PappaGamer Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	Will plastic surgery harm my chances to find someone instead of help? I agree with this. I would also add that most people (men and women) rate themselves lower than other people actually would. Culture and society are hell on women’s self image. Learning to love yourself will open more relationship doors than any cosmetic surgery. And if you do ever find yourself in a relationship and are told you are not wife material because you might not have attractive children…Run	/r/RedPillWomen	08/01/23 01:46 PM
4	Joint bank account? My wife and I have joint accounts for both checking and saving and then we each have individual saving plans. We believe very much in shared responsibility and have a what’s mine is yours mentality. It is my job to pay the bills but it is her job to create the budget. We have monthly budget meetings to go over everything. We both get allowances but only if we stick to the budget. A couple of points that might be relevant: 1) my wife works and is very successful on her own. 2) as a two income hou…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/12/22 10:12 PM
9	My family dont approve My choice of wanting to Be a wife and mother. I guess I need some clarity from you here. Are you married/engaged? Nowhere do you mention a husband/SO. It’s not a liberal idea that you hope your kids are educated and self sufficient. You will be more attractive (and personally happier) if you are happy and confident in yourself first rather than looking for someone else to complete you. If you are married already then the choice is up to you and your husband, you parents will just have to get over it. Finally, starting a career and building …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/22 04:57 PM
3	hey, serious question I am not a troll. That is heavy and I’m so sorry you are going through this right now. I know how hard it can be to fight with feelings of inadequacy and how easy it can be to spiral down from that point. Let me offer you a couple of pieces of advice from someone who is 40. 1) Confidence looks better on a woman than Versace. 2) Don’t rush getting married. Statistically marriages that begin in the early 20s have almost double the divorce rate of couples that wait until 28+. My wife and I married at 21 and both of …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/22 09:59 PM
10	Handling infidelity You need to come to terms with the fact that YOU are not responsible for a cheaters actions. I’m sure you are not perfect but marriage is about working it out. Cheating is just a lazy spouses way to be selfish without fixing the problem. A cheater doesn’t cheat because of YOU they cheat because of THEM. It’s your choice to leave or stay. But don’t stay thinking it will get better if only you could be better. You will drive yourself crazy trying and it never will.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/22 09:39 PM
3	Torn.. To leave in silence or ask questions and stay? You have a solid point and I do think people can change. Do you think relationships can though? For example if you cheat on someone is it probable/possible to fix the relationship and be happy and stop cheating or does “reformed cheater” mean that someone has learned from a past relationship and won’t make the same mistake with a new person. If the answer is B then I would say it has as much to do with finding someone more compatible as reforming. And I want you to know I mean all that with no d…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/22 05:42 PM
29	Torn.. To leave in silence or ask questions and stay? Just come out and tell him you looked at his phone and what you saw. It will be unpleasant but I have found that honesty is always the best policy. Beating around the bush will always lead to more hurt in the long run. If you just walk out with no explanation, no matter how valid you think your reason, everyone will see it as your fault. If you are done then just tell him and move on. If not then have it out, set expectations and ask for change. If you don’t get it then you left everything on th…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/22 02:15 AM
33	Will men cheat if they aren’t sexually satisfied enough? Cheaters will cheat (man or woman). Both partners should be doing everything they can to fulfill each other but there will always be times when it’s hard. Worrying about it, especially if it leads to unplaced mistrust, is just at likely to lead to problems as not enough sex. I would say give trust until it’s proven they don’t deserve it. That’s a hard thing to do and leaves you vulnerable for sure, but it’s the best way to live in a relationship. Also, 3-4 times a week is pretty good. Especially…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/22 10:12 PM
4	My boyfriend of six years was talking to another girl for past five months. As hard as it is to end things now, it’s probably best for you in the long term. He didn’t just cheat once, he cheated every time he went out, deleted a text, or stayed up late on the phone. Then he was able to lie to you about it for months. No matter how stressful you feel life is now it doesn’t get easier once you have jobs and kids. It gets more stressful and scattered. If this happened now it will probably happen again. You will just have more to lose when it does. Find someone who values y…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/22 01:58 PM
2	Help… not feeling alive in marriage That’s honestly a very common stage of life. My wife and I referred to it as “being in the trenches”. Kids take a lot. There is a lot of pressure on both parents to provide. Money, care, time, love; it always feels like there is never enough to go around. My advice to anyone with young kids is stick it out unless there is an extreme reason not to. I’m talking abuse, neglect, or danger. Most of the time things get better. Us and our peer group have all have teens now and, while they can be crazy,…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/22 01:51 AM
3	How do I accept that my partner will never be monogamous? Then I would say that is your answer. I can tell you from my point that I would never be ok with being with anyone but my wife. I made a commitment to protect and provide for her. Sometimes she doesn’t agree with my decisions but ultimately she knows that she can trust them because I have proven that they always have what’s best for her and my family at the core. If I were making decisions that she hated just because I wanted something then I would be disrespecting that hard earned trust and fai…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/22 09:40 PM
3	How do I accept that my partner will never be monogamous? He was honest and upfront with you so that earns some respect but the important question you need to ask yourself if “you” can move past this. True, some can but I suspect most can not. The answer doesn’t make you bad or good. It just is. My personal opinion is that if it has to be one sided then he is too insecure to be considered HV BUT that is only my opinion. The term HVM is to personal for anyone but yourself to answer. Is it worth it to you? If YOU value monogamy then he isn’t HV enough…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/22 09:23 PM