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| 69 | The Levels of Eye Contact | Penroze | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 12:58 AM | |
| 1 | Mixed signals. Advice requested. | Penroze | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 12:21 AM |
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| 2 | Seddit is losing its focusThe post you linked has 3 upvotes. You're right, it's a shitty post, but the guy feels a little more confident, even if it's simply asking for a wifi password. But you're right in one thing though. It's VERY hard to know if you've changed, or the community has changed. What's the objective measure? Out of curiosity, when did you first start coming here, and when did you feel it's changed? | /r/seduction | 30/04/14 05:15 AM |
| 1 | How to build sexual confidence when I haven't had it for so long?Yes. I had a bad breakup about 5 years ago that fucked me up for about 3 years. I felt much the same as you do now, and was worried about ever being able to attract a woman again. It gnawed on me quite a bit. I hardly had sex at all, and at one point it'd been a year and half since I'd fucked anyone. When I eventually did, it wasn't some magical wonderful thing of amazing sex. She didn't enjoy it terribly much, and the relationship didn't last. But you know what? It completely eliminated that fe… | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 05:14 AM |
| 5 | Models by Mark Manson vs. The Game by Neil Strauss- which book on seduction is more relevant for today? Is The Game outdated? Expertise needed!Looks like you've read The Game correctly. Many people read the book and think it's an instruction manual. In reality it's a cautionary tale. Listen, the techniques illustrated in the book work. They work towards a goal of attracting women, but simultaneously the work to de-value the very thing you're after. It's not a book on how to have a relationship. Video game like tricks don't work for that, that takes real human understanding and compassion. That kind of thing takes a lifetime of study, n… | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Say you're at a huge party and you see a girl getting hit on left and right, how can you differentiate yourself from those guy so that the girl doesn't see you as one of the hundred dudes that hit on her that night (even though you actually hitting on her)?Not everything is about deflating peoples egos. People focus on negging as if it's the only trick that works. The approach works because it puts both of you in the same group. "I have the same problem as you do... constantly having to reject people. We're the same kind of people.". If you're not super-hot like her, it works doubly well because you're making a sort of joke and showing confidence at the same time. | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 02:52 AM |
| 4 | Should you apologize to a girl because you were an asshole when she rejected you?If you want to be her friend, be her friend. If you truly don't have time for it, then leave it alone. The real question is, what do you want and can you be friends with this girl? Honestly answer those questions and your actions will follow. | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 02:40 AM |
| 1 | I can initially attract girls, but I can never keep them around. Anyone else feel the same wAbsolutely agree. This is good advice for interaction with anyone, not just women. Drekhall needs to learn to grow a spine, and realize that people will like him for expressing a different opinion, but in a respectful way. Women are far better at detecting this kind of deception than men are. It's a sign of weakness, and weakness isn't sexy at all. That doesn't mean you have to defend your position to the death, or that you can't listen to what others have to say, but turning into a "nice guy" i… | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Made it to third base in three weeks.You should know that nobody actually knows what these baseball definitions actually mean, and everyone defines it differently beyond kissing and sex. This is reddit. Just say what you did. Blowjob, finger fucking, cunnilingus, etc. The real question is though, did she have an orgasm? | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 10:50 PM |
| 0 | Do you guys encourage going out even though you are on 4 hours of sleep, and completely deprived, but there is a sick event at a club nearby, and a lot of friends will be there and a lot of opportunities for a closeThe game is long man. Don't burn out. This isn't a marathon, it's your life. Lame excuses are more like "I don't feel like it" or "I'm depressed". We still have physical bodies with need for sleep, and going out to clubs isn't a substitute for that. So I'll tell you exactly the opposite of what everyone else is saying. Sleep, otherwise you'll just look like a total nutcase. It's instantly recognizable, and you'll be off your game. Any good competitor knows that to be at the top of any game requi… | /r/seduction | 20/10/12 07:20 PM |
| -1 | "Are you going to pay for me?"I don't think this is a shit test, it's just a question (and a rather rude one at that). Cocky/Funny responses just make you sound like a goon. I think the main point here is to project some confidence and not sound like every other guy she's gone out with where they pay for her. look genuinely surprised: Did you forget your wallet? she responds: yes you respond. Then I'll cover it, but I expect you to pay another time. she responds: no. you respond: I expect us both to pay since we're both gett… | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 03:35 AM |
| 4 | Above The Game Part 1: Primer On Who You Will BecomeI agree with all the points, except one: You make no apologies for who you are. You make no apologies for your values, your identity, your actions, or your desire. You avoid verbally defending yourself when challenged or tested, because to defend it is to validate it. You base your entire existence in honest intent. You need not apologize for nor justify anything in your life, as long as it comes from a place of authenticity. If you never seriously question yourself, you can never grow. Personal… | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Nervous GirlsMaybe taking your value system from "really hot girls" isn't a good idea. I wouldn't want to date a woman who's constantly nervous, or generally neurotic. I've sort of been there to some degree, and I don't want a repeat. But some people are just nervous when they first meet you and warm up later one at they come to see you at not a threat. In that case, just try to be disarming and comfortable. I agree that an abundance mentality is generally a good thing, but for me there's very few qualities … | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 12:08 AM |
| 3 | seduction tip for girls?I'm just going to heavily disagree. Much of this conversation sounds like the typical woman giving dating advice to guys "just be yourself". Which is so much bullshit. Guys care about looks, but look around at the women who are dating and/or married. There's little correlation between being super-hot and dating. So looks only get you so far. I'm attracted to a lot of different looking women. I like curvy women over skinny sticks with no boobs. But mostly I like extremely smart and open women who… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 08:17 PM |
| 13 | Girl here and very annoyed with a guy using the pua techniques on meJust start reading the dictionary definitions to him, and let him know you're onto his bullshit. Then just tell him to knock that shit off, and act naturally. Then go into SPECIFIC detail about the things he did that really turned you on. He may be really surprised that the thing he was trying to repress were actually huge turn ons for you. It sounds like you genuinely like him, otherwise you'd just dump his ass. If he keeps up his act, dump him. Seduction isn't just about men, I believe women s… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Paying for dinner. Yea or Nay?Here's my rules. I don't need to repeat the no-dinner advice. Never pay for a woman's drinks/coffee/whatever until you've actually bonded with her, unless it's something trivial like $4. It's pretty stupid to be sitting there trying to split a check under say $10. Just let her know your rule ahead of time. Explain you think you're both getting something out of the date, and you both should expect to pay. Just be open and honest and genuinely friendly about it, and all will be fine. If the girl r… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 12:37 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Seducing an Alpha Turkish girl.I just don't think the logistics were right for you and her. She wasn't looking for a quick fuck, which is really what you were offering. My advice for women like this is the slow approach. That probably can't really work for a tourist, so forget about it for her. For anyone in your home city, start dating other people. Make sure she knows you're dating other people, and show them off around her. Display an attitude of "yah, if you played your cards right you might be able to get me... but you'r… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Girl I met on okcupid is already telling me that she "misses me".I agree with Manny Rize, she's not psycho, she's lonely. You're letting your own insecurities get the better of you. People are irrational, and that's OK. Really both of you are kind of projecting something onto one another that may or may not be real. The cure is simply to meet each other and see where it goes. If she's constantly doing this after she meets you, (and you really don't like it), that's something entirely different. But making one comment about missing you is really nothing all th… | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 03:48 PM |
| 3 | I don't want as many women as I can handle. I just want one. Someone I can love and treasure until I die. How many other sedditors are looking for monogamy?I actually like the linked response article much better. There's always been something that's bothered me about the whole "alpha male" thing, and this article does a good job of getting at it. http://postmasculine.com/butchering-the-alpha-male Among the other things I study are Zen. I don't consider myself a Buddhist, but Zen has helped me uncover an inner calm, find a lot of compassion in my life, as well as compassion for myself. Zen has taught me that always having to be in control of everyth… | /r/seduction | 06/10/12 03:15 PM |
| 2 | So as a gay man, I'm terrified of making a move for fear that i'm going to offend someone.I think you need to start subscribing to notgiveafuck. Listen, some guys are going to be offended, some guys aren't. I'm straight, but I'd mostly be flattered if a gay guy hit on me. Just this week I had a guy compliment me on my glasses. They aren't really that great,and nobody has really mentioned them before in all the years I've worn them, so I kind of wondered if the guy was hitting on me. I was wearing a designer fitted shirt that showed a little flair at the time, so maybe wearing a nice … | /r/seduction | 29/09/12 12:25 AM |
| 1 | First message when she is looking for sex?It depends on the girl. Just something to peak her interest, but something specific to her profile. Something a little playful. But relatively short. The important part is to not prostrate yourself to her. That really demonstrates about zero confidence as shows lower value. Think of her as just another person like you trying to find someone (and often times not getting the guy she really wants). Imagine yourself as being that guy that she wants, but has to work a little bit to get. She's trying … | /r/seduction | 22/09/12 08:54 PM |
| 2 | First message when she is looking for sex?You're trying waaaay too hard. You'll "treat her to a massage"? This is completely the wrong approach. The attitude is supposed to be "Hey, I'm kinda interested. If you play your cards right, you might win me. But I've got other offers, so try hard." You're basically offering yourself up on the first message. Not really that attractive. People value things based on how others value them. You can't be too valuable if you're already offering her not only to meet you, but to buy her shit. Don't be … | /r/seduction | 22/09/12 05:53 AM |
| 2 | My Online Dating PrimerPlease post to convos. | /r/seduction | 16/09/12 04:36 PM |
| 1 | “Women are people, not puzzle boxes.”I like your analogy to kickboxing. Learning anything that happens in real time is about learning how to react without thinking. So what are the techniques people should focus on in seduction to become more natural, and less rehearsed? Do you think we can learn anything from the training techniques of kickboxing? (Funny you should mention kickboxing. A friend of mine said there were a TON of women in some of these kickboxing classes, though all non-contact ones where you're punching bags and not … | /r/seduction | 16/09/12 04:22 PM |
| 0 | “Women are people, not puzzle boxes.”I'd encourage you to expand on your thoughts. We need more female voices here that aren't constantly trying to undermine the idea of seduction. I think there's something really insightful you're trying to get out, but are a little afraid of judgement. PM me if you don't want the public scrutiny. PLEASE post more. I won't downvote you, and I'd discourage others from doing so. Also, don't be intimidated by the possibility of downvotes. As long as you're respectful I think people around here will l… | /r/seduction | 16/09/12 04:11 PM |
| 1 | how to get numbers of girls you kinda know?Just ask her for it when you're talking to her. There's no magic. If she's your friend already you should know her phone number. She probably won't even realise you're into her. | /r/seduction | 16/09/12 12:35 AM |
| 0 | “Women are people, not puzzle boxes.”I agree. Having an honest discussion about something that bothers you is Good, and that's all the OP is trying to do. He picked a well written article with an outside perspective. Good for him, we need more of that, otherwise we become too insular and grow only inward. Being threatened by someone who disagrees with you and questioning their manhood because you can't come up with anything intelligent to say is pathetic. I don't exactly agree with the OPs opinion, but I'm comfortable having a disc… | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 11:18 PM |
| 1 | “Women are people, not puzzle boxes.”I think there's some truth that the PUA community can have a somewhat devaluing aspect to women, so there's truth in there somewhere. It's also true that the whole world practices the same thing for everyone, really. Both of these things are bad and are best avoided. But I'm going to disagree that simply learning about what women respond to, what they want, and what makes them attracted to men is a bad thing to learn. As MARSpu said, there's many ways to seduce people, and it's a certainty that … | /r/seduction | 15/09/12 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Kristen Stewart and slut shaming; why we should still be aware of what slut shaming is, why it is bad, and how it affects womenMovie actors aren't role models. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Alright. How do I transcend from just messing around to sex?Ok, so maybe you didn't make them fearful. But what did they say when they left? This is important. I'm still not convinced you didn't freak them out. In a small town especially women are really concerned about reputation. Assure them you don't kiss and tell (and bloody well don't). Being discreet about your sex partners is a virtue, especially in a small town. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Alright. How do I transcend from just messing around to sex?Did you ask them why they were leaving? Did they say anything? What were the facial expressions like? Were the comfortable, or embarrassed? There's a large amount of possibilities of what went wrong. They range from "you freaked her out because she thought you were going to hurt her" to "she felt like it was going too fast and needed to leave before it got heated and she'd feel like a slut later". My guess is that if she actually decided to just up and leave that you freaked her out and made her… | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:58 AM |
| 3 | I think I got asked out today. Not sure.Thanks. I always fuck that up. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Alright. How do I transcend from just messing around to sex?You have to be more explicit in what happened. What is "messing around"? Where and why did it stop? Who stopped it? Why didn't it progress any further? | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Spoke to a girl I felt I REALLY liked, flaked. I assume it's a flake/not interested, but want some opinions.I don't do facebook, so take my advice with a grain of salt. My understanding of it is that it's a token gesture, and has little meaning. My advice is don't really bother with it unless she adds you first. If she adds you, you can see what she's sharing and gain insight into her world. But make plans ahead of time. Get it in her head to be anticipating the meeting in a week. A week is about perfect, so start now. Anticipation is half of attraction. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Asking a Co-Worker out?Cubicles offer you no privacy. People talk a lot, and love to gossip. It's part of office culture. Also, if it goes bad there's no nice safe haven to escape it all day. You could easily make enemies in your office if things go very bad. You'd be wise to avoid office relationships. Still, it happens a lot. Just be aware that dating someone you're working with can offer extra risk you wouldn't normally find elsewhere. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Kristen Stewart and slut shaming; why we should still be aware of what slut shaming is, why it is bad, and how it affects womenWeird. An unmarried famous woman cheats on her boyfriend, and has to make a public apology for it? I'm not defending infidelity, but that's insane. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 01:54 AM |
| 8 | I think I got asked out today. Not sure.She's expressed some small amount of interest in you. A seminar you're both already going to isn't really much of a date, but it's certainly something. Actually, the yelling at you is a far stronger IOI than the seminar. So go with her already and hit on her. She's already done far more than 90% of the women out there. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 01:45 AM |
| 1 | hung out with a model, receptive at first but cold after first meetingYou probably could have had sex with her (pee at my place a HUGE clue), or at least made out if you wanted to. You still can. Everything you describe is great. She likes you. Why are you asking for advice? Set up another date, and let it play out. Whatever you're doing is working. You didn't let her get away with using you as a drink buying mechanism. You didn't tolerate her vulgar behaviour. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Two month long [FR] from a barely practicing PUA. WARNING: really long read.This is ridiculously long, and filled with irrelevant details. I can't and won't read it all. Also, you seem to "shoot a lot of shit". Writing advice: don't use the same metaphor 5 different times in a sentence. Also, paragraphs. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Mixed signals. Advice requested.Yah, I know. But what the hell is going on? Is she just fucking with me? Also, I later found out she said she didn't want to dance because she felt ill. Don't know if this is true or not, but that's the story. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Spoke to a girl I felt I REALLY liked, flaked. I assume it's a flake/not interested, but want some opinions.Stop fucking around. Invite her somewhere. | /r/seduction | 11/09/12 12:24 AM |
| 5 | Spoke to a girl I felt I REALLY liked, flaked. I assume it's a flake/not interested, but want some opinions.The woman clearly wants to spend time with you. Why are you flaking out after only 24 hours without response? It's not a shit test, she's just busy with other shit. You haven't had a busy day/week where you really didn't have the free time to respond to some girl you met? | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 01:19 PM |
| 1 | A sedditor asked me about how to develop real confidence a few weeks ago, so I wrote this article.So you don't give a fuck about them any more then since it's already how you want. Same difference. One is just a longer path than the other. | /r/seduction | 05/09/12 01:11 PM |
| 1 | A sedditor asked me about how to develop real confidence a few weeks ago, so I wrote this article.Holy shit, you're right. The things I'm most confident about are the things I've just sort of stopped giving a shit about. That doesn't mean not doing the best you can, but just not self judging all the damn time. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 05/09/12 03:05 AM |
| 2 | Stop seeking her approval, and you will notice a drastic change in how women will relate to you.It's sad that a person must pretend that they do not care about the opinion of the one they are hoping to court, in order to obtain their favor. That's not it at all. It's just about valuing yourself. The problem the guy was explaining is that he was a pushover. He can (and should) still take her opinion as part of the whole picture. But you have to value yourself, because nobody else will. Women generally don't want you to be beta to them. Now.. that doesn't necessarily mean you just do whateve… | /r/seduction | 26/08/12 06:11 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to "Are you trying to fuck me?"Yah, I agree on the percentages, so you have to use it for the right girl. But for her, it's the perfect response. | /r/seduction | 25/08/12 02:07 PM |
| 8 | How do you respond to "Are you trying to fuck me?"Fuck or fuck not. There is no try. | /r/seduction | 25/08/12 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Saw this beautiful girl at a fashion expo, I think she was checking me out, I was too shy to talk, SAP.As Lee Harvey Oswald once said, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. So WTF, you somehow found her facebook page. You have nothing to lose at this point. SHE was checking YOU out, so that works in your favour. Say you saw her at the clothing expo, caught her looking at you, and want to know if SHE'S a stalker (you have to sound like you're joking here). Be light-hearted and a bit off guard. The impression you want to make is confident, but not aggressive. A short message with a face pic wi… | /r/seduction | 24/08/12 03:11 AM |
| 1 | I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out.That woman is simply amazing. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 20/08/12 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Who pays for lunch?My instinct would be to just split it, unless special circumstances are in place like: It's exceptionally cheap, and you feel generous for some reason (like a hot dog at a street vendor for instance). She's unemployed, and you're well paid, and you suggested the lunch. Even so, you shouldn't feel any real obligation to pay for her, ever really. The above circumstances are just polite for anyone. You don't owe her anything, but it's still a good thing to not be exceptionally cheap, or sensitive t… | /r/seduction | 19/08/12 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Why women shit test - From a woman's perspective. (this might just open your eyes to the female psyche)In fact, I didn't know what you meant, and assumed that by evolve you meant some form of evolution, not just simply progressed. Evolution is a scientific theory, and has specific predictions and observations. It's also very common that people don't really understand that evolution isn't just "getting better", where better is some personal value they favor, rather than whatever survives and passes on its genes. | /r/seduction | 19/08/12 02:29 AM |
| 4 | Why women shit test - From a woman's perspective. (this might just open your eyes to the female psyche)So impressive that we haven't been able to evolve past this bullshit The word evolve is not a synonym for progress. Evolution has its own set of values, quite distinct from your own. It doesn't really care about morality, barbarism, hurt, or pain. Don't mistake evolution for "good". | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 08:29 PM |
| 0 | I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out.I agree.. but I think the point is more about talking woman about how they perceive the game rather than how they think they want to be picked up. Two very different ideas. In other words, you don't just take everything a woman says about pickup at face value. Some of it is just a reaction about how they want to be perceived, or maybe just being pissed off as being thought of as a fish. | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 06:31 AM |
| 1 | I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out.Hmm.. I'm not sure how to place you. I went into this thread thinking you'd be the typical woman trying to stir up the hornets nest, and deliver the same old tired responses I'd typically hear from women getting all pissed off about pickup, then come out victorious when you revealed what real d-bags everyone here was. But you actually seem to roll with the punches, give some ground, and learn somewhat from what people are telling you, and have insightful comments. Pretty good. So I have to wonde… | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 06:20 AM |
| 5 | Why women shit test - From a woman's perspective. (this might just open your eyes to the female psyche)I don't know if this is a shit test or not, but it certainly turned out to be a test of character for the woman (and she failed miserably). I was hanging out with friends, and we were going back to my male friends place. A woman I was maybe a little interested with had to pee, and the friend was taking a detour elsewhere instead of going back to his place directly. So no problem, a chance to get to know her a little better so I drove her back so she could pee. I had parked in a ramp not far away… | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 05:56 AM |
| 5 | Why women shit test - From a woman's perspective. (this might just open your eyes to the female psyche)I don't agree at all. The woman in question was just trying to allay her fears. She saw the guy cry at his fathers funeral, a natural reaction we'd all have.. but for an immature 14 year old girl, a real concern about if the guy was tough enough for her. So she gives him a test to see if he's "tough". I think the test itself is fine. The reason she's testing him is really shitty, but then she was a 14 year old so it's pretty easy to forgive her. Shit tests are about making sure the guy can put u… | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 05:34 AM |
| 2 | I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out.Frankly from what I've seen it's really other women that do this to women. It's not barbie dolls, or Hollywood, or anything like that. It's women themselves. And example: A friend of mine is getting married, and his bride decided on a dress she liked. I saw it, and it was a great dress (it wasn't a wedding dress, but she didn't want a wedding dress). Another female of her friends (or mother.. not sure which), and said "it's too dark". Another women chimed in with the same comment. Soon thereafte… | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 05:09 AM |
| 3 | I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out.The neg isn't necessarily about inflated ego, but can be used just to convey that you're not intimidated by the woman's beauty. She might have a normal ego, but guys are always intimidated by her, so they all act like she's the queen of hotness. A guy that doesn't is at least an equal, and is worthy of her attention. | /r/seduction | 18/08/12 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?Huh. I always assumed it was more obvious and annoying. | /r/seduction | 16/08/12 01:38 AM |
| 6 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?HSV-2 is what people commonly refer to as "herpes", as it mostly produces genital sores. HSV-1 is the really common form that produces cold sores on the mouth that nobody really even worries about and would shrug it off. There's also a ton of other harmless viruses we all mostly carry around with us for life. Cytomegalovirus, varicella zoster (causes chicken pox), ebstein barr, and several others. They're all members of the herpes family of viruses that are largely harmless, but are latent in te… | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 02:37 PM |
| 59 | Can we have a frank conversation about STD's for a minute?Of the people that have HSV-2, only about 20% are aware they have it. This is actually one case where science has done us a disservice. As someone pointed out, nobody even knew it was a disease until the 70s. The only harm from the virus comes from the stigma attached to it, and occasional embarrassing sores. Something like 80-90% of people have HSV-1, which just forms cold sores on the mouth, but the same thing on the genitals is considered immoral. With that said, I still would want to know if… | /r/seduction | 15/08/12 06:31 AM |
| 3 | Is there a /r/seduction for women? Cosmo just doesn't deliver in realityIf it makes you feel sexier, more power to you. But I think women over estimate how much men care about the lacy bra and panties. Clothes are hot, and anything that hints at more underneath is hot. But when I've got you down to the bra and panties, they're usually not on for very long for me to sit around and appreciate them. And honestly at that point I'm concentrating on touching, not looking. The looking part is about anticipating touching. Once I'm touching, there's not much point in the ant… | /r/seduction | 12/08/12 04:15 AM |
| 1 | I have a really bad case of oneitis.Delete the nudes. Get rid of everything in your place that was hers. To forget about someone you need to get rid of all the reminders of them. Only then can you start to heal. If you can't bring yourself to delete the nudes, you haven't accepted that it's over. | /r/seduction | 08/08/12 01:53 AM |
| 0 | Having a lack of anything to say.Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Get involved in politics. Start smoking crack. Travel. You don't really say what you find interesting, so we nobody but you can really tell you how to be interesting. Interesting people have had interesting experiences, and have interesting things to say. That doesn't come out of a vacuum, it comes from work. Partying every weekend is pretty boring to talk about, especially at 17. | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 08:18 AM |
| 12 | my "drug test" routineUhh.. you politely apologise, and move on as quick as you can because you don't really want to become involved with someone who shoots H? | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 04:52 AM |
| 6 | my "drug test" routineWomen aren't stupid. They know it's a flirty activity, but honestly, why would they care? You're playing a game, and it's a fun game. Obviously you have to make it clear with your tone of voice this is a game, otherwise she might think you're serious. They'll only be offended if as Xstream2 suggests they find out that you do it with everyone. Then suddenly they don't feel special at all, and are just someone you're running a routine on. Nobody wants to feel like they're a cog. If she says she kn… | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 04:50 AM |
| 4 | We made kino and we clearly liked each other. I don't know what happened and well I need help.Just ask her if you can expect her at the party. It shows you want here there, and are interested if she's going to show up. There's such a thing as acting TOO nonchalant. From your description, you tried to play it off too cool, as if you didn't care if she'd be there or not. Nobody really wants to go to a party where they're not sure they're wanted at the party, or it was simply a polite invite. Especially if she doesn't know anyone. It's about making her feel welcome and wanted. Asking if she… | /r/seduction | 01/08/12 05:46 AM |
| 6 | We made kino and we clearly liked each other. I don't know what happened and well I need help.You should have made her give some form of commitment instead of this weird "hey, people are coming over and you're free to come if you want.. I guess if you're not doing anything.". The whole thing sounds kind of beta to me. If you've spent this much time with this girl it's important to express what you want, and you clearly wanted her to be there, but didn't really communicate that. There's a million potential reasons why she didn't come. We're not mind readers, so there's no way to know why.… | /r/seduction | 01/08/12 03:39 AM |
| 1 | I called myself Tyler DurdenIn the movie, it's really a story of redemption. The Ed Norton character never would have become than man he was without Tyler, but in the end Tyler had to die once the main character was enlightened. The book ends a bit differently (The main character dies), so it doesn't really end well for him. In both Durden serves a positive role for the main character. In both the character gets out of control, and needs to be controlled by the main character. So I think the character is both a warning, an… | /r/seduction | 21/07/12 06:55 AM |
| 1 | [FR k-close, #close, panic attack]You did fine. Mixed signals are part of the game. Remember, you're supposed to be the prize. If she plays her cards right, she might get you. You fucked up, but she's willing to let it slide. Clean up your place. and let yourself off the hook. Stop giving a shit if you're bad at sex. So what? If you are, you'll get better. If you aren't... well no worries. Fear is about ignorance, and ignorance is easily conquered through knowledge. Sounds like a great experience. | /r/seduction | 15/07/12 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Wondering whether you should ask a girl out?I love this quote. Did you come up with it, or here it elsewhere? | /r/seduction | 10/07/12 05:08 AM |
| 1 | What kind of books should I be reading?Well, becoming a better person is difficult. Self help books are generally feel good malarkey. Try Zen and the art of Motorcycle Maintenance. It's really a story with some philosophy injected into it. The point of fiction is that it's supposed to expose you to how other people think, and different perspectives on life. If you don't think it's making you a better person, try something that's more direct. | /r/seduction | 09/07/12 12:02 AM |
| 1 | What kind of books should I be reading?What you read doesn't really matter so much, it just has to be of interest to you. If it's of interest to you you'll both want to read it, and it will stick out in your mind. You should be able to relate to normal human beings. I'd probably stay away from anything completely technical, but beyond that it doesn't matter. Here's my list of some of the best books I've read. This obviously reflects my tastes and interests: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance Surely you're joking Mr. Feynman Th… | /r/seduction | 08/07/12 11:42 PM |
| 1 | What to do when a girl starts talking down at you?I don't think they really get that you're kidding, and think they can lower your status by following the social norm and making fun of you. You're obviously not pulling off the sarcasm, and the woman is thinking you really WANT to be mocked. | /r/seduction | 07/07/12 03:45 AM |
| -2 | [small FR] Holy dilated pupils batman!Huh. So you said you didn't get her number. Did you screw up in some other way, or you just weren't interested? Really if you wanted further proof of the dilation being interest, and not lighting you should have asked. | /r/seduction | 05/07/12 12:13 AM |
| 3 | [small FR] Holy dilated pupils batman!Was it hard to notice? I'd really like to learn how to recognise dilated pupils, but I've heard it's hard to spot and normally only top poker players can see it. | /r/seduction | 04/07/12 10:16 PM |
| 3 | So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?So do you just start dancing in place then? Marimba dancing to the bathroom? How exactly does this work? Yes, we certainly notice intelligent conversation, at least those of us that aren't dumb as rocks... I'm reading a book on body language, which has tips for women as well. One of them is that "anticipation is alluring. Be secretive, be suggestive, be almost-but not quite" | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 12:03 AM |
| 2 | So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?So what works with men? I'm a straight male, but I'm interested in what women do (besides appearance) to get the attraction of men. | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 01:33 AM |
| 2 | So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?For example, worked out with a guy the other week and gave him my number around noon, to meet up some time and work out again. Very promising start! Then I check my phone at about 4 pm, and I've got 2 missed calls and a text from him. This is a form of lowering his value, and acting passive. If he can't even go half a day without calling you, then he's far to desperate, and low value. Seduction is about holding yourself at high value. Being needy to this extent is a display of weak. Basically yo… | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 06:57 AM |
| 1 | How to answer questions similar to "What do *you* think?""I think it says, 'Stupid American bought this shirt and doesn't know what it says' " Then laugh and smile because you're teasing her. (She of course being American in my scenario) She's baiting you essentially. I think it's a shit test. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:01 AM |
| 7 | Vegas in July for hacker conference, help me land a nerdy hacker girl?You don't exactly have to find a girl that's willing to ditch whoever she's with. You're suddenly competing with someone she knows and trusts, so why take that extra burden? Just like everywhere else there's women travelling with other women, and maybe a boyfriend. So why not become part of the gang, and try to latch on to a gang of three. Two girls and a guy. Whatever you do, it'll be infinitely easier if you ally yourself with the group rather than try to separate this girl from them. You'll g… | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Is it a good idea to live in a house full of hot girls?Meh. Mitigated by the fact that many of them will be on birth control. Syncing isn't possible when the pill controls the cycle. They're not all going to be on the same pattern, so there's no horror situation where they all have PMS at the same time. | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Is it a good idea to live in a house full of hot girls?Strangely, I agree with the guy with the horrible name. It's going to be drama hell, but fuck man, you're young. You'll be able to tell stories about this experience for years to come. I also agree with the woman who advised you not to fuck any of them. Women talk. You have to live with them. Listening to drama at a distance is MUCH MUCH better than experiencing it first hand. From a distance you can always escape into your room. | /r/seduction | 27/06/12 03:30 AM |
| 1 | My virginity's getting in the way. Going to Amsterdam...Sorry, but I didn't know what he meant. I'm honestly trying to find out how someone could use the word sell the way he did. Sorry if you think this is some intense question, it's just curiosity. | /r/seduction | 26/06/12 01:52 AM |
| 1 | My virginity's getting in the way. Going to Amsterdam...I've looked through all of the dictionary definitions of sell, and the only one that doesn't involve exchanging money or goods or services for something is the act of selling. i.e. "sell me on buying that piece of furniture, because I'm not sure I like it.". And obviously that's not what you meant. So you can see my confusion. Is English not your first language? I've never heard anyone using the word sell in the way you are. | /r/seduction | 24/06/12 10:23 PM |
| 1 | My virginity's getting in the way. Going to Amsterdam...When someone says they want to "sell their virginity" that means someone is paying to that person have have sex with them. That's prostitution. I assume the OP knows what the word sell is. So honestly, why do you think he didn't mean he was prostituting himself? | /r/seduction | 24/06/12 02:48 PM |
| -1 | My virginity's getting in the way. Going to Amsterdam...Are you going to sell your virginity to a guy? I wouldn't exactly go and bet that: A. There's a market for male prostitutes for women clients. Most male prostitutes service men, not women. B. You can just walk off the street and start peddling your ass for one shot. Personally I think you're being silly. It's not uncommon to be a virgin at 19, and it's certainly not really a "social norm" that everyone loses it in High School. I have a hard time believing you'd be able to sell yourself, and thin… | /r/seduction | 24/06/12 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Here's something I've never said in my life...Are you gonna live the rest of your life afraid to talk to women because once someone once said something bad about you? It's not an either-or thing. The guy provided zero details, so you shouldn't be pushing him in either direction of "what you did was OK" or "what you did wasn't OK". | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 02:22 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Making Changes to SedditThe problem is that I can't really differentiate between my advice and this other kid's advice -- they both sound pretty similar, and he tends to say good shit, but does he deserve flair for that if he doesn't even have the experience to back it up? I'd say he doesn't, even if his "advice" is good. I think good advice is good advice. If you can't distinguish his advice from yours, then what does it matter if he's not some master PUA? What matters to the end user is learning, not earning points l… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 09:10 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Making Changes to SedditI agree with the general idea that non-structure will just lead to competing power structures within any group. But I think there's an equal danger of a static group of moderators holding power amongst themselves. Stars or whatever I think are fine, and anyone can choose to ignore them. I read askscience quite a bit, and generally find the labels next to peoples names mostly useless, and can sort out good answers on my own. Upvoting and downvoting is really what matters anyway. I guess what woul… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 08:44 AM |
| 6 | [Challenge] I'm going to cold call 100 peopleI think it's a brilliant idea. Start small with normal conversations with people paid to talk to you, but go outside the normal script. Let us know how it goes. | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 04:10 AM |
| 4 | Got a slap in the faceShe did you a favour. She made a mistake by hitting you, and then an even bigger one by not apologising. Obviously she doesn't even realise that what she did was wrong. Obviously she has issues. Avoid her, she's trouble. | /r/seduction | 17/05/12 03:59 AM |
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