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Which relationship patterns? What are you basing any of this on when you, a complete stranger who seems to be contributing virtually nothing to my post except preposterous and offensive assumptions about my mental state, have no idea about any of my previous relationship patterns? 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:49 PM
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Hello. I see that you’re commenting a lot on this post and saying the same shitty, and UNTRUE thing over and over again. I. Did. Not. Help. Him. Cheat. On. Her. I did not know about his double life. I had no idea a girlfriend existed. I found out, told her and he manipulated me into staying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 02:48 PM
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How did I hurt his ex? I had NO IDEA that she existed and it was HER who already knew about me but never reached out. Again: I HAD NO IDEA. She walked away after we spoke and was PLANNING on breaking up with him anyway. Is this clear now? Good. Are you incapable of reading? Also, well done on tearing ME down when you don’t know about my history or anything about my past relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 02:45 PM
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Thank you so much for this. Really. I hope you don’t mind that I’ve saved your comment in my notes app. I need to read it over and over again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:35 AM
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Thank you so very much for taking the time to comment and for offering your help, I absolutely need all the help I can get on this platform. I’m currently on an assignment overseas and not seeing my therapist ATM. I want to apologize for being so defensive, he really has eroded my self-worth and sense of self. I often question everything I do. I was, by no means, trying to tear the other girl down. I went to her looking for answers for his behavior, because he was lying to me again, promised me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:52 PM
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I’m new to FDS, and I AM A woman AND THIS HAPPENED TO ME. This is ridiculous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:35 PM
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Thank you. I’ve read your reply quite a few times. I think I just felt attacked and went into defense mode. Like I said, I feel lost and like a shell of who I used to be so I’m not doing well atm and it’s quite triggering to hear that I’m the “other woman.” As far as I was concerned, I thought I was the only woman and it hurt like hell to find out everything. You’re right, I did choose to stay with him and paid a hefty price. I’m looking into finding a better therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 05:28 PM
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It’s not as simple as that and your judgmental tone isn’t helping in any way. His girlfriend said that he admitted to her later that I was perfect for him, and she admitted that I loved him way more than she did. She had emotionally checked out of the relationship a long time ago and she knew I was helping him through stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 02:56 AM
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Hello. I’m sorry that I came off like that, I certainly have nothing against her personally but her reaction to me telling her about the abuse he put me and his ex through was very demeaning and rude. She said she didn’t care who he slept with, didn’t care what our story was, and said “fuck you” to me. That made me feel alone and crazier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 02:47 AM
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She said the distance made her be less loving. And they both admitted that he did make an effort, but that she just didn’t love him anymore and encouraged him to talk to other women on tinder. He refused to do that, citing that he could never imagine himself being with anyone else and started a relationship with me behind her back. Meanwhile, I had no idea about any of this. Yeah, it was probably the most shocking moment I’ve ever experienced so far. To me it sounds like she was too weak to give…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 12:58 AM
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Hello, I just wanted to thank you for your reply. It’s late where I am, I’m unable to focus and am once again on a downward spiral tonight, going over each and every detail of our relationship. Your reply made me tear up. I would say I’m generally a very sharp woman and I’m certainly very selective about who I let into my life (I know a few have challenged this notion but I do know my life better than anyone else, right?) But by God, I’ve never felt dumber. This whole experience has chipped away…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:55 PM
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Hi, if you read my post carefully, you’ll see that I did not know about his secret life at the start of our relationship. I came to know about it 6 months in, and by then, I was heavily trauma bonded. I understand my mistakes but this is a vital piece of information that some people have missed in my post. I did not know about his LTR until he started acting out of character. After that, I was too riddled with the guilt of his life imploding since I’d spoken to his girlfriend and we’d both excha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 10:18 PM
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I haven’t reached this stage in therapy yet. Wow, this actually makes a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 09:19 PM
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She told me. They were long distance whilst he was deployed and they kinda drifted apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 09:06 PM
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Thank you for being honest with me, I’m trying. I’m also trying to work through the part of me that still chose to accept him after he exposed himself and therapy has been very eye-opening. I think I just go through periods where I start doubting myself and the entire experience and actually start blaming myself as he did make me feel awfully guilty for not being “loving” enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:53 PM
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Aww thank you ❤️☺️ you made my evening. It’s definitely one of my fav smells too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:49 PM
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Thank you, it looks like I might need some tough love after all. I’m very new to FDS and my only interaction with you all was well over a year ago. I’m trying. ❤️🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:45 PM
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I don’t know how I’m supposed to take the words “you’re insane” as anything other than an insult. I’m in therapy for something the therapist tells me is CPTSD from narcissistic abuse. I am grateful for your advice, and it really helps me get clarity from the advice on here. But please do not, not now, nor in the future, refer to people that are obviously dealing with painful and traumatizing situations as “insane.” This isn’t a data point, it’s just triggering. Have some empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 08:18 PM
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I’m trying. It hasn’t been easy. I haven’t known pain like this before. Something about it was so insidious that I lost myself over him. It has impacted my career, my studies, my emotional and physical health. I’ve become a shell of who I used to be and I’m just afraid the pain won’t stop. It hurts to know that he’s unfazed and having fun with other girls out there while I’m still reeling from the chaos and mindfuckery of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:54 PM
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You are absolutely right. I’m learning. It is difficult and chaotic atm. Thank you, I’m trying. 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:46 PM
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Again, I did not know that he had a long term girlfriend. I only stayed with him after finding out the true thing to help him through a difficult time whilst he was deployed. They were broken up. I’m not saying it was right or wrong, but it made sense at the time and seemed like the right thing to do. I’m trying to learn from my own mistakes (like trusting him again and staying) and learning to give myself grace through this difficult time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:39 PM
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Pain. Loss of sense of self and worth. Becoming a shell of the woman I used to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:55 PM
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Thank you. I’m in therapy trying to identify the parts of me that stayed with him despite knowing his reality and the reality of what he did to me and other girls. Thank you all for taking the time to comment x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:50 PM
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What does this mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:42 PM
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Thank you ❤️🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:30 PM
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