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I don’t think he’s a narc. I think those specific podcast episodes on doing the skills with a narc husband are extremely helpful for difficult husbands who make the process complicated. OP is married to a difficult husband. That is all. 👍
/r/RedPillWives23/08/24 02:44 AM
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Omg I’m glad. We can be so neglectful of ourselves. Take care! 💜💜💜
/r/RedPillWives23/08/24 02:35 AM
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Giving hugs. Self care has never failed to solve my problems so far. 💜🩵💜
/r/RedPillWives22/08/24 10:01 PM
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Honestly… I would lean in on self care and focus on the things that fulfill you and support you that ARENT him. If he wants to lord things over you, I think it would be best to build a structure where you don’t need him for validation or happiness. Lean into your other relationships and stop going to him just to be hurt. This doesn’t mean you need to be mean or rude, but pulling back to protect your peace is totally valid here.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/24 09:58 PM
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I don’t know what to say other than your husband sounds like a jackass. He’s literally punishing you for noticing his efforts and appreciating him… like a person with deep issues requiring therapy. I would just keep following the advice from empowered wife but stock up the podcasts about being married to a narc.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/24 08:28 PM
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Ugh sis that explains so much. I’m sorry :( He’s wrong, first of all. I hope he can detox from those mindsets. Some of that is helpful when you’re just starting out a relationship, but things are heavily imbalanced right now. You have MORE than a full time job and he only has a full time job. If his mindset is that you should work harder, then it could also be argued that he’s not doing a sufficient job in being a provider. There is quite literally not enough money for his family to thrive. His …
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 11:49 PM
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That’s ridiculous. How can he view it as disrespectful when you physically can’t handle all your responsibilities? Sounds like you’re married to a weird person. I recommend Laura Doyle’s podcast episodes regarding how to be married to narcissists while working on the empowered wife skills. Editing to add: use disposal plates and such, get your kids to do their own laundry and make their own lunches and clean up after their own dishes (they are old enough) and push back on your husband by sharing…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 10:00 PM
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Okay girl then what are you going to do? Because it seems like you’re looking for a solution that doesn’t exist. My motto is to usually throw money at the problem. Also, if your husband is being a problem, read the book The Empowered Wife. Sounds like you need to learn how to say no in your marriage in a way that doesn’t result in strife.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 06:52 PM
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This is ridiculous. There’s too much on your plate. How can you nurture yourself, your husband, AND your kids with so much going on? You need to drop the care of your mom onto a caretaker through insurance or allow your sister to do it until you get your own health under control. Severe weight gain is a HUGE health issue and can cause problems down the road. Say NO to your husband. He will figure it out. Tell him you need HELP in a non criticizing way by asking him to be your HERO. Put your kid …
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 02:56 PM
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TELL HIM THIS. A gentle “I’m overwhelmed. Can you be my hero and take over some of these things?” is all a man needs to hear.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 02:30 PM
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He was a grown man when you found him. He’s a grown man now. Don’t parent him. If you have time, listen to The Empowered Wife audiobook and learn to drop the rope on these responsibilities. You can say NO.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 11:58 AM
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What the hell am I reading ???? Why did you slap her ???? You said he’s never hit you. Would have hit you if you did not slap her ??? You sound like a weak minded person. And your marriage and husband are bizarre. Go apologize to your poor daughter immediately. This is so fucked up.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/24 02:30 AM
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Oh my word remember that weed-addicted h3h3 guy fighting for his life in the comments on that bizarre troll post a couple months ago? That made me almost leave the sub. Happy to see these changes.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/24 03:04 AM
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I guess it’s up to him to pursue you then? I’m not sure. Is he still a porn addict? I would divorce if he was. With your great energy and vibe, you’ll definitely attract a new husband soon enough.
/r/RedPillWives21/02/24 10:14 PM
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So you’re asking us our thoughts on a rude man? Yeah he sounds rude and entitled. Not my marriage not my problem.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/24 01:05 PM
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Literally the opposite of traditionalism. Gtfo.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 03:31 AM
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What the hell?
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 03:31 AM
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Ladies look at his embarrassing post history. It makes this whole thing even better. 💀🤭💅 According to himself, he’s overweight with infected tattoos and an obsession with weed. I found a juicy comment of his on a post from the “stop drinking” subreddit, saying he relates “too much” to the following: “What is something less important that you hate about alcoholism? We're all on this sub cos we're struggling. My mental health and physical health feels shot. But I'm making steps towards getting sob…
/r/RedPillWives10/12/23 04:19 AM
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Where do you live? In the US, there are a lot more of these men in suburban, rural, and midsize cities, especially in the Midwest, north, and south. I can’t speak for other countries. Church, the gym, golf course, country club, and high earners in masculine fields like finance, engineering, CS, emergency services, etc. usually like the idea of traditional gender roles. If you focus on avoiding the feminine or egalitarian men, you’ll probably meet more of the masculine types. Also, look as femini…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/23 12:18 PM
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It’s an apple podcast link. Google the title with Laura Doyle Empowered Wife podcast after and that should work :)
/r/RedPillWives13/09/23 11:51 AM
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Laura Doyle had a podcast addressing this. It worked on my husband - podcast episode - “How To Get My Husband To Want a Baby”
/r/RedPillWives11/09/23 03:44 AM
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He needs to stay off tik tok and reels. Get a hobby with real men in the real world and stay away from incel social media! Why is he even thinking those things when he’s already married? How bizarre. I honestly would give no reaction and focus on your own things to be happy. Laura Doyle style self-care. You’re doing all you can and he sounds a little brainwashed. Don’t take him seriously.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/23 03:15 AM
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Laura leaves room for “no,” and self care. Engaging in this might be harmful for you long term… trying to be his anime display fantasy… I’d focus on your self care and your own life and stop trying to be his perfect dream girl. This is a transactional fantasy sex situation, not two lovers focused on mutually pleasing each other. I’m sorry OP.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/23 06:30 PM
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Absolutely. I feel the same! You’ve got this!!
/r/RedPillWives02/08/23 08:37 PM
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I think you need to outlast the therapist. Be the peaceful joyful magnetic woman you are, and you will win this battle. He married you, was sexually interested in YOU, and at one point, was in love with YOU. Not his damn therapist. You can have all that again, don’t let this stop you. Keep going. Duct tape. Ouch. Self-care. Respect. On REPEAT. I guarantee you his therapist doesn’t have our game book. Proud of you.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/23 02:37 PM
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You should see your doctor and a pelvic floor therapist. Never orgasming even with masturbation attempts is not normal.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/23 07:20 PM
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So true. Whenever I act extremely happy after he does something begrudgingly, he will willingly do it the next time with no resentment because for men, happy wife is more desirable than avoiding whatever thing they wanted to avoid. So never be sheepish when they do something for you! Just be super cheerful!
/r/RedPillWives27/12/22 08:54 PM
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I’d also profusely thank him and call him your hero whenever he does let you lay down or whatever. Even if you think he thinks your bratty, just act like you don’t notice and shower him with compliments. That’s how I got out of having to get up with the kids on all his days off ;)
/r/RedPillWives25/12/22 04:40 AM
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Honestly I’d just keep working on the other areas of LD and see if it softens him up. I notice that if I’m good about self care and respect, I can get away with “I can’t” or “I’m gonna go lay down” a lot more. Also, I would just push through. It sounds like this is a new transformation in your marriage, and it’s gonna take some time for him to get used to the new dynamic. Sounds like he wants to still be egalitarian or something. Like he’s using your submissive vibe, but not letting you relax or…
/r/RedPillWives25/12/22 04:33 AM
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I like Japanese streetwear and alt style. But I keep my hair natural so I guess I look pretty normal.
/r/RedPillWives30/09/22 02:56 AM
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Yes. I’ve met a couple women who experienced stillbirth due to midwife negligence, and their stories of how they got sucked into the crunchy movement were just heartbreaking. They truly thought they were doing what was safest for their baby and themselves and they got so caught up in the experience of birth that they trusted the wrong person. It’s sickening. I saw there was even a Homemaking influencer on Instagram who was posting all this stuff about homebirth and why it was better and then she…
/r/RedPillWives12/08/22 05:32 PM
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Sometimes I get annoyed by all the freaking crunchy people in this movement. Pushing homebirth and extended breastfeeding on everyone, shamed for using makeup or enjoying a Starbucks. Like chill. I want to live my spoiled material girl dreams while also being a SAHM. Lay off. It’s weird because there’s overlap in the homemaker community with a lot of different beliefs, and even though I’m pretty conservative, I have ZERO interest in running a farm out of my backyard. Give me my city life, please…
/r/RedPillWives12/08/22 12:22 AM
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I’ve had success by complimenting and being affectionate right after my husband takes a shower, not drawing attention to the fact that I’m happy he showered, just kind of rub his shoulders and say “you smell sooooo good!” Then smile and leave the room. Then he showered more often. Worked quite quickly!
/r/RedPillWives01/08/22 12:37 AM
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Reread the empowered wife section on self care. It’s more than not neglecting your appearance! It’s to foster irresistible joy in your life. Write a list of self care items and rotate through them.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/22 05:18 PM
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Then I would say work on your respect and self care. It will naturally bring him back to that instinct to shower you with gifts.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/22 05:15 PM
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INFO: what was he like when you first got together?
/r/RedPillWives18/07/22 11:49 PM
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This OP! You can ignite the feelings in him of what it was like when he first met you by becoming interesting TO him. As always, I would recommend self care. Self care will model to him that you are worth gifting and treasuring. He will follow suit—they always do.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/22 11:48 PM
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Yes it’s perfectly normal: don’t let anyone belittle your dream. I see posts on social media of women complaining that they wish they could just be a housewife/SAHM, but they’re filling out spreadsheets instead. Almost all my friends are SAHM’s or only work part-time. It’s very normal in some parts of the US.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 08:03 PM
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I second this advice. Laura Doyle has interviewed women who turned around cheating husbands, lazy husbands, and even financially abusive husbands through her coaching. I strongly recommend getting relationship coaching through her academy! In the mean time, listen to the podcast episodes about infidelity. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWives01/01/22 10:10 PM
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I agree with this take. I’m sorry you’re going through this OP! It’s not right. I stayed a virgin until marriage but my fiancé was supportive. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to deal with this pressure. Xo
/r/RedPillWives18/12/21 09:54 PM
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There’s a good Laura Doyle podcast episode on this topic. I would stop nagging him to clean and instead reinforce the good behavior through encouragement and praise. Like when he DOES clean once a month, make a huge deal out of it and show how happy it makes you. As far as the boogers, it seems like he is showing you blatant disrespect (doing something that repulses you.) My only guess is that he must feel disrespected in some way, as he is actively seeking to upset you, rather than make you hap…
/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 03:04 PM
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I’m not talking about flippancy or irresponsibility of finances. You seem flippant towards the seriousness of your marital situation and irresponsible as a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 02:42 PM
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You sound flippant and irresponsible. A diagnosis and loss doesn’t give you free reign to act like this. I’m sure there’s more to this story.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 02:14 PM
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If you were a complete SAHM, I would say expect minimal help, but you’re also a student, so I think you deserve more than what you’re receiving. If he’s not willing to help but he’s willing to pay, I suggest having a babysitter come a couple times a week to give you a break.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 01:26 PM
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