PerpetualMonotony Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
29	After 24 years it’s over.		PerpetualMonotony	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/24 08:17 PM
12	She now feels indifferent towards me	Rant	PerpetualMonotony	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/24 06:21 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Why do some dads stop trying after the divorce? Genuinely curious, I’m 19 and still waiting on mine I was in a similar situation years ago with my Dad. Here’s what I did, before I called my Dad I decided on some strict boundaries. The most important of which was don’t talk shit about my Mom. Whichever boundaries you set, stick to them. I also recommend being patient with your Dad during this process. As men we really don’t have anyone that we feel comfortable talking with about the hell we are going through because our lives got turned upside down. He may be worried about what your Mom, or oth…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/25 12:27 AM
2	I finally understand why people self harm I know this might sound out there, but if you have been thinking about getting a tattoo, now is the time to go get it done. Shortly after my STBXW told me she wanted a divorce I had a prescheduled tattoo appointment. It was so cathartic. The pain from the tattoo helped me in ways I can’t explain.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/10/24 03:44 PM
8	Have you ever mourned a wife that never existed? I kind of understand what you are going through. My (M47) wife (F48) of 24 years who is asking for the divorce has told me that I have never really known her because she would never be herself around me, then she says because I never could have known her, because she wouldn’t let me, that I could never have loved her because I can’t love someone I never knew. This is rough to go through. I am so sorry. Edit: spelling.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/24 06:28 PM
8	What does everyone do to keep their mind off their ex? First of all, and I say this with as much respect as I possibly can, stop calling her your wife. I know this is hard to hear, but she stopped being your wife when she stopped choosing you.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/24 02:46 AM
3	What’s the best place to spend a week worth of vacation during a divorce? ANY WHERE YOUR EX ISN’T!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/24 02:48 AM
1	To the newcomers here, listen to this closely. The opening lyrics on Unsainted by Slipknot are what helped me understand that although I might not be able to see the light anywhere in the dark pit that I was in, that it is in fact there, even if I have to make that light alone. Here’s the part of the lyrics that really helped me: Oh, I’ll never kill myself to save my soul I was gone, but how was I to know? I didn’t come this far to sink so low I’m finally holding on to letting go You have come so much further, and grown more than you can rea…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/24 12:27 AM
2	I feel like I'm starting to be the bad guy for wanting to fight for custody As a child of divorced parents is say FIGHT! I (47M) wish my Dad would have fought for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/24 02:02 PM
2	Did any of you have mental health issues as a result of your marriage or divorce? I (M47) made a new friend at a concert I went to alone 4 days after my wife told me she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a divorce, that was less than 2 weeks ago. If it can happen to me believe me, it can happen to anyone. My only advice is to take care of yourself, which includes taking the time to find out who you are now.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 10:25 PM
3	Does anyone else feel ashamed? THIS! THIS! THIS! My wife just told me she wanted a divorce about 2 weeks ago. At first I felt the same, and I know I’m in the beginning of the divorce process so I may feel that way again. But for right now, I don’t feel ashamed because I wanted to work on our marriage, and she didn’t. She’s the one that called it quits on our marriage, and she’s the one that is leaving me, so that’s what I tell people that ask.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 07:34 PM