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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 117 | That’s a wrap | Perfect_Lead1883 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 05:32 PM |
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| 2 | What do you pay for child support?Sadly not a decent exwife…just gave the rest to my attorney instead. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 06:04 AM |
| 7 | What do you pay for child support?3 kids. $190/mo 😎 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 10:37 PM |
| 6 | That’s a wrapI’ll add that as hard and expensive as it was, I tried hard (pretty successfully) not to be angry, resentful, and bitter at my situation or with my ex. I approached divorce just as I would a problem/project at work…by strategizing, planning, being disciplined and organized, and then executing. I manage my stress with exercise and doing things that bring me joy. Everyone’s situation is unique, but getting control of my emotions was absolutely critical. Stress, anger, resentment, bitterness was po… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:59 PM |
| 4 | That’s a wrapI get that. What is the alternative though? I made every effort to settle, short of an agreement that would have impoverished me for a decade and caused me to miss out on my kids childhood. I spent 80k, but avoided paying 6-10x that in support. Plus I get equal time with my kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:39 PM |
| 3 | That’s a wrapFirst, the court cannot order joint custody…so they have to decide one way or the other if it’s contested. The state custody statute requires consideration of six factors. 1. Emotional ties between the children and other family members. 2. Interest of the parties in and toward the children. 3. The desirability of continuing an existing relationship. 4. Abuse on one parent by the other. 5. The preference for the primary caregiver of the children, if the caregiver is deemed fit by the court. 6. Th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:32 PM |
| 5 | That’s a wrapAt least in my State, it’s another hearing with a judge to make arguments. In my case, my ex started with an indefensible position and refused to negotiate or consider or respond to any of my 10 or 12 settlement proposals. Getting attorney fees is really a matter of principles at this point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 01:32 AM |
| 6 | That’s a wrapBut I didn’t give it to her. 😊 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 09:11 PM |
| 9 | That’s a wrapI’m going back to court to ask for attorneys fees…so we’ll see what happens. But either way, I can get more $$….cant ever get more time with my kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 07:56 PM |
| 7 | That’s a wrapYMMV depending on how angry/scared/crazy your STBX is. Get an experienced local attorney. Better yet, a female one…and listen to her. I covertly hired one on a consulting basis during mediation…kept costs down and ultimately saved me from f***ing myself by taking a terrible deal. If you’re in a smallish town, talk to all the best rated attorneys about your case…they likely won’t be able to take her case once they talk to you. Even if you have to pay for a few 30 minute consultations…worthwhile t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 07:53 PM |
| 2 | I know there is a hidden camera, what do I do?I’m not done with my divorce (trial in 33 days), but here’s what I’ve learned: 1. The deck is stacked against men to varying degrees depending on where you live. 2. You can make concessions based on what feels morally/ethically right….but only after the judge rules. Until then you play to win every contested issue. 3. My STBX and I suspect many women act and decide on emotion…not facts, not evidence, not what makes sense, or what is the right thing to do. Use this to your advantage. Be prepared … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 08:04 PM |
| 17 | I know there is a hidden camera, what do I do?Make sure it’s inadmissible…then figure out how to turn it into a tactical advantage. Have some pretend calls with your attorney/BFF and feed your STBX some misinformation…and provoke a predictable response from her that will be helpful to your case….talk about all the cash you’ve stashed in a secret bank accounts….the secret house you’re buying….that you’re going to leave the country with the kids for a month. Pretend to snort some coke off the changing table…think outside the box. Edit: in one… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Her boyfriend reached out to meAs I’ve been going through my divorce, and dreading a decade of alimony..Ive thought there is a niche business opportunity in having a fleet of handsome gents available for hire…that can get inside (so to speak) and steer the STBX to a hasty and less favorable divorce agreement. The ‘agency’ takes a fee based on the likely court ordered maintenance and the actual judgement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Is there a good way to make my wife hate me enough to want to expedite the divorce processIt’s over. You don’t trust her (for good reason), and she’s moved on. 1) Get an experienced local consulting family law attorney. 2) Build a strategy using what you know of her tendencies and your ultimate goals. 3) She will act on emotions. You will act in the best interests of your child and to execute your strategy. Be willing to lose the battles, while remaining focused on winning the war. 4) Document everything. Send yourself contemporaneous emails after every significant interaction. Commu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 03:24 AM |
| 1 | They just want to burn the whole shit down.Also get an attorney….even if it’s on a consulting basis at first. The peace of mind is priceless. This process can be pretty lonely and isolating…having someone firmly on your side and fighting for you is worth every penny. Mine happens to be a woman in her early 40’s and divorced….which I think is super helpful perspective. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | They just want to burn the whole shit down.100% to all of this. Get organized. Be rational, strategic, move first. Do not give her the benefit of the doubt, or as I did, assume she’s not crazy enough for example, siphon off your mortgage payment for two months. Document everything, send emails to yourself recapping conversations with her or actions she’s taken. Take screenshots and pictures. Record conversations if it’s legal in your state. Pro-tip: newer iPhones allow you to configure the voice memo app to start recording with a double … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/24 02:35 PM |
| 2 | My Favourite Part About the DivorceThis. For the last decade, my STBX has mostly concerned herself with the ‘fun’ things…going out to eat, decorating the house, planning family and girls trips, buying gifts for every single f***ing Hallmark holiday, getting her nails/hair done. But ask her to do something any normal functioning adult should be capable of….log into a bank website, shovel the sidewalk, inflate her tire, operate a vacuum, go to WORK? Nope. Not interested…and day by day the list of ‘Nopes’ gets longer. I wish I could… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/24 06:32 PM |
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