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Well you say you can keep them interested in conversations so you have to practice being adaptive and make jokes about something that you notice or the subject you are talking about in those conversations. And also timing plays a part too as if you wait too long you seem like just another friendly guy. Practice making some easy jokes that you can use in conversations and see what lands and what doesn't.
/r/seduction06/07/24 05:21 AM
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Don't be explicit or offensive. You need to work on being more witty and use sexual innuendos instead of jokes. And always be playful when you say it.
/r/seduction06/07/24 03:25 AM
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Your conversations always have to have some flirty and joking teasing kind of vibe to them. If you don't then you are talking like how friends talk to each other. It might be too late because if you try to flirt or tease after a lot of time has passed, it's going to come off weird. You don't have to overdo it with the flirting and teasing but it will let her know that you're just another friend that can just talk about whatever.
/r/seduction03/07/24 11:47 PM
6

This is a good answer. You're thinking about it too much which is causing you to overdo it. Enjoy the time and moments and stay outcome independent.
/r/seduction02/07/24 10:44 PM
2

People have a sort of natural scent called pheromones and sometimes they can be attractive to someone the same way a perfume or a cologne would.
/r/seduction25/10/22 02:20 AM
1

You have to get her to go out with you alone and you really just need to ask if she is interested in doing something with you and it doesn't necessarily need to be a proper date like dinner and drinks as long as it's just you and her. If things go well and you both have fun, then you ask her out again and by then you should feel when to escalate things
/r/seduction24/10/22 04:05 PM
3

If you haven't made any type of move by the third date then it's going to be harder and you might have missed your chance.
/r/seduction23/10/22 05:37 PM
0

I get why you are frustrated but focus on why they are able to do that and what you need to work on to get on that same level. Stop comparing yourself so much to your friends.
/r/seduction23/10/22 03:18 PM
7

We hate to hear it but it depends on her level of interest in you. If she's really into you she won't take longer than an hour and if she does take longer, she would sometimes tell you and apologize for taking long to respond. If you have been with girls that were into you versus ones that weren't all that interested, you would know how big the difference is.
/r/seduction21/10/22 04:19 PM
31

Display confidence not dominance. You need to genuinely not give a fuck.
/r/seduction13/10/22 11:21 PM
5

Unless it comes up before what you are both looking for then it would be easier to lead and even then you just don't jump straight into asking for sex. You have to make some connection to make her like you and be into you enough so you can escalate things. And if it doesn't come up before, you still do the same and after is when you find out what she is looking for. There really isn't a real difference for flirting for casual sex unless she's really sexual and direct about it. Also don't be so f…
/r/seduction13/10/22 10:51 PM
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I mean some may be able to help the guy if he wants to change and wants the help but she would also need to set boundaries and know how much she is willing to put up with. They are delusional when they still stay with a guy for a long period of time knowing he's not making any effort to change and doesn't seem like he wants to.
/r/seduction01/10/22 02:45 PM
7

This is the way.
/r/seduction29/09/22 11:12 PM
9

You need to make some type of move. You can't be doing nothing when she's doing all those things.
/r/seduction22/09/22 02:42 PM
1

That's fine if it works for you.
/r/seduction16/09/22 03:24 AM
1

If that's what you're always thinking and have this mindset then this is what you are going to project and not have any success. It's not a super normal thing to do but it's not super weird either. Lots of guys do it and some are successful and some aren't and some improve and some give up. You really have to get over yourself and your fears and ways of thinking if getting better with women is something you really want.
/r/seduction15/09/22 09:31 PM
1

It happens but she wants to see you again so you're still good and you can still make it happen. I think it depends on what you do and how you both act that would make it more easy to see it as a date or not. Going to a movie and dinner would be more like a date and meeting at a bar could be more of just hanging out unless you then keep hanging out and do something afterwards. It's good to plan ahead of what to do but don't overthink it and kinda go with the flow and have fun and it should come …
/r/seduction12/09/22 02:14 AM
2

Your timing was probably off and unexpected so that could be why she was shocked. There should be lots of high energy and touching between both of you before going in for a kiss. Making her feel comfortable is the first step and you have to escalate from there but at a nice and easy pace. If you're doing everything right you should be able to feel and sense that she wants you to kiss her.
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:20 PM
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You sound like you're an introvert. But they seem like they are attracted in some way if they are coming up to you.
/r/seduction09/09/22 01:39 AM
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You kinda have the right idea but it's more of being in the moment and not in your head.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:07 AM
6

Adopting the mindset doesn't do much unless you are actually becoming more interesting than other guys. You have to become interesting enough that you people around you would want to get to know you.
/r/seduction31/08/22 09:07 PM
1

Don't message back and forth too much. Ask her if she would like to meet and catch up on things and see how it goes from there.
/r/seduction28/08/22 03:43 PM
2

Let her go.
/r/seduction28/08/22 05:01 AM
1

You're self aware of what your problem is so that's a good thing. I honestly recommend doing some reading and maybe look into meditation. You have reasons why you feel the way you do but it doesn't mean they are valid. I'm struggling with this too right now but I am overcoming it. Don't keep looking into the past and comparing because you will never move forward.
/r/seduction25/08/22 05:03 AM
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This.
/r/seduction23/08/22 02:02 PM
9

I can understand that and if she's not even that hot then it should be easier to not get so hung up on her. Just remember to keep an abundance mentality and be open to other opportunities.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:32 AM
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That's the best thing to do. You can still see her if she reaches out but like I said don't invest anymore than what she's giving you. Remember there's millions of other women better and hotter out there.
/r/seduction23/08/22 11:19 AM
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Don't invest too much into her. She sounds like she just wants to have her fun for now and doesn't care what she does with who. Unless you want to have fun too then keep seeing her but if you want to actually date then find someone better.
/r/seduction23/08/22 10:54 AM
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Yep
/r/seduction20/08/22 08:11 PM
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If you really want to be good at game you need to adapt to the women and the environment you are in. All women are different and you need to be that right guy at the right place at the right time.
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:07 AM
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You have to pretty much be a sociopath if you're willing to go down that path. And also work on your looks as much as you can. Learn game.
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:02 AM
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Sure you can lol
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:56 AM
1

Lol yeah but you have to be interesting and do fun stuff to say that and pull it off in funny and honest way.
/r/seduction19/08/22 09:20 PM
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Because my life is dope and I do dope shit.
/r/seduction19/08/22 02:36 PM
11

Yes after almost ten years when I became more attractive and they became unhappy single moms.
/r/seduction17/08/22 09:08 PM
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Pretty much. But that won't always work either.
/r/seduction17/08/22 02:55 AM
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She won't really chase unless she already has high interest and attraction to you.
/r/seduction16/08/22 07:06 PM
2

Just say you heard that a million times and try to be more original next time.
/r/seduction13/08/22 09:22 PM
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There's no use trying to figure this out. Just do what will get you results. In my experience being indifferent and a little cold has gotten me more attention than trying to be a nice guy. I'm trying to be more open with my feelings and emotions but it's not getting me anywhere so not sure if I want to go back to being emotionless and cold. It's crazy if you actually have experienced this before for yourself.
/r/seduction11/08/22 04:21 PM
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I have been healing for years now and I'm in a better place than I was before. I'm being open as I can possibly be but I'm still going nowhere. I'm running out of solutions and ways to deal with it. Right now I'm just doing my best to cope and adapt.
/r/seduction11/08/22 02:27 AM
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Thanks and I'll do my best!
/r/seduction10/08/22 03:54 AM
1

Thanks. I'm going to give it a shot!
/r/seduction10/08/22 03:51 AM
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Thanks man I really appreciate that. I get too much in my head sometimes and it's something I'm working on. Any tips that would help?
/r/seduction10/08/22 03:33 AM
2

What do you mean by an entertaining mindset?
/r/seduction10/08/22 03:28 AM
3

Sorry that I assumed you were single with no kids and you have my sympathy. It's that all I hear are women complain that there are no decent men to date at all. I know alot can be "duds" but they are out there. For a lot of guys it can basically come down to we just take what we can get because we don't get anything and it's how guys get taken advantage of.
/r/seduction10/08/22 01:52 AM
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If I was able to get dates and have fun on them I probably wouldn't care so much but it's starting to get to me that I just want to feel some type of physical touch. Only one girl agreed to go out with me this whole year and we are still talking and hanging out but she's also dating around while I'm trying to keep myself busy and not get too strong feelings for her. If you are a relationship type person and can get dates I don't see why because you keep learning more about what you want and don'…
/r/seduction10/08/22 01:29 AM
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I'm not exactly searching for someone to share my life with but if it happens it happens. It's ideal because I won't be coming from a place of neediness or desperation if I do meet someone I'm interested in. Being single and alone without any physical touch for a long period of time can have a negative effect even though I'm happy and content with everything else in my life. I was lonely and depressed for a long time and don't want to go back to that.
/r/seduction10/08/22 12:30 AM
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How do you do it?
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:48 PM
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This is interesting and I will try it out. Yeah it kinda sucks but it's life. I mean I have my shit together but I'm single and just doing my own thing. And I always like to go out and do stuff and I try to do more things alone but it makes me feel some type of way.
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:19 PM
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I am that amazing handsome charismatic mf!
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:05 PM
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I'm not trying to lead anyone on or hurt them but I do understand how it can happen if one person catches feelings. I'm open to something more if it happens but I'm not going to make them believe I do and will set boundaries.
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:03 PM
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You said ugly dudes despise dating apps lol I don't but they suck more than they work for me at least. And I'm not shitting on them because they don't work it's just how it is.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:59 PM
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Well tbh I have had a rough past with constant rejection and low self esteem and I have come a long way but there are times I still feel like the old me and I don't deserve what I really want. It's something I'm still dealing with at times but I know I have to overcome it. Thanks for your words of encouragement and I am actually going to write that down to remind myself who I really want to be and who I really am.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:57 PM
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Ironically my last relationship started off as just a hookup. And I think I was lucky more than anything.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:50 PM
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I don't go out so much alone but with a friend or friends. The only time I'm really out alone is to do errands and I'm usually at the same spots so the people at these places know and recognize me. I don't want to be the guy that's always hitting on girls when I'm at these places.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:46 PM
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I'm not an ugly dude but I'm not tall (5'6) I am interesting and have lots to talk about so I have had success on apps but it just takes so much more damn time and convincing.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:41 PM
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I don't and it's something I'm trying to work on. I just don't know where as I don't want to approach anywhere I frequent in case it gets awkward and I have to go back.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:37 PM
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I don't and I'm trying but its hard and I feel like I have to start over with a whole new friend group. Dating apps just take so much time and effort for mostly nothing in return.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:35 PM
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I know and it's been better so far but I'm just in a slump right now and it's frustrating.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:32 PM
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I try not to generalize but the women I do get attention from want something more serious or long term. Not sure if it's something about me but I can only think it's that they are at that age to want to settle down and they assume I also want that because of my age.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:29 PM
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I don't have any real beef with dating apps but the people on them lol I do my best but it still sucks. When I do meet up with someone from an app it feels like I was just lucky more than anything.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:17 PM
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I have had fwb in the past but it's hard to get that without feeling like I'm using them or leading them on. And it seems harder for me now since I mostly attract girls my age and they aren't up for that.
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:13 PM
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Well I am talking to someone that I would like to have a relationship with but I know she is dating around and I'm not sure where it's going to go between us. If it was easy to get dates I'm sure I could find someone I can really click with and want to date but I don't get anything. I'm at a point I'm just frustrated and it's getting to me and I don't want to get down and depressed again so a fwb is ideal for me right now. I appreciate your comment but it's not so simple that I can just go out a…
/r/seduction09/08/22 09:06 PM
2

I do have it in an indirect way but dating apps really suck for guys as we all know.
/r/seduction09/08/22 08:02 PM
1

I know there are but they are far in between.
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:38 PM
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I did pretty well a few years ago but I'm in a real slump now as most of my friends are married or moving away. I'm trying to meet new people and I have but it can be hard to maintain. I would like to find a wingman or another dude who's in the same kind of situation but that's even hard to find and not sure how to go about doing pick up at a bar alone. And not sure about coworkers as I don't want any drama. How many girls you have to talk to and try with to actually have success?
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:36 PM
2

You're right. Thanks and I'll try to remember that.
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:29 PM
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But what's the best way to get one? Is there anything in particular to look for if they would be down?
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:17 PM
3

Yeah I'm trying to avoid that but I feel weird going out with someone in their 20s. I just have to get over it.
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:09 PM
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What sucks is that it's hard to get dates and when I do they want to actually date and I don't like them enough to want to date them and I don't want to lead them on. Did you say what you wanted before you both hooked up? Also how did start hooking up when you were just friends? There have been some friends I wanted to hook up with but wasn't sure if they would have been open to it and I didn't want to make things weird or ruin things.
/r/seduction09/08/22 06:59 PM
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I'm looking for a fwb not an escort lol
/r/seduction09/08/22 06:49 PM
1

You need to be interesting enough to stand out. Those qualities you have are nice but women won't care as much because there's lots of those kind of guys around they can choose from. And also having a idaf attitude helps more than you know.
/r/seduction09/08/22 05:39 PM
8

Don't cockblock yourself with your own damn attitude. Very wise words.
/r/seduction07/08/22 10:45 PM
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Hahaha
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:37 PM
32

You just give them some extra attention and she'll know.
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:37 PM
1

Haha I know
/r/seduction05/08/22 10:59 PM
1

I'm not saying they can't be selective but to complain about not finding a guy to date at all...I just don't get it.
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:27 PM
5

This makes sense actually. And also some women may not be too reactive at first even though they are enjoying the time with you. I've gone out with women that were really quiet and didn't talk much on a first date but wanted to see me again even though I thought they were bored or uninterested.
/r/seduction05/08/22 09:01 PM
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My unpopular opinion is that women have no excuse to find a decent guy that is willing to commit. They literally have hundreds of matches and can go on a date almost every day for months if they wanted too and for some reason can't find one guy that wants what they want. I understand there has to be attraction and chemistry but they would literally dismiss a guy for the most trivial and superficial things and then complain there aren't any men that want to commit.
/r/seduction05/08/22 08:57 PM
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You're not being close minded. Having a kid is a big deal and its something that is going to affect the relationship.
/r/seduction04/08/22 01:04 AM
4

I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. Bruce Lee
/r/seduction02/08/22 03:37 AM
2

Its not impossible to find that while hooking up with women. You just need some standards and at least like the person more than their looks and willingness to hook up with you. Last year I hooked up with a woman and we ended up dating for almost a year because we really clicked and had fun going out and doing stuff.
/r/seduction29/07/22 05:43 PM
1

Love and a relationship is nice but I feel the most practical way and increasing your chances of getting that is by pounding a bunch of different girls until you find one you really like.
/r/seduction28/07/22 11:41 PM
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Last year I dated a girl that had a career and business. I was only really able to see her two days out of the week and it was always at night because she was busy during the day. But we would talk everyday throughout the day. She never ignored my messages or left me on read for more than an hour. And she was really super into me so it really is bullshit that someone is too busy. They either don't like you that much or are just lazy when it comes wanting to date and don't want to put effort in.
/r/seduction26/07/22 07:27 PM
1

Its pre selection and social proof. I have a friend I have known since h.s and she's very attractive and all the time I get more looks and attention when I'm with her.
/r/seduction26/07/22 02:23 PM
6

Even, in your own words, an ugly bitch?
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:28 PM
1

Then learn to like them for what's inside?
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:27 PM
1

I would like to believe this but it's simply not true. I understand how it can be hard to convey those things through an online profile but remember women are the ones mostly deciding if they want to go on a date with more than men. And they would literally dismiss a guy before he could even try to show those traits because he's not attractive enough for her.
/r/seduction25/07/22 06:07 PM
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There's people that are attractive but aren't someone's type and vice versa. Being confident in yourself is attractive to anyone. The problem is many people are now really shallow and superficial that we don't see much else besides looks.
/r/seduction23/07/22 08:04 PM
1

I've been there man and I'm still climbing up the walls. Its going to take a lot of work and discipline. Read some books to feed your mind. Learn a new skill. Get in shape. Work on what you can change and what you want to change and go from there. Feel free to pm me.
/r/seduction22/07/22 09:17 PM
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Online dating sucks for an average guy. Its hard to approach irl because of fear of being a creep or accused of harassment. Dating a coworker isn't always the best idea if you care about your job. Besides not having confidence, it's hard to meet women anywhere that is open to talking unless they come to you or make it obvious they are into you.
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:44 PM
1

You need to understand why you feel that way and if anyone actually has labeled you as that.
/r/seduction22/07/22 12:27 PM
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What happened the last time?
/r/seduction20/07/22 06:13 PM
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We all need to hear this every now and then. Even guys that are considered high value struggle sometimes. Remember your wins and don't let the world beat you down.
/r/seduction20/07/22 01:54 PM
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But is it creepy if they are attracted to older men? I get way more attention from women in their 20s than women my own age.
/r/seduction19/07/22 02:45 PM
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Have you asked her out? You can't spend too much time just texting.
/r/seduction13/07/22 03:24 AM
2

The real power they have is being able to get attention and matches and dates. The problem is they can never be satisfied with all the choices they have so they hold out for the perfect partner that doesn't exist. They have the power of choice while most men can't even get dates like that.
/r/seduction12/07/22 03:03 PM
4

This is the best way to explain it.
/r/seduction12/07/22 12:29 AM
1

Go and enjoy the show. I've been to concerts alone because I really liked the bands and didn't want to miss it. It sucks but don't get so down about it. Be positive and open and you might even meet someone at the concert.
/r/seduction11/07/22 12:36 AM
2

You only like her because she was your first. Its probably only casual to her but the only way to know is to ask so tell her if that's how you really feel.
/r/seduction10/07/22 03:55 PM
1

You need a reason that sets up you bringing her home. Have something cool to show her.
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:00 PM
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Oh yeah I agree and you really do have to fully put in the work and effort to improve yourself or nothing will change. But we can't ignore the fact that attractive people in general men and women just have things a little easier. Energy is better spent accepting it and working on yourself rather than seeing everything black and white in that way all the time.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:24 PM
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Exactly. Even if I do think someone is attractive they can still not be my type. But it is hard to not get caught up in trying to be the standard definition of "Chad" because we see more women chase them more than an average guy. They do have it easier but that doesn't mean any other guy can't have success or be just as good. I think what really gets to most guys is the amount of effort they have to put in compared to a guy that doesn't have to do much. And also how a "Chad" can have the worst p…
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:13 PM
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Its possible that you can ask her again because she didn't exactly say no. Just make sure your timing and plan is solid next time. And I honestly would have suggested another time if she didn't or tease her and say she owes you one.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:07 PM
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Being a Chad is subjective. Everyone has their standard definition of what it is to be "Chad" but it doesn't mean they are attractive to everyone. I could be just an average dude to one girl and a "Chad" to another if she finds me really attractive.
/r/seduction07/07/22 02:35 PM
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Yeah it's what I'm starting to realize and learn. And I also hear people say you can't negotiate attraction but then there's people that are with someone because of their personality matters more than their looks. Maybe it doesn't make sense because it's never happened to me before.
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:51 PM
1

Yeah but I also think maybe I wasn't attracted to her as much physically? I haven't really been with many girls so I'm still trying to know what I like.
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:24 PM
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I tried but my feelings stayed the same and I had to end it because it was only going to hurt her in the end. I mean I couldn't even understand why she even liked me so much. I really can't understand how I could've suddenly found myself.way more attracted to her later on. Does it take long time for that to happen?
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:20 PM
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Yeah the girl I was dating was so easy to talk to and do anything with because we got along so well. But I didn't care about spending a lot of time with her or even cared if we had had sex or not. I really couldn't understand why but it was what I felt. But also she dated and had many relationships while I only had one so maybe I'm still figuring what my type is.
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:13 PM
1

But is it because you were already really physically attracted to her form the beginning? The last girl I dated I was attracted to her but I wasn't crazy about her but we had so much chemistry I thought later on I would start to feel more but I didn't t. It confuses me how someone can date someone they weren't attracted to in the beginning and then develop stronger feelings later on if they have really good chemistry.
/r/seduction05/07/22 03:06 PM
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What makes it that much better? I dated someone I had the most amazing chemistry with but it didn't change how much I wanted to have sex with her or made it better than I had with other women. Like I thought my feelings for her would make it better but it didn't?
/r/seduction05/07/22 04:38 AM
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I never said it was unique to men. Anyone will look good when they're older if they have good genetics and take care of themselves. But women don't have to do that so much when they're younger because they get a lot of attention regardless and men have to find ways to get that same kind of attention.
/r/seduction02/07/22 06:22 PM
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Idk how many but of course those guys aren't going to be attractive to most women regardless of age. And not everyone ages the same as guys can improve themselves and their looks over time and can actually become more attractive as they age. There are many men who get more attention from women in their 30s and 40s than they did in their 20s.
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:22 PM
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Not all older men are balding and chubby lol
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:08 PM
11

I think a lot of us know someone like that or at least see it unfold before us. And everyone will say it's because those guys are confident or whatever else women find attractive besides looks yet they can have the worst kind of personalities and that still doesn't effect their success with women. I think it's why many guys end up becoming players.
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:59 PM
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I lived with someone that was was really good looking and was charismatic and it's amazing to see how much crap a women would put up for long periods of time with a guy like that. Like dude didn't even hide how much of an asshole he was to everyone around him yet they stayed and when he would cheat they would forgive him and always come back. It really messed with my head for a while.
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:54 PM
1

The same way you make friends with other girls. Just be cool with them and do stuff you both like.
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:27 AM
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I guess I should've phrased it differently. What's the best way to not make it awkward if she doesn't want it to be a date?
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:52 AM
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What's the best way to do that?
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:33 AM
0

I went out solo before and it was ok but nothing really happened. Its just feels so daunting and forced lol
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:29 AM
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The only friends that are still here I rarely see and it's catching up more than anything. I've gone out alone just a few times but I ended up not really doing anything. Kinda hard to go about finding new people to meet up with that have the same kind of things going on.
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:55 PM
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Same thing happened to me twice this month. Went out with a girl this week and already made plans to see her this week. We hate to hear it but if she really wanted to she would. Its like night and day when a girl has a lot of interest compared to a girl with low interest.
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:51 PM
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You're going to have to get over your shyness. Whatever it takes and works for you but you have to take action.
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:37 PM
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Just embrace it and dgaf what others think. But don't project it then you will come off as a real douche. And whatever you're doing seems to be working they are actually wasting energy caring so much. Just keep improving yourself my dude.
/r/seduction13/06/22 06:45 AM
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Keep talking and flirting and teasing him until it's so obvious that the whole party knows what's going on. Then it's really up to him to make a move or not.
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:48 PM
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I think it's that they just love attention even if it's from an ex or someone they would never see more than a friend. I dated a girl once that would find another guy to go out with if I couldn't make it to a date. OP couldn't see her for a week so that's too long her to not feel validated so she said yes to seeing someone else during that time and then will get OP's attention again when he came back.
/r/seduction21/05/22 05:30 PM
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If girls were looking for love then hookup culture wouldn't be a thing.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:29 PM
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It's only attractive if she finds you attractive. Like if you're quiet or introverted and she finds you attractive you're mysterious but if you're unattractive you are then a weird or creepy quiet guy. I experienced both sides of this.
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:51 PM
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I see. Yeah I'm starting to learn how to be more aware of surroundings. That was pretty smooth haha
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:00 PM
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Did you just walk up to her and started talking to her? Or did you find a way to get closer and then find a way to start a conversation? I notice I do get looks sometimes too but I never do anything because I'm not sure if they are really interested. I really just started to go out and talk to more women so I'm looking for any good tips and things to know.
/r/seduction09/04/22 09:30 PM
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But did you know she was interested in you before you started talking to her? What were the signs?
/r/seduction09/04/22 06:18 PM
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Oh man sorry that happened and hope it gets better for you. But yeah I don't want to just surprise her and ask out of nowhere but we don't get to interact much so it's kinda hard for there to a good time to ask her.
/r/seduction26/01/22 04:04 AM
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Really inspiring man.
/r/seduction21/01/22 01:16 AM
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Yeah I know what I must do next is step out of my comfort zone.
/r/seduction19/01/22 06:12 AM
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Yeah that's really the hardest part is just going out and doing it and getting out of my comfort zone.
/r/seduction19/01/22 01:18 AM
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Thanks. That makes me hopeful.
/r/seduction19/01/22 01:17 AM
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I'm in Chicago.
/r/seduction19/01/22 12:43 AM
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Yeah you are right. I already have some regrets and don't want to keep adding to them. And you are right about using going alone as an excuse and crutch. It's just kinda hard but I know it's possible.
/r/seduction18/01/22 11:40 PM
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Haha thanks. You are right and that is something I need to remember to focus on. Honestly it wouldn't be so bad if I had a friend who would want to go with me but I don't know if l would be able to stay out of my head if I went alone.
/r/seduction18/01/22 11:22 PM
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Do you talk to women at all?
/r/seduction11/01/22 09:30 PM
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You have to really dig deep to find out why. The solution is to find that out and make changes accordingly. You're never going to stop feeling bitter and salty unless you do. And time is no chain so it's never too late to start.
/r/seduction11/01/22 08:52 PM
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Yeah I try to explain this to some of my friends that are women and they don't think it's true or refuse to believe it is. It's then really not hard to see why older men don't want to commit or want anything more than something casual as older women usually complain about. Most average men that peaked later on never dated much or at all and now they finally can, why would they suddenly want to have a serious relationship and be ready to settle down if they don't even know what they like or want?…
/r/seduction11/01/22 07:35 PM
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Well there are women that still do look good in their 30s and 40s but it's not too common and it's even more rare if they aren't divorced or single moms if they are. Its easier for me to date an attractive women my age or older because they are more willing to give me a chance but they usually have a lot of baggage while I really have none and I rather not deal with it. And i think it's crap that older guys get shamed for not wanting to date a women his age or older for that reason. The reason w…
/r/seduction11/01/22 07:06 PM
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It's pretty easy if you look good in your 30s and are mature. But it's more likely they want some to settle down with but there are those who still like to have their fun and don't want anything serious. And not to be crude but a lot of them aren't that attractive as they used to be because of drinking and partying hard back in the day.
/r/seduction11/01/22 02:32 PM
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A little self love and discipline can go a long way. Its knowing what you want to change that's holding you back and then taking actions to make those changes. You just have to realize self pity and depression can be comfortable but nothing will change or get better unless you make it happen.
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:48 AM
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Its a good sign if she says hi and starts a conversation. Keep making small talk and find a good way to ask her out to something she might be interested in. Worst case is that she says no but you will regret not doing it and never knowing. I made that mistake and I won't let it pass me by again.
/r/seduction13/06/21 08:01 AM
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This
/r/seduction13/06/21 07:53 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction16/04/19 12:29 PM
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Hmm now that I think about it I do remember hearing something similar to what you are saying. And from what I can recall is how one guy started playing something along the lines of truth or dare and it did work. But yeah it does make sense and I just have to have that leader mindset. Thanks for the advice and refreshing that for me haha
/r/seduction16/04/19 12:10 PM
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That's actually pretty sound advice. I don't have much trouble creating that vibe and just having fun along the way but rather finding girls that would be really open to it. Like it seems hard that I have to double the effort of everything to get them both into me and at the same time be open with each other too.
/r/seduction16/04/19 11:50 AM
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I did bring it up to a recent fwb I had but she didn't seem too into the idea either. I'm sure if I was with my ex longer it probably would've happened :/
/r/seduction16/04/19 11:27 AM
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It can be but don't let it get you too down. You can become crazy overthinking and trying to figure it out when there really is no real answer or solution. Be happy and proud by how far you have come and always try to be better. And like I said before, its not you even though its easy to think that for a while. Best of luck and if you want to talk feel free to pm me.
/r/seduction22/12/18 09:45 PM
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Well I do get where your coming from as I have improved myself in many ways yet I still struggle with the same things. I actually kinda have the opppsite issue of you have. I'm introverted but not shy. I don't go out of the way to talk to most people but I can have long and intriguing conversations about anything. Sometimes I'm even the funny one in the group. You can become charismatic and witty if you really work at it and expand your knowledge on different topics and be confident when you spe…
/r/seduction22/12/18 08:16 PM
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Maybe you should take your friends' advice and work on being witty and charasmatic. I'm starting to realize myself that looks and status matter but won't mean much of you don't have any game.
/r/seduction22/12/18 03:53 PM
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