PersimmonOk5391 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	I am really feeling down guys. Lost my home my daughters I have no savings but still gotta pay alimony Not if/when ex blocks them from calling and he has 0 recourse options bc he's in a different country ducking alimony. I really wish people would think before offering advice like this.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/25 11:26 PM
1	I knew what I signed up for Just gotta point out that "filing first" had nothing to do with this or the advice you were given - had you been the one to initiate on the date of the 10th anniversary (and possibly before, if it was within the 1-month period) the exact same alimony penalty would've applied.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/25 11:13 PM
5	Because Destroying Me was Her Easiest Option Gonna be honest, this sounds like a lot of cope. Are you and your ex still living together? If not, it's been a year - how would you even know what her medical appointments have covered in that time? And she's clearly had plenty of space to herself without the kids in that period too. If nothing's been walked back yet, it's not going to happen, and this is a fruitless exercise. This was more understandable some months back, but again, coming on a year. You need to start thinking of her as your e…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/12/24 09:35 PM
1	How many of you are still friends w your ex wife? Just ask on the main Divorce sub then, it's the same thing.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/24 07:56 PM
3	What if I had just said "Sorry, I'm not getting divorced" Legally it'll just take her a month or 2 longer without your consent, but you'll still get the notice in the mail one day saying "congrats, you're divorced!" But without your input you'll probably get a few other surprise notices with it like she's taken the house, full custody, half your account and whatever else the court finds equitable. So it's never a good idea not to engage.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/24 11:03 AM
7	She said, "You could just pick up the dog poop without me asking. You see it just like I do." That's a dangerous game to play, your deal with her over the dog has nothing to do with you having been her husband, it's a simple you-own-the-dog-you-take-care-of-it. This gets ugly fast when she decides to re-home the dog and tell the kids it's your fault because you didn't hold up your end of the deal. Legally she's covered.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/08/24 11:28 PM
-1	After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship. Imagine saying this while whining about vows not being upheld. You do realise "stay together forever" isn't the only vow people take in marriage? There's this whole thing about cherishing and respecting your spouse? "Women's loyalty is conditional" on not being treated like shit or taken for granted, who knew?	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/24 03:13 AM
1	Gross Income. This is late, but I couldn't let this go. You realise there are 2 parties in a divorce, at least one of which is usually invested in an equitable asset split, right? The way it usually goes is your spouse or her lawyer will TELL the court where you work, bc it's them who'll be getting the court to force your disclosures if you aren't providing them willingly (and the court will absolutely comply, as will your employer, no one is risking jail time or fines over their employee's divorce).	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/24 02:42 PM
2	Women keeping their ex-husbands last name after the divorce Spoken like a 22yo who just got their driving license and owns no other form of ID or tangible property	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/24 04:55 PM
0	Gross Income. The court orders disclosure of all finances, that includes your paystub, and yes they can (essentially) force your employer to give them those details if you won't	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/24 08:06 AM
1	Marriage insurance for men Idiots will believe this bc most know jackshit about the law, this is just irresponsible man.This story has been widely discredited bc they were still living together for 20+ years in the States and therefore common law marriage rules applied; the fraud only fucked the guy over worse with the judge. She cleaned him out.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/24 04:35 PM
2	Well it's final By which you mean she grew up? Considering the very latest you would've gotten together was when she was 23, were you seriously expecting she'd stay mentally that age forever??	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/24 11:47 AM
2	Coming up on a year since separation heading to official divorce. Dude, a quick glance at your comment history explains why you're twice divorced, and this sad sack "woe is me" shit is not helping. Like what are you expecting here? What do you want to hear? You want to be a father so badly, why would you twice pick women who (presumably) didn't want kids? Going into a marriage expecting to be able to talk them into it is a recipe for failure, and your odds of finding a leprechaun are higher than your odds of finding a woman who'll be willing to have children w…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/24 08:41 PM
1	Do not want a divorce Do not sign anything without a lawyer looking over it, but I do not recommend refusing to engage with the process at all. The divorce is happening, it doesn't actually need your signature to go forward - but without it, the court will ultimately grant a final order that basically gives your ex anything she can legally ask for. Don't know if kids are involved here but you do not want it getting to that stage if so. This is how so many dudes get pushed out of their kids' lives.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/24 07:29 AM
1	I need advice. Does she have her own friends/support network? Gonna be honest, this sounds like she's getting the usual advice to grey rock but keeps forgetting because she has no one else to talk to. Which is shitty, since the point of grey rocking advice is to not give false hope. I wouldn't read too much into it, it's never a positive sign. Next time I'd just remind her that she wanted the divorce so she needs to find someone else to fill the void.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/24 09:52 PM
1	Can you request a new Judge assigned to the divorce court date? Father = Prove to us by climbing Everest with 500lbs attached to your back that you want to be a father even though you were with your child everyday before she left. Being with the child every day isn't enough if the ex is submitting statements that she did 86% of the work and is the one who knows all the kid's teachers/doctors/friends/appointments/etc and then the father doesn't bother submitting a statement to counter that narrative. This is how fathers get screwed on custody. They go in expe…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/24 08:30 PM
1	Infuratiated by Instagram Post I call BS (on your post, not the original Instagram). Mainly over this: A wife asks her husband to get you a glass of water in French, a language she knows he does not comprehend. He brings his wife a napkin. Does she keep repeating the request in French, getting increasingly frustrated by her husband's failure to meet her needs? Or is she responsible for asking in English, a language she knows her husband understands? This is a cop-out, and tbh I think you know it. At some point the wife (if on…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/24 09:28 PM
1	Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now? Yeah, depending on what your girlfriend actually does for a living, that sounds unlikely to hold up and not be thrown out by a judge. You're aware she has to have her own lawyer (independent from yours) review and advise on this prenup, right? that's your best chance of it not being thrown out. And I can't see any lawyer advising that this is a good, not-one-sided deal unless she has her own significant capital gains and spotless credit.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/03/24 04:04 PM
2	Wife shifts the Blame for Consequences of her Decision to File for Divorce That opens the door to them asking her WHY she decided all this, and what Daddy did wrong, and generally you do not want that door open. (Especially if she's already using terms like emotional abuse.) If she's already getting "the blame" from the kids believe me she will have no issues throwing you under the bus. And that'll just fuck up the kids even more.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 07:20 PM
-1	Did your Wife start seeing a Therapist before she filed for Divorce? Lol wtf, you're not a "victim" because your wife dumped you, do you hear yourself?	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 01:27 PM
1	I asked for it, so why do I feel like the failure? 1) Unstable relationship =/= a marriage that breaks up. Lesbians are far less likely to stay married through hellish relationships where both partners hate each other (and have far less societal expectation to), hence the higher divorce rates. 2) literally none of this mentions anything about lesbians being "predatory" with married women and breaking up their hetero relationships.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/12/23 01:57 PM
0	I asked for it, so why do I feel like the failure? And where exactly are your stats for that?	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/23 08:33 AM
1	Glad I found this place it isn't "men" who are at "fault," nor can they be assigned blame, as the prior poster tried to do. The data confirm, beyond any doubt, women around the globe seek out divorce at much higher rates than men, no matter who they are married to. You're missing an important point as well. Marriages used to rely heavily on social pressures to hold them together - social stigma surrounding divorce, women's economic dependence on men, etc. I'd argue that historically they were they key factor in holding…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/12/23 01:49 PM
-1	Glad I found this place How does any of this contradict what Grapefruit said? Historically, women have always been painted as "nagging" and men have generally felt this meant what's being said could be safely ignored. And so women are leaving their marriages in droves but this is somehow shocking? (I don't at all get your point regarding lesbian marriages, why on earth would you assume two women in a marriage wouldn't have issues like anyone else? The only thing the divorce rate among lesbian partnerships demonstrates …	/r/Divorce_Men	12/12/23 09:07 PM
1	Do you think divorce is contageius? When divorce was no longer impossible more people started taking that option rather than staying miserably married for life, obviously. There's no question there. Nor any way to claim that marriages were more likely to be good pre-50s. The only options at that time were to stay married, suicide (which also happened a lot) or choose a life of ostracization and vagrancy. Fact is many marriages were miserable then too, it's just that there was no equitable escape, so the contract basically locked p…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/12/23 10:09 PM
2	Do you think divorce is contageius? If you're looking for an excuse of why your marriage is failing people I know or friends and family have gotten a divorce has got to be one of the most pathetic excuses I have ever heard in my life as a reason In fairness, this is pretty standard for this sub, and actually quite low-key as far as excuses go -- I've seen posts blaming Tiktok and social media, blaming FOMO, blaming imaginary men. You know, perfectly logical reasons.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/12/23 09:38 PM
0	This sub is kind of depressing They've discovered a disguised, dark legal system that works outside of the criminal and civil system. One they never knew until it was too late. Uh guaranteed most of you have heard men (and women) from minority backgrounds talk of how unjust the legal system is and dismissed it because it didn't concern you (if not outright blame them for their own fates because they didn't just do as they were told and follow the rules); now that you're affected it's a "dark legal system that works outside of…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/12/23 10:16 AM
1	This sub is kind of depressing They've discovered a disguised, dark legal system that works outside of the criminal and civil system. Uh, guaranteed most of you have heard men (and women) from minority backgrounds talk of how unjust the legal system is and dismissed it because	/r/Divorce_Men	04/12/23 09:43 AM
-1	This sub is kind of depressing I 100% agree OP. I'd stick to the main divorce sub.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/12/23 09:19 AM
2	It seems the less attention you give them the more they want to be with you Thanks man, and yeah I'm not getting much of a "helpful" vibe here, more like a "there's a not-illogical reason these folk are divorced" vibe.. I'll check out those other subs.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/11/23 08:27 PM
2	It seems the less attention you give them the more they want to be with you What??? You mean you missed this dude's entire post history, including that gem on how "asking a step-dad to walk you down the aisle at your wedding is such a joke why would you do that if you had a good "real" father, I would never tolerate such disrespect". Emphasis on good father. And keeping in mind his casual misogyny toward his own eldest daughters here. (The ones more likely to be getting married anytime soon.) I'm ctfu. At this point I'm half assuming this is a troll account - no way any…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/11/23 08:20 PM
-7	It seems the less attention you give them the more they want to be with you You know, you may think you were the stereotypical silly dad but most likely this attitude of yours regarding women inadvertently slipped through to your interaction with your daughters and that's why they avoided you. (And sided with your ex.) You see a similar dynamic with liberal kids and their conservative parents. I'd be so curious to hear your daughters' side of this. Just realized, you're the OP from the "disrespect = asking step-dad as well as bio-dad to walk her down the aisle" post. Wo…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/11/23 08:52 AM
2	the step-"dad" walking the daughter down the aisle along the bio father has to be a humiliation ritual The fact that they "sided" with the cheater says everything (especially if they knew about the cheating), whether he wants to admit it or not. 20 year olds aren't 8 year olds, they are generally somewhat aware of why their parents are splitting up even without the parents saying anything. Hell if it's a bad relationship they're often the ones encouraging their parent(s) to leave. But sure, let's ignore the elephant in the room on why his adult daughters are so supportive of their mom leaving, an…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/11/23 03:22 PM