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PaterFamilias79/r/askMRP18/04/16 10:56 PM
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PaterFamilias79/r/askMRP14/03/16 05:04 PM
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Watch actions not words, man... She knows what to do, she just doesn't want to do it enough to pull the trigger.> This...I agree 100%. This move was the result of that hitting me in the face about 1 month ago. She says the right things but there has been no concrete plan to deal with her issues for 2.5 years. Having your girl go in the bathroom to cry every time you fuck her is a bad deal and I'm just over it. The last straw was a session where she initiated and I fucked her in every hole for ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 02:00 PM
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Thank you for your thoughts. I was off the grid all weekend so I'm just getting back to this. I really like the months to live thing and I'm definitely going to implement that. I should clarify that I would never go celibate for 12 mos. We are still fucking once a week or so and the "no fucking other people" is meant to be somewhat short term while the dust settles from a huge change. The separation is me giving her one last chance to deal with her emotional shit or risk blowing up what is actua…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 01:27 PM
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No...She been saying she will for over 2 years but hasn't ever gone. I will get divorce raped as I'll be paying about 45K a year now with it steadily decreasing as each kid ages out over the next 13 years. I can afford it and still live very comfortably and I don't see a way around it as she's only worked off and on. I also have the ability to add 50-100K more in income as soon as all this is over so TBH I don't give a fuck about the $. My wife readily acknowledges that I'm the best father she k…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 04:16 PM
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Shit I've Owned Diet, Business, Wardrobe, Lifting are all on point and better than they've ever been. Down 88 lbs with 15+/- left to go to get to where I want . Been MRP'ing for nearly 2.5 years but only about 20 mos seriously. Shit I've yet to own Moved out as the wife hasn't responded much at all sexually to classic MRP. Huge roadblock in our marriage as she can't "get over" how I used to be. She's got all these emotional issues that stem from her childhood as well as dealing with a Blue Pill …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 05:00 PM
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Eat clean and Lift....I applied all kinds of MRP principles with varying degrees of success but not nearly as much I'd like sexually. I got serious about my body about 6 mos ago and her entire perception of me has changed recently as I'm starting to look pretty damn good now. There is no substitute for getting jacked. It will cure most of your ills on its own.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 01:47 PM
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The one month thing is a baseline. Dread is most effective when it occurs naturally as your time and affection becomes scarce due to a full schedule of awesomeness. I wouldn't get hung up on what level you're at now as the dynamic will eventually change organically if you are "owning your shit". My advice to you echoes BPP in that you take this slooooww. Have no expectation for milestones of marked improvement along timelines that you or the internet have created. I fucked up and got frustrated/…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 01:38 PM
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Boy, u/Sepean killed it but here's my two cents..... Google "insulin resistance" and educate yourself. I was counting calories and not losing much weight while still north of 250. I tried all kinds of thing until I "hacked" my way to this loose "keto" plan. I've been eating this way for about 8 mos and at this point it's not hard anymore...It's just what I do. I painfully learned that my body is just kind of shitty so all sugar and bad carbs had to go. I do eat one cheat meal a week as early in …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 01:32 PM
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Falling "off the wagon" was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I un-did a full year of work within 45 days and it taught me a painful lesson that I'll never forget. It ultimately strengthened my resolve and understanding that success is an ever moving target.
/r/askMRP24/05/16 01:20 PM
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Decent book...Sex at Dawn is better.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 01:54 PM
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Yes...Not nearly as boring as I used to be but definitely more work to be done here.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 05:34 PM
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To answer you and a few others...She is dealing with some shit right now. Her father is dying from cancer and she has taken on managing all his health and end of life stuff. I am not indifferent to this situation and have adjusted my expectations accordingly. I have picked up her slack and she has been more than grateful(although not in way I would like). She has been a SAHM on and off for 10 years and is going to start working within the next 60 days. She has always been in a better frame of mi…
/r/askMRP19/04/16 01:42 PM
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I heartily agree that my SMV isn't where I want it to be yet but after close to 15 years it is starting to tip in my favor. I will get where I want to be within 3-6 mos and I'm working at it like a maniac. I've failed badly in the past with artificially trying to induce dread so these days I focus on making myself as badass as possible and that naturally keeps me out of the house more than I've ever been. Her hamster is definitely spinning though as she's been rummaging through my phone lately a…
/r/askMRP19/04/16 01:21 PM
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Yes, Daily. Both, I did some sessions with Athol and he recommended that I initiate mainly when seeing IOI's from her as my weaponization of sex after shifting the power in the relationship had made her pretty defensive about it. She'll also come at me out of the blue a couple times a month as well. I've always been pretty dominant in bed and she'll pretty regularly tell her friends how good I am in bed.(Even through the times when I was a fat, lazy, piece of shit) Sex has always been good to gr…
/r/askMRP18/04/16 11:54 PM
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Love the tow rope bit...That's a great way to look at it.
/r/askMRP18/04/16 11:31 PM
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You're boring...I know this because I dealt with the same lines you're hearing from her and I was fucking boring too. It's a long road but you've got to make yourself more interesting. Also, You've got to set the standard as a "high energy" man and she'll eventually be too embarrassed to tell you she's sick or tired. I go hard from 6AM till late at night handling all my shit, kid shit, and some of her shit too. I'm often doing my second workout at 11pm and I walk in smiling and happy(and I am...…
/r/askMRP18/04/16 11:30 PM
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My greatest struggle...The trick is to do it without appearing to pout or look butt hurt. My go to move is to just grab one of my books and start reading.
/r/askMRP18/04/16 11:03 PM
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I did a # of private sessions with Athol (highly recommend) and he advocated initiating as often as you get any type of IOI from her. Otherwise, just keep improving yourself and work on the areas in which you have previously failed. Also...continue to STFU
/r/askMRP18/04/16 09:50 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4e1k56/new_read_this_before_you_nuke_shit/ This is gold...Apply these things for 6 mos before moving onto more difficult areas.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 02:13 PM
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Not a Christian but the whole book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible deals with this issue well. It was supposedly written by the one of the greatest kings who ever lived and a man that could be labeled "King Alpha" if you will. His summary result is to enjoy your time under the sun and make the best of it for yourself as it will all be over soon enough and that there is no real deeper meaning. This philosophy fits within any system of belief you may prescribe to. It's quite freeing to me but maybe I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/16 06:15 PM
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I would point out that the studies showing lower quality of life for unmarried men after 30 are not reflective of the top 5-10% of men that we are here working to become.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:59 PM
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Challenging...Yes Rewarding(after overcoming)...Yes Fun....No Keep doing your thing and enjoy your young, hot wife and awesome marriage. No reason for you to worry or think about it now as it's a natural phase of life to be handled later on. Memento Mori...tick tock.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:54 PM
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I have the utmost respect for u/thefamilyalpha as I devour his blog and appreciate his posts here. However, I would point out that he is 28 years old and relatively young in his awesome marriage. He will face tremendous obstacles within himself and his wife over the next 10 years that no amount of MRP or TRP can fully prepare you for. I would contend that most men don't really figure out who they really are before the age of 35 or so, though I would have vigorously argued the opposite earlier in…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:37 PM
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As others have said....this is a shitty situation with very little chance of a positive outcome. A few words of advice for you as a 23yr old guy from a 37 yr old guy... Do not get into LTR's as a young man. They are inhibiting your ability to crush your dreams and vision for your life. Bust your ass for the next 5-7 years creating your "empire" and you will reap the financial rewards for the rest of your life. You don't know anything about yourself yet. You need to live, succeed and fail, travel…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 01:54 PM
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Bullshit....I do over half my work in my garage due to time/logistic constraints. If you're not in already unbelievable shape bodyweight exercises will be enough to wreck you. Also, Buy a kettlebell...Swing it till you puke....Voila!
/r/askMRP16/03/16 01:29 PM
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This is a great angle I hadn't really focused on. Thank you
/r/askMRP15/03/16 02:28 PM
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There is truth here. Thanks!
/r/askMRP15/03/16 02:28 PM
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6'1 231 now. Started north of 300. Was down to 218 middle of last year and admittedly let the foot off the gas when things started going better. Won't make that mistake again. Fashion sense was one area I failed in as I was exceptionally fashionable when we met and fell to the very low depths of cargo shorts, shitty polos, and flip flops most days for a long time. Doing much better now but it costs a ton to retrofit a wardrobe with my sizes changing by the month. Just bought these Steve Madden O…
/r/askMRP15/03/16 02:27 PM
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We have had a few over the last 2 years. Some with good frame on my part and others where I've failed. Mostly me telling her what I expect from a marriage.
/r/askMRP15/03/16 02:19 PM
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It's a tricky subject... In the beginning it was forced. In the middle it was more natural but I was still doing things to elicit her response. Lately, I'm just doing things because I like to do them and my presence and attention has been naturally withdrawn. She hates it but still doesn't want to fuck more than once a week. However, The beta shit goblin is always near by and I fight him constantly.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 07:38 PM
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No offense taken...That's why I put this up, trying to get other viewpoints. Was a fat lazy fuck....spent 12 mos becoming a non-fat fuck than gained a bunch of weight back figuring out my fucked up insulin resistant body. Now 3 mos into losing again. I started at 6'1 300 was down to 218 and pretty muscular. Currently 231. Lift 3-4 days, sprint workout once, and follow Mark Sissons Primal Blueprint. It's not for everybody but it works great for me and I enjoy it. As far as SMV...We are both attra…
/r/askMRP14/03/16 07:13 PM
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Very similar situation...I see cracks too but I'm close to 2 yrs in here and her wanting to hang out with me isn't what I'm looking for anymore. Congrats on your progress and path though. We fucked just about every day for the first two years of our marriage and I'm looking for the "married with 3 cockblocks running around" version of that now.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 06:04 PM
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Thanks for the input. Huge u/thefamilyalpha fan too.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 05:44 PM
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I agree...I've slowly ratcheted up the dread over the last few months although I'm not willing to go all the way to 9-10 and fuck another chick. I'd rather just divorce her before that point. Weird thing with her is that dread seems to cause her to be more distant and less sexual. Who fucking knows man. She told me about a month ago that she knows that she will lose me over it because I "deserve better' but that she "just doesn't know how" to get over it. With that being said, she has read 0 boo…
/r/askMRP14/03/16 05:42 PM
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This is the position I've taken and I've told her this recently. I wanted to make sure I'm not missing something though as I'm getting very close to pulling the plug. I will have no problem moving on but I just feel badly for my kids. They're fucking great and I hate that they're going to have to go through this but I can't imagine living the rest of my life with a "roommate" type of deal with her.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 05:33 PM
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