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My favourite typo of the month
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:29 AM
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My husband and did this. We laid out what we wanted and did not want on our first date. Started our communication clear and transparently from the off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:29 AM
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I like looking pretty. My husband also likes me looking pretty. He makes an effort to look handsome too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:29 PM
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I would disagree. My late mother lost her second husband. He was the love of her life. 15 years later she met someone she loved again and remarried. It did not lessen the love she had for her.previous husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:31 PM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:05 PM
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It has nothing to do with goodness. Women who can move on are not bad. Personally for me he is it. He is the center around which I turn. I would miss him for the rest of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:57 PM
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It would impact the rest of my life. I would not marry again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:54 PM
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Probably better just to marry an honest and decent man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:00 AM
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I didn't join to meet my husband, I met him and we had chemistry. But you are more likely to meet someone right for you at a hobby you are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:07 PM
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My husband and I met plating tennis. A shared hobby or interest is a great way to meet
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:09 AM
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Not for me. That sounds awful
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:39 AM
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Well….untrue. Plus my husband’s family is chock full of psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists. It’s like the family trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:34 AM
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Yep. OK. Someone who had studied human behaviour would not make that statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:27 AM
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How would you know what most relationships are like? We have drama but it is external to ourselves. And we enjoy a good bicker
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:24 AM
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And your point should be 'women in my country' not 'women in general' or 'women'
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:21 AM
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To put yourself in someone's debt, where alcohol and late night's are involved is risky. Generally a date is a meal with wine. Also, why not pay for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:11 AM
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I know what the standard is. The standard in my country is to go Dutch
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:10 AM
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Yes but I am a woman and am friends with many women. We all pay for ourselves on dates. Perhaps this is an American thing, the men paying for the date? I would find it dangerous to put myself in that position when I was dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:04 AM
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I dont know any women who expected men to pay more than they did
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:59 AM
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Not from my position. Life with my husband has been great. Yes there have been problems but we have faced them as a team.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:58 AM
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Well thats a sad pov. Being in love and dating, marrying and making love is fantastic fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:47 AM
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I loved our wedding day. I love our happy marriage even more. My husband also loved our wedding day. And he makes me the warm meal whereas I do the laundry, he is a fantastic cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:55 PM
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Yes i did.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:18 PM
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Many, many things. One of them is how he can debate and discuss a topic with curiosity without becoming nasty or unpleasant. As a woman who loves a debate and a good bicker, this is a rare quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:03 PM
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Right ok. I suppose that's easier to believe than a happy couple with a healthy, fun sex life. Must go to work now. Ciao.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:29 AM
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I do not or have ever manipulated my husband. We love each other. Sometimes I make the move, sometimes him but we always know when the other is in the mood, it isn't hard to tell! If he or i say 'er not in the mood' the other goes, 'ok - shall we go for a walk or a drink or play chess?' There is no expectation of sex unless the other wants it. 'Expecting sex' ruins a healthy sex life, changes it from the fun thing to a duty. And we like having a healthy, mutually satisfying intimate life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:19 AM
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Really? Oh dear I had better let my husband know we have been imagining the last 15 happy years
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:06 AM
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No. Not at all. We decide together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:50 AM
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My husband never expects sex or demands it. He wants to have sex when we both want and desire it. Not expecting doesn't mean not desiring. As a result this makes me even more attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:58 AM
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This a false statistic. The divorce rate for first marriages is 38%
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:55 PM
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It is very risky and a bad economic decision
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:28 PM
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B and C are linked, ones personality links into how attractive you find them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:48 PM
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There is no such person as the King of England. Charles is the King of the United Kingdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:33 AM
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Thank you for entirely missing my point. When a partner dies of many years without the protection of marriage then the surviving partner is generally screwed. Also, when hospitalised the partner has zero rights. Your issues seem far more related to governmental control than marriage and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:24 AM
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Statistically married men are the happiest. It's not an anecdote, it's based on actual data. My friend group consists of mostly men. I work with only men. My family (with the exception of myself and my grandmother) are men. Pretty much all of the married men are very pro-marriage and feel sorry for the single men. The "ball and chain" jokes are just banter
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:22 AM
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Men benefit more from marriage than women. Married men are the happiest in society and live longer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:14 AM
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If your partner dies then you have no protection and no rights. You are not their family if you are not their spouse. Legal recognition matters when the worst happens Also I wanted to shout from the rooftops that I loved my husband, because I love him. I am proud to say this man is mine and I am his. That is the joy of celebrating a marriage with all those who you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 08:10 AM
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I do! Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:15 PM
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You mean squewed, not screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:16 PM
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The statistics disagree with you. The happiest people are married men with children, then single child free women. Married women are quite a way down the list
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:59 PM
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Men are hormonal too. It has also been proven that women handle stress better than men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:28 AM
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The 50% divorce statistic is a skewed statistic, it refers to all marriages. The divorce rate for first marriages is 39% And, no they don't. Compromise, discussion, respect and 'one no, two yeses' are how you make decisions as a couple. My husband is not my leader or my superior, he is my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:23 AM
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He does more housework than me and all the cooking. I do the emotional labour stuff and some housework. We pay the bills together
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:12 PM
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Because he does other things rather than life admin. He is a fantastic husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:08 PM
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It's one of the many life admin things he didn't bother with the rest. I do all of them now, including paying the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:05 PM
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My husband has not done a single bit of that 'basic life admin' since I met him. And before I met him he didn't bother (aside from paying bills)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:59 PM
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Both my husband and I love holidays and dates, it is fun and great quality time together. I would also say he's probably slightly keener than I am!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:57 AM
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Blimey. That's appalling behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 09:33 PM
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No they are not. One leads to the other and the other way around. A sex life without trust, intimacy or honesty would be an empty affair indeed and virtually impossible to sustain over the long years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:17 PM
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A happy, successful life with my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:09 PM
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Also, in order to have a great, long lasting sex life one needs all of the other aspects - honesty, respect, emotional intimacy and so forth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:03 PM
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Our shared goals as in relation to our careers, what we want from life, our property, travelling, financial goals etc Edit: we are also committing to some fun goals in relation to going to every Red Lion Pub in the country!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:53 PM
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My husband has close female friends and I have close male friends. They are just friends. I know quite a few couples with mixed sex friend groups
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:52 PM
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If you ask slightly more politely I will elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:48 PM
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My marriage is certainly not friendship plus sex. It is love, emotional support, emotional intimacy and i closeness we share with no one else. Also shared finances, property and goals
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:20 PM
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Can you answer on the other points - does she find him funny? Charming? Charismatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:15 AM
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It would depend. Does the woman find this 'ugly' celebrity attractive? Funny? Charismatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:46 AM
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I know! Glad to see i am not the only one who found this bizarre!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:52 AM
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He doesn't treat me like a roommate, at all. He treats me like the wife he loves. The wife who appreciates stability AND romance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:54 PM
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Ah romance, financial irresponsiblility! That's exactly the type of man one wants to rely on for the rest of their lives. I am an accountant, I love that my husband and I have shared spreadsheets. It means we can go to Paris at a moments notice for the weekend without worrying if we can afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:51 PM
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I am the woman of my husbands dreams, he wanted to marry me as soon as we fell in love but we also wanted a settled and prosperous life so we made a plan and stuck to it. We were always marrying. And anyone agreeing to marry after mere months is an idiot, you need to know the person you are committing your life to and for that you should live together for at least a year first. It worked for us, we are approaching 14 years married and are very happy. We were committed and planning our lives toge…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:40 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:13 PM
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My husband and I were fully committed once we moved in together. We had a mortgage and shared assets before we married, we wanted to invest in property and get on the housing ladder before spending on a wedding Also those aren't 'wifely duties'
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:12 PM
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No he doesn't 'allow' me anything, we came to an agreed compromise. I am messy at my dressing table and then the rest of the house stays neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:00 PM
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I compromise to be neater for my husband as I love him and a tidy home is far more pleasant. Doesn't make me his servant. You decide the standard together. I have a space i can be messy and the rest of the house is neat and tidy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:36 PM
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His money? Why is it his money?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:35 PM
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Difference in culture then. My husband, father, stepfather and both grandfather's cooked.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:24 PM
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You still haven't told me what is feminine about it. What precisely about the act of cooking makes it feminine? Men and women have both taken on cooking as a chore, especially in the last century. Women had little to no rights for centuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:19 PM
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I am reminded of what good parents both my husband and I had and have!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:10 PM
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Do you live at home with your parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:09 PM
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What is feminine about cooking? And what do 'men manage a big more of'?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:52 AM
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Ok, so you dont marry them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:51 AM
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So he's a messy arse who expects his wife to exist in mess because he won't do his share?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:38 AM
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No, we just have different tastes. I like broody, reserved, big men (like my husband) and she likes sensitive, arty types who dont shave
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:36 AM
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That's because the woman is risking her life giving birth. But you know it's optional yes? You dont have to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:21 AM
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How often are you being burgled that this is a point? Most couples earn the same until children enter the mix. Mens nervous systems are for fighting, womans are for nurturing. This is false. Women have worked always. They also hunted in the caves as well. Both sexes do difficult jobs, often the same jobs!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:18 AM
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Most couples go to each other with their issues and problems, that's half the point of being together. And go to one another for comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:14 AM
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Why are you providing all the money? Doesn't she work too? And isn't the responsibility for these hypothetical children and finances shared? Why have kids if you dont want to be a good dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:12 AM
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If you are living together then you set the standard together (from a wife who is far messier than her husband!)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:10 AM
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You did not answer my question. Why do consider contributing to cleaning the home you live in to be like a servant? It is basic adult responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:06 AM
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It isn't attractive for either sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:04 AM
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Why do you consider contributing to cleaning the house you live in to be like a servant?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 09:59 AM
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I think my husband is the most interesting and attractive man i have ever met, my best friend thinks he's too quiet, a bit boring and not especially attractive. I think her boyfriends look like they are homeless and have backbones made of pasta. We are different people with different tastes, that's why we are friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:29 AM
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I would not be ok with it. I would never dare anyone who had casual sex and it would signify things that would turn me off
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:43 PM
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Why? We have a very healthy sex life, it just is a bonus to a happy life
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:07 PM
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Plenty of cakes dont have icing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:31 PM
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Sex is like icing on a cake, great to have but not always needed
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:56 PM
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None of them smoke anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:28 PM
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I work with builders. They live on beer and bacon
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:23 PM
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If a treat is constant, then it isn't a treat. Food should be enjoyable though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:22 PM
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My husband and both have a treat at the weekend, makes life enjoyable. Why is having a treat undisciplined?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:19 PM
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Please don’t parentify your eldest children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:36 AM
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You personally built all that?! Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:09 PM
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Your last paragraph is really, really sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:08 PM
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No it isnt. And unless you want to ruin sex for the rest of your shared life's then you want until she is fully recovered, not as soon as. And until desire has fully returned. Doctors say wait at least 6 weeks but often longer than that. Sex is important to both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:35 PM
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The opt-outs are either use contraception or dont have sex. And gatekeepers? I dont know what unhealthy relationships you are all in for viewing sex like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:32 PM
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What do men provide that women dont? Most women work and provide financially. And sex is not something that is 'provided' - it is something joyfully shared. Also, once it is a duty it drains all joy and desire from the activity. Which noone wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:30 PM
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The moment you frame sex as a duty is the moment your sex life is ruined. Sex is not a duty, it is a shared desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:39 PM
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That is not how a relationship works at all. Children are (like most decisions in a marriage) a 2 yes, 1 no situation. What a ludicrous point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:31 AM
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Not it isn't. They both decided to have children together
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:24 AM
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After the kids were born she had none, and it wasn’t my fault. This is pretty normal after having a child and especially after multiple children. This is a well known fact. It takes a long time for the body to return to normal and for desire to return.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:42 AM
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Why do my husband and I not want children? Because we like our relationship as it is. We love who each other are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:39 AM
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Both Jane and Elizabeth Bennett want to marry for love. It is not a modern concept
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 04:04 PM
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Sorry are you seriously saying that women shouldn't want a man who showers and is financially responsible?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:16 AM
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Lok not clicking any links thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:43 PM
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The best chefs are men
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:12 PM
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This is mental. I feel like i have awoken in bizarro world
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 12:47 PM
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24 years? I didn't meet my husband until then and didn't meet anyone i liked until I met him
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:37 AM
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Well in that circumstance my husband would have a vasectomy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:15 PM
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Much more foreplay required
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 12:59 PM
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Look. The best sex you will ever have is with the person you love. That's it. True intimacy is far more important thank anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:49 AM
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No i am very happy with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:40 PM
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No it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:55 PM
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Well I am simply answering the insinuation that the person who initiated the divorce is responsible for the divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:39 PM
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Or infidelity? Lack of partnership? Or many more reasons!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:28 PM
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Why are they unhappy? What has caused it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:22 PM
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Why did they initiate the divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:38 PM
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Birthrates are falling because women have realised that we do not need to follow a specific lifescript and we can have a choice in how we live now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:37 PM
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Some people spend 24 hours a week, these people are irresponsible and immature, i would warn people away from these people. Some play three hours a week. It all depends on the approach and hours spent
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:30 PM
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That doesn't answer the question
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:17 PM
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How many hours a week are they playing video games? We play video games but only on a weekend and for no more then 4 hours
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:56 PM
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I say it because I love him more than everything. If he didn't feel as I do i would be heartbroken
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:52 PM
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Yes,because I would do the same for him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:41 PM
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I'm sorry, but your term of reference is from the 11th century? That is ludicrous. Charlotte Bronte and Jane Austen wrote books with huge moral centres - have you read Jane Eyre? Or Pride and Prejudice? Lydia Bennet pays a huge price for her low moral behaviour. Also tradition plays a huge part in these novels too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:54 AM
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Ok. Now i know you are taking about a fantasy. For christ sake, Charlotte Bronte and Jane Austen wrote about women working or wanting to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:43 AM
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Yes they did. My grandmother in the 1950s left her home for work. As did her peers. Why isn't Dad spending time with these children? Men have always been chefs. Cooking is not a 'feminine' trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:38 AM
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Women have always worked. A career is neither masculine or feminine Cooking is not a feminine trait. Plenty of men and women are childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:32 AM
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In what way do women want to be men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:29 AM
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My husband would never be so stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:51 AM
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Yep, if there is no career sacrifice then there is no alimony
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:47 AM
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If they are both working and developing careers then why would there be alimony?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:39 AM
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I thinks it is a good thing that we can marry because we want to, as opposed to needing to (the depending comment)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:14 PM
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I would be concerned about his critical thinking skills, level of intelligence and end the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:47 AM
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A lot of women do this, but often it can be mistaken with friendliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:15 PM
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I initiated but I didn't ask him out, I just made it crystal clear that if he did ask me out the answer would be a yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:52 AM
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Yes he does. Hes wonderful
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:42 PM
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No we dont. Gah!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:39 PM
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That is a hugely restrictive definition of Courting and ignores the context of its usage in the 1930s to 1960s. People went 'a courting' which meant going to a dance with a prospective partner. You courted to get to know someone before marriage, that is what dating in its traditional sense is. And they did sometimes involve sex ( i have just been hearing stories regarding my grandparents friends courting days today) and only sometimes ( and pre-1900) involved family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:32 PM
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I have already looked on the OED. And this is an area of language I have studied
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:27 PM
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I think you are confusing Courting with Courtly Love. Dating is simply the modern vernacular for Courting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:25 PM
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The above poster already said 'dating is not marrying'
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:21 PM
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Courting is just an archaic word for dating
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:18 PM
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Women do have lots of sex - but generally in committed relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:15 PM
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Also no longer true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:50 PM
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Yes it is. It's been true for a long time!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:48 PM
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This is not current. Most dates go Dutch nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 05:38 PM
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The world men walk in and the world women walk.in is not the same. Women occupy a world where half the population are bigger and stronger than us, where they could overpower us without a second thought. This is why we have to be cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:19 AM
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My husband has the qualities of both options
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:15 AM
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My late, wonderful grandmother was born in 1932. She was highly intelligent, warm and nurturing. She has told me my entire life how lucky I am to be born when I was. To have the choice to choose the life I want, to travel, to live alone, to have access to the pill. The fantasy you wrote out above is just that. A fantasy. Women then didn't have choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:03 AM
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