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Particular_Mix_4160/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 06:29 PM
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I appreciate your input and I am truly happy that you found someone. I don’t believe that my ex wife tainted my relationships going forward and I have had other relationships. I don’t blame women; I blame the court systems. I know that you’re in a great relationship and very happy. I also know that the relationship can change in the blink of an eye. Now my view on marriage is such: in no time ever has the institution of marriage been perfect. But previously it favored men. And men wanted to have…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 10:03 PM
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You’re getting ahead of yourself. You think that you’re going to get half of the assets from the divorce; because that’s only fair. It would not surprise me if you get all the debt and no assets. 2 kids is a lot of child support. And there’s alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 05:44 PM
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Remourse, at least you have it. Also you take responsibility for your actions and the affects of your actions. Cheating wives listen up! This is how you do it! Notice how he didn’t preamble about his wife not doing this or that and then saying that he cheated. Notice that he acknowledged that he was 100 percent at fault and that his destructive behavior will have negative consequences for his children. As a divorced man that had a cheating wife that never did what this man did in this post, I fi…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:25 PM
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You’re on the right track! Do not ever marry again! See a lawyer today! You might say, why we’re not getting married. Because each state has their own laws in regard to common law marriage. You’re probably one of those people who feels protected 100 percent by not getting married; not knowing what the risks are if you move in together. It ain’t as easy as you might think.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:12 PM
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Wow, I’ve been where you are on a very similar situation. First things first: your marriage is over. I know that it’s a hard feeling to bear but it’s better once you’ve accepted it. Once you’ve accepted it, at least you can move forward. Your concern for your children’s wellbeing is normal and there’s no way to calm your concerns. Just do your best. Lastly, I know that you’re hurting. I’ve been there. What I’m going to say is going to hurt but once you thought about it, you will get a better und…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 02:31 AM
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Hey I’m a divorced man from a cheating wife and I’m kinda siding with your wife here. You’re 45 with children. You lose a lot of freedom when you became a father and one of your obligations is to financially support your family. You said that you want to move to a cheaper area to make films. You only want to work part time. You’re 45. I don’t know your financial situation. Maybe you come from a family in money. Who knows? You quit your job and became depressed and after 2 weeks, your wife nagged…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 02:06 AM
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You’ll get your life back: be patient. It’s not going be the life you expected but it might be better
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 11:09 PM
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100 percent but it’s not lifetime. I went through the same thing but my wife was entitled to lifetime alimony. I did a buyout instead. Entitlement is the word that you will know the meaning of very shortly.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 11:19 AM
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How stupid are you? Just think back to your first marriage. Wasn’t your first wife attractive, funny, sexy and all the other compliments that you gave your new girlfriend. Why would any man ever want to get married especially after a horrible divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:30 AM
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The headline for this post is so very much true. Wives will disrespect their husbands without any regrets or remorse. That’s one reason that I’ll never get married again. Men can’t physically make their wives stop disrespecting them. They can’t make them stop by pleading with them. But we can walk away! Men should always protect themselves by never marrying! You need the one outlet that is both legal and moral to do: and that is the ability to be able to walk away from her. You can never give up…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:41 AM
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This is something of a trick question because if you make it to 59 and a half years old without touching it than of course: YES. But the 400k from the house is liquid. You can use it to buy another house which will typically increase in value. So if it was me at 40 with no options to split both the house and 401k, I think I would have to take the house. But again, I don’t know your situation. If you have other money stashed away so you have some liquidity, then yes I’d take the 401k. Again, tric…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:32 AM
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True, women almost never asks a man out. But I’m in my late fifties and I know quite a bit of single women my age. Why would I date them or buy them dinner at all? I’m a grand pop that’s not into grannies. Does that make sense to you? If they would like to date me: but let’s be real, they would want someone younger as well: they’re going to have to learn how to properly ask a man out. To make and pay for the date. This might surprise you. The women that I know around my age think that some man i…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 02:07 AM
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From my comments, some of you have come to the conclusion that I’m stating that the man will always pay because it’s the man who asks out the woman. I’m in my late fifties and I can safely assume that those who replied that way are younger than me. I say this with no disrespect. Also if you read my reply, you would have noticed that I said that women need to learn to ask men out on dates (and they should pay). The reason why I think that you’re younger than me is that in my age bracket, the men …
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 01:54 AM
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I’ve seen this question so many times and I can’t believe that there’s no new etiquette for this. This is 2024; not 1950; it’s not the same etiquette. The rule is this: whoever asks out the person, pays for the date. It’s that simple. Now I don’t do any online dating and I know that some of these things aren’t as black and white as asking for a date. Sometimes it’s just meeting up. Well who’s asking for the meet up? That’s the person who should set the terms of the meeting. Hey, there’s a Starbu…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 02:16 AM
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If you’re young and you’re wanting to start a family, then maybe it’s worth the risk. But understand this: The risk is great! What we’re talking about is a legal judgment against you where you can lose all your possessions, your rights to your children, and your future income. I’ve done it. Been through the divorce and I can honestly say that I’m not brave or stupid enough to do it again. If you’re not young or looking to raise a family, DO NOT GET MARRIED!
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 06:41 PM
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First off; I think that you are the man in the relationship because of the group title. Assuming that, I wouldn’t be argumentative when splitting the assets. Give her more than you think she deserves and get on with your life and never get married again! Don’t take advice from the people replying. Seek a divorce attorney and don’t let your wife know. The question that you need to ask is, “if this goes before a judge, what will I be paying?” Then you are going to know that you need to be generous…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 12:20 PM
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Freedom!! Free at last!! I’ll keep it brief. Wife cheated, married her lover. Long time to get over it but when I got through it, life is so much better. Now it depends on the type of person you are. I have found that I am the most content and peaceful when I live alone. I’m part of a social organization doing something that I love. I go to parties when invited but I go home alone. And no I’m not lonely; but that’s just me. When I was married, I hated going home. My wife never made me feel welco…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 02:11 AM
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No! It doesn’t work! You’re fighting a lot and one or both have animosity towards the other. Does anyone really think that if they bring in a 3rd party that they can make their partner change the way they feel? I’ve never seen that happen
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 01:07 AM
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I couldn’t say it better!
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:08 PM
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Being divorced myself and going through all the misery, I can feel for you. I’ve been in a similar situation. My advice: if someone wants to walk out of your life: let them go. Let them go! But here’s the thing: once they’re gone, they’re gone. If she calls you just to talk; you’re too busy. You’ll have to call her back when you want to. You must never listen to her problems; they’re her problems. I know that this sounds cold; especially to someone who you both raised kids with; but you got to d…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 06:24 PM
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I was married for 18 years and my wife never worked. It wasn’t because I made a lot of money or that my wife couldn’t work. It was just because daycare was so expensive that it made no sense to work to pay for childcare. I worked 2 blue collar jobs my whole life. Yes, this did hurt me in the end because: a) New Jersey is a no fault state and the fact that she was having an affair had no consequences. She’s still entitled to life time alimony. B) since she showed no income, she was entitled to mo…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 03:35 PM
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My wife cheated on me and she wanted lifetime alimony that the New Jersey courts said that she was entitled to. Here’s what my attorney told me. My ex wife has been told on exactly what she has to do to keep me paying while she keeps seeing her boyfriend. He told me that if I had videos of them cohabiting BUT his mail wasn’t going to that house and no bills in his name, I would be paying until the end of time. My attorney told me that; without a doubt; her attorney informed her of this. You have…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 08:11 PM
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Try thinking from another perspective. My wife cheated and took me for everything including alimony, so I can relate to your thinking but I don’t think about it as “women “ as much as “people “. If given the opportunity to do to her what she did to me: in the exact proportion no more no less; I couldn’t do it. I’m not that low. And I don’t think that all women are that low: BUT people are. So I trust nobody! And I don’t have to trust anyone. This brings up marriage. I believe most men would like…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 10:42 AM
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I’m one of those who got it so much worse than 50/50 but I understand your anger. Here’s how I cope: I don’t look back, I don’t try to get revenge, just go on with your life. I know that it’s not that easy but stick with the plan. Look at it as a life lesson. Then try to look to the future. You learned a hard lesson and you should be much wiser now. Imagine what you could do in a year and how much you’ll save. You’re lucky, I had future income taken from me and all my assets except for less than…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 07:55 PM
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Holy shit dude. I don’t think you understand anything about what’s happening. Your wife wants out but has been informed by a lawyer ( maybe behind your back) of what is going to happen. Dude, you are in the driver’s seat! Pay a divorce attorney and don’t tell your wife. After that: you’ll see that you’re the boss. Whatever you want, you get. Most men lose because of this and I’m one of them. Wow, you’re in a good position
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 04:29 PM
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Did the same thing! Go a step further. Join a group of an activity that you would want to try. Come on; there’s something out there for everyone
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:25 PM
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Um,?! Because I got divorced!? I’m not afraid of marriage, I’m terrified of divorce. No way will I ever again put myself in a position where I have to pay lawyers and go before a judge to break up with someone. I don’t want any garnishments to my paycheck. I don’t want to lose my 401, bank account and house. I mean these might not be very good reasons but they’re mine
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 11:04 PM
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You should be scared. As far as what marriage is in terms of legality, you should be terrified. I’m old fashioned and I get why you want to get married. Have family- all that good stuff. Now if starting a family is not something that you are interested in doing; then Do NOT get married!!! It’s not about commitment, it’s not about love. It’s about you having control of your life!! Please YouTube bad divorce and hear them! Google it! Get educated! Your life can be ruined! Your future income could …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:13 PM
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No, that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I’m telling other men never to get married if they’re older than 40. Please go on nj alimony reform website. They have a section called divorce nightmare stories. Read some: it’s disgusting what the divorce courts do. It’s not about not loving someone again. It’s about protecting yourself against an evil. It’s that simple
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:13 PM
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Forget all the bs that you’re putting up with. None of that matters. Focus on finalizing your divorce. You have to stop all attachments to your spouse before anything changes. I’ve been there, i know. Here’s what to expect: you’re going to have terms of agreement with your divorce. Live up to them and nothing more. She’ll still try and control you but don’t give an inch. She needs to learn self control and discipline.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 05:07 PM
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You’re not ready my friend. It is very important to be by yourself for a while after a divorce. This lets you do a few things. You learn to be self sufficient. You learn that just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. Once you’ve become content with being by yourself, you can start looking for a partner. The reason why you have to get to the point of self contentment before dating is because you’re not now going to settle for just anyone.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 12:28 PM
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Here’s the problem with this situation: people will tell you about having your lawyer do this and that but in the meantime you get kicked out of the house and away from your kids. Then you’re made to prove to a judge that she’s lying. The problem is that the courts don’t want to admit that the penalties they placed on you were wrong. So you end up fighting the courts pride and arrogance. So then, if you can, you prove that her accusations were unfounded or just plain lies. Guess what happens to …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:26 AM
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It’s now that I like to go home! Anytime a spouse makes their partner not want to go home, there’s a problem. I could never go straight home. I would have to get snacks and a drink and stop at a park to compose myself before going home. I never went straight home. This was a conversation that I had with a few friends. There was one married man out of all of us that said that he goes straight home. Most husbands don’t and some wives know this and still don’t care. But now, I go straight home ever…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 11:23 PM
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My advice would be: sell it/ split the proceeds and move on with your life. I can tell that you have a good brain for business and everything that you’re stating here makes good financial sense but you’re forgetting one thing. You’re going to have to deal with your ex. Trust me when I say that when you go through a divorce, you are at war. I don’t believe that she will accept your buy out figure. It doesn’t matter if it’s reasonable or not. Everything is a fight. So what I suggest is to deal wit…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 02:09 AM
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Hahaha, you’re a dude? This is the reasoning that I find in women; not men. I will assume that you are a man because you state so and I’ll reply to you as I would a woman. I believe that you’re having an affair. Here’s why: you mentioned your physical appearance and you work out. Also, you’re complaining that your wife isn’t going the extra mile. So I guess that she’s responsible for the divorce because of that. I have had the misfortune of being married to a woman who is an unempathetic narciss…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 11:11 PM
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Alright, I’m going to be the one that breaks the news to you. It’s most likely that she’s had an affair on you. All the signs are there. She wanted the divorce; immediately gets laid afterwards (probably before also). But let’s not dwell on that because it doesn’t factor into my response. No way take her back!!! Let’s reason this out: your wife wanted out of the marriage and then immediately hooks up and has sex with 4 different guys in a month. Um, can I assume that when you were married that i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 02:40 AM
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Thank you! It’s good to hear this coming from a woman’s perspective. It’s always assumed that the man is the one that gets the abuse in the courts. What is more accurate is: the person who gets abused in the courts is the person that is the most responsible person in the relationship and that has financially supported the most in their relationship. I truly feel for you. This is not a man vs woman argument but a real discussion on the disgrace and injustice of the divorce process
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:52 PM
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Well it seems to me that your main argument is that prenups exist and that’s what men should get and then men wouldn’t have any worries. I’m sorry but that’s not how it works. I’d be surprised if you never heard that divorce courts favor women. It’s a pretty common perception. Now I have been in this process and not from a bystander’s opinion do I say this: it most certainly does favor the woman. Now you say that a prenup is rarely voided. My question is, “what is rarely?”. So, if I were to get …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 05:09 PM
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I agree with your reply 90 percent. The part that troubles me is the way that you’re kinda blaming the man. Unless a man has been dragged through the courts, he doesn’t know the pain and loss that will occur. I look at my coworker as naive; as I do any man fortunate enough not to have gone through it. If a man physically abuses a woman, does anyone demean the woman? If a woman abuses a man and then the courts abuse the man, why is it that we can blame the man? We call him a beta, or stupid and w…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 08:01 PM
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Thanks for the replies to my post but I want to point out one thing that you might have overlooked. My coworker is a widower and he had a good marriage. This is the type of individual that NEEDS some unsolicited advice. I can tell from the responses that most here are probably divorced and have been abused by the courts. I’m with you on that. I feel that it is my OBLIGATION to warn and inform other men that are getting married to reconsider. And if that means having an opposite view of other peo…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 04:55 PM
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