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You got proof for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:51 AM
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It's not a scam for men. It's a scam for whoever makes the most money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:40 AM
1

Being interested in intellectual topics =/= listen to you talk about your niche interests
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 04:34 AM
1

FDS is a bunch of extremists and does not represent the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:17 AM
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Women aren't a monolith. Like men, some lie and some don't. When men go on dates and women ask them what they are looking for, it's very rare for a man to say "someone attractive." They will do what everyone does, and talk about personality traits they like. This is just a common human thing. I, (as everyone should) just assume that looks and attractiveness are a given and don't need to be mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:08 PM
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It's normal. Women, like men, have preferences. You don't have a preference for what your partner looks like? Because most humans do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:01 PM
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Of course not, and I'm always surprised how many folks are surprised by that. Being on this sub made me realize how many people were told looks don't matter as they grew up and took that literally. A good argument can be made for being honest with kids about relationships. Gentle, but honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 10:42 PM
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It's not deep or not deep. It's just how it is. And let's not forget that looking like a Calvin Klein model doesn't mean someone is uninteresting or unintelligent. People's personalities don't get better or more interesting as looks go down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 10:40 PM
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Obviously now i realize women dont give a fuck about personality, Of course they do. It's that no one, not men or women care about just personality. Personality is important for happy, successful, long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 06:43 PM
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You're not being used if you want it to happen. You just want someone to have sex with, which is fine, but it that case you aren't getting used for sex. You're just having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 06:06 AM
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I think ignored vs unwanted attention is very different from ignored vs used for sex. Being used for sex is not comparable to unwanted attention. These aren't interchangeable things. And just as a side note, if you want the attention it's not unwanted attention any more. It's wanted attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 06:04 AM
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Ok, how is that relevant to OP saying being used for sex is better than being alone? This sample of individuals is upset about a lack/loss of attention. No one is wanting to be used for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:46 AM
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Are those people saying they want to be manipulated, lied to, and used for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:44 PM
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I think it may not seem that bad until you actually go through something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:08 PM
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I am absolutely ready to be used for sex. I guess you can’t really lie to me because you don’t need to. That’s fair. But I am 100% down for whatever you’re describing. My DMs are open. You want to be hurt?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:38 PM
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If that something you're fine with I don't think that really falls under the umbrella of being used, not the way people usually use that phrase. Being used is a phrase that usually implies that you were hurt and manipulated. If you want someone to hook up with and don't care that they lie to you and happily have causal sex, you're not really getting "used." Most people that complain about being used, the people OP is referring to are left feeling hurt and empty. They aren't out hoping someone li…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:00 PM
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I don't think a most qualified source for something like this exists. It's going to vary person to person. OP wants this to happen, so I hardly think that would qualify as being "used." Being used for sex means you were lied to and/or manipulated. This usually results in some pretty deep emotional scars for people. If two people agree to have meaningless sex, neither is getting "used." It's just friends with benefits or hooking up. So yes, being alone is worse than having a casual sexual relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:41 PM
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You're confusing two separate things. You're saying you want to have meaningless sex with a woman. You're not saying you want to be "used" for sex. Being used for sex implies that your partner is lying about their intentions with you and stringing you along and manipulating while you suffer emotionally. Being used for sex means you get hurt. It means you're dealing with some pretty rough emotional pain. You're conflating that with your fantasy of a hot girl wanting to just have sex with you, whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:25 PM
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I don't think you can claim that until you've experienced it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 06:26 PM
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sexually successful men Not the same as being in a happy, successful long term relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:41 AM
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a woman who was the town bike dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:43 PM
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I really don't get the hatred of video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:19 AM
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Have you noticed how TRP just labels any normal man that doesn't agree with their rhetoric a beta? Perhaps the men aren't betas, but TRP doesn't want to acknowledge that there is another way. It's a common cult strategy. If they disagree/disprove they are labelled as x and shut out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:56 AM
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I actually think Omega male fits the bill more
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:09 AM
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she then
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:42 AM
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I don't think not wanting to date a sex worker is insecurity. It's just a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:47 PM
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He meant to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:45 PM
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I think it's as simple as the woman wants to work and makes enough and the man doesn't and they are both cool with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:40 PM
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Desperate people aren't usually brave. They're usually the ones waiting for someone to approach them, not the ones throwing smooth pick up lines at random strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:40 PM
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Desperate humans aren't generally ones approaching strangers at the gas station.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:34 PM
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Not gonna lie, I'd rather a man leave me than stay because of some sense of duty. Like you want to leave? Please do. Be happy, and I'll go find someone that's happy with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:33 PM
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How would they find you? Follow your scent and swing into your bedroom on a rope?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 07:30 PM
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And yet again I never said that guys don't do that too. My point still stands looks are really the thing that men should prioritize above all else to win women. Hey, I don't disagree. But good personality (for both) is what will lead to a long and happy relationship. Now my experience is anecdotal, but most handsome men I've met have normal personalities and crack jokes too. Just like most average men also have normal personalities. Just like the beautiful women that I know have both lovely pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:31 AM
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I wasn't talking about you. Nor did I say anyone was better than anyone else. Sorry you have so much resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:30 AM
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If a woman sees a Chad and a Brad, and both approached her at the same time, would she give Brad a chance? If she does, Chad is going to next her and move on and she wouldn't want that. If two women approached you, both very interested in you, one is one of the most beautiful women you've ever seen, the other a slightly overweight brunette with fogged up glasses and lopsided tits, who are you going to give a "chance" to first? I think men forget that a man that looks good, "Chad," can have a gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:43 AM
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They always say it's the inside that counts, yet what they do suggests otherwise. A lot of people say that, not just women. One shouldn't take everything people say literally. It's common sense that everyone, men, women, everyone wants a partner they are physically attracted to. But again, this is common sense! Not many humans daydream about dating someone unattractive. And no one has a saintly personality. Every human is flawed. But yes, everyone wants a combination of good personality and good…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:29 AM
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Please don't derive your opinion of all women from FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:50 AM
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Which emotional aspect is it? Because if you remove romantic love, close friendships aren't so different from romantic relationships. And in scenario 1 if romantic love isn't there, and there is no intention of doing anything physical it's a close friendship, and you sound jealous/controlling telling your wife she's not allowed to have a close friendship with anyone but you. I bet if you replace the man in scenario 1 with a woman you wouldn't have an issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 02:36 PM
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Isn't it only emotionally cheating if she's in love with him? Otherwise, getting emotional support from someone other than husband is just friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 09:13 AM
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Wait, so is the assumption that she didn't want to have sex with the guy? In which case it's a friendship? What's wrong with scenario 1 if there's no intention of doing anything physical? I would also say, people cheat, physically and/or emotionally (usually) because of their own issues. You could provide all the emotional support in the world and still get cheated on. Emotionally healthy people would talk to you or just leave the relationship, not cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 08:51 AM
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That's a big deal to me, and the one thing I wouldn't ever be able to get over You'd get over your wife dating another man, buying him gifts, holding hands, and being emotionally intimate while lying to you about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 08:37 AM
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I mean if he's going on real dates (intending to eventually have sex) while in a relationship that's cheating and worse than 2 cause he keeps doing it. But...if he doesn't intend to have sex then it's not that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 08:34 AM
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2. 1 seems like a close friendship. You never mention that he loves her or has romantic feelings for her so I'm gonna assume he doesn't. If he did, still 2, but they would both be a deal breaker. If there is no emotional connection with the woman, and he's willing to risk our entire relationship for some meaningless sex? Tells you how much he cares about me. In one he at least cares enough not to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 06:25 AM
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That's a myth. When custody cases go to court, it's pretty balanced. The vast majority of cases are decided outside of court. Dads tend to ask for 50% custody less often. https://www.dadsdivorcelaw.com/blog/fathers-and-mothers-child-custody-myths
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:25 AM
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You know, if you marry someone who makes the same or more you won't have to pay alimony....and if you get 50% custody you won't have to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:35 PM
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I think the best reward for kindness is liking who you are as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 01:52 AM
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The solution to systemic issues isn't taking away women's or men's right though. Let everyone keep their rights and address income inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:22 PM
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Did you just make that up?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:38 PM
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As someone else has said, late stage capitalism. The country was in shambles before the wars and thriving in the post-war economy in the 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:54 AM
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Social workers do really important work and are often a very compassionate group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:54 AM
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DUFF, Hairspray, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Bridget Jones, The Way We Were... It happens, and it doesn't make the man look bad. It makes people go hey, he liked her for exactly who she was in every way. And that's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:52 AM
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It's capitalism. It has nothing to do with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:42 AM
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You're wrong. Women have worked, all through history, and in large numbers. They worked on their farms just as hard as men, as servants, shopkeepers, cooks, maids, secretaries, and in factories (also in very large numbers) post industrial revolution. Poor women have always worked. Aristocratic women were the ones that tended not to work. Women worked, they just had no rights and were paid less. Women were also not happy being housewives in the 50's and 60's (which is what I assume you're thinkin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:40 AM
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ACA isn't free. Section 8 has wait lists that are years long. WIC is for children. Expanded medicaid only exists in a few states, and working people usually don't qualify. EITC just a tax credit. CTC is also, a tax credit that gives very little. People are barely scraping by, those people include benefit recipients. I see that you're advocating for some kind of revolution. Tough to do when people are fighting to feed their family and pay rent. If we're gonna be realistic, the gov needs to raise …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:44 AM
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What other benefits? Also...again, let's not blame benefits or people. Blame the corporations fighting hard to keep employees from unionizing. You're angrier with the fact that people get food stamps so they can eat than with the actual villains that turn people into wage slaves. Re-direct your anger at the corporations. Look what Kellogg's just did.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:15 AM
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It's not benefits that stop people from unionizing, its corporations that spend millions every year to prevent employees from unionizing. SNAP isn't enough to live on lol what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:32 AM
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Or....and hear me out....billionaire corporations pay a living wage?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:03 PM
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I mean society is changing, and the world will change. Society as we know it will eventually collapse and change into something else. A great way to encourage people to have kids is to ensure that a single income can comfortably support a family in a world where the planet isn't dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:01 PM
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Most people, not just men support the decriminalization and/or legalization of prostitution, simply because it helps sex workers have legal protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:19 AM
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Yes, how unlikely for a rich celebrity whose been famous since their youth to have a drinking problem. As for his last marriage, he was the one that ended that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:40 AM
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Just fyi, Brad Pitt admitted that his marriage ended due to him being an alcoholic and went to rehab.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:06 PM
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I have two male friends who model. Sure ya do
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:43 PM
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He’s describing the majority of men today. This sounds like something someone would say that spends all their time on reddit and 0% of their time around any actual men or women in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 05:55 PM
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I love a good old coffee date. Great way to get to know someone without any distractions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 06:21 AM
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You shouldn't need a shortcut for: evaluate people individually. It's not complex too just ask someone some questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 03:39 PM
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Nope. It's a mature way to judge people individually instead of using arbitrary rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 02:26 PM
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I'm not talking about exceptions to the rule. I'm talking about changing the rule from "what is their relationship like with their parents" to "how do they handle their relationship."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 05:55 AM
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Here's the thing. Instead of judging someone based on their relationship with their parents judge how that person dealt with having "bad" parents. Say a man/woman had a bad father/mother. If their way of dealing with it is men/women are trash then yeah, that's bad. But if they learned from their parents mistakes, worked through their trauma, that's admirable and shows really strong character. I feel like this comment and post is focusing on the wrong thing. Focus on how someone deals with bad pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 04:35 AM
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I wouldn't call the women single if they're regularly hooking up with the man. You're single if you're not in a relationship. Single does not equal celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:32 PM
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As a man you either have everything or you have nothing. I'd say all men I know fall in the middle. I know maybe one man in the "has everything" category. And I know a couple ladies who are not conventionally attractive that don't have any interest from men when it comes to a relationship. That's anecdotal, but to say all women have a selection ain't it. Even men that struggle to date have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:29 AM
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Aren't we talking about relationships? Not that many people are poly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:27 AM
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you can look almost any way you want as a woman and have multiple men that are interested in you. That's super not true. Tinder matches? Sure. Dating/relationships? No way. Women who are heavy or not conventionally attractive def struggle to find anyone interested. Men struggle more, on average, but theres a good chunk of women that also struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:09 AM
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For every single man there is a single woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:07 AM
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Man number one. I don't really see any flaws with him. Man number 2 seems like he has really low self esteem. I wouldn't wanna date someone that allows themselves to be "walked all over." Now the real question, would man number 1 wanna date me? I highly doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:33 PM
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I think they mean that good communication is key. And it is. Ruminating about everything isn't good communication. Part of good communication is letting things go, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 05:27 PM
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Well yeah, I agree. But if her personal growth is knowing what she wants and boundaries while being attracted to you/loving you then her past history shouldn't be a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 10:24 PM
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This is why I said inherently. My comment was a response directly to you, who made the claim that the act IS degrading. The woman in question can think kissing is degrading, or going down on someone, or holding hands. That's fine. That's on her and I see no issue with anyone feeling however they wanna feel. The issue is when people like you call a sex act inherently degrading, regardless of if the participants feel degraded or not. If you think it's degrading for you, fine. But to imply that doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 07:29 PM
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What if she had some personal growth and realized it wasn't her thing? It may not be about you. And you know...do you really want someone to "give" a sex act if they're not enjoying it? If she doesn't do it cause she thinks you're gross, then yeah, end the engagement. But it might not be that..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:51 PM
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Ya'll. Theres nothing inherently degrading about butt stuff. Not for gay men, straight men, or straight women, gay women. It's all depends on that person's attitude towards it. Let's not pretend it's inherently degrading. Anything can feel degrading or not degrading.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:49 PM
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I'm sure of the billions of men that have existed a few have, in fact, been intimidated by a woman. Especially men that aren't comfortable with a woman making more money/being more successful. And I'm sure some women have been intimidated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 06:43 PM
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Idk, I have a couple friends that stay home. Other than that, your gripe is with the government, the 1%, wealth inequality, inflation and stagnant wages. Not feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:33 AM
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Feminism is not against traditional gender roles. It's against women not having a choice. The whole point is for people to do what they want. You want a 1950s relationship, go for it. You wanna work while your wife stays home, no one is stopping you. Are men "better" and "most jobs?" Obviously not. But that's not really relevant to your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:31 PM
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Men , almost always make more than the woman, historically. So , men lose. Not any more. ​ If kids are involved, even more so, they have to pay alimony and palimony. (men get custody when they ask for it)? WTF? In USA, men would only get custody if the mother is in jail or in drug rehab (maybe)! This is false. https://www.dadsdivorcelaw.com/blog/fathers-and-mothers-child-custody-myths The woman gets custody, the man gets the kids every other weekend and see's them one night a week, maybe. Again,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 06:33 PM
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Now, it is used to take advantage of men, men are abused in divorces especially when kids are involved. No they aren't. Whoever makes the most money is the one that has to pay. Men get custody when they ask for it. It's a myth that they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 04:18 PM
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Hoping that men don't invest in their partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 02:49 PM
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And men apply themselves into a woman's life when they are invested in her, yes? Because you said "women adapt themselves to men." Men don't adapt to their partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 08:00 AM
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That is the biggest FU and a middle finger to marriage if I ever saw one, in which case I would be on your side. Abolish marriage. Marriage is just a long term relationship with paperwork. Nothing about marriage whether it's a man and woman, two men, or two women, requires one person to throw their own identity out and take on the identity of their partner. It has to be a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:11 AM
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Normal humans with a sense of self, regardless of gender, aren't helpmates that apply themselves to into their partner's life. Healthy relationships consist of people with common interests that take and interest in each others life. Adapting to environment isn't a gendered thing and never has been.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 06:44 AM
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If a guy is passionate about something most women naturally get on board with it and feed from his enthusiasm and become interested in a man's passion themselves. This is women's survival strategy down to brass tacks. They adapt themselves to men the way men adapt to the physical environment. Women make very good helpmates when they are invested and they earnestly apply themselves into a man's life when they feel they can rely on him and shows benevolence towards her while displacing his more ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:52 AM
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Hopefully it challenged their way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 08:43 PM
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Idk what qualifies as a "normal job" all jobs are jobs. OP didn't say they're working a job b/c economic crisis or somme other reason. OP said the man in question likes that job and doesn't care to make more money. It's not "ew" it's "you have no health insurance what are you gonna do when you get sick? When you have a child? How are you affording transportation, rent, and saving for retirement?" It should paint a terrible picture of America, not American women. If we had universal healthcare an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 06:43 AM
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Health insurance and not living paycheck to paycheck are hardly "finer things in life." Retirement is also pretty cool. Savings. Emergency fund. Medical bills. All very important. You don't have to make 6 figures, but 30k without health insurance is gonna be rough. Why doesn't he do a couple years of trade school/work his way up in an industry? Does he have no ambition?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:14 AM
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No one is happy working retail for 30k/year and no health insurance. I've worked retail enough to know that. I don't care if a guy makes less than I do, but if he's down to be miserable for ever working retail that aint for me. If he's doing it while pursuing something else and that's fine up to a certain age. If he's 30, working retail, trying to be a pop star.....idk
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:11 AM
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I have the same thing with dogs. Really bad allergies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 08:42 PM
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Meh isn't ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:06 AM
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I don't know what you look like with a six pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:48 AM
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Proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:13 AM
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It's hard to be ugly with a six pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:29 AM
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Well, women are seen as equals now so thats cool I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:32 PM
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Men have "pumped and dumped" since the beginning of time. People having casual sex is not a concept born in the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:14 PM
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Things don't feel like they'll improve. You can feel bad for yourself or you can improve them. You always have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 06:09 AM
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I believe that you want this to be true, but whether it is actually true or not is a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:53 PM
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I unfortunately made a somewhat opposite observation. An observation which lead me to believe that improvement doesn't really matter in improving one's dating chances. Since this is my observation, meaning that I have witnessed it with my own eyes, I won't easily budge here. The biggest problem with this observation is a hit to motivation. The motivation to improve. To do anything productive. It sounds like you're excusing a lack of motivation to improve with this observation. Look at it this wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:12 PM
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We go on a date and she asks me exactly those two questions you put in quotation marks. Personally, I cannot think of a reason and thus of an answer therefore the only answer left would be to not date me. Why do you want to date her if she's asking rude questions? I guess you might not think they are rude, in which case you can think of how to answer questions like that beforehand. Are you loyal? Kind? Empathetic? Funny? A good listener? Caring? Fun? And you can always say: Date me if you like w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:01 PM
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I feel like anyone that asks on a first date "what do you bring to the table" or "why should I date you" has poor social/communication skills. If you wanna know the answer you should get to know them and answer that question yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 06:20 PM
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That's just sex though. Obviously people wanna hook up with hot people lol. Relationships are a different thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:04 PM
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what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:22 PM
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Might be a little hesitant to marry or cohabitate. Everyone should be. That is not a decision to be taken lightly. It's good practice to be picky about your partners character, morals, and values, and it takes time to know who someone truly is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 05:26 PM
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Your wife wasn't shitty because she is a woman. She was shitty because she is a shitty person, and there are lots of those. The people selling you awalt and other red pill concepts are people who want your eyeballs on their videos for money and buying their products to make money. They have to make shit up to get people coming back for more of their "wisdom." The truth is some people are just shitty, and it's really hard to predict who is gonna be shitty and who isn't. Men dating men deal with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:46 AM
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They all seem to be talking about a caricature and not real people. There was no nuance, no actual personhood when women were describing Red Pilled men. Much like how red pill men speak of women. And that's the problem. Making assumptions about someone b/cc of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:04 AM
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A woman making 300k a year CANNOT BE HAPPY dating a waiter who makes 50k. Where are these waiter/waitress jobs payin 50k?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:56 AM
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If it's just sex and the assumption is they are equally skilled in the bedroom then give me the hot guy. It's not a relationship, as long as he doesn't tell me how he feels how would I know? I'm just happy I'm with a hot dude havin a good time. At the end of the day I don't care that much how hot a guy thinks I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:14 AM
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Or she just wanted some sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:00 PM
2

I'm in the US, in my 20's and only one of my friends posts on instagram. I don't remember the last time I added someone and have no pictures. I don't know how people find the time when you work full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:59 PM
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I would say if an illness has a "medium" level of impact and he doesn't use a therapist I personally would question that choice. I don't have an issue with mental or physical illness, but if they aren't proactive about getting better/managing symptoms that's a problem. I think the flaw I see in this post, is that this person has given up getting better and accepted a certain level of ocd/depression/anxiety, and while that alone wouldn't be a deal breaker the other factors would hold a lot more w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 08:56 PM
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Nope. If I don't like someone it's not because of what other people think about them. I will say teenagers might feel this way, but I think fewer and fewer people do the older you get and the less you care about what others think. I would say the exception would be if I saw him interacting with other people, doesn't have to be girls, and thus got more of a glimpse into his personality and liked it I might be more likely to approach. Conversely if I saw him talk to people and he was awkward or ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 08:50 PM
2

I think the point is it's all bad, and both sides add fuel to the fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:39 AM
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The only place I've heard this kind of talk is social media. If someone irl says they want a "fit" partner, people are usually like "ok." Same with the rest. As long as you don't say it in a rude way people don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:45 PM
2

Haha, I suppose women are just people after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:52 AM
2

I'm sure there are at least a few women who are honest about it/don't care/haven't slept with many gentlemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 12:14 AM
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Idk if thats the healthiest approach lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 09:54 PM
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A lot of men (outside of reddit at least) don't care about a woman's hook-up past as long as she's hot. It goes the other way too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 09:42 PM
1

I think it's weird. Like what does "spoiling" mean? Buying someone stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 09:38 PM
0

I said some
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:07 AM
9

Nope. Single as in not dating and not wanting to date in the near future. Doing career stuff, spending time with friends and family, acquiring cats, baking cookies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:06 AM
20

Some women are happy single and not complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 05:10 AM
4

Patrick Bateman. A happy little bird Bob Ross painted. Which is it gonna be women????
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:09 AM
0

A lot of the people on what's defined as poverty don't work and receive government benefits and housing. 22% of US households make less than 25k a year. (7.2 million people) The unemployment rate is 4.8% Only a very small minority of people live off welfare. Free housing is extremely difficult to get. Waitlists are years long, and most people there (that aren't disabled) work. Also it's not free, they still pay rent as a percentage of income (usually 30%) Welfare is also only something given if …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:22 PM
4

My ex was the naggiest human to walk this earth, partially because he was a neat freak and I am messy. But boys can be naggy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 07:48 PM
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Like grocery store clerks? Waiters? Janitors? Childcare workers? The people that help society function deserve poverty? What if everyone decided to go to college and get more skills? Who would do those jobs then? If you work full time in the richest country on earth, you should be able to afford food, rent, and have healthcare. I'm not saying they should own lambos, I'm saying rent and retirement. In the US, keeping working people in poverty is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 07:09 PM
4

Why does only the first one have negative qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:32 PM
1

Not really. Poverty is (mostly) the result of poverty wages. You eliminate poverty by paying people above poverty wages.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:30 PM
2

Yes. Because why would you want a relationship with someone that feels entitled to your money because of their gender? Is that someone you want something long-term with? I think the little things are telling about the person as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 03:25 AM
1

Some do. Some don't. Date the ones that don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 01:12 AM
3

Totally agree. It makes no sense today.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:14 PM
2

The FDS stuff about hair and makeup is such bs. No normal woman buys clothes or expensive makeup just for dates. In fact, no woman has to wear expensive makeup and many don't wear much at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:43 PM
5

That's not why. It's a tradition that stuck around from back in the day when women didn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:41 PM
3

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:40 PM
9

Owning reptiles or fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:02 PM
7

Well if you exclude personality, wealth, and status I don't think you have anything left but what you look like...but usually the desire for "you" is very much including your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:09 PM
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This whole post takes everything so out of context. It's not black and white. Women are people, not a monolith. They are all going to want different things...just like men. It's not that complicated. Use common sense. Treat women with respect. Don't hit on your subordinates, don't yell at 15-year-olds on the street. Workplaces aren't places to hit on people. No one is stopping you from forming relationships with coworkers and doing whatever you want when you're not at work. There's a difference …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:56 PM
1

Height! I wouldn't not date someone for being tall, but I prefer shorter, like 5'5''-5''7''
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:43 PM
2

Someone saying they are "not like other girls" usually means they think there's something wrong with being "like other girls." Basically popular girly things = bad/uncool. That's usually the context for that phrase. That's what "internalized misogyny" means here. They've internalized that there is something wrong with basic, girly interests (liking boy bands, starbucks, uggs, twilight). All that is not cool, but beer, batman, video games, and football (traditionally masculine interests) are tota…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:15 AM
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I just got sucked down the Tonya Harding rabbit hole, that story is crazy. I still don't know if she knew or not, but it was a pretty dumb plan they clobbered together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:37 PM
1

But the craziest posts are stories of women who's husband's divorced them because of no sex and now they are sex crazy with another guy. To me that makes perfect sense. Over time people change. You're not into your spouse any more? Time to divorce and find someone you're gonna feel passionate about. On top of that new relationships flood the brain with hormones that fade over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:34 PM
1

It's hard to be a good partner/parent/anything if you don't put yourself first. You gotta take care of your self so you are mentally/physically able to have the energy for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:27 PM
14

Usually girls that would describe themselves as "not like other girls" are not the best people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:25 PM
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Wasn't it her husband that attacked Nancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:22 PM
1

Wanting sex =/= wanting children. That said, maybe they do want less sex. I bet the hormonal cycle has a lot to do with it...plus the stress of modern life. But some ladies have very high sex drives, and some men don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 07:33 PM
2

Self improvement is life improvement. When you improve yourself your life becomes easier. Your mental health will be better, your physical health will be better, you're gonna have an easier time in social situations. That is life improvement! You can absolutely "work on social skills." I have. I used to have social anxiety and made conscious choices to work on social skills which helped, like joining clubs and forcing myself to talk to new people. Therapy is another great tool for developing soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:51 AM
5

You know, people that look all sorts of way string people along for all sorts of reasons. It's not about attractiveness, it's about whether the other person wants to be in a relationship with you or not. A man that is not traditionally attractive is also capable of stringing a traditionally attractive woman along and vise versa. If a woman/man is being worried about being used for sex wait to have sex until commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:41 AM
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Nothing is a guarantee, but self improvement won't hurt. Taking care of your physical and mental health and working on social skills etc will certainly benefit anyone as a person, even if it doesn't get you all the dates...though it certainly could help with dating too! No one is fully self-made, but it's also important to take responsibility for one's actions and choices when one is an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 12:43 AM
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You shouldn't make generalizations about all women based on the type of woman willing to cheat and sleep with you. Women are people. Like men, some are shitty and cheat, some don't. This is like a woman saying I've slept with married men, so all men are cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:38 AM
2

Many people fall in love and make a commitment to be with each other. A long term partnership that two people worked hard for is worth far more than some random dude/lady hitting on you at a bar. There's such a thing as perfect, and theres such a thing as perfect for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:36 AM
0

Is your argument that men wanted to beat women? I'm confused? We've had pretty continuous violent conflict throughout history men have always participated in.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:07 PM
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That's not true. Find a partner that has a good job and wants to raise kids together. And if you divorce, joint custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 11:22 PM
11

I think we're forgetting about how expensive children are. Childcare is insane, wages are stagnant, and rent is going higher and higher. Guaranteed, if cost of living was cheaper, people would be more into having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:36 PM
1

No, people should raise their children, regardless of gender, to be nice to everyone. Nice, empathetic, but also strong and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:08 PM
6

Someone being insecure doesn't mean they aren't an asshole. Plenty of insecure and shy people are assholes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:58 PM
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I think the big takeaway is that women, like men, are just people. They are good and bad just like men are good and bad. No human should expect that someone will be nice to them because they are nice. It doesn't matter what gender anyone is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:57 PM
2

Not caring doesn't make it more appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:28 AM
1

I hope you don't think it's appropriate to stare at everyone as you pass them on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:09 PM
3

I feel like ya'll forget that good people can be hot too, and self-proclaimed "Im a good person but not hot" guys (and ladies) are often not even good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 09:35 PM
2

Hey, I don't think it's emasculating him when you express a reasonable concern about finances. His reaction is not reasonable, and I'm concerned at how bad you felt for a pretty innocent comment. We are all in charge of our own feeling and insecurities, and if he felt so deeply hurt by your comment, he should consider working through his own issues and triggers regarding his finances. A normal response from him would have been: "That's a reasonable concern. Here's how I'm planning to address thi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 06:39 PM
6

Well divorce rates are going down, and the fact that women file doesn't mean the men were happy in those marriages. People change over the years, sometimes they start to want different things. Women (and men) don't just want commitment and monogamy and nothing else. Everyone has different things they want from marriage/their partner outside of just monogamy. At the end of the day it's just a legal contract, and there's no reason to stay in a marriage if you are not happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:58 PM
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I would try to not forget that only a certain type of woman is gonna be posting on these kinds of subs. Like 40% of this sub is FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 10:39 PM
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:(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:46 PM
3

Dating apps and social media have not made it so a man can't get a foot in the door with average women. That is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:12 PM
2

People do have families, relationships, and careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:09 PM
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The rest are 40y.o. virgins. I think this may be a trend in your social group more than something widespread. 81% of men have been married by age 40- cdc stats. And that's marriage, it doesn't include having a relationship or sex. Social media didn't even exist the way it is now for these 40 year old virgins in their 20's. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db19.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:09 PM
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Social media has and will change society, yes. But to say average men can't get a foot in the door with average woman is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:30 PM
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the average man simply cant even get a foot in the door with the average woman. Me, thinking about the fact that every average man I know is married or in a serious relationship. Guys, social media and tinder are not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:33 PM
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