diggers who want you to roll out the red carpet dor them and treat them like a queen before you even know them. For women it's more low-pressure since a $7 latte is a lot harder to hold over someone's head than a $50 meal could be. If you come from different tax brackets splitting the bill is more feasible since I can't afford to pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:15 PM
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If you don't want a relationship then why do you care if women want them or not? You're not trying to date them anyway so what they want doesn't affect you. If you want casual sex find women who also want that instead - plenty of us around. Also, if women are so desperate for a partner that they'll settle for someone way less attractive than they can hook up with, why is there a "male loneliness epidemic" on?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:37 PM
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"Women want relationships" he says to a woman trying to explain that she doesn't want a relationship with just anybody. Relationships are exhausting and expensive for me tooband I have to give up my single life for them. The person I date has to be way better than the people I hookup with or I wouldn't date them and would just keep having hookups instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:49 AM
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You're projecting a lot onto me here. I like being single, I've never once been looking for a relationship. I am frequently looking for sex and I've never had a hard time finding that because I don't particularly care who I have sex with as long as they aren't ugly and aren't an asshole. I (and many other women) also like sex without baggage. Why would I tie myself down forever to a mediocre man when being single is better? If I want sex and he wants sex, we get sex from eachother. If he wants t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 10:47 PM
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Being in a relationship with a man isn't effort-free for me either. Everything a man has to sacrifice to be in a relationship with me, I also have to sacrifice to be in a relationship with him. If a man wants a relationship with me, he has to be worth MY sacrifice. Like I said, I'm very happy as a single person. You seem to think that if I like a person enough enough want to date them I put them through trials and tribulations just to have sex with me. That is not the case. If he wants sex and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 10:29 PM
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If the man doesn't want to he in a relationship with me, I don't want to be with him either. The guys I hook up with don't get anything more for free than the hypothetical guy I get married to does. If the man wants sex from me and I want sex from him, we'll both get sex from eachother. If the man wants commitment he has to be someone worth committing to. Why would I commit to someone I wouldn't even hook up with? Why is it a better deal for a guy who wants to be my husband to end up a one night…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 07:46 PM
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Lol I pay my own credit card bills, thank you. Why is the fuckboy enjoying my body for free more than I'm enjoying his for free? Am I supposed to charge him for sex when it's something that I want as well? I'm not married, but the person I'd be most likely to get married to started as a hookup partner as well and has also been "getting it for free" for 4 years now (I even paid most of his bills for an entire year! Almost like we love eachother or something). If a man wants to keep me around he s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:41 AM
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Then I suppose you and I wouldn't be compatible. Yes, I have much higher requirements when it comes to who I want to commit to. Why would I have higher standards for someone I share my bed with for one night vs someone I share my bed with for the rest of my life? I'm not committing to just anybody. If I'm not crazy about them, I don't want them in my life permanently. I can ask a man what he wants, but what about what I want? Marriage is not a goal for me. Generally, I choose hookups over marria…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:28 AM
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My life when I'm single is awesome. I don't answer to anybody, I can have everything exactly the way that I want it, don't have to run any decisions I make by anybody else, no compromising, and I have no issue getting laid when I want sex. When I'm single I'm not looking to change that, but if I meet someone who actively makes my life better and is worth sacrificing my single life for, then I'll pursue them. In high school I wanted one because that's what everyone else wanted, but I grew up. I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:12 PM
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I must be pretty damn hot then ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:18 AM
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He asked why average guys had a hard time getting hookups but not relationships while hot guys don't struggle with hookups, so I explained that it's more about supply and demand in that area. You're competing with more men for fewer women when you're having casual sex vs looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:17 PM
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Well I definitely don't know most women, do you? We know different women in different areas and maybe different age ranges, tons of confounding variables we're working with. Neither of us can speak for all or even most women, each of our sample sizes are just the women we've talked to ab this specific subject. I really don't think I'm that special as I have known plenty of women who also do what I do. If I only slept with the top 1% of men or whatever y'all say it is I'd get laid about twice a y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:43 PM
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I know this aub hates anecdotes but most of the women i know don't have casual sex at all. The ones who do that I know operate very similar to myself. I've already stated that I can't speak for all women, but I haven't personally seen anyone randomly decide to hook up with someone because they were hot. They go out looking for a hookup partner and leave with who they can get (or do what I do and use tinder to find whoever the available people are).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:41 PM
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If I like them then sure, but not if I don't. I'm not looking to date anybody I hook up with, I"m looking to hook up with them. If I have a really good time, like them a lot and find them attractive then I'll try to see them again and see where it goes, otherwise I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:13 PM
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Same here!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:11 PM
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Men need to not be ugly, which is different from "hot." I wouldn't think about marrying a guy I wasn't crazy attracted to, but I'll hook up with whoever the best-looking person i can get on a given night is. Sometimes that person is a 5, sometimes theyre a 10, I really don't care what they look like if all I'm looking for is a one night stand, just that theyre dtf and not gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:10 PM
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I said all my partners have started out as hookups. I like casual sex so I have casual sex, then will maybe choose a romantic partner out of that pool of people I've had casual sex with if I like one of them enough. The people I know who have casual sex tend to operate that way, and the people I know who don't tend to make people wait because they want to make sure its real first. Can't speak for all women obviously but I've found the women who have casual sex and women who don't tend to be comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:02 PM
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Yeah hookup material is like... partially package. They have something that piqued my interest but theyre lacking other things that put them in the "hookup material" category instead of "husband material." "Husband material" has everything a hookup has AND more
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:28 PM
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Where did I say sex is worthless? Good sex is a non-negotiable requirement for a husband. I can tolerate 1 night of bad sex, not a whole lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:26 PM
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Probably because most women simply aren't into casual sex at all and only want sex within relationships. Women who do want casual sex tend to be in high demand since they're less common, so you have way more competition than you do with women who only want relationships (even if the casual woman is less attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:25 PM
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Fr. Never dated anybody who didn't start out as a hookup. Requirements for hookups = not ugly and available tonight. Requirements for husband = attractive, good personality, treats me well, similar lifestyle goals, good at sex, good at cooking, pulls his weight financially, kind, funny... the list goes on. Why would I be pickier about who I share my bed with for 1 night vs who I share my bed with for the rest of my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:05 AM
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Yeah I've had more people lie about wanting to be casual than lying about wanting to be in a relationship, but I was also only ever looking for casual so that makes sense. Either way they were still lying to me about their intentions in order to get laid, only difference is who gets their feelings hurt in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:49 AM
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Yeah I see both of these things from people of all genders and it's not only limited to politics either. How many posts have we seen from guys who get with a girl who loves clubbing, only to be upset that she continues to love clubbing after they get together? Or from girls who get with a guy who was cheating on his existing partner and then are shocked to find him cheating on them as well? I'm bipolar and very up-front about that when it comes to dating (it'll be a huge part of my partner's lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:34 AM
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Not being interested in someone romantically ≠ shitting on them. I don't make very much money myself so I need a partner who can cover their own expenses and can't afford to date someone who can't. My whole economic standard is just don't be a burden or we'll both starve. I'm also not generally interested in people who make significantly more money than I do because I find we just come from totally different worlds and tend to have different values (I grew up super poor, dated a "rich" dude who …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:54 AM
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Ah I think part of it for me is when I'm single I'm just not interested in changing that at all unless I catch feelings for someone specific. I like being single and am never looking for a romantic partner just for the sake of having somebody. I'm happily partnered now and I did think he was cute when I met him, but I wasn't interested in him romantically at all until after I got to know him. If he'd asked me out too early I would have said no which is funny to me now since we've been together f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:18 AM
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The difference is nobody dies if I don't date them and people do die if they can't get shelter and food. If I was rich and powerful I'm confident that I WOULD do things the way I want the current rich and powerful people to do them because that's the way I do things now. That's also exactly why I'm not rich or powerful. I make enough money to support myself and live comfortably (with a 401k and an emergency fund), then give away whatever I have leftover when I can afford to. I could invest my mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:07 PM
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If you're both at the same party, it means you have some mutual friends and therefore some level of connection. Even if it's too loud to really sit down and get to know eachother, you're still not exactly strangers. As far as not being the guy who's friends with women to get sex, thats why you hit on your female acquaintances/casual friends, not your female best friends/members of your core friend group (unless you're certain she's into it). None of my male friends have a chance with me, does th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:14 PM
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Yes, I only go on dates with people I've already known for a while and/or have had ample time to chat with and get to know at least a little beforehad to know if I'm actually interested. If I go out on dates when I'm not interested I get accused of using a guy for a meal (why I never let anyone pay for me no matter how hard they insist) or wasting their time/leading them on. I'm not trying to lead anyone on or waste anyone's time, so I want to make sure the date has an actual chance of going som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:42 AM
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Ah yeah the events you mentioned aren't it, I was talking more like a party or a social event where there's lots of actual socializing. I don't do sports but the few sports events I've been too I don't think I've spoken much of a word to anybody outside my group, and concerts are too loud to actually meet anyone there or catch any sort of vibe, I'm just there for the music and dancing. I don't do bars or clubs to meet people either, that's for getting my drink on with my friends (again for the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:33 AM
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I have never had this experience with strangers in public lol. I have tried to make myself approachable to people I've been acquainted with and thought were cute, but never the stranger at Target or even at the bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:56 AM
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We are all strangers to each other initially, that's true! I like to go from strangers -> acquaintances and THEN either friend or romantic interest though. I'm just not interested in jumping straight from strangers -> romantic interest. Need some getting to know you first or it feels like you don't care about who I am as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:53 AM
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I've only ever dated people I was friends or at least acquainted with first, I'm not interested in going out with strangers. I like casual sex but I've only ever used apps for that because you got at least a snapshot of who a person might be before you talk to them. With a cold approach all I get is what you look like and that is simply not enough information to go off of. I don't even have to know someone that well to be open to a date, but a complete stranger is an absolute no-go for me ETA: d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:49 AM
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Same here. I just hate being cold-approached. A: I'm not looking for a partner at Target, I'm tryna buy things I need, and B: a cold approach is a great way to tell me that the only thing you're looking for is someone who is physically attractive. A 30 second interaction is not enough for me to know whether I want to go out with someone or not, and if it's enough for them, that tells me they're either shallow or desperate - neither of which is interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:38 PM
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Sorry I wanna have a heads up before they send me to the gator gulag for the crime of being foreign
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:16 PM
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Same here. My male friendships look identical to my female friendships. I have close friends and less close friends and the way I treat them/hang out with them depends on which of those groups they fall into as opposed to what gender they are. I'm bi so maybe I'm an outlier in the sense that regardless of the gender of the friend, they might think I'm coming onto them when I'm not so I just try to be mindful of communication and steer clear of anything that could be misconstrued. Sucks losing fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:41 PM
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Yeah, if I found out tomorrow that my partner wasn't attracted to me and had simply been lying to keep me around for sex/help with bills/chores or something I'd be devastated and would leave him on the spot as I'd rather be alone than with someone who isn't into me. If it's randos and they're with eachother for non-attraction reasons and everyone's on board/nobody's being exploited, then it's just not my place to say whether it's right or not. What's right for me isn't right for other people and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 09:01 PM
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This is it for me too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:56 PM
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Same here. When I was single I usually kept a rotation of 2-5 fwbs and was hanging out, talking to and sleeping with all of them. I was also very explicitly NOT looking for any kind of relationship or partner and everyone was made aware of that before I did anything with them sexually. If I was looking for an exclusive partner it may have been different but I liked being single and did it that way so nobody would get too attached (either myself or any of the people I was sleeping with, since the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:57 AM
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Yeah, and my county has a jail app for finding unaccounted for people. I have it because I used to have to look for no call no show employees. I don't even live in that county anymore but I still have it because I'm nosey and I think mugshots of inebriated people are funny. Plenty of reasons to have apps like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:48 AM
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Why? Dates go poorly for a lot of different reasons, lots of which are hilarious. Some personal examples from my own dating experience being shit like "went to go down on him but he apparently had shat his pants and didn't even warn me" or "took his virginity and he tried to commemorate the moment with a selfie for facebook." How is that stuff not funny? I'm obviously not sitting here laughing at people being traumatized, hurt, or messed around on. I never downloaded the app so idk what's on it,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:11 PM
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The gender of the person has nothing to do with how entertaining the drama is. I'm obviously not here relishing in people being victims of violence or anything, I just like petty drama. It's like gossiping at work about who's sleeping with who or whatever except you're watching strangers do it. Reality TV basically. I assume it's called the Tea app because people are spilling tea on it. I like tea, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:20 AM
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How is getting entertainment out of reading a public post by somebody I don't know about somebody I don't know worse than participating? I'm on apps like Nextdoor and in subreddits like AITA for the exact same reason. There's a lot of funny shit on there, and I'm sure there's funny shit on the tea app, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:16 PM
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I'm in a loving, committed relationship but I thought about downloading the tea app. Not because I don't trust my partner, but because I love drama that doesn't involve me. I'm just nosey. I only just heard of it like 2 days ago and they just had that big security "breach," so safe to say I will not be downloading it, but that shit did look juicy and I was so ready to curl up with the penjamin and go through it for kicks. I think the drama and intrigue of the app is a large part of why it's so p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:43 PM
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This is a good distinction. Finding out your friend has developed feelings for you over the course of your frienship is different from finding out your friend is only your friend because he thinks you're hot and wants to sleep with you. All of my serious partners started as some level of friend and mutual feelings developed over time. I've had friends confess feelings for me that weren't reciprocated (and vice versa) and that also ended up being okay all around because we were actual friends and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:23 AM
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This 100%. I love casual sex but that's all it is and ever will be to me. If I hook up with the same person a lot and we click the right way then maybe feelings will form, but I would always give a very clear talk before anything got physical that I was NOT looking for a relationship (and yet like half of the people I hooked up with still tried!). I don't think I've ever hooked up with anybody because they were super hot, most of my hookup partners were pretty average. It's about availability an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:36 PM
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Yes! I pick hookup partners based on vibes and availability. I pick romantic partners (typically out of that pool) based on compatibility, feelings, and attraction. I have hooked up with people I'm not physically attracted to before, but I would never date somebody I wasn't crazy about, both physically and personality-wise. When I want a hookup I want a hookup, I never want more than that. Sometimes a hookup partner and I just click and feelings form though, which is how occasionally they turn i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 11:00 PM
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Same here. It's creepy when a guy won't take no for answer or persists despite me clearly signaling I'm not interested. Behaviors like following me around or staring (not looking, staring) at me are also creepy, either approach me or don't. Appearance has nothing to do with it and I will never fault someone for shooting their shot as long as they do so respectfully and directly, and I'll do my best to respectfully and directly turn them down in return (I have never and probably will never accept…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:19 PM
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This 100%. Entering a new relationship, it's important to me that my potential partner isn't going to be a financial burden. I make enough money to support myself, but I cannot support another person without sacrificing a lot of comforts and needs. I actively dislike men who come from money (we come from different worlds and tend to have different values because of it) but they have to be able to pull their own weight because I can't pull it for them. I won't leave a partner whom I'm already sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 11:36 AM
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Same here in terms of the skinny-muscular transition except I've always preferred my partners on the chubby side. Not all the way fat, just kinda squishy. Maybe some muscle underneath it. I have dated and hooked up with fit/skinny people before but I think I'm always gonna be a chubby chaser. A big love language for me is physical touch and chubby people are just nicer to touch than fit/skinny people are imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:43 AM
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I literally do repair roofs but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:34 AM
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Yeah this also varies a lot from person to person. Some people aren't into casual dating and 3-4 weeks in is already a big commitment for them. I'm more like the opposite where it takes at least 3-4 weeks (usually longer) of casually hooking up with a person before I even begin to develop feelings. If I'm 3-4 weeks into an official relationship, I've probably been casually hooking up with that person for months already, built up some heavy feelings, and am not going to leave them for some random…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 09:05 PM
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I am but still same. I react the same way to attractive people both in and out of a relationship, which is noticing they're attractive and moving on with my day. The only thing that changes in a relationship is if they flirt with me I shut it down, whereas when I'm single I'll flirt back. No physical reaction from me until we've built quite a bit of sexual tension already and that obviously only happens if I'm in a position to be flirting back. Simply interacting with an attractive person is exa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 08:57 PM
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Same here! I do the bulk of the cleaning because I'm the one who cares about mess (though if it gets bad enough my partner will also complain and we'll tackle it together). He primarily does the dishes though since he does most of the cooking and he has fancy cookware that needs special care I don't know how to give. If the dishes pile up I'll throw what I know is dishwasher-safe in the dishwasher and leave the rest for him to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:12 PM
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No, it says people with those traits are more successful with women. Correlation ≠ causation. If they linked a survey that asked women what they liked in a man and they answered <misogyny> then that would show those traits are attractive to wonen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 06:18 PM
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If you say so
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:39 PM
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Yep. I sure wasn't as a child and I'm sure as hell not as a woman, either. Nor do I love anyone unconditionally (no, not even my dog). I think my partner and I are as close to unconditional as it gets in the sense that if he became a vegetable or something terrible happened I'd still care for and love him, but if either one of us idk... became super abusive or murdered the other's family or did something else fucked up I have a hard time imagining we'd still love eachother. Same goes for the afo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:54 PM
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That doesn't discount what I said at all. Misogynistic men are of course going to be better at scoring hookups with women because they're willing to lie/manipulate/coerce. Women also have lower standards for hookups since it's just about sex with compatibility being less of a factor. They aren't viable for stable relationships because eventually the mask falls and their true colors show - which is undesirable and makes for a bad partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:36 PM
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Also just going off the post itself, misogynistic men being more sexually successful ≠ misogyny being attractive to women either. People lie about their intentions and put up fronts to fool eachother into sleeping with them all the time. If a man thinks lesser of women in general, he probably doesn't have as much of an issue being disingenuous or manipulative, similar to how they have higher rates of sexual assault. Forcing and/or coercing women to have sex with you does not mean you're desirabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:03 PM
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LMAO that makes sense. I am autistic and very reserved romantically. Couldn't imagine no "I love you" or calling my partner by his government name but the rest of it feels pretty camp to me. We also live together and both work different kinds of intense jobs so I'd be pretty pissed if he was blowing up my phone all the time with reassurances that he still loves me when he can just tell me when I get home.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:26 PM
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I think the big issue with red pill isn't necessarily the beliefs themselves (when you boil it down, we are animals), but the lengths some of those guys take it to and how universally they apply it to people. Like yeah biology is a thing and in general, the red pill applies to a lot of, if not most people. People are also different and vary a lot in terms of preferences and personality. Most men probably do like more feminine women, most women probably do like more masculine men. Just because I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:08 AM
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Oh that's wild! Never heard of that happening aside from the whole "my bf and I saw you across the room and really liked your vibe" scenarios, but I believe it. The whole sperm/egg donating thing just generally has this weird eugenics flavor to it that I'm not totally fond of in the first place. Like the analog version of using CRISPR to make designer babies. I get it to a certain extent - I'd want a healthy baby that looks like me and I imagine other people would too! But the extremes those pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:53 PM
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Yeah I kinda just take it as a "wasn't meant to be" sorta deal. I was bummed since I needed the money (they will pay really good money if you qualify) but the procedure itself seemed pretty unpleasant and kinda risky so I wasn't too broken up about it. Plus I don't want some kid turning up in like 20 years looking for their bio mom or anything like that. I know you can request anonymity and there are procedures in place to prevent that but there's always a chance they'll find out, especially if …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:38 PM
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For real! "Just donate sperm" okay, have you seen the questionnaires they give you for donating sperm/eggs? You need virtually a perfect, clean slate medically and psychologically. They also frequently have height/weight requirements, education level requirements, and income requirements among other things (these vary more depending on where you're trying to donate, but they're usually pretty strict). They also care about your personal interests and hobbies. I looked into donating my eggs at one…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:46 PM
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That's how I made my male friends too. I don't select my friends based on gender. Why does being female have anything to do with whether or not you can be friends with a person?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 07:03 PM
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Can you have male friends without a sexual connection? If so, why is it different with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:07 AM
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I'm not arguing that you do, though not a lot of women are into casual sex/fwb style relationships, and landing a fwb style relationship by no means guarantees a romantic one (all but one of my fwbs stayed just friends, and we dropped the benefits as soon as either of us entered a romantic relationship, but we kept the friendship in many cases). The point of the post is that if you don't like women enough to have platonic relationships with them, you don't like them enough to have romantic relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:41 PM
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So a spousal relationship is purely transactional to you? You don't want a spouse that you love/loves you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:23 PM
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Hookups can turn into friendships which can then turn into relationships. That's been my experience anyway. I've never had a hookup turned relationship without an fwb situation in the middle. I have to have some avenue for feelings to form for me to want to pursue a relationship with a person, and sex on its own doesn't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:22 PM
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Honestly I'd be way more open to having kids if the whole "it takes a village" thing was actually realized. If childrearing was a shared expectation throughout the community instead of being solely on the mother and/or father, I think it would be significantly more appealing to more people. I don't want kids because I neither want nor think I could handle the responsibility, even if there was a co-parent in the picture, and I don't want to dedicate all of my free time to raising a child. Add lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:25 PM
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Idk, I always had a lot of options but that just means I was pickier about who I was willing to keep around long-term. It's pretty easy to not treat people like shit despite having a lot of options. Maybe having fewer options encourages abusive behavior to try and force the few options you have to stick around. The abusive relationship I found myself in was with a very insecure guy that I gave a chance to. The whole relationship was him controlling me out of fear that I'd cheat on him and manipu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:13 PM
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Exactly. I actively dislike rich men because we come from different worlds and can't relate to eachother. I'm also so "poor-brained" that I get very uncomfortable when people spend a lot of money on me, it feels like a power imbalance and I'm really not interested in that at all. I want to be as close to equal as I can be to my partner and don't want to feel like a burden on them or like I owe them anything because they choose to gift me things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 11:10 AM
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Same. I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone I'm not interested in. Even if you desire your partner, why would you want to be with them if they don't desire you back?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:40 PM
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I used to have the "no penis no opinion" take about it and if I ended up having a boy I'd let his father decide, but more recently I've come to be of the opinion that it's actually pretty fucked up that people do that to babies. If he wants to be cut, then he can get himself circumcised when he's older. If there's a medical reason for circumcision during infancy then that would be an exception, but it shouldn't be standard procedure. I hold the same opinion on babies born intersex. Absolutely no…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 01:14 AM
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Fr I will never understand people who will shame a woman for being the parent that stayed. I don't date people with kids because I don't want kids, but single mothers (and fathers) are people I have a lot of respect for. That shit sounds too hard for me to want to do it with another person, I can't imagine how anybody does it by themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:42 PM
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I'm into butt stuff and BDSM, and I don't think being into those things is inherently pornsickness. Expecting/assuming every woman or the majority of women to be into those things 100% is, though. Too much porn skews people's ideas about what's normal vs kinky when it comes to sex, and can embolden them to try to pull kinky shit on unexpecting women because they think stuff like choking and anal are more vanilla than they are. Too much porn with no research on technique can also be straight up d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 01:41 AM
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Lmao never have I ever wanted to "steal" a man, and never have I ever "defended" my partner from another woman. If my partner wants somebody else and I become aware of this fact through his words or behaviors or someone else tipping me off, I'll leave him so he is free to pursue the person he actually wants and so I'm free to pursue someone who actually wants me. I don't have to have been the first choice in the beginning, but if we've been in a relationship for a while and he'd still rather be …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:26 AM
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For real! Like sure, a lot of people ARE boring, but thousands of women? And ALL of them boring? Either he didn't spend enough time with them/get to know them well enough OR his standards for what "interesting" means are so high the average man would never meet them, either. Like... what does she have to do to be interesting, go to the moon? I surround myself exclusively with interesting people, and I find them everywhere! I have a friend who knows just about everything there is to know about bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:28 PM
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Im not scared of the bad experiences with bigger, they arent bad ebough to warrant any level of fear at all, I just genuinely think 4"-6" feels way better than any bigger, even when everything goes well with a big guy. I don't particularly like the feeling of being stuffed full, it's just not super pleasant to me and I prefer a penis that fits over one that has to be forced to fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:38 PM
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This response is confusing to me so I apologize if I'm not answering your question, but I'll try. I would prefer a normal sized penis, that 4"-6" range I specified earlier. It's uncomfortable at the start with a bigger one regardless of skill, and it's more difficult for me to finish with one thats too big or too small, even if it's not impossible. I prefer to cum quickly, easily and often during sex and that 4"-6" range seems to be a perfect fit to make that happen for me. Within that range I r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:35 PM
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Not never, the experiences were uncomfortable and made cumming much harder but I have managed to orgasm when the person attached to the penis purs extra care and effort into making it happen for me. The bigger you are, the more care and effort it takes to make that possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:46 PM
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I said my experience with the 9" was better than my experience with the micro while also specifying i couldn't give a fair assessment since he was a virgin and had no idea what he was doing. Had he not asked to take a selfie for facebook afterwards I probably would have given him another chance. My experiences with women who have no penis at all were better than both the micro and the 9"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:44 PM
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When did I say "bigger is better" and what does that have to do with me putting up with bad sex? I said "in my experience, too small is better than too big, but that "just right" zone is preferable to either."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:56 AM
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Not for a one night stands/hookups, no I'm not measuring and am mostly guessing based on my experience, but the 9" guy was measured because we had a little thing going and because I didn't believe him, the micropenis guy was obvious. I know 7" is my limit because I had another thing with a 7" guy that also measured (we were teenagers and curious, he was 7", 7.5" on a "good day") and it was uncomfortable sometimes, but not enough to be a big issue with him. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:49 AM
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I've been with a guy with a micropenis and I've been with a guy who was 9" long on a good day with girth to match. The guy with a micropenis was a virgin when I slept with him, so I can't give him a fair assessment since he was very inexperienced and didn't really know what he was doing in terms of pleasing me non-penetratively. I have also been with people without penises at all and those were better experiences for me, so I think if he had been more experienced I probably would have had a much…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:26 AM
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I actually like dating people shorter than me (either with ot without heels. I usually have to settle for me being taller with heels though since a lot of the men I've tried to go for who are actually shorter than me were really insecure about the fact they were shorter than me and that insecurity killed any interest ) because I like to feel tall. I'm 5'7" and won't usually date anybody taller than 6' because I don't like to feel short. There has been 1 exception but that's because I really like…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:09 PM
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If I have 2 identical men but one has brown eyes and the other has blue eyes, I'm picking the one with brown eyes because I think brown eyes are more attractive. I don't know why I find blue eyes unattractive, but I do so much so to the point I have never dated or pursued somebody with blue eyes. I see zero logical reason for this but that preference is way stronger than any height preference I may have
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:24 AM
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Oh, I mean I think it's very normal to have lower standards for hookups than relationships. After all, you're sharing your life with someone you have a relationship with and you're only sharing a bed with someone you hook up with. I wouldn't call that desperation at all. I don't think promiscuity "taints" the dating market for anyone unless they're being dishonest with their intentions, it's just a compatibility thing. People who don't want to date promiscuous people shouldn't date them, and on …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:21 PM
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Well at the time my female friends were terrified by the idea of casual sex, but a few of them ended up getting boyfriends. I think more women want casual sex than men think but ultimately, casual sex poses a lot more risk to women than it does men (reputation, pregnancy, violence etc.) so I can see how those things would lead a lot of women to only want to have sex with trusted individuals over randos. Really I think in general casual-sex-havers are a vocal minority over relationship-seekers re…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:45 PM
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Omg yeah and then when I'd say "I'm actually not looking for anything serious, I think you're great and all, but like I said before I'm really not looking to be tied down at this point in my life" they'd flip tf out. "But I thought I changed your mind!" "So I'm just not good enough for you?" "Why didn't you say anything?" I would be VERY clear with people that I wasn't looking for a relationship before we even went out for the first time because I really didn't want to hurt anybody. At that poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:29 PM
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Some of them were awkward, most of them were normal. Same as doing any other activity with another person, it was really only awkward when we weren't on the same page about what we were doing. I don't think women inherently get more encounters than men but I do think it's easier for them to get them when they want them. I was definitely having more sex than my other female friends were at the time, but we were also in catholic university and most of them were practicing catholics and/or at least…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:14 PM
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Yeah I've generally had the opposite problem where the men I've gone out with, even after I specify I'm not looking for a relationship, end up being upset that I don't want one with them by the third meet up or so. Not all of them, I've had many successful casual fwb type situations and hookups where nobody got hurt, so a lot of men definitely are only looking for casual stuff. I wouldn't say the majority of them are though. A lot of them say they want something casual but don't mean it, too. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:26 PM
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Yeah even ignoring affording children, poverty absolutely inhibits dating. I have a friend who's been in and out of poverty their whole life which has caused a number of invisible health problems and also some very visible dental issues. They don't feel comfortable dating until they get their mouth fixed and they can't afford to do that anytime soon. A lot of people having to live with their parents is also a big inhibitor. Kinda hard to bring someone home when your parents are there and being n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:07 PM
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I'm very much a "let women wear whatever they want" person BUT there is a time and a place for dressing like this. I don't even think this outfit is "slutty" at all, but it's not for work. Most offices (or workplaces in general) have dresscodes and this outfit is simply not appropriate for almost any professional environment and she would get a talking to from HR. The pants are totally fine imo but the shirt is way too revealing. Like it's a super cute outfit and would absolutely eat at the farm…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:51 PM
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I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head here if I'n understanding you correctly. When women say "I don't like muscles" what they usually mean is that they don't like giant, bodybuilder/gym bro in-your-face type muscles. Women do tend to like a lean, toned, fit style of muscular man though. When men say they don't like makeup they mean they don't like the super bold, garishly-contoured, heavy makeup look. Those men do tend to like makeup when it's more natural and toned down, though, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:10 AM
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I'm in an age gap relationship. I don't think they're inherently creepy (obviously) but for me I so think it's kinda weird when people (regardless of age or gender) actively seek out people much older/younger than them, it just feels weird and fetishy to me. Like, I probably wouldn't be with my partner if he had historically refused to date people his own age and exclusively dated people ~10 years younger than him, it'd be too weird for me. Since we just happened to meet, click, and then find ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:10 AM
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This makes sense! I'm in the north and was shocked that even 25% of people get married in their early 20s. Literally the only people I know who got married before like 27 all had oopsie babies as teenagers and got married for that reason. Figured the only other reason people would get married so young is religious reasons or something, but knowing that's just a general cultural thing in the south definitely clears some stuff up for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:47 PM
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I just don't like kids. I think they're gross and they freak me out. Occasionally they do some cute stuff but I really can't handle more than a few hours around them. I do like being in a relationship, though. It's nice to love somebody and be loved by somebody. My partner and I take care of eachother and help eachother out when we need it. Why should somebody want to have kids in order to want those other things?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:08 AM
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One of my guy friends told me he had a girl over that just started sucking his toes out of nowhere and that it freaked him out at first but he ended up liking it. So yes there are girls who are into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 10:27 PM
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It's one thing to learn how to perform things your partner likes doing, and it's another thing to actually enjoy doing them. If I'm really into bondage but my partner hates it, then we aren't compatible. If my partner only likes anal and I hate it, we aren't compatible. If my partner hates giving oral but I need oral to get off, we aren't compatible. Personally, no matter how much I enjoy a sex act, all of the pleasure for me is removed if I know my partner doesn't like doing it. It doesn't matt…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 10:21 PM
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I'm talking about getting married at 20 because that's what my entire comment was about. I was piggy backing off someone else saying why they don't think getting married at 20 is ideal. I didn't mention anything about SMV in my comment at all, even if that's what the og post was about, just that I'm glad I didn't get married at 20. Seems like we're having two entirely different conversations here - not sure if you responded to the wrong person or what but I'm tapping out of the conversation beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 07:42 PM
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Im still very confused about what your point is. Obtaining $100 mil at 20 is infinitely more valuable than marrying somebody. You can secure a high value partner at 20 without getting married to them. Receiving a large sum of money is only a net benefit. Getting married at 20 may end up being a good thing, or it may end up being the biggest mistake of somebody's life. Receiving $100 mil is no risk, high reward. Getting married 2 years into adulthood is high risk, low reward. If you want to marry…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:45 PM
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Okay, but receiving $100 mil on your 20th birthday and getting married at 20 are still wildly different things. Money can be traded for goods and services, a human being cannot. Money doesn't require commitment and sacrifice (it actually frees you from both of those things) while getting married does. My point was simply that if I had gotten married at 20, I would almost certainly not be compatible with that person today and we would either both be miserable and/or be divorced already. If you fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:00 PM
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I'm confused by how recieving $100 mil is comparable in any way shape or form to getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:32 PM
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I wanna add that people change over time, and the early-mid 20s is when a lot of people are figuring out who they are. I'm 25 now and a completely different person than I was when I was 20. Not only am I looking for different things, but I have completely different things to offer. I have different hobbies, friends, opinions on important things, values, skillsets. Hell, I'm queer now and I did not identify as such 5 years ago. If I had gotten married to somebody when I was 20, we probably would …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:50 PM
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I was a server at various establishments for like 6 years and every single one, I would ask "together or separate?" At the beginning of the meal and keep track of what orders go on what tabs on my little notepad if they were separate. They'd all get sent to the kitchen together but at the end I'd separate them out to print the checks. For 2 people it added maybe 10 seconds to my cash-out time. For larger parties it took longer than that, but its a complete nonissue to separate two separate order…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 11:05 AM
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It's actually a fairly recent thing for men not to wear makeup. Historically, makeup was worn by both men and women. It wasn't until the mid-1800s that it fell out of fashion for men. Seems like it was specifically Queen Elizabeth I and the Church of England that ruined it and by the Victorian era it was phased out for men. It's true that a lot of women aren't a fan of makeup on men, but there are ways to use makeup that give a more "natural" look that might not even be noticed. I have a friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:42 PM
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I would say culturally we are pushed. By whom specifically? Most often our own family members. People want grandchildren, nieces and nephews, etc. I'm lucky enough that my family doesn't care (or maybe they've just given up on me lol) but I know plenty of other women whose family are pushy in this regard. Also, there are plenty of reasons not to have children in your 20s beyond wanting perky boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:18 PM
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Nobody said anything about manipulating people? I'm very clear that I'm only looking for sex if sex is the only thing I'm looking for. I'm just saying that if I think someone is "husband material" I'm putting a lot more effort into getting with/keeping that person than someone I'm not interested in romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:38 PM
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Husband guy has a night with me as soon as possible. If I think someone is husband material I am eager to get with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:36 AM
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Who said I didn't feel excitement or urgency about someone I deem husband material? There very much is. What do you think "crazy about him and want him above all else" means? I wouldn't want to marry someone I wasn't extremely sexually attracted to. There is no excitement or urgency about the person I'm having a ONS with. If I'm having a ONS, it's because I wanted to have sex that night and I'm going to hook up with the first person who passes a vibe check. They're attractive enough to have sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:28 AM
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To me the implication is that he's TOO good for a ONS. If I have a ONS with somebody, I'm done with them after that one night and never want to see them again. Either because the sex was bad, I wasn't that attracted to them, or didn't like them for other reasons. If I'm having a ONS with somebody, it's because I'm not that into them. More of an "ehhhh I guess you'll do" kinda vibe. If I want to make somebody my husband it's because I'm crazy about him and want him above anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:18 PM
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Sure, but a lot of them are also looking to date women they like regardless of how many people they've hooked up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:18 PM
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Wouldn't you be at work while she's at work? My partner and I both have full-time jobs (8+ hours per day, I do animal control, he works at a harware store) and we work similar schedules so we can spend time together. If you have a job and aren't home anyway, then what would it matter if your wife was at her own job? If both of you are employed, you're spending no less time together than if only one of you was (if you coordinate hours) AND you have more money to spend even more time together, lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:45 PM
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Exactly, especially if you pick a hobby you actually like and then go and actually pursue it instead of merely just showing up to get women. It's a great networking opportunity and a great way to build community for yourself, plus being passionate about something in combination with being good at that thing is absolutely an attractive quality. If an average looking guy shows up to a pottery studio and makes a couple shitty pots he's not gonna get women. If an average looking guy shows up to a po…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 05:29 PM
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Yeah it'd be delusional to insist on a 6'5" blonde millionaire and then go bitching about how there aren't any men who are good enough for her in Milton, Wisconsin. If a woman is content with being single, though, it is absolutely not delusional at all to have standards, no matter how astronomically high they are. It's not delusional if she doesn't wanna date anybody who isn't a 6'5" blonde millionaire, but it would be delusional to demand one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 12:59 PM
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I care what he does in the sense that an interesting job is more desirable than a boring job since it means he's more likely to be an interesting person. I also care in the sense that I would actually prefer someone who doesn't make a lot of money//makes a similar amount to myself because they're easier to relate to and I have more respect for them, as long as they're not totally broke and can support themselves. I also just have opinions on money and rich people that are pretty incompatible wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:25 PM
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Right like what jobs do "loose women" have? Throughout my "loose woman" days I had 3 different jobs and I'm gonna be really impressed if this guy guesses even one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:18 PM
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Fr I dress the same exact way when I'm single and when I'm in a relationship. I dress the way that I do because I like to look like that, not because I want other people to like it. I dress in a way that I feel reflects the type of person I am. If that's attractive to people then cool, if it's not attractive to people then that's cool too. Really the only time I consider how others will perceive me at all is when I'm dressing for formal events.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:36 PM
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The reason rape is so heinous is because it involves the loss of personal autonomy. It's also the reason a lot of women end up needing abortions in the first place. If no-fault divorce gets taken then women will have to worry about spousal rape a lot more too. Rape is definitely a huge risk for women. 1 in for women have been sexually assaulted. Also, 1 in 4 women have an abortion during their lifetime. Abortion affects the same amount of women as rape does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:49 PM
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Lmao what world do you live in? Women already have to work for everything we get. Every woman I know has a job and pays their own bills. We're certainly not getting free trips to Dubai and shopping sprees. Unless you're rich and famous, absolutely no woman is expecting any of this shit from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 02:26 PM
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Oh I'm aware of it's origins, it's because of how bastardized it's become that I've asked for clarification. Generally the people using it aren't using it correctly to the point where it's nearly impossible to know what someone means when they use the word (which is unfortunate).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 10:17 PM
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Can I ask what you mean by "wokeness" because I thought it just meant anything that didn't align with traditional conservative Christian values and I'm confused as to how you can be "liberal but not woke"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 12:33 AM
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100% If you voted for Trump, that means you actively voted against my freedoms to express myself (I'm gender nonconforming) and to have control over my own body (I'm also female). It's a compatibility issue when it comes to personal values at the absolute best, and if I happen to get pregnant it's a death sentence. Even if you don't hold those specific views and "voted with your wallet" I still want nothing to do with you. You don't care about me or people like me, plain and simple. If you didn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:43 PM
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People absolutely do cheat, I've been cheated on before. My point is I won't enter a monogamous relationship with someone I don't trust not to cheat on me. Ofc you can be wrong about people, and you shouldn't blindly trust people, but by the time you commit to somebody you should have built up some level of trust. Otherwise why would you commit to that person at all? Trust is the most important aspect of any committed relationship to me, and if I don't have trust with somebody I'm not going to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:25 AM
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Then don't date lol. If you can't trust your partner to be loyal to you, it makes no sense to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:05 AM
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I'm confused, why would letting a male friend go through your messaging apps make him go away?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 02:58 PM
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The comment they made was in support of body hair and the comment they were responding to was also in support of body hair. They didn't change their opinion on body hair when they found out they were responding to a woman complaining that their body hair can't just be normal, just took back being confrontational about it because they agree with eachother that if someone has an issue with female body hair they just need to get over it. That's how I interpreted the situation anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:11 PM
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No. First off, I like being single. I've never once sought out a relationship. If we catch feelings for eachother then we'll discuss a relationship, but I'm extremely hesitant to want to commit to somebody. If I am going to commit to only having sex with one person indefinitely, then yes I do need to find them attractive physically and non-physically. They also have to be good at sex and fun to hang out with. If I'm sacrificing my single life for somebody, then they have to be the whole package …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 12:43 AM
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I don't find a lot of men attractive, I'm bisexual with a preference for women, but just because I don't find someone attractive doesn't mean I think they're ugly. I'll still sleep with people I'm not attracted to, but I won't sleep with someone I find to be ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:34 PM
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By that logic it seems that it's not men and women that are incompatible, but just that LTRs in general aren't realistic if I'm understanding correctly? I'm bisexual and my female partners and I have also drifted apart over time, it happens. LTRs don't mean certainty for women either. I'm generally not an LTR person anyway, like i said I prefer to be single, but if you catch feelings you catch feelings ¯_(ツ)_/¯ then when/if you grow apart, you break up. The relationship always ends anyway, if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:32 PM
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Good sex is a thing I value too, which is why if the sex is bad//I don't find someone attractive, I won't have sex with that person again and certainly won't date them. Why would anybody be sexually exclusive with someone who sucks at sex? There are plenty of people who are good at sex out there, and they aren't difficult to find. Good sex is not something I'm willing to compromise on in any sexual relationship, romantic or not. Ultimately, romantic relationships are about love and companionship…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:37 PM
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Yes? He knows my standards for hookups are lower than they are for relationships lol, he started as a hookup partner and now I'm with him exclusively because he meets my high relationship standards. I like being single so you have to be pretty great if I'm gonna sacrifice being single for you. I make sure he knows how great I think he is often.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:16 PM
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She said she wouldn't bang uggos. Idk ab you but I wouldn't call "average" ugly. I feel like ugly means repulsive and most people aren't repulsive. Plenty of average people are physically attractive, they're just not perfect 10s. Most people are average and most people date within 1 or 2 "attractiveness points" of themselves. Ugly people date ugly people, average people date average people, and beautiful people date beautiful people generally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:51 AM
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Not the commenter you're responding to but above also hooked up with plenty of people I wasn't attracted to. A lot of the time I just wanted to get laid so the first person I'd match with on tinder who wasn't a creepy weirdo would be good enough, even if I wasn't that attracted to them. When I'm looking for a hookup partner I am simply looking for sex. It doesn't matter if I'm attracted to them or not if it's just a one time thing, as long as I'm not actively repulsed by them. If it turns out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:38 AM
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That article is behind a paywall, but if those men get more sex then good for them. They sure as hell wont be getting any sex from me, tho ¯_(ツ)_/¯ For me I couldn't fathom having sex with a conservative. Ignoring the rest of the views I disagree with, what if he gets me pregnant? It's not a risk I'm willing to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 10:04 PM
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Washing the dishes and being pro-choice won't get me to sleep with a person alone, true. However, if a man won't wash the dishes and is anti-choice then he can bet his bottom dollar I won't date or sleep with him no matter how physically attractive I thought he was. These behaviors aren't necessarily attractive by themselves, but the lack of these behaviors is unattractive enough to disqualify people for me and I think that's what a lot of women mean when they say stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:25 PM
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It isn't if you haven't been told to vacate. Leases have tons of things in them and people violate their leases every day with their landlords never even knowing. If my lease says no pets, and I get a cat my landlord doesn't know about, I've violated my lease but I'm not getting evicted until the landlord finds out and tells me I'm evicted. Lease violations don't always end in evictions either. You are squatting if you are living somewhere you don't have permission to live. If the permission has…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:58 AM
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We weren't talking about squatting (and even then there are squatters rights in the US, although I'm not well versed in those), we were talking about an apartment that you have a lease for and have stopped paying rent. Not paying rent ≠ ending the lease. It will usually get you evicted, but if you haven't been evicted you don't have to vacate. My uncle is a landlord and had a tenant that didn't pay her rent for months but he didn't evict her and she stayed. After signing a lease, until either th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:29 AM
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No? If you haven't been evicted, you still have the right to be there. If your landlord has given you notice to vacate/started the eviction process then you have to leave but until your landlord tells you you have to leave, you can legally stay. Also, not paying your rent won't get you arrested since not paying rent isn't a crime. If you fail to vacate after being evicted it could lead to arrest, but you are fully entitled to be there until you are formally asked to leave. Circling back to the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:11 PM
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No because you can still stay in your apartment until the landlord evicts you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 09:20 PM
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I'm not a man and I also don't attach emotional intimacy to sex. I typically prefer to keep it casual than enter romantic relationships in general. Sex with someone you love is great, but sex with someone you just met a couple hours ago and will never see again is also great, and the stuff in between is great too (fwb has historically been my favorite). I don't think this means I think less of people, I just don't think sex is that big of a deal. I don't get why someone consensually "entering my…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:20 PM
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If you stop paying rent and get evicted, yes you violated your contract, but your landlord is still the one that evicted you and officially ended the tenant/landlord relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:33 PM
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That's the thing, you're 100% entitled not to call 911 and I'm 100% entitled to think you're a shitty person if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:04 AM
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Nobody's gonna die if a woman doesn't do those things, tho (with the exception of taking care of her existing children, which the father is equally obligated to). The woman is equally obligated to do something in the scenario of witnessing an attack as a man is, even if that something is just calling 911. Nobody is obligated to put themselves in harms way to save another person, sometimes it's not even the decent thing to do/could make things worse. Calling 911 is easy and safe for everyone to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:15 PM
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We don't even need a higher conviction rate for me to feel better tbh, I just want convicted rapists to like actually serve time for their crimes. There are cases like Brock Turner or that olympic tennis player where there is undeniable proof, they are found guilty, and then get an extremely light-no sentence because they're such a "bright young gentleman" and we "don't wanna ruin his future." Yes women generally serve less jail time than men for the same crimes, but it's absolutely insane to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 05:42 AM
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Right he keeps responding to people saying that "it's harder to understand arguments you don't agree with" but I don't even know whether or not I agree with him because I have no idea what point he's trying to make. I agree that bad sex shouldn't be illegal, I also agree that implied consent is a thing (me and my partner have been together for 3 years, we don't need to explicity ask for consent every time we have sex). I ALSO think that when having sex with somebody new, it's good practice not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:17 PM
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Absolutely, it's appropriate for anybody to reject anybody for any reason. If my partner wasn't comfortable with my friends than we simply wouldn't be compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 02:18 PM
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For me yes they were friendships with sex, not romantic (i.e. we'd hang out with and without clothes on but wouldn't go on "dates"). The only difference between an fwb and a regular friend was whether or not we were having sex. I'm still friends with most of them despite having been in a monogamous relationship for a few years now, there just aren't benefits anymore. I had one catch some feelings for me once and we ceased the benefits, but kept the friendship. I remember asking him if it would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:43 AM
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Women are not a monolith, everybody has different wants and needs out of life. I obviously don't speak for all women or even most women, but many women are like me. When I'm single I'm spending my time enjoying being single and actively avoiding being tied down. If I meet somebody I like enough to partner up with, then I do (how I got into my current relationship), but ultimately I enjoy the freedoms of being single and living alone. I like being able to do whatever I want whenever I want. Relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:02 AM
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Ah, glad we're on the same page! A lot of men on this sub specifically (and a couple others) keep pushing this idea but irl I've only ever been asked about my n-count once. It was like 5 years ago now by a guy I was talking to on tinder and he was asking to make sure I wasn't inexperienced. It doesn't make sense to me when men want women to be available sexually but then shame them for doing so. I think they just want to complain and/or call these women low-value to make themselves feel better a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:59 AM
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I do think that most women care more about what other women think than what men think, but ultimately, I think women mostly do things for themselves and not to impress others. It's possible that men becoming a rarity would make them a status symbol, but I think it's a minority of women that actually care about things like that. Women want things that make /them/ happy, not things that make other people happy. I could just be projecting but that's been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:25 AM
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I know plenty of women who have one night stands (myself among them when I'm not in a relationship) but we're always told we're whores when we do that and that the more people we sleep with, the more disgusting we are. I thought women who sleep around were undesirable and low-value. Also, being single means not being in a relationship, not being celibate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:18 AM
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100%. Women generally would prefer to be single than with a man they don't like. Women outnumbering men by this far of a margin is just gonna lead to more childless cat ladies and lesbians (I say this as someone who is happily childless and into women). Men aren't competing with eachother for women anymore as much as they're competing with women's single lifestyles. Even if Women outnumber men 2:1, a man still has to be desirable if he wants to, well, be desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:31 AM
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It has everything to do with personality. Ben Shapiro is physically my type but I find his personality repulsive and wouldn't sleep with him if he paid me. My partner loves me for who I am and is aware of my sexual past, but thanks for your concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:32 AM
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How? The entire first paragraph is about what I find attractive. I would only hook up with people I find attractive. Also I'm definitely not claiming to know anybody I've had a one night stand with, that's silly. I don't need to "like-like" them, I just need to be able to have a pleasant conversation with someone and see if we "vibe" outside of sex or else there just isn't any attraction on my side. It's not about vetting people as much as it is about needing some time to figure out whether or n…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 02:15 AM
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Exactly. Can't tell you how many times I've thought somebody was super cute... until they opened their mouth lmao. I'm not going to say looks don't matter, but the difference for me is that an attractive personality can cause me to grow attracted to someone I otherwise wouldn't look twice at, and an ugly personality instantly makes someone who would be the hottest person in the room into the most repulsive. Even for one night stands/tinder hookups, I'd schedule some kind of casual hangout with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:20 AM
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Yes I don't understand what you mean by applying it, which is why I'm asking for clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 06:44 PM
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Fr. I've been asked my n-count by exactly one person like 5 years ago and it was because he wanted to make sure he wasn't about to hook up with someone inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:46 PM
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Is that not already a thing tho? I'm not friends with anybody I don't want to be friends with, nor should anybody be. Same with love and commitment and effort. You give those things to a person because you want to, not because they want you to. If you don't want to give those things to a person you aren't obligated to, regardless of gender. Are you not already implementing this concept? Basic respect/politeness is societally expected but not an obligation by any means. You can be as rude/mean to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:23 AM
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I'm just curious what applying it irl looks like since people already aren't entitled to anything from eachother regardless of gender
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:11 PM
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Most of the things you've listed would do more harm than help. Women will think you're weird or desperate For real! When I'm on a first date w a man I want to feel comfortable and relaxed. So much of this list is overly formal and would put me on edge. The last 4 are really the only ones on this list that wouldn't weird me out (except that I prefer to go dutch but if he insists on paying it's not a big deal or red flag to me). The rest of the list would be appropriate for like a special annivers…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 11:39 AM
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Genuinely curious, what do you mean by "acting upon that concept?"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:20 PM
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So I should just say yes to every man that approaches me because it's mean not to? You can kindly reject people, there are a million reasons not to go out with someone that have nothing to do with that person at all. What if she already has a boyfriend? Is it still unkind to reject another man's advances? What if she's a lesbian? What if she's just not into you? If she accepts your approach knowing she is not into you, wouldn't she just be leading you on? Of course there are unkind ways to rejec…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:12 PM
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100%, I have a Rottweiler mix too so he's a little more expensive than a small dog, although my dog really only costs me about $100/mo to feed and take to the vet. Obviously I don't have one but I just googled it and a baby costs like $16,000-$17,000 a year without including medical so wayyyy different ballparks. My dog also is not expected to live past like 12 or so if I'm lucky, so (without including medical emergencies) my dog's entire life still costs less than one year of childcare on paper
/r/MensRights08/08/24 11:12 AM
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I mean yes and no. Kids are expensive af and if you're not in a position to be able to financially support a child, then you shouldn't have one. That's not to say you have to be rich to have children, kids can absolutely have happy childhoods without fancy clothes and expensive toys, but if you're unable to afford to feed, clothe, or take your kids to the doctor (basically provide basic needs) then you have no business having one. Like I make less than $50k a year lol I get by but can barely aff…
/r/MensRights06/08/24 11:07 PM
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This sums up my feelings about the issue well, and I'm actually in an age gap relationship lol (24 and 33). The ONLY reason things work with me and my partner is because I was completely independent and self-sufficient and had been for some time when we met. The age difference wasn't immediately apparent either, with both of us assuming the other was somewhere around 25 (I was 21 he was 31, we met through my job) and only came to light well after we started hanging out. If I had still been in hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:17 PM
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Yeah I've only ever heard it in a jokey video of a guy sing-talking about driving his women friends around to support them being petty. The only example of a specific "women's wrong" from the video I remember was one of his friends got cheated on and he said the line "I didn't key your car, but I did drive her there" I've never once heard anybody unironically use this to justify actual horrid behaviors from women before (i.e. things like cheating/fucking people over/whatever else people in this …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:25 AM
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Right? Like I don't like kids so I wouldn't date a single mom because I don't want to have kids in my life, but I would never shame someone for being the parent that stayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:39 PM
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Not as an insult, but it does discredit things. I'm bipolar and while it would be rude to use that fact to insult me, it's totally okay to dismiss things I say when I'm manic because they are simply not credible. Nobody should be citing anything said by me during an episode as being fact and it isn't rude to other sick/disabled/mentally ill people to dismiss my manic ravings as being manic ravings. Addiction is a disease that ravages your brain and therefore makes you less credible as a source w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:10 AM
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Maybe it boils down to guys thinking guys are generally more attractive and women thinking women are generally more attractive then? Idk. Most of my female friends, another female commenter, and my male partner made this observation with no input from me as well. I did also admit that I'm essentially a lesbian (bi with a very strong preference for women) and only find like.... maaaaybe 5-10% of men to be physically attractive in the slightest, and like 80% of women to be incredibly physically at…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:30 PM
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Right if anything I keep seeing drop dead gorgeous girls next to some guy who looks like a thumb. It's always interesting on the rare occasion I see a hot guy w an ugly girl. I'm pretty much a lesbian though so my perception might be skewed when it comes to male vs female attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:42 PM
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Exactly. I don't like it when it's a "men and females" type situation but female as an adjective shouldn't be offensive to any degree
/r/MensRights09/06/24 05:00 PM
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This statistic also includes family members, which you don't get to choose and frequently don't have as much agency over when and where you're alone with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:03 PM
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This. Also, you expect to see random bears in the woods because they live there. They're always in the woods. Random men in the woods are there for some other reason, probably the same reason you're in the woods, but you can't be sure of that. A bear on any given day is not interested in attacking humans at all. They're just not going to do it unless you give them a reason to or they're desperately hungry (with the exception of polar bears which will eat anything that moves basically on-sight). …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:00 PM
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So you'd rather kill a person than a bear? If you're packing heat I would assume it kinda doesn't matter which you encounter from a safety perspective but I also don't own firearms and have never attempted to kill anything with them, so I have no idea. Don't know much about how to kill a bear, just how to act around them/not provoke them. I've been thinking about this under the assumption that I'm unarmed and unable to defend myself against either, which is why I choose the bear in some scenario…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:41 AM
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Yeah I've always imagined a "middle of nowhere alone in the wilderness" scenario with the bear vs man debate, didn't occur to me that maybe people were talking about parks or whatever. Great example of context being important when it comes to these arguments. In a middle of nowhere situation I'd rather encounter a bear. In a parks situation I'd probably rather encounter a man (with the exception of black bears, but in this more normal scenario it's just because the bear is more interesting). In …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:54 PM
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I'd never assume someone I encounter out in the woods is up to anything nefarious without cause, I even specified "he's probably just out there enjoying nature, just like I am" but my point is I don't KNOW what he's up to so I'm gonna wanna steer clear just in case. My point by that paragraph was just that the deeper into the woods you go the less expected/normal it is to encounter another person, but the more expected/normal it is to encounter a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:05 PM
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This is funny because the color of the bear matters a lot more than the color of the man. Take black bears for example. Not very dangerous to humans. They scare easily and generally aren't a threat. They're not uncommon in my area, tend to mind their own business and won't usually hurt you unless you pose some kind of threat to them. Even then, they usually just run away unless they have cubs or you're gonna be stupid and chase after them. Grizzly/brown bears are significantly more dangerous but…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:43 PM
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Exactly. Same reason auto-erotic asphyxiation is a thing. Less oxygen = cum harder. For a lot of people that's all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:43 AM
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Yeah when we're going on a date of course we want to look good, but confidence is also a big component in that. A lot of women wear makeup on a day-to-day basis as well, even when attracting a man isn't something we're trying to do. Personally, I wear light makeup (really just eyeliner) even if I'm not leaving the house just because it makes me feel better about the way that I look even if I won't be interacting with anyone. I'm not saying that men aren't a reason, just not the primary one
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:29 AM
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I mean, maybe they should and maybe they shouldn't, it probably depends on the man (like if a guy is 6'4, 270lbs and an MMA fighter he probably doesnt have to be afraid in the same way a 5'2" 130lb guy might). My point is simply that we're talking about whether or not women are valid in their fear of men and the comment he replied to didn't say anything implying men couldn't be victims too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:59 AM
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I'm afraid to go out alone because of the threat of being sexually assaulted. I'm afraid of being raped. I know I'm an easy target (small) and it's something that's happened to me before. I'm not afraid of being murdered (random murder really doesn't happen that much and afaik I haven't pissed anyone off that badly) and I'm not afraid of being robbed (I don't have enough money to make it worth it, nor do I look like I do). It's really just the threat of being sexually assaulted that stops me fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:51 AM
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Okay, but why does the fact that male on male crime happens more often than male on female crime make male on female crime less scary for women? They're both scary, so I guess I don't understand what point you're trying to make. For me personally, knowing men are violent to other men too/more often doesn't make me less afraid to go out alone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:43 AM
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Can you point out where they said men can't be victims of other men's violence?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:13 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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