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Oh look, an actual source that says men's mental health suffered more during the pandemic: https://www.jeffersonhealth.org/your-health/living-well/how-the-pandemic-has-taken-a-toll-on-mens-mental-health
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:26 AM
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Well that would explain everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:56 AM
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Why are you so full of spite and rage if none of this is about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:56 AM
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Prove women fared worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:54 AM
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Bruh, I wasn't alone during the pandemic. Most people weren't because they're married or partnered and/or have kids. You were still the loneliest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:53 AM
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Omg we still very much had our social circles. We did Netflix watch parties and watched movies at the same time with chat open. A bunch of us started doing table readings of Shakespeare on Zoom. We went to drive in movies. I talked to my friends MORE during the pandemic. You are soooo wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:52 AM
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^ This is why you're of low value and alone. This is why women avoid you. If you were smart, this would be a teachable moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:50 AM
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A decade of us calling out rapists has you upset? Now you feel like we've called out enough rapists, let's talk about how you can't get laid? Ooof dude you are a mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:48 AM
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I discovered my inner introvert during the pandemic. I cooked, made kombucha, used an app to identify all the edible plants on my property, read a ton of books, slept great. I haven't gone back to being an extrovert. I prefer life as a homebody now. So the opposite of what OP alleges.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:47 AM
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You just made up a whole fake reason to attack women, circa 2021. Have you been stewing in your anger for years and it just burst out? Touch grass, sir. I don't know anyone who had one of these alleged breakdowns, and as you've posted no evidence that women broke down more or even at all, I'm going to chalk this up as a chunk of festering, fermented misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:44 AM
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Is the woman who said these things to you in the room with us now? You are profile diving now and following me into other threads, so I'll have to block you now, creep. Stay lonely ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:37 AM
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Idk about most. A lot of women get widowed and just opt out. I know if I became widowed I wouldn't date again. Fuck that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:17 AM
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They're always lonely because they can't get laid. Some want a relationship, most will admit they want sex more than love.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:14 AM
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Sex is not the only way you get to experience that. You choose not to have any close family members or friends you can hug. Your last paragraph is self pitying BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:10 AM
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Oh they say a lot more than lonely. I can't even believe you'd claim that with a straight face.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:08 AM
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Then why have so many men told me they'd rather have sex than love?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:07 AM
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Never could be filled that way for you. Plenty of other people are fine without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 12:06 AM
1

Women do exactly the same thing. Why do you insist this is gendered behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:44 PM
1

It's much easier to see if someone is blonde or Asian than it is to see if someone is a narcissist or an abuser. This is undeniable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:10 PM
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This is an apples to oranges comparison. Do you not realize that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:11 PM
1

Then the exact same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:35 AM
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Your cite is "trust me, bro."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:32 AM
1

Cool, bye 👋
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:36 AM
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Ok misogynist, all women are liars. Be with men instead ig.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:31 AM
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I have to love a man trying to act like he knows how this goes. You're hopeless and I'm not wasting my time convincing you how wrong you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:52 AM
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No, it really isn't. When I was on dating apps, I swiped left on 200 to 1. Still met and married my husband. You don't have to know them not to choose them just like I don't need to get a brick to the face to know that I don't want a brick to the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:40 AM
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You're dumb af if you think most rapists go to prison. You said rapists would hesitate because of the men around. That's just not correct. Sometimes it is the men who are supposed to be protecting her that rape her. Far more rape goes unreported and unprosecuted than ends with a rapist in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:38 AM
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Is this why so many women have been raped with zero consequences to the rapist throughout recorded history to this day? ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:11 AM
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Then why have SO MANY men on these subs said time and time again that they want sex far more than they want love? I've had men tell me that a man liking women's company makes him gay, even if he doesn't have sex with other men, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:33 AM
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We've always been on our own. Why are you acting like you're imparting some lofty wisdom? We know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:30 AM
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If you're happy being single and aren't obsessed with having a relationship, then only liking 1 in 200 makes sense. It would take an extraordinary person to make someone who enjoys solitude or singlehood give it up. Stop pathologizing people who don't center their lives around their romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:25 PM
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Men will brag about how little they care about a woman's education or income level. Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:20 PM
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I can see several of these that will 100% devolve into pitching about women. If I go onto those threads, I could easily report back with my findings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:03 PM
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I could, but I'm not doing all that copying and pasting on mobile to please you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:46 PM
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And none of those is a complaint, blaming men for all the ills of the world, making men responsible for their happiness. Do you like to cuddle isn't centered on men. Opinions of mothers in law isn't centered around men. Men in the women's room with a daughter isn't about men or dating. The only one gender war-ish one is about men lying, but that's one out of how many? And also a valid topic since half the threads on the Ask Men subs are about how women can't be trusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:41 PM
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I just looked at Ask Women and men are pretty decentered. Same with Ask Women Over 30. So no, u don't think it happens as much in the Ask Women subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:01 PM
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AskMen type forums are full of questions about what women think and why we do things, directed at men. The answers are always wrong and full of misogyny, but God forbid a woman drops in to mention anything about it. Downvoted and yelled at.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:43 PM
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You're red pilled. Don't you know about your own generalizations?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:41 PM
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What makes you think strangers are courteous? I've been catcalled by strangers, groped, had comments made about my body, etc. Bet those didn't happen to you just going about your daily life. Your lack of perspective and empathy is the issue here, not these fictitious strangers who are supposedly nicer to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:29 AM
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Easier than making and maintaining friendships too. We're supposed to "lift men up" to where our EI is? How? Give them friendship lessons? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:22 AM
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Such a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:08 AM
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We work to maintain close friendships and family relationships. You don't? That's your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:07 AM
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Strangers? Lol nope. Family? No more than the male family members. Everyone? Lololol you don't know anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:06 AM
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I put in thr effort to make and maintain my friendships. These are decades old relationships. They weren't just granted to me because I'm a woman. You too could expend that effort. Why don't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:43 AM
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As a woman, who exactly is taking my feelings into account? My family and friends, sometimes. Outside of that? Zero. The same amount as you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:59 AM
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According to you, women are drastically decreasing our options, yet men are the ones who are soooo lonely. Please reconcile these facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 11:22 PM
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Hypergamous is incel speak for "I can't meet her standards and I'm mad." The average man can get dates. Over 80% of people marry at least once.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 10:55 PM
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Lol whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:02 PM
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Sure, kid 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 08:40 PM
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I juuuuuust explained it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 08:05 PM
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No it isn't, stop pretending you know jackshit about feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 08:05 PM
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When something is easy to get and of low value, then it isn't very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 07:43 PM
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Yes, both of your responses are NPC regurgitated manosphere talking points.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 07:40 PM
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No one worth talking to says #killallmen. Those are sick people and I should not have to answer for them unless you agree to answer for Elliot Rodgers. It's not all men but always a man, though. That is a pretty accurate take on the situation. I've never been groped, catcalled, threatened, stalked, or physically attacked, or SAed by another woman. ACAB isn't gendered, even though you want it to be. Though have you looked at spousal abuse rates among cops? Chilling. No, I'm not in the minority. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:06 PM
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Because they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:36 PM
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Feminism isn't a monolith, nor are feminists. Read that sentence over as many times as you need to until it sinks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:56 PM
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Not enough to make the OP's claim correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:48 PM
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Your link was broken. You don't know Jack shit about feminism, so telling me you don't know of any doesn't surprise me. 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:34 PM
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It say you have to be the earner, the one who pays, stoic and unable to show feelings, unable to form close relationships, can't he victims of SA, hard as nails 24/7, not cuddled or gushed over or beloved. Women aren't doing that to you. The patriarchy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:12 PM
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These aren't the same women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:57 PM
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As an actual feminist, no it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:15 PM
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I'd admire him and that's it. There's only one man for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:11 PM
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I simply don't believe you. There's no way you say such hateful things about women and have a ton of women friends. I notice you didn't mention your mother, any relative at all, or a partner. That's because you're alone and now you're lying on Reddit for cred. This is so cringe, please be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:54 PM
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Except I'm not a misandrist. The many beloved men in my life, including my husband, father, son, brother, and best friend would all laugh in your face. I'm also not lonely and don't have any problems getting along with men IRL. You otoh are a lonely, lost misogynist. Your tu quoque attempt was an utter failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:45 PM
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And you hate it when they do, so ironically and hypocritically do the same. Lol what a brilliant strategy. Misogynists like you never attribute your loneliness to misogyny, which is hilarious to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:38 PM
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In the US, my husband and I manage dates under $50 all the time. Just don't get alcoholic beverages and don't order the surf and turf.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:37 PM
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Here's that misogyny again. This is why you're lonely, sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:36 PM
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Nope it's 100% misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:35 PM
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When you hate women this much, don't be surprised when they avoid tf out of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:33 PM
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Guess what bro? A woman that makes you take 10 steps to your 1 isn't worth it. Walk away. You're victimizing yourself here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:31 PM
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The patriarchy hurts men too. How can you not realize this? Women aren't the ones who are crying about loneliness. We're not the ones acting entitled to your body or time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:27 PM
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Yeah we are. Most women have a network of friends and relatives for support. That combats loneliness. You don't want to combat your loneliness, you just want to fuck. Hire an escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:25 PM
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If you put your hopes and dreams into the hands of a woman you've never met, then you have poor boundaries and poor judgment. Also, when you harbor such blatant misogyny, don't expect women to go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:18 PM
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$50 on dinner is more than enough for a casual date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:15 PM
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No, we don't think that or like anyone to think that. Your algorithm makes you think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:10 PM
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You should stop complaining because it's not actually achieving anything besides increasing antipathy between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:08 PM
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Just once, I'd love for a day to go by without some guy blaming everything that's wrong with the world on women. It'll never happen though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:06 PM
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Sucks to suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:07 PM
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I wouldn't do it. It's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:55 PM
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I simply do not believe that you are chronically associating with teenagers socially and don't think that's weird, and are surprised that others think it's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:09 PM
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As a 40 year old, I wouldn't be doing hobbies with teenagers I'm not related to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:33 AM
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Until one fine day when you lose your footing... and he smiles as you fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:46 AM
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Are you always this obnoxious? Because I'm about to call BS on your whole story.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:44 AM
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Hanging around with teenagers outside of your own family or work is weird af and makes you sound extremely creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:44 AM
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Or they can't get it because he's in the wind. There are myriad reasons. Men shouldn't have unprotected sex with women who they don't want to be the mother of their child. If they weren't doing so, this would be a rare issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:37 AM
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So first world problems. Meantime, men kill women far more often than vice versa. I feel like we're getting a worse deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:30 PM
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Lol no they aren't. You are his target audience. You believe whatever he tells you. He is unattractive. He looks like Gollum. Women who hang around him are getting paid or being trafficked. Men like him, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:29 PM
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What form does this radicalization take? We're sure not going around murdering you constantly. So what is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:03 PM
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Omg yes that's probably his issue. What a hysterical reaction they had. Pure comedy gold. This guy openly talks about degrading women, but someone mocks his peen once after he instigated with her: ZOMG evil feminist brainwashed whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:02 PM
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All the wonderful men in my life would laugh in your face at such a suggestion. But write fanfic about me if it helps you cope a little better than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:58 PM
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I have been working with kids for 25 years. None of them say this shit. My son says he only hears it on the internet. It's your algorithm feeding you your Two Minutes Hate. I think you are hilariously high on your own supply. That's all I have to say about ... all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:55 PM
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Oh of course they can be male or female. It's majority female though, we both know this. Don't be disingenuous, it's such a tired tactic. The women who don't get custody are usually such a disastrous mess, no wonder they can't pay support. They need to be away from their kid until they straighten up. Meantime, I know men with normal jobs and lives that just don't pay for or even acknowledge their kids. It's wild how easily some guys detach when they're done with the mother. And these women don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:52 PM
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OK, but the fact remains that 25% of men pay NOTHING. Here's some reading for you to help you be more informed of the real state of things: https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2018/cb18-tps03.html
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:36 PM
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Yeah most feminists don't think that either, and if you claim otherwise, please know you are dead fucking wrong. Your own social media algorithms may have convinced you otherwise, but I challenge you to find one respected, prominent feminist writing today who says that men are the source of all evil. Meantime, you got your Andrew Tate saying that women should be chattel. So spare me talk of brainwashing. Look at your own flair FFS. That screams BRAINWASHED to me. Touch grass, sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:35 PM
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No, hon, that's not it. We are just better emotionally and psychologically adjusted than the average man. We are conditioned to be people pleasers and make men happy. We seek help from professionals and friends when we need it. And we are less prone to violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:31 PM
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No, misogyny is openly espoused by our government officials. It's institutionalized in many places, especially the medical community. Our society is so saturated in misogyny that YOU don't even notice, or if you do, you agree with it. So please, let's not play this game.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:30 PM
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Not only that, but the OP was acting like AOC and Greta are preaching hate for men. No, they bloody well aren't. I can't name any prominent, respected feminist voice that says stuff like "kill all men" or whatever the OP is on about. I don't have to look very far on the internet to see men who in all sincerity think women should be chattel again. Or into our current government.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:28 PM
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Oh like are you out there soundly condemning Andrew Tate? And Donald Trump? No, I bet you aren't. We're talking about men who openly state they SA women. Crickets from men except for those who cheer and vote for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:27 PM
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25% of women get zero child support. So this is all a bunch of bunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:24 PM
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And it's exhausting as women to once again be blamed for everything. OP thinks AOC and Greta are worse than Tate and those clowns. Wild stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:23 PM
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Exactly. Men are radicalized by the content THEY CHOOSE TO CONSUME. Greta Thunberg and AOC are not saying horrible things about men. But Tate and his ilk literally enslave women. This is such a false equivalence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:21 PM
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Why aren't women radicalized by the rampant, horrifying misogyny that is literally everywhere? Riddle me that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:19 PM
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Never heard of that one. Well, at least you know which ones to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:14 PM
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OK, you're gonna insist you're right no matter what I say, so ciao.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:11 PM
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Weak, inhibited, and unassertive. I said they are aggressive, overly assertive, and grandiose. That's the opposite of what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:55 PM
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No, you can say things just to hurt people that aren't true or that you don't actually believe. Surely you know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:54 PM
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> But calling a woman a fat cow isn’t socially acceptable today. Do you live under a rock? It happens on a very regular basis and is said whether the woman is actually fat or not. Men on the internet will even say, "You sound fat." So please, stop pretending it's taboo. Men even write stuff like that in their online dating bios. > But referring to small dick energy can be found in many Instagram captions and tinder bios As can fat shaming, boob shaming, body shape shaming, all manner of vagina s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:28 PM
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> Women say men have small dicks as an insult. Therefore women believe men having small dicks is a bad, horrible thing. It's as simple as that. No, literally women just say it because it upsets you. It's not actually about dicks at all. It's about name calling to hurt people's feelings. We know you're all hyper sensitive about it, so that's the go-to insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:21 PM
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False, men who are overly assertive, aggressive, oversensitive, insecure, and grandiose about it have SDE. When you act like a little bitch, that's SDE. Has absolutely nothing to do with the actual size of your penis, which presumably no one knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:19 PM
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Because men body shame women constantly for all kinds of reasons and have been for millennia, so women do it back. Don't dish it if you can't take it. BTW, they don't actually know your dicks size. They just know that it upsets you, just like you know saying a woman is a fat cow upsets her. If everyone was just civil and decent, none of this would ever happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:17 PM
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How many do you know? I've had so many women friends in my 50+ years of life and never heard of such a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:16 PM
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They definitely exist though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:58 AM
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> Still minor compared to actual birth. You are scared of abortion but you are brave enough for childbirth? Hey, since you appear to be intellectually impaired, I'll try to make it simple for you: not wanting an abortion doesn't mean you're scared. It means that you don't want to kill your offspring. DUH. You really need this told to you? Some women don't want to abort. That's a completely valid choice. You hating children is not relevant. > So I guess you are anti abortion fanatic. Because IF w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:29 PM
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> You are. If I got pregnant I would just get abortion ASAP. So? Any woman who doesn't want an abortion is irresponsible? That's a ludicrous and vile POV. > The irresponsible thing is to do is bring unwanted child into the world and condemn another human being to 18 years financial slavery. If she is having the baby, then GUESS WHAT? She wants it! Maybe I should draw you some pictures so you understand, since words are not working. Supporting your own offspring isn't slavery. > You had a choice …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:25 PM
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> You can't compare minor medical procedure with 18 years financial slavery. It's not minor. Many women carry emotional scars from abortion. If you consider taking accountability for your own offspring to be slavery, please get your womb removed before you accidentally conceive of someone who is going to make you a slave. What a disgusting attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:20 PM
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Thanks for once again proving that you are allergic to responsibility for your own reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:19 PM
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Minimum height: Over 5'0, which is my height Minimum fintness level: Should have a visible waist. Minimum income: I don't care as long as he can meet his own needs. Maximum amount of unappealing male hobbies: I don't know what these are. Gaming? My husband games. It's not an issue. Minimum requirements for a date (plan, price, frequency): Quality time spent together. I need to feel like he enjoys hanging out with me. Minimum entertainment value ( how funny/ exciting/ boring can he be): I care ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:18 PM
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Not having an abortion and choosing to raise the baby you chose to conceive IS TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:14 PM
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> I did answer your question; you just seem unwilling to acknowledge nuance. Not everything is as black and white as you’re making it out to be. If you speak to me and of me hatefully, and treat me hatefully, does it matter if you internally define it as resentment or hurt? How the target of your feelings receives it might not match your true feelings, but you can control your actions and how you express yourself. If people receive it as hate, then likely you should modify how you communicate if…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:20 PM
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> I don’t think most of these guys outright "despise" women, even if some of their language or attitudes come off that way. When it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. Don't say hateful, misogynist things, then at the same time wonder why women don't like you. > A lot of the resentment comes from pain, rejection, and feeling invisible or unwanted, not hatred You're splitting hairs. If you say hateful things, then you are performing hatred. > I don’t think that scratches the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:10 PM
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> Regarding the last part, even if you hypothetically had a guy who resents women because he’s not getting any attention, I don’t think the issue would be solved just by hiring an escort. If it's about relieving your bodily needs, then yes, an escort solves it. You could see one regularly by spending your money on that instead of paying for fruitless dinner dates. > When I mentioned biological urges, I wasn’t only talking about sex; although that’s obviously a significant part of it. Bonding and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:00 PM
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Men whose wives earn more are more likely to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:27 PM
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> Even if women are getting higher level's of education and, in some cases earning more than their partners, that is really only happening among college-educated women who are a small slice of the population. In 2021, of adults age 25 and older who had completed a bachelor's degree or more, 53.1% were women and 46.9% were men, so no, it's not a small slice. Women now account for more than half (50.7%) of the college-educated labor force. Women with at least a bachelor's degree (2022): 39% Men wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:25 PM
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> Why does it blow your mind that young dudes, specifically, are so eager to get into relationships? That wasn't the question. The question was, if you dislike and resent women so much, why do you want a relationship with one? And that's a valid question. If the answer is, muh biological urges, then hire an escort. Don't get involved with a woman if you're going to despise her as a person but just want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:21 PM
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> Sorry I don't find the bossy office lady look attractive. I can see why you do though. Because it's manly and you are gay. So you want to be gender bendery, but if women do it it's yucky. Hypocritical much?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:14 PM
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Emergency contraception is not being on birth control. You're wrong. He knew she was not on birth control. Ex post facto contraception requires that he trusts her. Why would you ejaculate into someone you don't know well enough to trust? Yes, his bad choice was trusting her. He could choose better women to ejaculate into in the future, ones who are actually using birth control. He knew the condom was off and he CONSENTED to ejaculate into her. I'd say the same thing to a woman who allowed a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:36 PM
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Plan B isn't "taking birth control." It's also not foolproof. He chose to ejaculate, knowing she wasn't on birth control. He's an adult and knew what could happen and that he has no say past the end of his dick. He made a bad choice. Doesn't make him a victim expect of his own poor judgment. Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:54 AM
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He agreed to ejaculate inside her. He consented. Why can't men ever take accountability for their reproduction? He isn't a victim. Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:45 AM
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He is not a victim, are you kidding me? Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:16 AM
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She didn't stealth. He knew the condom was off and went for it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:00 AM
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If you can't control your ejaculations, wear a condom and don't let anyone convince you to take it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:57 AM
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What in the NPC is this fanfic? You're a few sandwiches short of a picnic, aren't you, son. Run along now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:48 AM
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Lol I'm not a single mom, but you're used to being wrong about everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:44 AM
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Only a discount quality man would say this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 11:48 PM
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What does sufficient mean in this context? You've gone off the rails, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:31 PM
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You responded to my comment about women with a comment about women, right? I don't think an age gap of 10+ years is appropriate when the younger person is below 25, which I've already clearly stated, but go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:15 PM
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If a woman did this, the shrieking about what a 304 she is would be deafening.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:09 PM
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You speak from an utter lack of experience. You'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:27 PM
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You're going to have to get over this fairy tale view of relationships. Thought is free: anyone can think about whatever they want at any time. Your partner is going to think about other men. You will think about other women. Doesn't make you unfaithful or mean you're doing anything wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:12 PM
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Everyone in a LTR sometimes fantasizes about someone else. You must not be very experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:10 PM
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I generally don't trouble myself with other people's business, so if everyone seems happy and well-adjusted, it's not my business unless the age gap is really egregious and she is too young.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:57 PM
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> way better in social situations Why would a 23 year old woman be better in social situations than a 35 year old man? Literally zero reason why that would be the case. > way more dating experience and ability to manipulate A 23 year old girl has more sexual experience than a 35 year old man? Hahaha you are sadly misinformed. > women out-earn men up to 30-35 years old. Cite your evidence please.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:27 PM
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Not at all, which is why so few women date drastically younger men. It's a much bigger scandal when a woman does it. When men do it, no one cares or lots of men defend him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:06 PM
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Do you condemn men who do the same thing with this kind of fervor?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:00 PM
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> i think the real aversion to age gaps comes from people considering attractive young women to be too valuable for "old men". Nope, it has nothing to do with these illusory and subjective assessments of "value." We identify with these younger women and really want them to be in loving, appropriate relationships, not just as trophies and objects to shore up an old man's ego. She's a person. We would like to see her treated as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:30 PM
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I think she read and understood, but disagrees. I really despise this assumption that if someone disagrees, the only reason for it is that they don't understand. It's not that deep. We understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:27 PM
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> Yet, even though young women have more power than men of the same age and even up to a few years older What kind of power does a 22 year old woman have? Do tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:23 PM
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Cher's boyfriend is 38. If he was 23, I'd have a problem with it, but a 38 year old is a fully grown adult capable of making sound choices. Madonna's BF is 28, which I find much more sus.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:22 PM
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Who is praising Madonna these days? She's gone off the rails.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:21 PM
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Yeah, because Clooney got married and has stayed married for 10 years. DiCaprio dumps these women in their late 20s and finds another, younger woman, which has been his pattern for a long time. They're not comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:20 PM
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I'm a woman and I think large age gap (10+ years) relationships when one of the parties is under 25. So the entire premise of your OP is wrong because no, that's not the only time women have with age gap relationships, and it's far and away not the primary reason to have an issue. Looks don't even enter into the question for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:19 PM
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> meaning the decision making process post-conception is wholly within the woman’s control. Because the fetus is growing in her body. Should women be mad that men are larger, stronger, and faster? Should we make that inequity equal? No? Then we shouldn't change the decision-making process on a fetus. Nature puts a clear advantage on one gender. Doesn't absolve the other gender of responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:10 PM
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> The party whom has unilaterally decided to shoulder that burden. Both of you consented to sex and you consented to UNPROTECTED sex, but still think you have no responsibility for the results? Yikes. Allergic to accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:08 PM
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Not lying to get laid doesn't make you a paragon kd virtue. It's a basic threshold for decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:10 PM
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Women socialize men to lie? Men have no agency, they're just weak willed victims of women's social engineering. That's what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:01 PM
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Another misogynist rant. Men like you are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:38 PM
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No, it's not equivalent at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:21 PM
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If you lie and tell someone you want a relationship with them, but you're just trying to get laid, that's outright intent to deceive. Makeup isn't even comparable. If she's wearing so much makeup that you feel you don't know what she looks like, don't date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:07 PM
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Not sure what this has to do with the bizarre equation of make up = lying to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:55 PM
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What a misogynist bit of sociopathy this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:25 PM
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No, you repeat that you don't like it. If they go away, great. If not, then you're violating consent and deserve what you get. Lots of people ITT are talking about cold approaches. Pretty much, unless there's some clear reason to besides getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:08 PM
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Oh, we are. They aren't even on that page with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:28 PM
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No, you should be specific. The US hasn't ever had a woman president. We're far from a gynocracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:51 PM
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Tons of men claim they are forced to be fathers when the women they impregnate refuse to abort.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:50 PM
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When I was younger, I did approach men. Their reactions made me realize it's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:04 PM
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Gaslighting from hypocrites is just par for the course here, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:38 PM
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Interesting theory. I am going to ruminate on it for a minute.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:10 PM
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He was celibate his whole life either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:01 PM
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> Women initiate over 70 percent of all divorces, so it's fair to say that fathers aren't abandoning their children. How does getting divorced end your relationship to your child? Answer: it does not. You have legal rights as a father. > Women have an incentive to leave and they take it. Leaving the marriage =/= leaving your children. > . They think the grass is greener and find out that it's worse. And yeah life is better with chemically induced happiness! Better than being a miserable, hateful…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 05:57 PM
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> If a man does have those strengths, then he should be able to attract women naturally. It's a well-known fact that sometimes, women value different things than men do. You could be great at trivia, at woodworking, at gardening. You can value and be proud of those things. Will they make a ton of women break down your door? No. But they're still great things that you should feel good about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:08 PM
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Isaac Newton too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:08 PM
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> What is there about a sexually unsuccessful man that he can respect about himself compared to the men who are attractive and socially confident enough to attract women? The OP says you should DECENTER romantic/sexual relationships. Do you know what that means? It means valuing yourself for the many strengths you have. There are many areas of life where a person can achieve and feel good about themselves outside of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:07 PM
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Sounds amazing. Spread the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:03 PM
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> If they were happier, they wouldn't be using them in the first place. You literally admit that the single life doesn't produce happier outcomes for women. When they get help, the are able to achieve happiness. No one is happy in this post-capitalist meat grinder of a world, but acknowledging that you want to be happier and taking steps to make it happen = being happier. So yes, women are happier because they are willing to do the work to make it so. Men could do this work too, but for a millio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:59 PM
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> You think a matriarchy is better. Show me where I said that or admit you're lying. > God doesn't support women having authority over society otherwise it would be in the scripture. My God completely disagrees with you, so I'm going to listen to mine and disregard yours as a tool of oppression. >How is saying the patriarchy is protecting you sucking it off? Because it's hurting you just as much as it hurts me. Y'all get mad and want to say that the burdens and expectations of society are too mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:50 PM
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Yeah, thanks for proving my point. When women are unhappy, they get help to feel better. As a result, women are happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:47 PM
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What does God have to do with this? Stop sucking off the patriarchy dude. All the things you hate and complain about are products of the patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:12 PM
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It's isn't, but sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:57 PM
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Look at the President of the United States. An adjudicated rapist with over two dozen credible accusations of SA, who bragged about grabbing women's genitals against their will, who cheated on all three wives, including with a prostitute while his third wife was pregnant and post partum. People worship this lifelong sexual predator and cheer him rolling back women's medical privacy rights. That's just one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:56 PM
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Male domination is provided to me by the patriarchy, correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:48 PM
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> Also there is no "blatant" misogyny nowadays Based on this whopping huge lie, you are not fit to have a serious discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:30 PM
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> Yes, we know because men don't have any opportunities to meet women outside Weak af learned helplessness woe is me wannabe victim BS. You are just lazy and afraid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:56 PM
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Dating apps only tell a partial story. It's an artificial environment and men CHOOSE to go on them KNOWING they outnumber women 2:1. Don't want to compete in that market? Go outdoors and meet people IRL. FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:45 PM
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Then MEN should solve their problems. Making 50% of the population change to suit you is downright tyrannical, but you don't care because women aren't really people to you. We are sexual/emotional vending machines who exist to please you. Our pleasure and our desire don't matter and have never mattered to you. See? It's really you who needs to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:39 PM
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Any man a woman finds attractive is a Chad then. Sorry you can't measure up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:37 PM
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You have agency. It just ends earlier because you don't have to gestate and give birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:15 PM
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The bar is not on the moon just because you lack success. Society isn't going to pressures women to change so that you can get laid. I don't think you realize how self centered you sound.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:12 PM
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Your opinion of our standards doesn't matter to us. You can't make it matter either. The standards are not that high. This is a you problem, not a problem of women as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:10 PM
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Abortion is a consequence. I can't believe I have to say this. I know many women who've had abortions and none of them were unscathed by it. Only a man can truly walk away scot free, and many of you do. Giving up a child happens after a 9 month gestation and childbirth. Once again, that is a significant consequence that changes her body for the rest of her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:08 PM
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Prove it's money they want and not stability, a career, and a man who wants to start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:05 PM
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So you have no proof, just your feelings. As I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:56 AM
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Who? Is Jermey in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:56 AM
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Women can never get out of a pregnancy with no consequences. Period. You're delusional if you think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:56 AM
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Women don't want Chads. Chads are a figment of your imagination. A better looking, smelling, and acting man than you isn't a Chad. I hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:19 AM
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Show me evidence of a stat that says that women are gold diggers and only want older men for their money. I'll wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:15 AM
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Someone who acts like a real partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:15 AM
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Then you are choosing misery. Why do you expect us to feel bad for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:08 AM
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Doesn't seem fair that you expect women to do something you'd never do. Women are human beings just like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:08 AM
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Society is going to do what to women who don't want to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:07 AM
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No, there does not need to be a societal discussion of women's standards. You'd hate it if the genders were reversed and women demanded a social referendum on male dating behavior. Don't be a hypocrite. Women's standards are what they are. We don't have to lower them so we can hold our noses and date men we're not interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:06 AM
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Nope, not at all. Just because no one wants you doesn't mean that women only want cHaD.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:02 AM
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Men prefer monogamy? Is that why men cheat at higher rates as they get older, while women cheat less?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:01 AM
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MGTOW is such a misnomer. If men really went their own way, why are they constantly spewing hate about women. Leave women behind if you're going your own way. Don't pop up to talk shit every chance you get.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:59 AM
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This is all a fiction you concocted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:56 AM
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Really? Lots of women have Chads? Are the Chads in the room with us right now? Show me on the doll where Chad hurt you. Many men don't know how to give a woman an orgasm, so why you'd make up a story that we're all fucking this figment of your imagination, I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:56 AM
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We aren't as lonely as you are because we actually know how to have and keep friends. This upsets you, so you make shit up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:54 AM
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Please explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:53 AM
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Your misogyny is far more juvenile than his insults.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:52 AM
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Free from male domination
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:51 AM
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Because it isn't. Single women are happier than married women and single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:50 AM
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Sure, all women are gold diggers so just throw money at us ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:49 AM
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Tell your fellow men to stop complaining about their loneliness non stop at full volume. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:48 AM
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Yeah because it's so hard when your child's father abandons you. However, I bet she's still happier than she would have been with that deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:46 AM
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Whatever works. At least we're not miserable and seething with hatred and violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:42 AM
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Look around you at the blatant misogyny everywhere. Women were blamed for the original sin, and for millennia, women were considered a source of corruption. History is my cite, and if you deny it, you're definitely fat and cross-eyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:38 AM
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You don' have to be a parent, but you do have to financially support your offspring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:33 AM
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What is my assertion exactly? Please be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:07 PM
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Fucking ridiculous assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:38 PM
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> Lastly, our society trains men to trust women and think of them as innocent. You have got to be kidding me. This is a message full of baseless assertions, but this one takes the cake.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:14 PM
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> What makes this obvious to you? I've done it. I know many others who have done it. Casual sex is very much a real phenomenon. This isn't a hidden secret or some very rare occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:03 PM
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But we're not, and the fact that you said this says a lot more about you and your toxic mindset than anything about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:53 PM
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Was this supposed to be a reply to me? Because it's a lot of words to say absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:15 PM
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This is just cope and smoke to deflect from the fact that you are choosing your feelings over facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:10 PM
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Yes, men willingly and knowingly ejaculate into women, thereby impregnating them. Did you fail health class or did health class fail you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:52 PM
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> You don’t choose where you ejaculate. Omg, yes you do. This is the learned helplessness I was talking about. Take responsibility for your own reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:46 PM
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I just showed you a peer reviewed study, but you refuse to believe it because it it doesn't jibe with your feelings and your agenda. Gotcha. Well, there's no point in discussing this if you discard inconvenient facts. Later.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:43 PM
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He does. You choose where you ejaculate. How hard is it to not nut in a woman you don't want a baby with? You act like it's impossible but it really isn't. What if she has religious or ethical beliefs that won't allow an abortion? Maybe don't nut in women who don't believe in abortion? You have so many choices but you act like you have none. Learned helplessness, many men suffer from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:03 PM
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More men are 304s than women, but sure. You want equality 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:48 AM
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False equivalence. She has to gestate and give birth. She should have the final say about what happens inside her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:48 AM
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Thank god the law disagrees with your desire to be a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:04 AM
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It's neither overblown nor unproven. You just don't want to hear it. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10148620/#:~:text=Women%20perform%20the%20majority%20of,and%20family%2Drelated%20management%20tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:56 AM
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You become a slave? How? Men walk away from their children and never look back all the time. Why don't men take control over and accountability for where you ejaculate?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:55 AM
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What if she doesn't want an abortion? Fuck her and the baby then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:53 AM
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Men have a choice where to ejaculate. That's your choice, the one that biology gave you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:50 AM
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People can have sex without bonding. This is obvious to me, not sure why it's even debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:38 AM
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We're not prideful. We're afraid. You idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:16 AM
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You just regurgitated a bunch of manosphere toxic bullshit and are acting like you said something. 🤣 Most American women have a body count of 5 or less. This mythological woman with all the failed relationships that you're so mad at? Is she in the room with us right now? Is she the one who has this mentality? Are you ok? You don't seem ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:46 AM
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We PREFER that you don't cold approach us randomly. Do you need me to draw you a picture? Men make what easier? Lolol you're all just horny, aka easy. Doesn't make you morally superior. You can also walk away from a pregnancy and a child. Wr can't. So we get to vet men however we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:32 AM
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No, it doesn't. You're trying to guilt trip people for having preferences. You have them too, but those are OK, right. You protect yourself from all men because you don't know which ones are dangerous. I'm sorry women have not been open to your advances, but that sounds like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:58 AM
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Clearly understanding things is hard for you. Poor dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:53 AM
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You don't get to tell other people what is and what isn't fulfilling for them. The audacity. This isn't about you. It's about what makes their lives happier and better. Your opinion is based on nothing valid here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:51 AM
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Nothing short term about finding your true love and staying together until death. Nice strawman, stop writing both sides of the argument. You don't speak for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:42 PM
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How is that hedonism? Finding a true companion is one of the most genuinely joyous experiences in life. Sorry you've never experienced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:14 PM
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I completely disagree. It absolutely feels like something.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:14 PM
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To good times spent together, a warm bed, a live in best friend, an automatic date for national holidays.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:07 PM
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A life? Yes, people without children have valid, interesting lives. What kind of thing is this to say? You utterly lack perspective and imagination if this is what you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:06 PM
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When I used to go out, I never ever went alone. I usually met at least one other person. A woman doesn't have to be alone in the bar for you to connect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:49 PM
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Oh I will definitely downvote your whataboutism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:42 PM
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Not trying to be your next incubator. IDGAF if that means you don't get laid or are unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:12 PM
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"Feminist social conditioning." Telling men not to harass and push their attentions on random women is now feminist social conditioning. WOW this sub is a real goldmine of bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:11 PM
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> But then again women do suck at dating. Oh? Then why are women dating more and men are dating less? Is it because women suck at dating or... is it the people with the loneliness epidemic who suck at dating? Think hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:11 PM
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> You'd be bouncing like a puppy if that happened I love this sub for the many occasions where men tell women how they would react or what they would say, despite the woman being a stranger and literally saying the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:09 PM
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> All this does is punishes shy men. It's not all about you, dude. Women who avoid making advances are not trying to punish anyone. We are trying to protect ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:08 PM
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Lots of women who want to take the initiative have learned the hard way that being assertive about your interest leads to men thinking you're easy and DTF immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:03 PM
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The Monopoly Man has nothing to do with people remembering who they had sex with. You'll just say anything rather than admit that most women do not have high bod counts and tons of partners. You read that on the internet and now you completely, uncritically believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:33 PM
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Why would they lie on an anonymous survey? Way to admit that you lie, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:01 PM
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I disagree. I think you're seeing it through your lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:48 PM
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> How you see it doesn't always aline with the emotional reality behind it. That is true, sometimes people catch feelings when they're not trying to, or feel nothing when they really hope to feel something. Feelings are unpredictable. > It isn't as important for everybody but it's still something To a lot of people, yes, but to some people, it's just a biological need like eating. > We tend to filter our emotions through our beliefs, so it can be hard to see the impact sex has when we believe it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:05 PM
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I feel like sex is what you make of it, within reason. Some people see it as a mechanical act and view sex as basically jerking off into/onto someone else. Some see it as an expression and intimacy and love. And everything in between is represented. I'll do you one better: some people have sex with certain people just for fun, while with others, it's very intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:38 PM
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> And then there's the fact that, nowadays, women are all chasing the top 5% of men. No the fuck we aren't. All of this woe is me hyperbole and misinformation about women is exhausting to read and it's just cope. No one wants to self-reflect on why no one wants a relationship with them. It's much easier just to repeat manosphere lies than think about yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:03 PM
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> You'll change your tune when you find out your wife is fucking other guys she's attracted to Your misogyny is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:13 PM
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> You realize that women aren't picking those guys right? That's a complete lie and cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:13 PM
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10480972/#:\~:text=The%20mean%20and%20median%20number,tall%20(12.3%3B%207). "he mean and median number of sex partners for men of different heights were: very short (9.4; 5), short (11.0; 7), average (11.7; 7), tall (12.0; 7), very tall (12.1; 7), and extremely tall (12.3; 7). Men who were “overweight” reported a higher mean and median number of sex partners than men with other body masses. The results for men suggested limited variation in reported sex p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:11 PM
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That's the thing: ugly, short, fat, whatever men aren't automatically better or nicer or smarter or good partners. Having a harder life doesn't ennoble people, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:07 PM
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How tf would you know why women don't date certain men? Do lots of women tell you why they aren't dating those men? Men who hate women are unpleasant towards women. We don't want men who are unpleasant. Prove your shit about bullies getting laid more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:53 AM
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Bad personality =/= morally bad either
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:49 AM
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Men who hate women often don't think they're not showing it, but they are. This is why women won't date them. You think we can't tell when you hate us? It shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:41 AM
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Sure they do. We constantly hear how we're stupid and have bad judgment, so we should "choose better."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:39 AM
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I'd heard of hermeneutic labor before, but I'm reading about it and you're totally right. My mother in law told me it was my job to make my husband's doctor appointments, remember birthdays and anniversaries, and do the Xmas card because her son wouldn't. I was like... um... he is a grown up man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:59 AM
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This is what always gets me. Why are they mad at us that they don't have a support system? Making and maintaining friends requires effort and caring. We're not going to do it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:40 PM
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Most people don't base their life choices on their long term genetic legacy. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:12 PM
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> Me saying that women will go for serial killers and Chris Browns doesn't mean "abusive men are awash in pussy" thats ANOTHER strawmanwoman. No, it isn't. The origin of this whole conversation is me saying women want confidence and a whole bunch of disingenuous men saying that means she wants bad boys because confidence = bad. And when I say men lie and deceive women, hiding their true natures, you say no, all these women are stupid and deliberately choose to be abused. Just say you hate women …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 07:02 PM
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Why do men marry bad partners? Pure victims, every one of them, but women choose bad, they're stupid sluts and it's all their fault. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:15 PM
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You sound like you have serious emotional and personality issues that you need to work out instead of dumping all your toxic misogynist rants on me. You don't know me or what I do. You're not utterly powerless, you just want to be a victim and take zero accountability for your failures. Women have absolute power? You say that with a straight face like it's true, wild wild wild how delulu you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:14 PM
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No one said they were, but those men tend not to have lasting relationships because they're out and proud abusers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:10 PM
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> Why not? This isn't something that only happens because the person is famous. Chris Brown is famous so he will always be able to get laid. You assume abusive men are awash in pussy, but there's no evidence for that. The average woman has 5 or fewer partners. > Oh so NOW Amber is a shitty person. Go say that in twox or fauxmoi and let me know how quick you get banned I'm already banned from twox, so blow that one out your pucker. > Who said "ONLY WOMEN" get out of here with your straw man. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:58 PM
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They're the same strategies bad women use to hide their true selves. Plenty of men on this sub will tell you that all or most women are bad, so ask them. Or do you think ONLY WOMEN make bad choices and men are infallible and flawless in their judgment? LOLOL
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:55 PM
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It's a famous person, therefore it's not a relevant comparison. Amber Heard got knocked up after all this Johnny Depp stuff. Someone fucked and impregnated her. But ONLY WOMEN fall for bad people. LOL misogynists are funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:37 PM
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> If such men continue to have options, then it's not being avoided. If you don't understand somehow that people LIE and manipulate to get into relationship, then you will forever be perplexed at how shitty people get into relationships. Have you only ever been with perfect women in your life? > This assumes that men mistakenly believe confidence = bad boy, and not narcissistic ego driven selfish behaviors = bad boy Yes, you are literally doing that right now. > houldn't women know what a bad bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:36 PM
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This is still an anecdote. An incel fairy tale.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:27 PM
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More "trust me bro" and anecdotes. Yawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:27 PM
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Are you against no fault divorce? If not, you're a rarity around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:26 PM
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> Yeah, like Chris Brown, a confident man with his shit together. He beat the stuffing out of Rihanna in 2009. Plenty of confident men with their shit together who have never beaten up anyone. You can't bear to think so because then, you might have to consider that you're responsible for your own lack of confidence. > Let me guess, none of those women had any idea about his past, right? Straw man. Chris Brown is famous and there will always be women DTF famous men. Stop making these ridiculous c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:25 PM
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All the angry men who think women need to "take accountability" also want to end no fault divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:06 PM
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> stop using mainsplaning as scapegoat- that is true for some things, but not this. its obvious and self evident. But it's not. Do you say the same for men who are misled and abused by women? Or are only women supposed to know better? Trust me bro will never fly as evidence. Sorry you are related to dumb women I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 04:05 PM
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No, you can't. You have no idea what you're talking about unless you've been deceived by an addict, a narcissist, or a borderline. Then you'd be telling us how she deceived you, manipulated you, was sneaky, and undermined you. But women are 100% responsible and the man who preyed on her and lied bears no responsibility. Very typical misogynist behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:52 PM
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Alpha bad boys only exist in the minds of incels. Using that language is laughable. Yeah, ya know, the divorce rate is so high now because people (women) are choosing to leave these bad partners. And yall want to end no fault divorce. You're hilarious, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:49 PM
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> The point is, if women aren't going to avoid dating "bad boys," then pointing out that it's just the confidence they're attracted to and not other negatively triats is pointless to say, since they're still dating guys with the negative traits anyway. How do you know they aren't avoiding it? You want it to be so, therefore you claim it's so. Confidence is a neutral trait. Having confidence doesn't mean you're "bad." Just because you lack confidence doesn't mean every man with confidence is a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:47 PM
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You guys love "Trust me bro" as a cite.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:23 PM
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> oh my fanfic is based on countless similar conversations I've had - and thanks for proving my point. "Trust me bro" isn't evidence. Neither are hyperbolic anecdotes. > and I also disagree that abusers "hide" intentions - to most men from the outside there are clear signs, that women mention themselves but choose to ignore because "ohhhh he's so hot/charming". just like men think with their dicks sometimes , women think with their clits. But like, how the fuck would you know? Are you a woman wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:23 PM
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I'm glad you guys are now openly writing fanfic scripts of what women say. Put those strawmen right out there. You don't even need to converse with any women, just write up your own dialogue, pretend a woman said it, and voila! You win every argument. I'm onto you, though. Nice try.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:53 PM
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> That's like saying, "I don't like oranges, I like the citrus flavor." Well, oranges have citrus and you're not avoiding eating them, so did the distinction really matter in the end? No, it isn't. How does being confident = being bad to you? Can't you see what a dishonest false equivalence that is? Are you just so jealous of confident men that you need to label them negatively as a cope? Sounds like it. > Ah yes, the tried and true "all women are niave and innocent, while all douchebags are mas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:51 PM
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Responsible for what? Being taken in by a master manipulator? Where is the man's responsibility for being a lying, predatory jerk, which is a much worse offense? Zero, because you're only interested in blaming women. Men don't have to be accountable for their behavior or reproduction. That's women's work, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:48 PM
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You used an extreme outlier to make a point about how the average grown woman behaves. Doesn't seem like a sound straegy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:30 PM
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Why use such an extreme example then?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:25 PM
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They think they do, but they don't. Online, they never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:17 PM
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> Alpha Bad Boy archetype OMG why are people still saying this with a straight face? No, women don't like alpha bad boys. They like confident men with their shit together. > So, if a women hooks up with a guy who treats her like shit, gaslights and belittles her, before eventually dumping her for a better option, the overwhelming odds are that she could have dated countless other guys who would have treated her the exact opposite, but in her eyes, they were lame and boring, so she chose the hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:16 PM
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That's a 16 year old girl. You realize that her frontal lobe is far from mature. The saying goes, "When you're wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags." This isn't even a gendered thing. Men get taken in by horrible women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:06 PM
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Because incels don't care to hide their hatred. Men who enjoy abusing women often have many strategies for hiding their true intentions. They also pick vulnerable women who will be receptive to their manipulations. Your false equivalence is unfair and inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:58 PM
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Yes, I've always needed some connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:31 AM
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Well that's not why for me at all. I'm just as sexual as any man claims to be. I just think it's a good idea to vet someone before you let them into the holiest of holies. Just my personal way of decreasing the likelihood of sleeping with an AH.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 06:42 PM
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Many of them are... very far from the top 10%. I don't necessarily even know what top 10% is supposed to be based on just a profile on a dating app. People lie, distort, etc on those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 06:41 PM
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I never did that when I was dating. Third day is the earliest I'd consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 05:22 PM
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By not responding, you screw up the match. If a guy didn't message or respond in 3 days, I'd unmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:47 AM
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It's so funny to me that men simultaneously use a shotgun strategy to get matches, then fail to parlay it into anything via lack of effort. So counterproductive. At least women attempt to talk with the men they carefully select.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:20 AM
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You are agreeing with me. Women communicate more than men with matches. Men are the ones who stop messaging. Did you even read your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:02 AM
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Wtf do statistics have to do with who participates in text conversations on apps that lead to at least one date? You don't have stats that men try harder. It's a joke among women that we're so sick of "wyd" as a man's sole opening gambit. Show me stats that prove otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:29 AM
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I agree. I think they want to drive women off this sub. I upvote the sensible posts, especially the ones that are unfairly downvoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 12:36 AM
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You're telling me the apps were feeding me the top 10 or 20%. Nope, that has not been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:59 PM
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He puts in zero effort and you don't get off. This is widely acknowledged. He does something gross because he doesn't know you or care. I've had a couple of men literally whip it out unprompted on a first date. Consent matters. You just fluid bonded yourself to a stranger. Unsanitary, unsafe, unwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:40 PM
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Everyone knows why they do it, are you kidding me? 🤣☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:09 PM
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Attractive men do approach. Men of all different ages, appearances, and statuses do. I've had 80 year old men seriously hit on me when I was 30, as well as 25 year old men when I was 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:28 PM
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No one has to approach men. Men will approach whenever the feeling strikes, even when it's wildly inappropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:23 PM
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We can't win for losing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:16 PM
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I disagree that men pay the bigger price. A lot of men on those apps are looking to pump and dump. You wouldn't believe the lengths they go to and the lies they tell. When women do engage with these men, weeding out the misogynists and fuckbois is the next and most arduous step. Some of these men atr very skilled at masking their true intentions. A little perspective goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:12 PM
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I disagree with your premise that women who approach are not desirable, but thanks for reinforcing the reasons why women don't approach. They're seen as desperate and DTF. Who needs that bs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:10 PM
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I don't see how an app can foster anything but an atmosphere that causes matches. It's not the app's responsibility to create and nurture your connections. It's up to you and her. Once again, I think you're asking too much of a piece of software.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:06 PM
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Men do the same thing. They say women are all gold diggers, can't be faithful, etc. I had a man in this sub tell me that women under 40 are incapable of experiencing love. Well, if you have managed to reach 40 and no woman has ever lover you, it's a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:03 PM
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Women don't hesitate to show interest due to plausible deniability. They hesitate because it's not always safe to approach men, esp cold approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:56 PM
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Women swiping on the handsomest men with the best profiles isn't problematic behavior. It's completely normal when you're barraged by thousands of choices. Similarly, there are a lot of men who swipe right on everyone without reading the profiles. All of these are valid enough strategies, given the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:49 PM
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Prove that women don't hold up the conversation when the ice has been broken. I don't believe it. Women tend to be better communicators than men, broadly speaking. The app is designed to make matches. What you do with those matches is up to you. No, they're not designed to foster your LTR. How can an app do that anyway? You're asking for things outside the purview of these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:39 PM
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I agree with your premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:37 PM
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Men make it unfair by joining in droves while women do not. That's men's choices, don't blame women or society. If men aren't getting dates that lead to relationships, then women aren't either. I don't buy the claim that the top 20% of men each have 4 girlfriends either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:36 PM
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When did you become the spokesman for all men? Show me evidence of apps promoting certain men. Of course people who pay are getting more promotion. That's not the same as what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:35 PM
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This just does not match my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:07 PM
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Yet a majority of couples are meeting on dating apps, so roughly an equivalent number of men and women are successful. This counteracts your belief that all men lose on dating apps. It's how I met my husband, in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:05 PM
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I'm married, so I'm past the luck stage. Dating is horrible, so I do wish you the best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:03 PM
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No, you BELIEVE that men carry the conversation. That doesn't mean it's a fact. I find men mostly less than articulate and poor at responding within a reasonable time. How is the app designed to prevent conversation? You can easily move the convo off the app and most people do after not very long.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:00 PM
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I already quoted you as saying that their emotions carry no weight and shouldn't be taken seriously. I was very clear about your "golden retriever" comment being dehumanizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:56 PM
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The problems with fucking on the first date for women are so numerous that I can't believe you're questioning it in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:52 PM
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They can't imagine that their behavior makes them undatable, but freely judge women and label us undatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:51 PM
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Everything is women's fault, including some men being undatable. Didn't you know that we are obligated to alleviate their loneliness, regardless of our personal standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:50 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:58 PM
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Men have been evil and horrid to women for millennia. It's been institutionalized into law. This isn't my opinion, it's historical fact that is easily proven. Patriarchal systems exist in which we all participate, including men who love their daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:56 PM
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Can you describe the mechanism by which they "engineer scarcity" for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:50 PM
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A class action suit is what I'd recommend, but extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:48 PM
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Pay for a dating app with better ratios then. The free ones will aways be like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:43 PM
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So don't use them. Problem solved. Now you have to go outdoors to meet women. Good luck 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:42 PM
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You are wrong, men are not "expected to carry the conversation after that." An icebreaker gets thr conversation started. After that, both of you get to proceed. In my experience, men were not great conversationalists.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:41 PM
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You are putting words in my mouth that I neither said nor intended to say. Stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:37 PM
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Oh yes men did oppress women for millennia. It was only during my lifetime that women could get a line of credit at any bank without a male co-signer, lest you think I'm talking about ancient history. You don't know what I've experienced or am experiencing. The way you handwave away women's reproductive lives being decided by others is very telling. I bet you think you're oppressed 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:21 PM
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No, it does no "should" except when you put that word in my mouth. I aaks you're afraid it will happen to you. Thanks for acknowledging that women got treated like shit since forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:00 PM
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According to feminists? Which ones? Please provide some examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:15 AM
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So you admit that you're afraid that men will be treated the way they treated women for millennia.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:13 AM
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Yes wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:12 AM
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Do men have empathy for women in those situations? Sounds like you don't and wouldn't. Do you have empathy for fat or tall women? Women who were raped or SAed? Men gatekeep women out of jobs far more often than vice versa. If you can't meet anyone's standards, what do you want women to do? Lower theirs so you can get laid, while you swear you need no improvement and are perfect? Women suffer loneliness and depression just as much as men do, and attempt suicide just as often, but you don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:12 AM
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He's mad that you might hold different values, that's all. He thinks this is really an us v them informal war.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:07 AM
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Prove that women who make false rape accusations are feminists. You guys think feminism means "anything a woman does that I don't like."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:04 AM
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r/FeminismIsntAMonolith
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 09:02 AM
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I know you don't view me as a human being. Thanks for admitting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:57 PM
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I have no motivation or desire to interact with someone who is uninterested in what I have to say but will barrage me with insanely long lists of questions. Try addressing me like a human being instead of some NPC opponent. The only thing I'm evading is your aggressive personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:51 PM
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Blah blah blah. Why not just talk to yourself about it? You spent hours coming up with your own dialogue tree so that you can speak for me/put words in my mouth/strawman me. Of course you're not interested in an actual conversation with a woman. Quelle surprise!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:42 PM
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I didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:44 PM
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Most people aren't soulless regardless of gender. You just admitted to being soulless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:44 PM
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Hahaha nope, that isn't what I said at all. Nice straw man. I see you enjoy building them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:33 PM
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Men date women who don't respect them all the time. In other news, water is wet. Your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:32 PM
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For you, because you're a soulless misogynist I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:31 PM
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It's crazy that you admit that your sole reason for associating with women is to fuck them, with zero interest in other considerations, including her ethics, values, and hypocrisy. When she turns out to be a horrible misandrist, don't complain because you don't care, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 08:51 PM
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I'm not sure what you're asking me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 04:28 PM
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What if she gives zero fucks about attracting men? Can she define her own prime then, or is a woman's sole point of value male desire? A truly demented view imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:02 PM
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No, it's true that assets obtained before the marriage are not shared.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 02:58 PM
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They can't touch assets you had prior to marriage, just what you accumulated during the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:08 AM
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Hahaha at least you're a good sport about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:31 AM
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Duh, they go to therapy to become better adjusted, and it definitely has worked for me on several occasions, dealing with major loss. Most people aren't super happy or well adjusted, and all the people I like best have gone. I find your views without merit. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:28 AM
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I completely disagree. All of these phenomena occur. Gaslighting, narcissism, projection, they're all real. Hardly anyone knows what they really mean. They're just saying it to be mean. That doesn't mean that everyone who uses those words is using them wrong. And some people are victims. Actually, a large number of people are. Processing it with a therapist is the best thing to do about it. It seems like you just want people to be miserable and never get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:18 AM
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I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of people deciding that other people are less human than them. No, you can't discount their feelings because you don't respect their outlook on life. You don't have to be intelligent for your feelings to have weight. This is some high toned elitist snobbery that crosses the line into ethically appalling
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:13 AM
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You will tie yourself up in pretzels to deflect from considering that you're a narcissist. This is wild stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:07 AM
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So no, you have no evidence. Therapy words are all over the internet. People use projection, gaslighting, narcissist, etc as if they know what they mean but they don't because they saw someone say it on Reddit or TikTok. You have zero proof to support your claim. You are getting called a narcissist by everyone you date? You may want to consider the possibility that you are a narcissist. This elaborate rationale you're constructing so you can dismiss their claims is very, very telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:04 AM
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Nope, I'm sure Hugh would pick an era when his dick worked as his prime. Nice try through.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:53 PM
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Thank you! I said exactly this in my convo with him that spawned this thread and he was SO MAD.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:53 PM
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He's upset because I told him that middle age is my prime because I have a stable, well-funded life, still look good, am having a great time. He insisted that I was wrong, that he knew better what my prime was than I did. It was pretty hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:50 PM
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So this lengthy OP was you lashing out because women have gone to therapy, then decided to dump you for being a narcissist. You can't imagine that all of them are noticing the same things about you, so they must all be wrong and you're completely awesome. Lol smh the delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:30 PM
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How can you possibly claim that you, a man, know what women talk about in therapy? What is the source for this information? "Trust me bro" is not a valid source. This OP is full of shaming language for people trying to get help. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:25 PM
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> I just said how women invent feminist "patriarchy" bullshit narratives in order to dismiss Virtue and thus undermine men's good character. The patriarchy is real. You clearly have no understanding of what is meant by "patriarchy" if you think it's about women undermining men. > Then here you go unironically doing exactly the same thing, providing an almost hilarious example of it - if it weren't so predictable. A statement such as "Women under 40 cannot experience love" is false and misogynist…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 02:04 PM
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You lack the standing to say so. You should ask yourself why you soooo badly need me to know and feel that I'm not in the prime of my life, based on your incredibly jaundiced view of the world. I pity you and hope you find healing. PS: Imagine if I tried to tell some man he's not in his prime because I say so. The male shrieking would be deafening and I'd be accuse of misandry. The hypocrisy is rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:15 AM
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Nothing about what you suggest is empirical. It's al based on the distorted lens through with you view the world. To say the way you think isn't about your little feelings shows us how badly you lack perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:14 AM
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Choosing someone as a life partner and mother to your children based on aesthetics is a profoundly stupid marriage strategy. I hope you see that. Yes, there needs to be attraction, but women don't say that men over 30 are used up, of less value, etc. Men say that about women. This thread is my cite.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:47 PM
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Your response is such a bitter, angry mess that it doesn't even pay for me to reply at any greater length than this 🖕
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 10:33 AM
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Nope, my god, that is NOT what she's saying. I am really starting to notice that dudes on this sub love to straw man and read from scripts that are not applicable. She is criticizing the way people quibble over the meaning of "personality." She means it in the colloquial (and much more commonly used) sense of how you interact with people. This has nothing to do with anything you're putting on it. Men are not getting rejected for being too bookish. They're being rejected for being rude, aggressiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:34 PM
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Nope, dating app stats are not remotely indicative of how women in general operate. The app is majority male, so women are in an environment of artificial scarcity. I completely disagree that most women aren't sexually attracted to the men they get involved with. This all feels totally made up to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:50 PM
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Conveniently this theory requires mind reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:23 PM
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I'm so sorry that reality contradicts your narrative. There is plenty of erotica about hot men who work menial jobs. Lady Chatterly's Lover immediately comes to mind, but you are selectively blind to the many, many cultural instances of women going for the lumberjack, construction worker, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:55 PM
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> Where did I say 666? Stop projecting. Define "projection" as a psychological term, then demonstrate how I'm doing that. > Men will fall for the cute fast food girl at the cash register. Women will literally do the same with the cute boy at the cash register. > Girls can do it too but her friends will make fun of her for liking someone who earns minimum wage before people make fun of a guy. No, they won't. Cite: am a woman, have lots of women friends of all ages, including in their 20s and 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:38 PM
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I'm sorry that you associate with shallow f-girls. They don't represent the whole of womanhood and are not a valid basis for making generalities about all women. > because they are addicted to the “attention economy” so if that same exact guy didn’t have a profile she could show off to her other friends then she wouldn’t be interested in him. Lol, like men don't do exactly this. > Women are still choosing to hookup often knowing they won’t have an orgasm. The point is that most women simply don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:31 PM
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Women literally do not only date and marry 20% of men. That's one of those wild incel faux statistics that get bandied about by people who don't quite understand where those numbers come from. You know that many women don't want to hook up with randos. It's rarely satisfying sexually or emotionally. She's blue pilled, so clearly she believes in love. No idea why you're feeling this level of spite towards her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:28 PM
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But she probably isn't. You just want her to be out of spite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:17 PM
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> I’ll admit that men are bad at sex, but not so bad at sex to explain why women regularly hookup with men who don’t give them orgasms. Because frankly, hooking up rarely leads to orgasms. Many women require some labor to be expended to get an O. Hookups rarely give enough of a damn to put in the work. > Women are often more concerned about the social optics and the social capital they can acquire by having relations with men who are enviable by other women whereas women are embarrassed to be as…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:16 PM
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I have never thought of men as being on tiers. I judge each man on his individual personality. I highly recommend trying to see the opposite sex as each a unique human being and not a number on a ratings scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:14 PM
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Thank you, that's what I've been trying to say throughout this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:07 PM
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> Your values come from a dying extremist culture. Differential fertility is already making sure this happens. Wow, you really think this. Wild. Extremist how? Women in America are having fewer children. Your wishes and dreams about women in their place are those of a dying demographic. > Biology doesn't care about your extremist ideology. We have a well-developed cerebrum so that we aren't ruled by biology. Of course you know this, but deny it for the sake of "winning" on Reddit and crapping on…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:59 PM
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Exactly. This generational exceptionalism is based on people's recency bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:06 PM
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> Aesthetics are important when it comes to anything that we like, including other people. Once again moving the goalposts. We're not talking solely about aesthetics. You can't just admit that you value youth over any of the many things a woman has to offer. > You need to discontinue the personal attacks. I'm seeing a shallow behavior described and I'm calling it what it is. Valuing a woman solely for her youth is shallow, just like valuing a man just for his wallet or his height is shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:15 PM
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> It absolutely does make those years the ones with most potential. No amount of Reddit copium or ideology can change that. Ah, now you're moving the goalposts because you got called out. It's suddenly not "value" anymore, it's "potential." Guess what, Ace? You also had more potential in your 20s by that definition, yet you place your highest value on your 30s, when you're already pretty used up physically and past your prime on the youth front. > Sure, one can make one's 40s and 50s be great, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:10 PM
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> The OkCupid found that men of any age find women to their most attractive in their early 20s. So this isn't about value. It's about fuckability, plain and simple. THANK YOU for admitting that you objectify women and assign "value" to them solely based on superficial characteristics and immutable factors like age. > older women should be valued by their mature age and greater financial capabilities. Please realize that these values you are asserting are your own opinions, not based on any actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:08 PM
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> Schools are rewarding girls for sitting still and doing busywork. Because that's what's needed to succeed at a university, and it's also what a lot of professional jobs require. > Fact: Average male SAT score is higher than average female SAT score. By 20 points. Women are closing the gap and already score higher on average on the verbal portion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:05 PM
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> Men’s groups and spaces are often shut down but modern western Feminism isn’t fulfilling the gap that a lack of Men’s and Equal rights groups want to focus on to help the issues that you mention. They're only shut down if they are toxic misogyny factories. Many mens only clubs and activities exist and have for years. Start your own male only spaces. Feminism and feminists are not required to arrange your social life for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:03 PM
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They seem not to understand that in a marriage, you are one financial entity. You're simply splitting your joint assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:01 PM
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Hot take: your generation has far more public and far-reaching ways to express your frustrations than older generations did. I'm a Gen Xer. There was no real way of finding out who was complaining about what nationwide or globally like there is today. This is like saying there are more autistic people now when actually, we just recognize and talk about autism more now, and doctors can diagnose it better. Dating has always sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:59 PM
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Your premise is flawed, trust me. You are defining value how you want, expressing your bias and your personal parameters. Your opinion of my value is not my value, it's just your ignorant, biased opinion. You have absolutely no standing to tell me what my value is. > therefore it doesn't provide as much benefit as you believe it does. So having a career, money, a home, and a stable life and mind doesn't have value because I'm old. And men wonder why women don't want to engage with them LOLOLOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:57 PM
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They can't. Just like the other guy can't admit that he solely values women for their youth, and the only reason he stays with his used up wife is because he's terrified of being single. Then they have the nerve to say that women are shallow and only date men for surface reasons. It's hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:55 PM
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> You can use her past that date. You are not getting the best of her though. Says you, from your deep rooted misogyny. > Her prime is when she can provide more benefit. Youth. Less baggage. This is subjective and you're framing it how YOU want it because you are too afraid to say what you mean, that you value youth, period. I can provide way more benefit now that I have a 25 year career, money banked, a home, and a stable life. Had none of that in my 20s, but you'd still value me more because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:54 PM
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I can provide a lot more benefit to others now, in my 50s, than I could in my 20s. I have way more money, job stability, home ownership, a well-evolved set of morals and many attainable goals for my future. Had none of that in my 20s. The only thing I had was youth. Your premise is flawed on its face.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:51 PM
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It's nonsense. It's some transactional barter culture lingo to describe real, intimate human relationships. When people try so hard to quantify it as "value," you immediately know that they are not interested in other people for who they are, just their monetized value in this illusory sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:49 PM
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> A long time ago a person's "prime" just meant the best years of their life So my 50s are turning out to be one of the best decades of my life. Am I still past my prime? If so, why? Are you just talking about youth? Being young does NOT make those the best years of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:44 PM
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You can't explain it because it's bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:43 PM
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> gets a woman after her prime is over So past her "use by" date? What makes her prime over to you? Her fertility level? Your biased personal lens? Just curious. > she is demanding marriage as a condition for the relationship to exist. You know you can... just break up with her if she "demands" marriage and you don't it. You're not a victim who is forced at gunpoint to propose to your "used up" girlfriend. I find this whole transactional way of thinking abhorrent and a huge reason why men are lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:42 PM
1

Women still have to have better social skills whether they initiate or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:33 PM
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> just that personality is barely relevant in the initial stages of dating What a wildly false statement. It matters A LOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:20 PM
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> Outright rejecting analytical, systematic discussion is what I objected to. Not at all what she was saying. Like at all. She's stating that you're quibbling about semantics around the word personality, and you totally are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:16 PM
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Bad social skills = being rude and toxic Can we not point out rude or toxic behavior if someone who acts that way is autistic? Just suck it up and date them anyway even if you aren't into them for the sake of equity? LOL/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:13 PM
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Oh, so you admit men shame women for their body shapes, and you're mad that they get called on it. Thanks for showing up to prove her point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:11 PM
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Horseshit. This sentiment is expressed often, IRL and on social media. Fat people are one of the last demographics that are openly shamed and shit on remorselessly. You can't just make these wild, unsupported claims without being called on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:11 PM
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Targets? Not wanting to date someone is not targeting them. Men say all the time they won't date a woman with kids, a fat woman, an ugly woman, etc. Women express a preference and they're evil for not just hooking up with men who want to get with them. Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:08 PM
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An example is better than "trust me bro."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:57 PM
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Ah, so your source is "trust me bro," and you downvoted me for merely asking for evidence of your confidently asserted bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:56 PM
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You contradict yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:35 AM
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You're completely wrong and this is just out and proud misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:35 AM
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Oh, you think academicizing is synonymous with systemic analysis. It is not. You didn't understand what she was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:29 AM
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Please give some specific examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:05 AM
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This is such a wildly stereotypical overgeneralization. It wasn't true when I was a kid, and it's not true now either. Some girls are rough and tumble. Some boys prefer music and reading. There's way more variance than you're portraying. I've been a teacher for almost 30 years, so I've seen a several generations first hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:50 PM
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How tf do you know that? Are you saying her notable ability to think clearly and articulate her thoughts makes her neurotypical? It doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:47 PM
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Everyone has a hard time of it. Look at literally every thread in this sub and tell me who's on easy street. I know you meant to be condescending, but it's really a self own. Why are you complaining so hard if it's been so easy for you? 🤥 Oh, you're talking about my weight. Lol. You completely missed the point of my comment. I didn't sign up for your TED Talk on fitness, bro. Having more options doest matter if 99% of the options are shit. And they are. Finding a decent person on there is like p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:35 PM
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If the only thing you need to do to get with a woman is have a good personality, the bar is in hell. You could be toothless, jobless, clueless, but if you're a sweetheart with a good sense of humor and you aren't unhygienic, someone will date you. That's how hard it is to find people with good personalities. The dating market is a parade of cluster b personality disorders. Being a good dude is worth it's weight in gold. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:29 PM
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This is the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:22 PM
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There's no contradiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:21 PM
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Lol you decided this based on what? Most of my men friends who are autistic are married to women. Not all autistic men come off creepy either. Everyone is fucking creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:51 PM
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Yes, the patriarchy hurts men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:48 PM
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No, getting laid is much easier. Being in relationships with straight men is hard. Yall have so much negative conditioning from society. I have a son and I do feel for you. But being in relationships with you guys is hard. I'm a Gen Xer and I only ever dated Gen Xers. Your generation might be different. I don't think so though. I think both have it hard in different ways. It's not a contest. I would never say or imply that men have it easier. I think men have an easier time walking away from the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:29 PM
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Men murder each other and women. The top cause of death for pregnant women in the US is intimate partner murder. Top. Cause. But sure, we live life on easy mode. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 09:27 PM
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Then I can 110% say that women do not have it easier in dating than men. Sorry. It really isn't that easy or everyone would do kt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:52 PM
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Well the murder stats don't lie. Women do not have it easier. They have it different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:49 PM
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Do you date women? Because your chances of being raped or SAd by a woman on the first date are drastically lower than vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:39 PM
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Do you worry about being raped or assaulted every time you go out with someone new?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:29 PM
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"Do far worse than a woman who has none of these things." Do far worse how? Is the only thing you value the ability to get laid, regardless of who with? "Just by getting in shape." If it was that easy, everyone would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:29 PM
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People who frequent bars and nightclubs have no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 09:50 AM
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I mean, if you're worried about a woman being financially rewarded for dumping you, date a woman with a great job. Easy peasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:25 AM
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But this is where you are wrong. If you are willing to sleep with anyone, you will get laid. There are people who are just looking to hook up. I know lots of men who monkey branch because they can't stand being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:02 AM
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Lol and you think having a support group is monkey branching and you're mad that women have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 12:02 AM
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Yet it's always men who run out and fuck someone immediately after a break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 12:00 AM
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Women experience love and are just as loyal as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:56 PM
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Have you ever considered dating women who make more money than you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 11:51 PM
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