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| 0 | Women objectify and reduce men to metrics but in a different way.I can honestly say that I feel exactly the opposite. I am a man with tons and tons of accomplishments (PhD, niche fame, plenty of money, fellowship in well-known professional societies, tons of awards, and more) and I hate it when I am (supposedly) valued for them. I would much, much rather be valued for something about my physicality. Most of my accomplishments are because I was born in U.S. and because I won the genetic lottery with respect to I.Q. So, exactly like a woman being valued for her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 01:46 AM |
| – | Men care about body count because they're jealousWhich i think is classic projection because women dont compare their sex partners- men do. This is a ridiculous statement. Search for the phrase "ruined for other men" across this very platform. You will find many, many counterexamples to this outlandish claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/25 01:47 AM |
| 2 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 02:01 AM |
| 9 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.This is a collection of the most ridiculous sentences I have ever read. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 09:19 PM |
| – | Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for SexYour notion of "developed" sexual attraction is a complete fiction. Anything approximating sexual attraction in these "developed" cases is just a decision that other considerations are more important than sexual attraction. So, this developed attraction is brittle and fragile. It can be "yucked" by the smallest perturbation: a particular gesture or turn of phrase. Not remembering to take the trash out. And many smaller "transgressions." Overall value perceived in a partner is not equivalent to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for SexThey don't have to "put out early." Just "put out" consistently from person to person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 06:55 PM |
| – | Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for SexDo you think women would gladly marry men for whom they don’t feel sexual desire? Yes. I have been proposed to by women explicitly trying to make this "deal" with me. By the time a woman has deemed a man “husband material,” she is attracted to him Nope. She has done a calculus of desire versus other considerations and decided the other considerations win. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 06:53 PM |
| – | Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for SexIt’s not that they prefer neutral men to attractive men. It’s that they meet a man who meets their minimal looks standard (at least), who doesn’t inspire immediate lust, but who she thinks she could grow to be sexually attracted to if she gets to know him better, and who exhibits some quality that makes him a candidate for dating. If all goes well, that man then becomes attractive and sexually desireable to her, even if society perceives him to be average. Can you not put yourself in the shoes o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 06:50 PM |
| – | Most Women Are Not Making “Husband Material” Men Work Harder for SexBoth types of sexual attraction-- immediate (or "raw," as some have been calling it) and developed-- are equally real and legitimate. This is complete nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex."Engagement" is hard to determine, isn't it? No. Its obvious. OMG. So, I have this job where I talk to a lot of people who want to use this thing I control to further their project, their business, whatever. I spend literally hours each week having them tell me how what they are doing is the most important or flashiest or coolest thing in existence. Holy shit are the bulk of these spiels boring. Huge wastes of my time. But, every one of those blowhards is 100% convinced that I was completely tak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.They definitely arent engaged in his hobbies and giving him gifts. "Engagement" is hard to determine, isn't it? How much is just acting interested? For the effect. Small gifts? Seriously. That's textbook fuel to keep the belief that she's not just in it to be in a relationship. It's trivial and requires no real sacrifice of anything beyond tens of minutes of time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.I just said I do value them. But, none of them indicate desire. That's what you asked. They already do. Many romantic relationships include absolutely zero desire for the man involved. That is: He desires her, but she borders on disgust in her feelings about him. It is a very common thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.I insist that a romantic relationship includes sex and desire. That doesn't mean I don't value all the other things that people who ostensibly like each other also do for and around one another. Indeed, they are also required. But, only the sex and desire differentiates the romantic relationship from every other friendship I have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:53 PM |
| – | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.Plenty of people have interest in me and do things on your list. They care about what I have to say. I got small Christmas gifts from several people last month. I am asked about my hobbies fairly regularly, usually when I wear a shirt or jacket or something else with some logo on it that indicates I have a particular hobby. The people who do these things have a word to describe them: friends. These are things friends do for and with and around their friends. None of them have desire for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:37 PM |
| – | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.How is desire not about sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:29 PM |
| – | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.Real desire is an absolute prerequisite for a relationship for almost all men who have any experience with women. And, your list specifically asked, "Don't men feel desired when..." The almost complete answer is no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 10:10 PM |
| – | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.All you showed was wanting validation for your physical appearance. OK. That validation is the only thing on your list that is tangentially related to real desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 09:43 PM |
| – | Immediate sex is not needed to prove desire. You just want sex.So much to choose from in OP, but the list is remarkable! “Why stay with a woman that shows no instant desire?” So men dont feel desired when a woman cares about what he has to say? No. Dont feel desired when she partakes in his hobbies she initially never cared about? No. Dont feel desired that she takes time out her day to help him out? No. Dont feel desired when she gives you gifts? No. Dont feel desired when she takes time out her day to spend time with his friends/family in gathering? No. D… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/25 09:36 PM |
| 1 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingMaybe she didn't like who she was Maybe she found herself and found her boundaries Maybe she's just been there done that Maybe she's just making up ridiculous excuses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 03:55 AM |
| 2 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingAlthough I can't really determine if you are being intentionally obtuse or just, you know, authentically so, maybe a slightly different tack would work? No one is being "devalued." It is simply an indication of perceived value. The "want" is the only action that can kick off that measurement of valuation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:39 AM |
| 2 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingYour needs are either being met or they're not in any relationship. When they're not, you leave. Agreed. This is just a very good way to learn the reality behind much of what men are told when they are in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:28 AM |
| – | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingIf the current partner wants to be pegged, then yes: She is making a direct statement of her valuation of him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:27 AM |
| 1 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingWhat if you tried it but didn't like it? She hasn't done it with me. How does she know if she would like it with me? What if it was a phase and you're no longer into it? Then I would trying to convince her of a ridiculous lie. Is she very low-IQ? What if there's a medical reason? Well, in that case, if I asked more than once, I would be a complete asshole. Consent is consent, all of that other shit doesn't ever enter the equation when it comes to body autonomy. Once again: I totally, utterly, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:25 AM |
| -3 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingI'm now beginning to think that you really don't understand the difference, which I find remarkable. If she tried anal with a previous partner, according to the rule, she must do it with future partners. Therefore, by the same logic, if she tried pegging with a previous partner, she must also do so with future partners. If she tried anal with previous partners and the new partner wants to do anal, if she says no she is indicating her attraction to the new partner. If she tried pegging and the ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:18 AM |
| – | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingI agree. Your bodily autonomy is sacrosanct. All this does is tells me what you really think of me. You do whatever you need to do or not do. I have no rights to anyone else's body. But, you don't get to piss on my head and tell me it's raining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:14 AM |
| – | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingNope. Has nothing to do with who was penetrated. It has to do with who did something and who did not do something with anybody previously, coupled with who asks for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:08 AM |
| 1 | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingNo one is obligated to perform any sex act ever! I totally agree. I'm getting at this, however: If I had been pegged by previous partners and my current partner wanted to peg me, she would be justified in reading my refusal to be pegged by her as a direct statement that I value her less and find her less attractive than those previous partners. I said no. She knows what I think at that point. We should part ways. Nobody is obligated to do anything, but the truth of our association is laid bare f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 02:07 AM |
| – | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingI'd say that's right: She could profitably argue that I hadn't been pegged by her, and I would be unable to argue against it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 01:53 AM |
| – | The "If she did it with an ex, she should do it with me" rule applies to peggingNot caring to much about the heart of this argument, but: It's the explicit refusal of something that is really desired by one of the parties and has been done by the person the request is made of that is the heart of the problem. So, this is a ridiculous gotcha. If I had ever been pegged by a previous partner and I said, "You ain't gonna peg me," to my current partner, that would be a clear indication that I value her less than those previous partners. She would justified in feeling slighted an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/25 01:50 AM |
| 3 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.It does, actually. Any interesting person who is passionate and knowledgeable about a wide variety of things beats the hell out of a who does nothing except hunch over Warhammer figurines breathing paint fumes every night. This is a great example/explanation of the myth. Neither of these situations has any bearing on attractiveness for men at all. You have this picture in your head of one of (or both) two men. Neckbeard goes ballroom dancing and learns to crochet and finds his grotesque looks-ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 10:53 PM |
| 3 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.Where is the common sense and reason in these discussions? Obviously a lifelong partner wants to spend time and talk with you often. If that isn't something a man is willing to offer, he shouldn't date. I think that was the point: Having things to talk about and shared experiences is like breathing. It's expected. But, it won't do a damn thing to actually make you any more appealing to women. At all. You're still a piece of furniture, at best. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 10:36 PM |
| 3 | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.So you want to counter that hobbies allow you to develop social skills? Meh. The problem with that strategy is that hobbies--especially the ones that are being tossed around as hunting grounds for most nerdlings--are too insular of hothouses to really allow the development and practice of useful banter, etc. skills. But, yeah, technically you are correct, but maybe not enough to warrant the original point incorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 10:16 PM |
| – | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.Yet, having that opportunity is simply a necessary, not sufficient, condition to lead to sex. Hobbies are great. None of their properties--including widening your social network--mean jack or shit to attraction. You are simply relying on (totally tunnel-visioned on, rather) the old, tired, ridiculous notion that given enough "flux" of humans, someone will want to have sex with you. It's nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 08:04 PM |
| – | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.Considering how many people are in relationships with people they met through their hobbies That number is roughly on a par with people who met their partners in school, at work, through single shared contacts, etc. I.e., it is a universal experience among people who don't excite lust in women. If you think differently because you know somebody who met through a hobby, you have no understanding of statistics at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 05:43 PM |
| – | There are 2 harsh truths that men and women have accept sooner or later.You have fun, learn something, and meet a lot more people who never want to fuck you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/25 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Women are indifferent to Most menI think your backtracking on your earlier sarcasm here is really, really... I won't say the word. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/24 10:11 PM |
| 6 | Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option?The ‘fun’ guy is never the ‘safe’ guy. Based on how he has behaved in the past he isn’t trustworthy for a long term committed relationship. So, the only way a guy can be "fun" is to have been a complete douchebag in the past? That's just flat-out sociopathic. But, I believe you. Oh, I see what you're doing. You're changing the definition of "fun" to mean "bad." So, you're not a sociopath. Just disingenuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/24 02:53 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Nice guys don't finish lastWas she "trolling" the podcast host? I think the chances are non-zero! It's an absolutely insane argument she attempts to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 05:37 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Nice guys don't finish last"Last pick" here doesn't mean temporally the last pick. It means the consolation prize. The final settlement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 05:36 PM |
| 14 | CMV: Nice guys don't finish last"Wouldn't you want to spend the bulk of your sexual life jerking your own dick, waiting for the day that some woman around you decides that she's tired of sport fucking dudes she really is attracted to and wants a sap to marry her and take care of her?" The logic being that if you do that (a) you win her for the rest of her life, and (b) she won't look back and think of you as a douchebag. Who thinks that (a) or (b) is an actual selling point? This is absolutely insane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 05:10 PM |
| 3 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?Perhaps an active sex life isn’t as important to these women. Or perhaps they find very few men physically attractive so they settle. These both sound like very plausible reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 03:02 AM |
| 5 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?A lot of women say that? A lot of women say this. They often think it is some sort of perverse compliment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 02:30 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?Hypothetically, I wouldn't care. In reality, you'd care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?Men typically marry the hottest chick with the best sex they've ever experienced? You're trolling, right? The answer is: Yes. Essentially every single time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Men who sleep around hate women who sleep around more than incelsI guess everyone’s experiences with these types of guys is different. Of course. That said, there is one distinguishing characteristic that is pretty much deterministic of what your experience and understanding of the thought processes of Chad is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 08:57 PM |
| 100 | Men who sleep around hate women who sleep around more than incelsYou're gonna get a lot of comments from people (men and women) who don't have male friends who fuck a lot of women. I have some friends who fuck a lot of women. I'm old as dirt, and these men have had sex with hundreds of women over decades. They don't actively hate women, mostly because they feel in control. You only tend to hate that which you cannot control. But, my God, they disdain them. They always assume women are lying about everything. This assumption is born of extensive experience. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/23 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Men are constantly told they overrate themselves, despite the fact that the vast majority of men obviously UNDERrate themselves. Meanwhile, women are notorious for overrating their physical appearance.Naw. It's that the distributions of attractiveness each gender think obtain are vastly different. Most men think they are "alright" or "not bad looking, kinda good even." They aren't. They aren't because most women do not view them as anything like those labels. Most women think they look like shit. That's because women only consider a very small percentage of man attractive at all. Women actually have a pretty well-calibrated sense of how attractive they are compared to other women. But, they t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 12:41 AM |
| 1 | CMV: In order to be deemed “likable” someone else has to like youYou can't "pop" the confidence of victims of the Dunning-Kruger Effect. They are not insecure in the least and are exceedingly confident. They honestly don't believe there is a bluff to be called. They earnestly believe they are "right." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | To the Guys who think Girls only want Hot Guys"Generate a random number and use its appearance to prove that a normally distributed set of data is actually a constant distribution." I'm always amazed... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 03:54 AM |
| – | To the Guys who think Girls only want Hot GuysDo you actually not understand that the musicians, actors, and male models on the front page of that sub are well-known and successful because they are physically attractive? The odds that any of them are more talented or able than almost all of their peers is minuscule. People know who they are because they are attractive. It's not that people find them attractive because of who they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:45 AM |
| 9 | Men who are so worried about a woman not having the same standards for every man are hypocritesNeither gender should take the bum deal offered to them by people who are not really attracted to them. Men are "worried" about being told they must accept the fact that they are being offered a bum deal relative to others, otherwise they are misogynists. That's all of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Logic and Evidence of 80/20 Rule?I know that I have different taste in men than most women. No you don't. I know how I genuinely can't understand what women see on some men but I know they really like their looks... And this gives a clue as to why you think you have vastly different tastes. You are finding counterexamples to your attraction based on little accidents and details. Here's an analogy: I can't understand why some people really go for the caramel cake on the dessert bar. It's boring. It's way too rich. The texture is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Logic and Evidence of 80/20 Rule?Just because you say this over and over doesn't make it true. It is counter to every piece of evidence any idiot can gather for themselves at any time. Women's tastes are not idiosyncratic. They are boringly uniform and identical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 09:33 PM |
| 1 | It is not a man’s problem, when approaching, that women might feel uncomfortable or don’t know how to say no.Most men don’t get rejected, much less rejected 75% of the time. This has got to be a typo. Most men get rejected almost all the time. It is absolutely the mode experience of most men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 01:57 AM |
| 3 | "just be skinny" doesn't workBeing able to get a relationship isnt the same as being attractive. Lots of ugly people are in relationships. Well, this is true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 03:48 AM |
| 5 | "just be skinny" doesn't workEvery one of those women is attractive. Maxine Waters is married to a former NFL player and US ambassador, for the love of God! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 03:40 AM |
| 2 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.The bulk of my male peers have essentially similar experiences. And that cohort consists of successful professional men and former college athletes. On the other hand, my siblings are working poor and they have plenty of similar tales. So, my lived experience says that most people do live like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.I have been both married and divorced. My ex-wife would be very happy to tell you she was never attracted to me at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 08:32 PM |
| 8 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.My generation does happen to know the difference between "your" and "you're," however. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.I don't think a lot of marriages have a damn thing to do with attraction on the woman's part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.People marry people because they are in love now a days. When you can make your own income what other reason is there? Pretty good point. Women no longer need to marry to carry out what would be the project of their lives. Statistics say that they... aren't marrying at all. That directly suggests that before this became normal, women married all the time for things other than love. Do you really think that all women understand (or feel they can realize) their relatively newfound freedom in this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 02:15 PM |
| 25 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.Just straight up, honest to God: Do you really believe your definition of husband material is the prevailing one? I have decades of experience that suggests that it is not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 01:25 AM |
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