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It’s only a functional analogy if the elements are equivalent in nature/severity/function. In this case, you’re equating cheating to slapping, and promiscuity to rape and abuse. None of those things are on the same level. You need your moral compass adjusted, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 11:52 PM
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Bone apple teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 11:44 AM
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None of those women have the traits you’ve labeled them with; what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 12:05 AM
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I think it’s also weird because it has a face
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:47 PM
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My husband and I do bring each other pleasure with just our bodies. But sometimes my husband isn’t home, or we just want to do something than we usually different when we’re together. Or, very rarely, I’ll have sex with another woman, and neither of us has, uh, the parts that attach, to keep it SFW. We bought all of our toys together. He enjoys them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:28 PM
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For men, sexual compatibility is really important in both long term and short term relationships. There was no reason to get to know somebody further if we didn’t have sexual compatibility. So I just had sex with my partners basically immediately, and then took my time to get to know them. I’m not the kind of person that falls in love easily and loses all her senses and makes rash decisions. I still got NRE and butterflies and stuff when I liked someone particularly well, but I still noticed oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:46 PM
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I mean, I’d direct her to RPWives and give her the same advice that they would at TRP: work on yourself, go out and meet people, and stop crying about it. And it’s 1000% easier for women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 09:33 PM
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He would not be for me. I’m meant to be a housewife, and any partner of mine is meant to be a provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 09:30 PM
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Good for you, for doing something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 09:03 PM
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”Fuck them kids” Special needs kids, to be precise
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 08:11 PM
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Last thing for today, cuz I feel like I’m spamming and spending way too much time online. This isn’t related to pillsphere topics either, but you guys are always up for discussion of moral quandaries, so here goes: Do you think it’s immoral if I sign for for charity 5ks that I know I’m gonna win in order to get the prize money, and then not donate at least a portion of the profits back? Cuz on one hand, mathematically, paying the entry fee adds money that the charity wouldn’t have received other…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 08:00 PM
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Which garments come in odd numbered sizes? Outside of children’s clothing ? O.o
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:53 PM
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My butt isn’t huge, but it’s round and perky, and I like it a lot. I like the rest of my body too. I think people get too much shit for liking their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:50 PM
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People feel a lot more exhausted when they’re carrying around extra weight and making their organs work harder… I suppose it’s a mutually reinforcing, negative cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:47 PM
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Why don’t people pack their meals when they notice they’re gaining weight from eating out?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:38 PM
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It’s interesting that those things affect people differently. Like when I’m stressed, busy, and sedentary I tend to lose weight (not enough time to eat, prioritizing the stressful things over eating, and loss of muscle mass from a lack of exercise)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:35 PM
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Interesting. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:33 PM
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They’re higher in general, but not necessarily for the same reasons. What I’m wondering is, if having an older partner and a younger partner offsets the risk of divorce for the same reason that two people marrying at an older decreases the risk of divorce… does that make sense? Like maybe the reason young couples divorce more frequently is because young people are more rash, and are rash about picking a partner. But if older people are less rash, and the older person in an AGR takes their time t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:33 PM
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Except in Utah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:26 PM
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Or they just want to hook up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:22 PM
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Do you think you would have ended up wanting your own kids if childcare hadn’t been forced upon you at a young age?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:20 PM
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I wonder what the divorce rates are for people in age gap relationships, if all other factors are held constant
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:14 PM
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How does one even gain weight while working 80 hour weeks? When do you even have time to eat? 🤔 Gaining weight can throw your hormones off and decrease libido, because adipose tissue is a hormonally active organ. But also like, someone working 80 hour weeks is gonna be exhausted and have no energy for sex. Either way, you either break up with someone, or you try to address the situation; you don’t just go and cheat on them. Tf? Either this is a troll, or this guys needs to learn how to maintain …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:10 PM
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That he’s enjoyable to be around, and there’s a higher likelihood that he is lgbt
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:05 PM
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Can’t pour from an empty cup. That’s what my therapist tells me, anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:56 PM
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The way I’m reading that is, she likely feels guilty or anxious about being apart from her baby in order to go do fun stuff, and she’s jealous of her husband’s ability to have personal time with his friends… I’ve been there for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:55 PM
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I don’t feel like 2.5 hours a week or 5 hours on a single occasion once every two weeks is an unreasonable amount of time to spend on one’s hobbies, even as a new parent. I also think that it’s really context-dependent. Like if your wife is absolutely struggling to keep up at home, dealing with postpartum mood disorders, and/or not getting any time to herself, you should probably stay home to help her out. But if she’s doing just fine, and she has the opportunity to do her hobbies too, it’s fine…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:42 PM
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Oh shit 😟
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:38 PM
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your local Eastern European nail salons My local what?!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:36 PM
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I have dated just for fun, yes. There were people whose company (and sex) I enjoyed greatly, but who weren’t marriage material by any means.. ig it probably helps if you can date non-exclusively, so you can enjoy relationships as they are while still spouse-hunting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:32 PM
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Imagine being upset that your spouse has 25-30 MILLION dollars in assets
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:30 PM
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I’d consider that a positive trait in a dude, simply because written porn is typically more catered to women, with the thoughts and tiny turn on details put into words, and reading it probably improves performance in bed. Whereas visual porn is male-centric and is more about “put rod in hole and make guttural sounds.”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:26 PM
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Or if you just have really good game
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:20 PM
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Like actually killing babies, or providing terminations of pregnancies? Cuz if they’re actually killing babies, you should call the police
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:18 PM
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Personally, my husband doesn’t care what I do with other women because he recognizes they can give me something (lesbian sex) that he can’t, and he wants me to be sexually satisfied. But he would be upset if I started a romantic relationship with another woman and spent more time with and effort on her than with him. I definitely think other men don’t see lesbian sex as “real sex” though, and that’s why they don’t feel threatened… or they feel like sex with men “dirties” or devalues a woman beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:24 PM
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Yeah. There’s also lenses of optimism, pessimism, and utilitarianism through which people view and with which they respond to that reality. I think I just word saladed myself into confusion. My inferior lady brain stays acting up 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:19 PM
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I supposed it’s fine to do here, but it’s not smart to talk about just discrimination outside of forums like these. Men who do may also start internalizing a lot of it, which can discourage them from seeking self improvement because they feel like it’s pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:58 PM
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I’m cackling. What a gem
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:54 PM
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Because I’m trying to understand your argument. There is a difference between unjust discrimination (for example, men not getting the necessary help for mental health issues, sexual trauma, or domestic abuse) and just discrimination (women don’t want to date or fuck you because of some arbitrary reasons or standards that they may or may not meet themselves.) It’s good to point out and discuss unjust discrimination. It’s just whining when it’s just discrimination, which further decreases one’s at…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:51 PM
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Gotcha. Hope you feel well soon
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:44 PM
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Define “discrimination” in the context of this discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:44 PM
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Oh. I forgot some women get cramps and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:40 PM
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That’s really wholesome and kind of you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:40 PM
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Yeah. They could just get on anti depressants to suppress their libido
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:39 PM
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Age gaps aren’t bad when the younger partner is actually of legal consenting age when they start
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:38 PM
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Noted, for whoreoween enthusiasts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:36 PM
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She’s called Lilith for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:35 PM
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You don’t do oral? Or you just don’t feel horny when menstruating?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:34 PM
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https://youtu.be/V4ul7i97_bE “Wah wah, lifting won’t fix my face” GO TO THE GYM AND STOP EATING LIKE A FAT FUCK.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:33 PM
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Exactly. HVM attitude is “Go. Do what you want. But if what you want pisses me off, like cheating, then I’m not gonna stick around. I trust you to make the right choice.” And then he just chills
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:59 AM
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Somebody legit just tried telling me “HVM don’t give women any autonomy”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:18 AM
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In A, the guy shot his shot and got rejected, but didn’t remain in the situation. He left the “zone,” so to speak. Whereas in B, he gets stuck in the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 10:50 PM
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You can tell a chick has been treating her body like a dumpster If having lots of partners means a woman is treating her body like a dumpster, then it logically follows that men are trash. Also like, it’s laughable that you think men have some sort of hoe radar. I was a massive slut before I got married, and people in my professional life think I’m some sexually conservative, innocent angel. Unless you are asking every woman you see what her n count is, there’s no way you have enough data to con…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:25 PM
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And why should men not be encouraged to avoid having children out of wedlock in the same manner?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:12 PM
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Just curious why you believe a high body count is only bad when women are accruing one?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:09 PM
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B
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:07 PM
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Yes, I’ve told him everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:01 PM
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She very well could have been open to more than just sex, but decided she just didn’t want that with you. I know it probably hurts since she was your first, but there’s no reason to compound your hurt by thinking of it as being “used”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:58 PM
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Pain is pleasurable to some people, and not every person who is into BDSM had a history of abuse. Furthermore, it can be a means of healing for those who have been abused— if you reenact your trauma under consensual conditions with somebody you trust and with whom you feel safe, and you derive pleasure from it instead of feeling scared, hurt, or violated, it’s a good way to reclaim and process what happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:51 PM
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If you’re saying that biologically, all women lose the ability bond as a result of a neurochemical process, and I am a woman who is not biologically different in any way, then it logically follows that I should not have been able to bond with my husband. However, I did. And I’m not the only one—there are many women in this world that are promiscuous and end up happily paired. The oxytocin thing is just a myth. There are valid correlational studies that show a positive correlation with promiscuit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:04 PM
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And I’m assuring you, most of what you’re saying is a myth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:54 PM
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Show me a study that examines the amount of oxytocin human women release after sex that establishes a correlation between that and how many sexual partners they’ve had. (Not even gonna go into the fact that men release oxytocin when they have sex as well.) it makes them hard to even feel sex Lmao, that’s just incorrect. r/badwomensanatomy or bond with 1 man which they designed to do. Who says women were “designed” to bond with only one man? What happens if you bond with one man and then he turns…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:32 PM
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Any woman that wants to be spit on and called a whore while having sex thinks that will earn her love OR she just genuinely enjoys it and gets off on it? It’s called “kink.” Why are you making assumptions? and any man that does that to a woman wants to control and abuse women for their own pleasure. More assumptions. If you engage in consensual BDSM, yes, you’re controlling and hurting (not abusing) someone, but it brings both partners pleasure, and the control is given, not taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:20 PM
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Go away from this place, sprout
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:15 PM
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Sounds like this woman has mental issues and it’s probably not a good idea to be interacting with her at all. You’re gonna end up with your dick bitten off
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:11 PM
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The dilemma is that male rape victims are being forced to have children without their consent, whereas female rape victims have the option to prevent rape from resulting in children without their consent (for as long as abortion remains legal.) Like, your child shouldn’t be brought into the world at all as a result of something you had no control over, if that’s not what you want. Having a kid in the world that you can’t properly care for and/or are separated from as a result of a traumatic viol…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:05 PM
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No, it does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:52 PM
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He has two kids from a previous marriage and didn’t want any more in the beginning of our relationship, but I started wanting a kid a few years in, so he obliged and got me pregnant, and now we have a daughter together. I’m like, joking about being the one who does all the work to make a child (pregnancy and birth), and most of the work to care for her during the day, even though he didn’t ask me to make another child with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:50 PM
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“Pair bonding” is a made up term, like “sin.” People just bond with each other, in more ways than just having sex, and they are capable of bonding many times with many different people. The ability to bond doesn’t get impaired the more someone bonds. Any of the studies that people cite about it were conducted on prairie voles. If it were true, women would bond less and less with each child they gave birth to, as childbirth causes a MASSIVE oxytocin release meant to bond mothers to their new babi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:44 PM
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Cuz I’m an ex-slut with a ring on her finger
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:39 PM
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Maybe they make special exceptions for pregnant prisoners, idk, but generally prison food is garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:40 PM
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That’s just a dumbass who’s wrong lol. It ain’t hard to get a man to provide for you even if you were a gigantic slut before him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:37 PM
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Stress and poor nutrition absolutely affects developing fetuses
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:32 PM
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The pregnancy is in the raped woman’s body and she decides whether to carry to term or not (for now. That right is being attacked.) But men don’t get that choice if they’re raped. That’s what I’m getting at
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:31 PM
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We need more people who understand their partners and want to make them happy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:28 PM
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I totally understand; most of them just want a clean house and hot meals and an occasional BJ lol... He’s an amazing man, and I’m lucky to have him, so I try hard to keep him happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:18 PM
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I don’t disagree, but then also the poor dude who got raped now has his kid incubating inside a woman who is incarcerated, which I’m sure is not great for a developing fetus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:09 PM
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He might want custody of the kid, but understands he cannot adequately provide everything a child needs, and ultimately has to choose between neglecting his child and giving them up for adoption
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:04 PM
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Give him peace I try to. I’m probably not very successful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:55 PM
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But the father still has to deal with the fact that one of his kids exist in the world and is being raised by strangers, even if he can’t raise them himself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:54 PM
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except for the part where they get incarcerated
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:50 PM
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I keep house for my husband, support him emotionally, give him companionship, and we get to enjoy sex together. Also I bore him a child (that he didn’t want but I wanted so he gave me anyway. You’re welcome, Hubby) and I do most of the childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:49 PM
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I need you guys to argue both sides of something for me. In cases where a woman is convicted of raping a man, and the woman gets pregnant, do you think the man should get a say over whether the pregnancy gets carried to term? (At least within the first trimester?) Cuz like most people believe that no woman should have to go through a pregnancy to bear her rapist’s baby, and it’s a huge life upset to have kids before you’re ready, and the current laws make it so men still have to pay child suppor…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:44 PM
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As someone who grew up with an emotionally abusive parent, and is now dealing with the after effects as a married adults, I would love it if all of my conversations with my husband were recorded. Why? Cuz he’s not abusive, and having a record of what was actually said vs my (often very defensive and projection-based) interpretation of the interaction would be helpful in re-examining reality when trying to resolve issues together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:23 AM
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That’s one major disadvantage of sexism if you’re female- men believing they know what’s right and best for your body better than you do, and passing laws regarding what you can and can’t do with your own reproductive organs. But otherwise, pussy privilege is super clutch and I wouldn’t trade it for anything
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:59 PM
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Idk, I’ve met a lot of men that were suddenly interested in more with me after we spent some time together. I hardly think anyone wants a partner who’s libido is assumed to be mismatched with their own, or whose beliefs surrounding sex don’t reflect their own. I see a lot of women like SierraMistSoda expressing that they want to see “commitment” before having sex with men, but it’s like… why buy a car before you test drive it? If you think about it from someone with a high libido’s perspective, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:24 PM
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It’s definitely coercive and exploitative
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:13 PM
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It would be very correct if we weren’t presently having our reproductive rights withdrawn, but.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 07:10 PM
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Ah. Gotta have police and judge friends
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:55 PM
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Who? Strangers with no life posting on PPD? Or, your loved ones,law enforcement, the justice system, etc.? Pretty much everyone who matters takes women’s side when shit goes upside down
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:54 PM
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As an ex-casual-sex-haver… why commit to anyone before you know whether they’re compatible with you in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:47 PM
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I’d hire a hitman, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:44 PM
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Honestly, it makes me mad when women show up to the gym in the tightest, most-wedgie-inducing leggings/spanx and low cut sports bras they can find, with their hair done and down and a full face of makeup, and then do a wimpy little workout that doesn’t even make them break a sweat. Like I get it, sometimes you wanna look cute and make yourself feel good by going to the gym and getting attention, but they’re only causing problems. As a bisexual, first of all, that shit is distracting as fuck. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:42 PM
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Correct
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:26 PM
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If you’re in a foreign country doing sex work under the threat of being deported, that feeels really close to being trafficked
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:24 PM
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I would not describe sweat as “natural grease,” by any means
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:36 PM
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That feels historically inaccurate
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:31 PM
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🤢why would you type such a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:29 PM
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Why do wet men have to look sexy, but feel so unsexy when you touch them? I feel like that’s an argument against intelligent design
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:22 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:21 PM
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If you refer to sexually liberated women with such terms as “community doorknob,” I’m afraid you don’t deserve a proper slut
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:15 PM
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That’s why you gotta turn the hoes into housewives
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:11 PM
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I’m fairly certain a large percentage of them are here illegally and would much prefer to be doing something else for a living
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:00 PM
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Well, there are a lot of immigrant massage parlor workers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:17 PM
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You’re taking a guilty-until-proven innocent approach. Obviously there are some really shitty men people out there, but NAMALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:57 PM
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I only tell my therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:45 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:43 PM
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Sorry 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:13 PM
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Well, it depends. There are lots of prostitutes that are perfectly capable of supporting themselves through other work (and many who do prostitution as a side gig.) They’re not all being trafficked or forced by circumstance to have sex for money. You could think of the voluntary prostitutes as women who are selling a service that men pay to experience and enjoy, and less so as bodies and sex objects that men are paying to “use.” IMO, it’s not too different than men selling their bodies for manua…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:07 PM
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Take your time. Getting a man off is easy, but it’s about the journey to the orgasm, not the orgasm itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 12:46 PM
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Is it really a circus trick if he’s not big enough to make you gag
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 12:44 PM
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I feel like women can get ahead of much of the competition just by being enthusiastic about the sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 12:43 PM
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*nobody on TRP expects women to do that. But there are hella losers here and in black pill spaces going “WoMeN’S sTaNDarDs ArE ToO HigH!” Or telling specific women to lower their standards lest they end up forever alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 12:14 PM
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Definitely would prefer if he doesn’t GAF that I’m getting hit on. I’m hot; it happens. I like the fact that my man knows he’s also hot and trusts that I am 100% committed to him. Jealousy indicates insecurity, and I’m not about it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:07 AM
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The more attractive man is right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:51 AM
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I’m not the one complaining that I can’t attract partners that meet my standards. I married an amazing man and I’m very happy. It’s mostly men who are trying to say women’s standards are too high, instead of making themselves more appealing to more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 09:49 PM
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If I felt like I was “higher value” than somebody, I wouldn’t have sex with them. I would find my equal or better. Having sex with low quality partners is suggestive of psychological issues; you’ll take anything because you don’t think you deserve better, or you’re trying to use sex to fill a void, you’re trying to prove to yourself or to others how desirable you are by racking up a large number of partners, etc. Either way, lying about your intentions and playing with someone’s feelings is a sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 09:13 PM
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It sounds to me like the men complaining about women’s standards being too high are the ones that are saying “fuck your happiness if it comes at the expense of mine,” tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 08:57 PM
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You can’t be pumped and dumped if you don’t internalize slut shaming. Think about it. Somebody is attractive enough and makes you feel comfortable enough to have sex with them, so you do. 1 of 2 things happen: A) They like you as a person enough to maintain a relationship with you, or B) They don’t like you enough and they discontinue seeing you. Either way, you still got in an attractive person’s pants, so to speak. “Doesn’t matter, had sex.” Isn’t that what men quip all the time? And if that p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:50 PM
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So… what you’re saying is, women are finding and securing partners that are more attractive than them? Aka, finding partners that meet their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:23 PM
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I’m pretty sure you can’t build “civilizations” without a steady supply of new people, which requires women. Aside from that, the key words there are “at the expense of our own happiness.” Sure, if women collectively decided to “lower our standards” and date/fuck men that don’t make us happy, then men will be happy, but we won’t, and the same percentage of the population will be upset as before. Now, at the individual level, the happier a person makes their partner not at too great their own exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:16 PM
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Somebody “using” another person for sex non-consensually is rape, which is punishable by law. They’re having consensual sex with men they find attractive, which is a win regardless of whether their sexual partners find them to be relationship material (which, I hate to break it to you, but plenty of fat people end up in relationships.)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:01 PM
2

They are cruel too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:58 PM
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A) they haven’t locked down their 8/10 yet B) you’ve got a cruel sense of humor if you find people’s loneliness funny
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:52 PM
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What do you mean, point proven? They’re getting gym rats to fuck them. Their standards are being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:50 PM
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You don’t know if you’re “never” gonna find someone who meets your standards until you die and at that point, what do you care? You’re dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:48 PM
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Those fat women are still getting men to fuck them, so who’s losing in this situation? Lift harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:45 PM
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Why should we give a fuck whether men are happy with the dating market at the expense of our own happiness? Maybe if y’all went to the gym and fixed your grumpy-ass personalities, you wouldn’t be 5s anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:37 PM
2

Most people would rather be single than be in shitty relationships. It’s usually only people with trauma/low self esteem who choose the shitty relationships over singleness. Pumping and dumping isn’t a real thing. Just a lie men made up to shame women who they had sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:35 PM
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There is such a thing as too high when the person themselves is also sub-par but is too delusional to realize it. There is no such thing as standards that are too high, only people who haven’t met them yet. If you are willing to wait long enough and vet hard enough, no standards are too high. It also helps to always be working on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:33 PM
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The only reason why anyone would want someone else to “admit to” their standards being “too high” is because they themselves are not getting picked
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:25 PM
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There’s no such thing as standards being too high. Attempting to lower them for sub-par people who feel entitled to you just nets you unhappiness
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:19 PM
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Feels intuitive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:51 PM
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It doesn’t have to sit around for weeks. Living endometrial tissue has a shelf life of about a month, then the cells are programmed for death. There’s really no need for anyone except the person whose body it came out of it to interact with it, if you even count using menstrual products to manage it “interaction.” It’s a bodily discharge and a waste product, and it’s okay for people to think it’s gross
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:40 AM
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The moment it detaches from the uterus, it starts decaying. It’s perfectly normal, but it doesn’t mean it’s not gross
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:33 AM
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It’s rotting tissue being slowly dispelled from the body. Bacteria are in everything, but an abundance of bacteria, or a significant population of harmful bacteria on something, is what makes something dangerous to us, and thus induces instinctual disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:58 AM
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Because it’s eye juice
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:53 AM
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That doesn’t work well within households that used to be single-income
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:14 AM
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What if you’re a woman and you’re disgusted by periods?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:12 AM
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I was about to say, it’s also month-old dead endometrial tissue and bacteria, not just fluid blood
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:11 AM
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Don’t forget lactation!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:09 AM
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I feel like we should be more disgusted by tears
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:09 AM
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His wife said no to the annual drunk strip club outing with his boyz
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:09 AM
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I was just memeing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:47 PM
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Aw, that’s cute
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:41 PM
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“Would you still love me if I was a banana?” “No”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:40 PM
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If you pay off your entire bill every month the bank automatically increases your limit. That’s definitely not true of every bank and credit institution. Every credit limit increase I’ve ever gotten has been at my request.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:39 PM
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Some people are not responsible with their spending, and asking for a higher credit limit (most likely on a card they’ve had for years) would only enable such people to spend more. Even for people with shitty credit, 1-2% cash back on purchases is a pretty standard expectation nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:06 PM
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It’s literally a real life scenario. Oh, I guess I forgot obviously nothing outside of our own experiences ever happens to anybody else in the entire world here in PPD 🙄 Must be why people are struggling to empathize with the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:31 PM
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Outside of the fact that you can’t imagine a hypothetical or just keep scrolling without giving a non-answer… I’m curious as to why you feel that way. If you had kids and plenty of money, wouldn’t you want one parent to be around for them as much as possible? Or are you worried about the divorce-and-take-half-your-assets aspect?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:38 PM
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Come at me when your marriages start lasting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:27 PM
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Hormones are wild, man
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:10 PM
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I mean, maybe that’s what you would have. But that doesn’t mean that other people don’t have it differently
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:00 PM
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Falso, señor
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:53 PM
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(I’m assuming) what happens is that all the spending (outside of scheduled obligations) is done on the credit card, and then it’s paid off every month, to leverage the cash back/miles benefits. But I do agree that there’s something wrong if the budget is that tight on such a high income.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:51 PM
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350k a year is top 1%. Basically, all the money comes through the husband’s accounts, not their shared account, and almost all of the spending happens through the credit card, the account for which she also does not have access. She’d be more than willing to come up with a family budget; it’s just that he’s always dealt with the finances and spent money how he pleases, unrestricted, since he’s the one making it. She’s got her own finances in order, but she’s just not aware of how much is going i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:48 PM
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On the contrary, he said I’m being “extra kissy and lovey dovey” which apparently happens when I am soon to begin my period
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:34 PM
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Well, you’re basically the one who handles all of the finances; she does the house maintenance. The goal is for you to come home from work each day and to have nothing to do but relax and spend time with your family… let’s just say, if someone’s overspending here, it’s not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:30 PM
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I don’t like the fact that my husband can better predict my menstrual cycle based on my behavior than I can
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:22 PM
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In this scenario, the wife is definitely not spending 5k a month. More like less than $500 a month. Although it would be more if you count the times the family ate out together or did an activity
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:01 AM
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It’s not
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:59 AM
1

Yeah, the situation is not good
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:54 AM
1

How tall is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:47 AM
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Well, in this scenario he’s definitely not cheating. Most likely just over-committed in financial obligations (debt, bills, alimony/child support, hobby maintenance, etc) and spends too frivolously (going out to eat, trips, hobby items, etc.) Standard lifestyle inflation stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:44 AM
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How do you make time for intimacy and time with your partner when you have a child or more than one child do you have to really schedule it? Most of the time, we have sex after our kiddo has gone to bed or before she wakes up in the morning. Sometimes we squeeze in quickies if she’s safely occupied in another room. We just got a babysitter, so going out for sexy time is now an option, too :) Do you have any spontaneous plans or fun spicy plans? We went out last weekend and are planning to attend…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:34 AM
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1) no, absolutely not. 2) extremely important. Good sex is a must-have; he could be perfect in every other way, but if he can’t satisfy me in bed, I’m gonna be thinking about other men all the time, so why bother? 3) My husband and I occasionally use toys just for fun, but not because we need them, of course 4) not applicable
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 05:13 AM
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Only have sex because you want to have sex, not for any other reasons. That’s it. You two fucked? Both of you win. A relationship happens? Great. Doesn’t happen? Doesn’t matter, still smashed. Onto the next one. That’s what men do, so why can’t women do the same thing? We get all up in our heads for no reason, internalizing the slut shaming. Just have fun and be safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:56 AM
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Yeah, it’s a major red flag for sure. It can be difficult to navigate explaining to your partner that they’ve fucked up their half of the responsibilities (in kind, loving, and forgiving terms) though
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:53 AM
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Q4M: imagine you make 350k USD a year. Your wife stays home for the most part, and you’ve given her permission to use your credit card to buy things for the household. (She’s thrifty because she doesn’t come from money, so you trust her.) She tells you that she needs to go grocery shopping, but it’s been… “a bad month” and you’re waiting on some money to come in so you can make space on the credit card, which is maxed out. She stretches the food in the house for about another week, and asks agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:33 AM
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Except if you ever talk to people in AGRs their reasoning isn’t usually “it’s legal.” It’s “my partner is developmentally adult capable of making their own decisions. I’m not grooming him/her.,” and they may or may not further clarify that they’re not attracted to people who are younger than 18. When you structure your question as “why are you dating someone this young” and their answer is that defensive response (as a result of being constantly judged/attacked) instead of the answer to the ques…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:22 PM
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Do you have stats that show that AGRs are more often abusive than age-matched couples? From studies with good sampling of an equal number of each?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:10 PM
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I’m mid 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:02 PM
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Dads just don’t want anybody fucking their daughters. Aged matched couples don’t get automatically assumed to be abusive though. The partners aren’t assumed to be taking advantage of the other. People give them the benefit of the doubt until there’s actual evidence that abuse is happening
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:01 PM
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If the majority of straight people think gay sex is gross, should gay people just “own it?” I’m not saying people should have AGRs if they don’t want them, or that they have to think positively of them, but that’s different than simply not actively talking shit about AGRs or people in them. There’s no need to call people dating other adults “pedos” or “creeps” or assume they’re abusive to their partners simple because of an age gap. Don’t you understand why that’s bullshit?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:55 PM
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They’d definitely be dating younger if they could To them her only value is her youth. More garbage prejudice based on nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:50 PM
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You’re literally saying something completely subjective and trying to argue that it’s objective. It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:48 PM
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I don’t think it’s gross at all. And I’m angry about the shit older men get for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:38 PM
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You think it’s “gross” because it’s not what you want for yourself, but that doesn’t make it inherently immoral or abusive, like so many people automatically assume of AGRs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:36 PM
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