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| 55 | Every warning FDS educated me on was literally my LVM exgirl did we date the same man? i was with him for a month and had to get out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 07:00 PM |
| 12 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpHe sounds selfish, and your morals don’t align. You started having fights very early into the relationship and now it’s only a source of anxiety and sadness. Drop him, sis. You deserve way better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:50 PM |
| 119 | Makeup Give UpJust wanted to hop in and say that I love how everyone is embracing their natural features. The makeup industry and co. bombards us with messages to tell us that we’re unworthy to exist naturally from a very young age. Every woman fighting years of indoctrination and taking a stand to say “fuck you, I am worthy of respect just by virtue of existing and I don’t owe anyone ‘prettiness’” is a fucking badass. So honoured to grow with y’all 😭🥰🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:30 PM |
| 63 | California condors remind us not to settleBirds have the opposite sex chromosome determination system than we do - so the males have a pair of sex chromosomes of the same length (equivalent to xx) and females have pairs with different lengths (like xy). Like our X chromosome, their Z chromosome is the longest n carries a lot of important information, so not having ir would be lethal to a developing embryo! So all birds born from a virgin birth/parthenogenesis are males. but that means that if we could be capable of having children witho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:30 PM |
| 147 | Having men casually admit their depravity makes my stomach turn.My boss used to make all sorts of horrible comments about women that he hadn’t been able to sleep with. The misogyny of it all was so disgusting that one day I just started crying and couldn’t stop. I’m not angry at myself for crying, but I wish I would’ve explained my stance in a way that is more agreeable for the patriarchy (emotional woman = instant discredit). Luckily he freaked tf out when he saw me crying over it and the comments stopped, but it’s so exhausting to have to go around life he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:32 PM |
| 37 | “If they have no bread, then Let Them Eat Dick”lilith makes me want to sign up for twitter. miss seeing your mini essays! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 182 | No, Women Who Support Porn, I'm Not "Insecure".above all, my issue with someone who watches porn on the regular is that they have not taken the time to read and dissect the ways in which the porn industry damages women. anyone who accesses porn on a regular basis sees women as sexual objects and can only think about their immediate gratification (and not give a shit about all the abuse behind the screen). why would I want a partner who sees women in this lens, when I am also a woman? in what world would i be capable of falling in love with s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:47 PM |
| 107 | Excellent thread on why sex work will never be empowering, no matter how much libfems want it to be. It’s a man’s game.Whenever ppl hit me with that “sex work is work” line I just think of how no-one in their right fucking minds would say “sweat shop work is work” it’s yet another attempt at attributing this abstract concept of agency to the destitute instead of. yknow. reworking situations so they have a decent standard of living. the sex work is work statement also frustrates me because it’s posing this prostitute vs abolitionist “fight” that does not fucking exist. we love our sisters and we’re fighting for t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:01 PM |
| 37 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Didn’t specify a meeting time for a date, just said “in the afternoon” 🚩 When I asked him at 5 in the afternoon what was up, he said he’d forgot (even though we’d made plans a day before) because he’d been playing video games. 🚩🚩🚩 my feelings for him just about shrivelled up and died in that moment. nothing less attractive than someone who doesn’t make you feel wanted. unfortunate, but not happening again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:11 AM |
| 8 | 🤡🤡🤡pickme magic spell: write “peace” 10000 times in a post about your man playing a shooter game to manifest change | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 11 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsi fucking love your writing. you’re hilarious!! hope that you don’t encounter more kyle-like speed bumps in your long road | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:03 PM |
| 22 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itSo glad you were able to take your health into your own hands! It can be such a hassle to negotiate with DOCTORS, who should really know better. Unfortunately misogyny runs rampant across medicine, so we’re the ones who have to be informed and really advocate for ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:17 PM |
| 19 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itI’m sorry that he pushed you into this. It’s such a shitty, selfish thing to do. Thanks for sharing your experience, though. More women need to hear about the side effects of birth control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:15 PM |
| 236 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itThank you for introducing the topic! It's so so so important to talk about the possible consequences of different forms of birth control for us. I started using birth control to get rid of horrible period pains, but stopped using it shortly after I learned that it increases your risk of having IBD. Began a vegan diet and I eat ginger whenever I get my period, and it works wonders. It's so frustrating that even doctors will tell you to get on the pill for any reason, without discussing complicati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:21 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, how do you tell if you don't want kids or haven't found the right circumstances yet?I’m 20 and although there’s a long road for me to navigate until I have to seriously consider this, I know for certain that I don’t want to birth anyone. Thinking of my body going through pregnancy makes me nauseous, I don’t like babies, and the pain of childbirth is one that I can happily live without knowing. However, I do really like preteens and teens - they’re whole beings with personalities and a degree of autonomy, and having been a babysitter for kids these ages, I can quite comfortably … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:45 AM |
| 37 | Ladies, how do you tell if you don't want kids or haven't found the right circumstances yet?https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/NINTCHDBPICT000484034351.jpg makes me physically sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:38 AM |
| 61 | Opinion: surrogacy is on the same transactional spectrum as porn and prostitutionit also holds some parallels to the porn and prostitution industries in the way that recently, it's been branded as a "choice" and "empowering" way of earning money. similarly, the demographic that has to resort to these empowering employments are generally destitute women around the poverty line. porn, prostitution, and surrogacy are all examples of gendered class violence. yet another point why you should question anything that carries the "empowering" seal of libfem approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:28 AM |
| 12 | "You need to forgive!"Had a hard time defining “forgiveness” for a while, too. I don’t like the conventional definition of forgiveness as “well, it’s okay, you’ve wronged me but i have let go of that now and we’re good.” it’s helped me immensely to re-define it as letting go of the past, like you say here. My anger is my advocate and my voice of self justice and I am endlessly thankful to her, but forgiveness has let me let go of anger when I’m tired of feeling it. My forgiveness is my own permission to take a breath… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 08:43 PM |
| 17 | POV: You don’t see women as people. Even therapy can’t help you.The older the sperm, the more potential for sickness in the child. Just the facts. BiOLoGicAlLy, it would make sense for all women to go after young dudes in order to maximise lifespan and life quality of their kids. so, like, shut up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 11:18 AM |
| 17 | Doing "boring manly job" is actually really fun! Talk about male PRHonestly!! Building furniture is like LEGOs for adults | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 12:24 AM |
| 18 | Do you think tradcon men secretly lust after the "whores" according to the Madonna-Whore dichotomy despite their trad values?Read woman hating by andrea dworkin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 21 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 14 - Dr. Gail Dines & the Queens Rage Against the Porn MachineOmg omg omg!! Listening to this right now and it’s a dream. Interviewing people is a hard skill but you really leaned into it during the second half of the podcast, and it is such a wonderful back-and-forth and it flows so naturally! Thank you so much for putting this together :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Can we take a sec to acknowledge how fucked up it is that the word "incel" has been turned around on women? The incel movement is responsible for mass violence against women. It would be like calling a Jewish person a Nazi.i mean... as a jew, no, it's really not the same. i get the point and all, but I also feel like there are more productive discussions to be had? tbh im over the incel ""slur"" lol. like it's so clearly far-fetched that it's actually funny that they would use it for us? for any woman? why do we feel like we need to keep refuting this particular label? just seems like a waste of energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:33 AM |
| 5 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?i honestly don't mind coffee dates because like he said, easier to bolt. HOWEVER. miss me with that "im a feminist" bullshit LMAO the sheer fucking audacity. dear sir please cite me the original feminist thinker who first said "women shouldn't go to dinner dates if they're feminists" in MLA format. like just say you're broke and leave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:40 PM |
| 15 | Is it just me or are many men disgusted by women's bodies?omg the whole "vaginas smell bad and taste WORSE" jokes are so fking pathetic tbh. like bro, i've gone down on girls and NEVER EVER EVER have i been repulsed or disgusted by my partners. sorry you're too weak to actually get a woman to come 💅💅💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:10 PM |
| 11 | What About Equality?Besides, whenever people talk about equality the devil advocates say, "oh, but then I should be able to hit a woman if she can hit me," or "oh, so women should be drafted into the army as well." and im like. yknow what. you're RIGHT. i don't want to be equal to men. i don't want to live in a world to perpetrate violence and abuse and cause suffering. I want peace and love and mutual respect. I want a world with no war, where people don't hit each other. THAT'S the future i'm fighting for. patria… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:26 PM |
| 44 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureReading Beauty and Misogyny by Jeffreys right now, and while I don’t agree with parts of her analysis, the foundations it builds for critical analysis of how we perform beauty is groundbreaking. In teenagehood, we start noticing and internalizing pictures of women in the media, which are created by the partriarchal society to say - “look, this is all you should aspire to be.” We start wearing makeup because we feel inadequate with our bare faces, since they’re so lacklustre in comparison to the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Reddit convinces woman to stay with abusive partner (Reposting because I hadn’t blocked out usernames before)you need to block out the subreddit names too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:15 AM |
| 25 | If someone doesn't appreciate the humanities and thinks STEM is the only way to show academic prowess, next them.illiterate men writing scientific papers is the MAIN reason why academia is incomprehensible and difficult to share with a wider audience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 02:08 PM |
| 25 | Consumption of porn makes me lose attractionthis is so important!!! shame is such an essential part of setting a new social order. if all we have is sex-pozzy porn-friendly feminism that is, at its core, built to coddle the perfectly unbruised male ego - we're never going to get rid of the societal rot of porn. shame shapes people. the more we show our public and genuine disgust with porn, the more men will be forced to assess their sick habits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:13 PM |
| 3 | Wife is in critical condition in the hospital, man blames lack of resources for fathers while spending paternity leave playing video gamesi hope she makes a full recovery and leaves his ass. you only get so many chances at redemption, and this guy has blown them all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:02 PM |
| 24 | Why do people call women materialistic for wanting nice things?eh i mean, regarding the diamonds (in particular) i know my morals don't align with owning a blood diamond ring and it would be my preference to own a ring that isn't produced by slave labor. as an aspiring minimalist, i do believe that women especially should question the importance of material goods as we've been conditioned to partake in consumerism as part of our identity - remember all of the teen movies where the girls would go on extensive shopping sprees? the gender roles imposed on us k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:27 PM |
| 24 | The Bizarre History of Masturbation, Vegetarianism, and Cornflakeslove this story so much that i always laugh when i see cornflakes on the shelves. imagine thinking "i'm going to create a cereal so fucking bland that people will never get horny again" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:04 PM |
| 11 | Cosmetic surgery, social pressure and happinessyou summed up everything I've ever thought about plastic surgery so beautifully! thankful for this space. thankful for finding other women who think as i do. thankful for this sub gaining traction and hopefully spreading these messages beyond our current scope! i can't wait for the day when women gain class consciousness and stop mutilating themselves for the patriarchy edited to add that i really like the comparison with a hedonistic society being inherently a hungry society. we're starving f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:48 PM |
| 18 | No, you shouldn't do whatever you wantthis!!! and just a note to say that I don’t entirely blame other women for carrying on with this narrative. The only “choice” we have to face is conformity to standards or social rejection, and us young women are especially vulnerable to all that. I blame the plastic surgery industry and the porn industry and hollywood for pushing these unattainable versions of womanhood and saying “hey, if you dish out a couple of thousand, you can look like her and not be ostracised!” Nevermind that there are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:09 PM |
| 3 | What is everyone’s thoughts on Billie Eilish now “showing skin”? What does her defense make you feel?this is super insightful and gave me lots to think about. ty so much for taking the time to type out such a detailed reply! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:35 PM |
| 17 | What is everyone’s thoughts on Billie Eilish now “showing skin”? What does her defense make you feel?this is a wonderful reply and puts into context a lot of things! i hadn't thought of the hollywood/music industry parallel with the porn industry, but yeah - they're mirroring each other. just more channels to perpetuate conformity to the male gaze. i do have trouble with not assigning any blame to her, though. maybe because i'm only a year older than she is, i know that it's not beyond women our age to engage in these discussions, since we're not completely naïve. i remember seeing a post a few… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:09 PM |
| 95 | What is everyone’s thoughts on Billie Eilish now “showing skin”? What does her defense make you feel?there's this one thing that irks me (that is in display here, but i've also seen everywhere else): the whole "if showing skin makes me a slut, then i AM a slut #empowered" dialogue. why isn't it "if showing skin makes me a slut, then there is something inherently wrong with the system and we need to fucking change it"? why are we "reclaiming" these insults and not fighting them? why aren't we shaming the men who call us sluts instead? why are we pretending that women showing their bodies on the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 41 | Have requirements, not expectations!expectations are premeditated grudges/disappointments. have standards, and don’t let people walk over them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 04:41 AM |
| 27 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?would love a separate post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:47 PM |
| 125 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?I'm 20 bi and only ever dated women, and while there's people who just won't be compatible with you, the problems are generally "better" (or less-bad) than those encountered when dating men. For example, I don't need to worry about women being violent to me (whereas I would be much more cautious if I was in the initial stages of vetting a man). I also don't worry about my dates being unhygienic/unable to take care of themselves - we've been socialized to know how to keep a clean home and body, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 12 | Have you seen the male-targeted ads on this subreddit?Here in my FDS account I only ever get ads to OnlyFans, which is..... disgusting. they make memes like “oh i’m going to make an onlyfans that is so lucrative....”keep grooming young women into prostituting themselves for your pyramid-scheme!!! go off sis 🤢🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:50 AM |
| 16 | Men are out of their minds desperate for any attentionwas biking to work and this dude waiting for the bus looks up, sees me, and STEPS INTO THE STREET in the BIKE LANE so i had to move around him. he was making this weird intense eye contact with me too? like do you WANT me to run you over dude? what’s going on in their brains!! the bus was absolutely nowhere to be seen btw. they’ll compromise their safety and the safety of others for our validation lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:44 PM |
| 11 | Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities.this is so eloquently put! can't wait to read all this material after I'm done with finals :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:04 PM |
| 10 | Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities.omg fuck the epilator!! still have nightmares about that horrible machine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 43 | Female Strength: How Women Have Been Lied To About Their Capabilities.sexual dimorphism in humans isn't even (biologically) pronounced! differences in build and height (!!!) are mostly due to external factors. of COURSE women are going to be smaller if from the very beginning, you encourage boys to do physical sports and discourage girls from doing the same (sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly: think of all the times when you were told not to get your clothes dirty, or to make sure your skirt was in place - these things limit physical movement!). i even remem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:22 PM |
| 21 | What to look for in a HVM: The 8 C’sinspiring to look for these qualities within myself, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:39 PM |
| 93 | Is there any real benefit to getting married?I don't know about sentimental value (because I think of marriage as this archaic tradition where women are passed on as property from a man - the father - to another man - the husband), but I know that nowadays there are laws that are designed to protect women in the case of a divorce. Women tend to spend more time caring for their children, and have lower incomes, so it's designed so that the woman won't fall into poverty if the couple decides to split. This is why being legally single, while … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 35 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?absolutely! i was never a big makeup wearer anyway (some concealer + light blush as the absolute maximum) but even that was evidently enough to make me grow accustomed to my"made-up" face and feel like my bare face was somewhat lesser. since the pandemic hit, i haven't worn ANY makeup and it honestly feels so liberating. i still get gratification from my looks BUT i don't associate as much value to my image as i did before. the concept of body neutrality really helped me, too! can't recommend it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:09 PM |
| 3 | When a LVM and a Pickmeisha find each other: A Love Story 😂😂😂hi, i think you're supposed to remove the usernames from this screenshot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 11 | The phrase "SWERF" is corporate propaganda. The porn industry is attempting to shield itself from scrutiny by hiding behind the very laborers that they exploit. Sex workers are a class of oppressed, marginalized, exploited workers, not human meat shields for protecting industrial interests.Neoliberals and libertarians take the concepts of individual choice, freedom, private property, "consent" etc. way too far to the point where they ignore structural issues such as oppression. The end result is a world with massive wealth inequality governed by corporations. Absolutely!!! the very use of empowerment in this context - which is individual to each woman and therefore all choices that empower an Individual woman are feminist choices.... is just literal neoliberalism. how are we suppo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:48 PM |
| 19 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 7 - Where TF are the High Value Men...is Online Dating Dead?!LOVED the woolly mammoth fact! had a hard time not laughing on the bus. I found the og link if anyone wants to read it! https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/11/171102124901.htm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 18 | The phrase "SWERF" is corporate propaganda. The porn industry is attempting to shield itself from scrutiny by hiding behind the very laborers that they exploit. Sex workers are a class of oppressed, marginalized, exploited workers, not human meat shields for protecting industrial interests.oof this topic gets me so ANGRY. we can't even begin to compare the atrocities that prostituted women suffer with the western onlyfans "sex workers." note that most of the onlyfans "sex workers" from nowadays are white middle-upper class women? think about who is able to post pictures of themselves willy nilly and feel so empowered, and who KNOWS that doing this will ruin their careers forever. woc and poor women (that more than often intersect) KNOW that they would NEVER get away with half the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:16 PM |
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