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2	How to handle not getting texts back I‘m insecure about that stuff to. Less so since going to therapy and reflecting on it. Can you afford going to therapy on betterhelp or something. I think it‘s good to healthily reflect on why do I feel this way? Does it make sense, maybe, if you feel safe enough you can even talk about it, with the person you are meeting. I think it‘s normal. When I get caught up in the day or either do not see the phone or I want to take the time to answer in the right way, so I reflect on it first. Texting ha…	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/26 11:09 AM
4	Cold Approaching is trash Yeah, would not assume that how you experience the world is the majority. I also do not mind that much being approsched, but I am also seen as a a man, I just know others, often women by men, do not like it and so I think generally I would not recommend it. Appeoaching somebody without a good reason except attractio is already a struggle, add the layer of headphones and it seems to me like not worth the effort. Feels often like forcing a conversation, but you try what works for you.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/26 07:06 AM
1	I fear I’m going back to my incel way of thinking. I did also feel like that that or more, I felt emotionally crippled and awkward, even though my looks are good, height average and I do not struggle with joking around, but when it came to romance I struggled a lot. However, was scared of women, because my mom is quite imposing and demanding. I did not feel like I would fall into a deep depression when rejected, but would feel shame when showing vilnerability, again because my mom would attack me, if I showed vulnerability sometimes. If you thin…	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/26 05:11 AM
19	Cold Approaching is trash What people are you listening to? People when they have headphones etc. most likely they do not want to be approached, so don‘t. Yes, cold approaching is trash, because you do not know if their dad just died (generally their circumstance), so that‘s not your fault, you can try, but often they are not in that headspace of dating in their daily routine, so don‘t take it personally. What I would try if I would be younger again, is to be friends first and then see from there. Talk about your feeling…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/26 06:07 PM
2	I saw a man in the comments of a video saying that all the women he knows want a dominant man. Do you think he's right? So you went like to a course?	/r/ExRedPill	11/02/26 03:40 PM
3	I saw a man in the comments of a video saying that all the women he knows want a dominant man. Do you think he's right? Are you deep into that redpill stuff or just fell into it a bit? My impression is that they like try to make you a perverse, parody of a good man, with no depth. Like a child who saw a picture of Nelson Mandela and thought that sunglasses was what made him a good man. Not his actions, but his clothing. It feels like theater for me, boys that smoke cigars and drink alcohol to seem like they are grown up and try to impress the other little boys to sell them courses. I got into red pill stuff. Is t…	/r/ExRedPill	11/02/26 08:29 AM
2	Do you think the number of sexual partners matters? Why do you think? I think you need to start learning to think for yourself. Often a question is more teaching than an answer. I think why you fell for it in the first place, is that your critical thinking skills need some work. I feel like you look for easy answers for complicated problems.	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/26 11:03 PM
3	I saw a man in the comments of a video saying that all the women he knows want a dominant man. Do you think he's right? Which term are you defining now? Can you use new, simple words to define the words that you used? I was taught to first use an umbrella term and then how it differs from other things that belong in that group. Elephant - a big, grey mammal with a long nose that it can use for grabbing things. I asked for a definition for each one. Your sentence does not define any one term as far as I can understand. Now you also introduce the word status as well. I think it would help you maybe to reflect on th…	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/26 10:59 PM
6	I saw a man in the comments of a video saying that all the women he knows want a dominant man. Do you think he's right? Can you give an example in daily life? Also not all women are the same. not all women like men romantically in general. What is dominance? In the bed, at work, in the football club, with friends? All the time everywhere? Everybody has to follow your whims? That only works if you have lots of copedendent people around otherwise they‘ll leave you quickly. What is masculine? Constantly having to establish how manly you are, never show any vilnerability. The only emotions you are allowed to show is …	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/26 01:57 PM
8	I saw a man in the comments of a video saying that all the women he knows want a dominant man. Do you think he's right? wtf is s dominant man? Without defining it: no. A man in a comment? This could be an 11 year old, who never talked to a woman in his life.	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/26 05:37 AM
2	The women I want don't want me I don‘t think I really had that, so can‘t teally say. It‘s funny as I hung around with people in like subcultures, but did not feel a specual attraction towards peoole in them. Just some people feel like they make a fetish out of goth people etc. So I hope you do not idealize the peeps. So I don‘t have good advice. Confessing though can actually help getting over it. i usually got hung up the most, when I did not confess. Or just admitting attraction but being fine that it is not returned. Of co…	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/26 10:51 PM
4	The women I want don't want me I think that's normal. What about being friends with them? And lookin outside of those subcultures. sounds like you have very specific ideas about a romantic partners. met a girl once that wanted her romantic interest to wear boxershorts. thought that was a hilarious, random dating criteria. do you specifically look for subculture partners or does that come naturally to you <question finding a partner is super hard also sometimes you can just get unlucky.	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/26 10:19 PM
5	Never dated and anxious about the future/ resentment of gender roles I think I had some of the same thoughts at your age, regarding that the men are often expected to initiate. On the other hand through initiating you can actively choose who you want to approach. People who are passive and expect others to approach them, can just hope somebody they are interested in approaches them and I liked the women who approached me generally and am married to one now. Generally women are more sought after, but nowadays I think I rather be content alone than with somebody I …	/r/ExRedPill	30/01/26 10:34 PM
6	How important is appearance to you? Those of you who are in a relationship, were you attracted to looks or personality? Both. Reality is often not binary. I do not stay in a relationship for looks alone.	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/26 09:08 PM
3	Could Jordan Petterson be one of the voices of the manosphere? They say he's a very good psychologist. I don't like him at all. A psychologist friend liked him before he became an influencer. I do think he did some good psychologist work from what I have heard by my friend, but that is not what he is known for or what he bases his opinions on, I think.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/26 01:14 AM
1	Black pill I cut out most social media and even considering cutting out reddit too, at least to e certain degree. I do not have the app on my phone anymore, because it feels like it‘s trying to keep me engaged. Social media is engineered to keep you engaged as much as possible, basically no matter how much mental damage it does to you. So my tipp is to stop with most social media. Making friends, eat decent, exercise and find an environment with positive peer pressure. Making you a better person. Read book…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/26 04:27 PM
5	I want to break out of the red pill/misogynist way of thinking II think it‘s even a problem beyond redpill guys. I struggled to make friends with women, also because it felt like being pushed to romance when it was a person of the other gender and it made me uncomfortable sometimes. I think I still struggle more with it as it often became something romantic. I still do not have many female friends. And one could argue I‘m part of the problem, I doubt it, but I‘m trying to be better and change my mind set. Also my answer got inspired by an Economist article …	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/26 06:06 AM
13	I want to break out of the red pill/misogynist way of thinking Did you ever try being friends with women, without wanting to have sex with them? I think that helps.	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/26 04:56 PM
5	Do you know any men or women who quit the red pill and now have a healthy relationship with a woman or man who loves them? I‘m not sure there are many in the real world, who openly admit that they were once „redpilled“. So I do not know any.	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/26 07:44 PM
6	Why do socially awkward men love history, politics and are often dragged into the rabbit hole I think they are just as far intersted in that as it suits their already established beliefs. Usually, not a lot of depth, I think. I know plenty of people through going into higher education that like history and politics and are not extremists. I do not know many redpilled guys. I have contact with some that have that tendency, but usually I think I help them touch grass and take what they say with humour.	/r/ExRedPill	04/01/26 11:44 PM
20	my GF checking out other dudes Do you have the ability to speak to her? If yes, damn, ask her. If you do not trust her to be honest. I would work on that. That is a problem to work on then. Nobody here or ever has the ability to read minds that‘s why we use our mouths and ears to communicate. People can still bullshit and lie, but I hope you are not in a relationship where that constantly happens. Also wehen my partner finds somebody attractive we can just celebrate zhat together, that does not mean we will break up because o…	/r/ExRedPill	30/12/25 05:51 PM
1	I think Blackpill is true Does it also give a lot of importance to sex and having a romantic partner at the same time? Or do they think there is plenty enough of meaning to give yourself without it?	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/25 11:31 PM
3	I think Blackpill is true if it‘s 1000 % that means it‘s 10. Also if you made up your mind we better not waste wach others time. It just sounds you jump from on extreme hole to the next.	/r/ExRedPill	19/12/25 08:25 PM
2	I think Blackpill is true What is blackpill?	/r/ExRedPill	19/12/25 08:22 PM
2	This reaffirms my belief Did not read the referenced post from a rando on the internet. Who is talking about your penis? Size does matter especially if your oral game, comminication and petting game is weak too. Then what do you have to offer? In terms of a relationship? Maybe pity sex? It is not essential though as long as it gets in. If you are just bad at everything in sex, then probably the sex will be bad. Relaxing and just enjoying helps a lot. and not overthinking everything. Some women care a lot about it, but m…	/r/ExRedPill	10/12/25 02:49 PM
1	Help! Media for deprogramming? Ah, ok. Sry, sometimes hard to see the line. Yes, makes sense.	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/25 12:15 AM
1	Help! Media for deprogramming? What do you mean with man does all the work? I would not judge relationships that do not follow your ideal too quickly. In certain tax systems Switzerland for example you get punished if you‘re married and both work, because the tax system is progressive and your income is counted as like you and your partner are one person. So in partnerships you are financially incentivised that one partner stays at home, as child care is really expensive too. Having a child now, we fall into that bracket, bit…	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/25 04:45 AM
1	Help! Media for deprogramming? I feel like if there is a person in that spot, who thinks they know it all it‘s hard to take them out of it. I still think „How to choose a partner“ of the relationship therapist, published under the school of life, book was a great read for me in this vilnerable time was good. It is deeply introspective though and maybe too words for him, but can‘t remember. I think what many people lack in this insecure, lonely mental space is deep introspection and lack of social skills, I guess. And instead …	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/25 04:32 AM
3	So are we supposed to be treating people as individuals, or not? Not sure if I completely understand you. Tried to write down my thoughts anyway. I think you need to study more statistics. Hardly ever is a statistic so skewed that it is deemed functional to assume that every individual you meet with certain looks fulfills the traits. I think you kind of have to think in multiple dimensions/contexts. In a statistic you deal with populations. You as a person usually do not generally deal with whole populations just with individuals. A random individual will mos…	/r/ExRedPill	19/11/25 05:49 PM
1	Dating red pill? I mean ask him why he is dating you, if he despises all women? I think he is insecure and is maybe afraid of you leaving him. If you want to do the emotional work: Ask him what he is feeling (take inventory). Not women are slur or mean or whatever. How does that make you feel? Give me what you feel. Angry, (validate) ok. Sad (validate) ok. That I am not worth anything. Ok. When you look at the military it feels like men‘s lives are not worth anything. So connecting first. Then what can we might …	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 11:54 AM
1	Advice from a once divorced, former RedPill man It‘s ok. Just disagree with as soon as you put a person in to that construct of culture. However, without people n the idea of culture it seems pointless, so I do not see the reason behind it except small-talk and reinforcing stereotypes. Just those kind of ideas made it harder not easier for me to connect with other people more deeply. For superficial relationships you can look at it like that, but it kept me from feeling less lonely. Just please do not hurt other people based on this ideology …	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 11:36 AM
2	I’m worried that my little brother is becoming a “red piller” I think support his self-esteem, not of course enforcing his more extrem views. Find the cause behind this. Help him maybe get a non-Internet relationships. Teach him skills to get a good social enviroment. If you do not have that yourself learn it yourself. Notice the skill gaps. Does he understand sarcasm? How is his empathy? Does he understand that he does not have to deal with his emotions himself (coregulating)? That it‘s ok to think horrible things( (in anger or extreme horniness), but doe…	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 10:16 AM
1	Advice from a once divorced, former RedPill man Haha, yes.😂	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 10:06 AM
1	Advice from a once divorced, former RedPill man I would be very careful about generalising too much. It does sound kinda racist what you are saying. Unconditional love, has no ethnic boundaries. That is also part of it being unconditional. If you create this kind of strict boundaries, I think, you are creating more obstacles for yourself finding a healthy relationship. I am mixed Asian/European. With a pretty not-stereotypical Asian-looking wife. the more asian Part of my family was conditional. One of the most inconditional parent figures, a…	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 10:06 AM
1	The fundamental problems behind most people's dating problems Pay attention to what they do not what they say, also a helpful advice that I reflected out from reading the book I keep mentioning: „how to find a partner“, by an experienced relationship therapist, I think.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 09:37 AM
1	The fundamental problems behind most people's dating problems Have you read „how to find a partner“, by the school of life (specifically the realtoonship therapist)? I think a lot of what you mentioned rings true the same way that book rang to me. It is a lot about, sometimes uncomfortable inteospection. It does not really go into the minority dimension, but otherwise a worthy read, if you are able to critcally think.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/25 09:37 AM