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I don’t even know you. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 02:41 PM
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When you know someone in PPD is larping/catfishing but have to keep your mouth shut because doxxing. 😔 I just wanna stir the pot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 02:37 PM
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Usually no.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 02:32 PM
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I’m currently in a basic training cycle, they’re on day 4 of the cycle and the median age in my platoon is 19 years old and about half of them are National Guard. I’ll tell you, each of these kids has a reason for being here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 01:55 PM
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According to a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report published in November 2021, 629,898 abortions occurred in the U.S. in 2019, the latest year for which data is available. Of those abortions, the overwhelming majority occurred before 13 weeks' gestation, which is the beginning of the second trimester. The CDC report found 79.3% of abortions in 2019 were performed at 9 weeks' gestation or earlier. What's more, nearly all abortions in 2019 occurred at or before 13 weeks' gestation, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 04:00 AM
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You’re gonna have that with those big jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 03:28 AM
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The manic episodes don’t last long. Give it a day or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 03:19 AM
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You should research actual abortion procedures instead of pro-life propaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 03:16 AM
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My husband (we were engaged at the time) and I went out to lunch when he graduated the police academy and he told me, “you know how women have dreams about their husband or boyfriend cheating and get mad? Well that happened to me last night and now I get it. I was mad for like, no reason.” I said, well I didn’t cheat on you so don’t be mad at me, be mad at dream me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:24 PM
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Romantic/sexual attention or just women acknowledging you exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 03:14 AM
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Are women giving you attention on PPD or are men..?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:29 AM
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If you have no idea how a penis enters a vagina logistically it will serve the purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:56 AM
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I’m absolutely positive. /r/abrathatfits
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:28 AM
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You know how cats don’t meow at other cats, they meow at humans to let them know they need something? Women are like cats - most of us don’t moan when we masturbate but we moan during sex to let you know know we like something so you have some indicator that it’s good and we’re not just laying there making you question your performance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:16 AM
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Have you.. ever watched porn? There’s a lot of free “visual aids” to make it very clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:14 AM
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My 30E mom boobs say no way.😭 We need strapped down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 02:13 AM
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They dislike women who are glued to their phones. They cry about not getting constant attention from women who are not glued to their phones. Idk what they want anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 11:25 PM
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I work in criminal investigations. What am I supposed to do on a scene, drop everything and text you back? I don’t even take my phone into a crime scene - it stays in the car until the scene is completely processed, which takes hours. I’ve been on non-traffic death scenes for 7+ hours. I’m not running back to my car to text you back. 🙄😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 10:10 PM
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Get outta here I’m hot and like squishy guys. Let us be. 👋🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:55 AM
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So soccer makes you more developed than knitting..? Like why.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 01:15 AM
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I don’t think the dating within your friend group is good advice but more specifically being friends of friends/acquaintances. There’s familiarity but no clearly established expectation of platonic friendship yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:53 PM
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I liked him for his personality, so yes, I liked him for him. He was half Indian/half Jewish and chubby so he wasn’t exactly the type of man women physically fawn over. Your last sentence is what it is, YOU are a mix of your humor, the way you communicate, the comfort you provide her, etc. That’s who YOU are - a unique combination of traits that separate you from other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:51 PM
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I’d say around 8 over the years? I think that having that many female friends come and go because you caught feelings for them is a lot. I didn’t say there was anything “wrong” with him since I dated him.. but when you indiscriminately have romantic feelings for every woman who’s nice to you, it’s kinda hard to have female friends.. since they’re never truly just friends to you. When I say he was possessive and obsessive, I mean he was specifically possessive and obsessive to me when we dated.. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:48 PM
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So, there was a guy like this in my friend group. He struggled with women, but the problem was that he always became attracted to every woman he was friends with. It didn’t matter what they looked like or what their personality was like. I ended up dating him for a few months because I actually liked him back, but I have to say looking back.. it kind of sucks that he wasn’t interested in dating me for me, he was interested in any woman that was nice to him and I think that contributed to him bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 11:26 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:50 PM
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Regardless of height, guy 1 is closer to my type. 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:43 PM
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I will very unfortunately be “traveling” against my wishes to Missouri for 3.5 months and wasting my summer in landlocked misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:04 PM
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My husband ate my ass during our first hookup. You’re gonna have to do more than just oral to impress hot chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:41 PM
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A man telling you to calm down is an exhibit of what, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:39 PM
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It’s common for certain drugs to be prescribed for different disorders than they’re intended/typically used. You’ll see this a lot specifically with anti-psychotic meds. “People with low levels of norepinephrine may have trouble concentrating, develop symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), or show signs of depression. SNRIs increase norepinephrine levels, helping a person concentrate and reducing depression.” There may be a reason they prescribed an SNRI over an SSRI.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:19 PM
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In terms of regular posters, I like most of the men here, even if we often disagree.. there’s only like 4-5 who are totally unhinged. I’ve never seen what you’re talking about and I’ve been here for like 3 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:13 PM
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I’ve never seen someone “seething” because they were pumped and dumped on here. And I don’t think the married women are telling anyone that dating is “harder” for women, just that isn’t as hard for normal men as the TRPers screech about because we’re all married to normal dudes.. Your comment just strikes me as really being unable read a room.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:40 PM
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Can I ask why you trust the internet over your Psychiatrist?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 09:38 PM
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It’s also required to provide appropriate shelter and food to your dependent children. Unless you’re in a state where you can be emancipated before 18. So I wouldn’t consider fulfilling required parental duties “monetary support.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 08:56 PM
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You said monetary support, I considered this to be paying for my stuff - allowance, clothes, wants, etc. I wouldn’t consider having a roof over my head to be monetary support.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 08:16 PM
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16, when I got a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 07:44 PM
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You’re comparing apples to oranges. The time, place, and circumstances surrounding one night stands are different than the time, place, and circumstances surrounding your dates with her. If she fucked a dude in a club once, she’s probably not going to drag you into the bathroom of an urban coffee shop because you demand “consistency.” Either match the circumstances or you’re complaining for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:01 PM
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Your comment: “Wat. Men just want consistency. If the roles were flipped, and the boyfriend was known to spend way more on his previous relationships, don’t you think it would warrant the girlfriend to get pissed off?” This is not “sexual strategy.” This is about consistency. Since you value consistency (your words), please argue a consistent point instead of changing goal posts. Additionally, you brought up the “men spending money on his ex” comment then disregarded my equivalency to highlight …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 05:38 PM
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It’s about consistency. Each relationship is unique, you are never going to have consistency between relationships. How quickly you kiss someone, how quickly you have sex with them, how quickly you date or get engaged.. That individual dynamic between people isn’t something tin can replicate; people express different desires, ask for different things. That’s the point of my example. Everything you do with someone is unique to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:56 PM
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You’re never going to have consistency though. Each relationship and dynamic is unique, how two people interact, how quickly they develop feelings, is unique. My husband used to post pictures on social media with his ex-girlfriend; he doesn’t do this with me. When I asked him, he told me she asked or outright forced him to or she’d get mad at him. I don’t feel like forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to do freely and which doesn’t affect our relationship for the sake of “consistency” is …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:18 PM
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Honestly it’s low hanging fruit and not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:50 PM
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Some recent studies have reliably shown that around ~75% of adults with ADHD have “Delayed Sleep-Phase Syndrome” and naturally want to go to sleep in the early morning (1-3 hours after midnight) and wake up later in the morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:22 PM
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There’s one person I want to make things personal with every time I see their comments, but won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:57 PM
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Germelli
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:10 PM
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Is that a sauce?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:49 PM
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Demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:26 PM
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Women can be dominant in bed without role playing.. 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:48 PM
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I know gender roles exist, my husband and I naturally fall into some gender roles based on our strengths/weaknesses, but I would say I “don’t believe” in them in the sense that I don’t believe I’m limited to or solely responsible for certain behavior simply because of my gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:24 PM
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Arguably if you date a woman who doesn’t believe in gender roles, you’re more likely to be with a woman who initiates sex and is willing to protect her household and family against outside threats (which are relatively rare anyways).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:06 PM
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I prefer my upper face better too, honestly. I have straight, white teeth and a nice jawline, but I don’t like my philitrum or nasolabial folds. I’m sure I’m the only one who’s bothered by it, but most people look more attractive from the nose up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:32 PM
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Some people are weird about their money, but I find that separate money and separate accounts, especially where one partner earns more than the other, has a tendency to create resentment. Asking your partner for money, getting upset if they’re late with payments causing the bills to be late, tallying up who does what to make things “even.” It’s just weird.. We have everything go into 1 account and pay all of our joint or individual bills from a common “pot” and is truly “our” money because we’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 10:38 PM
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I don’t think it’s odd. You can assume, you can fill in the blanks, you can speculate.. but unless you know both parties personally, you’ll never know what’s going on in their lives, if they’re having a bad day, if you’re unreasonably judging them against what you think a happy relationship should look like etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:35 PM
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I’m not sure I’d consider the bottom 90% of $173,000 USD to be “low resources.” That covers a HUGE span of income.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:52 PM
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I don’t diet, uh, at all.. but I can give you a workout split. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Since that’s all I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:04 AM
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Abs are overrated and mostly genetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:36 PM
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There’s plenty of room for strength gains, I probably won’t put on much more size. I might be able to pull off the illusion of looking bigger if I cut, but I don’t really care about physique - it comes secondary to strength. A lot of men seem very unaware of what natural muscular women look like..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:43 PM
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Stack?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 06:37 PM
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My Instagram is a shell account for memes - I’ve never posted a photo there. I only have/use Snapchat but it’s for friends only.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:50 PM
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I’m in my 30’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:52 PM
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😂 The duck eggs made me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:28 PM
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I wouldn’t consider myself a Pokémon geek, but I’m old and was big into it when it first aired in the US. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:27 PM
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To be fair so are powerlifting gyms and I do PL, however I only compete in drug tested meets (my federation also tests for SARMS) and am not willing to lose my civilian/military careers for illegal drug use.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:20 PM
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I’ll send you a whole program if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:05 PM
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Your bullshit detector is broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:05 PM
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So you’re the pinnacle if authority on what all women who weight-lift look like, now? I’m not juicing. 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:42 PM
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Looks like someone’s never seen women who lift weights.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:28 PM
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Excuse me you better not be talking about yourself because you’re an actual babe!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:56 AM
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She sounds like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:42 AM
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My husband and I work opposite shifts today. Anyone just look over at your partner when they’re sleeping and just think, “fuck I love you.” ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:38 AM
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Most women work in customer service, retail, and other human-based professions and get paid to talk to people for 8 hours a day. But go on?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:34 AM
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It depends on if their interests, goals, hobbies, etc. align with mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:28 AM
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Shutting down anyone who disagrees with you with, “you’re not very observational,” and espousing his data as true, uncontested fact while dismissing any other study or dataset isn’t really my definition of “honest debate.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:20 AM
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And TikTok + Instagram Explore page.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:11 AM
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And those women are wrong. Boys with bellies are beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 11:02 AM
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You can be whoever you want online. There’s guys in here who run their mouths because they’re protected by assumed anonymity, but in real life they get anxiety asking a woman as a fast food restaurant for napkins. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:56 AM
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I’ll just drop my tea here. 1 2 3 4 5
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:53 AM
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I’ve spent way too much time trying to hunt down a pair of leggings that I saw on Pinterest, but the only sites that seem to re-host the pictures are the overseas scam sites with low quality fakes.. I can’t find the original creator. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:51 AM
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Definitely natural from bulking and heavy focus on legs/glutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:18 PM
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I noticed that when PPD talks about incels and crime, they usually read “crime” as “violent crime.” There’s many different types of crime that incels can (and do) commit. This is PA specific but other municipalities have similar laws: Terroristic threats - this is defined as communicating, either directly or indirectly, a threat to commit any crime of violence with the intent to terrorize another. Or a threat to otherwise cause serious public inconvenience or terror or serious public inconvenien…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 07:13 PM
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We don’t know and will likely never know the ins/outs of peoples private and intimate relationships. A lot of people take what they know from publicly available information (social gatherings, social media, etc.) and kind of “fill in the blanks.” An important thing to remember is that people don’t usually gush about their relationships the way they vent about them; nobody needs to “lean on” someone for “support” when things are going well, but they’re probably going to need a friend when things …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 06:04 PM
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My husband is 6’4 (almost 6’5), he was probably 124lbs. at freaking birth. 😂 I agree with Eulen, it probably depends on how tall they are whether or how that’s “normal” or obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:29 PM
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It was a 2000’s FX drama about plastic surgeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:26 PM
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I feel like selling sperm as skincare was a huge part of the Nip/Tuck storyline.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 04:18 PM
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Do you think it’s possible that there’s an inverse argument for a lot of your statements? I know in the past, you’ve accused me of not wanting to investigate the “truth” but really all it sounded like was.. I didn’t deep-dive into pessimism. I think that your ideas of “smart” aren’t necessarily measures of intelligence but are consistent with the type of hyper-analysis that could dissolve any type of happiness by saying, “sure I’m happy, but what if I’m really not??” I’ve really only seen what y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:39 PM
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In what way do you wish women were “smart” that they’re not measuring up to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:06 PM
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We have 2 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:45 AM
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Doesn’t agree with you ≠ “off topic.” How arrogant that you think every reply has to be personally interesting to you. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:44 AM
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It’s also a great workout if you do it manually (and correctly).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 02:07 AM
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I don’t need your invitation or permission to respond to you. You made a comment about women not answering questions that make them look bad. I offered an alternative reason using anecdotal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:08 AM
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I don’t usually answer questions I can’t relate to. When I do, there’s a few men who hop on my comments to argue about how it “doesn’t apply to me” and police my responses. :-/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:58 AM
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There’s also probably a heavy selection bias where the women who contribute will answer the question and the women who don’t likely won’t answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:42 AM
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Some of us still heat our homes with wood! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:40 AM
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My husband likes to mow the grass, so I don’t but I have and don’t mind it. We have 5+ acres, so I just grab a drink and my headphones and ride around on our tractor/mower. Honestly he’s got the right idea, it’s way easier to just ride around and listen to Podcasts than iron and fold laundry. 😂 I do all my own work on my truck; washing/detailing, oil changes, break pads and rotors, etc. Whoever is home the night before the trash has to go to the curb take the trash out, it’s usually my husband t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 12:37 AM
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I’ll just copy my comment from that thread. My husband and I both work in the same profession with the same hours worked weekly, but at different agencies. I have a degree and work in a more specialized skill set than he does yet he earns more. We work the same hours but if you really broke down who “works harder” over an 8-hour span, it would typically be me. We pool our money together and don’t nickle and dime each other’s income and chores based on dollar amounts. He likes to mow the grass, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:46 PM
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I wasn’t burned out, I just didn’t have an appetite while breastfeeding. I’m a powerlifter, so getting super thin was actually really difficult for me to handle (body image wise). Once my son was weaning, I got my appetite back and got back into the gym. I used to moderate a pregnancy and new mom subreddit in like 2013-2016, there’s a lot of women who just don’t lose the weight. They end up having to eat a ton to keep their milk supply up. For some women, even a tiny calorie deficit TANKS their …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:53 PM
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It’s probably much easier to lose weight as a mother. I breastfed and lost all of the weight I gained during pregnancy (23lbs.) and then some. I had no appetite and breastfeeding burned a ton of calories. Around 3 weeks out, I was very thin everywhere. It took longer for the stretch marks to fade. Years later they’re pretty much non-existent unless you look realllly close
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:42 PM
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My friends don’t know my n-count. They actually have no idea that I even slept around.. what then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:17 PM
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I find that to be weird AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:10 PM
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I almost exclusively work with men in male dominated fields, I’ve also spent my life among men in various situations, I don’t know a single man who talks about n-count “a lot” or cares deeply. We must live in two very different realities. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:09 PM
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We talk about our exes, I’ve never had anyone probe about it early on before commitment was established as some sort of tactical way to judge my n-count. Never had anyone ask if I’ve ever hooked up before or anything either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 07:58 PM
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Also never had anyone probe about my exes or hookups. It’s mostly a TRP weirdo thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 07:45 PM
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I don’t hear that. Maybe it’s generational/area dependent. I don’t know anyone who cares about sluts or high-n etc. just people who care about trashy/destructive behavior, which isn’t consistent with n-count, I’ve known “trashy” girls who have low body counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 07:19 PM
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I was a huge slut and have literally never been degraded for having sex outside of PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 07:07 PM
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Thank you. Toxic behavior is any behavior that creates tension, stress, and negativity to the people around them. If you date someone with toxic behavior, it’s likely not just going to affect you.. as you become frustrated and hurt (or whatever else) by this behavior, it’s going to spread out to family and friends or it’s going to affect the people around you when you bring that person around. Toxicity is “contagious” in the context that it can create a ripple affect of other toxic behaviors in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 05:42 PM
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That wasn’t her argument at all..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:10 PM
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This isn’t what Lilith was saying at all. Low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:06 PM
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Please explain to me how prioritizing extreme physical attractiveness to the detriment of personality and dating dipshits is not a type of toxic behavior..?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:01 PM
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I have goats and will likely be adding a few to our group, so I always window shop, but I’m looking for certain breed crosses and color patterns. There’s a few bottle fed babies I was looking at this morning but I’ll be away all summer and won’t get to enjoy them, so maybe next year. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:20 PM
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I would meet up with individual people I know (or think I know) but not a group meetup. There’s some truly unhinged people in this group, some of which are vocal and an unknown number of which are lurkers. Any publicly posted/open to the public group runs certain risks I’m not willing to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:18 PM
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I do this but on Craigslist with goats.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 12:28 PM
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I find this funny because I have high-n and am, according to TRP, “unable to pair bond” yet I’m hyper-monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:28 AM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 04:15 AM
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Your turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:16 PM
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You probably don’t squat more than him. But go off. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:11 PM
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She deleted her new account I think?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 01:55 PM
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I don’t know if it’s the patriarchy or whatever, but society does incentivize women wearing make up. Some women wear it because of pressure to look “put together” at work, some to look more attractive to men, but there’s also a number of women who really do wear make up because they like it. A lot of men don’t like lipstick because they can’t kiss their girlfriends, but women wear it anyways because they like it. So I guess it’s column a, column b. I noticed there’s a vocal group in the younger …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:31 PM
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Oh the training is great (interesting material, great instructors), it’s just the schedule I have to adjust to. But thanks for the encouragement!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:48 AM
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I’m in a training class all week, so my hours are like normal people’s working hours (M-F, 8a-4p) and it’s awful. I was going to go to the gym before dinner last night, but got called out from 5-8pm. Waking up early sucks. Feeling like I have just enough time to eat dinner, sit down, and then shower/go to bed sucks. I’ve had to skip the gym the last 3 days so I can actually see my kids. I feel like I need so much more sleep on this schedule. I don’t know how people do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:33 AM
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You can get married without a wedding. My husband and I were in our underwear when we signed our paper and never had a ceremony/reception.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:14 AM
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Alright which one of y’all is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:30 AM
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I was never pro-life, it only solidified my pro-choice beliefs that nobody should ever be forced to go through that unless they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:26 AM
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Yeah, I’m also divorced (he cheated on me) and if I didn’t file, I’d still be legally married because he couldn’t be assed to do the leg work himself. We had a no fault divorce and all he had to do was sign the papers and he STILL dragged it out for almost a year when it should have taken no more than 90 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:46 PM
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This is my theory as well - men initiate the end of the divorce with non-legal actions (cheating, poor behavior etc.) and women file through the legal system so it looks like women initiate divorce more often but it’s simply them finalizing what’s already irrevocably broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:29 PM
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Take it up with the comedian then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 07:20 PM
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I smell my husbands t-shirts if he hangs them up (like he’s gonna wear them again) before I toss them in the wash. I’m fully aware it’s super weird ahaha!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:01 PM
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How you classify looks as being the “most important” matters. Some PPD men say looks are the most important to mean “men must be the most attractive (top 5, 10, or 20%), average men aren’t attractive to women.” Others use it to mean that looks are the “most important” as in its the first hurdle for attraction and any potential partner has to be physically attractive to that woman before other factors (personality, religion, income, political alignment, etc.) Attraction (especially for long term …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 05:09 PM
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This. Thanks for touching on this! You invite a few friends in your circle somewhere, they say “mind if I bring (third party/external friend from another friend group)? You say sure. Now you have acquaintance to interact with who could either become: A. A friend B. A romantic partner C. Nobody This is why having truly platonic opposite-gender friends is important in friend circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:32 PM
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It’s hard if you’re cold approaching or just existing in proximity to women. I may be an outlier (I’d be interested in hearing other women’s experiences) but I’ve never dated someone who was just attractive and “around.” There has always been familiarity (friend of a friend, etc.) where there was little or no immediate romantic pressure. I find cold approaches to be the most looked down on amongst women (read and Q4W thread here about them) and OLD is a disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:03 PM
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The number of men that women find attractive on looks alone is small. Attraction is much more involved than seeing an attractive man and wanting to sleep with/date him. Men who are immediate head turners are still “eliminated” as partners if you interact with them and find out there’s no compatibility and men who are not immediate head turners can (and do) become very, very attractive once you have familiarity and compatibility. I didn’t really notice my husband outside of “I know who this perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:15 PM
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Hyper focus on the same few topics (hunting and being a virgin). We’ve talked and you don’t go out and talk to or approach women, so it isn’t rejection. Your lack of success is due to lack of action, so it’s easily correctable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:17 AM
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For some reason, the only options for dating men are: “ugly and rich” or “handsome and broke.” Yet the majority of men here think they’re pretty classically “average.” So what’s the point in discussing black/white extremes with no nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:16 PM
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Oh, did you get over your meltdown and you’re ready to talk like an adult now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:00 PM
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I’ve rejected physically attractive men I was not personally compatible with. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:59 PM
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Autocorrect. Abs are certainly not on my mind. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:58 PM
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Or that we’re not compatible. I’ve rejected physically attractive men who I wasn’t personally compatible with. It abs nothing to do with genetic superiority/inferiority and everything to do with “will this man make a good partner?”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:06 PM
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Show me where his question has anything to do with virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:53 AM
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Please don’t think so highly of yourself that you have the ability to “psychologically damage me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:48 AM
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I think you misread the question. It isn’t, “women who’s partner has been rejected by 90% of women, how do you feel?” It was making the affirmative claim that all men have been rejected by 90% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:46 AM
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I don’t think women are pretending to be saints or angels with no human need or emotion and I honestly have no idea where your take even comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:44 AM
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I didn’t say that and I’m not arguing against preselection, but preselection isn’t “I want a man that all other women want.” It’s, “why has nobody EVER wanted this man?” My attraction for him wasn’t influenced by whether or how many women wanted him, but my husband was 28 when we met, if he was a virgin in his late 20’s, I’d consider that a yellow flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:42 AM
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Disbelieving what I say is entirely different than creating an entirely made up scenario with absolutely no basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:32 AM
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The OP’s example is 90%. If you approach 10 women and only 1 of them agrees to date you, you’ve been rejected by the majority of women. My husband certainly didn’t go out with or hook up with everyone or even the majority of women he asked out or approached. In order for men to be successful, they HAVE to cast a wide net and face a significant amount of rejection. This is even true for “Chad.” I have no idea what other women do, I’m not comparing what I have to what anyone else has.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:31 AM
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Did other women want him when we got together? No. Did other women want him in the past? Yes. My comment never suggested I married a virgin. Men typically ask out many more women than they’ll ever get dates with, so being rejected by (per the OP’s example) 90% of the women you ask out is still a 10% success rate. I’d say going out with 1 out of every 10 women you approach is far from being “the man no one else wants.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:26 AM
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Then don’t ask women questions in bad faith if you’re not going to believe a word they say anyways. It’s literally against the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:17 AM
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Aside from the fact that isn’t true, I find it interesting how many men will shame women for “Chad chasing” and not giving normal, average guys a chance but are equally eager to shame women for partnering up with men that “nobody else wanted.” Regardless, if nobody else wanted him, then I don’t have to worry about him cheating so I’ll chalk your statement up as a win! I’m a jealous person and don’t like competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:16 AM
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Or you can just like, ask for more details instead of creating little stories based on wild speculation. What a wild concept!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:09 AM
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Except that even for men who are romantically and sexually successful, there’s still a large amount of rejection. My husband has had several LTR’s and casual sex (we started as a hookup), but he’s not immune to rejection. There’s plenty of valid reasons why women reject men that has nothing to do with his value. Maybe he wasn’t their type, maybe they were interested in someone else, whatever the case may be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:05 AM
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It’s “probably” because I don’t particularly care. I’ve rejected plenty of guys in my lifetime, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them, I either wasn’t attracted to them or wasn’t looking for a relationship. I’m sure most of them ended up in normal relationships. I’m not interested in the “huge player” attitude, and K don’t want to “take the animal.” I think this is what the younger generation of women calls “fuck boys” and end up in noncommittal relationships. Please save your pseudo-…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:00 AM
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I’ve literally never thought about it. Whether he was someone else’s type or not doesn’t really matter to me and there’s an unlimited number of reasons why someone might reject an approach. I didn’t reject him and that’s all that really matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:08 AM
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Not having sex in 1 year is not a “sexless epidemic.” This isn’t a “lifetime celibacy” statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:30 PM
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We’re not in a “sexless epidemic.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:22 PM
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It’s not women finding the SAME 80% of men unattractive. It’s each individual woman only being attracted to 20% of men, who falls into the 80/20 categories varies. I don’t find any of my friends husbands attractive, like.. at all. So clearly we’re not all pining after the same 20%.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:14 PM
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Then who am I supposed to be attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:10 AM
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Sure, like dis
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:32 AM
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It sounds like you’ve already accepted it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:17 AM
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I wear leggings like this. I like the freedom of movement as if I wasn’t wearing anything, while being fully covered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:19 AM
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I don’t know any women who think all men are ”fuckbois.” Please post me to something tangible other than something you saw on TikTok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:56 AM
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I have no idea what you’re going on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:12 AM
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I don’t think it’s anywhere near as frequently as revenge fantasies hope for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:11 AM
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The 666 is black pill. Most women aren’t expecting 6 feet tall, 6-figure earners. Society’s beauty standards can trigger problematic behavior (eating disorders) but you can have an eating disorder without having BDD. The overwhelming majority of people with eating disorders do not have BPD. Some eating disorders, though, are associated with having a higher risk of BPD than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:52 PM
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From the same research: Many men say it’s difficult for them to approach people For their part, men are more likely to say difficulty in approaching people (52% of men vs. 35% of women) and being too busy (38% vs. 29%) are major reasons it has been difficult to find people to date. 65% of women said it’s hard to find someone looking for the same type of relationship as them. Women are much more likely than men to say someone they have dated or been on a date with has pressured them for sex (42% …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:49 PM
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More criteria doesn’t necessarily mean higher standards. High standards here typically implies that it’s a choice; such as the difference between saying “I want a man who is a few inches taller than me,” is still attraction based criteria but most would agree it’s a reasonable standard where as “I want a man who is 6’6” is a high standard. Why does anyone have body dysmorphia? MENTAL ILLNESS. Women are not causing men to have BDD, and if you think that, you don’t understand the disorder. You cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:26 PM
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“Doesn’t they little point to the problem being women,” It isn’t a problem. Also, my comment stated that women having more criteria for attraction (which includes personal compatibility) has nothing to do with incels with body dysmorphia measuring their wrists and canthal tilts. Please don’t twist my words - I didn’t say women have higher standards, I said they have more criteria for attraction, as in, women’s attraction is more specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 09:05 PM
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“I don’t want to be in a relationship,” is a completely valid reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:37 PM
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There’s no data which suggests any sizeable percentage of men are going their own way in droves. The men who are struggling are anti-social, many have mental health issues (body dysmorphia, depression, etc.) and ironically blame their inability to get with a woman they’re attracted to on women’s standards as of women are wrong for also wanting to partner up with someone they’re attracted to. Individual women find a smaller number of men attractive and have more criteria for attraction which incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 06:50 PM
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Talking to a boy and possibly not being a virgin is a low bar for “alpha widow.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:22 PM
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Literally who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:45 AM
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Translation: “Women who disagree with me are liars.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:59 AM
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One girl is “ultimate proof.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 02:31 AM
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Maybe I’m an outlier but I’d say my personality is pretty masculine and I like relaxed, fun, beta men. Men who take masculinity so seriously take the fun out of like, everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:54 PM
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I have the lower body of a Clydesdale, I’ll never have a thigh gap even if I liked the look. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:44 PM
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Thin/fit people generally prefer other thin/fit people. Overweight people also prefer to date thin/fit people. Dating overweight people as a preference is an exception to the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:56 PM
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I just want confirmation that we’re allowing exceptions to the rule to be a valid argument now, because TRP men shit on me for it all the time. Confirm y/n?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:36 PM
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I’ll take his pseudo-Chad energy over the “my wrist bones are too small,” whining any day. He’s at least funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:36 AM
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I’m a chubby chaser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:52 AM
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Not into buff guys, so no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:17 AM
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That’s where I think conversations get lost here; since 6’0 is commonly considered the most “desirable height” in a partner, the difference between 5’11-6’0 for men in Alabama isn’t as great as the difference between men in say, Texas (5’9) so the “average man” there may be closer to what most women are looking for (in terms of height). I do think that if men started comparing themselves to their areas averages in terms measurable metrics we may see that they’re above or below.. but I have a fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:08 PM
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There isn’t a real problem with saying, “I live in the US, the average income/height/weight/etc. is (insert value), so I want someone who’s average.” But what’s average changes when you change the population sample. If you live in Texas, the average income, height, weight, or other measurable metric probably isn’t the same as the national average. Example: in the US, the average height for men is 5’9 (175.26 cm). Example: In Alabama, the average height for men is 5’11. So if the national average…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:55 PM
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I’m circling back to this because the person keeps commenting. He’s suggesting that the national average is the only measurable “average” that matters. I stated, that’s an unfair population sample to use as an average for the simple fact that I live in Pennsylvania, people in my dating pool are likely going to be in Pennsylvania. If I use the national average to determine what “average” really is, it’s probably not going to be relevant, because men in population dense, high income areas like Rho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:23 PM
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I wish I saw this comment during my Stats final, I would have made this a hella controversial final project topic. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:02 AM
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See: teenagers who give birth secretly and conceal the death of the newborn. There’s a very “popular” case in Florida of this; dead baby in a shoebox.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:50 AM
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Honestly even if that was the case (oopsie, knocked up again, let me call the clinic), I still fall asleep just fine at night minding my own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:48 AM
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Abortion is, in the literal interpretation of the words “birth” and “control,” a form of birth control simply because it controls whether or not you give birth. But medically speaking, birth control is/are contraceptive measures used to preventing pregnancy. Abortion stops an existing pregnancy and is not classified as birth control. And women aren’t using abortion in lieu of contraceptive aka - just getting abortions instead of using condoms or the pill. Six in 10 women who have an abortion are…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:47 AM
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Due to my profession: 6. None of them were fights I wanted to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:59 PM
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From the “average man” thread: If you’re in the US, each state is so radically different in terms of local economy, I think that major metropolitan areas would skew the “average” statistics in certain measurable areas like income, so a man in a rural area may earn above his area’s median income, but if you look at nationwide averages, he could be below average. So I think how you’re calculating “average” is important. Example (using 2019 statistics): Guy A lives in Sumter County AL, median house…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:58 PM
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8,000% yes. I even had an incredibly easy pregnancy. No morning sickness, gained less than 20 pounds, never needed to wear maternity clothes, worked and went to the gym through 37 weeks. I was discharged from the hospital (at my request) 7-hours after birth and walking around. Literally the best/easiest pregnancy a person could ask for. I hated being pregnant. In fact, I hated it so much I got my tubes removed after my son was born. I married a single dad. So I got a bonus kid without the pregna…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:01 AM
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Oh I certainly don’t. I said ok, then I’m homophobic. Wait til they find out I also wouldn’t date a trans person, so now I’m transphobic too!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:43 AM
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I don’t care either way, but there’s really no benefit to being straightforward v. diplomatic. Turns out, everyone likes a little plausible deniability. I don’t think bi men would be interested in me anyways so it’s a win/win for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:36 PM
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It’s ok, if you say no instead of the diplomatic “if I really liked him,” you get called names. TIL I’m a homophobe for not being attracted to bi-sexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:29 PM
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I like it and do it. My husband isn’t super into it (he prefers vaginal sex with a butt plug if we’re going to do butt stuff), but every once in a while he’ll ask or he’ll do it if I ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:14 PM
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Aside from the fact that Roe v. Wade being tentatively overturned doesn’t ban abortion, it just leaves it up to the individual states to decide.. I think that all this talk about abortion is a perfect segue into anal week.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:51 PM
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I’m a woman in my 30’s and I’ve never met anyone, man or woman, who lied about their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:37 PM
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My favorite part about having my tubes removed is that I don’t have to worry about abortions and can mind my own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:46 AM
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Youth. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:42 AM
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From Pornhub.com under their apparel section.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:22 AM
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We did a Quaker wedding (I believe our state is the only state which officers that type of union). No officiant, no rings, no vows. Our mothers signed our certificate. We’re both low key people in love who just wanted to be married without the bells and whistles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:05 AM
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I have a Porn Hub sports bra, it usually gets some looks. One guy was staring at me between sets on bench so I asked him if he needed a spotter and I’ve never seen a man turn so red, so fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 12:38 AM
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We didn’t exchange vows so there was no promise or expectation of “til death do us part,” but I just asked him and he said he still wants to be married to me in the afterlife (we don’t believe in it but, to answer the hypothetical).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 12:36 AM
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7-8 inch long, 5 inches thick. I like to have my cervix destroyed, can’t do they with a smol pp.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 10:41 PM
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I think implying that it’s a basic human necessity opens up a door for arguing that sex/intimacy is a resource which can be provided to those in “need.” We have government assistance programs for most basic human needs (food, shelter, medical care, foster homes), so implying that it’s a need in the traditional sense can open up some of the incel-based “equal distribution of pussy” arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:37 PM
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When my husband and I work opposite shifts, as long as not tied up on something, he stops in to see me for a few minutes on his way home (my office is on the way). He’s a wonderful, thoughtful man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:28 PM
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I don’t have access to the study itself, what were factors or considerations to frequency declining? I believe there’s a handful of other studies which show a decrease in the frequency of sex is usually correlated with the time most couples begin having children. When the relationship is new and you only see each other a few times a week or month, of course, since you don’t see them as often, you can’t get enough of them when you’re finally with them and sex is guaranteed to be on the menu. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:22 PM
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I hav a brindle AmStaff who is also the best dog in the world. She was trained as a therapy dog. She’s an old lady now (11 yrs) but this is one of my favorite pictures of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:35 PM
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Right because it isn’t possible that OP is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 07:47 PM
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I like chubby guys so I’d never be interested in a guy who was skinnier/weighed less than I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:36 PM
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You also commented on a public forum and then got upset when someone other than the person you replied to commented. What a shock. If people commenting (regardless of gender) bothers you, you should start having private conversations in DMs. You tried to disprove his point that Henry Cavill and Jason Mamoa are pretty much regular dudes. I’m supporting his comment - they’re not panty dropping hot, they’re just famous. People like famous people and water is wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:17 PM
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I think the difference is that in your example, the girl being short is the constant requirement. In other cases, those small things are circumstantial and are more fluid. You might like something in one person and not another because of the totality of the person etc. Which is my point about attraction being nuanced. I love my husband. I love everything about him, but I can’t say with any certainty that if you put someone else in front of me with the same exact qualities, metrics, etc. that I’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:13 PM
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I don’t find Henry Cavill or Jason Mamoa to be ultra attractive. Or even attractive to me at all, so it really has nothing to do with “competing” because I’m just not interested in them. I think people overinflated their attractiveness because of their fame/status.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:01 AM
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Because most people don’t have pre-determined criteria for the little things that influence total attraction. Like smell - not cologne/perfume, there’s no way to pre-determine whether you’re attracted to someone’s body chemistry and scents and write that out. When I think of my own preferences, there’s major things, there’s minor things, and there’s a whole lot of “circumstantial” things that vary based on the totality of a person and there’s no way to know it was a preference until you see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:29 AM
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It means you have the potential to be a good option, but someone I’m not truly attracted to isn’t a good option. They’re a back up plan. But yes, ultimately, attraction is either a yes or a no. Anything other than a resounding “yes, this is who I want,” is settling. To your last point: I agree that self improvement is to cast a wider net, but men are improving themselves and considering themselves “good options,” and then getting upset when an individual woman still isn’t interested in them. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:21 AM
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Men throw themselves at Staceys.. make a point?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:00 AM
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Meeting someone’s requirements (physical + personality) doesn’t mean you’re a “good option,” it just means you meet that person’s minimum criteria. Personal compatibility is so incredibly nuanced, it isn’t something you can make a list/post a job description for. It’s something you need to experience to know whether you’re compatible with that person. Meeting checkboxes isn’t “it.” How you smell, your voice, how you carry yourself, these all matter when determining attraction. Just because you l…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:50 AM
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I think there’s a significant number of men who “hate follow” FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:25 PM
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A bunch of us posted our pics several times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:29 PM
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I literally didn’t say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:21 PM
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Are you suggesting I was born with high n? Like .. ahahah I obviously had to start somewhere. I was low n til I was 26. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:32 PM
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Didn’t get it when I was low-n either. I’m calling cap on this one. 🧢
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:18 PM
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I’m on board with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:16 PM
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I think I just don’t agree with hyper analyzing relationships the way you seem to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:15 PM
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I’d rather go back to rape week. The 80/20 flavor of the week gives me heartburn.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:08 PM
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Who I’m personally compatible with isn’t really negotiable either though. We either are or we’re not. I’ve literally never asked myself what I bring to the table. I don’t need to measure up quantities to determine compatibility and I’ve never struggled with dating or gaining commitment from men I’m attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:07 PM
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We should rectify this immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:05 PM
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They don’t have to be reasonable, and you don’t have to offer what you demand. You can be compatible with someone who isn’t similar to you. For example - I’m very fit, I like chubby guys. Is it REASONABLE for them to “demand” a fit woman when they themselves aren’t fit? No. Are we compatible? Yes. If you’re not compatible, the option isn’t a good option.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:59 PM
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If they don’t meet her requirements then they aren’t actually good options. You considering someone a good option based on your criteria doesn’t necessarily make it so. I don’t think anyone is saying that every option they come across is “trashy,” just that they’re not what she’s looking for or not who she’s compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:21 PM
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Where’s this princess treatment and “life on easy mode” I’m supposed to be getting?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:14 PM
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Respectfully disagree. Signed, Chubby chaser
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 11:27 PM
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The issue with rape discussions is that there’s the legal definition of rape by federal and local statute (legally defined, not open for interpretation) and there’s a social meaning for the term. So what constitutes rape (versus other types of assault) is going to be different depending on what defining criteria you’re using.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:27 PM
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😘
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 03:00 AM
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Before. We were a hookup turned into FWB, turned into traditional boyfriend & girlfriend, now we’re married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 08:59 PM
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I squat 325, I’ll take a selfie if I want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:54 PM
2

We’ve fought/argued MAYBE 3 times in 4.5 years, but we’ve never been disrespectful with each other. The few times it happened, we had a fundamental misunderstanding and were already tired/stressed & raised our voices trying to argue our points. None of those arguments lasted long - we de-escalated and resumed normal discussion about the issue relatively quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:53 PM
2

In my experience, it’s usually a sober girlfriend/wife who’s responsible for driving the drunk husband boyfriend/home.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:11 PM
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The average drunk driver has driven >80 times before their first DUI arrest. Too many people are drinking too much and not waiting long enough before leaving, so they’re most likely driving home with a BAC over the legal limit. The classically accepted alcohol metabolic rate is 0.015g/100mL/hour (it varies in either direction based on body weight). So your body will reduce it’s BAC by 0.015% per hour. This is approximately 1 drink per hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:50 PM
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Whenever I respond to a cardiac arrest (911 call), the amount of effort and intervention for a very, very small chance of survival is usually very traumatic for the family. (I haven’t seen one “make it” in 4 years) 20-40 minutes of CPR, intubation, IO (intraosseus infusion - where you drill into the distal tibia to get fluids directly through bone marrow when there’s no viable injection sites), multiple pushes of epinephrine, etc. This is all just to attempt to stabilize for transport to the hos…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 03:53 PM
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On the flip side. There’s a lot of women who put in a lot of work and their husbands aren’t afraid of losing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 06:19 PM
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I have guys tell me all the time, “what are you, like 5 feet tall?” I’m just about 5’4 with shoes on. When I tell them my height, “whatever same thing.” They can’t tell a 4” difference in women. My brother is 6’0 even and the number of guys who claim to be 6’0 who fall 2 or more inches short when standing beside him is insane. Same with my husband. He’s 6’4 and there’s a ton of people who claim to be 6’2 and he’s like uh nah you’re definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 05:48 PM
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Why should I kick my dog out of the room if she’s all the way accros the bed? It’s not like she’s joining me. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:20 PM
1

It’s almost like men and women place different weights/values on different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:31 PM
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I literally just arrested a 17 year old for raping a 13 year old in the junior-senior high school bathroom. She didn’t report it - other students who saw two sets of feet in 1 stall reported it, security checked the cameras and saw the boy and girl both go into the bathroom. That stuff happens. And 13 year olds have that weird “spotlight” effect where they believe they’re the main (and only) character and that everything is about them. So the rape probably happened, the other comments may have b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:32 PM
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Well, it’s also a civil defamation trial, not a criminal trial so it’s less interesting all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:24 PM
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I have very curly, frizzy hair so I usually smooth it and straighten it, using my straightener to create loose waves. I can’t wear it “natural” because it just looks dirty and messy. I’ve tried every product on the market, tried the curly girl method, I only get to wear my hair down like once a week anyways so I don’t have the time or patience (or money) to keep playing with curly routines.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:01 PM
1

Ground fighting is more about technique than actual strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:21 PM
1

Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:43 PM
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This is how falling in love was for me too, and years later we’re still in love and we never faded out of that “honeymoon” style excitement for each other. We’re able to work through serious issues without fighting or resentment because of the love we have. Knowing what we have now, I could never settle for someone who wasn’t crazy about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 02:14 PM
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That’s the thing - The Red Pill is teaching introverted, socially awkward guys how to perform and put on an act and for these guys, it’s exhausting because it’s so unnatural. They can’t keep up with it on a long enough timeline.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:42 AM
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I could definitely eat that plate of sushi alone, and I’m very not-fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:45 PM
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I don’t have a roast, this just further confirms my suspicion that most PPD guys are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:33 PM
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My dumb ass left my husbands keys on my mom’s car, so when she left our house they fell off the trunk. I drove the same route but didn’t see them.. so I walked 4.2 miles to find them, and (thankfully) I found them. Phew!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:33 AM
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I don’t think heightism is anywhere near as prevalent as a lot of men here make it seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:21 AM
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Does this lengthen just your legs or your arms too because I feel like just lengthening your legs to add 6 inches would make all of your body proportions look weird.. Edit: the picture loaded, his proportions still look weird. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:58 PM
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When a man says it: upvote, no pushback. When I say it: pushback and “stop blaming men!” It’s an interesting observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:33 PM
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I’m sure I’ll be around. I’m no stranger to LTRs. The number I say won’t matter, you’ll raise the bar and dismiss it regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:01 PM
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I think this is one of the most well written and well intentioned piece of advice I’ve seen on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:56 PM
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4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:30 PM
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Women who don’t like him = narcissists.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:25 PM
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Not sure how. I’m married to a wonderful man in a stable, happy marriage so I don’t think the correlation between “promiscuous” “red flag” and “bad partner” apply to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:19 PM
1

So you’re frustrated and angry because of things you’re doing to yourself. Thank you, I just wanted to hear you admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:16 PM
1

I do and it looks like it worked on scaring off the right people. 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:13 PM
1

So, attractive women only go out with you if you go out to a fancy, expensive dinner.. you’re going out with these women.. getting burned.. and then say they’re available for a reason? So why go out with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:12 PM
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It sounds like he’s just attracted to high maintenance women who like money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:06 PM
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You’re angry at the women you choose to take on dates? Pick different women, shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:04 PM
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Nobody said anything about being unattractive, but if you think a woman is “eye fucking” you and then she goes cold when you approach, you’ve very clearly misunderstood something about the interaction. You said “women” meaning this has probably happened to you more than once.. so there’s a common denominator.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:00 PM
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There are plenty of attractive women with options who aren’t brats.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:52 PM
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If you believe that women are “eye fucking the shit out of you” but then they go cold when you approach, it sounds like you’re probably misunderstood about what “eye fucking” is. Don’t take women out to fancy dinners as a first date. Now you’ve filtered out women who only care about your wallet/a free meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:46 PM
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This is my favorite comment. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:21 PM
1

It’s clearly not common knowledge if I’ve never heard it outside of the internet manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:33 PM
1

Agreed. So many superficial hang ups and wild assumptions! I’m not sure a single one of them is an incel.. I think with these types of opinions, they’re mostly volcels.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:25 PM
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I’ve only ever heard of tattoos being associated with promiscuity from the manosphere online. I’ve never heard this outside of places like TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:58 AM
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Why is it different for men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:37 AM
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It can be ugly to you, I’m not disagreeing with your right to have that preference but your point was that tattoos are impulsive and I just don’t feel like most tattoos are done impulsively.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:21 AM
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And this has .. what .. to do with having tattoos?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:06 AM
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That’s my point, something meaningful to them is subjective and personal but I’d also likely something they thought out/pre-planned and not something done out of impulse, so not all tattoos are indicative of impulse control issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:03 AM
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So if men didn’t cause women’s trauma, what are they blaming men for? I’m just not following this logic. Or how it relates to women having tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:49 AM
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You don’t feel as though most people plan out purposefully meaningful (to them) tattoos?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:28 AM
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You said “women rarely, if ever take accountability for their actions,” then suggested that women “just blame men” for their trauma and take no self accountability. If their trauma isn’t from men.. why would they blame men for their trauma? Regardless of why men originally wore tattoos, the reason and meaning behind being inked has obviously changed and people get tattooed for a number of reasons absent of “adversity” in modern times.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:21 AM
1

So tattoos never solicit a positive reaction in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:15 AM
1

I’ve never heard of tattoos being representative of “adversity.” Where are you from? I wouldn’t associate tattoos with “trauma as a result of men.” Why do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:09 AM
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What in your opinion do they say?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 01:07 AM
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What, in your opinion, does having tattoos have to do with adversity and self accountability or change?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:39 AM
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Almost everyone is funnier than me so, I don’t even know how you’d “measure” that. But yes, I don’t think I’d ever be sexually or romantically interested in someone who was significantly smarter than me, I don’t need to be insulted or made to feel stupid/inferior for not being on the same level (intellectually) as them. And eventually they’ll get bored of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:23 PM
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The topic wasn’t “men who make bad partners,” it was about the most difficult divorces and for police, firefighters, and military, that’s most likely due to their pensions. If my pension/retirement was on the line in a divorce, I’d drag it out and be difficult too. For surgeons and pilot, it’s likely their incredibly high earning depending on the hospital or airline they work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:04 PM
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When I say “I don’t care about a man’s money,” I usually mean this as, I don’t care if a man makes a significant amount of money ex. 6-figures isn’t a requirement. I do care if a man makes a lot less or a lot more money than I do, because of lifestyle differences and possibly other significant areas of incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:56 PM
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In 4 years, I have never once asked or desired to go through my husbands phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:46 PM
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ProTip: be familiar with your states laws. Placing recording devices can be considered a wiretap violation or stalking and land you jail time. Now you’ve been cheated on AND you’re getting arrested. Way to make your situation wholly worse!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:26 PM
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No hang ups, it’s fine. He wanted to try it and didn’t like it, but he likes having his ass eaten occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:37 AM
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Yeah, weebs/otaku have a bad rep for being huge perverts and being socially inappropriate about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:20 PM
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It depends on your age. I’m 30, I don’t have any single female friends so if a guy was hanging out with me in hopes of meeting hot single friends, he’d be pretty disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:53 PM
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I used to work 7pm-7am, it was my favorite shift.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:03 AM
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My daily go to is also from Bath and Bodyworks. I use Into The Night body cream and body spray, but for $15/month, I have a huge collection of fragrances which have lasted me a long time. I use actual fragrance maybe once a week or so? But it’s an affordable way to have smaller amounts of a scent to test out if it lasts and works with my body chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:33 PM
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I like to change up my fragrances, so I use Scentbird!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:17 PM
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And obsess over short MMA fighters. And exclusively talk about fighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:14 PM
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I’m pretty sure I was my husband’s only option at the time we got together. He was single for around ~4 months and used Tinder but I don’t think he was very successful from what I remember from our early conversations. We started as a hookup which led to FWB, so I don’t think that just because I was his only option at the time that he settled for me. He was already getting sex, he could have kept that going while he continued looking for what he wanted (if I wasn’t what he wanted).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:03 PM
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Men give terrible dating advice. Especially inexperienced men who give other inexperienced men advice based on pseudo-scientific theories and hypotheticals driven by data/studies instead of actual experience in the dating world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:47 PM
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Ok, so if I’m talking to someone and we get along but we’re not truly compatible and I meet someone who I feel a much stronger connection with.. what’s the problem with choosing the person who I’m more compatible with/have a stronger connection with? Men don’t want to be settled for. Yet you’re upset we’re not settling for you. Please make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:50 PM
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I think you’re assuming that women who are looking to date should just take what’s offered and would only “ghost” or end the relationship because she got a better offer. Is it not possible that she’s not interested and tou and her aren’t compatible in the way she’s looking for, so instead of carrying on a relationship she isn’t interested/invested in, she ends things and continues looking? Things not working out doesn’t mean there’s someone else in line who made a better offer. I feel like so ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:22 PM
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“I think the Fresh&Fit women were being more honest.” We love to confirm our own biases huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:33 AM
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His pelvic floor. Zing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 01:16 AM
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A guide on how to be human instead of a rigid lizard person like Mark Zuckerberg.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:57 PM
1

Also: public speaking classes and there’s several great written or audio resources about learning how to read body language. This is beneficial by learning what certain body language means so you can emulate positive body language or learn to “mirror” another person’s body language if this doesn’t come naturally to you which shows empathy and connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:54 PM
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This is great advice. First, it shows your interests/hobbies (attractive), second, it removes the pressure to say yes to an official “date.” It also seems kind of spontaneous in a low pressure/low risk/attractive way. I’d be much more likely to say yes/maybe to this type of approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:26 PM
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I was traveling yesterday and was in the Chicago O’Hare airport, there were so many facially good looking men who looked TERRIBLE as a “total package” because of their haircuts. Maybe my military background has conditioned me to view short, tapered/faded haircuts as being “presentable” but even other hairstyles look good when the necks are trimmed, the hair is combed and secured properly etc. So much shaggy, dirty looking, unbrushed hair. Men - learn about hair products, find the right products …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:00 PM
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For as much as women like to pat themselves on the back for having superior emotional intelligence, it goes right out the window when they are desperately trying to ignore a continuous stream of yellow and red flags coming out of a guy they are already extremely attracted to and invested in. Or, hot take, men lie about wanting relationships. They aren’t being vague about where they see the relationship going, they’re making unambiguous statements about wanting to be with you and planning future …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:31 PM
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I immediately assume that men are exaggerating, gaslighting, being deceptive, and/or being manipulative in order to get sex without commitment. Exaggerating in regards to: exaggerating their interest in me. Gaslighting, as in, saying and doing things that a reasonable person would assume are synonymous with a relationship and then accuse me of “assuming” things, or argue how they’re “allowed to change their mind,” about wanting a relationship. I’ve never had this happen, but after seeing men her…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:08 AM
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I think he’s a troll trying to piss off high-n and FDS women. I can’t think of any other reason why he’d be on a virgin crusade here of all places.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 08:08 PM
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