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Being capable at these things are helpful- I never get screwed on repair costs and what not.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:55 PM
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I think the answer might be in creating a actual red pill women forum for actual red pill women. I think we all thought this was that page, but now are finding out that it is not. As he said, we are guests in their house.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:52 PM
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I am considering unsubbing as well. I am not particularly interested in having men online threaten to shut down a group for women for disagreeing with the men that come here to talk at us.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:51 PM
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Some people can't deal with their opinion being disagreed with
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:50 PM
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100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:49 PM
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I agree. I think that if mods want to enforce a certain set of beliefs that can't be questioned, they should be clearly laid out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:49 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:48 PM
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I think that anyone who blindly accepts all aspects of a group or philosphy is a sheep. Are there really people who just accept all aspects of RP or any other theory? I think a lot of the RP theories on how men and women relate to eacho ther in today's world is true. I think RP is right about how society lies to men and women are lied to by society at large about these issues, and it hurts their relationship potential. But I don't believe in the psuedoscientiic beliefs they put out- like the mos…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:47 PM
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Yes I am! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:33 PM
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It isn't about men living better or worse lives. It is about the basic human rights which women were denied. But yeah, I can see that we won't agree on the facts here.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:30 PM
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Thanks to no fault divorce, a woman can go back on her vow of marriage at any time for any reason So can men? You think men are afraid to ask fight for their children but are not afraid to go to war and die for their country? Absolutely I do. Men see serving in war as confirming their masculinity and alpha male status while taking care of babies hurts their alpha man status. Women initiate the vast majority of divorces. True. Psychologists attribute this to how marriage improves quality of life …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:20 PM
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You can't use a skewed statistic how is that statistic skewed? How many women died out of over tens of millions? Over what? tens of millions of years? Yes it happened but not to the extent that it was normalized behavior for every man in society. Sure. eye roll If you ignore all of the statistics about the widespread assault, abuse, and discrimination you can say it was an exception.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:14 PM
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Look I have no desire to continue talking to a "don't tell me what to do" man who wants to take all credit for things he had nothing to do with. The anti-science portion of TRP is the absolute worst part of it, and you're the embodiment of it. "We don't need scientists..." Please. You need all the help you can get.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:11 PM
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Because people are willing to do a lot of work to not carry an unwanted pregnancy? How is that hard to understand? Shouldn't women make smart decisions with sex if they know they don't want to deal with abortion, the natural risks of pregnancy or childbirth if they are capable rational beings? The same could be said for men. Birth control doesn't always work and people make mistakes. Part of it is the fault of terrible sex ed that we get. If everyone got good sex ed, condoms would be 90% effecti…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:04 PM
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I've learned a lot from RPW, but the biggest thing I've learned is that I don't want to date a guy who has ever read TRP lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:00 PM
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They were bought/sold and had no rights. It was legal to beat them for discipline.... a lot of similarities emerge.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:59 PM
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Meh. I think trying to judge other people's parenting skills based on 2-3 press conferences a week is a bit crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:58 PM
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Yes. Unfortunately, documentaries aren't a great source (which is why we have documentaries like What The Health based on absolutely no facts). The immune system study has been replicated but is based on genetics, not ovulation. I would be willing to bet that race is a factor- I would predict that men and women would prefer an interracial partner. The goal was to get a partner with very different genes for the immune system.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:57 PM
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I couldn't be a homemaker. I will always have to work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:52 PM
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My link was a meta-analysis of all of the studies on the subject (58 of them). It included every study ever done on sexual choice and ovulation. Because it is a meta-analysis, its results trump individual studies.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:52 PM
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It is interesting then, that women don't have an anger phase. Women are as burned by this society as men are, but we excuse anger of TRP but not RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:49 PM
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unless you have your favorite supplies you want them to use. All of those are great advice, but particularly this one. I didn't think about that. I have sensitive skin, so I use specific products.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:48 PM
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Of course they weren't. They wrote it while holding slaves and treating women like slaves.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 10:29 PM
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Emotions are determined by a complex interaction of about a dozen neurotransmitters and hormones. Testosterone, for example, is one of the most potent effectors of behavior which leads to aggression, impulse control, and irrationality. While around 20 different regions of the brain are sexually dimorphic, there is no male or female brain. The best neurobiologists in the world can't tell if someone is male or female by their brain alone. A woman is literally in between a man and child This is lit…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 10:28 PM
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I love home improvement. I can do most things on my own, but plumbing is where I draw the line. I've even replaced sections of a driveway before!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 10:15 PM
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If this place is full of women who are overcoming their basic tendencies, why would we possibly think it's acceptable for men to succumb to their basic tendencies? This is my biggest thing. On RPW we constantly are counseled to school our most basic instincts, while men on TRP are taught to embrace theirs and let the chips fall where they may. (Although that sentence could probably apply to most of human history lol)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:49 PM
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I'm trying the RPW advice of not cohabitating for a while this time. I have moved in fast two other times, and figure it is time for a change. Mostly I wanted the house because it is right near campus, needs the perfect amount of TLC for me to do on my own, and has a yard for my dog.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:48 PM
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I'd also mention that it is feminists fighting for alimony reform, just like it was feminists who fought for better working conditions, child labor laws etc. The state gives women full custody a majority of the time. Actually, men are just less likely to request full custody of the kids. Men request full custody about 34% of the time and receive it about 17% of the time. So when men ask for full custody, they're given it about half the time which is what should happen statistically speaking. I t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:27 PM
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Between 2001 and 2011 in the US, more women were killed by their partners than Americans killed in war. Women aren't treated all that well now, let alone historically. Crimes against women (like rape and domestic violence) weren't even registered as really being wrong until the last few decades when feminists pushed it. Hell, there are still some men who say "they're our wives/sisters/mothers" referencing the idea that someone raping your child was bad because it reduced their value rather than …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:12 PM
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I was wondering if he was hoping I'd move in with him soon, though he never expressed it clearly. But I am trying to avoid cohabiting for a while. He agreed that where I live while we are dating is not his decision. I explained that this isn't my dream home or anything. I think knowing I don't intend to live here for long helped. I have a sister coming up to the college town I live in now that I am planning on having rent it, which made him feel better too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:06 PM
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abortion is not going anywhere Abortion isn't even here fully. Women have to jump through a dozen non-scientific loops just to have a legally protected procedure. 25 states have abortion restrictions that are not based in science, but rather intend to make the procedure difficult to access. Most states have fewer than 5 clinics for the entire state, with many having only 1. This requires women to drive hours, stay in a hotel overnight, sometimes for several days (due to those restrictive laws), …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 09:03 PM
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If you consider Eleanor Roosevelt modern than yes I guess so
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:58 PM
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I like RPW because it acknowledges the flex in gender roles. I get so tired of having men pretend that there is some "dusting gene" that makes women better homemakers. I also get tired of women being blamed for anything wrong in a man's life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:57 PM
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I would say no then. Tell your boss you don't want to be the only person on the website. You won't flirt/use your looks to move products.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:56 PM
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There is no reason why men and women be equally represented in government. Studies have shown that people are more critical of female politicians, less likely to vote for them, and feel women are less adept at leadership. Female teachers are consistently rated worse than their male peers, often on terms of leadership. (My favorite example of this used online classes and divided the classes in half: half thought the teacher was male, half female. Other than that they had the exact same experience…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:55 PM
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Since women still don't have equal access to health care (71 bills have been entered to control women's health care this year alone) among other things, I think it is hard to say that the activism job is done.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:48 PM
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I am referencing here the declaration of independence. I forget and use American-centric references a lot. When the declaration of independence was written, it uses the word equal to mean equally valuable, deserving of rights, and legal protection. "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness. That to secure these rights, Governments…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:44 PM
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Women are on the hook for alimony by the same rules as men. It is simply rarer due to women being less likely to make significantly more money than their husband. Same thing applies to unfair divorce court settlements. Women who make significantly more than their husbands are just as likely to lose a lot in a settlement. Child support is to pay for the child you won't be living with. I am always shocked that men have children and then are so against providing for them. It has always been a littl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:42 PM
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No affair-- whether conducted by a man or a woman-- is a harmless excursion. No truer words on this thread
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:22 PM
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I agree. So many of TRP social theory posts require that men and women aren't truly sexual beings, just reproductive beings. Which just isn't true.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:16 PM
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I think cheating being a deal breaker is incredibly specific to the relationship. Cheating will always be a deal breaker for me. But I would never be so conceited as to claim that because it works that way for me, it will work that way for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:14 PM
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As soon as he makes statements about women, we become essentialized cardboard cut outs. I think that is the real problem with TRP. Men who are RP don't seem to grasp that women are whole people.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:10 PM
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if you're a man who's been burned before or you realize how others have been burned, why would you want to play the game altogether? You act like women have never been burned, have never been rejected, or didn't get the same bad information from society before RP. And yet women figure it out....
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:08 PM
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Completely agree. Here, if your husband cheats everyone asks if you've put on weight, how much sex were you having, how often do you do your hair ect. At TRP if your wife cheats, AWALT! I often think of them as two totally separate movements. The type of women that most ladies here at RPW are looking for won't be found on TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:06 PM
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Totally agree. I'm terrified of ending up with a man who thinks women "are" sex. or many of the other TRP "truths"
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:05 PM
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But the OP doesn't say that this is true and we can move above it. He says that men can cheat and not destroy a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:04 PM
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I think a lot of that comes from so many women being raised to revile porn and find it immoral. Just another reason we need comprehensive sex ed.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:03 PM
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While the immune research has been replicated many times, modern science has repeatedly failed to correlate a woman's sexual selection with her ovulation cycle. http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1754073914523073
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 08:01 PM
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My least favorite part of TRP is the half-baked evolutionary biology attempts. The evolution of monogamy is incredibly complicated. There is always a drive between quantity and quality for both sexes. In many species, monogamy evolved due to a lack of partners. In others, like humans, it evolved in part because of the difficulty in independently raising an offspring. A second parental unit ensured that the offspring survived to reproduce. The more effort must be put into an offspring, the more l…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:58 PM
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Any theories on why he didn't want me to move into a house? I was living in the apartment I shared with my boyfriend previously (he moved in with a friend during the break up). I really didn't want to stay there, and agreed with the Ex to move out and sign the lease over to him. New guy was all on board until I said I wanted to buy a house that I had been looking at for some time anyway. Then he was pushing rentals. Buying a house is so much smarter and I have the money... it seemed odd.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:14 PM
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I stay off TRP. Too many angry, women hating men there; it is just frustrating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:10 PM
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It depends on your job, but I would feel uncomfortable with it, especially with your boss being so direct. My boss did a similar thing to me once- they used me to be in the photos published at a conference of our lab because I am quite pretty and not what you typically see at these conferences. It made me uncomfortable at the time: I've gotten to where I am by sheer hard work and intelligence. I didn't like having my achievements distilled down to a pretty picture of me in a lab coat.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:08 PM
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Not really! I had a minor surgical procedure yesterday and he even stayed with me/drove me home. I guess we had a bit of an argument about me moving into a house that I still can't wrap my mind around, but he admits he was being controlling and has helped a lot with the move/setting up. And the sex has been great (probably TMI lol sorry)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:03 PM
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"If you can't handle me at smash your TV, then you don't deserve me at undercooked chicken for dinner due to lack of diligence." LOL! But yeah, I've always read it as sometimes things will be harder than others. If you can't be supportive when things are hard, why would I want you around when things are easy?
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 07:00 PM
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My response is in how it was tarnished. Men are so afraid of feminism that it wasn't until about a year ago I finally admitted to myself and the world that I am one. I worried men wouldn't want to date me, or would find me less appealing. Then I grew up and realized that a man afraid of gender equality isn't one I would want to date anyways so why am I worried? After that realization, I really did begin to see how anti-feminist men really are just so insecure in their masculinity. i think that i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:59 PM
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Yep! But none of that is Melania's fault.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:56 PM
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I agree- I think some of this might just be that OPs friends/group is very angry and jealous.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:55 PM
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In the US women have full reproductive rights/authority while men are still held responsible. A man has no legal say in whether to abort or keep a baby, but he is legally required to financially support the baby regardless of his decision. There is an imbalance in responsibility and authority here that is hard to ignore. Women do not have full reproductive freedom. Every few years, a politican wants to ban birth control. Politicians constatly are sticking themselves into decisions that should be…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:53 PM
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YESSSSS! Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:39 PM
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I think some of this comes from a fundamental misunderstanding of feminsim. It isn't a political party with specific leaders and a platform. It is simply the belief that men and women are created equal.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:39 PM
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I still consider myself a second wave feminst because the job they set out to do isn't done yet :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:38 PM
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Unfortunately, there are a lot of people on TRP who honestly do oppose these things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:37 PM
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They claim to be two sides of the same coin. But yeah, I think that a lot of TRP are actually just really, really angry beta males, so the values don't jive. As much as they talk, they don't embody what they claim TRP is about.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:36 PM
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As a brand, feminism is obviously completely tarnished. Probably because men feel so afraid of that word. I saw a great post on it: Men are afraid of feminism because they worry that women want to take power and treat men the way men have treated women for the past thousand years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:35 PM
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Women have been given all the rights their grandmothers have ever dreamt of and then some. Women today have an abundance of rights but they aren't held responsible to the same degree. What responsibiliy are women lacking?
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:32 PM
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Feminism did successfully kill the patriarchy Until women and men are equally represented in government, it is hard to say that we aren't in a patriarchal society, given that men are actively making the decisions for the society. Although most women being forced to be in the stressful rat race instead of having a family has also crashed their happiness most studies have found This is mostly true for women who have taken on full time work, but whose partners have not taken on their share of homem…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:31 PM
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Does being RPW really mean you have to be totally opposed to feminism? Being a feminist fundamentally means that you believe in the equality of the sexes. If you believe that all men and women are created equal, you are a feminist. Feminism is not a political party with specific leaders and a platform; so you can be a feminist without agreeing with everything other feminists say. It is just a belief in the equality of the sexes. So I think RPW and feminism can coincide- they do with me :) Can a …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:26 PM
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First ladies have been taking on civic and social roles since Dolly Madison in the 1800s, and it was formalized by Eleanor Roosevelt, who was the first to form a staff.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:20 PM
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He isn't beholden to special interests and lobbying groups, he's only beholden to the American people But he did appoint almost exclusively coorporate big wigs to his cabinet. Many of them meet only with lobbiests and may as well still be lobbiests themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:17 PM
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I think it is very silly to try and judge someone's parenting skills based on the few hours a week we see them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:15 PM
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It drives me crazy how liberal democrats will talk about how xenophobic Trump is, and then make fun of Melania'a accent. Or talk about how women have the right to do whatever they want with their bodies, but then they slut shame Melania for having posed naked
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:14 PM
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I don't think there is any evidence that Melania was anything but legal while here. I do think his xenophobia has to hurt her feelings though. Michelle obama didn't immediately move to the white house- the girls finished out their school year too. It just wasn't as expensive because they lived in a house in Chicago, not a downtown new york high rise.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:13 PM
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it might land better with people than her work on her chosen cause of anti-bullying. It definitely can't land any worse. I really wish she would have chosen something else.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:10 PM
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There is excellent evidence that smoking weed before 25 will damage your brain, reduce impulse control, increase chance of diabetes, weight gain, and memory loss later in life. Totally agree.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:07 PM
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I also have a dog who requires like 2 hour long walks so that’s been helping me. Try jogging portions of it and doing hills I also wear a waist cincher when I wear clothes that are tight and it has me looking good but obv it’s not a solution lol Using a waist cincher without doing proper workouts can actually result in more flab that looks very awkward because you don't make your body do the work of maintaining posture. So if you're going to wear it, make sure you are doing an ab workout every d…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:05 PM
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to be taught how to prioritize it and smoke responsibly. I also think it is important to note that if weed is illegal where OP lives, there really isn't a way to responsibly smoke it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:03 PM
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stop shoplifting. I second that
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:02 PM
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So at 16, I think your focus should be building yourself into the best version of you, rather than dating or attracting a man. I think that you need to plan out some long term goals, and then you can figure out the small steps that you should be taking now to make it there. Are you planning to go to college? You didn't mention anything about how you do in school. Are you hoping to get married and have some kids? If so, do you want to be the most healthful version of yourself in order to do that?…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 06:00 PM
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I have always taken this quote differently from everyone else. To me, it is like an informal version of marriage vows. If you can't be there for me when I'm pregnant, big as a whale, and puking up dinner, then you don't deserve me when I'm rocking my 6 pack abs and fixing you dinner. If you can't be there for me when I've got the flu and need to be driven to the hospital, then you don't deserve me when I'm taking care of our home, working, and caring for our children. It is the "for better or fo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:55 PM
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I've never seen an OYS but I love the motivation Mondays/beginning of the month posts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:52 PM
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I stuck with it. We are exclusively dating (not sure how that is different from exclusively in a relationship, but the exclusive is the part I care about). So far, I think I've been more reasonable in my desires (as recommended here) and he is keeping up. He's taking me on a trip in a few weeks, so I'm pretty excited about that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 05:40 PM
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Totally agree. This is a follow-up to my other comment. I probably should have just edited the first one. I consider myself a feminist.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:33 PM
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Probably the women who say "I'm not like other girls". They think that by acting into this masculine role they'll get more guys
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:32 PM
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I disagree with those opinions, but also don't think you should be banned from a thread for them! People hate discussion anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:31 PM
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But for the people saying no one on TRP says women shouldn't vote 1 2 3 4 5 Just off of a super quick search
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:25 PM
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I think this is some of the disconnect between TRP and RPW. There are a decent number of "men" on TRP who absolutely revile women. They are so hateful that it is hard to even find it offensive; it is mostly just sad. I don't think any normal man thinks women shouldn't vote.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:21 PM
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That's really thoughtful of you. I like this sub because everyone here has a goal, and everyone here supports you in attaining that goal. Other subs (even one's that claim to focus on motivation/goal setting) don't really support or help you at all.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:19 PM
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Lol! I wasn't even posting about women's issues!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:18 PM
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They have "not allowed" subs???
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:17 PM
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People are sooooo childish
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:17 PM
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Everyone has a choice on how they act. Everyone has the option to be honest or to lie. I see how they believe lying is in their best interest and feel badly for them, but it is still frustrating.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:16 PM
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I've seen more than one man on TRP recommend physically disciplining a wife in a similar manner
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 06:50 PM
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That makes sense! Just curious :) I was worried I had my flair set up wrong!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 06:29 PM
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The funny thing is that I identify as a feminist. I firmly believe in gender equality under the law. I firmly believe that most differences between men and women are a result of psychology, not biology (TRP seems to think its in the DNA). But that doesn't change the fact that the men I'd like to date have been raised with a different psychology than I have, and understanding it will help me be more successful (and happy) in the dating game as well as in my same sex friendships.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 04:15 PM
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Post of TRP is against abortion rights, so it isn't as on point to them
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:47 PM
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I think it is a reference to this kind of idea
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:46 PM
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Gah we only got out of that in the past hundred years. Lets not go back into it :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:41 PM
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LMAO
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:40 PM
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I've been close friends with him for 10 years and known him since we were 5. She's known him a year. It would be impossible for me to not know him better. She knows him differently of course because I've never dated him. Yes, I've always known he can forgive anything. He's forgiven cheaters in the past. I find it so frustrating that women are so sensitive that you can't say anything without them flying off the handle. But at this point, I am going to let it go. When it breaks up the engagement, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:39 PM
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I guess I'll make a new one for my other stuff. That sucks
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:27 PM
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I think it's crazy that we have to log in and out of accounts because some people are creepers. My post was about what thing does society tell you is good but then you get made fun of for it. I guess it is kind of red pill in nature in that we recognize that just because society tells us to act or look a certain way doesn't mean people will actually like it. But 4,000 people looked at it, 111 thought it was a good post, and a ton commented on it. It was really interesting to see how common that …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:26 PM
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I'm with you- I don't consider myself fully red pill. Mostly I like this sub because everyone is honest. No one lies to protect your feelings. I'm sure not everyone likes that, but I like having a place where I can get actual advice. I also like talking to women that are goal driven and focused like I am.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:24 PM
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That's crazy. It has been well established that birth control can change your sex drive. That isn't necessarily a reason to not use it, but it is a clear fact.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:23 PM
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ask women and twoxchromosomes have both had issues with it
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 03:22 PM
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Yes! That is one i use that I forgot. I find that a gratitude journal really helps me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 02:11 PM
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I really thought I was being a good friend. I know my male friend will be horrified by this gift. It may cost her a husband.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 02:10 PM
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She claims that she is born again, and he believes it. As far as I know, she hasn't cheated. I believe she would tell me if she had. She's been a better friend since dating him (I have never been one for sleeping around). I thought maybe he had had a positive effect on her.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 08:00 PM
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Regardless of their reasoning, I think that they're anger is a turn-off for many reasonable men and women interested in the theory. So the tl;dr of my comment is that you can ignore all of that hate/anger/immaturity and take what works for you
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:33 PM
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lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:31 PM
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I did when they started dating
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:30 PM
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I warned him when they started dating. I was worried about compatibility issues. I like this girl but would say my allegiances are to my male friend.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 06:30 PM
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She wanted help picking a place and for me to go with her. Or, if you have to offer it, do it in a way that is only partially critical. For example, support the shoot but not the timing of the gift. This will minimize your friend being put on the defensive. That is really good advice
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:19 PM
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Make your goals and then break them down. How much weight do you want to lose? For 5'9", a healthy BMI is 128-169 pounds. Of course, BMI is not the best metric of health, but it is a good jumping off point. Once you've picked your target weight, break that down. You can realistically lose 8-0 pounds per month. So set those monthly goals. Then break it down again: what do you need to do every week to make that happen? A second goal might be a muscle tone goal- maybe you want to do a certain numbe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:17 PM
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If you stop lifting because of pregnancy, you'll lose your muscle tone
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:12 PM
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I like the bullet system because even if you only have 2 minutes, you can put something meaningful down. Traditional journaling always intimidated me: some days I just didn't have a lot to say, some days I felt like I couldn't write it all out. It just seemed awkward. This method helps me a lot. I think part of that is because it's a very goal oriented form of journaling.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:05 PM
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Being mindful has never worked for me- I'm an active kind of person. I give the same advice to everyone trying to make new habits, but I honestly think it works. Get yourself a journal- I use bullet journaling because it works really well for tracking a bunch of different things. It is easy, customizable, and good for people who may not like a traditional journal. Page types I think would help you: Organize your cleaning schedule so that the home is always neat and orderly- even better if you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:59 PM
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This is the classic example of why women choose not to be RP and go back to feminism. A man so vile and sad that you have to wonder about all of his compatriots. This is the kind who probably celebrates St. Elliot's Day
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:47 PM
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Thanks! I want to be the kind of woman who builds others up, so I was pretty shocked by the accusation. I can always count on the ladies here to give it to me straight.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:01 PM
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I think that you should try initiating non-intercourse intimacy. It might help him get over the bump and get back to normal. Also, congrats on the baby, and it's amazing you've managed to keep yourself in such good shape throughout!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:36 PM
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I'm relatively new here, but I notice from reading the the red pill (reddit for men) and red pill women, that they don't always jive together, which makes it a lot harder to understand what the whole thing is about I think r/lettheflamedie did a really good job of explaining why that is: the men on TRP tend to be angry and lashing out at women in general, which makes it hard to get a sense of the theory. They have a lot of posts about how stupid and worthless women are for anything but sex, but …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:34 PM
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A mature man's mission is always number one If that wasn't your intent, then you should work on making points more clearly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:16 PM
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I have plenty of actually kind male friendships. The whole thing about Nice Guys is that they lie about what they want. They pretend they want a friendship, but in reality, they want to sleep with me. If you want a romantic relationship with me, ask. If you want a one night stand, ask (the answer will be no in my case but at least you know). But if you want one of these things, don't pretend to be a platonic friend only to get mad when I tell you I am seeing a new guy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:14 PM
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I'm just curious- what is up with your flair? It's pink, but you say you're a dude. And what does AMWF mean?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:29 PM
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Most nice guys don't actually call themselves nice guys Exactly my point! :) Guys who call themselves nice guys are usually manipulative jerks most alphas don't call themselves alphas So freaking true! I notice that most guys who call themselves alpha are just beta's who try too hard.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:23 PM
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Remember that RPW is a sexual strategy- generally, people recommend against dating within the workplace. When you're at work: blend into the culture of the place Stand up for yourself. Be competent and confident. If you ask for a favor, make sure you repay that favor. But also make sure that you don't end up taking on more than your fair share- women are more likely to be asked for favors, and I bet this is compounded in a 24/7 environment. Keep up your workouts On your time off, just follow the…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:19 PM
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I think this is a really interesting concept. I agree that men tend to have that hero complex.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:12 PM
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"Sociopath" is the old term for someone with anti-social personality disorder. ASPD is characterized by a lack of sympathy/empathy and general care for others. So when you say that a real man should only ever care about himself, you are suggesting he act like a sociopath. That becomes ironic when you tell someone else they sound like a sociopath.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:11 PM
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unless the relationship is quite new, and then she would need to take a step back from his life I think this is an important point. It isn't necessarily an immediate no if a guy has close female friends. You have to wait and see how everone responds as the relationship develops. A good female friend will recognize that her relationship with him must grow and change.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:03 PM
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I think that it is reasonable to expect to be the closest woman and most important person in my SO's life. When I finally get married, that man will be the closest man and most important person in my life. I think that it is wonderful to find a man that has a great relationship with his mother and/or sisters, but a marriage is meant to have two people in it, not 3 or 4. You have to be his number 1.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 08:01 PM
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I am so so very sorry that you have to deal with racists. I'm glad you're happy with who you are and how you've chosen to live your life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 07:59 PM
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Interesting! Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:55 PM
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Turns out when act like a guy you get treated like a guy haha! I think that's the most important part. I think that you can like all the sports, but like them like a girl, and never have problems.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:51 PM
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It is my opinion that the Nice GuysTM are just trying a different manipulation tactic to get women to sleep with them. No man who is legitimately nice has ever called himself a nice guy. There is a subreddit called Nice guys that is full of examples lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:44 PM
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I've always thought that was for weak men. But I probably am not fully RPW. I do think that too much confidence intimidates a lot of men. But think about it like you're choosing a sweater. If you are feeling great about yourself, you'll probably pick the birgh red one with the cool neck line. If you're feeling crappy about your weight and a skin problem, you'll probably choose a grey one that will help you blend in, even though it isn't as pretty or as good of fabric. Same concept with men: you …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:40 PM
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That would be so hard for me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 05:01 PM
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I agree with most of the advice given here. Have your phone put away so your hands are clear, look around you and notice what is going on, and smile. And if someone approaches you whom you aren't interested in, don't be a jerk. Even on a huge campus, you'd be surprised how many people will hear about a brutal shutdown.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:10 PM
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When you're expereiencing an uncontrolled depressive bout, you're going to have self esteem issues that lead you to settle. Plus guys that you could usually pull can sense that and will move along.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:04 PM
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Does that apply to anything in general? This is your personal opinion I know, but I'm just curious. So like I have a particular birth defect that i had surgery to correct (short ligament made a joint not work right). I occassionally still have pain from it. However, I've had the surgery, done all the PT and live an incredibly active life style (training to run The Marathon in Greece in the spring). So does the fact that I had this issue that always has the potential to flair up, requiring anothe…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:02 PM
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Men like solving problems. It's fine to ask for help solving a problem if you actually want to solve it. I think this is the hard part for men when dating someone with uncontrolled depression- they can't actually solve the problem because the partner needs medical care.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:00 PM
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I've never been in a (sexual) relationship with someone with depression. However, my nearest and dearest friend has pretty terrible depression and has for years. I think that really close friendships have something in common with relationships, so I'll comment on my own experience, knowing that it won't be the same for everyone. I found that they wanted me to be their therapist, and I'm not. I am a friend. So while I will support them no matter what, they need to be seeking actual medical help. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:58 PM
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I think that if you're considering THC as support for your panic disorder, neither belong in the list :) But really agree with Juneburger, smoking anything is dangerous to your health. Consider edibles.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:53 PM
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Not wanting animals isn't a con :) There are plenty of men who would agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:52 PM
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I don't think videogames or watching football really belongs in the cons list. But I do think you're right if you're trying to be one of the guys, it will never work out for a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:51 PM
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What time do you go to bed?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:40 PM
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Disclaimer: I am not a mom, and I feel like that baby is going to totally change your time management, so this advice may not be applicable. I think you should downsize your "getting ready" routine and simplify it. So if doing your hair every day just isn't going to happen, find a way for it to overnight style, or air dry ready. Or look for some cute up dos. This pinterest page has a bunch of really simple, casual up dos that no one would say are you not getting ready. I would also check out som…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:38 PM
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I'm very submissive in the bedroom, but not at all submissive out of it. I find it is pretty common among my IRL friends.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 12:10 AM
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I don't really know the cards, but the water and the play were her interpretations.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 12:09 AM
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Yep! But for some reason, RP doesn't like to talk about it
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 12:08 AM
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I suppose that would depend on your definition of shallow then.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 12:08 AM
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I think men and women both like to have what they can't. I think that is where the myth of women liking mean men comes from. I see the same thing in guys chasing bitchy women a lot, so I'm not sure why its not a stereotype too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 06:57 PM
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So I just want to share the story of my first tarot reading given by a girl I was in college with. One of my friends went missing and it was stressful. I participated in the searches but after a week there was still nothing. My friend offered to read for me. The reading kept coming up with water and play which didn't make a whole lot of sense given the details of the story. So I kind of forgot about it- I didn't really believe in this stuff anyways. 6 weeks later, my friend was found in the rive…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 05:47 PM
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Totally agree. Most Nice GuysTM are just beta assholes pretending to be nice. They are jerks who have no interest in you but just want to bang, but they don't have the balls to just try and enter a sexual relationship with you. Instead they fake being interested in you as a whole person, they try and manipulate and scheme there way into your pants. Totally agree that RP has good advice for helping these guys get out of that mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 05:44 PM
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I'd rather have a guy who is kind, interesting, and funny outside of the bedroom and dominant inside. I think a lot of men forget that you can be dominant and kind. Being dominant is not the same as being demeaning, angry, or cruel. If your dominance can be mistaken for abuse, then you aren't actually an alpha guy. You're a beta trying to project alpha and don't really know what is.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 05:42 PM
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No worries on the stalking :) Lol- yeah I get that the end goal is sex. But if they actually want to talk to me (real also as fuck me), it just seems weird that they don't approach at convenient times ect
/r/askTRP13/09/17 02:40 PM
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And looking further back than that, women have always done more than child rearing/homemaking. In the early human tribes (and their sapiens brothers) women provided about 80% of the food for the tribe as well as doing most of the building. Men periodically hunted for that remaining 20% and did defense work.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:59 PM
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I think when I hire someone to come weekly, I would want an independent. My guess is that they will care more. Plus it will be the same person every time and I would like to have a rapport with anyone who is going to be in my home. My experience with agency ladies is that they tend to not really care about the work. I move into a house in a few weeks and was thinking I would hire someone then. If I don't have friends with cleaners, how do I find someone like you who likes their job and seems to …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:58 PM
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I would ignore this one. The guys who come in angry very rarely have any good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:56 PM
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Is this the demand of his career intermittently, ie every 6 months or every time a big sale is closed? Seasonally? A one off because of a company merger or big fire to put out? For yourself, you need to get a sense of how often these periods of long, late, exhausting shifts will occur and how long they last Totally agree
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:54 PM
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Any update on your chemical peels? --Skin care junkie
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:50 PM
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I am a HUGE HP fan, but not at all a fan of the movies. I definitely don't consider them canon.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:50 PM
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Left over splits Finish "Inferior" Hiked my trail
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:48 PM
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Totally agree. Someone who cheats (male or female) is a weak willed person. I see people constantly trying to blame the cheated on spouse, but nope. No way. I think that cheaters have some innate character flaw- you never meet someone who has only cheated once. Edit: I agree that we have certain biological urges (men want more, women want better). But we are more than the sum of our instincts. You will be happiest when you understand your natural instinct, not necessarily when you act upon it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:45 PM
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I agree. I'm not particularly interested in children. I do think I'll want them eventually, but I have several older friends with absolutely no interest. I don't like the argument that we are all animals and so we should do as the other animals. Yes we all have animal instincts and drives, but we have so much more than that too. Following your instinct isn't going to necessarily make you the happiest.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:02 PM
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I didn't know there was an app! I use a bullet journal, but I will have to look for an app now.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:00 PM
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I've never used an independent cleaner when I've used them before. Just the services that send out 1-2 people who are paid minimum wage. I think when I was a kid my mom had an independent lady come out.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 01:57 PM
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Yeah that is fair
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 04:02 PM
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I was just pointing out that women aren't particularly shallow creatures. When looking for someone to spend time with, they usually prefer a companion in the same age bracket. That has nothing to do with her own SMV, but I believe is often ignored by TRP that don't really understand how to read the studies. Obviously, people's SMV changes with age.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 03:51 PM
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Why should I do a minimum wage job when I'm worth $50/hr? Totally agree! I will be outsourcing the housework when that time comes. It doesn't take any skill to run the vacuum, so I'm going to stick to my skilled labor But I don't think I could be a SAHM. I would just be bored. I need my job, I need to keep learning.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:48 AM
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Women's perception of SMV also changes. Studies have shown that women are more sexually attracted to a man who appears closer to their age vs men who are always most attracted to a young twenties woman.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:40 AM
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I think that if I am 25, 26 and not close to married or married I will be re-evaluating my standards (maybe I'm asking more than my market value if you know what I mean). But for now, no I won't date beneath my standards.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:38 AM
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I always thought the SO posts are the sign of a failing relationship
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:36 AM
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Of course, this can quickly go into sanctimommy territory I was going to mention that the women I know that I would classify as more RP tend to be huge sanctimommies, which makes me thing that they're just faking it. The parents whom I know are good parents raising happy kids (both blue and red) tend to be about 75% happy, 25% exasperated with their kids.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:35 AM
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This seems more in line with what I thought y'all were about lol
/r/askTRP11/09/17 05:33 AM
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Looking to date. I find that very few guys are as dedicated to fitness as I am, so it makes sense to not scare the guys at the gym away. It isn't so much that I want them to approach me (I don't really feel on my A game there as far as dating) but that they do, and I'm not sure how to make the most of the opportunity because I don't get what they're thinking.
/r/askTRP11/09/17 05:32 AM
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Erm I wear pretty standard workout gear. Leggings/yoga pants, sports bra, and a tank. So many FRs on gym approach, I missed that it wasn't a RP concept. Thanks for the info
/r/askTRP11/09/17 05:30 AM
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I would start a home workout system if you don't like the gyms near yoga mat, set of dumbells, and resistance bands should get you through any home workout to start. I find 30 day fitness challenges on pinterest and try to complete 1-2 every month. I think having that whole month of things planned helps me. I also set up a reward for it. So this month I'm doing an abs and arms one. If I get 28/30 days done, I will go get a manicure. I set more weekly rewards too. I love new workout clothes. I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:28 AM
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Yes. Sex is a big deal to me- a guy with a super high n count obviously doesn't share my value system.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:20 AM
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Holy crap people are mean on those... I've been scrolling through.... dang
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:10 AM
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They actually took a baseline from people, then had them go to the gym more and saw an improvement in lab self-control studies. So this was not a correlation experiment.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 06:12 PM
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Two separate mistakes that are not on the same level.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:28 PM
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Meditation isn't for me either- I journal instead. I take time for thoughtful quiet time instead of trying to empty my head. I like yoga a lot but have to do a guided one
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:28 PM
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Thanks for the input
/r/askTRP06/09/17 09:19 PM
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Thanks for your response! I have been surprised that they aren't more in tune with the gym flow. Thought maybe this was that frame thing I keep hearing about and I was possibly failing the test.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 09:19 PM
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Thanks!
/r/askTRP06/09/17 09:18 PM
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No big deal if this isn't the right place to ask. Just got the advice on RPW a few times about what men are thinking and thought I'd give it a try :)
/r/askTRP06/09/17 08:25 PM
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eye roll
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 08:25 PM
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Thanks I'll delete this one and post.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 08:14 PM
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I subscribed to see that after seeing people post about it... gah it's depressing... why are people not having sex??? I just don't get it! Sex is the easiest part of the relationship, so how is this people's problem area? *edited to make my meaning more clear
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 08:10 PM
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That's kind of what I was thinking. I'd like to have my own home rather than renting. But not until I'm a bit more settled. I'll amazon that :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:59 PM
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I'm great at having panic attacks when I overthink things... I do tend to be stressed over probably too many things... I would suggest taking up some habbits to try and reduce your stress and anxiety... yoga, journaling, cardio... all good things
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:56 PM
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I feel like very few men actually care what their partner is bringing in unless they're financially hurting. If you guys were losing your house while he rakes it in and you pick up pennies, then it might be a problem. I think you guys do need to talk about your finances because if he wants to live outside of your means, then he will need to put more money up. As an example from my own life: My current boyfriend makes a ton of money while I'm still in grad school. He wants to travel this thanksgi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:53 PM
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When he person cheated, it is always a him problem. Her weight gain might have been a her problem. Their taking their relationship for granted is a their problem. But she did not cheat.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:46 PM
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Gaining weight is not a violation of the relationship... sleeping around is.... I think that is the point.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:43 PM
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would you be able to fully trust him again, knowing he has cheated on you now? This was my concern. I know I wouldn't be able to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:42 PM
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My first thought was that any man who cheats after that long will never really be remorseful and will be hard to ever trust again. But after reading your story, I do think that you guys could make it. I think you are going to have to be honest about your needs from him though or it won't work. There is an excellent chance that the next time he travels you're going to freak. He needs to know that your trust will have to be earned through time and commitment. It is his fault that you are insecure …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:39 PM
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Never touch Bitcoin except you are 100% sure to invest it in something which promises a return of investment over the price increase of bitcoin itself. Yeah I was worried about it crashing, but not anymore. I think its just going to keep climbing. I'm thinking I will use it for a down payment on a house in a few years. Never tell anyone you have bitcoin. Never_ever!! Why?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 05:31 PM
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I think I'm going to hold for a while. But I've never had so much money in my life as I've got sitting in bitcoin
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 02:37 PM
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For my birthday in high school, a friend bought me 20 coins. I think it was around $1 a coin then but am not sure as I found it a funny joke (kind of like buying someone lottery tickets) and moved on. Then last year when it was ~$600 a coin my friend texted to see if I still had them- he didn't want any just wanted to make sure I had access. Now I follow it pretty dang close.... not sure when I should pull out.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 02:04 AM
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Did your TJD come on suddenly or have you had it a while?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 10:38 PM
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Good call!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 10:35 PM
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Some of these look really interesting- particularly bitcoin! It's always fun to find someone else who dabbles in cryptocurrency :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 10:35 PM
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0 --> dildo... .this is the beast measurement system ever
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 03:06 PM
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That is a weird gift. If I were him, I would have wanted to get you something that proves how much I think of you (given that I was apologizing for not thinking of you and forgetting our date). But it seems clear from your post that anyone who knows you would know this isn't a good gift. I think you should just tell him that making a joke out of you being upset with him makes you more upset. In the future, you would prefer a sincere apology.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 03:05 PM
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What books are you going to read? :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 03:02 PM
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As in no cellulite This is not a realistic goal. Cellulite is the result of how a female body stores fat. You would be in great shape at 20% body fat, but won't get rid of your cellulite. Even women with 15% body fat deal with it. Even losing 5% body fat is not realisitc in a month. Most experts agree that about 1% is safe and doable in a month. x I don't want to be down on your goals, but firmly believe that realistic goals are necessary or we just end up frustrated
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:56 PM
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Why make an exception for honey? Just curious.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:50 PM
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So I try and break my goals down into categories and get something in each category. Health and fitness • Drink 100 ounces of water each day • Do one aerobic workout daily • Lift 3 times a week • Get my left and center oversplits, my right regular splits Personal growth • Wake up by 6:40 each day • Finish my book, “Inferior: How Science Got Women Wrong” Work • Finish my manuscript • Read one paper a day during the work week for a total of 21 papers this month Relationships • Connect with friends…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:49 PM
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TMJ?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:21 PM
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What time do you work out?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:19 PM
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This is good advice. I've been working on it. I notice if I let my sleep schedule get off on the weekend, it takes me until about Wednesday to get back on track.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:19 PM
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When I was in high school, I woke up at 4 am every day to be to workouts by 4:30. Now I struggle to get up at 6:40 for a 7 am work out. The only thing that really gets me up is knowing someone is waiting on me. I'm not sure if you could figure out a ride share with a classmate to help motivate you to get up? I put my alarm clock across the room to try and help me get out of bed. But unfortunately, I'm very capable of getting up, turning it off, and getting back into bed
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:18 PM
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I just mean that guys are so worried about whether they are 5 inches or 5.5 inches... that doesn't matter. Nor is a 10-inch dick desirable lol
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 02:14 PM
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You would probably enjoy this article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21876159 I can email it to you if you don't have access to the journal :)
/r/askTRP01/09/17 02:53 PM
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The effect of menstrual cycle on female sexual preference was lost when they powered up the study. It isn't accepted by the field anymore. There have been a few that have tried to recreate the findings and haven't done so successfully. Here's a link to one, if you can't open it, let me know and I can email it to you. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3098346/ But the disproved research basically said that when your lady is fertile, she will prefer more masculinity compared to the rest…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 07:05 PM
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Super shitty. Hospitals need to get up with the times on this- supreme court ruled you don't need your spouses permsision for sterilization procesdures, but so many hosptials still require it. Details on how to fight that here if anyone needs them
/r/TheRedPill31/08/17 06:48 PM
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Just wanted to share my experience with these exact questionaires (although as the rules say as a woman I am not asking to make the thread about me, still let me know if not ok and I can delete). I did have to check yes on some of those boxes, and it did not stop me from getting my birth control (Implanon implant) nor did they file a police report. I was offered that I could talk to someone about it, but informed them I did not want to do so. When I asked why they did that, they said it was part…
/r/TheRedPill31/08/17 06:44 PM
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So you seem to be lumping sarcasm and negativity together and contrasting it with positive/nice/feminine all lumped together. I think it is wrong to say that sarcasm is inherently negative or unfeminine. I think it often can be used that way, but think that your focus should be on being positive rather than not using sarcasm. I've been working on the negativity thing a lot recently. I want to be the kind of person that makes others feel better/happier. But I think sarcasm can be a part of it. Bu…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 06:31 PM
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Maybe she likes he comes home for dinner twice a week, and he has to change his schedule to do it, but it's manageable he does it to make her happy. I really like that you mention men need to compromise in a good relationship too. I think too often we focus on what we can compromise on and never talk about asking our SOs to change.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/17 04:46 PM
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Engaged or not, if he's that controlling, you're in for a wild ride. Get out before your submissiveness becomes a biblical/sin issue, particularly if he's going to abuse that obligation to funnel into a controlling nature on his part. I will agree to this part
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:56 PM
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Everyone at my job is very casual and I work with kids so am outside a lot of the time. If you start wearing dresses and stilettos there is an excellent chance you will be bad at your job and lose it. He needs to get over himself on that one. I am also worried about the long term effects of wearing heels every day. Yep. You're right. Wearing heels all the time isn't practical or particualrly healthy. If you do end up doing it though, check this out to help prevent too much damage. he doesn't wan…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:54 PM
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The interesting thing for me is that I like a lot of the advice RPW gives (I feel like it is more honest rather than just trying to make you feel good), but don't subscribe to TRP at all. It is actually part of my vetting criteria to try and ensure I never end up with a guy who has read the forum.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:49 PM
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My guess is you're looking in the wrong place then.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 06:27 PM
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This. All of this. I think feminism is important because women need the ability to choose. Even on this page we see a lot of women making different choices and we already have a lot in common. Young marriage working out is a statistical abnormality, not the norm. That isn't meant to knock anyone who did it because someone has to win the lottery right? But I think basing your life on being the statistical anomoly is a bad call.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 06:25 PM
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Yep! And you would find that women are less and less able to breast feed subsequent children, when in reality most women say it gets easier. (never breast fed, so going off of the opinion of others)
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:59 PM
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Yeah, I notice that TRP is just fraught with men making reference to obscure papers, most of which have been roundly refuted. They talk a lot about food additives and stuff- sound like tin foil hat wearing conspiracy theorists when they do! lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:58 PM
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I'm sure for some men, a driven woman is a turn-off, which is why RPW advises women that their talents/education/intelligence won't help them keep a man. But that is one thing I don't subscribe to. I have a lot of goals and a lot of drive. I couldn't respect a man who wanted anything less.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:56 PM
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I am talking about RMV here :) But yes good point. If I'm dancing at a club, no one is watching thinking, I wonder what her opinion on the NK conflict is... Lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:54 PM
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In that way, I don't think your relationship is co-dependent. By definition, codependency is when one person is completely reliant on the other while the other does not rely on the first. Your captain relies on you, so you have an interdependent relationship. I think one of the worst things we tell people is that these terms (like interdependent) must look a certain way. Just because what you offer your SO is different from what I (would) offer mine, doesn't mean that one relationship is healthi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:53 PM
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Men interested in dating, even casually, and eventual marriage don't seem MGTOW to me. In my opinion, you'd have better luck flipping a gay man than a MGTOW. And if you actually do get a MGTOW to date you what do you get for your trouble? A bitter man who hates all women because some bitch did him wrong... Better off with the gay man lol But like I said, if they've expressed an interest in marrying they aren't really MGTOW, so just follow your gut.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:59 PM
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women who have engaged in great deal of casual sex have "ruined" their ability to pair bond I notice that RP subscribes to many evolutionary/sexual pscyh papers from the 90s and early 2000s that have since been disproven. There was a paper in the early 2000s that showed mice release less and less oxytocin (the bonding hormone) with every partner. Everyone freaked and said this meant people did too. But when we found a way to measure a proxy in humans in the late 2000s we found it didn't apply to…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:51 PM
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The idea that men can't respect their partners/don't want respectable partners. I see people get the advice all the time that being smart/talented/educated won't increase your value to a man. I just fundamentally disagree.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:47 PM
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I think that you can be submissive in life and the bedroom while still bringing something to the table that makes the relationship more interdepedent than co-dependent. I think some of that is hard to judge from the outside though. What one submissive brings to the table in her relationship that makes her SO depend on her (thus interdependent relationship) may not be obvious to the outside world or even another submissive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:42 PM
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So I had to google co-dependent vs interdependent becuse I wasn't sure of the difference. I'm going to post the definitions to be sure we are talking about the same thing. Co-dependent: excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction. Interdepenent: the dependence of two or more people or things on each other. So yeah, in my opinion, how you came about thinking you may have a co-dependent relationship isn't as im…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:39 PM
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Rights and value are different topics. Indeed they are- but rights aren't the same as equality either. That is what I mean by the definition of equality being ambiguous in these conversations. Even the definition of value is subjective. one Einstein is worth more than me or even several of me. One Einstein may be more productive than several of you or more fit to reproduce, but you both have an inherent value. That's the whole life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness- we are born with those, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 03:01 PM
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Do you by chance know how they attach them? I have pretty sensitive skin
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 02:58 PM
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I feel like your title and your text are asking two different things. Is having oneitis as a girl unhealthy? I don't think so. I firmly believe that not everyone is programmed for a long term relationship, or any romantic relationship at all. Some people are perfectly fulfilled by friendships and work. I don't like the idea of having my heart in some guy's hand. Then try a girl? Or therapy? I'm joking but also serious. This gets at some pretty heavy trust issues. Being happier alone and being af…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 10:01 PM
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How unlikely is it that in a world of 7.4 billion people so many of us just happen to find "the one" so nearby, or at all. Instead I think there are lots of "ones". I totally agree. As much as we all want to think we are so unique, we really aren't there are probably a million people with my exact level of intelligence, hotness, and general personality traits. For any guy that I am "the one" any of those other million would have also been "the one".
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 09:56 PM
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The word equal doesn't really have a meaning in this context That is what I notice too. People have different definitions of equality. I notice the same thing for respect. There's a great quote about the whole "you aren't entiteld to resepct gamut"... something along the lines of: Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”. And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authorit…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:28 PM
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Everyone is surprised at how there is never an article on solving the much larger achievement gap for boys. I am surprised... mostly because there are a ton of articles and resources dedicated to this lol https://www.brookings.edu/research/girls-boys-and-reading/ http://www.pbs.org/newshour/updates/classroom-rigged-boys/ http://www.nea.org/home/20609.htm http://www.huffingtonpost.com/patrick-corvington/it-all-comes-back-to-the-_b_5248980.html I think this is one exmaple of the importance of havi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:24 PM
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I think it depends on your definition of equality. So you aren't as smart as Einstein or as talented as Picasso- does that mean you are a less valuable human with any fewer rights?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:23 PM
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I think that in these conversations it is important to reference statistics where they are available. Marriage rates aren't really going down, people are just waiting longer x Since women started working, it's now easier for men to marry up and improve their economic standing through marriage x Education, rather than feminist views, seem to be more important to whether or not a woman wants to wed x Statistically speaking, men are still far more represented in politics, hold the highest positions…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:21 PM
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I would really recommend against avoiding your triggers- that will only build them up in your mind. I think, organize your thoughts and confront them. Of course, that somewhat depends on what your triggers are. Message me for more info if you want!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:06 PM
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Very true. I've never really chased a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 08:05 PM
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One more thing, on average women have to be 2.5 times more productive to be considered as competent as their male peers. This is just a fact of life. So when you're measuring your productivity against your coworkers, keep this in mind if you are hoping for a good letter of rec from your lab manager or PI https://www.nature.com/nature/journal/v387/n6631/pdf/387341a0.pdf
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 04:07 PM
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For the past year I was trying to mold myself into the best version of myself with the goals of finally being happy with myself I think the biggest lie that western culture has ever taught is that happiness is the goal. I am 100% for self-improvement, but don't go into it thinking you'll be happy once you accomplish X. Happiness is a state of mind you have to commit to (much like love). I can start in the spring, but I'm also worried because I am in my "peak" right now. 25 is only five years awa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:44 PM
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The women I still know who are virgins (at 23) are virgins because of religious reasons. They will expect their husband to be a virgin as well. It is my personal opinion you won't get one (a virgin) without the other (strong religious beliefs) at your age. A woman who has held out this long is likely a woman of quality who will want a man of equal quality.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:41 PM
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Exactly. I think a lot of that will power stuff comes from a fundamental misunderstanding of chemistry/biology. People don't get that all illness is an imbalance in something in your body. Sometimes you can do stuff other than medication to return everything to normal, but a lot of times you can't.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:36 PM
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It depends what the specific definition of "sexual harassment" is. "Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature that tends to create a hostile or offensive work environment." And then I think people have expanded outside of the workplace for interactions that are less than sexual assault. Example: I would say I get sexually harassed when I run. Recently, a man followed me for half a mile (about 3 minutes) driving slowing yelling …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:35 PM
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I tend to be bubbly as well. It comes across as stupid to many people, which is why I have such a system for making sure people know my professional worth without me having to say it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:51 PM
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I think you're probably dead on with it not being anything he can just fix. Focus on how cutting your hair COULD be a fix.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:49 PM
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I had a great female CBT therapist when I was a young teen and struggling. I woudln't count anyone out because of their gender.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:44 PM
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I just can't with the homeopathic types. Homeopathy defies the basica laws of physics. Ugh. I won't start ranting
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:43 PM
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trying to figure out what (if anything) to share with my husband. Something that helped my anxiety is starting a bullet journal. One of the things I record is my anxieties. The next day, I go back and see if anything I was anxious about yesterday actually had any bearing on today. (Example: If I wrote down I was anxious about a presentation I have Friday, that is a legitimate thing to be anxious about). That helps me figure out when there are actually stressors in my life that need addressed. I'…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:42 PM
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Don´t be afraid of medication I love that you included this. Medication has such a bad rap in the modern world for no reason. People 100 years ago would kill to have what we have access to now. Mental illness still is a very taboo concept for a lot of people so many of them don't even consider taking meds. As my therapist explained “Antidepressants will help you make decisions without putting your emotions first” and they did. Exactly! Anti-depressants aren't happy pills! They're just going to h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:38 PM
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"Don't sexually harass women". You think that sexually harassing women is a good thing????
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:32 PM
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Shit Tests I see people talk about shit tests all the time- what are they?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:31 PM
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Size only matters if you're way off from the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:30 PM
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Be aloof. Women love it when they're not sure if you like them or not. I hate this one! I don't like to play mind games and hate when guys try and do it
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:26 PM
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Um what?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:23 PM
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Thank you for the feedback! I think you're right- we are already talking about it, so that is progress and should help
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 10:22 PM
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Hey lab buddy! I work in a lab too, so I think I have advice on multiple sides of this. Meticulous note taking. We all say we are going to do it and none of us do, and then it opens us up to a lot of criticism. Write everything you do down all the time. Then when he is critical of how you do something, point him to the established protocol in your notebook. Don't depend on your labmates for anything you can do on your own. If you can put it away, just do it. It shows initiative and drive, which …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:43 PM
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Ok, this may be too harsh, but honey you don't even have a captain... That man isn't even with you... He just occasionally sleeps with you... Demand commitment or demand a divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:34 PM
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That's my big goal for this next month!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:27 PM
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First, are you working with a doctor? If not, I suggest starting there. They might be able to help with many of these things. Talk to them about a prenatal vitamin which might help support the hair follicles you do have and prevent some of the loss. Second, I suggest finding a spa. Invest in waxing for the unfortunate hair growth and facials to keep the acne under control. Third, I 100% suggest cutting your hair. It is probably falling out due to issues at the follicle. If you cut it, it will ha…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:20 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:15 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:15 PM
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I definitely appreciate your take on it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 10:15 PM
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Their relationship only worked though because April brought in all the money and then Ben financially took care of them until season 5/6 So I guess it is also a good lesson in choosing a good captain lol
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:55 PM
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Thank you! Having been dumped over this before (my asking for sex made him feel like the girl and he didn't like that, but he also didn't tell me until he was breaking up with me) I'm anxious to get into a situation where I'm just going to get hurt again. RPW gave me the advice to just add that to my vetting criteria, and I did, but now I'm not sure what to do with the info! But it does help to hear that guys are willing to work with a lady on these things.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:43 PM
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Pick a feature you want to accentuate and do that. If you're showing off your boobs, don't wear something that's also backless, or tight through the hip and short, etc. I love this tip. My mom taught me to show off one thing at at time and then you can look sexy without looking classless.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:40 PM
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I second girlwithabike's recomendation on a cocktail dress. You could pick something strappless or strappy and add a shawl or cardigan for during dinner? I always think layers transition well. I think it is totally fine to be a boxing fan! I wouldn't be the loudest one there. If your husband isn't much of a fan, I wouldn't make a big deal of knowing a lot more than him to other people- men tend to feel emasculated if a woman knows more about a "mans hobby" than he does.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:37 PM
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OP, are you interested in marriage? Definitely ow long do you think you'd be willing to invest in this relationship before a proposal? I have two years of grad school left and would be fine not getting married until I graduate. If it happens before then, that is ok too. I don't really have a clear timeline. Pretty sure I want kids before 30.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:33 PM
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Popping ED meds to "keep up with you" doesn't sound sustainable. That was my concern too. You said you already had a libido too high for the men you previously dated. How old were they? Yeah, last two relationships ended because I was much hgiher libido and asking for sex. I talked about it here and got a lot of useful feedback. They were both young twenties.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:31 PM
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More of a recreational use I would think. To my knowledge, he has no history of performance issues. I am an at least everyday girl, so I think he was unsure about having that stamina.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:29 PM
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Thought I think 34 is pretty young for physical erectile difficulties? Sorry, I should have clarified. He has no history of performance issues (that I Know of), but wasn't sure if he could naturally have the stamina for what I like. I would like to say that I use examples of my own life and experiences instead of outright giving advice to others. I appreciate your real life examples and advice. I feel like there is a lot we can learn from those around us, and I appreciate you sharing with me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 08:28 PM
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I don't know if this is the RPW perspective, but in my mind its a bit hypocritical to think less of someone for doing the same thing you're doing. If you're a virgin, then, by all means, hold out for someone up to your standards
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 04:35 PM
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Shave your face to remove the "baby" hair and dead skin. Smooth skin just looks and feels so much better imo. Shaving will not cause thicker or darker "man" hair to grow in place of the vellus (baby) hair (that's a myth). I prefer to wax. I get the same effect, but none of the hair is prickly when it grows back. I had very fine blonde hair that only really showed in the light, but I agree- smooth is better.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 04:23 PM
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So what, you gona go for an older guy, or wait till your older? Or not get married. Find a guy who is OK getting married at 24, rather than shacking up with someone just to get divorced a few years later. Should you not be supporting yourself, by the way? I personally think all women should have a career because you never know when a guy is going to get bored and go find a 20-year-old. But that isn't particularly RPW. They tend to recommend staying home. Most 20 year old men I know can't support…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 04:20 PM
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Becky the doctor is likely shopping for a different type of man than Becky the receptionist. ... Thus, her dating pool is smaller. This I will agree with. I just think a guy who sees a smart woman and drops her # is not a guy I would want to be with personally. There's that whole thing about how women need to respect a man in order to have a successful relationship- I personally couldn't respect a man who doesn't value intelligence.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 04:18 PM
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Yay!!! I'm so so glad!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:46 PM
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Either way, men at 20 aren't ready to get married.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:45 PM
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Completely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:44 PM
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I do think a lot of people skimmed over her opinions of herself. I just took them at face value. But I do disagree that smart women can't expect to date. I am quite bright and have always dated men as smart as me with no issues. I think quality men aren't afraid of quality women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 02:44 PM
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only whores move in before marriage/engagements. Even the sex is impacted From a cultural and religious standpoint, the point of not living together was that you aren't supposed to be having sex before marriage. So I think you need to just take some time for self evaluation
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:39 PM
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I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I think you're acting a bit childish here. You let him pick everything, but then are visibly upset by it. If you want to contribute to the discussion on what to get, then do it. If you aren't going to contribute an opinion, then don't just put a happy face on, be happy. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You agreed to move in, so you need to actually try and make it work.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:36 PM
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I'm not sure this is actually helpful to the thread...
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:32 PM
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Him: Earth is flat. Me: This date is over lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:29 PM
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You are intelligent and driven- you're going to want to talk about your work. I firmly believe that a man who is truly confident in himself doesn't want a vapid, unintelligent woman. I think you might just be going for the wrong kind of guys- find smarter men. Definitely, don't de-rail your education for a guy you're seeing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:26 PM
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You are entitled to your opinion :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 09:20 PM
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I would offer to make plans in his neck of the woods. He might be feeling like you're not really putting effort in, since so far it seems to be coming mostly from him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:49 PM
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I think it depends on who the person is- if it is someone you care about (a parent, sibling, SO) then you probably need to care what they say. If they have an opinion or a thought, it probably matters. Strangers, petty coworkers, and internet gossips? Ignore them all day long :) After reading some of the other answers I'll expand on mine a bit with an example: I run with my dog almost every night. In the summer time, it is hot so I wear warm weather running clothes that probably won't be approve…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:42 PM
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What's your essay topic? Happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:40 PM
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Some of my goals are weekly, some are specific to this week: Drink 100 oz of water every day for a 7 day streak (goal every week) Run 6.2 miles (10 K) in 36 minutes (new this week) Teach my dog two new objects (new this week) Kill it at a meeting at work Thursday Finish and submit a paper I've been working on all summer
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:38 PM
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I feel the same way about my male coworkers and friends though which is why I think its just a human condition. When someone gets/has something you want it is normal to be jealous. That jealousy just shouldn't impact your ability to be happy for them :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:23 PM
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I notice men do it with their coworkers, bosses, and friends. Their friend who works out way harder is just a prick. Their boss is just a jerk who kiss butts to get there. It's human nature to put people down if they make you uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/17 08:48 PM
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So this is how I order my products: Wash my face Toner Under eye cream/forehead serum All over serum (I alternate several) Face specific sunscreen with moisturizer in it Foundation Powder As long as you give each layer time to dry, it won't matter. To reapply at lunch I use a spray and then reapply my powder. Use a waterproof one for this or it will run and mess up your make up.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 10:09 PM
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I have a work wardrobe and a weekend wardrobe, but almost everything I buy now comes from this Amazon store They have great dresses and skirts for work. In the evenings I wear a lot of dresses- sun dresses in the spring/summer sweater dresses in the fall/winter, and they always have styles I like that I can afford and that fit me well Amazon has stores for all styles, so my recommendation would be to find one you like that you know you can rely on, then it makes online shopping really easy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:54 PM
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I buy almost everything on Amazon now too :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:49 PM
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and feel more feminine. I love the snapchat filters etc. I noticed in some that I look better with darker thicker lashes. I bought lattisse and started making my eyes a little bit darker. I think I do look better now. Would you recomend latisse? I've never known anyone to do it and haven't wanted to spend the money if it didn't work. How long until you saw results if it did work?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:48 PM
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My former SO always seemed more into me when I had my nails done and my jewelry was on point but then if I actually asked if he liked my manicure (or other small detail) he would be surprised it was different.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:46 PM
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Yeah, I definitely disagree with the wall too. If you look nationally, young marriages very rarely work out. And I don't think young marriages are very RP because its so rare that men have everything together to be a provider and head of house hold at 20.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:45 PM
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I think that is a good way to look at it! Focus on self-improvement and one day you'll turn around and Mr. Right will be there
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 06:44 PM
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It does seem like he was lazy in his relationship until she was already cheating. Not that its an excuse for her to cheat.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:51 PM
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Someone who cheats is always in the wrong in my opinion. We are more than a combination of our baser instincts.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:50 PM
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met his soulmate in one of his students That is a nightmare! I don't know if I would ever want an SO to be a college professor
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:45 PM
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Your husband does not love your child enough to live a life as an example. Yeah, I question any man who is willing to have dinner with another woman while his wife and child sit at home waiting for him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:43 PM
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I think he needs a new job. If he is as successful as you've mentioned, he doesn't need to be doing renovations for friends. It sounds like he has one foot in one foot out of the marriage, and he needs to make a decision. I suggest that you start quietly looking for a new job because when you tell him to decide, it could go not in your favor. You want to make sure that you and the kids are protected. Men like women who follow their guidance, but men don't like women who don't respect themselves-…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:41 PM
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my favourites have been Olaplex No.3 100% second this
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:37 PM
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There are a lot of smoothing creams out there. I like ones with argon oil.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:37 PM
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always encouraged me to spend big up front, instead of having to fix issues later that rise from opting for the lesser products I completely agree with this! I think my look greatly improved when I stopped trying to stretch out hair cuts 10-12 weeks. I now go every 6 weeks like clockwork and my hair is so much healthier and looks so much better. The other thing I do is a facial once a month. My salon does a 30 minute facial that isn't too expensive. It keeps me on track with my pores and helps m…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:36 PM
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I don't think you wasted the best years of your life. I will be sorely disappointed if the best years of my life were before 23. I don't think most guys are serious before then anyways- they're trying to get through school and get a good job. Something like 60% of marriages before 24 end in divorce anyway. (I'm sure some of the lovely ladies here are part of that 40% that didn't end in divorce, but that still doesn't change the statistics.) So my advice is to focus on yourself. You know that you…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:29 PM
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I agree. But I think men are just as prone to put down people that make them feel self concious.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 08:17 PM
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Nope. Honestly, don't. I've always had female heavy friend groups and never really seen it either. TV always tries to act like there is weird competition in friend groups, but I've never experienced it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 08:16 PM
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You are right- most people are much harder on themselves than anyone else is
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 08:14 PM
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I conform mostly to gender roles (I have a job, but so do most women anymore). I am referring to the fact that many people don't think a woman working is conforming to gender roles and admitting that I do have a job despite this common opinion. As a single woman, I think it would be irresponsible to quit a job and rely on a man I am not married to- given that my SO broke up with me for requesting too much sex, keeping my own job seemed like a good call.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 08:11 PM
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I did this long before finding RPW, but one of my favorite rituals I had in my last LTR was when he came home, I stopped whatever it was I was doing and went to him. I greeted him with a kiss and helped him get his coat off or put away his bag. I think there is merit to letting a guy have some time after getting home, but I also like him to know I'm glad for him to be home.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:54 PM
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I'll do some self reflection, maybe there is something that triggers it, but what bothers me is that I'm harsh even when I don't intend to be. You could try journaling. I was having anxiety issues and not sure where they were coming from. I started a bullet journal which helped keep me on track. I also used a habit tracker and an anxiety tracker to try and see if there were things I was missing. It helped me see that my anxiety was more connected to big things rather than little things. You migh…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:50 PM
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Social butterflies are deemed flirty sooner or later I notice that just being nice to people is deemed flirting now. I've had people say I am flirting because I walk around with a smile. It seems unfair for those of us who are natural socialites.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:45 PM
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That's crazy. I want to feel worshiped during sex and I want my SO to feel the same way... For me sex is a very spiritual event, even if its quick or rough... People are too sensitive anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:39 PM
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The easiest thing you can do is send her legitimate news sources or make book recommendations to her. Suggesting media is a pretty low key way to try and get someone to open their mind. If you think she's obsessed with TV, try and get her into a docu-series or something more useful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:32 PM
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I second this!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:31 PM
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Don't forget 3 years of residency and then a fellowship in your life plan (since you mentioned when you want to get married). I may be wrong, but I feel like going out of your way to have casual sex is not very RPW. Save that for someone important. You'll meet higher quality men focusing on your classes and joining professional organizations/clubs/Greek societies than pledging to any ole sorority and going to party.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:30 PM
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As women age, their hormones change (of course we all know that lol) and that had huge effects on your medications and how "in check" their mental health conditions are. If M snaps out of this in a few weeks/months, there is a good chance she needed to get rebalanced.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:24 PM
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My guess is that she is angry with her own life and taking it out on you. I also want to point out that she's attacking you, not just your husband. Stand up for yourself. Tell her that she needs to be a friend and support you. You're having a baby (soon), and if she expects to see the kid she better not be wishing it out of existence.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:22 PM
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Smiles, eye contact, head up, good posture and a nice walking gait will also add beauty. (No slumping! No looking at the ground and no duck walk!) Just wanted to second this! So much can be done by posture and gait
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:18 PM
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My advice on clothes is to wait until you've lost the weight you want to lose before building up a wardrobe. Good clothes are often a bit more pricey and if you're not happy with your body now, there is a good chance you won't like what you have on regardless. So for clothes, my advice is to keep working out. In the meantime, get a realistic goal of what your body is going to look like when you've lost 40 pounds. (For example, I have a big booty and will always have it. When I was ill as a teen …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:16 PM
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I've only been one time and it was filled with bachelorette parties for young women and birthday parties for older women. Didn't see anyone hanging out just because.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:05 PM
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I went to one for a bachelorette party and had a great time. I was single at the time and noticed the girls in the group who were single had a great time but the taken ones did not (other than the bride who is now divorced lol). My experience didn't sound quite as aggressive as the club you went to, so maybe that is part of it? The club we went to had a huge floor show with less interaction with the audience unless you flagged someone down. Unless you asked for a lap dance, the strippers would c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:04 PM
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I think men notice the whole thing together, but couldn't specifically tell you what it is they like and why.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 07:00 PM
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Actually it's as effective as the pill, if done properly. That is kind of like saying it is safe to drive drunk as long as you react quickly... The best studies put real life efficacy of the rhythm method at about 75%. The lab tested efficacy is about 90%. Compared to condoms (85% real life, 98% in a lab), daily pills (95% real life, 99% in a lab), or an IUD (99.9% all the time). Using a birth control method that is so easy to mess up is just a bad idea.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 02:51 PM
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Just so you know, most of my family ised the NFP ovulating tracking method, and most have 7+ kids. Our family is catholic, literally most if not all big catjolic and mormon families use this method and think it works. (It doesn't) My sister uses it and has had 4 in 4 years! Not a great method. We are all Catholic too
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 02:47 PM
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This sounds like a horrible place to be. While I am too new to RPW to really give RP advice, I will say that if you have the abortion without telling him, I think you will have a lot of guilt. That can either turn into anger at him or just fester until it destroys your relationship. I also know from experience with friends that abortions are harder than feminists want you to think, and you will NEED a support system during and after. So I guess my advice is that you really should tell him and ma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 02:44 PM
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Thanks! I'll give the book a try! I'm going to try being single for a while and make sure the next guy I pick can keep up with me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 02:38 PM
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I think it takes a lot of courage to share sexual fantasies with a partner. I think your SO has really put a lot of faith and trust in you by revealing a BDSM interest. I think that there are ways to explore it in a way that is comfortable to you, and I definitely don't think that he will lose respect for you or your relationship because of sex exploration.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 08:11 PM
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Once I started having sex, I figured I would want a break at some point, but it hasn't happened yet! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:57 PM
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Thank you for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:57 PM
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Do you have advice on how to find a high libido guy? I feel like adding it to my dating profile might get me the wrong kind of man!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:56 PM
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I usually try to initiate without words. I've gotten mixed responses on here of whether or not that is good lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:54 PM
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there can be a woman that is extremely feminine, but wants sex all the time In general, I conform to gender roles. I wear makeup, have long hair, wear dresses and skirts routinely. My hobbies include reading, playing with my dog, and volunteering. I do the traditionally feminine home work. My favorite color is pink. Also, this was my first attempt at quoting so it may not have worked :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:51 PM
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I wouldn't define him as high libido. Probably normal. Although prior to this thread I didn't realize that I was SO much higher than normal. I figured everyone in an LTR had sex basically every day. I am sexually adventurous and don't mind asking for sex, but I prefer to be submissive in the bedroom. I think you're right about being more upfront early in the relationship- do you think that telling guys I am high libido will attract the wrong kind of guy? Like I've said elsewhere, I'm not a casua…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:48 PM
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4 months isn't a requirement. I just want there to be an emotional connection. Do you think it would make a guy feel bad to know his GF is masturbating all the time?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:45 PM
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Me? :(
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 07:44 PM
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I disagreed with the part about saying men and women have different brains/intelligence, and then I posted about why I disagreed with that. You said they have different intelligence. I don't know how to do the handy quote things you've got going on, but I'm sure those would have made that easier. Sorry, I'm new to Reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:58 PM
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Great advice! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:56 PM
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So both are LTRs. I like sex, but don't have casual sex. It is a big deal to me you know? But usually my come on is wearing something alluring in the evening, kissing, and then usually asking if he wants to fool around. Asking him to take a shower with me ect.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:55 PM
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Can you really be a whore in a LTR? We waited 4 months before having sex....
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:54 PM
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I tend to agree with you. Normal men don't want a sex robot. I've seen it repeated on TRP repeatedly and always just figured its guys in the really angry stage of TRP that people have described. Not to mention, the artifical womb tech is probably 70-100 years off from whenever the world decides to let scientists work on human embryos. Then if men do decide to have a robot for sex and a artificial womb, they'll be on their own raising a kid. Isn't it pretty core to TRP that men are not biological…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 05:36 PM
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While I don't disagree with the core meaning behind this: that women should embrace their husband's sex drives, I do disagree with a lot of the initial statements. Men and women have almost no difference in intelligence. On IQ tests, they are with 2.5 points of each other. In the most recent IQ studies in several nations researchers found, "Setting the male score at 100, Flynn found that women scored the lowest in Australia (99.5), but in the other 4 nations Raven's scores varied from 100.5 to 1…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 05:32 PM
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Just knowing how to have sex is a myth that culture pushes on us (men and women); your husband is being a jerk about this, but that doesn't mean he is a bad guy. The fact that he has a weird penis is not your fault, and probably a big component of this. I think it is great that you want to learn to work with him and here is my advice: -Take a dance class- get in touch with your body and how it moves to a rhythm. I would suggest belly dancing, salsa, or hip hop dancing. All of them have a lot of …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 05:17 PM
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Tell his wife. What a creep! He is stalking you, not pursuing you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 05:09 PM
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I've always taken the ‘If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best,' quote so much differently than anyone else I talk to. To me its the same as "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health". Like sometimes things aren't going to be good, but if you want to have good times together, you have to have to be there for the bad times too. Just my rambling thoughts
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:22 PM
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So true. Teenage boys are the worst :P Wait until they grow into men.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:15 PM
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I wouldn't date seriously now. My parents didn't let me date until I could drive, and I think that kept me from making mistakes that I would have regretted now. At your age, I was focused on school, my athletics, and prepping for college. I did group dates but mostly focused on my friends. That would be my recommendation.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:14 PM
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I like to be direct in my dating, not so much as to be off putting, but I don't want to play games. I think you should wait a few more dates (maybe til date 5) just to make sure you're really interested. If he brings up something about a vacation, you can ask then too. I know other people have asked about
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:10 PM
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I looked up the stats- for 95% of couples, the man proposed, but 70% of men said they would have been psyched for their girlfriend to propose. What about leap day? Traditionally (since the 1700s) women have proposed to men on leap year
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:07 PM
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I think a lot of men like having a committed partner.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:02 PM
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I can't believe people actually intentionally try and hurt people they're sleeping with or in a relationship with... Disgusting!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:59 PM
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I didn't think about a writing job! That is a great idea.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:56 PM
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So this may or may not be a simple question, but I'm too new to post my own thread :) Basically, I'm wondering about sex and TRP. I've had two LTRs in the last 5 years (9 months then 1 year) fall apart. The first guy basically implied I wasn't very feminine, the second flat out said that he felt like I emasculated him. I conform to traditional gender roles pretty firmly except for one: I initiate sex a lot. The second guy who explained why he was leaving said that no guy wants to feel like the g…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 07:42 PM
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So this thread actually ended up being a great example of a general RPW question I have. I've wondered since I joined a couple of days ago about how the RPW forum is full of women looking at bettering themselves and find good men for LTRs. They talk about how to make their men happy and be good wive. Then you go over to TRP and there is a post about this girl with 150 up votes about what a great strategy it would be to mess with women's heads like this so that they always feel bad about themselv…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 07:38 PM
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I think that you're setting yourself up for disappointment if you move in. You seem to be looking at it like the next step in a relationship, but I think he's looking at it like they need a new roommate.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:49 PM
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It is going to be really hard to do part time STEM work. There aren't really part time jobs, and taking time off for kids is going to be hugely stigmatized compared to if you did the education or something similar. My sister is a nurse and it's not part time, but she works nights (3 12 hour shifts) so she is home quite often with her kids. Just an option if you want to stay more with science. I definitely don't think you're too young to consider it! (although that might be because I'm about the …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:31 PM
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That's where I got mine from! I'm not as artistic as a lot of them, but I enjoy working on it. And it is good to have some time to really focus on me. If I fall behind in my journal, it gets ugly so its a good way to keep me on track pushing to my goals.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:29 PM
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You should look into ballet at your local gym. Like barr classes. They do a lot of work on strengthening your ankles and feet in ways that most people don't even know how. I bet it would help your MMA too when you get back to it. Good luck getting healthy!
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:28 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. I just worry that I'm going to put in work to be a certain way and then there won't be any good men to appreciate it at the end. I'm too new to start a post, but I have some specific questions about whether guys I've dated in the past were true red pill men or just jerks pretending. I don't see any talk about fake alphas on the TRP but I see A LOT about it here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:27 PM
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Something like half of women have uneven hips, so they will always put their legs in a certain direction based on which way they are leaning. (If they are leaning into the hip that is high the legs go the opposite way, if they are leaning into the hip that is low the legs go the same way). This metric is really out of date.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 05:26 PM
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I am new to the subreddit but having gone through some of the TRP stuff you're mentioning a few days ago, I am not sure I want to find a RP man. They seem to have no desire for a relationship, and many of them sound like jerks. They sound more like frat boys than men. I don't say this to be mean, but more out of concern that maybe these aren't the right kind of guys for me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 05:01 PM
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Someone recommended P90X. I'll recommend T25. It is quick and a great workout. As for looking dumb at the gym, I'll reiterate that no one is looking at everyone else. But I felt the same way! I got a personal trainer to work with once a week when I was getting started; she would show me work outs and teach me how to do the weights. Then I would go in on my own, I would redo her workouts. I felt a lot more confident because I knew I was doing the exercises right. It also helped to know what to ex…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:49 PM
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What happened to your foot? I would talk to your PT about what to do to make sure you don't have a reoccurring injury. A lot of people do the PT til they are better, but don't think about keeping those muscle groups strong.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:47 PM
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Depends on if you're looking for a relationship. If you are, it feels like you guys are using each other. Probably not a great start.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:37 PM
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I feel like you already know the answer- hiding something from an SO is the kiss of death for a relationship. I think you should tell him you've got this friend, but I think you need to evaluate your relationship too- if you feel the need to lie, is this the best relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:35 PM
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I use a bullet journal to help track my goals. It has been really helpful and I HIGHLY recommend the system to anyone trying to set out on a self-improvement journey.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:17 PM
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My family is awful too. I moved away and don't speak to them. When someone asks, I just say I don't have contact with them. If I end up pretty good friends or seriously dating them I'll explain more. In my mind, if someone can't accept I have no contact with them, then they're not worth worrying about.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:08 PM
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I work out quite a bit. Growing up I was always in sports so I worked out hard, so when I went to college I kept it up. Now I run with my dog most days (early spring - late fall but then it gets too cold), swim 3-4 times a week and lift 5 times a week. It is kind of hard with my schedule, but luckily I've got a gym that is open 5 am - 12 am
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