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| 209 | How Do Guys Actually End Up With “10/10” Influencer Level Women?Also the sports star, movie star, billionaire who dates her isn't thinking about it like you are. He knows the value society puts on him and understands that he's rarer than she is. She is chasing him. | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 10:22 PM |
| 1 | She said she’ll text me next week - is this usually a soft no, or am I overthinking?I don't know the circumstances so its hard to say. If she and you had a great date and she's studying for her bar exam or something like that, then this makes sense. If you have not connected/dated and she says this without a pretty good excuse I would imagine that its dying fast. What would i do? If I liked her I would wait 3-4 days and send a specific invite to an event like this: "Hey, there is a R&B band that I really like playing next friday at 8pm at Joe's Tavern. I remembered that you lik… | /r/seduction | 21/01/26 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Best Jobs for Maximizing Seduction Opportunities?This guy's job... https://nypost.com/2024/09/03/us-news/navy-seal-harvard-doctor-astronaut-jonny-kim-set-to-go-to-space/ | /r/seduction | 15/03/25 07:01 AM |
| 11 | Do this if she leaves you on readMaking out at parties is fun, it doesn't mean she sees you as a potential partner. You need to regain the initiative. Give it a week or more and then ask her out for a specific date with confidence and assertiveness. " I remembered you said you like ( some type of music or band). There's a band playing at Joe's pub Saturday at 8pm. Let's meet at 7 to grab a good seat and drinks." If she doesn't respond with either yes or a specific reason she is busy and can't make it, you have your answer. She'… | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 08:17 PM |
| 28 | Are people here actually having sex?So most people don't really understand or want to accept the role biology plays in dating and relationships. The reality is that modern society has made dating more difficult for several reasons. 1) For about every species an abundance of potential mates makes both sexes more selective but especially females. Modern society with dating apps, large metro areas, internet access and even worldwide access create a huge dating pool. 2) Society use to dictate that you were in a defined relationship (n… | /r/seduction | 15/08/24 10:43 PM |
| 4 | Guys who get laid every time they go to a bar, what is your secret?often the 5 is going to do things to you in bed that you could never imagine, and their body will react like your Adonis | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Tips to stimulate two girls to have a threesome at tonight’s dinner?I don't recommend having the threesome at dinner. Take it from me, i've had personal experience with marinara smeared all over the genitals and it never is as sexy as you think its going to be. | /r/seduction | 19/03/24 10:35 PM |
| 1 | How do we feel about Daygame?Focus your life on doing what you really want to do, then meet girls along the way. Day game is so much easier that way. Many women are busy so you won't have a lot of time with them, or you will get told no. If you're out just trying to get a date that can be rough and its quite frankly a little bit of a waste of time. Instead go to that cool place you really want to be and don't be afraid of opportunities, you'll find many and its a lot easier because you know why you're there and they do to. … | /r/seduction | 05/03/24 08:29 PM |
| 1 | what makes a man seductive?The attributes of seduction are simple: be strong and healthy, be funny and teasing, be confident in yourself, be original, be social comfortable and genuinely nice but assertive and unafraid during stress or danger, and relax and know with absolute certainty that the woman standing in front of you is not the last women you're going to be with. | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 08:32 PM |
| 2 | What do I say when women ask me, “how many girls have you slept with”?As a gentleman, thats something I never discuss. Say it confidently and seriously but without being a jerk and hold eye contact while you say it. That will almost always end the conversation. If pressed after that, state, "I've already said I would never discuss that, I don't care to know that about you and I don't kiss and tell, its that simple." | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 08:28 PM |
| 4 | What are some good ways to tease (by touch, or “make her melt”) a girl when you’re in a bar/pub/in general?Best thing you can do when you go back to the group is talk to everyone and not focus on her. Women generally like attention and she'll be trying to get it from you. then we you all are alone it will only get hotter. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 11:54 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Apprroach opportunities are very rare realisticallyi'll be honest, I've had plenty of dates, but if you spend your time everywhere actively trying to meet women then you're wasting a lot of time that can be better used to make you happy in other ways. Sure talk to women in all those locations. By not trying so hard you'll actually have alot more success. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Tips for a guy who has no hope of getting a girlfriendfirst, understand the fallacy in your argument. Just the fact you're in a first world country and probably america means that you could easily get a girlfriend. There are nearly 4 billion women in this world, you go to thailand or angola or brazil and you will have women falling over each other to line up to be your gf. So decide what you want to do, and go do it. Learn to successfully date American women or head to the philippines and meet a beautiful woman. | /r/seduction | 16/10/22 07:54 AM |
| 0 | I have this moms number since my professor gave me it to tutor the moms kid. I gotta wanna try to game her. Any advice ?I hope you don't tutor English haha | /r/seduction | 04/10/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Any tips for going out with the intention of day gaming?Most people will say your better use if time is to enjoy yourself and naturally engage people, both men and women in conversation. Be bold but don't be desperate. Go work on a hobby you enjoy or build a side hustle business. It's good to practice but just do it naturally in the course of your day. Best of luck | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 09:17 PM |
| 22 | What are some things a guy can do to become more attractive?This is great general advice, but here's some instant specific things you can do 1) slow down and lower your voice 2) maintain eye contact 3) joke with her about a shared experience. "I've been waiting so long for them to take my order that I'll be eligible for the senior discount by the time I order!" 4) tease them- flirting is just teasing and joking - thus the reason for romantic comedies, make lots of jokes, answer questions obviously wrong, " what do you do for work?" " I'm a race horse sem… | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Start to get overly anxious once a girl reciprocates attractionTake a deep breath the next time this happens and look her right in the face. Consciously slow down your voice and say, " I get anxious when a beautiful woman flirts with me. So for the next 30 mins if you notice me doing anything stupid just know its my body telling you how sexy you look tonight." This crazy shit will work if you 1) stare into her eyes the entire time, 2) consciously slow down and deepen your voice, 3) give her a smile at the end. It expresses vulnerability yet maintains a posi… | /r/seduction | 30/09/22 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Community is not helpfulSure, DM me and we can talk | /r/seduction | 21/09/22 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Community is not helpfulI can actually help you, it will take work, I saw you say you know life is difficult, so as long as you're willing to work, I can help you. And if you really want to do this, we can update this subreddit on your progress. | /r/seduction | 20/09/22 09:50 PM |
| 1 | "I'm busy this weekend, but maybe next weekend" ... is this legit or a soft-rejection?So first start with a more confident close, you will be amazed how much less you will be rejected. Instead of "whats your schedule this weekend" say " we talked about trying out new places, I heard of a cool lounge with live music called Joey's. Lets meet there on Saturday at 8pm. The band is supposed to play some nice R&B funk. " It sounds presumptuous as hell but it shows confidence without being a jerk. Women will let you know if they're busy and cant do it, but if they can, they are much mor… | /r/seduction | 20/09/22 09:38 PM |
| 0 | getting the number..Most of the guys are saying "no way! don't even ask!" I say go for it. Its exactly what this subreddit is about. So what if she says no, then you'll know and can get on with your life. Ask her out for something completely the opposite of a strip club, "hey would you like to go on a hike with me to this beautiful waterfall where we can see these really amazing butterflies?" She'll be totally caught off guard. Try it, be brave, do what you want. Learn to live your life like this and you'll have mo… | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 04:51 PM |
| 0 | Turning one night stands into fwbs?Dont have one night stands to start. Its alot easier to build FWBs by teasing them the first few dates without sex. You turn down sex the first time they offer and you'll have a woman coming back for more for a very long time. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:50 AM |
| 3 | No reply or replySo first of all this is the seduction subreddit, right? It seems to be full of guys trying to fall in love with the "hottest girl." You need to just be chill with her and date alot. When she asks about going out say maybe. Text her flirty shit, don't always respond to her texts quickly. Relax, you have way too much invested in one girl that you've never been on a date with. Best of luck | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:44 AM |
| 4 | She playing games or should I take her on her wordEither play it cool, and I mean play it cool. Date other girls, go out with the guys, and just enjoy the FWB thats she's willing to be, or cut it off. Don't play around with being her toy. She enjoys using you to feel good but doesn't want to commit. If you're ok with that then enjoy the benefits by dating other girls and doing whatever the hell you want. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:32 AM |
| 3 | FWB with an older woman?Talk to her on video. So many apps that allow video calls. Then meet in a safe place | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 03:21 PM |
| -1 | When girls call you out on negging. What to say?d I text her something along the lines of "Hey its JollyEye3. Sorry if I was a bit of an asshole but I'd love to chat more."? absolutely not! Either don't admit to anything "whats negging?" or make another joke, " damn that online dating guru promised me that if I paid the $59 I could pick up any woman.... i'm going to throw his stupid book away when I get home" You are way too early to be apologizing for things like negging, in the moment if she said you were rude then you can always apologize,… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 09:32 PM |
| 38 | Day gaming at grocery store?all of these work: "nice melons", "nice jugs of milk", "my banana is much bigger than any of those", "why are you looking in that butcher's case for meat, I got all the meat you need right here", "looking for something spicer than those jalapenos tonight", any jokes about how tuna smells, any jokes about cherries. All of these are tried and true ways to score tons of women at the grocery store. While they are looking for the coupon for that box of cereal, women are vulnerable to almost any picku… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 08:35 AM |
| 2 | James bondYou keep missing the most important part, he's fiction. He always gets the girl. You can take away behaviors from movies and tv but not direct correlation to results. Meaning many times they show a type of attraction behavior but real life is never going to be as automatic as a movie script | /r/seduction | 17/05/22 09:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you personally word it when you are asking a girl on a date?Specific and dont ask. I've given this advice here before. Say something like: "I remember you saying you liked live music, There's a band playing 90s music this Saturday night that I've been wanting to see. Lets meet for drinks at 6pm at Joes bar on Oak st before we go to see the band. Bring a warm sweater because its an outdoor concert." It shows alot of confidence to simply state. Of course your date can say no, but when women say they want a confident man that takes the lead, this is what th… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 09:08 PM |
| 1 | recommendations for hobbies that can be done from home and make you a more attractive well-rounded person for dating?Air force national guard. Cool uniform, fly all over the world, part time | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Looking for some fitness advice for getting leaner. 6'4" and feel lack of facial aesthetics are DESTROYING my confidence and perception from women.Focus on lifting heavy until failure. I like to do burn outs at the end of all my major muscle lifts, especially because I normally lift alone without a spotter. Burn outs is just repping until almost failure (since I dont have a spotter) then reducing the weight until failure and then reducing the weight again. I can really feel the burn after this. Make sure you're doing lower calorie protein shakes and adding protein to your diet while still managing your calories and carbs (not low carb, j… | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 04:54 PM |
| 1 | anyone tried "ageless" program by Bill Grant? attracting young womenSure | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 06:14 PM |
| 3 | anyone tried "ageless" program by Bill Grant? attracting young womenI haven't tried it but I'm older and have dated many younger women. Never heard of this program, what does he charge? DM and we can talk, i do dating coaching as a hobby, so its free. You really don't need to overthink this, the same stuff works for all women. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Anyone gave up on trying to attract women? (Could use some advice)So at your age, many girls are shy and cold approach can be awkward for everyone. You need to watch shows/movies and look for flirting cues, so you can learn what flirting looks like. Also go out to bars or clubs and just grab a drink and look around. Who's flirting with who? What are the guys doing? What are girls doing to flirt or flirt back. One word answers are very common in girls, especially at your age. Try asking them for something non-threatening. If you're in college, ask girls in your… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 01:38 AM |
| 2 | I messed up (I think)Is she still around. Come up with something to say and go back and talk to her. Say I was waiting for another girl but she didn't show up, her loss is your opportunity. It covers why you acted weird, you were waiting for another girl and didn't want to get caught if she walked in the party. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Should I text her tonight asking her if we are still on for tomorrow? We made the plans on Tuesday after matching and speaking briefly on TinderActually the right time to text her is tomorrow afternoon around lunch and anytime up to an hour or so prior, if she hasn't texted you first. Why text to confirm? you don't want to waste your time and you are a man that is put together and manages his schedule. That's why I like lunch time. Its about the time I would normally think of my evening activities (do I need to buy something for dinner? do I have time for a workout, am I meeting friends for drinks, etc) So she is on the list for the eve… | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 09:44 PM |
| 1 | How do some guys make girls obsessed with them?The basics, some use the PUA language of "push pull" some say use variable reward schedule from psychology, but its about them not always getting what they want, balanced by being very present and making them feel very connected emotionally when you are with them. Its like gamblingl, when you love the reward but aren't sure when you'll get it, you get obsessed with it... its simple psychology. Honestly early in a relationship both sides should do this, its creates excitement and increases desire… | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | First time having my own apt adviceOranges, reds, greens and blues. Stay away from purples and sometimes yellows. Color will really help your room look professional. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Have to see ex at a wedding next weekend. How should I act?Look if its this raw, you aren't going to fake like you don't care. So just be cool with everyone and avoid her. If she comes up to you to talk or something, just say can we step away a sec, get her alone and just tell her, "its still a little too raw for me right now, so please respect my privacy and give me some space for the weekend, thanks and i really wish you the best" Then walk away and avoid her the rest of the weekend. If she comes around, don't be a dick but just step away "I need to g… | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Misattribution of arousal/attraction ideas.I think you mean that is not a bar or restaurant? | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:45 PM |
| 2 | blue collar jobExactly and even if you start dating a girl that you want to have a relationshipm start with something like I fix really tough shit, hard stuff most guys couldn't do what I do. Then slowly add in the rest about what blue collar job you have. Be prepared to tell some bad ass tough guy stories along the way about some broken shit that was swinging around and almost killed someone. or how you grabbed your coworker away from a high voltage thing. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)I'll be as blatant as possible. You've tried everything you can think of and its hasn't worked, now you want to come here and get an instant pill that will make you attractive to/successful when picking up women. It doesn't work that way, if you're ready to accept its going to take some work, then read below... So lets go through the blatant advice. You're South Asian, does that mean your shorter than average for London? In western culture Asians and short are both negatives for attraction (due … | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | First time having my own apt adviceThis is a pretty good answer. Clean and neat is always a good start. It can be very sparse and Spartan but it should be clean and have basic towels and soap for hand washing. Sheets and a decent comforter or quilt on the bed. Don't bring shit into your house you don't want to eat. You're focused on eating healthy. She can have some nuts or carrot sticks for a snack. Always have decent stocked bar. You can get a few nice glasses at Walmart, set of four round short glasses like this for $8: https:… | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 07:28 PM |
| 4 | [Queston] Why when i approach girls most of the time, they say "can i help you with something" ?Stop asking the McDonald's workers out on dates haha | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 08:04 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with womens fuckery?Women generally don't keep glancing and smiling. If she is interested the signals are much more awkward or intense. walk up to her and say excuse me, if she immediately gives you the bitch face walk right past and order a drink. Never let them see you sweat. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsIt all depends. During the pandemic it was simple. Nothing else was open haha. But you can do anything. Just make it sound fun and interesting. Make sure it's romantic. But all it takes is something like this "there's this nice little park I like overlooking the ocean, I go sometimes just to relax to the sound of the waves" She says " oh that sounds nice" "Well Lets meet there this saturday about 6. We can have a drink and watch the sunset. It's a perfect way to enjoy the weekend. I'll pack a li… | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 02:23 AM |
| 51 | When all else fails, what’s your Hail Mary ?most advice here is totally correct, just move on. however if you want to use the nuclear option then it goes like this, "I thought you were really cool, but i just don't think you're right for me, however I have a good friend that i think you'd be perfect for. let me know and I can give him your (phone number, snap, insta, or whatever). This will drive a woman crazy. She'll desperately try to prove to you that she's worth your attention and not someone to be passed off as "slightly used goods."… | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 10:56 PM |
| 1 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsHere is the picnic date https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/m4nr3f/perfect_picnic_date_checklist/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsDuring the pandemic I primarily did picnic dates in a park. I'll look up an earlier post where I explained exactly how to do it. For a normal first date I normally try to meet for drinks or an activity. It doesn't matter too much except the date must feel romantic. No mid day coffee dates! God that's what you do to catch up with your family or friends. You want everything to build attraction and chemistry. I posted an indepth first date guide as well. I'll try to post that here too. | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 06:16 PM |
| 2 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsfeel free to go back and look at some of my other posts. It builds on 4 pillars of your life and then uses psychology and knowledge gained from others that have studied attraction. I've been debating putting a series on here but its amazing how much negativity exists with guys instead of actually trying to learn. | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 04:21 AM |
| 1 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsI don't need advice, I've had all the success I ever wanted with women and all the other aspects of life. I have coached many men that have taken what I have taught them and also had lots of success. Amazing... someone told every scientist ever your exact same advice, luckily the successful ones that have helped society get where it is today didn't listen to it. | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 04:18 AM |
| -1 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsAfter 5+ years of developing a very successful system and implementing it, I'm now attached to a wonderful woman. But I have given and can give advice. I was dating 4 to 8 times a week. Dated 4-6 women almost always. Dated before the pandemic and during. Dated in multiple countries and my own country. I dated in resort areas as well as more typical areas. i dated in cities and also an area of many smaller cities. I have met women in the hottest clubs in the largest cities and I've met women onli… | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 05:49 PM |
| -3 | I wonder how many guys who share advices here are actually getting girlsnd be successful at them. Understand the true nature of women and embrace them for the opportunistic branch swinging lovers that they are. Don't hate the players, hate the game. Science says otherwise. My advice is based on psychology and the thousands of studies that have been done on attraction. Its simple to say there is not a formula but its just not true. I personally have built formulas for success. Are there some differences based on age and culture, sure. But the formulas are very succes… | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are huge waste of time and here's why!you commented about him saying it doesn't teach you the signs of interest from women. I would argue that since so much of our interaction is online/texting/messaging that knowing how to communicate in this way is just as important as in real life. When i was actively dating I had much more communication with texting/messaging which each girl than in real life until it got much more serious. Youre absolutely right, like all things involving humans somethings work better for some people but just t… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Are dating coaches a waste of money?No its because they hook some guys at that price. But for most people working on the fundamentals that are talked about constantly here is a good start. I have a system I use with the guys I coach. Its all about knowing truly who you are, and why people behave the way they do. Its all science, specifically evolutionary biology. | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 11:34 PM |
| 1 | Are dating coaches a waste of money?That sounds crazy expensive. That dude is making bank! Seriously, DM me. You can check my posts, I like to help guys be their best self. I've thought about becoming a professional. I envision a 200-300 seminar with a subscription of $30-50 a month for follow up that includes text response and maybe a half an hour a month personal consult. But right now, I'm just helping guys for free that are ready to help themselves. | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Biggest confidence boost?biggest is to know you and know why people act the way they do. Understand that and you will have alot more confidence. Does this sound like a chinese fortune cookie, yes. why? because I don't want to write all the things I've written multiple times about how to build a strong confident life as a man. You can research my other comments, good luck! | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 11:30 PM |
| 7 | What is a clever thing to say to a girl when she says you have a big D?Literally the first two girls I was with became friends, it was so awesome to have the current gf say they both agreed I was well proportioned... | /r/seduction | 02/04/22 12:12 AM |
| 1 | How to create conversations people can respond to? or ask questions back to?you have to make conversation interesting. the easiest way is what I called shared experiences, one of the comments talks about meeting 2 girls in a bar. Alot of what they talked about were shared experiences. Instead of "is this your first time here?" or "do you come here all the time?" say, "wow, this place has an amazing vibe, i love the cool artwork over the bar, who the hell comes up with a cow fighting a monkey and calls it art?" or "I've been waiting along time for my drink, if you come b… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 09:50 PM |
| 0 | How can I talk about my job in a more interesting way?"I work for a zoo. Its my job to figure out how many bananas to give each monkey every day. Everyday I have worked on how to get more and more bananas and give them to the right monkeys. My work has been so successful that we are overflowing in bananas. There are more bananas than the monkeys know what to do with them, so all the monkeys I work with are incredibly happy now. " She says something like, "you're not serious?" you say, "haha, not really I work at an investment bank, its basically ba… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Life is easier after stopping trying to dateIts impossible to not think of lots of things, after the first thought you then get a choice. You're in a seduction subreddit to find out how to date women. You are taking the first step, keep going in confidence. There is plenty of good real information on how to learn to date. Dating is like anything, you got to practice. What we say in our mind mostly comes true. Ive been in the military for over 20 years I know guys that have lost both legs and an arm that have a positive outlook and are cha… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 07:41 PM |
| 0 | Life is easier after stopping trying to dateYou need to learn how to take control of your own life. Everything is easier if we don't try doing it. Find who you are. Enjoy dating. There is an endless number of opportunities. Don't worry about the woman in front of you. If it works it works. View every encounter as practice instead of a must win event. Relax for almost everyone life works out, including finding a long term partner. Once you change your attitude dating becomes fun and light, an opportunity to meet a new person not a high str… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Best answer?I always said " if I found the perfect woman for me I would love to start a relationship" | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 05:02 AM |
| 0 | Emotionally unstable girlYes, and being the bigger man is the right answer. Let her focus on getting better. | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Favorite pick up line?A joke or light tease about the current situation... Always the best | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Can I slowly bring her back by communicating?Move on. Excuses are just that excuses | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 10:40 AM |
| 3 | My story, hope I can help anyone outGreat job! These are exactly the pillars of success, not just dating but for life. Glad you found them and I hope other people see that it all starts with you! and you have to do the work, no one can do it for you! | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Day 2 of cold approachGood for you! Practice the other 3 pillars of success to help your self confidence as well. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 03:00 AM |
| 126 | I am a low-value man. How do I transform into a better one?It starts today. There are four pillars. 1) workout everyday at the same time, lift heavy weights first, cardio is good as you have time, but heavy weights is what transforms a man's body and increases his self confidence as well as his perceived social status with others of both sexes. 2) Spend 15 mins a day trying to find your calling (what you are passionate about). Same as weight lifting try to do it at the same time of day (early morning, or as you prepare to sleep is usually best). Start w… | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 02:57 AM |
| 1 | What is it with girls when they see other women are interested in you, they become super interested?attraction is based on two things primarily. Evolutionary biology, think good looks, tall guys, muscles, good hair. For women its good looks, good hair, body shape, and indicators of fertility like widen hips, full breasts. The second thing is social status. This is more important for men than women. We are mammals and are womens brains are hard wired to perceive social status as attractive, why? Because having a high social status mate meant the herd/tribe/group would more likely protect her fa… | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Having male friends is absolutely KEYjust means when youre in your late 30s you'll look like you're 25. 40s will look like early 30s and 50 will look like mid-to late 30s... you got a lot of good years in front of you as long as you don't smoke or use excessive drugs or alcohol, that shit will age you very fast! | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 05:21 AM |
| 3 | Do girls really pay attention to your shoes?It's about get a few pairs and keeping them nice. Athletic shoes wear out, others will last longer if taken care of. I like a nice pair of boots that can dress up or down, some athletic shoes, something light to wear in the summer. I'm not a fan of men wearing any type of sandals/flip flops etc except at the beach or pool. Add a really nice pair of classic dress shoes if you are old enough to be invited to more formal events. Lastly, when going out mix and match styles. Old jeans? Add some dress… | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 09:22 PM |
| 2 | I’m starting to realise that I’m probably looking for some form of deeper relationships without screening/understanding that not every girl might want that, how should I adapt?Look for real while enjoying life, it will come along. What a real man understands is that he can be successful, go out flirt and talk with women through out his life while enjoying where he is at and has a vision for his future. Women will come into his life, he can meet and talk to them, she seems interesting? then ask her out. If the first date is remarkable, ask her on a second. Etc. If you know who you are and are comfortable you'll know if they are someone you want to spend more time with … | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 05:29 PM |
| 8 | Would you rather be with a girl who is insecure or overly confident/cocky?Both are insecure. I would not date either long term, but have had many a fun night turning an overly cocky girl submissive before the night is over. It's what she wants so why not give it to her? | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 06:16 PM |
| 12 | Ex texted me 3 weeks after NC saying “u over me yet?” Yesterday morning. whyBecause she wanted to. She is getting a feeling she wants out of doing it. She also isn't considering your feels by playing with you this way. Just block her and move on. She doesn't have your best interest at heart so it doesn't matter her motivation. | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Tomorrow is my first date !I have posted before step by step instructions for a first date. let me see if I can find them. It was too much work for me to write out again at 1 am. Edit: found a few things: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/p18ltk/comment/h8c7xjk/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/p18ltk/comment/h8c7xjk/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 | /r/seduction | 24/02/22 09:03 AM |
| 3 | Never worry about how many IG followers she hashaha, never worry about anything, I've dated women that were finalist in the Miss Korea pageant, hollywood moguls, hawaiian royalty, and everything else. Once you understand the true nature of your brain and its evolutionary biology you'll understand why its your brain programming that makes you nervous and you can control that. Want to understand it all better? Message me and I'll explain the science behind social stress and attraction and how to overcome them. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How to flirt at the movies???Flirt with him. Smile and lean in when he talks. Tease him, and joke with him. Don't grab his hand, instead touch him lightly on his forearm when standing or the top of his knee if sitting. Do this when he makes a joke or if he shares something serious. You can grab his hand or cringe toward him if the movie is scary or thrilling. | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Maybe = No, right?Interesting enough your almost correct. All the studies from experts show that you should not ask. It should be framed as a statement, like this " There is a lounge I've been wanting to try called Smitty's. There is an R&B group playing this Friday at 9. Let's meet at 830 so we can have a drink and find some good seats before it gets loud with music. Here ( hand your phone) put your number in my phone and we can work out the details later." This direct assumption still allows her to say she can'… | /r/seduction | 22/02/22 11:57 PM |
| 10 | Approaching a girl checklist: Did I miss anything?Actually changing the pace of your texting is best. Sometimes text back and forth like a conversation, sometimes wait a few hours. Sometimes wait until the next day with an excuse that you were busy. The varying times of your responses act like gambling. You want her to not know when she will get a response. It's all science... Look it up. Variable interval and variable ratio date the most effective types of reinforcement. | /r/seduction | 22/02/22 10:43 AM |
| 12 | The gym is not the end all be all solution to get you laidThere is lots of real science of psychology that explains all the value of weight lifting and gaining muscle and attraction and confidence | /r/seduction | 19/02/22 06:32 AM |
| -5 | gym attraction, girls with headphones on.Just strike up a conversation. She has shown enough interest for you to start talking. Look her in the eyes smile and do the "take out your ear buds" sign with your hands. Then talk about working out. When you do this look for flirting signs, exposing the neck, playing with hair, laughing at your comments, open body language. The best test is to take a slight step back during the conversation and see if she leans or steps forward. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | I just got depressed reading and article on the front page about dating (as it applies to me). I wonder how I can turn things around?What we think changes how we act and feel. Doing these things helps but also the way we talk in our head is important. Pm me and let's talk. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 07:09 PM |
| 7 | I just got depressed reading and article on the front page about dating (as it applies to me). I wonder how I can turn things around?you need to work on you. First workout, and by workout i mean lift heavy weights. Dont know how? Do some online research and go to a gym. Ask someone guys that are big and lifting, like anyone they like to teach and show off a little about what they do well. Its time to not be shy. 2) Do some work online to figure out how to find your life's passion. Then plan it out and set a goal everyday to do 15 mins at least to go toward it with a long term goal to achieve whatever that passion is. Girls lo… | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 10:33 AM |
| 1 | I trying to seduce someone but I don’t know how to get her attention?Just ask her to a specific event and time " There is a band playing at Joe's bar this Saturday night. They play my favorite style of music. Let's meet out front of the bar at 9pm. " When you ask her out, don't ask.. see how I stated it. Do it just like that. It shows confidence and assertiveness, which girls want from a man. She can always still say no, but you don't sound weak and simp-like. | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to feel guilty for wanting women?We are socialized to feel bad for wanting women for anything other than this magical " love" but the reality is that if men didn't pursue women no one would ever fall in love. I have been very successful at dating women and also do dating coaching for guys. Both my experience and studies show that most women want to be pursued, they want a man to take charge in the chase. Even successful women want this. So the only way love is going to happen for most women is if men take the lead. This comes f… | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone here date women they’re not attracted to for practice?You can date anyone you want for any reason. But try to be honest with them about what your intentions are. I would say you have a bit more freedom in the pick up bar/club/lounge scene. Everyone there knows that they may be approached and that intentions may not match up and its kind of a "buyer beware" place. But if you meet folks on dating apps they will probably ask pretty quick what are you looking for. You can be honest and say, you are newer to dating and just trying to meet people and lea… | /r/seduction | 19/01/22 11:37 AM |
| 1 | I’m talking to this guy rn and I don’t think he knows how to flirt with me or seduce me in any waySend your hopeful partner to me... I help guys with dating and flirting. And yes I'm serious... Good luck | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 2 | Need somebody to tell me to not text this girl who has left me on read multiple times…Until you are in a fully committed relationship and you know she is committed you should be dating several girls. This keeps your mind off the ones that don't work out. This is so important because it's always true we want what we can't have, it's human nature. So you need to get out with others quickly and often! | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else lost girls because you didn’t chase her enough?Sadly just because they say it doesn't mean they meant it. What I mean is that girls and guys are finicky. Because you aren't chasing her she may think this and the second you start chasing again she will lose interest. Play the hands you're dealt. If she's around your friend group you'll cross paths and have other chances but don't waste energy | /r/seduction | 16/11/21 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Is it over for me if im just averagely attractive?Dude, you are like most guys, and most guys end up with a girl. relax and learn and you'll have more girls than you know what to do with | /r/seduction | 10/11/21 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Is 25 too late to start game?I started in my 40s as I came out of a long marriage. | /r/seduction | 07/11/21 05:00 PM |
| 8 | Initiated touch and she didn’t pull away. Asked her out, she said possibly on (day). Is she interested?I learned awhile ago to stop asking girls out. Women want a assertive confident man. They will tell you no if they want. So instead of, "would you like to go out to dinner next week?" Say, "next Friday there is this cool Moroccan place, you said you like spicy food, I'll pick you up at 730." This greatly increased not just women saying yes, but being more motivated in their responses. | /r/seduction | 31/10/21 07:07 PM |
| 2 | How do I avoid boyfriend vibes?You can't have it both ways. most women ( not all) are different than men biologically. The thing that makes you want to spread yourself to all these girlsales them want to hold you close and provide them security. So get use to breaking hearts if you want to be a player. | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 06:40 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Play on easiest settings first then work your way up to expert! | /r/seduction | 23/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 3 | How to disclose that I never had a girlfriend when asked?What's your longest relationship with a girl? " 31 years with my mom" | /r/seduction | 14/10/21 10:57 PM |
| 1 | how many of you actually have a rotation ?I used too, found the perfect girl for me and it's better than a rotation. But she is pretty special. | /r/seduction | 14/10/21 10:28 PM |
| 4 | After browsing this sub for a while I really got out of my comfort zone tonightso you're second approach needed some work? so what should you have done. Shes a hot scantily clad woman that frequents bars, guess what, she gets hit on alot. So guys are going to say nice things, instead say, "you were killing it at cup pong until you threw that horrible shot that cost you the game, i was like what was she thinking?" "did someone bump your elbow or did you like look up and see me or something?" "i'm just kidding you're a really good cup pong player, you could probably beat me.… | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 06:42 PM |
| 2 | How to escalate back to their place?First off, everyone in college is living in weird situations, dorm rooms, crowded apartments with 5 other dudes or their parents. its possible and likely she is in the same boat. So pick a day when the parents are home and take her on back to the house. Or just go to her place. Suggest an activity or some food near her house and you have a natural chain of events. Good luck and stop over thinking shit! Its all in your head! | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 05:01 PM |
| 4 | What did I do wrong?Sounds like you were boring (talked about all the basic subjects, weather, the river sure is nice, what's your name, where do you live) none of those subjects create attraction. When I coach guys i call it accelerating emotional attachment, basically increasing the connection and attraction. Second, just blaming it on supplements is ridiculous. I've been in the military 25 years and guys have multiple gunshot wounds can still complete their mission, so stop with that bs. Its your fault, and that… | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How to create attraction with girlShit... Really? You seem very motivated. There is so much stuff online and in this forum. | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 08:49 PM |
| 3 | How do you not lose your shit when talking to a 10?She puts her pants on like everyone else. She has the same insecurities everyone does. Also learn to stop worrying about people's social status, whether it's men or women. Unless you're in a third world country with a dictator and he's got lots of bad guys with guns haha. The president of the United States and you are equal, both humans, both share like 99.999% DNA. All the anxiety comes from evolutionary biology which doesn't matter any more. | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 08:54 PM |
| 2 | What are some open ended questions to keep the conversation going?Here are some really good open ended questions to use on like a first date What would 16 yr old you (if you're like me in your midlife, 30s to 50s, if you're 18 to 25 change this to 10 yr old) think about where you are in life today? What is the craziest risk you've taken in life? | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 12:02 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Own who you are, instead of talking about money, talk about your unique skills and why a big company loves your work and what you've accomplished. Showing passion for your job and the rest will take care of itself. Smart women understand that if you're in a unique position at this firm that you're successful and well compensated. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 04:57 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Flirt with her, be very prepared and smart in the subject, professors like smart is why they are professors. Never admit to flirting, and if she asks to do something tell her in a very flirtatious way it's probably best to not do it since yours is a professor-student relationship. After the term is completely over, then approach her and directly ask her out. If she asked you to go do something and you told her no, now is the time to say" let's go grab that cup of coffee (or whatever)" Done. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 07:25 AM |
| 1 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?Depends on what you consider attractive, I like attractive but want a woman that has some life experience and is intelligent and wise, being near 50 this means i like someone in their late 20s at least, probably 30s. Yes a woman sexual/beauty peak is actually in their early 20s but I'll step a back a bit to find one that I can live a interesting life with, not just bounce to the club and back again. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 07:09 AM |
| 1 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?At this stage of life you are interesting if you've lived life. You're that young guys boss or his bosses boss. Women are biologically drawn to high social status, just like men are biologically drawn to beauty. Its built in millions of years of evolutionary biology.. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 07:05 AM |
| 5 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?Get your life together and your 30s and 40s will be a time of limitless women. You decide who and how often you want to date. What do you need to do this? Workout and stay in shape (means lift heavy weights), figure out what you are passionate about and good at then do it, go hard! Figure out how to be ok with being you, so you can be confident and nice to everyone around you, so you can be chill. And then learn seduction, seduction is simple if the other things are put together. I'm approaching… | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 07:02 AM |
| 6 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?The only situation you have is in your head. Everyone in college is broke, lives at their moms or the dorms or their friends couch, or a tent down by the bridge. College girls don't care. So your situation is no different, the only thing limiting your ability to go out and meet girls is you. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:56 AM |
| 13 | Game Changed Me - Beginner PerspectiveThis is a really good post. I teach all the same things to guys. And always go to the gym! | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:44 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]you should do both. Easiest is body mirroring, just through out the date, model her. But expansive open body language is good too. But body mirroring is shown by study after study to be very powerful to get someone to feel attraction to you. | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 02:09 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]be the man. Choose a place and time. Act like a man. Tease her and joke about things while making her feel safe. Compliment what she is wearing when she arrives, she took a lot longer than you to get ready. Hold the door and hover behind her with a hand on her back. Sit where you can slide closer as the night goes on. Touch her whenever something funny or serious is said. Maintain eye contact. Slow down and be confident. Move to a second location. Have a plan for the second location. "There is a… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Haha...well that's a trick question | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 06:05 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Be you and take charge of the situation. Everything with every woman in your life is a test. You're either growing in value or diminishing. Its not a bad thing, it just is. So how do you take charge...? Step 1. Do what you honestly want with what she gave you. You still want to date her, but do you want to be her friend while hoping this happens? If you don't feel like it, tell her no, but understand you have less than 1% chance of dating her, hoping she calls you again in a few months or you bu… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 05:30 PM |
| 8 | [deleted by user]First realize that you're not average. You have something of value, you got to figure out what that is and improve it and own it. Maybe you're a good friend, maybe you're a good computer programmer, maybe you're great with animals or with kids. Take charge of your life and watch the women be attracted to you! I'm a dating coach and help guys with this all the time. A very abbreviated version of my 4 pillars of success are: Work out! and that means heavy weights every day( every 4th day do a yoga… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Just travel to poor countries bros this pua stuff is HARD, why make it hard when its easy over sea?I've lived all over the world. The same rules that apply here, apply there. If a woman perceives you as higher social status she is more likely going to like you. Pickup game in the states is the same thing just tougher ( trying to appear through words and body language that you are high social status) Prince Harry like ten years ago and single went to Vegas after finishing some training in the Cali desert with his attack helicopter squadron. Literally in minutes he had 3 girls dancing and playi… | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 05:35 AM |
| 3 | I just Meet a beautiful girl. She works in a new store near my house. Im so shy, how can approach her?So many guys come on here asking this. I'll be honest it's almost too late. You need to bed comfortable and use to dating lots so you have the best chance of success. It's like not taking care of your health for seventy years and hoping heart surgery will save you at the last second. I can teach you to be very successful at dating girls and eventually you won't worry about approaching this girl but that will that some time. | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:37 PM |
| 3 | Reason for approachI use that line all the time as an introduction line for a cold approach or in the first mins of a date. It's universal because, 1. It's true, 2. It's not sexual 3. Every girl loves to hear it. Just smile, keep eye contact, and watch what a woman does when you say it! Good luck! | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 01:37 PM |
| 0 | Reason for approachIt's my life, incredible on all accounts and by laid I mean anything I want and more than you can imagine. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 10:17 AM |
| 2 | OLD openers pt.2I use hinge mostly as well. I feel really successful using it. Like this guy does, i try to mix in some of the prompts and pics, many times multiple prompts. If you are a bit creative you can come up with something better than a canned pickup line. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 07:57 AM |
| 1 | [FIELD REPORT] 5'7 Asian Vegas, 30 minute pull.like you want a video? Haha he's admitted that most of the time he fails at approaches, and this seemed pretty reasonable. Met a tipsy girl at a vegas pool party, we started grinding, asked her to go home with me, she said yes. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 07:54 AM |
| 1 | [FIELD REPORT] 5'7 Asian Vegas, 30 minute pull.Agreed, many tall guys not dating anyone! | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 07:52 AM |
| -7 | Reason for approachI really like the funny ideas already given. But a good generic compliment is " I like how your eyes light up when you smile" | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | How to become a hot person?Risk for any surgery is real. However it's pretty small and the reality of modern life is,. If you go from ugly to handsome you have a remarkable advantage in all your interactions with people. Studies by psychology show that pretty privilege is very powerful and increases positive outcomes in so many ways. | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 03:14 AM |
| 3 | How do you actually become a high quality/value guy?Like so many on the internet we want a pill, a simple medicine that cures your problem. This is about doing. If you're really ready to be doing and have been reading this subreddit you already know what to do. How long have you been reading this sub, and how many posts have you read? | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 11:53 PM |
| 2 | How to become a hot person?I wear monte blanc legend. It's the best smelling stuff. A girl who was really really into colognes bought it for me. Every girl I wear it around loves it. It doesn't smell harsh chemically like most colognes even the high end ones have that smell. It's magic. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 10:34 PM |
| 2 | How to become a hot person?Except face is controllable in the modern world. Most guys don't do plastic surgery in western culture but it's very common for young men and especially women in Korea. They can easily fix many common facial issues. Men's facial attractiveness is normally connected with symmetry and strong bone structure especially jaw and checks. Both can be fixed. The other facial feature that is a must to being "hot" is good teeth, get those teeth straight! | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 10:30 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Yes but it can be some bananas or fruit, with some ice cream thrown too. Might as well enjoy it, also add a scoop of protein powder too. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 10:07 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Do you lift bro? Haha seriously, start lifting heavy weights and put on some muscle. 30 mins a day with a big old ice cream milk shake with a scoop of protein powder can do wonders. Who doesn't like ice cream? This may help when you aren't a big eater. You need to push muscles to failure, extra protein and enough extra calories to build muscle. It's not too hard. Hope that helps! | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 1 | How to gain confidence?Hey send me a dm. I am a dating coach and help guys to start their path. No cost. Just a friendly guy that's learned the lessons the hard way so you don't have to | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 07:32 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Remember a few things When you are walking around treat her like your gf. Walk slightly behind with a hand near the small of her back. Later if attraction grows you can actually start putting your hand here, but trust me she will know you are acting like a confident, protective date instead of a friend. Amp up the playfulness and fun. Maybe you both guess what you would pay for each piece of art. Maybe you sneak in some wine to drink( mischievous tension feels the same as sexual tension) joke " … | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 07:19 PM |
| -2 | [deleted by user]Start with this tomorrow near the end of the day, if you're at a professional job with some decently smart people. "So I heard when Socrates and Plato were at the ancient Greek philosophy school that Plato told Socrates, because he was the new guy, some new guy wisdom that has lasted for centuries. anyone know what it was?" Let people guess a few times then say, " the first day on the job the new guys buys the first round of beers, (big smile right here) lets go get some beer people." Then go do… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 03:33 AM |
| 2 | How does anyone deal with one word responses?Your guess should have been a wild fun crazy story you just made up. just run with it don't take it seriously. Then say something like the best time to read a short story is on a rainy afternoon. You don't know when that will happen again so the second best time to read a short story is at night. So we should meet for dinner tomorrow night and afterwards you can read me as much of your short story as you want. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 03:25 AM |
| 1 | How does anyone deal with one word responses?Dont over think tinder, give some crazy funny answers and at the same time just try to get to a date as soon as possible. Girls are getting dozens, if not hundreds of responses on tinder, be witty and be a bit wild, then give her a very direct. "Lets meet at this really cool Thai place that makes the best spicy curry. We can eat it with some really cold Thai beer and plan our trip to Thailand to pet baby elephants. Lets meet tomorrow at 630pm after we both get off work." She can back out but you… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You are way over thinking. Women know with in a few seconds your intentions. Be confident, be bold but be nice. Joke and tease her. Have a time constraint ( I need to get to class) Ask her for her contact info. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 05:25 PM |
| 3 | I feel so angry and dissappointed because of approach anxietyI'm a dating coach and help guys with this all the time. You need to do more than cold approaches to develop yourself. A very abbreviated version of my 4 pillars of success are: Work out and that means heavy weights every day( every 4th day do a yoga/ stretch/ walk day for rest, but I want you to still do exercise at the same time everyday to build the habit) Life's passion. Everyday for 15 mins work to find your life's passion then work towards it. There are lots of books and articles online he… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem?You are average. Here is the official medical study discussion. It also discusses studies that show most men overestimate the average and think they are smaller than average. I hope this helps you to see that you are just fine and to stop worrying about this. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32666897/ | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Had my first convo with a cute girl on the bus!!!your name is literally kermit the sex offender.... it is weird and creepy for you to hit on a girl, in fact by court order you're not allowed with 200 meters of a girl. haha. Seriously easiest way to start a conversation is with a shared experience. "Its so hot on the bus today," "Wow its so crowded today, it must be because its a holiday." "Its so crowded on this bus and traffic is horrible, if only I had a motorcycle I would whip through this traffic and be home. Do you know how to ride a moto… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 07:30 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]No animal under 5'9 ever got laid, that's why platypuses are extinct | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 07:25 PM |
| 2 | It’s not a numbers game, it’s a game of probabilityHe was trying to say we should work to increase your probability of success instead of just assuming you will always have to approach the same number of girls to have the same success. | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Gym Girl Helphonestly, my best advice is fine 2 other women to date. It will give you perspective on this one chance. It could work out wonderfully or she may never send you another DM. have options early in a relationship helps to not make you get too excited or nervous when you're with one girl. | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 06:01 AM |
| 3 | It's crazy how important social circle and status isI'm a dating coach and i alway start from the beginning, what does that mean? All our dating interactions are just millions a years of evolutionary biology covered with current social rules. The reason we feel nervous asking a girl out, the way we feel when we like someone, the way we act and the way the girl that we are talking to are acting are all built into the subconscious. Once you realize that you can start to slow it down, i equate it to the matrix, you can realize that its all not real,… | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 12:14 AM |
| 3 | Just a small piece of advice for the dayTom cruise is a easy example. His official bio says 5'7 so he's probably an inch shorter than that and yet he's dated/ married the hottest actresses in the world. Before you say he's a Hollywood star, that's exactly the point he wakes up and puts his pants on like you, he shares 99.99% of the same DNA as you. He simply has a very high social status. Even crazier, you don't have to have high social status you just have to act like you do. If you give off the signals of high status man people will… | /r/seduction | 08/09/21 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Just a small piece of advice for the dayGood luck. And remember the American prisoners in the Vietnam war worked out in their 6 feet (2m²) prison cells haha! | /r/seduction | 08/09/21 03:38 AM |
| 6 | Just a small piece of advice for the dayI won't disagree. But being tall doesn't help more than the combination of working out and having all the correct indicators and behaviors of a high social status man. | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Just a small piece of advice for the dayIt's just evolutionary biology. Tall is viewed as a good mate. You can definitely over come out with being a big social status man | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Just a small piece of advice for the daywith body weight and a few simple things you can get a good muscle workout in your house and/or a park for free. Do a little research about body weight workouts. Mostly gaining muscle is about pushing until failure, this signals the body to build more muscle as long as you have adequate calories and protein. Its more effective to do 3 sets of chest bench press of a large weight for a smaller number of reps, but you can still do 3 sets of push ups until failure to get some benefit and as they bec… | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 07:33 AM |
| 7 | Just a small piece of advice for the dayThere is good scientific evidence that working out increases your attractiveness it also does other things that indirectly increase your attractiveness with women. Of course being tall is attractive to women, we've established this through scientific (psychology) study. But one does not preclude the other. Tall is the one thing that its very difficult to do much about, but putting on muscle mass and broadening your shoulders is shown to increase attractiveness and should be a integral part of yo… | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 07:23 AM |
| -1 | Just a small piece of advice for the daylist out all the things that make you attractive and a catch for women. I'm sure you have quite a few things to put on that list. Then practice *feeling* like you are a catch. You have the list to back up the feeling. Do it often, because you have to override years of feeling worthless. That low self-esteem is a fixed view mostly created when you were a child. If you want to read more about this, look up schema therapy. and another one drops the this didn't work for me and I can't do anything to… | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 6 | She’s back: why you should never be needyIt's like you are video chatting but one side at a time. I really liked it when I used it with a girl I dated some. Imagine texting in short videos instead of words. Definitely fun if she's a cutie! | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 01:39 AM |
| 2 | She’s back: why you should never be needyI've used that app and still thought the same thing haha. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 01:38 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]When you see her again just relax and talk. Joke and tease her that is the base for flirting. Increase the level of intimacy by touching her. Mirror here body positions. Stare into her eyes longer, hold eye contact. Be in control and assertive but don't be a jerk at all. Tell her " let's move to x because it would be more comfortable/quieter/cozier/great place to get a drink". All these things build up connection. And somewhere along the way pretty early ask for her number. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Reddit is anonymous, so no need to lie: be honest and tell me. How old are you? How many girls have you had sex with/dated through cold approach? In what time span? And how attractive do people consider you?Meaning you didn't know them or friends or anything before you approached them cold, i.e. walked up and introduced yourself without any other connection. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Reddit is anonymous, so no need to lie: be honest and tell me. How old are you? How many girls have you had sex with/dated through cold approach? In what time span? And how attractive do people consider you?Thats beyond simple, stay confident, get closer and touch, tease her and joke around. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 08:27 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]See a therapist and call a hotline if you are thinking about death, please call someone! Beyond that know that life gets much better, I'm a middle aged man and I have so many good things in my life and I was lonely and unsure earlier in my life too. In fact most people are at some points in their life. What can you do starting now? Look for social groups in your community, Meetup.com is a great place. Some newspapers publish groups as well, especially independent papers. Go meet any group that i… | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 01:46 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!You did a very good job summarizing alot of the basic aspects of flirting. Proud that you have figured it out. Isn't it amazing how much easier life is when you are confident, bold and also not so worried about the one girl right in front of you. There are literally 4 billion women on this planet! Smile, hold eye contact, flirt through teasing and joking, be nice and act like she is your date through body contact and closeness. You got all the basics, from there its just practice. | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | From a fellow autist - flirting tips that actually work!A few different ideas that work well. 1) Hey I'm Joe, and you are? 2) "Excuse me, would you like to buy me a drink?" (very bold, but as the OP said, fortune favors the bold) Also only do this if you are looking sharp, don't want her thinking you're a cheap ass broke dude haha. 3) Works well for weekdays at the bar "Hi, I'm Joe, what's your name? Since you're at a bar on a Tuesday night you've either had a bad day, are celebrating something awesome or an alcoholic, which of the three do you think… | /r/seduction | 01/09/21 01:32 AM |
| 3 | I just went on 10 dates in 10 consecutive days. Here's what I learned.Also, make her come to you next time. She needs to show she is serious if you're going to meet her again. Definitely don't go chasing after her? | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 11:37 PM |
| 5 | Lessons from 15 years of learning seduction: How to be attractive part 2 - Developing your aesthetics.Don't let society tell you what to do. It's perfectly acceptable for women to enhance their breasts, a dude should be able to fix his ugly face. And those societal values are a mess. The studies that show how big of advantage attractive people gain in life make doing plastic surgery as a late teen a very good investment. As far as risks, yes there are slight risks to surgery. I'd trust the Koreans they are the best in the world and do the most! | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 03:33 AM |
| 43 | 10 year age gap. Free to proceed?Free to proceed casual or serious. Youll know in the next few months how mature she is and if she is truly a great fit. Dont let that age bother you. Better to focus on the person, does she have the personality that you want and does she make you feel wonderful and vice versa. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Lessons from 15 years of learning seduction: How to be attractive part 2 - Developing your aesthetics.And why is surgery so out of the question for so many men. In South korea where I lived multiple times it was so common for young women to get plastic surgery to enhance their beauty, not just breasts like in America. Men can have all the same advantages. several thousand dollars in korea can mean a lifetime of improved interactions with people. Understand your world you live in, take all the shortcuts you can, and be successful. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 11:25 PM |
| 1 | I gave her my number updateI agree setting up a date but also use the opportunity to flirt and tease. You can mention something like " I wonder if it's the Pakistani or venezuelan genes that gives you that sexy smile". | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 05:25 PM |
| 3 | gonna try my first cold approach ever , wish me luckdon't say things like Idon't have high hopes. Instead saying this is practice to get better as you learn you will improve | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 06:35 AM |
| 2 | I was told I have "no game"Yes, you are correct. If you notice my comment about not caring is when a man meets a woman. too many guys become immediately infatuated with the girl in front of them. This causes guys to become worried and scared. Guys need to be bold, confident, teasing, fun. To do this early in the flirting stage they can't care about reject, but to not care about reject you can't invest too much in caring to start a relationship. Its sad but true. But a man should always care in the manner of gentlemen. He … | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 06:21 AM |
| 1 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appsI'm neither attractive nor have great pictures but I get a decent number of matches, and I do a very good job of converting matches to dates to relationships. You have to set your profile up right, be interesting, and then be good at communicating when you match. | /r/seduction | 25/08/21 12:24 AM |
| 27 | I was told I have "no game"Having game is all about doing what you want, when you want. You want to emulate a high status male. Think about it, if a girl was to meet a rock star, or billionaire tech dude, he would be comfortably in charge, he would do what he wants and invite her along. He would joke and tease while basically saying what he wanted to. He wouldn't worry about her, because there are literally 100 other women waiting their turn. If you act like that they will assume you are that high social status male. Work… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 3 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appstakes two seconds to get the google voice app and setup a google voice number. you get a number, you get texts and voice mail. All on your phone, all completely separate from the real number. Safe and effective. I don't give my real number to a date ever, had too many crazy stalkers. Good luck | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 02:11 AM |
| 2 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appsYes I always tell guys who can't smile to think of the funniest thing they can and just half laugh, it looks alot more authentic. I also tell guys to get a real photographer, not just you taking selfies if you really want a few good pics, can't afford one? many times you can advertise in the local craigslist to find somethat does photography as a hobby or is starting out and looking to practice for free! good luck! | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 2 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appsI looked back for that post and I can't seem to find it but one of the key takeaways was to use an app called photofeeler to determine if your photos were creating the feeling that you thought they were. I also recommend about 5 to 6 photos, 1 a good face shot for your intro pic, a few that show the activities that you like, at least one and not more than 2 group photos with you having a good time preferably with men and women (women like to know other women aren't afraid of you/like you), one o… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 02:02 AM |
| 2 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appsI coach guys all the time on it. there was also a good post on here before about working on your pics for your profile | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 01:34 AM |
| 2 | My formula for setting up dates from dating appsi think this subreddit is about learning to be the dude that gets lots of matches? | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 01:31 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Thats my same question, are you are lifting heavy weights? then its almost impossible for girls not to notice. Its important part of the advice - don't play around in the gym, don't mostly do cardio, don't lift on those goofy ass machines only, and lift heavy and lift until muscles fail. Add some protein powder into the mix and you will get bigger, people will notice and life will change! | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 01:54 AM |
| 7 | If you want to be more than just a friend, then stop acting like her friend on dates. Don’t be ashamed of being sexualThis is absolutely true. When I'm coaching a guy my first date advice is to act like she is your girlfriend from the beginning of the date, of course within limits. But walk with your hand near the small of her back, open the door, sit close to her in a restaurant or bar, definitely not across from each other if you can help it. Break the touch barrier about 15 to 30 mins into the date, then touch her often. Teasing and joking is very important, as is being funny, they don't call them romantic c… | /r/seduction | 18/08/21 01:47 AM |
| 119 | Is there any hope for men in the wake of Me Too?You have completely misread the environment. As a man dating in the me-too era you can do anything you want as long as you are respectful, read clues, respect boundaries, make smart decisions, etc. I ask out people all the time in all sorts of places, if they say they aren't interested or are seeing someone always treat them with the same courteous as if they said yes. "thank you and have a wonderful day." If you are in a bar and pick up a woman, if she has had more than a drink or 2, then get h… | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 01:35 AM |
| 7 | A story from my youthYou actually gave him another huge bit of advice that you maybe didn't recognize or fully understand. If I could convince my 18 yr old self that this stuff is all in your head. When you didn't care about this girl or were actually frustrated so you were mean to her she reacted differently. All the "real" stuff stayed the same, her body/face, your body and face, your money/fame/artistic talent (all the things people think get girls). But what changed was what you thought in your head and how you … | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 07:51 AM |
| 23 | How to be more comfortable with sexual tension?Simple advice a few things to consider to help Act like she is your gf already, this helps alot of the guys I coach. From the first seconds of the first date, open the door for her, walk slightly behind her with a hand at the small of her back. At first you don't even have to really touch her back but just hover there, she knows you are treating her like a lady, walk on the traffic side of the street, she will appreciate feeling protected. Sit at a round bar table or even at the bar vs at a boot… | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Lifting....Changed everythingIf you get fitness trainer find one that really understands you want to build muscle. Its not hard to do, but alot of trainers focus more on weight loss or "getting in shape" which are good things, but its really about building muscle. Muscle= confidence in yourself, attraction from women, respect from other men, all of which equal higher social status and more dates! | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Lifting....Changed everythingthis is one of my basic rules when I'm giving advice as a dating coach to guys. The number of guys that fight me on this is amazing. Well done! | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | How do I keep an abundance mentality when the abundance isn't really there?lots of countries have been closed, a year and a half is a very short time. Life will get back to normal and then of course these opportunities will be available again | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Is it really possible to "make" someone attracted or is it decided before an approach is even made?Attraction is definitely different than fundraising though personal skills can help with each. It is definitely possible to make a woman attracted to you, but you have to be confident and have the skills to do it. Second, by not caring you have the best chance of success. Trying to hard or really wanting her to like you often shows up as needy or desparate. Work on your game. Be confident in what you have to offer a woman. you will start succeeding. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 10:42 PM |
| 2 | How do I keep an abundance mentality when the abundance isn't really there?The reality in the United State is you are pretty short. So go somewhere else, go teach English in Vietnam (or research other skills you have that could get you an overseas position). You'll be average height and exotic (foreigner). Life is too short to not get what you want. There is an absolute abundance out there, go where it is. I speak from experience, I'm tall but a very average at best dude, girls were not throwing themselves at me in America. I lived in Korea for a year as a guy in my la… | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about Dale Carnegie's book "How to win friends and influence people"?Anything that can help you interact and be attractive to humans is good. I use alot of my negotating strategy knowledge learned from body experts in dating. The most obvious is body mirroring. It works on platonic relationships as well as dating. The other thing that becoming better at being around people does is make you more attractive to girls if you are confident around groups of people, and look/act like a natural leader. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Is There A Free Pick Learning Curriculum?Once you realize that so much of its just evolutionary biology. How girls feel about different boys, how you feel about girls, how your mind reacts to social situations, its all millions of years of evolutionary biology but its not real. You can learn to almost matrix the situation (if you know the movie matrix, essentially living in a world but realizing that its not real and you can manipulate it from your point of understanding). Once you realize this than you can slow interactions down, use … | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 03:36 AM |
| 6 | Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed?the short answer is yes. Text her, if it's around dinner time, "hey were you going to eat before the movie or should we get some takeout?" If the time is later than dinner then text her, "hey since we are meeting at 8, I'll eat dinner before hand, should I bring something to drink or your favorite movie snack?" This second option still sets the ground rules, if she's a late eater she could be planning to cook you a huge ass lasagna, salad, bread, and a dessert. So its best to communicate and cla… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | I'm tired of people assuming someone isn't hygienic or trying to be healthy and take care of themselves. Specifically when asking for advice when it comes to dating and attracting someone.Please understand I have been helping guys for years and helped dozens of guys, all just because I like to do it, i gain nothing other than satisifaction at helping someone. But most of us that are any good at providing advice of this type know there are patterns, methods, specific steps, that can help a man succeed in dating. So if someone asks me where to start, i do start with all the basics. If they tell me they are already doing those things then we can look at the next steps. But it is cru… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 11:10 PM |
| 3 | 24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. FrustratedSo first of all has this happened always or just recently? did you get matches and then go on dates before? But the short answer is 2 parts 1) you're not attractive enough through what little they get from the app to get automatically to dates, 2) you say you are good at texting, yet if its consistently not working then you're not doing it right. Each step should get you to the next step. Understand that everyone accept truly exceptionally attractive guys lose some of their matches along the ste… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 10:38 PM |
| 1 | I need to make the move on a girl I’ve been seeing for a while , but don’t know how.If you're talking about it, then she is ready and willing so here is what you do: 1) Kiss her when you meet her. This is setting the tone, 10 dates whether you've said it, you both think you're going out, so kissing when you meet is the norm. 2) after that never let go of her. Hold her hand or touch the small of her back as you walk. When you're sitting or watching tv then hold her hand or put your hands on her thigh. 3) suggest that you all watch a movie, then once it starts just look over at h… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Asked the waitress for her name, didn't give her mine. A step forward for me but feel like I was rude. Can I go back to try and see her again or would that be weird now.So you have said you realize that you overthink things. Here's a hint: you're way, way overthinking this! She was your server and you asked her name, she made a little small talk that servers do all the time. There is nothing good or bad here. Of course you can go back but you need to build on what you started. when you see her introduce yourself. " Hey Susie, you were my server the other day. I remember asking your name and then we started talking and i never gave you mine, I'm Joe. I work over… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Is There A Free Pick Learning Curriculum?Yes there are. The other poster was right, set goals. I have coached a lot of guys and i break it down into 4 areas. 1) physical, fix anything that is messed up, hair, wardrobe, teeth! and start working out, meaning lift heavy weights. work out 7x a week to make it a habit, do it at the same time everyday. you'll want to lift most of the time, do cardio some, and every 4 days or so take a rest day that is light walking, stretching or yoga. Its critical that you workout everyday to build a habit.… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 09:32 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with the boyfriendIts up to you, just remember, you surround yourself with people. Their morals will effect your life, for good or bad. And I will say again, there are many other women that are interested in a guy of character, best of luck! | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 09:11 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with the boyfriendLook, be a man, respect their relationship like you would want strangers respecting yours. If you meet her again and she is flirty then tell her you don't mess with someone in a relationship and she should make a decision if she doesn't love the guy she's with. One, huge attraction points, girls are use to all guys being scumbags the second the possibility of sex pops up, two, do you really want a relationship with a woman that acts like that, all you'll do is worry. relax, you're probably new t… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 08:50 PM |
| 21 | [deleted by user]Look, you can be friendly and interested. Act just like you did when you talked to her. You want her to know either way, you're so cool and confident that its no big deal. So you're now semi-friends/acquaintances so act like it. Instead of just scanning your membership card continue to talk to her. Even mention concerts that are coming into town, but don't ask her out again until she shows that she is interested. Be cool and confident, she'll be impressed even if it doesn't work with her. | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 08:32 PM |
| 31 | (F18) My boyfriend doesn’t satisfy me enoughGentlemen, someone is fishing and you are all swimming around analyzing if the hook is really tasty or not. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 09:39 AM |
| 2 | So I went on 5 dates todayIt can only be a flex. Even if its not a flex its a flex haha | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 07:44 AM |
| 1 | So I went on 5 dates todayDid the dates know you were just visiting, can I ask your age and the age range of your dates. I have success when I've been visiting cities, but its definitely a very different dynamic and many women are put off by the fact there is not opportunity for a relationship, though some like the idea of a fling or just a nice evening out, sometimes without commitment (not necessarily sex, just being out with worrying if this guy is "the one" since you are leaving shortly) | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 07:44 AM |
| 2 | So I went on 5 dates todayOP mentioned below, but bar seating or round hightop table (think bar height) is better, next is a square hightop, you can still sit closer. I agree, you never want to sit across if you can help it. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 07:41 AM |
| 1 | I love this subreddit, but i hate most of you.actually I joined to help people. I like helping guys become their best self and realize they can find success in dating and relationships. But alot of folks are here to learn and thats great too. | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Where can I find a sub like r/seduction but for women?So, I've done a lot of studying on dating and attraction, primarily focused on the men's perspective but the female perspective is definitely in much of the same literature. So first of all, understand there is a lot of science-based studies and information in areas of psychology, evolutionary biology, sociology that have studied men and women and dating/attraction/partnerships. So I would start there. Its much more science than what everyone is saying on the internet. Which brings me to my seco… | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 08:32 PM |
| 3 | How do I meet girls and how can I get to know them? Looking for casual sex and/or a long relationship.Great advice, this is exactly what I tell beginners that come to me for dating coaching. A few other things: 1) Be nice to everyone, it builds on everything and it makes you feel good and makes you smile more 2) Learn who you are and what is your life's passion. Try reading books, internet articles, podcasts, videos about figuring out your life's passion. The look for the same resources that tell you how to build on a series of small goals to get where you want to go. A passionate man is a MUCH … | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!I don't disagree that it was overboard but a clear example of what is fashionable today. And it doesn't matter if you really like it, fashion does what it wants. Trying to decide how much fashion an old man needs when he's dating is an art. I will wear a nice pair of sneakers with some casual pants and a nicer shirt, but I'm not going for the full suit and sneakers look. One thing for the older guys (30s-early 50s) when it comes to fashion is to understand what you can adopt to look younger and … | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!Simple fashion tips: dark (gray to black) tshirts go well with anything, just buy decent ones that fit your body. buy 2 or 3 new casual shirts each season. Old navy actual has decent shirts unless you're running a high end lifestyle in a big city. Buy the shirts they show first on their advertisements, that's what is in style, on sale their shirts are $15 to 25, so they won't break the bank, can't afford 3, get one, at least you can wear it on first dates. Style right now is a bit mix and match.… | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Your clothes play a huge role in seducing women!Shoes help, but in today's fashion having shoes that mismatch the outfit is the trend. For example in the last few days Justin Bieber met the president of France. He wore a pinstripe gray suit with airjordans. (https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-9710273/Justin-Bieber-wife-Hailey-meet-Emmanuel-Macron-wife-Brigitte-Paris.html) So if I'm in jeans and a t-shirt i will often go the other way and wear some nicer shoes. Besides being in fashion it shows confidence to buck the norm. I still c… | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | 18m, 6’4 brutally honest questions about attractiveness.Concerning plastic surgery, Its mostly a state of mind, In Korea where I lived it was very normal, also 1/3 the price probably of America. It was the norm for middle class girls to get some type of plastic surgery, often as a graduation gift. But there are 2 important things to understand. 1) If you are not very attractive in the face and thats probably 20% of people, an early investment in plastic surgery at age 18 to 22 will yield a lifetime of positive results. This subreddit constantly talks… | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 11:12 PM |
| 1 | 18m, 6’4 brutally honest questions about attractiveness.also a few people said you can't control what your face looks like, this isn't true. plastic surgery is a viable option if your face is really ugly. Also some people say this and its their teeth are messed up, also correctable. | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 07:34 AM |
| 1 | 18m, 6’4 brutally honest questions about attractiveness.dude post a pic, we'll tell you honest truth. And what about your face? seriously a picture would help us help you. | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Is it just me or for every dating advice there is an opposite advice?there is not as much conflicting advice as you think. Its really about a few things: 1) work on you to be your best self, ie. workout, figure out fashion, take good photos for dating apps, 2) work on confidence - this comes from being your best self, having a passion/goal for your life, 3) work on actual techniques - one is practice, you have to practice to learn what to say, to learn to read peoples reactions, this also develops confidence, and of course you can read about techniques here some,… | /r/seduction | 19/06/21 08:45 PM |
| -8 | If you are unsuccessful with women, it is 100% your fault. You are not a victim. Being attractive is not a static or predetermined qualityLooks are easily fixed these days. And affordably in someplace like Korea you can get a whole new face for under $25k, which is cheap. So many dudes will spend twice that on a car that they will only own for 5 years. They can strengthen the jaw and cheeks, balance and make symmetrical the eyes, nose, etc. If you live in America money is just a bit of hard work and savings away from reality. And with money in this world comes social status, pretty simple these days. There are many ways to get soc… | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 05:10 AM |
| 3 | If you are unsuccessful with women, it is 100% your fault. You are not a victim. Being attractive is not a static or predetermined qualitypeople are idiots, i know guys that have done this and had great success with women. I recommend it as a dating coach at times. even if someone is to stay in their current city I will recommend going to asian community events where women are shorter. Also many of the guys that are struggling with success with women are Asian (due to height) and it can definitely help. | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 05:07 AM |
| -3 | Approach when she's got company."Hi my name is Joe, whats your name? and you are? I have to ask, you both look amazing and so similar, are you two sisters?" Mom is always flattered. "I just wanted to say you look really happy when you were smiling, like the kind of person I would like to get to know better. If you're single I would love to ask you out sometime, can I get your number?" | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 10:29 PM |
| 11 | How to be more Masculine?Long term? workout, meaning lift heavy weights. it will make you feel more masculine and look more too Short term? Lower your voice, practice so its natural. Keep eye contact, its hard to do, but really shows confidence. When you do maintain eye contact for that half second to second past where it feels comfortable, you need to practice the george clooney half smile/smirk that comes with the end of the look. (:50 in this clip, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qxH0R_k3zI) Notice she lowers her ey… | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 04:40 PM |
| 5 | Why you are not attractive, and how to be it.Find a passion, not just to date but for yourself. The simplest way to start this is to set aside 15 mins in the morning everyday to think about it and journal. What are your interests, why do you like them? Are there things you have always wanted to do or try? Why have you not started or tried them? Repeat every day. As you get something that really interest you, then do some more follow up work, read articles and books and try to find a local expert and ask them for a mentor session. Stay with… | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Has the dating scene always been like this?Yep, its the world we built, no one is loyal and no one has morals. Everyone wants everyone else to be loyal to them, just not the other way around. Whether its a business, a relationship or even their own country. The reality is there are lots of decent people, but many stay quietly away from all the craziness and as far as relationships, the ones that are loyal, very quickly are snatched up by other loyal ones, and guess what? they stay together. | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Has the dating scene always been like this?I would not buy into the overinflated and underinflated ego stuff. but you can definitely get a larger share of the pie. Why? 1) online dating, if you have your shit together there will be lots of interested women 2)women are willing to enter into relationships that are not directly focused on serious dating and marriage, unlike 40 years ago. These 2 things have made having much more than your fair share possible. But you have to put in the real work. Lots of guys on here whine and moan but don'… | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Has the dating scene always been like this?Flirt with her, all the time. And never admit to it. Its that simple. Flirting is teasing and joking. Its also intimate touching. like when you sit next to her on a couch be close, not far away, brush her hair or massage her back when she has a bad day. But never admit that those things are flirting! Thats your best shot at turning a friend into a lover! good luck. | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Has the dating scene always been like this?There is some truth to this and being in shape helps meet women but also to feel good about yourself. But also becoming interesting. and not just for women, for yourself. Have something to put in your bio and pictures, have something to talk about when you meet a woman. have you travelled the world? Why not? Started a company or tried to invent something? Started a hobby thats not video games? Its a huge world and you can start experiencing it today. | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 02:27 AM |
| 3 | Contrary to popular belief it seems that subtlety and friendliness is key with day gameall those questions except the body hair one! ugh, that made me slightly nauseous. haha, but I agree casual is best in day time, workplace, or other none-dating environments. | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 07:43 PM |
| 2 | What are the green flags when you want to go in for a kiss?you should escalate through safe touching at first, hands, forearms, top of the knee, then back, shoulders, back of neck along with hand holding. you should also be closing the distance between your bodies, Ideally you're sitting side by side like a couch. watch for signs she wants your touch, like touching you back, lingering her hands on yours, her moving closer to you. then finally close the distance between your faces. Go most of the way and she'll come meet you if she wants to kiss, if she … | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 07:41 PM |
| 3 | How to practice?Start with being straight forward "hey I saw you sitting in the cafeteria and thought you looked really happy" Then try to make jokes and tease her. That is 70% of flirting language. One way to joke is about shared experiences... you're in a long line, "wow, the next movie is going to be released before we see this one, this line is so long and slow." or cafeteria at school, "wow the things they serve here and call food, I tried to eat that stuff but when I stuck my fork into it, it fought back.… | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 07:36 PM |
| 15 | This having to show interest without crossing their arbitrary line of showing too much interest thing is kind of bullshit...The real trick is to act/feel like you are higher in social status than them and yet are still interested in them. Then they feel special and lucky. | /r/seduction | 30/04/21 09:06 PM |
| -2 | Some of you are lameoh It happened, then we went to the airport hotel during our layovers, hers was shorter than mine, but that's ok I enjoyed the 3 hours of sleep in a bed because I had been up all night on the redeye flight with this girl. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Some of you are lamecello and human attraction are very different, haha. There are multiple facets to human attraction and some of them we can't control (i.e. females like taller males) and some we can (i.e. females are attracted to broader shoulders, and lifting weights helps this). Anyone that says it easy or to just work on a single factor is probably not very good at helping a person find success in dating, but lifting weights is part of the success formula. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 04:57 PM |
| 12 | The Main Reasons of Why You're still single or NOT good with the ladies - 3 Brutally Honest Truths.your happiness and how you convey that is so important, it goes back to the confidence everyone talks about. If you are traveling and happy with yourself then you project that confidence but also you had made a decision to not worry about life probably, including women. its amazng how that reduces the anxiety that makes you less successful. | /r/seduction | 13/04/21 11:07 PM |
| 1 | How do I impress a girl over text?make sure to joke and tease her. Flirting is always teasing. Other guys have it right, keep it light and don't worry about it. | /r/seduction | 26/03/21 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Becoming more physically attractive has made me realize I’m def gonna be single foreverWell you are either asking for one of two things. 1) validate my feelings of hopelessness and being a victim of fate 2) How do I break this cycle, because I see from posts here and other examples that it has happened and I'm ready to give up the negative thoughts in my head and start taking positive actions to fix this problem just like I did with my weight. What do you really really want? | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Rank this in importance to get more girls.I agree with other comments. Each does things for you, they are not more to less important. Certain things are dealbreakers for women. So getting bad teeth fixed is a top priority as well as losing weight. After that you need to work on everything. And as others said, I'm not so much a believer in a numbers game as I am in practicing getting better. All these things add to your confidence which is a bit of a social mirror. We see the subtle signs that are demonstrated to us of our social value a… | /r/seduction | 17/03/21 04:37 PM |
| 5 | If You're Doing What Everyone Is Doing You Will Get The Same Results As Everyone Is Getting. Unless You Be Someone Exceptional, You'll Never Get Exceptional Result. Common sense right? Not So Fast.he is doing marketing | /r/seduction | 16/03/21 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Struggling to make dates "man to woman" any tips? Keep getting "I felt a friends vibe" from girls.Yes, first act like she's your gf already, ;like when you walk, place a hand behind her back, doesn't even really touch her at first but she'll know you are assuming that protective role. Tease her! flirting is teasing. you can joke about things but make sure to tease her specifically, not horribly mean. And you can even say, Just kidding or whatever afterwards. But confident men tease when they flirt Elevate your intimacy through eye contact and escalating physical contact. After a few minutes … | /r/seduction | 16/03/21 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Instagram MessageShoot your shot, say you saw her on hinge and hopefully have something funny/witty to say about her hinge or instagram. There is no risk, she will either message back or you'll never hear from her again. | /r/seduction | 16/03/21 01:44 AM |
| 11 | How fast does it take to develop adequate dating/flirting skills as a clueless beginner?Lots of good advice already given. I agree that within six months you can definitely be dating regularly. It really starts with taking charge of your life. First, social anxiety, it is real, but its also only real because its you talking in your head. Its not something that is going to stop you. Whenever you think of it, say "its not an impossible wall but instead just another hill i need to climb to get to my goal." When you think other people are looking at you remember, they are all more worr… | /r/seduction | 16/03/21 01:37 AM |
| 2 | NOT ALL DATING ADVICE FROM ONLINE IS HELPFUL (including from me)that's exactly what I teach as a dating coach. Awareness is the first step, its also acceptance. These are very powerful urges and are going to push us regardless of our thoughts sometimes. I was reading about them from a scientist explaining they come from the same part of your brain as hunger and thirst. Essentially primal urges that will override anything to get what the body needs, but you can adjust and control them some. Also, understanding them allows you to know what your partner/date is… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | NOT ALL DATING ADVICE FROM ONLINE IS HELPFUL (including from me)I've heard so many good things about that show and yet I've not sat down and started binge eating that whale in small bite size pieces ( i have a bit of a phobia of any show that has more than 3 seasons). But a comedy is nice and light and I can grab an episode here or there may actually work. I do what I do and say what I say to try and help people, but like any change to improve its a hard thing. I've worked with a lot of guys on dating coaching. Those that can accept they can really change an… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To ThemOur brains are built to go on autopilot. you only have so much mental energy to use in a day and literally your brain uses real energy (just like the rest of your body) for every decision. In fact it needs so much energy we have these large arteries that run to it from our lungs to keep it working. So imagine waking up and redeciding how to brush your teeth. Or walk, or talk or a million other things. Then our brain categorizes things to make things simple. And it uses lots of hardwired decision… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 02:04 AM |
| 2 | What I agree & disagree about DaygameFinding the right woman that makes you happy of course you should fall in love, why not? Life is too short not to fall in love with the beautiful ones (and I mean this in the totality of beauty, their soul, emotions, looks, physical compatibility, thoughts and desires) | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Trying to get to link with someone from a different school on textYou need a reason to text them. Its that simple. You have to give the folks here some more info. how do you know them? how did you get their number? Do you have another form of communication that is a bit less creepy like instagram? Give us some background. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Do I have a chance ...?Dude, it doesn't matter what your theory is, she has demonstrated that she will manipulate and use you. Just walk away. You said yourself you are very shy. She is using you for some reason. You need to work on becoming the right guy. Strong, confident, successful, so you can find healthy relationships. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 01:50 AM |
| 0 | Did I fuck up?Always reply. What do you have to lose? Shoot her a text like a friend "hey whats up with you, what are you doing tonight?" but as said above need to transition to date locations. Also you do alot of humor which is good flirting but not much teasing. Need to drop a few teases and you should also drop some very light romantic/sensual/sexual thoughts. When I first do it, I use a technique called covering it up. You want her subconscious to register that you are saying something a little sexy but h… | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 10:49 PM |
| 8 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To Thembecause it hurts peoples feelings. I am special, though I share 99.9% of my DNA with the random dude sitting next to me on a subway. Because people don't want to admit that flirting and dating are basically mating rituals just like every other animal. Why are there thousands of romantic novels and dozens of romantic movies made every year. All with the same formulas and yet they excite romantic feelings in so many women? That formula works, it works because we are all very similar. Whats sad is … | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 10:27 PM |
| 2 | The Loophole That Makes Women Start Chasing YouHe uses seller as a kiosk seller in the mall. this is a good analogy for the first frame of mind, but I wouldn't use buyer for the second frame of mind, but instead the seller of real estate in san francisco at the height of the real estate boom. The minute I put up a for sale sign i will get attention. Lots of attention. This is true of a very high social status male. So imagine the highest possible social status male. A A list movie star, a well known billionaire, or the prince of england. Whe… | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 09:49 PM |
| 14 | NOT ALL DATING ADVICE FROM ONLINE IS HELPFUL (including from me)So what most people don't like to talk about in this subreddit or others about dating advice is science. Psychologists have done thousands of hours of experiments and studies on attractiveness, sexuality, flirting, dating. They have used well designed experiments to learn a massive amount about what does and does not work. They have also learned from evolutionary biology that we are in fact mostly animals in our decisions. Are all people different? Sure, but remember that we share 99.9% DNA with… | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To ThemI do a lot of dating and life coaching for guys and I use science and studies. So much human behavior is based on evolutionary biology. We are basically mammals which are social creatures. So millions of years of evolution strongly influence our relationships with other people and the opposite sex. Once you understand that most people are on autopilot and their subconscious, heavily influenced by the animal/lower brain is driving most of their decisions then it makes sense of lots of the behavio… | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To Themyou are correct, see my extended response with psychological study case citation in my response below | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 06:24 PM |
| 52 | Women Want Men Who Are Superior To Themsadly this is not the case, and psychological studies bare that out. Men would love a woman who is much more attractive than themselves which is ultimately the way most of society places value on women. You see an older billionaire dating who? A much younger more attractive female, most don't care about this type of corporate job status. Here is an article that talks about it. In fact studies show that no matter how successful a guy is when his woman has this type of success it hurts his confide… | /r/seduction | 12/03/21 06:22 PM |
| 1 | A woman's POVNot that tall, you'll have to get a bit closer to see me | /r/seduction | 05/03/21 10:06 PM |
| 2 | A woman's POVhaha anywhere near central California? I'll be the tall guy looking for you | /r/seduction | 04/03/21 11:29 PM |
| 0 | A woman's POVUm which bar at which restaurant will you be at tonight? Can I identify you by the type of dessert? Are you a chocolaholic or more of a berries and cream girl? :) | /r/seduction | 04/03/21 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Push/Pull with GirlJust do what makes you feel good, which is to not have her in your life. When someone is causing you this kind of concern, you're not going to be able to "just keep her around for sex" Cut bait, plenty of other hot women. | /r/seduction | 04/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 37 | What do you bring to the table?absolutely true. I call finding your passion and focusing on it daily. Its ok to say, I want to be something and not be there yet but if you aren't working towards it, then you're right you are bringing value to the relationship. | /r/seduction | 02/03/21 09:31 AM |
| 2 | I WILL BE YOUR WINGMAN FOR A DAY (IN THE US)I agree, as a composer, he's used to keeping a very "show like posture" but it looks stiff in the park. He needs to do something with the hair, I would go a few shades darker. But also his shirt color doesn't help him. A green, blue or teal colors would look better. The backpack looks a little young as well. He needs something comfortably manly. Biggest thing was his language was very "stranger small talk" as compared to natural. | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 07:15 PM |
| -2 | Turning conversation sexualwhen you first meet or text don't say anything sexual. If something comes up that could be a sexual comment (think something that boys would say "thats what she said") I will make a flirty joke about it. But early on I use and teach guys a technique called covering it up. It sounds creepy sometimes to say sexual comments early in a relationship, but like you elude to in your post, you need things to turn sexual so a girl wants to be with you in a relationship instead of friendship. this is where… | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 06:54 PM |
| 3 | How to make a girl feel safe around you ?Act like a confident man. Treat her like a woman. Open doors, walk next to her, with your hand at the small of her back. Be and act strong (that means go to the gym). You want to look tough and yet show her that she can trust you. That means to do things to build the trust. | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 06:42 PM |
| 1 | If a girl looks at you do look away too quickly just because you're shyIts really about noticing her interest. If she keeps giving you looks of interest, NOt fear or paranoia, then she is probably interested. But the first smile as long as its natural is free. After that if she sees you staring it can get awkward. | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 02:03 AM |
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| 1 | How do you make “the final move”?During the movie Hitch he was spot on when he says go 90%. So as you move to her stop very close to her face and she will finish the last 10% of the distance. It makes a girl feel like you are confident but not an overbearing guy, every girl I've seen has closed that distance. Also, if you haven't kissed on a first date but there has been body contact, touching, maybe even hand holding then hug her good night and do the same thing, 90%. If she is comfortable kissing she'll close the distance to … | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Unpopular Advice To Become More Confidentits amazing how often i tell guys to practice and people think practicing skills to be better at flirting and dating is crazy. Skills are skills people, learn form experts and then practice them. Put them all together and you will be lethal in life! | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Unpopular Advice To Become More ConfidentI mention this when I'm coaching guys all the time. Flirting is primarily joking and teasing so learn from the best, watch standup comedy but don't get absorbed in thecomedy instead watch the mannerisms, how they act, transition, how they make a subject funny with timing etc. | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 5 | Unpopular Advice To Become More Confidenthaha at my age it would be submit a guy younger than you :) | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | im happy even tho i get rejectedSo there is a science to most all of dating/attraction. If you are getting a lot of matches, are you also getting some good messaging? I would imagine not, because it sounds like you're not getting on dates, and messaging is the step between the two. I'll give you a quick piece of advice. If you want more just DM and I do dating coaching for guys all the time (and its free, just like to pass on what I learned). So quick advice is most flirting is joking and teasing. If possible your opening mess… | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 10:15 PM |
| 10 | im happy even tho i get rejectedIts all about mindset for you and the other guys/girls reading this. Remember first of all that you have a lot to offer someone, if you don't know what this is, you should be working hard to figure out your life's passion and how to be the best you can be at it. Second, remember that every time you talk with someone or ask them out, or go on a first date, or text them or message them on tinder you are PRACTICING. In America the biggest sporting event is the Super bowl which will be played this S… | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 09:59 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with rejectionSo we can break it down some. If you're on tinder/hinge/etc and getting matches your profile is ok. It seems like your communication skills are lacking some and your ability to raise the level of intimacy or what i call accelerating emotional connection. It helps women know that your a potential mate and not a friend. Women don't just want a good listener, they want someone that makes them have butterflies in their stomach when you are around. The basics of flirting is joking and teasing. I can … | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with rejectionIts kind of concerning that 90% of the time you don't know why you were rejected. Are you talking about matching on Tinder and not getting a response or are you talking about being on a date and getting rejected? In the first case, yes tinder is a bit of a wild card, but the short answer is when she went from initial swiping/low effort to a bit of study about you she decided you weren't worth her time. Now if she's a good looking girl on tinder she is getting dozens of matches a day. So its all … | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 06:23 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with rejectionfirst question - you need to work on you. we hear it a thousand times here but its true. And specificially you need to work on your passion. I don't care what it is, once you find a passion then other things become less important and you know what you're striving for and good at. Second, date around until you are in a committed relationship, rejection will hurt alot less when you have 3 other dates that same week with other girls. And you'll forget it quicker. Second point, this isn't just as mu… | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 06:18 PM |
| 4 | The reason that HUMOR is super attractiveLike most skills, practice, start by finding funny things, it can be jokes you hear or a funny moment in your life. Are you serious about this? then get a little notebook and write them down, or make a note on your phone. Then practice that stuff on your family and friends and coworkers first. The threat of failure is less but you practice, read peoples reactions and notice how your deliver was. Keep practicing. I've watched people in training and practice for everything from sports to war. The … | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Has anybody tried The Desire SystemThere is plenty to read and learn for free on the internet. Also If you really want help just dm me. I'll teach you for free. I have taught many guys and have been quite successful. Everything is going to overpromise unless you put in the work. Please don't waste your money. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 29/01/21 01:44 AM |
| 4 | How to start conversationThen just use that. "Hey I'm terrible at knowing what to say to girls, so I'm just going to say that I think you're cute, would you like to exchange instagram or snapchat and maybe later we could get drinks or some food sometime?" If you look sincere and decently confident, this works as well as any approach. If you are in certain situations like school or university or work then there are some decent algorithms (standard things to say) sometimes. In school ask a girl if she wants to study or pr… | /r/seduction | 29/01/21 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Reason I fail before I even tried is because I am scared, and I don't know how to proceedBrother, its all completely normal. Like you said you have to get on the other side of the fear. The first key is to learn that catastrophising is a real thing millions of brains do it. Once you accept that its normal, but not right, you have to reprogram your brain into thinking about the mostly likely outcome(mlo) and realistic worse case scenario (wcs) What if i talk to her and she doesn't like me.... mlo... she says politely she is not interested... wcs... she is bitchy about saying she is n… | /r/seduction | 29/01/21 12:59 AM |
| 1 | If a guy replies a girl immediately over text or answers her questions logically, he's just being a good person and down to earth. Can someone explain me why this doesn't work in dating?I don't think you understand how psychology works. Just because you say on a side note does not make it true. Studies/experiments about rewards and reinforcement have been done thousands of times on animals as well as humans. People and animals are universally susceptible. | /r/seduction | 28/01/21 11:39 PM |
| 3 | If a guy replies a girl immediately over text or answers her questions logically, he's just being a good person and down to earth. Can someone explain me why this doesn't work in dating?I generally agree with this, but another principle of psychology is that of a variable reward. This is essentially why gambling is so effective. Everytime you provide an input (she sends a text, or a gambler plays a game of chance) she is uncertain if she will get a reward. I've found sometimes you answer quickly, sometimes you have a conversation and sometimes you leave it alone for mins, and sometimes for hours and sometimes especially during the evening, a text goes unanswered overnight. | /r/seduction | 28/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | If a guy replies a girl immediately over text or answers her questions logically, he's just being a good person and down to earth. Can someone explain me why this doesn't work in dating?there are several things going on here. First, there is some truth behind the saying, "we want the things we can't have." Especially once you're flirting, she is in anticipation of that next cute/sexy/funny text. Waiting builds the excitement. Excitement makes things better. Second, almost a complete opposite of the first, in most relationships the person with higher social status sets the communication exchange. Think about your boss at work, or your teachers during school, or even imagine the … | /r/seduction | 28/01/21 07:15 PM |
| 3 | “we don’t really care what you say when you’re flirting with us, it’s about how attractive and confident you are”The approach in clubs can be a bit different than on a first date or meeting someone in a non-dating environment. But physical touch should be started very quickly to show interest. It says, along with eye contact, deepening voice, and body language that you are interested in her as a partner. First touches on the knee, forearm/hands, and shoulders can also judge her interest without being too forward. then you just have to read her body language in response. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 06:40 PM |
| 8 | “we don’t really care what you say when you’re flirting with us, it’s about how attractive and confident you are”This is great advice. The more confident you are in you, definitely the better off you'll be. But you have to say something so its good especially when you start to have some planned words. Practice them in the mirror some. Practice really does help. I also say practice alot with girls that you are not that attracted too, it reduces your stress. If you played a sport, this is all like practicing with your own team before the game. Another very important way to reduce the stress is date a lot. Th… | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 06:32 PM |
| 6 | Can’t get over approach anxietyOthers have mentioned it but let me give you some examples of how to do this without overthinking it. Also, we don't have to be PUA, instead go about your normal life and add to it. Be polite to everyone. Say hi and asked the cashier how their day is going. My favorite, "almost done with your shift, its getting late" Every store cashier will get to let off for a sec and tell you, "yep in one more hour i'm heading home." Work the nice guy all the time. Open doors for little old ladies, and women … | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 11:29 AM |
| 3 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.I didn't say that research psychologist have the best dating game haha! I meant they have provided much of the material, along with some from PUAs and along with much from other social settings. But then of course apply and practice. Thats the application part, it still takes alot of work. And of course, as is often alluded to here, it takes alot of self work to build confidence, to build passion, to build a better body, to have decent style, etc. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 03:32 AM |
| 1 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.You are bit contradictory, stating first that formulas don't work and then ending with any idiot can get sex and relationships with women. I would argue that your intiutive outergame is quite "formula-like" you just don't pay attention to it as much because its become natural to you. I've developed a very specific formula to help guys stay on track, especially early in their dating career. It helps to have something to fall back to when things are a bit off, it also helps to have something to pr… | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 03:26 AM |
| 3 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.that was a rhetorical question :) But yes exactly that, society has norms of behavior for both sexes though in the modern world we pretend we don't have as many. Thats my point, the fact that society doesn't understand what is really driving us as humans first, then we can start talking about it with a clear understanding. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 03:21 AM |
| 5 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.Its the most important thing to learn and no one talks about it, or teaches it really. We all get a glimpse of it in our high school psychology class or college psych 101 taken as a general elective. Wow, you can train dogs to do what? Wait, you can train humans? The funny thing is most people think that PUA do most of the discussion about game. Psychologists have studied flirting and attraction in humans in thousands of experiments, all laid out in scientific journals, and luckily many summariz… | /r/seduction | 26/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 11 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.Just to add some context though from the opposite direction. A women is having a bad day or broke up with the bf, or is just feeling horny. Its acceptable for her to dress up sexy, put on the right "come over here" makeup and go to the bar to pick up a one night stand. Her game is just a game too, and she is "assuming all men are the same" and that she will grab one, take him home, get off, and send him on his way. Women would all support her in "going and having some fun." And girls are actuall… | /r/seduction | 26/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 23 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.They want to feel special, if there is a simple formula, what does that make them... a robot? Just put in the right programming code? Well sadly its because people don't actually study our interactions with people that we are robots. We are animals (more importantly, mammals, social creatures) so that if we don't become aware of what we are thinking and others are thinking, that animal (mammal) takes over. But think about all the things we do for social status that are stupid or worthless. Take … | /r/seduction | 26/01/21 06:42 PM |
| 1 | [Vital Lesson] Don't let your Friends know, ESPECIALLY your Female Friends, that You are learning Game and how to Approach.yes and it will get you banned on reddit if you say these things in most of the other forums. they believe that men and woman should naturally fall in love as if magic. And even though women love romantic comedies (movies) and read millions of romance novels a year, they don't really want to know that the same exact formulas that work in those fictions to turn them on, work in real life. There is no formula they say, we are all different and unique. The reality is almost all of our initial attra… | /r/seduction | 26/01/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Fake it till you make it or just be yourself?Another better saying would be "practice makes perfect." If you want to be confident and able to talk to people, if you want to be kind, but firm and strong. If you want to be successful at your passion...practice. So fake it until you make it just really says to try to be the person you want to be today, even if you aren't perfect at it. With practice all these things come easier, from healthy living to being social to being successful at something. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 25/01/21 06:13 PM |
| 2 | A great story of a guy who stopped complaining and started improvingThe article seemed to give very practical advice. I help guys with dating as well (not professionally but once I figured it out, I liked helping other guys too). This article is almost exactly the formula I use, plus some very direct techniques to use in specific situations. But what I start guys off with is always the same: 1) starting today workout at least 30 mins every single day. It should focus on weight lifting because that builds muscle and posture and confidence. 2) find a passion, spen… | /r/seduction | 25/01/21 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Don't be a nice guyThis is very true. Women and men are looking primarily at physical features when very young as they mature other aspects of a person start to take on more value. Also people evolve, its hard to know much of a persons accomplishments, successes, etc that will greatly change a man's social status until later in life for most folks ( the high school athletic star being an exception). For western society, just keeping or getting in good shape is very desirable by the mid 30s as more and more peers "… | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 07:12 PM |
| 1 | How to properly "fake it till you make it" to success with womenSo did you have high school girlfriends? Did you have a/some college girlfriends? In both those situations of course no one is expecting you to have your life together, so did you date then? | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 07:19 AM |
| 1 | How to properly "fake it till you make it" to success with womenIt really depends what you want to do. If its a first date or second or even third date, just make a joke out of it and go with it "i've been studying for this test my entire life!" If its someone that you really like and have dated a while, then just be honest"ish" about it. "I'm a virgin because I wanted to wait until I was with someone I really liked/loved" Thats a great answer that will make a woman feel special and make you out to be classy rather than just a nerd. This obviously doesn't wo… | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 07:17 AM |
| 3 | How to properly "fake it till you make it" to success with womenThis is so true. Everyone has a place they believe they fit in the social hierarchy. Everyone is really faking it until they make it to the next step up the ladder. Then guess what, they start all over again or they decide to be content. Once you're really content life gets alot easier, but alot less exciting. So when you approach a woman, you either believe she is above or below you in social standing, most of us want to shoot for higher status women and so we are nervous. But think about a sit… | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 07:12 AM |
| 5 | Mistakes people make when they first start texting someone they likeIf you are actively texting (sending text or messaging every few mins) then just say, hey, I'm heading to bed (if its after 9pm) or i need to get some things done before i sleep tonight. If its more of a back and forth thats taking 30 mins to an hour with posts, just stop. texting is not talking and you don't need permission to go about your day and text them later when you have something to say to them. | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Was on a date, it went very well, lots of typical IOIs etc. During the date she twice made remarks about how she gets interest from guys - what does this mean?She is trying to convey that she has high social value. You don't want to act like you need to compete. Either a funny joke like the line above ("i get lots of attention from guys too") or acknowledge it in a obvious but not shocked way ("you're a cute girl, i'm sure you do" said nonchalantly), or you can even blow it up with ("so why did you move me to the top of the line?") The last line suggests she perceived you as high social value and acted upon it, thus flipping the script. | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 06:57 AM |
| 5 | How to stop being nervous when meeting girlsA technique I teach the guys I work with is to first determine why they are a good catch as a guy. I work to point out their positive points and help them find their passion in life and why that makes them unique. I've worked with everyone from military guys to musicians/producers. Once you realize you're a good catch, what I call a top 10% guy and you start to believe it, then its just a matter of repeating that as they go into the date. If you're a top 10% guy and you believe it, you are going… | /r/seduction | 21/01/21 06:49 AM |
| 0 | How do you actually “make a girl like you”This is what you need to do: When you meet her act exactly like a bf. Open the doors, walk behind and protectively when you move together ("the boyfriend walk"), sit close to her when you all hang out, but not on top of her. Then flirt and joke and most importantly tease with her. But when she asks if you're flirting or trying something always say no and give a smile. If she starts flirting back you are good. If she doesn't start flirting back, keep doing it but always deny your flirting. When y… | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 3 | What to talk about with someone you’re aiming to date long term?Thats a bunch of new age bs. I've seen guys meet girls in medical school and marry them. One thing is certain, if you wait too long to start a romantic relationship your odds will go down dramatically. There are not alot of romantic comedies in real life, where you meet a girl 5 years later again and the timing is now perfect, most relationships happen in the now. In fact, i would use that as an argument to be in a relationship. We both know what we want, we like each other, we understand and re… | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | What to talk about with someone you’re aiming to date long term?You want to still engage with them, be yourself. If you have great travel stories talk about them. You still want to flirt. You should still tease them and joke alot. It shows confidence. But ask about them. And you still need sexual inneundo at the appropriate time and level because you want them to see you as a potential partner and not a friend. The reality its how you treat them on the dates and after the dates that makes a difference between a hook up and a long term relationship. | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 11:47 PM |
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