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I removed him from my feeds 2 heads ago so haven't seen anything new of him; what you're describing is horrible. I hope you have found a more positive person to follow, or maybe you are ready to inspire yourself (or already doing that)!
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 07:53 PM
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Take a break from dating for a while. It really helped me relight my fire.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/22 02:54 PM
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While this is a valid critique of woke, Taint was so horrible he broke several barriers of human morality.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 11:19 PM
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Deplatforming has been shown to prevent the spread of ideas, studies show. Which is a good thing, as he mainly influences young kids with no full-grown critical thinking skills yet.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 07:01 PM
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For what it's worth: I've been both and really both suck if you're doing one to avoid the other. Having casual sex because you're too scared of entering a relationship hella sucks, as does wanting casual sex because you feel like a loser when you're in a committed relationship.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/22 04:01 PM
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Yuup. Speaking from experience, I would've done better had I had better parental figures in my life. They were really professional in their parenting, but they did not know how to help me develop healthy attachment, confidence and emotion regulation. Thing is, OP, you can't get someone out of a cult; they're too invested. I, and I bet the rest of you lot too, got out because I wanted to get out. Only then could I open myself up to see the horror that is trp.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 10:45 PM
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Exactly. I used to be afraid when I was RP a few years back. Now I'm in my late 20s, still studying but I've started budgeting and structurally saving up money for the first time in my life, and all-round I'm becoming more steady and future-oriented. I'm a single man and while I still fantasize about random hook-ups/fwbs (hot boy summer), my desire for a long-term partner to settle down and build a life with is ever increasing. In this regard, men and women are really not that different. It's ju…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 07:14 PM
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We're not here to inform you about what red pill is; there's plenty resources online, and if you really want to learn you'll put in the work. This is /r/exredpill, where we help one another adopt more healthy ways of being.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 05:08 PM
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I mean, part of it is in our nature I guess. I know I still do, and it also ties in with porn usage.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 09:29 AM
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Strictly speaking, there's not one genetic makeup which is objectively the best; it all depends on the environment. Obviously there's some things that are really beneficial, such as looks, but they are not end-all. So it could be that in a given year, other values are slightly more important compared to the year after. I'm not sure what you're referring to specifically, but speaking on incelism being conditioned: no it is not. Incelism is a state of mind, not a genetic predisposition. It's hard …
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 10:53 PM
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Yes they're dicks too. But we're in /r/exredpill not in /r/chadville ;)
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 09:35 AM
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You just rarely see that type of intimacy without any connection. Genuine connection means some basis of liking, however small. This is more than just a compliment. Also: toxic masculinity is the implied "I'm only here for sex, not for you". Doesn't matter if you state it out loud or if it's a covert contract.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 08:38 AM
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You're using a different definition from mine. See my explanation of thirsty above. To add: I established a genuine connection first, then felt mutual interested, then pursued. Compare this to: one compliment and pursuing without establishing a mutual interest first and gauging mutual interest.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 08:33 AM
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Then you will probably still have a genuine connection. I had in my periods of casual sex. Edit: why are you projecting on me telling me what to fix? You made a diagnosis based on 2 comments.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 08:27 AM
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Nothing. There is however a difference between thirst (sexual intimacy before genuine connection) and the more genuine approach of vibing with people first and then maybe pursuing a romantic or sexual interest. Even though vibing and pursuing can (and often do) occur simultaneously, people are really apt at noticing your priorities. Especially in incel and redpill culture where it is more obvious.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/22 08:14 AM
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To add: I might not get complimented by strange women, but I will receive compliments from time to time from women in my life that I have built friendships with or are trusted acquaintances. So basically: show you're a decent person and you will have that reflected back onto you.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 09:54 PM
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Women would love to give more compliments if men weren't so effing thirsty for sex all the time. So this is really a problem of men being too thirsty/objectifying women/trying to have sex all the time.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/22 03:49 PM
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Emotionally healthy women will take it as sexy. Emotionally unhealthy women will take it as weakness. Same goes for men.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 04:31 PM
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I find that quitting porn helps me tremendously in being able to relate more positively to women. This doesn't mean no masturbation, however. Get off on fantasy or stories, but leave the visual porn.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 09:49 AM
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You're in an ex-trp sub, what do you expect me to say? I've been in trp for 3 long years, now ex-trp for the last two. I can honestly say that these last two years have been my best years: in my professional, personal and in my dating life. I have not married a pornstar. However that would be awesome. Also, feminism does not mean every woman has to act a certain way. I fully support feminism, but also know that I'm more traditional in certain ways - I'd like to become a career person, so I'll no…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/22 05:18 PM
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Lmao bro go back to trp
/r/ExRedPill05/06/22 04:19 PM
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Damn what the fuck is wrong with that sub. It's even worse than red pill when I still used to visit that place a few years ago.
/r/ExRedPill04/06/22 01:47 PM
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This is it. If you're approaching this shallowly based on appearance, you damn well better be hot as fuck to play that game. Or, find yourself, be yourself, and find a cute woman with whom you can be yourself together.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/22 06:11 PM
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I would suggest that your become aware in the moment, take a calm and deep breath, relax, and continue the conversation in a more grounded manner. You'll have to retrain your association with conversation, and every time your take a deep breath you will literally relax into the conversation.
/r/ExRedPill16/05/22 06:46 AM
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Women and men should have honest conversations. A series of dialogues. That would be best.
/r/ExRedPill15/05/22 02:00 PM
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But what's the benefit of knowing, though? I actually think that you can leverage your height to set yourself apart from other guys.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 06:02 AM
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Yes! You're telling me about swallowing the black pill and having a healthy outlook on life at the same time. I'm curious what this looks like to you as I have trouble reconciling the two.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 08:18 PM
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Yea, same. I believe it really has to do with playing the hand you're dealt, together with a healthy perspective on life and dating. Nowadays when I ask someone for a date (mind you I don't do cold approaches but mainly via social circle), I'm able to keep it light, fun, and, most importantly, give them the freedom to choose. The addendum, "only if you're up for it" has been such a great improvement for me in that regard. The funny thing is: the more I accept the possibility of being rejected, t…
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 08:17 PM
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Yea, your answer to the middle question.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:30 PM
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Alright, so how would that life look like to you?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:19 PM
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I think I don't understand why you'd like to know as you're saying you're doing alright yourself, right?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:47 PM
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What is your actual question?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:39 PM
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Let me ask you some questions (psychology major here): why do you want to leave the black pill? what are the advantages and disadvantages of both black pill and a healthy outlook on life? what's the ultimate goal of you posting here?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 03:36 PM
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No, however I used to be forever single before I started being able to attract women. Disclaimer: I'm about to start therapy because even though I can attract women, I also eventually repel them through abandonment anxiety (I've had multiple short relationships that have all ended badly). At least I'm good at attracting, plus I have a good sense of how to fix my problems. What questions do you have?
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 07:58 PM
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Lmao
/r/ExRedPill31/03/21 10:52 PM
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I know brother. They say recognising it is the first step, but I have to say abuse and attachment issues take a lot of time to improve. Stay strong and you got this.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 03:42 PM
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It's also because red pill is in line with the toxic masculinity from the past having conditioned us to a degree. Couple that with pure bitterness and you get trp. You know, abuse feels familiar for abused people, hence some kind of comfort sometimes. Toxic masculinity is like an abuser, and has a mighty hold on so many of us men.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/21 01:19 PM
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The biggest reason they care is because they hate that theirs is so low. Oh, and when they care about the body count of their partner: they somehow relate that body count to their perceived status. Which is fucking bullshit. Ashamed to say that I speak from personal experience tho.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/21 01:40 AM
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If that's all you see in this sub, I suggest you pull off those blinders and look again.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/21 09:11 AM
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Let me know. You can also always send me a pm.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 12:54 PM
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Also, to clarify: you gotta really mean it when you say something romantic, and enjoy that beautiful moment of intimacy!
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 10:05 PM
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I get you man, it's scary if you don't have a good way of initiating. I remember being there in the past. Nowadays I do the following: I'm talking to her, and I see that she's interested in me, I say: "hey", "hey wait", or "come here". Conversation falls quiet and there I create my moment and go in for the kiss. Works every time. From kissing it's of course a small leap to kissing more intensely to grabbing her waist, legs, thighs, kissing her cheeks, neck, ears, to slowly feeling her up to her …
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 05:59 PM
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Ooh okay, so set and setting are all good, but you're having trouble initiating the action. Are you also having trouble kissing, or does it happen between kissing and further?
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 05:34 PM
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Can you give me a short review of the book?
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 04:53 PM
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If we went on a date - say drinks in the centre - and things go smooth, I usually invite them over to drinks or a movie at my place, or ask them to go to theirs. I've learned to be really receptive to their signals, so I know how to ask them without putting pressure on them. Most of the time they understand, because it's kind of an unwritten rule that stuff can and often will happen once you're there. Still, keep it light-hearted and fun! I fully embrace enthusiastic consent. I often give them t…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 04:53 PM
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Yo man, a few pointers: Start befriending women. You need to be able to see them as normal persons instead of only as things you wanna have sex with. If you DO like a woman, you got about 2 weeks to initiate something, starting from the moment you two first meet. After that the suspension goes away and you start being friendly. Be honest. With yourself and with her. If you like her, just say it! Keep it light. The thing that nice guys fuck up is by making everything so heavy and loaded. Just kee…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 01:53 PM
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There's so much wrong with this guy, I don't even know what to say. From the fact that he's equating abused people getting into abusive situations because they're familiar, with loving these situations, to him admitting that he likes manipulating damaged women, to just the sheer disdain for women he expresses through his eyes. Oh, and a friendly reminder: 'REEE FEMALES'. The most incel thing must be to use the word FEMALES when describing women. It's so utterly dehumanising that I laugh men out …
/r/ExRedPill03/02/21 12:24 AM
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"You miss a 100% of the chances you don't take."
/r/ExRedPill27/01/21 08:53 AM
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You sound hurt.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/21 11:48 PM
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Honest perspective: I doubt that women speaking out will have any effect on these people, as one of their core ideas is that women say no when they mean yes and vice versa. Best strategy for women is to help each other to learn how to spot and avoid these fuckers. I also see a role for men that-are-not-redpill: they need to check those people whenever they do or say something shitty, as much as possible. For example, I'm ex trp and have a friend of mine who sometimes tells me about interactions …
/r/ExRedPill19/01/21 01:44 PM
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"You are the meme haunting your genes". /r/nocontext
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 03:29 PM
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I hate desperate women. Women hate desperate men. A duhh ;)
/r/ExRedPill26/12/20 11:58 PM
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To add on this otherwise harsh comment: I don't think any girl deserves my Dick is what makes me say that. It's a very cold and dehumanising comment.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 10:31 AM
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You don't respect women, get real with yourself bro.
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 10:25 AM
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Hey man, I've been looking trough your post history and you've been posting quit a lot in quite a short time. Just throwing it out there that you're really obsessing over TRP. What stands out is that you feel victimised. Now, that is very common with TRP - I'd even say it's a defining feature: bad looks, no means, mean women.. Everything is going against the grain for you it seems. And now that you're trying to ween yourself off TRP, you feel a victim to TRP itself. It's a completely valid feeli…
/r/ExRedPill12/12/20 07:49 AM
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Watch the first 30 seconds and I stopped because honestly I realised a while back that it's really simple. There's a difference between being a good guy and a Nice Guy™. Don't be a Nice Guy™ because then you're a fake misogynistic egocentric piece of shit. I've been there. It wasn't pretty. But by all means, be a good guy. Be true to yourself, treat yourself with respect and treat others with the same respect that you have for yourself. Don't cheat on people. Don't cheat with people. Don't play …
/r/ExRedPill29/11/20 12:00 AM
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New outlook who dis?
/r/ExRedPill24/11/20 12:45 PM
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Go to /r/breadtube for a complete 180 on your pov. Or /r/enoughpetersonspam for Jordan Peterson counterarguments. Very informative stuff on those.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/20 01:43 PM
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I don't think this is the right sub for you. Look, I love debating this topic because it gives me the chance to display my views to other people on the sub in relationship to trp values such as yourself, but I'm honestly asking myself why you're here.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 07:42 PM
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Credibility? Yea, explaining the downvotes from the extrp perspective that reigns in extrp. Why do you feel this sub is getting ingested with people that were never extrpers? Don't you belong to the group, as you've just put it?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:58 PM
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I didn't say you cared about them, I was merely pointing out the why of it. Now onto what you just commented: you now acknowledge that you're advocating for that philosophy because you "did handle it and acted accordingly". Which brings me back to my original question: why are you here on extrp?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:50 PM
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You're telling op you don't feel it's damaging even though op explicitly states that he feels mgtow has damaged him. Which is his perspective on his experience with the manosphere. So yea, it looks like a defence hence the downvotes (not mine btw, I hardly vote at all).
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:12 PM
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Even if alpha and beta exist, just thinking like that already puts you in the beta category if you catch my drift. Because in my experience, being on top of the world is a sharing energy. Thinking in alpha/beta is a divisive energy.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:03 PM
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I just looked back at all my sexual partners over the years, and my red pill period was by war my dryest period hahah
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:01 PM
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You misread me. In this context, I mean being yourself unapologetically, see the earlier comment where I said being a 100% content with yourself. Also, you can be shy or a bit needy (being a person that needs more reassurance) and own those traits. They're only problems when you yourself view them as problems. As with most things, your own judgments of your own personality traits are by far the biggest influence on your interpersonal and dating success.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 05:56 PM
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Well, you believed it right? They're just like you, only in a position of power.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 05:48 PM
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Why are you on this sub trying to convince extrps that they should in fact go back to trp?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 05:47 PM
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Yea, true, but wouldn't that masculine energy reveal itself because he's so 100% content with his being that he doesn't care what he is? It's a rhetorical question hahah, cause there's something so sexy about someone just being themselves. Men worry about masculinity but the simple fact that you have a dick and balls already makes you emanate masculine energy. My case, simply put, is: don't add layers but peel them off 😎 Good conversation by the way. I love coming to exredpill and discussing sex…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 04:58 PM
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What really helps me - I'm autistic too - is keto or carnivore (carnivore for me). I found out I can influence the extent of my symptoms by the way I'm eating. Less sugar and carbs, more healthy fats, and eliminating foods that my body can't handle: gluten, dairy, and some fruits and greens. By the way: my best friends are all male too! I fucking love strong male bonds. I've become very good at talking to women in a friendly manner too, it's just that my best friends are also long time friends. …
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:48 AM
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To be honest, I've been in your shoes. And I did like it, until it hit me that I wasn't me, and I wasn't honest with both myself and with the girls. I like honesty. Both in a serious thing as in a one-night-stand and everything in between! I came to a point in my life where I felt I hurt my self-esteem every time I tried hiding my true self. I love me, so I wanna show me. And the best thing of all? Me loving me and showing that love has made me 10 times more attractive without me even trying. I …
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:43 AM
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This might sound like a random question, but: what's your diet look like?
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 05:43 AM
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You can do that as 'play', I do as well, but your comments give the impression that you project this masculinity in order to try and create attraction; not because you are being you and having fun 'playing'.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 05:42 AM
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There's more difference in between women themselves, or in between men themselves, than between men and women! So, with that knowledge, just treat women like human beings. Just like you would men. Treat them like your friends. Except that you might be attracted to them. I'd urge you to build friendships, or at least know how to treat women like friendly acquaintances. This'll help you see their value as a person, and in healing your psyche from the trp scars.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 04:01 AM
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So you're hiding your true self and putting on a façade or persona, in other words. Genuine question: do you think this encourages a long-term relationship? *to add: I find I have more succes when I'm unapologetic about the fact that I'm a more emotional man and a skinny bitch. Girls love it. My current girl literally said to her niece: "we like soft boys"
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 03:56 AM
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'masculine approach' and 'understanding women a bit better'. Since I let go of those things I started to have much more success in the dating world. I now choose to accept that I'm an emotional man, and I choose to look at each woman as an individual person. I don't look at their gender anymore, other than that I'm attracted to women. Thing is: most people like a warm person that's in touch with their feelings, but in a calm manner. Whether you're a man or a woman. It's a really sweet spot to be…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 03:46 AM
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Hey man, your message got to me. First of all, a wise friend of mine once said "this is not the time to be hard on yourself". Yes, your life situation might not be where you want to be at, but take pride in the fact that you're at least trying. We're all just trying to make something of this life, and for some people it works out better than others. Or rather: sooner than others. You're still young, just like me (24), so you'll be allright. In my experience, it doesn't matter to girls much where…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/20 09:58 AM
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By the way, I've been doing this for a week or two. Whenever I notice a TRP thought/view/feeling, like the one you shared above, I'll take my perceived worst pain of being a man and equate that to female oppression, codependence and violence amongst others. Works really well.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/20 07:39 AM
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A few important things: 1) when you were TRP, weren't you conforming to a certain male stereotype created by sexist men? Actually, in this instance, our situations are really comparable to those of the women around us. You might not see them do it. Break down their gender and just do whatever they want. Because the same goes for us men, albeit of a different, smaller magnitude. 2) the football player comments are best to be viewed as compliments. You'll probably derive better energy from them th…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/20 07:36 AM
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I'm sorry but I'm having a hard time understanding what you're trying to get at.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/20 05:36 AM
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It's like women have no challenges, am I right? I'm being a dick, but why must you get resentful of women for them not having to deal with rejection the way men do. It's not as if they don't have their own issues with rejection. Society has told them that their looks are the only thing that matters, and that it's wrong for a woman to show feelings or approach the guy. Imagine being put into that compromising position and compare that to yours.
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 09:21 PM
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Juup. It's almost as if there's like 3.5 billion women in the world and there will always be women in there that fit your bill and you fit theirs. But not with this attitude, sorry man. Yes, you might not attract 94 out of a 100 ladies, but then again who does?
/r/ExRedPill26/06/20 09:17 PM
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This is spot on. And also a typical identifier of alt-right men: they're always right. At least that's what they try to pull off.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/20 04:23 PM
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You can't, they have do find out themselves. Would you have listened if I told you your worldview was all wrong? However bad their cult is, they receive emotional stability from it. Telling them that it's shit is equal to you kicking away the crutches of a cripple and causing him to fall down, the cripple being a metaphor to their ego. What you can do, however, is identify beliefs they're holding that overlap with our own - let's say self-improvement for example - and compliment them on their po…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/20 04:14 PM
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Just a guy having an episode guys, nothing to see here, just move along
/r/ExRedPill29/05/20 04:07 PM
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Yea definitely. There's a big difference in 'role-playing' and wanting to disgrace someone.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:40 PM
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Hmm, well I'm pretty dominant myself in the bedroom, but I think that's innate behaviour. In any case, this wasn't the aspect of porn I had in mind writing this comment. The unrealistic expectations I'm talking about are as follows: access to unlimited girls with the click of a button, no hard work in pursuing because you want that quick fix, and unrealistic scenarios that often get subtly misogynistic. Think about bdsm porn for example. A huge part of bdsm is discussing the scene beforehand and…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 05:12 AM
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Well this is only one of many points, as I've stated. We could also look at intelligence and his fetishising of iq as well as adhering to other social darwinist principles. A good summary of this was once posted to r/bestoff: https://www.reddit.com/r/youtubehaiku/comments/bno9e3/_/en8asra Also, he's been engaging with various white supremacists. I only recently found out. Another point is that he scores high on the fascism scale. For this I'd like to refer you to Umberto Eco's 'Ur-fascism' check…
/r/ExRedPill27/05/20 08:15 PM
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I'm flattered bro/girl! It's been a huge huge revelation for me this past weekend, and more so the past 6 weeks (my slow transition away from these doctrines). I'm processing a lot at this moment and am not nearly done with processing all of it - it being my old doctrine and my new-found healthier perspective. It sets into your bones after a while if you know what I mean. Nevertheless, I love it. This is easiest the biggest developmental growth I've experienced in the last 3 years. Reading and e…
/r/ExRedPill27/05/20 02:21 PM
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Sure friend! For three years long I loved the guy and would never have said this, so I get it if you don't agree with me. That being said, it's all in the underlying premises to his ideas. He's smart and a good talker, so you'll never hear him outright echo alt-right ideas, but he actually is doing so in the premises, or emotional perspectives, that he builds on. I'll give you an example: when talking about incels and monogamy, he states that monogamy is good for women because monogamy causes me…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/20 05:17 AM
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Yea I feel your situation brother. My ex gaslighted me and excused herself by telling me that 'if you were a man, you knew how to handle it'. Obviously I was rp too and gaslighted her as well. We were mutually abusive, it was great. I'm very impressed by your awareness of the situation. You may well know that that's the first step to healing. Seems in this case you've figured out that she probably wasn't the right person for you. And maybe you participated in the dynamic as well, it can often be…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 09:01 PM
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I've been hardcore red pill for a while. I'm going to ask you a weird and possible intrusive question: how honest do you think you were with her? Did you tell her whenever you felt jealous? Or whenever you felt angry? Were there things that you withheld from her out of fear for judgement? I'm asking because I did, a lot. I missed a lot of chances to connect with my exes because I held back. Held back because I thought I had to be strong. But they felt that distance, and me surpressing my emotion…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 08:32 PM
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Oh yes definitely. I been there, it's fucking lonely when you feel broken and alone. But op I'm happy you made this post so that we can help you take off some of the burden.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 08:28 PM
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Fify
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 08:27 PM
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This weekend I learnt that he misrepresents a lot of his sources, so while his theories may sound really good, apparently they weren't. I understand your viewpoint because I've been listening to him in awe for the last 3 years. Can you quote me the study on men and women being different? I'd like to read it. *the sub /r/enoughpetersonspam has a very good list of critiques, if you're interested.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 07:49 PM
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Just now reading about your gaslighting argument. It's not though, and I'm not saying to him that he's got to remove himself from the dating pool. I was merely providing a different experience toward his generalised statement. to add. Also, it's important to understand why men are asked to initiate conversation. It's cultural first of all. Women are a tad more insecure when it comes to dating. And insecure people have a harder time with rejection. I've been there and sometimes still am.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 07:44 PM
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He should be able to handle the truth from a non-rp perspective. That's the only way we're going to be able to unlearn the damaging stuff.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 07:40 PM
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Well, then find someone without those views. Also, people can change, and so can you. As for the independence of outcome, I want to be very clear on this: apathy can mirror enlightenment. So you might not have given a shit, but that could also be because you were depressed for example. Huge difference. I believe in your ability to overcome this mindset, but I do see that you're fresh out of TRP, and are still struggling a lot with your beliefs and perceptions. Am I correct in my assessment?
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 07:39 PM
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Yea man, I had this big realisation this weekend. Actually, it's been happening gradually over the last 6 weeks. Fuck TRP. Fuck pickup. For me, also fuck Jordan Peterson and the 'Intellectual Dark Web'. Those are all in the realm of alt-right. They all mix good personal development advice with devastatingly toxic masculinity advice, all the while preaching that it's healthy masculinity. It's not. None of em are. They're all so frustrated by women that they've based their whole life upon that fru…
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 07:33 PM
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My ex made the first move.. We need to stop thinking that men are different from women. Except for a small variability in personality factors, which can probably be accounted for by conditioned differences and physical strength, we're actually pretty much the same. There's more difference in between men, and in between women, than in between men and women. Just focus on building friendships first, and focus on being honest without dependency on outcome. That means that if you like the girl, you …
/r/ExRedPill25/05/20 06:13 PM
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Say what. This is bullshit. Of course it plays a factor, but it only plays a factor in that equals attract in this sense. You're primed to attract and fall for people who match your attractiveness. So what those men are basically emanating is a contempt for them not being able to attract the women they want. Which is very unattractive. Which makes them even less able to attract women. It's basically a really victimised community that feels victim to beauty standards. I can't generalise, but I kn…
/r/ExRedPill23/05/20 10:14 PM
4

Firs of all, what is PSL? Like the others said, you might be in a dark place now but you're definitely not forever damaged! Think of it like a break-up: you've just broken up with TRP. It wasn't a good relationship hence why you've been broken into a thousand pieces, but with time those pieces will be put back together. I thought the same as you, only 6 weeks ago. Now, I'm way more happy than I was back then. I'm rebuilding relationships with old friends, man and women, and I'm relearning how to…
/r/ExRedPill23/05/20 03:24 PM
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Also, Elliott himself has gotten really insecure. You can see all in the eyes, they speak like an ideolog, a cultist.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/20 09:39 AM
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Yea man, it's saddening. The thing that gets me the most, is that via Jordan Peterson I rolled into the alt-right movement. I loved Peterson. I loved TRP. I always used to defend JBP because I believed he stood up for men and traditional masculinity and what not, only to now realise that a lot of the masculinity that he and TRP talk about, is in fact toxic masculinity. Dave Chapelle really opened my eyes, man. In one of his recent shows he said something like: "it's time for women to talk, and f…
/r/ExRedPill22/05/20 09:05 AM
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It's nice to have my suspicions confirmed by you and other ex-trp'ers. It's so great to have been able to get out of that mindset and get back on track. While on TRP I could never actually talk to women because it's like why talk to people who you deem untrustworthy? Since escaping it I've been able to talk and even flirt with a lot more women in just a short while than I've been doing for a long time. It's great, women are great, life is great. TRP can suck a dick.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 05:50 PM
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You must be a troll, right?
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 04:30 PM
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Say what 😂
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 02:19 PM
2

Okay man 😂. You say you're into monkmode but at the same time you like porn and masturbation. You day you want independence of body, mind and spirit because that's a life no woman could offer, but you like porn and masturbation which are directed at women. Quite the contradictions..
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 07:28 AM
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I think it's more got to do with the fact that you need your opinion to be right, which is often the case with cults.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 07:25 AM
5

Yea and that shit is always dangerous. Projecting your views as some secret truth that your demographic is supposedly yet to understand or be awakened to. Escaping the cult of TRP has made me very interested in cult mechanics. It's so dangerous and I derived nothing from it but a false sense of pride, and arrogance.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 10:43 PM
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Old Elliott was the shit, but now he's more an alt right rp douche unfortunately. Agree fully.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 10:41 PM
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Why are you wasting energy here bro?
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 10:40 PM
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Women are great fucking friends. I'm sad I've neglected so many female relationships during my time under TRP influence.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 10:40 PM
1

I'm all for no porn and no fap as it makes me feel disgusted, by why monk mode? Enjoy life!
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 10:39 PM
1

Oh, like that. Well, spacial awareness is a different skill that exists outside of TRP tactics, but it becomes much easier when you're able to get out of your head and into the conversation. So yea.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 02:34 PM
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You're equating social awareness to 'ways to get into her pants' tho. Which isn't really aware because most people can sense it.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 02:21 PM
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TRP made me more awkward because it put a barrier in between me and women. TRP makes you focus obsessively on women all the while pretending you're not obsessed with women. The evolved nice guy, if I may.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 02:16 PM
1

Nope, just treat them like a human instead of like a puzzle to be solved.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/20 02:09 PM
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That's a very good point. I'm going to integrate this with another comment I wrote yesterday, maybe make it into a post in of its own: Speaking from experience, TRP is basically a lot of Nice Guys™ hating that they're Nice Guys™ and building their entire dating life around trying not to be Nice Guys™. When I ask you not to think of a green orange, what do you think of? TRP is the evolved Nice Guy. Nice Guys have the very specific trait that they think they have to exchange goods for sex. "I take…
/r/ExRedPill24/04/20 08:03 AM
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Speaking from experience, TRP is basically a lot of Nice Guys™ hating that they're Nice Guys™ and building their entire dating life around trying not to be Nice Guys™. When I ask you not to think of a green orange, what do you think of? TRP is the evolved Nice Guy. Nice Guys have the very specific trait that they think they have to exchange goods for sex. "I take you to dinner, now you owe me a kiss" stuff like that. It's very conditional and very unattractive. But instead of realising that this…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/20 10:12 PM
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Watched the first minute to check whether I liked it... and definitely watching later when I have the time. He's got a chill energy and makes a really really good point: TRP is the evolved version of the white Knight. The grey Knight, who despises that he's a white Knight and in the process actually builds his entire essence around him not wanting to be a white Knight. And I got all this from just the first minute? This gonna be good, thank you!
/r/ExRedPill19/04/20 06:51 PM
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I finally realised I lost all most all my women friends. They'd just become acquaintances to me and I couldn't relate or connect. Also I realised that TRP is a very angry dogma, and that I held onto a lot of anger. What finally made me realise TRP was shit, though, was (1) that it's too convenient to believe that 99% of people don't understand relationships and we were the only ones that did, and (2) TRP men are so afraid to get hurt that they only want to take, and never ever give anymore. In c…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/20 09:33 PM
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Not true though. Western countries gained the majority of their wealth well before women got voting rights. 18th century to now were golden times for the West, thanks to the industrial revolution. See it this way: our wealth created more possibilities for equality.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/20 05:08 PM
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This hit close to home man. Well worded.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/20 10:39 AM
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You have quite some anger my friend. Hope you'll figure it out.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 03:27 PM
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Maybe you should look at cheating studies to reevaluate your perception!
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 03:24 PM
1

I just realised lefties are kids who shouldn't even be allowed to vote.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 02:36 PM
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Just do carnivore
/r/askTRP29/02/20 02:35 PM
1

I know that, but let's say you run the country. You can't run a country that's always divided. A true leader must have a way of dealing with the leftists.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 02:34 PM
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Not my friends, but I like to discuss politics with people on the left who so that a lot.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 12:19 AM
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Most people stay in their lane and don't change. And certainly not as much as she'd have to. As recommended, better vetting.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 12:12 AM
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