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Women love makeup tips and fashion advice. Put on your best drag queen dress and do a series on eyeshadow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 10:23 PM
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Can't tell if this was supposed to be funny because it makes fun of women? Or is it funny because author's idea of feminism is so absurd it's amusing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 10:21 PM
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I think this mindset sets one up for staying in a unsuitable or unhealthy relationship. Over time you start to realize he may not be the right person for you. But you second guess it because you were so sure for the last few years he was your soulmate. Was your judgement of last 2 years so wrong... or is your judgement now wrong? Then the woman waits for him to change or mature or whatever, so sure her "soulmate" will treat her better if she could just communicate her wants somehow better. The r…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/20 11:40 PM
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Men, level down: be a LVM! For example, a LVM thinks some women aren't worthy of men's respect simply because she don't look like the meth-skinny pickmeisha white girls in his porn. How dare black women expect to date anyone? How dare any women try to develop self respect? LVMs unite and keep those uppity women down! LVM meeting tonight: 6pm @ OPs room in his mom's basement. We will be screening the latest incel dating how-to videos and OPs mom will be microwaving enough Hot Pockets for everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:04 PM
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"Alpha" sounds like a man who is afraid of emotional intimacy & commitment. Because he uses women as moist holes, never really getting to know the real person, he doesn't care about his cumdumpsters - individually or as a whole gender. To have more power in getting and using women, he promotes social shaming to keep them in line. Slut shaming to make women feel horrible for having the freedom or experiences he has. He also shames women who don't put out outside a relationship (prudes, uptight), …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 01:02 PM
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Only if we can allow in just as many HVM: high value men. Rare in America, these men would prefer real women to porn, know that Axe isnt a substitute for showering, and wouldn't hate a girlfriend who earns more than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 10:28 PM
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Guy: drives a Honda, prefers Burger King over McDonalds, puts his socks both on first before shoes, flosses his teeth, always buys one brand of shampoo, never owned a CD player, and after pooping he stands up to wipe. Girl: roughly same age, has owned 4 cars none of them blue, once visited Canada, loves apples hates pears, once had a dog name Scooby, and after poops she wipes sitting down Are these two compatible? My point: information provided isn't what determines if people are compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 04:53 PM
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Run from this dumpster fire! He needs a therapist, not a girlfriend. Who thinks like this? Maybe the brain is crazy five days after a big breakup, but five YEARS. He must go through life exhausted with all that emotional baggage, resentment, and bitterness. How is he even happy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:54 PM
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Make yourself so strong, self confident, and aware that you feel nothing when he tries his manipulative tricks. He can't upset you if he is irrelevant and his comments are just noise to be ignored. He really is pathetic. He has no real power besides trying to get you fired, and your company HR and/or your state laws may offer some protection. You could ask on /r/legaladvice for a sense what your rights are I don't know what your working situation is like. I personally wouldn't want to stir up co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 06:46 PM
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"You're responsible for my feelings. If I feel insecure when you dont text right away, it's your fault! And I'm mad at you. -pout- "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:41 PM
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I'd consider the individual saying it. Do this person mean they don't like makeup that isn't natural look? Or just not into makeup?(some aren't) Or is this part of some lame negging-type ploy to undermine a woman who wears flashy makeup? I do not wear makeup. I never did. I've had men tell me they "prefer natural look", and I do believe they were being sincere. I lucked out with naturally pretty good skin and very unusual eye color, so maybe I just won the genetics lottery? I also look a good 10…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:23 PM
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How old is he? If he is 18, then maybe some of what he does makes a little sense. If he's 28 or 38, red flag! If you want a guy who can commit, keep looking elsewhere. And with his hesitancy to get too involved, I wonder if he's the type to dump women rather than dealing with increasing emotional intimacy? Sounds like he's already hinting towards it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 01:15 AM
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I had no idea I was supposed to be assessing a man's wrist size or finger width. I don't notice. What I probably would notice is a man who is obsessively self concious about his body, and that can be a turn off. I want a man who is comfortable in his own skin
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 03:24 AM
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When the Europeans arrived in north America, the Europeans did exactly the same thing. Any time native Americans did something the Europeans couldn't understand, it was used to support the theory that native Americans are less evolved, brains are different, the natives "couldn't help their urges", and the white man was destined to rule. Some Europeans went so far as to imply native Americans were a little less human --.savages?-- and that God chose white people to have dominion over the world. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 12:49 AM
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You present this as if it's a GOOD thing for anyone that Bob was dating women in their early 20s when he was 30. Men who do this are not studs. They're not following some natural genetic drive for the most fertile mates. They're either so low-value or so creepy a woman his age won't touch him. A 30 yr old who chases 18-24 yr olds is predatory. He likes them because they're easy to manipulate. They're probably in awe of him having a place of his own and a steady paycheck. The really clueless girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 12:07 AM
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dick pics. Unless I specifically ask to see your junk (not likely), that crap is offensive. blaming me for his behavior or his feelings. Double turnoff if his negative feelings are based on wrong assumptions about me, my motives, etc men who expect sex the first time we meet. Men who make explicit sexual comments when we barely know each other. Yeah I get it, you're a horn-dog. I enjoy sex, too, but I need to know you see me as more than a moist hole. any man who defends sexual assault, has zero…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 08:40 PM
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Suggestion to add: I'm getting good stuff from Dr Jack Ito's books. I started with "What to Do When He Won't Change: Saving Your Marriage When He is Angry, Selfish, Unhappy, or Avoids You" in my efforts to save my failing marriage. I now realize I shouldve kicked his ass out awhile ago, but needed to try all avenues because we have a young child together. This book is good because it explains boundaries well. It was a word we all use, but for most of my life I didnt actually know how to confiden…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:15 PM
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Interesting that she chose a man just like her father to be her partner & baby daddy. And now she is upset that her attempts to change him arent going well. Or am I being too harsh on her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:55 PM
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I'm guessing you realized it was never a competition between you and her. And he was never really the kind of man you'd want as a real partner, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:52 PM
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Good for you. Your mom is lucky to have such a vigilant and honest daughter. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:32 PM
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I cant believe there was even a debate over a $45 emergency contraception pill. You wanna know how much a month of baby food and diapers will cost you? Or a medical abortion (once you figure in the absurd distance you'll likely travel and possible mandatory waiting period)? If he's arguing over that $45, he definitely isn't worth putting out for in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:31 PM
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It's not so much manipulation but rather they're just chickensht. They're so insecure and weak they cannot cope. Women: it's only manipulation if you entertain the idea of changing to accommodate men who say that they feel "intimidated". They can't control you without your permission. Remember: your feelings are your responsibility. Their feelings are their responsibility. You are not responsible if an insecure needy man feels a particular way around you. And you definitely dont want to make you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:26 PM
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It's not just that. Some men swap jerkoff material with friends. Porn is so everywhere and guys today really do see your nudes as being equivalent to porn. A guy I know would visit a convenience store as part of his route. He knew the other vendors who stopped there, and they liked to joke about who this woman would go for. So one of the other guys did ask her to get together and talked her into sending him a video of her masturbating. He promptly (without her consent)passed it along to the othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:38 AM
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I was curious who the video maker was and what his point was. I'm still not sure. This and other videos he put on like reference incels and blackpill. If so,.what was he trying to show in this video? His behavior was very unattractive. I was wondering if he bothered to tell the women he's filming them for his sex/dating YouTube channel. I don't care what he looked like, I would've walked away. Gawd I hate guys like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:11 AM
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OLD is such a mess. The negativity is probably a learned thing from the bad "how to pick up women" posts. It probably falls into the category of negging. Or some people are just miserable people or need to put others down to feel better themself. Whatever the reason, it's a bit rude in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:48 AM
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Can you imagine that experience at her place? She wants to get to know him better. Instead she learns out is how long lactose-intolerance farts hang in the air of her home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:14 AM
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People on here often say that girls today are super sluts, like no other time in the history of mankind. Already your question feels a bit anti-woman: calling them derogatory words such as sluts and thots. Why aren't there the same kind of words for men who behave the same? Oh wait, there are: stud, The Man, player, ladies man Statistics seem to generally land on an average lifetime number of sexpartners at around 7-10, but apparently that is because girls lie a lot, and the reality is much much…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:12 PM
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Please tell me this is a joke..????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:57 PM
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His advice sucks and reinforces the idea that he should keep stringing her along. Source: you're a lame guy. But I cringed when I read she bought a house with this guy. She took a big financial risk, could lose big money, could wreck her credit -- for a guy who after 3 yrs cant even commit to an engagement. Dont be this woman. Bad credit will punish you for 5-7 years after you dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:32 AM
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It's all about context. The naked body isn't wrong to expose in appropriate situations. But when one is waving it around like a flag to get attention "look at me! Look at me!" it screams of insecurity and a desperate need for external validation. It's also the call of a low value female who is placing so much of her self worth on the approval of men -- strange men, low value men, downright creepy men. If a person's self esteem hangs on the opinion of low value men, what does that say about her? …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:07 PM
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Before we speculate on reasons, can we look first at actual statistics? Us population results. The largest group (33%) turns out to be spouses the same age. From my personal opinion as a woman: the reason slightly older men are preferable is emotional maturity. I didnt want to end up in a role where I had to "mother" a partner. There's no way to lose respect or interest in a guy than if he puts me in a situation where I have to clean up after him, take care of him, and keep bailing him out of hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:05 PM
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Sounds like he has some potential However, beware of a guy who can make you feel like you're the crazy one when you ask a legit question. STD status is a responsible question. He should never have shamed or blamed you for that difficult question. You've only known him 5 weeks. Keep your dating options open and keep meeting other people. You do not know a persons true character until you see them during big stressful life moments. Do watch how he acts around his parents. Did he have a good upbrin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:53 PM
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I don’t get why it’s such a hot topic that the best men get all the girls (or hypergamy I guess). It’s totally logical for a very desirable guy to be, well, very desirable. Why wouldn’t a man who won the genetic/life lottery appeal to many women? Why wouldn’t many women want a taste of him? He’s the ultimate man. The flaws in your logic: As a woman: if I am interested in someone, I don't want a "taste". He is not a bowl of dip being passed around a party. Define "best". A man who gets laid a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 02:03 AM
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For what it's worth: I find a guy with a really high count a turn off. My ideal HVM treats women as more than moist holes. He also had standards and self respect so he wont share himself with every single horny girl he meets. In general, a high count has no correlation to his attractiveness or value as a partner. Some men use escorts or trade drugs for sex. Some men inbox every woman online until someone says yes, he has zero standards, and he'll deceive to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 12:24 AM
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It sounds like the problem isnt the difference in libido. It sounds more like what he offers you isnt really fun. And who can blame you for not craving it when the experience is meh. You say he's a total HVM but yet he disappoints in bed (and isn't listening to you well enough to even realize he needs to up his game). You may want to consider dumping him. Eventually he'll probably start grumbling about the frequency and then you will have to address this. You can try communicating more what you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:04 AM
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Basically a type of rape That said: personal responsibility. Sounds like she knows what a creep he is. She could talk to her doctor to see what methods would work for now. All my doctors are doing telemed unless they absolutely must examine the patient. And I'm assuming she already got a recent exam if her doctor cleared her for sex after delivery. She could at least lower odds with contraceptive gel/sponge. Or just say "no!" to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:09 PM
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I believe women have every right do do whatever they want If a woman wants to marry a physically abusive man, women have every right to do whatever they want. We should be supportive of it. If he kills her, it was her choice. If a teen is abused by her parents and a trafficker offers her money and a place to stay, she has every right to become his property if she wants. How dare we offer her other options. If an 18 yr old woman is expected to undergo female circumcision to be accepted for marria…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 12:20 AM
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Depending on if you file jointly vs singly makes a difference. Sometimes filing together with one spouse as low income can knock down the overall household tax bracket. There is no such thing as a private marriage. If your "private wife" dies tomorrow and has no Will, you may not see a dime. If your "private wife" wants to advocate for you if you're unconscious & in the hospital, technically she isnt family. The hospital would have to defer to legal family. As a woman, I find it a bit offensive …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 11:30 PM
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I just finished his book. It's a must read for any woman. I think the word "abuse" is such a loaded word and it made me hesitant to read the book. I never wanted to think of myself as "abused". I have this pride that I want to believe I'm strong and never want to feel a victim. But if you can ignore that word for a moment and just focus on his experiences with angry controlling men, it is eye opening. I never realized how a man's deep seated beliefs about his partner allowed him to feel entitled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:15 PM
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When I hear that word, it tends to come from a man using it to shift perception of blame and who did what. If he admits she said no, he would admit to being rejected. If his ego is fragile, he cant handle it. So: If he described it as "she friendzoned me", the action is done by her and TO him. Some unhappy men feel almost like a victim: "She did this thing to me!" The best way for a man to look at it is to not let a woman's romantic choices control your feelings. So she said no, so what. Plenty …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 10:17 PM
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When I was a stupid teenager I thought it was a sign of how mature I was than a man 10 yrs older than me wanted to be my boyfriend. I don't talk much about it now because it isn't something I'm proud of. He exploited the difference in age/maturity. It was not a healthy relationship. The reason men seek women 10+ yrs younger then them usually has to do with them not being desired by women at their level. More mature women are wise to men's nonsense. A girl a decade or more younger is niave. She m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 10:01 PM
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If you are listening to noise like that, you need to be working on your own self confidence before you get into the dating scene. If a girls rude random comment can sway your choices, imagine the devastation a manipulative man will do to your psyche. Now I will say if you've been dating a man for awhile and a mature trusted friend pulls you aside to share her concerns about the boyfriend, it might be worth at least hearing out. Sometimes women in abusive relationships go into denial because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 02:56 PM
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I didnt see either word used. Survey says % of different groups "report no sex". You're the one filling in the blanks about dont vs cant or effort. Who decides who "can't"? There is no universal test that we can apply to a man or woman to determine if they're worthy of others wanting them for sex. I noticed you pointing out your own measure of sex worthiness such as long-term regularly going to a gym. I believe you may be projecting projecting your own beliefs and expectations on everyone else? …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:35 AM
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Make them wait before you have sex. This will filter out the ones who want to get laid from the others. Oddly some men still do hold a bit more respect for a woman who doesn't say yes to sex immediately. Understand that it is possible to feel lonely with a boyfriend. You need not just a boyfriend but someone who will share emotional intimacy: inner thoughts, feelings, dreams for the future. That may be hard to find among teen boys. Be patient. As you & your peer group gets a bit older, the boys …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:07 AM
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HVM: Emotionally healthy. Not addicted, co-dependent, or untreated mental illness. Does NOT blame others, society, the world for his failures & mistakes. Takes responsibility for his life, his family planning, & his home. kind, giving, compassionate Values & respects others. Tolerant. Able to empathize. Respects womens boundaries & beliefs Financially stable and able to earn his own living Practices good hygiene & somewhat clean habits. Doesn't need to be a neat freak, but he doesnt expect his g…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 02:35 PM
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Interesting how different peoples' opinions of a HV man are. I see a guy who spends much time on social media (excluding work required) as a big minus. Social media seems to bring out narcissistic tendencies in some people. If a guy wasnt on social media at all, that a big plus for me. I dont care about the 6 pack abs. If anything that can be a minus, because in order for them to show hes got to have low body fat. I don't want to go out to a nice restaurant and have him counting carbs out loud. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 01:46 PM
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"Grass is greener" mentality. Give them awhile and they'll leave #2 for #3.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 01:23 AM
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I dont believe in FWB personally. I am not risking pregnancy & STDs for a "friend". I also feel it strips the emotional component from sex.. but that's just me. Guy friends get the same treatment as girl friends. They're treated only as friends. My relationship with guy friends would have nothing to do with men I would date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:25 AM
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Until the divorce is finalized, he is technically still married. You're dating someone else's husband. It shows he doesnt have respect for the institution of marriage. He can't wait. And guess who you are to him: the rebound choice. And the deal breaker should be the whopper of the lie he told you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:21 PM
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Define unattractive. Do you mean how you look in a photo? Or so do you mean the whole you: behavior, attitudes, mannerisms, energy, beliefs, focus, etc ? Cosmetic procedures cant fix things like self centeredness, refusal to take responsibility, objectification, or racism/sexism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:33 PM
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Dump him! He will body police her every day for the rest of her life. Imagine having a man controlling your food, your activity level, and your appearance. He will psychologically abuse her. He many withdraw sex or affection until she complies. He feels justified in controlling her body and he may start controlling her in other ways once they are married and "she's mine". He sounds like the jerky men who sometimes post on /r/marriage looking for validation for dumping their wife who is a good wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:10 PM
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My guess: he's dependent on porn. She doesnt wasnt to face that reality. Instead she is trying to change herself to be more like the thing he prefers (porn). She will find ways to do it, but there will be this nagging feeling he still isnt 100% focused on her. One day she will realize his love of porn is a problem, he will call her insecure, but in a way it's true (not for reason he thinks). He'll probably be able to manipulate her awhile by pushing her buttons ("only insecure women dont like me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:02 PM
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Define "genuine"? If he was genuine, he would tell you the real reason he's been avoiding you. So already you know he can't be authentic. You know he is insecure. He really isn't worth a second thought much less trying to figure out. It's not your job to figure him out, prop up his fragile ego, or become his therapist, etc. He is so far below you. Block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:55 PM
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You were in love with the idea of him: the fond memories, the best parts, the future fantasy, the memory of those infatuation feelings. You constructed this fond memory of this amazing guy in your head. You had a whole year to refine this fantasy guy in your mind and imagine what ifs. You saw him in person and immediately your mind realize the amazing person you remembered does NOT match up with this particular guy. Immediately it felt off. You may also have matured a bit and now realized how un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:51 PM
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It's sad. But it would be how I'd want to die. I mean not from the pain of covid. But holding the hand of my partner knowing we are facing the end together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:43 PM
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My gut feeling is that deep down he HATES that she worked at a stripper. He needs to see her squirm and suffer, so he's intentionally prodding her to trigger her discomfort response. Maybe he needs that reassurance that she still dislikes that part of her history? He may say he loves her, but I'd doubt it. Love means acceptance, and he clearly can't accept she did this. I would be willing to bet he does this underhanded thing about other stuff, too. Give him time. Usually men like this are so ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:38 PM
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Poll doesnt seem to work for me at the moment. I personally wouldn't dump a guy immediately for mentioning it a single time. If I firmly say no, the dealbreaker is if in the future he asks me again, nags, "jokes", or otherwise pesters for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:35 PM
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It's not about him using flyer miles to pay for tickets, in my opinion. However: they're together 7 months and presumably intimate enough to be sleeping together (a shared hotel room). But he would commit a lie by omission about winning a $1,100+ raffle? How does a person forget to mention it? What else is he hiding? On the other hand, would a quality woman snoop in his laptop & emails with no probable cause? If she trusts him that little, they should not be together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:32 PM
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Here's one thing about beauty: it is so subjective. One persons "plain" is another person's hot. People have different preferences of type. Look at the men in society: the ones presented as most handsome by the media and fashion may not be the most handsome to all women. To me, they're ok but at least 3/4ths arent my type. If us women can disagree with media & fashion on who the most handsome men are, why isnt it possible that men dont share the same idea of what women are most beautiful? There'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:22 PM
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Anger can definitely reinforce a mans bad behavior. He got a rise out of you. Some insecure men do it to remind themselves you care (since apathetic people don't get angry). Some see it as evidence they got you when they pushed your buttons, so his manipulative comment worked. Dont show anger. Leave the room, leave the place, or just forever leave him. Sometimes I will calmly state his comment was inappropriate. No emotional reaction. Just stating an observation and making him think about what h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:52 PM
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If the women's strategy is to never marry until she meets a compatible HVM -- however long that takes -- you can't judge a 50 yr old man for not marrying. The only question is if he ever wants to marry. If he says no and if you do one day want to marry, then that's a reason not to waste your time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:44 PM
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And while that may be true, I'm not sure a HVW would be so unhappy that feels she must refuse all sex yet she won't demand marriage counseling, changes, and/or divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:17 AM
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Fix the self esteem problem first. You need that to identify the good men and not get sucked into wasting time with the losers. You say you're on meds. But medication doesnt fix how you see yourself. Dont be afraid to ask your psychiatrist questions if you're not sure why you're on the medication and how it's supposed to work. You say you are in therapy. Your therapist is there to help you, but you've got to do the work. If this therapist isnt helping you reach your goals, you could try someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:09 AM
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My layperson's theory on why feminism became associated with lots of crummy quality casual sex: Men were able to have lots of meaningless sex not only without the slut shaming but sometimes they were even admired for it. So women figured to prove they could do anything men could do, the women would practice this lifestyle. Men would encourage it because it made it that much easier for the men to hook up. Add in the whole "sex positive" mentality: in the name of sexual freedom, anyone who wasnt i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:58 AM
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