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Slightly related question - how do you sign up for her blog posts to be emailed to you? Just looked through her site and couldn't find the mailing list! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 07:13 PM
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A really nice blender can go a long way - check out a VitaMix or a Blendtec, especially the "refurbished" models that have the same warranty as the new models. I use my blender (a cheaper model, but I aspire to get a fancy one!) to make green smoothies for me and my SO about 2x a week, as well as make sauces, soups, and nut butters. Highly recommended!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 01:14 AM
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So lovely! Out of curiosity, what are you using for a stool or chair? I have a similar set-up in my bedroom that is currently sans chair, and I would love your advice! Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 11:39 AM
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I met my SO on OkCupid when I was back home working for the summer after my first year of law school. I thought there would be slim pickings in my small town suburbia, but he exceeded every one of my expectations! (It helps that he was not from my town originally but moved there for work and was educated in a major metropolitan area.) I've said it before, but online dating takes patience and practice! Keep an open mind and your goals in sight. Relationship-minded men do use online dating, especi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 10:47 AM
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My SO and I are both faithful and practicing Catholics. Our shared faith helps to ground our relationship in trust and respect.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 12:51 PM
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This question has been asked and answered very thoroughly here, and here, and here, and more generally here. Hope this helps, the search bar is your friend!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 04:27 AM
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Though I'm not OP, thank you for this awesome advice! Do you use any organizational tools, or is it a mental list?
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 01:52 PM
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I was in the same boat as you a few months ago! I had a lot of self-doubt, anger, frustration, and most of all guilt about my pre-RPW life, and it was causing me undue amounts of anxiety. This may be an unpopular opinion, but I have found talking to a professional who understands your more traditional worldview to be a total blessing when going through a self-doubt period. I knew that I couldn't deal with my self-confidence and self-doubt issues all by myself, so I looked into finding someone wh…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 09:50 PM
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Take some deep breaths and a step back from the situation. You are not in a relationship with his parents, but your wonderful and supportive SO. Trust him and what he tells you! He has chosen you over this other ex-girlfriend, and you need to trust that he chose the right woman. Parents are important to a relationship, but remember you are dating him, not his folks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 05:21 PM
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I don't think you did anything wrong, it just seems like you were both looking for different things out of your matches. I wouldn't give up after one failed date experience. My first OKC date was phenomenal (and that man turned out to be my SO and life partner!), but I went on 3 other first dates with varying degrees of attraction and desire. Some were okay, some were terrible. It just takes one successful date to change your life forever! Online dating is hard and sometimes soul-sucking. But th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:34 PM
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This may not be what you are looking for, but in the next few days I plan to craft this meal planning dry-erase board for my new apartment that I'll be sharing with my SO. I hope that it keeps me on track with healthy eating, serves as a visual reminder of when we have dinner plans, and helps us to shop and plan for the week! We'll discuss meals for the week on the weekend and do meal prep together on Sunday nights.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 04:05 PM
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I know! It is so hard when you love and like someone so much that all you want is to be around them all the time. I feel that love-like pull every day, and I know that my SO feels that way about me too, he just exhibits it in a very different way from an extroverted lady. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 11:35 PM
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You and I seem to be in the same boat! My SO is a huge introvert (INTJ, if you're into MBTI), and he needs his focused alone-time in order to get any work done and feel like he has had a productive day. On the other hand, I would be happy to chat and share funny asides all through a work-session. Our personality differences led to some major annoyances on both of our ends early in the relationship! We actually had to have a very frank discussion about this stuff, which he brought up (probably be…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 04:52 PM
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Thank you so much for your WONDERFUL books! You have truly helped me to be my best possible self, and I am so grateful for your advice and words of wisdom! One of the go-to "surrendered wife" things that I see a lot on the internet is not to complain about your husband/SO to other women, but in your books you encourage venting to another female if you feel frustrated. I'm confused as to how the ideas of (1) outward signs of respect for your mate, and (2) letting off steam about your mate to your…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 06:05 PM
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Yay, I love giveaways and Laura Doyle! :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 12:30 AM
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I am also sort of a newbie to the RPW way, and as a law student at a liberal Northeastern institution (almost a lawyer, a few more days until graduation!), I totally empathize with the hard-core Type A personality thing. Thus far, I have focused on separating my "work personality" from my "home/relationship personality." We need to use different skills at different times, and it is important not to be a pushover at work so you can be successful in your chosen field! Of course, RPW strategies can…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 02:14 PM
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Welcome to RPW! I am a "gifts" person in Love Languages-speak, so I did 25 little gifts for my SO's 25th birthday (the first one we were together). Some examples were Arrested Development magnets from Etsy because we watched the show together, his favorite candy bar, a little bottle of champagne, a link to my old childhood blog (which was one of his favorite gifts and it cost nothing!), etc. All in all, it came out to about $90 which was a lot, but I knew he was the one and wanted to make his da…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 12:50 PM
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Can't wait to hear more about your experiences with the KonMarie method! I'm looking into trying it before a move in late July.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 06:44 PM
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This is so fun! Thanks for starting this and keeping us accountable. My goals this week are: Stick with my food journal Cut down on coffee and tea (1-2 cups maximum per day) Wake up at the same time (6:30-7 AM) every day to set my body clock for the summer and studying for the Bar Exam Research and make a sustainable cleaning and packing plan for the summer and the move to my new apartment (finally living with my SO, yay!)
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/15 01:45 PM
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Reading this now, TOTALLY second this advice!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 09:50 PM
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I enjoyed this a lot - great advice and cool blog! Yet another day where I feel happy to have found this community and the awesome advice that we share amongst each other. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/15 01:13 AM
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I also met my SO on OKCupid. It may take some weeding out, but looking at profiles and not just pictures can give you a good idea of a person's intentions. Not to mention, it is free and can be a good "starter site" to get used to the concept of online dating.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/15 10:48 PM
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We're going to a college hockey game the night of with some friends, but we'll be doing an apartment showing (finally moving in together is on the horizon!) and a nice dinner out the night before. The possibility of an apartment together and a lifetime with my SO is the only present that I need (but also I got us a spot in a couples' cooking class at the end of the month because he said he wants to learn more advanced cooking techniques). :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 01:38 PM
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Find some good role models outside of your family with relationships/marriages that you want to emulate. Does your new SO have parents or siblings in a happy marriage? Is there a couple from your church or school or circle of friends who you can look to and think, "Gee, maybe the world of LTRs isn't all that bad after all?" And, if you can't work this issue out yourself, please consider talking to a professional who really clicks with you (perhaps someone who specializes in relationships or youn…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/15 03:07 AM
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Congrats from a fellow Catholic!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 05:35 PM
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It's like a formal logic statement - all Captains are RP, but not all RP men are Captains. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/15 10:57 PM
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Even though we are just anonymous people behind a computer screen, please know that we have your back and will support you in this. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 01:47 PM
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This man, no matter how much you love him and care for him, can never be your Captain because you can never fully trust his commitment to you. You say you have "paranoia and anxiety" from your relationship, but a good Captain makes you feel secure. RPW often call their partners their "rock," and it sounds like your SO is not and can never be that for you. Personally, I would not stay in this relationship because my goal is for a marriage and a household that fulfills me. If you want the same som…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 01:45 PM
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I second the friends setting you up thing! It may be awkward at first, but treat it like a date you set up online or after someone approached you at a coffee shop. After you get over the awkwardness and share a laugh about it, you'll be fine. Our friends often know us better than ourselves!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/15 12:27 PM
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This is the sexiest thing I have ever read. Wowza. Love it!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 08:56 PM
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Yay for updates! Thank you for this, I love the mini-field reports. Congrats on your changes, and please keep up the good work. Swallowing the pill is so hard at times, but we really will become better women for it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 03:50 AM
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As a law student and religious woman, I have always loved Mary Ann Glendon. Aside from being one of my favorite professors, she is a true lady - her bearing and demeanor are always calm and poised. Though she is a career-woman, she was a wonderful and devoted wife to her husband of almost 45 years, always putting their marriage and children first. Also, she is the author of such bad-ass quotes like: "What is clearly 'old-fashioned' today is the old feminism of the 1970s — with its negative attit…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 01:48 AM
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For those of you with Fitbits, we also have a Fitbit group for some friendly competition and general cheering!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/15 01:20 AM
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Here's an interesting update: My Controversial Comments About Feminism Were "Taken Out of Context" Cuoco, who earns $1 million per episode for her role on The Big Bang Theory, continued: "I'm completely blessed and grateful that strong women have paved the way for my success along with many others. I apologize if anyone was offended. Anyone that truly knows me, knows my heart and knows what I meant."
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 02:14 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experiences, hearing about the "insurance policy" and the hard work that goes into continuing a relationship is exactly what I needed to read today. I am working on building trust with my SO, and your post has made me really hopeful for our future. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 02:53 AM
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I love that idea! I feel like a supportive, nonjudgmental community for achieving all of our goals (no matter what they are, as long as they are RP-focused!) could be a good thing for all of us! Who doesn't need some support from her RPW sisters from time to time? Could the mods maybe set up a weekly thread for reflection? Or maybe a weekly "challenge" based on gratitude, goal-setting, accountability, health/beauty/fitness, etc.? Does anyone else have any ideas on how to make the accountability …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 02:50 AM
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Undertake one cleaning/organizing project in my home every week. Try a new homemade recipe or meal weekly, and keep a binder of the successful ones. Go to bed one hour earlier every night, with the goal of being asleep by 11pm every night! Respect my SO's judgment, abilities, communication style, and autonomy. Encourage him as we cultivate a RP relationship, and trust that he will be a strong Captain for me as we move forward. Continue to frequent this sub and read relationship blogs (any sugges…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 08:15 PM
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Thank you for this! I am hoping to make similar changes in the upcoming year, so I do hope you'll keep us updated and in turn, keep us accountable! Your honesty is refreshing and inspiring. I am particularly interested in how you plan to stop cussing and swearing. I also want to make this change in my life (I've been considering giving it up for Lent this year), but I am interested in how you plan to go about it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 08:10 PM
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Please don't be argumentative! Sorry I misstated my credentials -- as a law student who engages in clinical practice surrounding tax and family law, I have not seen anything to support your logic.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 11:41 PM
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As a lawyer, I can say that prenups definitely are not "usually thrown out." Get yourself a good lawyer and stop worrying. The rational RPW will be okay with a prenup, but NOT with having children out of wedlock.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 05:55 PM
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This is beautiful, thank you for sharing your story!
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 04:25 AM
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As a newbie to RPW, can you tell me how and/or when you knew your husband was a truly accountable man and good captain? I'm struggling with some big decisions re: my partner right now and need the support of experienced women. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/14 06:50 PM
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What a good reminder! I'm sorting out whether I want to stay in a LTR with someone who may or may not be a good captain for me as I navigate life, and I need to keep this in mind as I make my decision. Thank you RPW for the good advice and discussion. You guys are an amazing community. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/14 06:46 PM
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I really liked this article! I am new to RP (only found this sub yesterday!) and this has helped frame my mindset as I start on my RP journey. Wish me luck!
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/14 01:54 PM
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