PickleInTheSun Archive

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1	At the gym flirtation Oh that’s cool man. I had one time where I almost failed a rep and a dude came to help and asked if I was good and I appreciated that. Maybe I should be more watchful and a bit more social too then	/r/seduction	17/10/24 01:56 PM
4	At the gym flirtation Man I don’t get how people want to build social circles at gyms. I want to get in, lock in, do my thing, and get out. Especially when I start talking to people I get distracted and my motivation fizzles out Not hating at all, it’s cool that you can socialize at the gym so you do you, but I’ve gotten this advice before and I just don’t get it. The gym is one place I don’t like socializing	/r/seduction	17/10/24 01:46 PM
1	She is USING you if you are in the friendzone, this is why... All true Also once you start distancing yourself, and she starts coming back for you, she’s doing that because she misses the easy attention and validation, so don’t start thinking she’s doing it to get with you.	/r/seduction	12/10/24 05:42 PM
6	What are some ways to appear taller as someone who is 5’ 6-3/4”? Just my opinion, but generally speaking, I think it might be better to go the lean muscular look. That being said, one of my close buddies is 5’6” and has that bulky, powerlifter aesthetic and it really works on him. He’s been the lean muscular type too, but he looks better bulky. But he carries the vibe well—is tatted out with full sleeves so he has the intimidating look where no guy fucks with him but protective is a kinda cuddly bear that attracts women. He gets a wild amount of attention fro…	/r/seduction	11/10/24 06:56 PM
1	What are some ways to appear taller as someone who is 5’ 6-3/4”? Not so much “unethical” but whatcha gonna do if the relationship gets more long term or serious? Just continue to lie about it? Imagine trying to leave the house and being like, “hol’up babe lemme swap over my lifts into my other shoe” or all of a sudden losing 3” when you take your shoes off in the house or the beach or sum 💀 Also as someone who’s 5’7” with terrible proportions (short legs, long torso) it still wouldn’t look proportionally correct either way	/r/seduction	11/10/24 06:49 PM
1	Online dating easy tip for guys around average height I’d tell you to have some fucking integrity but you’re already well beyond that point. Besides integrity, women aren’t fucking idiots my guy. They have eyeballs. What’re you gonna do as soon as you meet them and you’re short? Or say they don’t know, but then she turns out to be cool and you want to be in a long-term relationship? You’re gonna keep up the lie? Push-up bras have nothing to do with me. What other people do has nothing to do with me. The fact that you have to lie makes you sound lik…	/r/seduction	10/10/24 01:04 PM
-2	Online dating easy tip for guys around average height Nah I’d rather be short than a fucking liar	/r/seduction	10/10/24 11:47 AM
1	You need to spend money to get laid! You’re still paying 😂	/r/seduction	16/07/24 02:05 PM
2	You need to spend money to get laid! Before I read your post, I was thinking, “this dude is a chump”. And then after reading, I could not agree more. After I got into self-care, improving my looks, upgrading my lifestyle to be more attractive, etc etc, I realized how much money it takes. Not even just money, but time and effort. It’s not even just self-care or things for the actual date either—you have to spend money to upgrade YOURSELF and YOUR SURROUNDINGS. Money to upgrade your house, like plants, cleaning products, candles, she…	/r/seduction	16/07/24 01:57 PM
1	Girls WILL put themselves in positions to let you make a move I think both can be correct simultaneously. It’s nothing to brag about, but the amount of work and dedication someone has put in to even get to that point is admirable. Even if the guy were a placeholder, even horny/less attractive women would rather throw themselves at a more attractive/charismatic/etc guy than some slob. But then again, to your point, though not being a slob isn’t a brag, MOST guys can’t even manage that. I guess the bar is just that fucking low.	/r/seduction	20/03/24 04:48 PM
1	How the fuck do you approach when going out with friends? Your “friend” sucks	/r/seduction	11/02/24 05:55 AM
1	How are things in the online dating space? Eh, probably an unpopular opinion, but it hasn’t been that bad of an experience for me. For reference, I would say I’m average to slightly above average looking and I am 5’7”. So not a, “Chad,” by any measure. I exclusively use Hinge (I find Tinder to a be pain in the ass, and I get enough quality matches on Hinge that I don’t bother with other apps) and get about 1-2 matches a day with women that I actually find attractive. The trick with Hinge is that you need to put in effort in your profile …	/r/seduction	07/02/24 05:39 PM
9	Why I struggled with women as an engineer He just wanted to brag about how he’s studying engineering in a top 3 school in Europe	/r/seduction	31/01/24 06:03 PM
26	Went out solo for the first time in a looong time, and wowzers There’s also the slight possibility he’s prescribing shit unto something that really wasn’t there	/r/seduction	31/01/24 06:00 PM
92	Is it a bad idea to just be yourself? It depends. And you gotta be honest with yourself. Are you that available because you’re actually, naturally like that, or are you convincing yourself of that? I see where people are coming from with being tactical about replies and scheduling to not look desperate, but I have somewhat of an unpopular opinion that someone who doesn’t play games is refreshing and very rare in this day and age. A good litmus test to be honest with yourself is by asking yourself, “am I that responsive and available…	/r/seduction	26/01/24 04:23 PM
17	If a woman likes you, she will let you know See, this is the type of game I'm terrible at. I'm not sure when persistence is needed, because for the longest time I programmed myself to instantly cut off women that don't reciprocate a high level of interest. But I'm recently coming to a realization that I've had chances with several women from the past if I had been persistent enough. You got any advice for men like me?	/r/seduction	21/01/24 07:45 PM
5	If a woman likes you, she will let you know Yeah, I think that's just a shitty aspect about dating and seduction unfortunately, and it's definitely frustrating for sure. It's like the 'first job paradox' where to get your first job, you need job experience, but you need the first job to even get experience to get your first job. It's the same with women and dating. So many times where I was single and readily available and it seemed like most women weren't interested. But as soon as I get into any kind of relationship, bunch of women come…	/r/seduction	21/01/24 07:30 PM
2	If a woman likes you, she will let you know So there was this woman I was interested in, so I asked her out and she said no. No harm, no foul. I'll just move on, I have other women I'm interested in too. But she'll pop into my life every now and then to ask if I want to get dinner or do XYZ. For the time being I just passively agree and do dinner expecting it to be just as friends, but she'll do or say things that makes me question that. And it puts me into a position where I have to question if I should try to escalate it and risk a frie…	/r/seduction	21/01/24 07:21 PM
8	If a woman likes you, she will let you know This is solid advice and I agree with everything you've said. Just as a point of discussion though, I think this is just an inherent problem with learning seduction, especially for younger men. A lot of the things that you've mentioned I've only learned from experience and time. I had to fail, get rejected, and recalibrate over and over again to come to these realizations, and for most guys, they have to do the same. I think the questions that guys have, like "how many times should I text?" or "…	/r/seduction	21/01/24 07:18 PM
6	"Be authentic" is terrible advice Tangential, but I actually met a dude that was really into trains (like went to train museums, reads about them, and watches documentaries, etc) and he was fascinating. I’m not into trains, but his enthusiasm was captivating. Really does put into perspective having enthusiasm and genuine passion for something is highly attractive.	/r/seduction	09/10/23 02:10 PM
1	4 mistakes men make when they ask a woman out Good post but I never had the, “wanna join me for XYZ?” work. Just straight up ask because it sounds like you’re beating around the bush. Also what do you mean, “join me for a drink”? Are you drinking somewhere by yourself? Only old, lonely men do this. It sounds like you’re not asking her out on a date but implying her company would be nice—which in certain, very specific contexts, is fine—but for most times when your goal is to go on a date with a girl 1 on 1, don’t be passive. If you’re gonna…	/r/seduction	20/06/23 10:54 PM
10	I say 'hello' then basically let her do all the work. Genuinely curious—isn’t talking to them, flirting, and setting up dates escalating? I mean… what else is left other than that lol	/r/seduction	17/10/22 06:43 PM
33	Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general? Lmfaoooo 28 is not old. At all. I’m not even saying this to make you feel better. It’s the truth. I’m 29, gonna be 30 soon, for reference. IMO, dudes really start becoming attractive in their late twenties to mid-thirties. They have more money, aren’t as nervous and awkward, have an established career, emotionally intelligent, at their physical peak (if they’ve taken care of themselves), and (at least for me) start losing their baby fat and facial structure becomes more “masculine”. Bro, as long…	/r/seduction	23/07/22 06:30 AM
18	If a date with a girl is not for another week, should I text to keep attraction? Sounds like an incel response. Tbh if I had a bunch of women texting me all the time I’d be tired of responding to a bunch of boring texts all the time.	/r/seduction	10/07/22 04:09 PM