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It's definitely subconscious. Most women can't even think about this being a bias clearly because of cognitive dissonance is so strong. To understand what makes the preference biphobic is to unpack their attraction to masculinity. Currently heterosexuality and masculinity are fused. It's a lot to unpack if you've never thought about your preferences in depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:12 PM
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Women approaching men will solve some of the modern dating issues. It's a bit entitled to expect things you're unwilling to do yourself. Not you personally, but there's very little empathy for the extra labor required upfront from men. To the degree where if a man doesn't initiate, nothing happens. If things were more reciprocal there'd also be more mutual understanding. The biggest advantage women have from my perspective is that they won't be assumed to be a violent criminal. And don't have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:48 PM
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There's a credibility gap where men are denied the nuance of platonic physical appreciation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:38 PM
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For most men, any form of visual interest is immediately collapsed into both categories because that is the only way our interest is ever validated or acknowledged.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:29 PM
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That's a defeatist attitude and not true. Besides, it has utility. Not only is this an extension of feminist critical theory through the use of counterfactual thought analysis. But, counter-normative thinking in general is good for driving critical thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:50 PM
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That's why I would ruminate on how different relationships could be if things like the Madonna-whore complex didn't exist and modesty wasn't weaponized.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:45 PM
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I like to imagine what life would be like if women didn't have to exercise so much caution around sex. Or weren't punished socially for acting lustfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:39 AM
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I think most issues would be solved if there was more mutual empathy and mutual understanding. Like yeah it sucks when a guy mistakes a woman being nice as hitting on them. But most of the time being nice looks identical to a woman who is interested. I don't think the empathy you're imposing goes nearly deep enough to form any understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 01:15 AM
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It's more neutral because they could be someone I'd want to date, but I'd never find out. I don't think anyone feels good about hearing exclusionary hard requirements as preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:40 PM
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Whoa, a damn good question. I had to look up the difference between the two questions because I never needed to make the distinction. Thank you for that. "Are these the same?" expects confirmation of identity. "Are these not different?" expects evidence of any distinguishing features.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:27 PM
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Is it always to be given a chance? Like I don't like hearing someone's dating preferences that excludes me for arbitrary reasons. Not because I want a chance with them but feeling excluded sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:21 PM
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Doesn't have to be a projection. The chances of meeting someone while abroad without having to do anything are much higher for women. Living in Miami, when I was on tinder I'd also see a good amount of women on vacation on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:15 PM
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They say that specifically? I could be wrong but I usually just hear "looking for love". Women seem to value attachment much more than men. & I don't think those passport boy marriages are real or have a foundation in reciprocity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:09 PM
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I doubt any dude that can get women will be tuning into Fresh & Fit regularly. No that's still too much.. Any dude that loves his mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:01 PM
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Not justifying either side but how's it different from women doing the same thing for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:56 PM
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I think they're angry for that very reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:54 PM
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Lol "Abracadabra".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:52 PM
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High body count is like any other red flag. Doesn't mean anything on its own but can be an indication of a troubled mind. Have to have a certain amount of respect for women or have met a level headed woman with a high body count to see the nuance. & how fucked is it to tell someone they're gonna die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:47 PM
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They hate them, themselves, and society. Not being able to sleep with someone sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:39 PM
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Honestly, it’s impossible to say for sure. Women can be pretty good at self-preservation, even if it sometimes makes things more complicated than they need to be. If the idea is to make body count a non-issue, quietly sweeping it under the rug probably isn't doing anyone any favors. But hey, with all the double standards floating around, it’s not like the caution comes from nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:37 PM
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Just looking like you weigh less pales in comparison to how the weight is distributed most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:57 PM
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Feels a bit disengenious. Shapewear can make a major difference. & then with everything being high waisted which does well to conceal belly fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 03:35 PM
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I feel like it's because since they get objectified so often, by harping on a dude's muscles, they would be doing the same. That or they met too many muscular assholes and can no longer seperate muscles from jerks. Cuz I notice they start to make it a binary choice between muscles and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:56 AM
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Wtf no, there definitely is a clear path. You learn social skills, useful emotional intelligence like active listening, conflict resolution, and how to communicate and converse, understand how validation works. Then learn the riskier stuff to create sexual tension to ensure you never get friendzoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:52 AM
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Men are extremely gay towards one another. When my boy fitted the fuck out, or Xtra caked up, I won't rest until he's made fully aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:44 AM
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Who is telling women that—they need to be stopped. Women tend to ignore the reciprocal nature of commitment. Viewing it as something they receive, not that it is something that should be mutually desired. It's delusional when the majority of women prefer to have attachment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:40 AM
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Yeah, I don't understand how they don't see the same as sex. Women will crusify any man that feels entitled to sex but men aren't granted the same respect when it comes to committing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:23 PM
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Is that how most people see 'hypergamy'? I see it failed attempts/settling. The women who improve themselves instead of blaming others are likely happily dating up, making their partner happy in the process. Until women stop feeling entitled to commitment, this will never stop. If a man doesn't commit but in her mind he was supposed to—not because she's fantastic to be with. But because she feels she deserves it, leads to this mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:17 PM
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It's all usually bad advice. Good advice has to be understood by the other person for it to be useful. I don't think most women understand the male experience, nor men's communication styles enough for this. Also is challenging to explain things that are only known intuitively.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:22 PM
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It's more than just looks because a lot of women fall into the avoidant/non challant trap. If an attractive dude starts acting too anxious or simpy, they'll flip and become the avoidant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 04:17 PM
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The opinions of incompetent people are worthless. Of course it came out of nowhere, they were too inept to notice. Denigration might just cause aggression. Deep disappointment on their ineptitude could work even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:56 AM
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No I understand what it means. There are many different ways to weaponize incompetence and I was tunnel visioned on "pretending not to know how". It's hard for me to imagine someone being so spineless. Shameless enough to be okay as incompetent, and okay with not contributing when needed. Now that I think of it, I know someone that would do that. But I'd denigrate the fuck out of them, involving everyone he knows. I hate incompetence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:46 PM
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If they knew how to do it, women wouldn't complain about weaponized incompetence. Also why serve even if it's expected? If I don't feel like cooking and my gf expects me to, nobody will eat. We will be fasting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:49 PM
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Yes brilliant. This is what I feel is the case but could not put it in words so eloquently. Extending this logic to prove it further is why a lot of women with only fans have mental break downs. They start feeling good about all the attention, but aren't honest with themselves that it's mostly from being objectified.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:25 PM
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Men want that because there is confusion to what women's standards actually are. Even though a lot of women online are disappointed with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:16 PM
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This is solely men's problem. Humans typically take the path of least resistance. So if she can get everything she wants by just existing, I can't blame her. Women don't really pride themselves on those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:53 PM
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I'm kind of tired of the most incompetent men being used in these examples. My mom taught me how to eat healthy and make doctor's appointments since before I was 18. In most of my relationships, I did most of the cooking because I have a full kitchen and cooking for one extra person is trivial. Surely there are more men who know how to sustain themselves without a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:50 PM
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Yes, and of those levels men and women are usually not compared equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:19 PM
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I have little doubt there is a male loneliness epidemic. I'm 31 and run my own business from home. If I didn't already have friends I'd be lost. Without classmates or colleagues you have to put in significant effort to find communities where people are open to making friends. The rate at which I lose friends is far greater than gaining friends. Easier to find a gf on hinge than make new male friends. Socializing online and porn cannot and will never suffice for the real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:00 AM
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Wdym look past shape wear. Shape wear can instantly make a woman more attractive. I feel like to make the comparison fair at least compare desperate men with desperate women. There are women who don't like being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:09 PM
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Yes that's obvious, but how well should depend on them. That doesn't mean treating them bad was an option. I'd assume you treat her well, beyond the bare minimum every human gets. If there is no reciprocity or appreciation for how you treat her then you're simping.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:35 AM
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It absolutely can be negotiated. Simply wearing poorly fitting clothes can make a man or women look significantly worse. The positive effects are disproportionately execerbated for women with stuff like shape wear and super high waisted pants. Must be reversed for men because a poorly groomed man can have detrimental effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:22 AM
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It's highly context dependent. Are you treating her very well simply because she exists. Paying for everything is fine if you're not bankrupting yourself in the process. Texting back immediately 24/7 looks bad. There has to be a period of time during the day where you're not on your phone. Or feel okay not responding because the convo died naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:16 AM
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Depends what you mean by good. If the good turns into simping where you're overly flexible with things like boundaries. Also guaranteed to happen if you have anxious attachment and she is avoidant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:43 AM
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What if a guy spent some money to get properly styled and learn how to dress well. & groomed effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:34 AM
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Clearly I was talking about how men are not owed sex even in marriage. Obviously a woman is owed commitment after a man agrees to commit. Why are you doing this? While male sexual entitlement can contribute to a culture that enables or normalizes marital rape, the two should not be conflated because entitlement is an attitude or belief system, whereas marital rape is an actionable violation of a partner’s autonomy and consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:11 AM
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What would that change? The phrase already has a valid core meaning: Commitment from a man is not something women are automatically entitled to receive simply because of their actions, involvement, or relationship with him. If you can understand from context they're saying it in bad faith, you should also be able to imagine how it could be used in good faith. The issue is seeing past your bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:35 AM
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What in the world? I'd think my mom wants me to be able to get a girlfriend, not to get laid. It's quite easy to seperate romance from physical attraction. And it'd be kinda weird to only consider one without the other. Selfishly framing it as "whether your penis gets action" is invalidating because it dismisses the deeper emotional, psychological, and personal meaning that sex may hold for many people, reducing a potentially intimate, vulnerable experience to a narrow, impersonal physical outco…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 10:12 PM
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No one needs to remind them lmao. That kind of thinking always comes from a place of pure selfishness, no matter what the situation is. If you can’t communicate what you want while also genuinely respecting the other person’s boundaries and perspective, you’re just being entitled—plain and simple. This is exactly where sayings like “men aren’t owed sex” or “women aren’t owed commitment” come from. At the core, it’s about empathy and respect for each other as individuals. If you can’t see that, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 09:15 PM
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What are you talking about??? It's a valid statement that can be poisoned by someone saying it in bad faith. There's nothing a woman can do that will entitle her commitment. Commitment & sex are based in reciprocity. Even slightly giving off the impression sex is owed, feeling like an obligation is a massive turn off. It's the same for commitment. It's because of cultural norms why women aren't faced with pressure to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 09:01 PM
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I don't think context matters. If a woman doesn't want to have sex, she doesn't have to. It also applies in marriages. Or a guy who is nice and therefore expects sex, not necessarily becoming unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 06:27 PM
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It's not hypocritical because they definitely do deal with more emotionally laborious things. I don't think women liking/needing a lot of emotional support or even validation is comparable to men treating women as their therapist. My issue is women act as if they can't say no and view trauma dumping as a conscious, malicious thing men do. "I'm not your therapist" or "this is too much for me" should suffice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:58 PM
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Now you sound just like the women claiming men don't like women for arbitrary reasons. It seems like a lot of women are used to avoidant men who don't share much. I don't think most of them are doing it consciously assuming their needs are met. Either way if you call out a woman for being a poor listener or unempathetic it's an easy fix if they care.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:47 PM
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They're sort of justified in that because it is harder for women. My friend was telling me how she got openly groped while wearing a bikini at a festival. I've never been groped in my life. It's tough to have mutual empathy after trauma inducing events like that happen. In the same vein I find women who believe they're owed commitment when "Men are not owed sex" vexing. Both are true, and both should be reciprocal. Yet a man who justifiably has doubts is never met with reassurance or understandi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:38 PM
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Why is that though? My mommy, being the first woman I interact with in life, should at least be able to give practical advice. In theory, if I take my moms advice in say middle school, and it works out. I'd likely never be swayed by red pill ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:23 PM
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I think they learn that from women. It's the type of advice my mom would give. And most women tend to be self preserving, leaving out traits they like that could make them look bad. It always ends up sounding like "be nice, be kind, have emotional intelligence". I'd also assume SA plays a role in this as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:02 PM
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It is annoying how much women can complain about being approached while not making it any easier. It's not men's fault a woman who's interested, and a woman just being nice looks nearly identical. It'll likely be that way for a while as the legitimate danger they face creates an "us vs them" mentality. Mutual empathy is scarce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:49 PM
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I'd argue the women on reddit would skew towards being introverted. There are women that enjoy talking to strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:15 PM
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I don't think the days of "just be nice" days ever existed. Women have always falsely alluded to being treated nicely as what they want most. And those men are more successful with women likely due to benevolent sexism, not misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:36 PM
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This is true but you'd be hard pressed to find women who feel confident enough to portray them as equal publicly. "Yeah he stays at my place and doesn't pay any bills but..."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:54 AM
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I don't think that will ever happen until we remove the veil of uncertainty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:49 AM
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Why did that make you defensive and throw insults? People trying to convince themselves of something do exist. & there would be no way to prove you are or aren't one of them through facts. You could say basing an opinion on feelings which is completely valid. Feelings can provide valuable insights. Or basing an opinion on conjecture and cynicism. Saying I feel to me just means, they could be wrong. Especially since if he was right you'd likely never confirm that. Also it's probably really rare t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:39 AM
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That's some heavy confirmation bias. There are tons of women that end up adopting an "I can fix him" mindset. Or start doing things they probably shouldn't in an attempt to get out the "fuck zone" and gain commitment. The novelty of someone being highly desired doesn't wear off if you're constantly reminded of it every time you both step outside. Most women would not have the ego/self-esteem to just ignore that pressure from other women. There are also dudes, including Chads, that are just drawn…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:21 AM
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You literally can't Uber eats Korean BBQ or a hot pot. The point is to cook the unlimited food. Brother I never go to crowded places. I'll get anxious and can't hear shit when there's too many ppl. All restaurants have slow hours depending on the time and day of the week. I can't even go to sports bars because the myriad of massive TV's everywhere distracting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 06:29 PM
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At all? Not even a hot pot or Korean BBQ spot?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:01 PM
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That's a god awful way to go about it. IDK since when people stopped enjoying going out on dates. Like any place with food, liquor, and potentially good conversation should be a good time. Of course they're going to "interview" you, how else do you get to know someone. Perfect opportunity to flex who you are. It should largely be the exact same experience minus her feeling uncomfortable. Also why are you so comfortable inviting strangers into your home?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:16 PM
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IDK maybe we could all just mix macho masculinity with vulnerability. I personally dislike seeing myself & other men in a sad pitiful state. So just get angry. "You know what? I'm sick & tired of being single"
/r/MensRights08/08/25 07:58 PM
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The whole concept of intuition is flawed. Going based on vibes just isn't good enough. It's essentially relying on body language, non verbals, and anything they can't intellectualize and explain. Rare individuals skilled enough can manipulate their body language. Then the worst thing about intuition is people never acknowledge when their intuition was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:27 PM
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Have you tried asking moral or ethical questions? I feel like a good hypethetical can be very informative.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:43 AM
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I guess I'm confused now what everyone's perspectives are. I always assumed a "Chad" would exhibit most of the qualities women like. With safety, feeling comfortable, and being valued as prerequisites. Very attractive & desirable men are much less likely to commit to one woman. Different from a "fuckboi". Although simply not committing could get you labeled as a fuckboi anyways. You could hear it from the bitterness of some women when they rant about how a mid ugly guy with a great personality i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 08:23 PM
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I don't think any one trait will get you far in life on its own. Replace kind with funny, honest, or loyal. If all you're known for is being kind expecting to get far in life just off that is a wild expectation. Nice > Kind > Compassionate.
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:33 PM
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Wow I really appreciate you writing that in all caps. Really validated my attempt at shared perspective cuz it's the first time putting that in words. Hmmm maybe instead of coining another ___sexuality we could fully quantify it being a spectrum? Like you're half demi, or a quarter demi. Or would be more accurate to say you're attracted to physical intangibles. Because that makes a lot of sense to me. You can physically see it, but it's representation is what's important. A bit different from tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:06 PM
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Oh I see the confusion. Whether or not it’s verbalized I still disagree. That’s a very juvenile way to handle conflict. Why would that thought come up when the disagreement has nothing to do with sex. And there was no motive for sex at that moment. I don’t think it’s healthy to start taking away things your partner likes as a means of punishment. I could understand if later on, the argument caused some emotional disconnect but to think of that during the argument completely unprompted is vindict…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 08:06 PM
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Okay so I'm understanding you correctly. You're just being disengenious. What makes you think I want to be correct? I get laid because I was able to figure out what actually works. & why would I need to choose one when both can be the outcome. Do you care more about the quality of the advice, or the person giving it?
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:44 PM
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I think when categorizing it correctly as a form of asexuality really puts the term demisexual into perspective. As a very hetero person I find it easier to understand by negatively framing physical attraction. If you've ever experienced talking to someone with your ideal body type, but their personality was so off putting they stopped being attractive regardless. Then reverse it, and amplify that feeling 100x.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:31 PM
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She shouldn't have said that at all. It's an attempt to get their way by removing sex as a bargaining chip. It'll be like if she did something I didn't like, and audaciously to get her to do what I want I say "OK well no more cunnilingus". That is not the same as not being in the mental space to have sex or be intimate. That's a broad assumption because it entirely depends on what is said during the disagreement not the disagreement itself. It doesn't happen as often because women tend not to sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 06:18 PM
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Lol "introjecting insecurity" how assumptious. I may have overblown the connotations because: "Literally correcting a genuine female take. Classic redditing." Sounds synonymous to "mansplaining".
/r/seduction02/08/25 06:58 PM
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That is completely not true or misunderstood. No man with a health amount of self esteem will want to have sex with a woman who is emasculating or blatantly disrespectful. If they do still, likely they lost all respect for her and are hatefucking as a means of domination not pleasure. The threshold for what constitutes as bedroom killing behaviors is just lower for women. Tell a guy his dick is small or compare them unfavorably to other guys and see if he still wants to have sex. Plus men are mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 06:51 PM
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Wholeheartedly disagree. If I tell somebody they need to work on their emotional intelligence that’s almost meaningless due to the lack of specificity. “Be a better human being” is even worse because how does someone realistically set out to achieve that. Part of giving good advice is understanding how your target audience will interpret/receive it. Using language they will understand. And ideally, immediately actionable. Therefore I find it audacious for you to blindly imply I’m being sexist or…
/r/seduction02/08/25 05:41 PM
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For fucks sake I wanted to give my critical opinions without a million disclaimers. Is it not possible that women can explain things, especially things intuitive to them like feelings, in a way men might not understand or be helpful? What she said wasn’t wrong but I feel requires more nuance to be useful for men. Do you disagree with my “corrections”?
/r/seduction02/08/25 05:24 PM
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They want to but femenism seems to have steered into hatred. Promoting the removal of men rather than reformation. I can kind of relate because as a black person it's mentally challenging to both care for and condemn a group of people with the potential to cause harm or oppression.
/r/MensRights02/08/25 05:22 PM
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Is too ambiguous. Not all things/hobbies will be considered interesting by women. "Decent human being" accounts for a plethora of characteristics and skills that could be expanded into multiple lists with sublists. Most notably: Self-awareness Self-regulation Empathy Effective communication Empathetic listening Conflict resolution "prove you can stay sober once in a while." Is this an issue for most men?
/r/seduction02/08/25 05:46 AM
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But why? I feel like that's an extremely harsh pre judgment. Being demisexual is a real thing, the word just gets used incorrectly. I said demisexual specifically because it doesn't make sense why after asking a woman what she's into physically. To completely ignore the question and immediately start listing off intangibles. Or when some women say they like beer bellies. It's why I said some women talk as if they're demisexual, not that they actually are. Being demisexual is akin to being asexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 02:59 AM
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To play devil's advocate a lot of women online talk as if they are strictly demisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:30 AM
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Can really just replace badboy with "sexually attracted to". I feel "badboy" is too much of an obfuscation in these examples. Simply acting in ways completely opposite to what lands you in the friend zone is exactly what pushes you into the bad boy zone. Usually the biggest detractor, assuming she doesn't find you completely unattractive, is how much she respects you. badboy cums too fast "my body made him lose control which is kinda hot" I have zero doubt this doesn't happen if her momentum get…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 04:07 AM
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Ever notice how specific some women's preferences are? Like, you'll overhear a group chatting and someone says, “I only like guys with that one exact kind of stubble,” and the next thing you know, the list of turn-offs is a wild grab bag of oddly specific pet peeves—right down to “getting the ick from a grown man drinking through a straw” Let’s play with an example: Imagine we divided all guys into Myers-Briggs personality archetypes (don’t worry, I know no one actually does this for real). To m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:42 AM
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That makes no sense. You can only waste your own time. An uncertain man guarantees nothing regardless of age. That's your expectation. I also don't know how to feel about relationships having no benefit if there's no attachment/commitment. Personally I find women that think like this the most difficult to commit to. Commitment is not owed to anyone. All expectation & no reassurance committing is the best choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:38 PM
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It's disingenuous to make false equivalencies. You're reframing his specific, event-driven request as a general sign of “insecurity” and lack of trust in her fidelity. Your imposed hypothetical scenario—infidelity without pregnancy—to argue that his trust should be the central issue, regardless of consequences. Infidelity with Pregnancy: This situation introduces a critical variable: a child whose biological parentage is a legitimate and lifelong concern. The man’s request is a direct response t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:07 AM
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It's way more than that. The older you get, the less open minded you become. All I see it doing is amplifying potential issues, leaving less room for error. It could be fine if you both agree on things that could cause dissonance. Or both have exceptional communication skills, good conflict resolution, and willing to compromise. Generational experiences can shape mindsets. It can't be that hard to find a guy that does their four years to gain a bachelors right after high school. Don't most peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:18 AM
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Cheating or cheated? 9 months is a good a mount of time. If I'm looking at this from a secure mindset I'd just feel reassured, happy any and all doubt got cleared up. Then move on. From an insecure mindset, which you're insinuating, the test is less likely to change much. Depending on why they're insecure and how bad the insecurity is. Could still flip it to everyone's benefit if you still love them. Like "OK we can do the test but only if you go to therapy. I've noticed you've been making a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 07:03 PM
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It's important to differentiate between a man who is inherently insecure and therefore distrustful, and a man who, regardless of his general security, has specific reasons for questioning paternity in a particular situation. What reasons are you willing to accept as legitamate and not "no reason"? Pressure from family members, friends, or hearing about horror stories on social media can prompt a man to consider paternity testing, even if he doesn't have strong personal doubts. You're argument hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 06:27 PM
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That's not a smart way of going about life. Would you have that same mindset when it comes to partners and STDS? Why can't "better safe than sorry" apply here too? What if I’m a terrible judge of character, or she’s just a world-class liar? Plenty of good guys have given the “benefit of the doubt” only to end up funding some other dude’s bloodline. I don't think it's healthy to constantly be looking for signs of the worst scenario. Why would wanting reassurance be met with humiliation if they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:54 PM
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Big bet they'll just respond with invalidation "well you didn't have to carry a child for 9 months".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 03:29 PM
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Yes, I'll go through extended periods of not socializing and regress. A lot things involved in socializing are habitual. I always get less funny cuz I'm not actively looking for things to take out of context.
/r/seduction20/07/25 05:37 AM
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"And wanting a paternity test for no reason also causes drama" God forbid a man wants some reassurance it's actually his child before becoming a complete clown of paternity fraud. How it's not a criminal offense or even just making DNA tests a pre requisite for child support is the real drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:29 AM
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You might as well bust out the flow chart. How going half is considered being economical used implies immense bias. Who's using who if we're both broke college students for example. Plus your analysis doesn't include what state your living in, living wage, and average median income. It would be not smart if your goal is min max every relationship based on tangibles. I'm curious the things a 24 year old will have in common with a 32 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 05:04 AM
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Women have the pussy, they have the power. The opinions of incel men are completely worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:53 AM
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True but there's other ways to achieve that. Would I want others to experience racism as a means to gain empathy? No, I'm not vindictive. I just don't want to experience it. Violence most definitely needs to occur if they thought such disrespect is okay. That's not self control. That's weakness. Lack of self control would be escalating too quickly. Being dehumanized is a form of verbal violence. I'm happy to reciprocate. Yes but the difference is there is no better alternative to express the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 07:21 PM
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We're actually don't agree. We fundamentally disagree on the process. You want men to feel what women felt as a means to achieve equity. It might work for some but I'll get violent well before internalizing disrespect through blatant objectification. "That bitch thought she could dehumanize me". This is already sounding hillarous. Not being able to say "you're so articulate" can't be healed. It's in the connotation. It carries an assumption that being well-spoken is surprising or unusual. There …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 05:49 AM
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I'd argue men spending that kind of money would pay for prostitutes as an alternative. Not have side chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:09 AM
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Ok first of all taking in opinions from incel men is completely pointless for a topic like this. In my experience with women they do usually want commitment but not for those absolutely ridiculous reasons. Attachment is a huge one. Usually once I start sleeping with a woman, mind you I never lie about my intentions, they start feeling like commitment is owed to them. Time spent starts to lose all it's value/meaning without commitment regardless of the quantity or quality of our dates. I even dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:06 AM
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I don't think you understood my reply because I mention the difference in power dynamics. That's why I said regardless of intention a man can't compliment a woman's specific body parts. It's already assumed to be out of lust or objectification. Women can literally say "wow your ass is crazy" to each other. Has nothing to do with where the conversation leads because their intentions are pre judged. Give me an example of how I could compliment a woman's ass out of sheer appreciation for the shape.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 08:32 PM
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Ahh I understand thats part of grand's definition. but with the rise of big bootys I'd just use a different word like magnificent to avoid connoting size. I've really ruminated over this for some time but there are no ways in which a man can show appreciation for a woman's body. Largely in part because women want to look good in ways that are also sexualized. Like say a woman went to the gym to make her butt bigger. In this way strength ≠ sexy the way it does for men. Would women appreciate bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 05:12 AM
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My understanding is off the basis that women don't like being objectified. I assume you don't mean sexualized because it would be impossible to stop that. & there's nothing inherently wrong with sexualizing women. Sexual attraction does not have to equal objectification. You can find someone sexually attractive while still respecting their thoughts, feelings, and individuality. Though it feels like sexual attraction, lust, and objectification are demonized proportionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:35 AM
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From women in this hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 10:03 PM
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I know, I said that because with consistent sexual interest they'd eventually embrace or get used to it. There won't be guilt and shame after they realize more attention is coming. Neither would there be any reason to be skeptical. They were experiencing cognitive dissonance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:12 PM
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It won't end well for women. Plus if you think about it it's near impossible to sexualize women in an ego boosting way as a man. Even if you have the best intentions. The vast majority of compliments towards a women's body will not be perceived positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:05 PM
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I feel like that part of porn is the most egregiously faked and that fantasy is lost on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:57 PM
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The real problem is women mystify tf out of what they actually find attractive. & that sounds like you having an issue adhering to the best out of 10 scale. Could do S tier A tier etc or any other scaling method. You being unable to give your best depiction of an 8/10 man is not the scales fault. It's already a subjective measurement. If 100,000 women say this is what an 8/10 man is, then that's what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:50 PM
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It's hard to compare because of the power differences and/or women are more agreeable. It's far more likely men would just get aggressive if they're not being taken seriously seeing it as disrespect. I personally wouldn't mind being objectified because it changes nothing. It'll fit right in with the other prejudicial experiences I've had. I'm not on a mission to have personal relationships with everyone. Thus most encounters are already superficial by nature, being objectified would just add "sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:37 PM
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Anybody would be skeptical if they randomly started receiving sexual attention for the first time. Seduction is a fantastic tool to manipulate men. Eventually the shock will subside and their ego boosted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:11 PM
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That's just false. Culture plays a major role in shaping what women find attractive, especially regarding body type, specific facial features, and valued personality traits. While some preferences may have a biological or evolutionary basis, most standards of attractiveness are heavily influenced by cultural norms, media, and social values, and can vary dramatically between societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 08:06 PM
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I think it does. The way so many women completely avoid answering a question on what type of men they find physically attractive is suspicious. "lean & athletic or more built?" "The type with emotional intelligence" 😤 This common reaction leads me to believe women don't want to appear as hypocrits and potentially objectify men like how men objectify women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 07:50 PM
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Being attractive and having the confidence to tell interested women to fuck off automatically puts you leagues ahead of a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:10 AM
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How can you assume the women are not picking the same men just because there are more options. Especially when the most attractive men get the most matches on tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 03:07 AM
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The 6ft thing when the average man is well under that height is pretty discouraging. But I think a good personality is extremely difficult to achieve without putting in massive effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:32 AM
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That sounds like black culture lol. My successful homegirl would get called "big money" and insecure dudes would feel a type of way when less successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:24 AM
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I think it's a mixture of women being self preserving, not understanding the male experience, and thinking intuitively. It's very similar to why most women fail boys as single mothers when it comes to courting. I think women are completely capable but unwilling. Anytime there's a tiktok with uncommon advice about women it's met with "stop giving all the secrets".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:16 AM
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I think this is because women are not oppertunistic, at all. The common sentiment is "because he wants to sleep with me, he should also want to date me". I think it's completely possible to attract with sex then because your personality is so fantastic they'll be compelled to make it exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 01:53 AM
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Yes but there is a ton of overlap. And when I said find attractive, I don't just mean willing to sleep with. Happy to sleep with is more accurate. The problem I have is there is no way to talk about a woman's dateability. I think most men want both but it's possible her personality turns them off to the idea. It's always assumed the woman is aleeady relationship material and guys just only see her for her body. This assumption is also based on their own opinion of themself. That could be the cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:59 AM
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Unless you're fortunate enough to have someone giving you actually good dating advice. Societal standards are all you have. Who wouldn't want to be more fuckable/dateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:36 AM
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The comment got deleted but that's what it sounded like they were describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:33 AM
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The main difference is men find a large portion of women attractive. I'd also argue one's attractiveness is easier to change than how much they make.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:31 AM
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The male equivalents to women's standards would be insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:13 AM
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You can't talk about most divisive topics in public comfortably. Has more to do with societal norms than the topic itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 02:07 AM
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I strongly believe women don't want to engage in anything remotely similar to the "male gaze" or objectification. The way women will completely avoid the question of "what type of men they find most physically attractive?". To immediately start talking about intangibles is suspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:59 AM
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Madonna–whore complex When someone sees women as either saintly and pure or as only sexual, never both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:45 AM
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If women paid for the dates, I think they'd be less upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:10 AM
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I'd argue it's not even about control. Pride and the understanding of women will take you further.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:58 AM
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I have two main concerns with this topic. First, being labeled as a "good" or "nice" guy isn’t a compliment—it feels more like a backhanded insult. If the most notable thing about someone is that they’re nice, it suggests there’s not much else to their personality. There’s a big difference between being nice and being kind; kindness comes from genuine empathy, while “nice” often just means agreeable or bland. You’d never call a truly funny guy “nice” before you’d call him hilarious. So, when a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:33 AM
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Maybe micro degree. I've had one dermatologist, and like three doctors. They solve different issues and I don't need to connect with them on a personal level. Mechanic? Either they can do the job or not. The way I hear how my friends have to shop around for therapists is no wear near comparable. And my insurance does not even let you pick. They randomly select someone for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:30 AM
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It's really just the nature of texting and social media. It fosters negativite emotions because of how fast and available it makes you. Things can easily get misinterpreted and nobody is going to text well formed sentences enough to minimize that. The best is having a girl that constantly hits you with "!!! I'm gonna call you" after saying something mildly interesting. Also don't follow a girl you're dating on social media. Life's wayyyyyy less stressful.
/r/seduction01/07/25 07:21 AM
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IDEALLY the stay at home wife uses her free time to start a home business. A self taught & ambitious woman can do damn near anything with enough time and energy.
/r/MensRights29/06/25 10:22 PM
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Yes, as social norms are collective, not just personal. I have second and third hand experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 08:10 AM
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I believe you in saying that it happens. Hasn't been my experience. Of the shy & awkward girls I've dated I've haven't seen anyone react to them so negatively. Neither my sister. Except maybe niche scenarios like skipping someone in line by accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 12:46 AM
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They become so absorbed in how it's mostly men committing all the sexually violent crimes. Start to believe all of the overgeneralizations as truth. Reduced to repeating the same ineffective message or pure misinformation. All empathy becomes lost since men are the direct cause. Any opinions that disagree is just more oppression and upholding the patriarchy. I feel like when it comes to crimes unrelated to women & SA. There's a much clearer distinction between men and criminals. For now while "a…
/r/MensRights27/06/25 09:50 PM
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Quirky is way too nice of a word to be part of that lineup. "My wife can be such a bitch sometimes" "My wife can be so quirky sometimes" I'ma always think this what they mean. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 06:47 PM
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Quirky would be used to describe a socially awkward or aloof woman. Socially awkward Men don't get this courtesy unless they're really attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:04 AM
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I'd argue women are hornier than men. There are just a lot more pre-qualifications and stigmas to get through. Since women can easily get taken advantage of, get pregnant, or die. It is nearly impossible to be aroused whilst also feeling unformfortable. A woman would have to pull a nuke out her purse for a man to reconsider. Then social stigmas & pride. Once you get past all that they're no different from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:12 AM
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Most likely involved some combination of these: Angling, Rocking, Shallowing and Pairing. I've been studying why women are so gravely under pleasured by men. The lack of vocabulary was something I never considered. "Inaccessible vocabulary can present substantial barriers to a woman’s ability to accurately describe to a partner what techniques she would like to use, and how she would like them performed [50]. This ambiguity could likewise impede a woman’s individual learning of how to amend exis…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:30 PM
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